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Push Yourself Every Day: Grind Relentlessly and Never Look Back · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Here's what life is all about, to become all that
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  Speaker 1: we can possibly be. The full development of all of
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  Speaker 1: your potential less number one. Number two is the wise
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  Speaker 1: use of all.
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  Speaker 2: Of your resources. That's what life is all about.
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  Speaker 1: Full development.
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  Speaker 2: Let us consider this question, if you could do better?
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  Speaker 2: Should you?
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  Speaker 1: In the time allotted to labor, in the time given
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  Speaker 1: to economics, care for family, success, achievement, productivity, the creation
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  Speaker 1: of value, the development of skills.
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  Speaker 2: And creativity. If you could do better, should you?
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  Speaker 1: I think that one of the greatest satisfactions of living
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  Speaker 1: life to the fullest is doing the best you can
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  Speaker 1: with whatever you have. We're doing enough things to have
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  Speaker 1: arrived here today. We're doing enough things to have bought
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  Speaker 1: and shared in the good life so far. And maybe
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  Speaker 1: all you need is that extra five percent ten percent
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  Speaker 1: of intellectual change, activity change, a refinement of discipline, a
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  Speaker 1: refinement of thought. And all we need is the idea
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  Speaker 1: is to make those simple changes, and the equity starts gathering.
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  Speaker 1: In one year, three years, five years, ten years. I
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  Speaker 1: have a good comment for your notes. Now's the time
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  Speaker 1: to fix the next ten years. Now's the time to
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  Speaker 1: fix it. If the future gets clear, the price gets
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  Speaker 1: easy because You've got to remember, for every promise, there's
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  Speaker 1: a price to pay. Everybody's got to pay the price.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody's got to do the deal. Everybody's got to do
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  Speaker 1: the discipline. Everybody has to pay. But here's what I've discovered.
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  Speaker 1: If the promise is clear and powerful, the price.
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  Speaker 2: Is easy to pay. The price is in classes.
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  Speaker 1: The price is a few books, the price is a
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  Speaker 1: few disciplines. The price is finding something that will make
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  Speaker 1: your life better, make you grow, make you change, make
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  Speaker 1: you develop. You're either engaged in the disciplines or you're not.
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  Speaker 1: But here's what we don't want to engage in disillusion
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  Speaker 1: right hoping without acting, know wishing without doing so.
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  Speaker 2: The key is to take a look and say, where
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  Speaker 2: am I?
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  Speaker 1: What could I do to make the changes to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that I can take more certain daily steps toward
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  Speaker 1: the treasure. I want the mental treasure, the personal treasure,
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  Speaker 1: the spiritual treasure, the financial treasure.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to make any errors.
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  Speaker 1: Now's the time to adjust my daily program to take
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  Speaker 1: me where I want to go. I think my personal
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  Speaker 1: advice to you would be and reach down inside you
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  Speaker 1: and come up with some more of those remarkable human
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  Speaker 1: gifts they're there waiting to be utilized and then change
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  Speaker 1: anything for you you want to change, and I challenge
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  Speaker 1: you to do that, because you can change.
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  Speaker 2: If you don't like how it is for you, change it.
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  Speaker 2: If it doesn't suit you, change it. If it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: please you, change it. If it isn't enough, change it.
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  Speaker 2: And I challenge you to do that because you can change.
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  Speaker 1: See, you don't ever have to be the same again,
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  Speaker 1: only by choice.
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  Speaker 2: If you don't like your prison to address, change it.
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  Speaker 2: You're not a tree.
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  Speaker 1: To attract power powerful people. You must be powerful. To
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  Speaker 1: attract committed people, you must be committed. Instead of going
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  Speaker 1: to work on them, you go to work on yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You work harder on yourself than you work on the job.
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  Speaker 1: And if you become you can attract. Here's the ultimate challenge.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to have patience with yourself. It takes time
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  Speaker 1: to make changes in habit and discipline. It takes time
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  Speaker 1: to correct old errors in judgment and to finally give
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  Speaker 1: up old blame and pick up new responsibility. Personal success
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  Speaker 1: is built on the foundation of character, and character is
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  Speaker 1: the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices you may
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  Speaker 1: make that gradually turn who you are at any given
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  Speaker 1: moment into who you want to be. If that decision
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  Speaker 1: making process is not present, you'll still be somebody, You'll
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  Speaker 1: still be alive. You may have a personality rather than
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  Speaker 1: a character, and to me, that's something very different. Character
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  Speaker 1: isn't something you were born with and can't change, like
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  Speaker 1: your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and that
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  Speaker 1: you must take responsibility for forming. There used to be
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  Speaker 1: a joke about football teams that lost every game. The
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  Speaker 1: coach would say, we built a lot of character this year,
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  Speaker 1: didn't we As If character is something that you settle
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  Speaker 1: for when you haven't achieved what you really wanted, or
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  Speaker 1: automatically develops as a result of adversity.
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  Speaker 2: I don't buy that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think adversity by itself builds character, and I
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  Speaker 1: certainly don't think that success erodes it. You build character
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  Speaker 1: by how you respond to what happens in your life,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's winning every game or losing every game, or
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  Speaker 1: getting rich or dealing with hard time. You build character
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  Speaker 1: from certain qualities that you must create and diligently nurture
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  Speaker 1: within yourself, just like you would plant and water a
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  Speaker 1: seed or gather wood to build a campfire. You've got
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  Speaker 1: to look for those things in your heart and in
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  Speaker 1: your gut. You've got to chisel away in order to
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  Speaker 1: find them, just like chiseling away rock to create the
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  Speaker 1: sculpture that has previously existed only in the imagination. But
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  Speaker 1: the really amazing thing about character is that if you're
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  Speaker 1: sincerely committed to making yourself into the person you want
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  Speaker 1: to be, you'll not only create those qualities, you'll strengthen
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  Speaker 1: them and recreate them in abundance even as you're drawing
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  Speaker 1: on them every day of your life. That's why building
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  Speaker 1: your character is vital to becoming all that you can be.
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  Speaker 1: Charisma is a word that is often confused with character,
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  Speaker 1: but charisma is really quite different. Charisma is derived from
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  Speaker 1: a Greek word meaning an ability to elicit favor in
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  Speaker 1: other people. It's a magnetic quality of personality that people
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  Speaker 1: respond to as if it were magic. Charisma is almost
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  Speaker 1: like a magic wand that confers power over others. Character
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  Speaker 1: has a very different origin. Character comes from a Greek
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  Speaker 1: word meaning chisel, or the mark left by a chisel.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, a chisel is a sharp steel tool used
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  Speaker 1: for making a sculpture out of a hard or difficult
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  Speaker 1: material like granite or marble. So in its origins, the
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  Speaker 1: word character isn't related to charisma, which is described as
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  Speaker 1: a kind of magic wand character isn't a magic wand
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  Speaker 1: character comes from chisel.
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  Speaker 2: And I hope you'll remember that you've got to chisel
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  Speaker 2: your character.
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  Speaker 1: Out of the raw material of yourself, just like a
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  Speaker 1: sculptor has to create a statue. The raw material is
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  Speaker 1: always there, and everything that happens to you, good or bad,
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  Speaker 1: is an opportunity for building your character. Let me point
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  Speaker 1: out another important distinction between character and charisma, in both
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  Speaker 1: its definition and its derivation. Character doesn't refer to other people.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't refer to having power over other people, getting
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  Speaker 1: other people to follow you, or gaining favor with other people.
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  Speaker 1: Character is something that you have and something that you are.
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  Speaker 1: You could be marooned on a desert island and your
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  Speaker 1: character would still be important. In fact, it would likely
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  Speaker 1: be very important in that situation, but charisma wouldn't do
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  Speaker 1: you any good at all. Charisma requires the presence of others,
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  Speaker 1: while character is all about you. Character is the person
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  Speaker 1: you are after you've chiseled and chiseled and have gotten
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  Speaker 1: past all the unnecessary material to what's underneath. But since
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  Speaker 1: we're usually surrounded by other people, let me be a
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  Speaker 1: little more specific about how the differences between a charismatic
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  Speaker 1: person and a person with character can play out in
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  Speaker 1: the real world, particularly in leadership situations. Here are four
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  Speaker 1: sets of circumstances that can easily occur. First, a really
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  Speaker 1: charismatic person can make people believe there's pie in the
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  Speaker 1: sky or that the sky is going to fall tomorrow,
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  Speaker 1: one just as easily as the other. By creating these expectations,
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  Speaker 1: charismatic individuals can indeed energize and inspire others, or terrify
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  Speaker 1: and demotivate them until the overblown scenarios are proven false
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  Speaker 1: and the charisma runs out. But a person of character
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  Speaker 1: doesn't need to be anyone's pied piper and isn't comfortable
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  Speaker 1: in that role. Instead, he or she looks within for
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  Speaker 1: the true source of inspiration and energy. Second, a charismatic
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  Speaker 1: person can inspire devoted or even fanatical loyalty, but this
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  Speaker 1: can all too easily turn into an unconscious sense of
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  Speaker 1: dependency that can make matters difficult when the leader is
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  Speaker 1: no longer available. A charismatic coach is effective during the
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  Speaker 1: glory years, but when he leaves the organization, there's a
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  Speaker 1: sense of abandonment and the team may never achieve anything like.
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  Speaker 2: Its prior success.
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  Speaker 1: Powerful personalities often resist delegating authority, but it's an attribute
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  Speaker 1: of character for a leader to refrain from making himself
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  Speaker 1: or herself the indispensable heart and soul of an organization.
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  Speaker 1: Here's a third difference between character and charisma that's particularly
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  Speaker 1: important in a leadership situation. Charismatic people have to keep
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  Speaker 1: pulling rabbits out of the hat. The magic of their
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  Speaker 1: presence has got to keep expressing itself, or people might
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  Speaker 1: start wondering where it went. Worse yet, they might start
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  Speaker 1: getting bored. During the Second World War, Dwight Eisenhower was
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  Speaker 1: picked to command the Allied forces in Europe, not because
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  Speaker 1: he was an exciting leader with a sense of high drama,
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  Speaker 1: but precisely because he wasn't. There were plenty of charismatic
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  Speaker 1: individuals around, such as Churchill, Montgomery.
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  Speaker 2: De Gaulle, and Patten.
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  Speaker 1: What was needed was somebody with toughness, stamina, and the
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  Speaker 1: ability to manage people. Just before the Normandy invasion in
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  Speaker 1: nineteen forty four, Eisenhower met with a group of officers
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  Speaker 1: who would be going into battle. He stretched out a
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  Speaker 1: piece of string on a table and pulled it a
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  Speaker 1: few inches with his finger. And army is like this
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  Speaker 1: piece of string, he said. If you try to push
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  Speaker 1: it from behind, it just tangles and doubles back on itself.
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  Speaker 1: Soldiers have to be led from the front, not pushed
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  Speaker 1: from behind. Eisenhower may not have been colorful, but he
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  Speaker 1: could definitely get his point across in a way anyone
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  Speaker 1: could understand.
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  Speaker 2: He had character in the true sense.
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  Speaker 1: One of the biggest pitfalls for a charismatic leader comes
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  Speaker 1: from his or her ability to inspire love and devotion.
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  Speaker 1: And this is the last point I want to make.
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  Speaker 1: To bask in the warm glow of a lie leads approval,
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  Speaker 1: people may become reluctant to voice disagreements. There are people
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  Speaker 1: who become isolated because subordinates are afraid of them, but
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  Speaker 1: the same isolation can occur as a result of misplaced affection.
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  Speaker 1: People of character are usually well loved by everyone around them,
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  Speaker 1: but they make it clear that their own first love
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  Speaker 1: is for the truth, even if it hurts. And that's
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  Speaker 1: not a bad reputation to have. When you are a
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  Speaker 1: person of character. You know who you are and where
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  Speaker 1: you want to go. You've already spent a great deal
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  Speaker 1: of time thinking about it. You've been working on the
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  Speaker 1: parts of your personality that will make you better your attitude,
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  Speaker 1: your health, your time management skills.
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  Speaker 2: You've been putting it.
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  Speaker 1: All down on paper, and you've developed positive self direction.
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  Speaker 1: As you talk with yourself every day, how often do
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  Speaker 1: you ask, is what I am doing today getting me
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  Speaker 1: closer to where I want to be tomorrow? Because here's
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  Speaker 1: what you don't want to ever do. Kid yourself, your neighbor,
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  Speaker 1: and kid me, and kid the marketplace if you want to,
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  Speaker 1: but don't kid yourself. You can't wait around with your
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  Speaker 1: fingers crossed hoping you'll arrive at a good destination when
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  Speaker 1: you're not even headed in the right direction. You say, well,
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  Speaker 1: maybe the wind will take me. There's a chance, of course,
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  Speaker 1: but it's about as likely as winning the lottery.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to take charge.
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  Speaker 1: Ancient scripture says that hope, if it's delayed long enough,
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  Speaker 1: can make the heart sick. You've got to ask yourself often,
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  Speaker 1: am I performing the disciplines that are taking me in
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  Speaker 1: the direction that I want to go? I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to delude myself and think I'm on the way to
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  Speaker 1: financial success when there's not a prayer. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to delude myself into thinking there's someone else who will
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  Speaker 1: take care of it. Nobody else is going to take
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  Speaker 1: care of it. Nobody else is going to take care
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  Speaker 1: of me. What if all of your negative thinking relatives
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  Speaker 1: turn positive? What would that do for your fortune and
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  Speaker 1: your future? Not much. If prices came down a little,
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  Speaker 1: what would that do for your sophistication and your culture?
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  Speaker 2: Not much. If the economy gets a little better, what
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  Speaker 2: would that do for you? Not much.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't make plans of your own, you'll fit
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  Speaker 1: into someone else's plans. And what do you think they
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  Speaker 1: have planned for you?
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  Speaker 2: Not much.
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  Speaker 1: Most people wake up every morning counting on this not
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  Speaker 1: much list, and that's all they have. Not much, not
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  Speaker 1: much hope, not much promise, not much progress. They're driving
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  Speaker 1: what they don't want to drive, living what they don't
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  Speaker 1: want to live, doing what they don't want to do.
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  Speaker 1: Forget the thief waiting in the alley to snatch your purse.
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  Speaker 1: What about the thief in your mind? He is tempting
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  Speaker 1: you to become lazy. Not stimulated by thoughts and questions.
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  Speaker 1: Don't become a victim of yourself. Ask yourself these questions.
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  Speaker 1: Is this the direction that I want for my life?
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  Speaker 1: Is it someone else's direction? Is it a goal that
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  Speaker 1: has been ingrained in me since my childhood? Is it
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  Speaker 1: my parents, my spouses, my bosses, or my children's Is
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  Speaker 1: it mine? Ask yourself these questions get into the debate
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  Speaker 1: of your inner mind. What am I doing that works?
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  Speaker 1: What am I doing that doesn't work? Debate at all.
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  Speaker 1: Work with your mind to figure out the best possible
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  Speaker 1: direction for you.
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  Speaker 2: This is your self direction.