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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: What Small Action Can You Take Within the Next 2 Weeks? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What is going on? We made it to Friday, Thank goodness.
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  Speaker 1: I am so excited for the weekend I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: be spending time with I call her my final roommate.
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  Speaker 1: She was the last woman I lived with before I
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  Speaker 1: started living on my own, and she got married and
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  Speaker 1: now currently goodness, like within five years, has a husband
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  Speaker 1: and three children and now lives outside of Richmond. So
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  Speaker 1: looking forward to a weekend of some girl time. And
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  Speaker 1: in the meantime, I want to tell you about something
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  Speaker 1: I shared during a coaching call this morning. I was
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  Speaker 1: working with someone who has a goal to get more
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  Speaker 1: publicity for her business, and we were chatting about how
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  Speaker 1: she could do that and what specifically that goal would
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  Speaker 1: look like flesh out. I asked her how she'd want
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  Speaker 1: to feel in a year if she was successful in
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  Speaker 1: that goal, and then asked her the following question, which
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  Speaker 1: is the thoughts starter I want to bring here this week.
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  Speaker 1: I asked her, knowing that your goal is to secure
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  Speaker 1: x amount of press opportunities within the next three sixty five,
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  Speaker 1: what is one thing that you can do within the
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  Speaker 1: next two weeks to get you closer to your goal?
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes it's hard to think that micro right we
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  Speaker 1: get overwhelmed and over consumed by our big, hairy, scary,
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  Speaker 1: audacious goals, as Selene Flanagan once told me. But the
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  Speaker 1: thing is is that by breaking it down and thinking small,
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  Speaker 1: getting and we've talked about that acronym so many times
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  Speaker 1: on the show, specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound,
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  Speaker 1: you can then go after whatever it is that you're
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  Speaker 1: after in a more intelligent way. So let's zero in
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  Speaker 1: on an example. I have always wanted to give a
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  Speaker 1: TED talk. It is something that is very much on
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  Speaker 1: my radar and something that I am nowhere near accomplishing
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  Speaker 1: at this moment. Logistically, I would say that I have
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  Speaker 1: the outline of my talk what I believe I would
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  Speaker 1: talk about. I've watched plenty of Ted talks, right, but
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  Speaker 1: I've made no progress necessarily in terms of figuring out
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  Speaker 1: exactly how to make this happen, connecting, researching, et cetera.
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  Speaker 1: So if I know that my goal by April twenty
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  Speaker 1: eighth of twenty and twenty four, a year from now,
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  Speaker 1: is that I want to give a TEDx talk, let's
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  Speaker 1: narrow it down a little bit more. Then this week
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  Speaker 1: a small goal that I can set something that I
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  Speaker 1: can make sure happens is I do research into where
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  Speaker 1: the TEDx talks happen in my area and build myself
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  Speaker 1: a spreadsheet of the people that are responsible for putting
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  Speaker 1: together these events. That way, with that information, I can
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  Speaker 1: start to think about reaching out. Another thing that I
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  Speaker 1: can do if I know that I want to reach
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  Speaker 1: out perhaps within the next month, is take some time
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  Speaker 1: over the next two weeks to draft what that email
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  Speaker 1: would look like. So now you're starting to see where
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  Speaker 1: my thought process is going. Right. You might not think, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I want to give a ted talk, So the first
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  Speaker 1: thing I should do is think about the email that
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to send to someone that might get me there,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe you would. But all of this to say
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  Speaker 1: is that there are small steps that we must take
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  Speaker 1: on our journey to get to where we want to go.
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  Speaker 1: We don't just run a marathon without doing the training
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  Speaker 1: rate and if you do, bless Truly. I've said this
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  Speaker 1: before and I'll say it again, the journey is the destination.
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  Speaker 1: So make sure that, regardless of what your big goals are,
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  Speaker 1: that you are enjoying yourself in the process, because the
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  Speaker 1: process is the point. There is no joy at the
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  Speaker 1: finish line. If you don't make that process worthwhile, and
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  Speaker 1: if you dread it, then truly you have to ask
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  Speaker 1: yourself what was my why to begin with? So my
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  Speaker 1: prompt for you this week what is something that you
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  Speaker 1: are after and what is one small action that you
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  Speaker 1: can take in the next two weeks to get you
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  Speaker 1: closer to that overall big, scary, hairy, audacious goal. And
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  Speaker 1: now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi Emily, it's fearing to hear from West Sussex in
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  Speaker 2: the UK. My question is how do you go about
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  Speaker 2: making big career or life decisions. Have you got a
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  Speaker 2: strategy and are really logical about it or do you
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  Speaker 2: tend to have a strong gut feeling that you can
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  Speaker 2: photo And have you ever struggled with decision making or
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  Speaker 2: decision regret or are you a fairly decisive person. I'm
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  Speaker 2: at a bit of a crossroads in my career and
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  Speaker 2: I'm worried about making the wrong decision, so I'd welcome
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  Speaker 2: any advice. Thank you very much.
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  Speaker 1: This is a really good question. Hey Fiona, I love
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  Speaker 1: I love hurdlers from all corners of the world. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much for this question decision making. I would
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  Speaker 1: like to think that I am really one to follow
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  Speaker 1: my gut and my intuition. I am a pretty level
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  Speaker 1: headed person, at least I like to think so, and I,
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  Speaker 1: generally speaking, go by this compass that I'll share with you.
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  Speaker 1: If something happens, whether it is an opportunity, an email
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  Speaker 1: hits my inbox, I ask myself if I am responding
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  Speaker 1: or reacting, and reacting is something that might happen very quickly?
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  Speaker 1: Right I get an email in my inbox and it's
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  Speaker 1: offering me a gig that I'm very excited about. Okay, awesome.
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  Speaker 1: If I was to reply right then and there, I
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  Speaker 1: might not think fully about what I would want to
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  Speaker 1: respond with had I removed myself from the situation a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more. For instance, what kind of compensation is
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  Speaker 1: there for this opportunity? Is this opportunity one that definitely
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  Speaker 1: aligns with my values? And what is a priority for
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  Speaker 1: me right now? Do I feel like I have the
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  Speaker 1: bandwidth to execute this in a way that I would
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  Speaker 1: be proud of. So many questions that I can ask myself,
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  Speaker 1: some of which I may not take a step back
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  Speaker 1: and think about if I am reacting. So I always
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  Speaker 1: say this in terms of something similar to that situation,
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  Speaker 1: Ask yourself what would be the damage quote unquote if
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  Speaker 1: I just waited so that I could respond instead of react.
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  Speaker 1: I think that something that happened for us during the
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  Speaker 1: pandemic was that we learned a lot more about responding,
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  Speaker 1: about taking the time to listen to that intuition to
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  Speaker 1: do whatever it is that truly feels like it serves
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  Speaker 1: us because the world slowed down a little bit and
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  Speaker 1: we slowed down a little bit. Now, granted, there are
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  Speaker 1: much bigger decisions to be made than whether or not
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  Speaker 1: I would accept a gig, you know, moving into a
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  Speaker 1: new apartment and spending more money, making the decision maybe
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  Speaker 1: to change cities, ending or starting a new relationship. Goodness.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, the list goes on, right and when it
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  Speaker 1: comes to making big decisions, And I kind of hinted
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  Speaker 1: at this before, but I really go back to my
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  Speaker 1: values and I ask myself, is whatever I am thinking
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  Speaker 1: about a reflection of who I am and who I
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  Speaker 1: want to be? Is this something that's going to fill
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  Speaker 1: up my cup? Is this something that allows me to
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  Speaker 1: be my best self, empowers me to go in the
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  Speaker 1: direction that I dream of going. And I wish I
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  Speaker 1: could tell you that it will always be simple if
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  Speaker 1: you know your values and you are clear headed and
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  Speaker 1: trust your gut. But I know that's not the case.
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  Speaker 1: So when all else fails, my biggest piece of advice
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  Speaker 1: for decision making. And yes, I have had times where
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  Speaker 1: I've doubted mine in the past, but I truly believe
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  Speaker 1: that what is meant to be for me will be
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  Speaker 1: for me. Have someone that you trust that you can
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  Speaker 1: bounce things off of. For me, it is my family,
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  Speaker 1: it is my parents, It is my dear friends that
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  Speaker 1: I'm so lucky to have as a part of my life.
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  Speaker 1: These are people that I know do not judge, but
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  Speaker 1: rather listen and also truly want what's best for me.
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  Speaker 1: And so I would encourage you to lean on your people,
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  Speaker 1: your anchors, and know that they've got your best interest
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  Speaker 1: in mind as well. That's it for this week. Make
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  Speaker 1: at Hurdle Podcast. I am over at Emily a Body
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  Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time. Yeah,