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The Pressure of Finding Your Purpose · Deeply Well with Devi Brown

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Speaker 1: for our show, Guys, What Up? Welcome to episode nine
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Speaker 1: of The Dropping Gym's podcast. As always, I am your host,
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Speaker 1: the picture for you, I am. It's pretty late, it's
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Speaker 1: like midnight, and I'm sitting outside doing the show. It's
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Speaker 1: super dark, very moody, and I have my baby monitor nearby,
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Speaker 1: for the cause and go run and get my kid. Um.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, let's dive right in. I want to talk
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Speaker 1: about purpose. I feel like purpose is a conversation that
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Speaker 1: we are all having, or it's a word that we
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Speaker 1: are all confronted with pretty much on a daily basis. Now.
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Speaker 1: I know, I, for one, am having conversations about purpose
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Speaker 1: with all of my friends, really regularly having conversations about
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Speaker 1: purpose in my d M when you guys slide in
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Speaker 1: UM pretty often, and even on Instagram stories when I asked, Hey,
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Speaker 1: what questions do you guys have for my next episode?
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Speaker 1: Of the responses were in some way, shape or form
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Speaker 1: related to purpose. I have an issue with the concept
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Speaker 1: of purpose. I feel like it has become another tool
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Speaker 1: of mental and spiritual oppression on a lot of people.
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Speaker 1: I think that it has created this really unfair amount
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Speaker 1: of pressure on people, and I think that for some
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Speaker 1: it's stunting their growth. So let's let's get into this. Uh,
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Speaker 1: keep a pen and paper handy, because we're going to
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Speaker 1: get a little deep on some of this, some of
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Speaker 1: this breakdown. So for me, purpose has really become such
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Speaker 1: an on trend item. It's become such a buzzword, right,
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Speaker 1: like being your purpose, find your purpose, Like people are
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Speaker 1: selling all kinds of things online related to that word. Um.
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Speaker 1: I think at the core of it are our obsession
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Speaker 1: with purpose that has kind of existed since the dawn
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Speaker 1: of time, but definitely gotten a lot bigger since Instagram
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Speaker 1: really just stems from people wanting to know and believe
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Speaker 1: that their life matters, you know. I think that we're
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Speaker 1: so obsessed with the idea of purpose because we want
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Speaker 1: to know that this experience of being alive, of being
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Speaker 1: human has meaning. Um. But in that quest, I think
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Speaker 1: that purpose has also become a huge tool of comparison,
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Speaker 1: or should I say, yet another tool of comparison that
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Speaker 1: we are wielding around sometimes like a weapon, a weapon
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Speaker 1: against others, a weapon against ourselves. I think in a
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Speaker 1: lot of ways, a lot of people are using purpose
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Speaker 1: as a marker of status or of self worth, and
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Speaker 1: people think that purpose gives them value when in reality,
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Speaker 1: you already have value. You are enough simply because you
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Speaker 1: exist in Purpose is really just sharing yourself and your
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Speaker 1: gifts with others. Um. You know, I think that the
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Speaker 1: thing with purpose is a lot of it is misunderstood
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Speaker 1: because it is so intricately in our minds tied up
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Speaker 1: with career, job, and passion. And while all of those
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Speaker 1: categories can and really symbiotically exist, they don't have to
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Speaker 1: be mutually exclusive. UM. So I want to get kind
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Speaker 1: of specific on this because I think words are really important.
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Speaker 1: I think that it is very important for all of
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Speaker 1: us to expand our vocabularies when we are explaining our
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Speaker 1: emotions and thoughts. And I think that it is really
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Speaker 1: important that we get familiar with what the true meaning
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Speaker 1: and origins of certain words are because in a lot
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Speaker 1: of ways and then a lot of context is we
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Speaker 1: misuse them. And when we misuse them, we are not
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Speaker 1: really able to stand in our truth, liveing our truth,
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Speaker 1: or have the breakthroughs that are necessary for us to
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Speaker 1: get to whatever the next level for each of us is.
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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna go over a few definitions with you. Um.
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Speaker 1: The definition of passion. Passion is defined as a strong
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Speaker 1: feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something.
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Speaker 1: Passion is also strong and barely controllable emotion. Okay, that's passion. Career.
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Speaker 1: Career is defined as an occupation undertaken for a significant
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Speaker 1: period of a person's life and with opportunities for progress,
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Speaker 1: a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken
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Speaker 1: as a permanent calling. Job. The definition of job is
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Speaker 1: a piece of work or specific task done as part
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Speaker 1: of a routine with an agreed upon price. It's a
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Speaker 1: paid position of employment. Now, the definition of purpose, according
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Speaker 1: to the dictionary, is the reason for which something is
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Speaker 1: done or created have as one's intention or objective. So
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Speaker 1: these are very very different descriptives, right, Like passion, career, job, purpose,
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Speaker 1: they all mean pretty drastically different things, but there are
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Speaker 1: some ways in which they can coexist. Now, the biggest
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Speaker 1: issue that I think that we have is that we're
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Speaker 1: trying to make all of these words the same. We
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Speaker 1: are thinking that purpose equates career, and that is one
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Speaker 1: of the biggest mistakes that each of us can make,
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Speaker 1: because purpose is not a job title. Now, can those
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Speaker 1: things exist at the same time? Can you have a
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Speaker 1: job where you are deeply standing in your purpose. Absolutely.
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Speaker 1: Can you be a lucky one that has a career
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Speaker 1: that allows you to deeply stand in your purpose while
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Speaker 1: you're getting paid. Absolutely. However, it doesn't have to be
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Speaker 1: the case. You do not have to have some grand,
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Speaker 1: huge life or job to have purpose in your life.
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Speaker 1: To be standing in your purpose, living in your purpose,
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Speaker 1: working in your purpose. One of the questions that I got,
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Speaker 1: uh when I pose the you know, the idea of
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Speaker 1: submit some questions on my Instagram stories came from at
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Speaker 1: the Brittany Miller, and she asked me, how do you
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Speaker 1: define purpose and how did you know that radio was
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Speaker 1: no longer your purpose? So for me, my definition of
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Speaker 1: purpose is simply using my unique God given gifts to
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Speaker 1: be of service to others. I one hundred percent solely
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Speaker 1: believe that purpose at its core, at its root of
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Speaker 1: what it is, is being of service to others, utilizing
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Speaker 1: the unique things about yourself, utilizing your gifts to serve.
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Speaker 1: That is the entire point of purpose in the way
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Speaker 1: that I believe things right. Purpose is not just being
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Speaker 1: highly successful, being lit having people you know admire you
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Speaker 1: or look up to you. That's not it. That's completely
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Speaker 1: ego driven purpose. True purpose is using what you have
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Speaker 1: to be of service to others in a meaningful way,
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Speaker 1: you know. Um, So I responded to her with that,
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Speaker 1: But I also wanted to be super clear that I
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Speaker 1: never viewed radio as my purpose, especially now. You know,
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Speaker 1: like maybe when I was like first starting out in
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Speaker 1: radio when I was eighteen, it was kind of like, Okay, yeah,
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Speaker 1: this is this is like my career path, So this
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Speaker 1: is what I can plot and plan on for the
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Speaker 1: rest of my life. Um. But as I've you know,
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Speaker 1: just gotten deeper into my own journey, I definitely understand
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Speaker 1: that radio is not my purpose. Now. Was radio my
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Speaker 1: career for a really long time? Yeah? Did radio serve
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Speaker 1: as a beautiful vessel for me to extend my purpose
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Speaker 1: to other people? Apps so lutely I have and always
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Speaker 1: will view radio as such a sacred honor, you know.
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Speaker 1: The ability to connect act two people in the world
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Speaker 1: every single day using my voice. Um, to be able
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Speaker 1: to live inside someone's head, to be allowed into someone's head,
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Speaker 1: it's it's truly a sacred responsibility and and such a joy.
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Speaker 1: But it's not my purpose. It's a job. It's something
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Speaker 1: I got paid to do. It's something that you know,
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Speaker 1: I could gain or lose at any given day at
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Speaker 1: the whims of whatever company I was employed by. And
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Speaker 1: so purpose can't be your job because purpose can't be
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Speaker 1: controlled by anybody else. You know, um, purpose can't be
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Speaker 1: controlled by the whims of society. It can't be controlled
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Speaker 1: by you know, the whims of a boss. So it's
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Speaker 1: really important that you understand that that purpose is really
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Speaker 1: tapping into whatever your unique gifts are. So when I
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Speaker 1: was responding to Brittany on Instagram, you know, I said,
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Speaker 1: just to make it clear, you know, purpose is not
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Speaker 1: the same as a career or a job title. It
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Speaker 1: is not a title. It is not some thing that
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Speaker 1: defines you in a way that we put into a
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Speaker 1: box of societal standards. You know, Purpose is not societal perception.
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Speaker 1: It's so lead, it's so offering, it's so much bigger
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Speaker 1: and so much more meaningful. And it's also something that
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Speaker 1: you can apply to absolutely any and everything in your life. So,
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Speaker 1: for instance, I defined purpose as utilizing, you know, the
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Speaker 1: unique God given gifts that I have to be of
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Speaker 1: service to others. Well, if I were to try to
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Speaker 1: quantify what I consider to be some of my gifts.
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Speaker 1: I would say that one of my gifts is communication.
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Speaker 1: One of my gifts is the ability to really communicate
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Speaker 1: well with other people, and to be understanding and empathetic
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Speaker 1: and to be curious. I think curious curiosity is one
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Speaker 1: of my superpowers, and I also think it does fall
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Speaker 1: into my purpose because I'm always looking to seek and
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Speaker 1: understand things that are unknown and then share that information. Um.
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Speaker 1: I'll so, I also think that part of my gifts
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Speaker 1: are heart centered leadership. Whenever I've been in positions of
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Speaker 1: you know, authority in different working spaces, like I believe
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Speaker 1: at least let someone else sell it. I don't know,
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Speaker 1: but I believe that I really thrived in those spaces
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Speaker 1: because I didn't lead with ego. I really wanted people
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Speaker 1: to give their best and and us to all work
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Speaker 1: on this common goal with joy and with integrity and
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Speaker 1: with respect. You know. So I consider that to be
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Speaker 1: one of my gifts. Um. Another one of my gifts,
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Speaker 1: I feel is staying out of ego as I work
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Speaker 1: and as I live, and and sharing that knowingness and
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Speaker 1: that peace with other people. So if I go by
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Speaker 1: what I consider all my gifts to be, and I
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Speaker 1: stand in purpose with those things. Then let's add that up.
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Speaker 1: That means that I can do almost anything and be
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Speaker 1: in purpose. And I'm not trying to sound like overly simplified, right,
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Speaker 1: but what I'm about to say really does seem just
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Speaker 1: that simple. Whether I am on the radio, whether I
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Speaker 1: am doing a podcast at my house, whether I am
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Speaker 1: working at a restaurant, whether I am being a lifeguard,
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Speaker 1: whether I am you know, being a gardener, being you know,
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Speaker 1: a florist being. Whatever whatever I do to earn money,
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Speaker 1: I can still be living in my life's purpose because
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Speaker 1: the more closely I am connected with myself, the more
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Speaker 1: I accept and love myself, the more I work on
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Speaker 1: myself to heal and grow and then share those things
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Speaker 1: with other people. That is me being in my purpose
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Speaker 1: on purpose. Whatever I do to make money is completely
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Speaker 1: outside of that. Now, Can I do things with these
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Speaker 1: gifts that makes me money, A hundred percent? Absolutely, and
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Speaker 1: what a joy and what luck that would be. But
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Speaker 1: I don't have to. I don't have to to live
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Speaker 1: a purposeful life. And I really want to stress that
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Speaker 1: point because I talk to so many people who don't
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Speaker 1: like their jobs or being deeply hard on themselves. By saying,
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know what my purposes or you know,
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Speaker 1: my my life isn't great because I don't have a purpose.
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Speaker 1: I want to have a purpose. We all have a purpose,
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Speaker 1: and don't equate yourself value with what you do for
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Speaker 1: a living. All of that is societal, A lot of
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Speaker 1: that you don't really have a choice in. Sometimes you know,
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Speaker 1: depending on your background, depending on where you came from
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Speaker 1: or what you're doing. But that doesn't mean that you
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Speaker 1: don't have purpose, and it doesn't mean that you aren't
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Speaker 1: deserving of living in your purpose. But by tying it
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Speaker 1: to what you get paid to do, by tying it
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Speaker 1: to what other people know you as as in a title,
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Speaker 1: that really is you placing it's on yourself. That's you
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Speaker 1: limiting who you are and who you can be because
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Speaker 1: you are living based on the humanity of your experience
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Speaker 1: and not your soul. So to put that in further context,
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Speaker 1: I would say this, you know, um, especially like in
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Speaker 1: the in the Christian community, like you'll hear the saying
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Speaker 1: of I'm a soul having a human experience. So like,
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Speaker 1: let me put this into more specific terms, um, Like,
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Speaker 1: in a lot of like New Age beliefs and understandings
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Speaker 1: and quotes you might hear the saying of you are
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Speaker 1: a soul having a human experience. Right. I absolutely believe that.
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Speaker 1: I believe I'm a soul first and right now my
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Speaker 1: experience is one of humanity. But that's not all I
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Speaker 1: am and all I will be right. I'm energy, I'm
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Speaker 1: a spirit, I'm I'm a soul. I'm of God. I'm
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Speaker 1: a piece of Him in a bag of bones right now, right,
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Speaker 1: So that very much speaks to my point of what
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Speaker 1: is societal ego driven and what is actual soul level purpose?
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Speaker 1: And actually, since I've mentioned ego a few times, I
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Speaker 1: want to break down the definition of what ego actually means.
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Speaker 1: It's funny, Um, a few weeks ago, one of my
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Speaker 1: girlfriends was over. I had a big group of people
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Speaker 1: over and Charlemagne was here and we were having fun.
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Speaker 1: It was very turned at this house, and by turn
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Speaker 1: I mean all the things, all the things, right, So
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Speaker 1: he was like, let's tart on the microphones. Let's let's
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Speaker 1: do a group podcast right now. So like probably six
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Speaker 1: of us come into the room, lit on a lot
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Speaker 1: of things, and we turn on the microphones and we
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Speaker 1: start talking. And mind you, probably none of that will
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Speaker 1: ever hit the light of day. It's like about forty
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Speaker 1: five minutes worth of audio that makes no sense. Um.
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Speaker 1: But like shar was here, Van was here, my Girl
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Speaker 1: Jazz was here, Humble was here. Like it was really
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Speaker 1: like a podcast reunion of people that have been on
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Speaker 1: the show. Um. But you know, I was talking. We
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Speaker 1: were talking about, you know, what is purpose? And one
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Speaker 1: of the things that I said was that I think
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Speaker 1: people when they when they talk about purpose, they get
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Speaker 1: way too caught up in their egos. And my girl
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Speaker 1: Jazz was like, no, I don't think it's ego. I
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Speaker 1: think it's you know, people want direction. A hundred percent
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Speaker 1: agree with that, but I think that we had a
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Speaker 1: different use of the way we were defining ego. So
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Speaker 1: I want to I want to break down what ego means. Now,
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Speaker 1: if you go by the Webster's Dictionary definition of ego,
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Speaker 1: it's a person's sense of self esteem or self importance.
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Speaker 1: So I think a lot of us tend to think
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Speaker 1: the word ego means like, oh, he has a big ego,
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Speaker 1: she has a big ego. That that simply means like
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Speaker 1: arrogance or that you think really highly of yourself. When
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Speaker 1: I talk about ego, that's not the way in which
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Speaker 1: I'm using it. Um. From a psychology perspective, ego is
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Speaker 1: defined as the part of the mind that mediates between
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Speaker 1: the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality
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Speaker 1: testing and a sense of personal identity that gets closer
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Speaker 1: to it. From a more um metaphysical standpoint, ego is
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Speaker 1: defined as a conscious thinking subject. So the way I
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Speaker 1: would kind of break that down is the ego is
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Speaker 1: the human experience. The ego is the human part of
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Speaker 1: you that is having experiences an outside world and responding
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Speaker 1: to those experiences. Right, It's it's the piece of you
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Speaker 1: that is that things are happening to and that you're
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Speaker 1: reacting to. Your soul is not your ego. Your your
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Speaker 1: soul is having the experience of humanity, which is the
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Speaker 1: experience of ego. So to the ego, there's only positive
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Speaker 1: or negative, which is how we kind of quantify our experiences.
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Speaker 1: I had a bad day, I had a good day. Um,
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Speaker 1: oh that's bad news, or wow, things are going so
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Speaker 1: good for me right now, right Like, that's kind of
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Speaker 1: how the ego experiences it's human self. It's by the
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Speaker 1: positives and the negatives, the good and the bads. Um
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Speaker 1: and it's about creating judgments and perceptions about the experiences
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Speaker 1: that we're having. Now, your soul doesn't live in that way.
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Speaker 1: To your soul, there is no such thing as positive
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Speaker 1: or negative. To the universe. I believe to God, there
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Speaker 1: is no such thing as positive or negative. Like, you're
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Speaker 1: not being rewarded and you're not being punished. More so,
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Speaker 1: you are just having experiences that are meant to lead
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Speaker 1: you to another place, another level, experiences that are meant
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Speaker 1: to lead you towards another experience, and your reaction is
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Speaker 1: what makes all the difference on what that next experience
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Speaker 1: will be. So when we were talking about ego, and
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Speaker 1: I said that people are too caught up in their
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Speaker 1: own ego when they are trying to contemplate their purpose,
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Speaker 1: what I'm really saying is people are using purpose more
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Speaker 1: so as a measuring stick of their own self worth
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Speaker 1: and a measuring stick of how they fare in comparison
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Speaker 1: to other people. And that's where you can really limit
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Speaker 1: yourself and things can get really, really tricky when you're
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Speaker 1: quantifying it in that way. So I just found this
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Speaker 1: worksheet that I did with Ron and Mary Holnick, who
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Speaker 1: if you're in the l A area, they are both too,
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Speaker 1: absolutely brilliant thought leaders UM, who are both clinical psychologists
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Speaker 1: for over forty years. UM, but do a lot of
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Speaker 1: work around the soul, a lot of work around spirituality
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Speaker 1: and psychology. Um. They're incredible, incredible, incredible. But so they
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Speaker 1: have this worksheet about purpose that I filled out recently,
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Speaker 1: and it was kind of cool to fill it out,
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Speaker 1: being that I feel like I have a deeper understanding
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Speaker 1: from mine at this point in my evolution, so like
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Speaker 1: it's broken down in terms of human experience versus soul experience.
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Speaker 1: So number one asked me, what is my purpose? I said,
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Speaker 1: to use my unique God given gifts to be of
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Speaker 1: service to others, to share tools of healing and self
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Speaker 1: awareness with women of color, for generational healing of trauma
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Speaker 1: to occur. What are my opportunities within my human experience
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Speaker 1: to do this? I put broadcasting, literature, workshops, social media. Right,
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Speaker 1: those are all things that I kind of used to
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Speaker 1: share who I am and what I'm learning and um,
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Speaker 1: what I've discovered. What are Number three? The question was
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Speaker 1: what are my gifts? I view my gifts as communication, curiosity, empathy, kindness,
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Speaker 1: and authentic self expression. How can I be Number four?
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Speaker 1: Is how can I be of service and make a
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Speaker 1: meaningful contribution in my human experience. I put exhibiting authentic
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Speaker 1: self expression and heart centered leadership and staying out of
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Speaker 1: ego as I work. Now on another level, it says
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Speaker 1: one of the questions asked, or what are my soul opportunities?
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Speaker 1: What are the ways in which my soul has provided
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Speaker 1: opportunities to do this work of purpose? My response to
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Speaker 1: this is my own healing, transcending karma, transmuting karma, transcending
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Speaker 1: and transmuting generational trauma, living in loving and compassion. So
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Speaker 1: those are the things that I think that my experiences
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Speaker 1: of being a human thus far have provided me with.
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Speaker 1: Right Like I have done some deep dive digging on
24:12
Speaker 1: a lot of pains that I've had in my life,
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Speaker 1: on a lot of experiences that I've had, um things
24:19
Speaker 1: that I've done, things that have been done to me,
24:22
Speaker 1: you know, And I think that even in a lot
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Speaker 1: of those challenges, the soul opportunities that have provided me
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Speaker 1: was my own healing, right like my own ability to
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Speaker 1: break patterns, my own ability to break karma, my own
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Speaker 1: ability to end certain traumas in my family lineage with
24:39
Speaker 1: me and not pass them on to my child and
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Speaker 1: opportunities to with an open heart seek out a life
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Speaker 1: of more impact and meaning and live in a more
24:52
Speaker 1: compassionate and kind mind state towards everyone, towards you know,
24:56
Speaker 1: the peaceful ambi aggressive. So that I thought that was
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Speaker 1: really beautiful and that was really helpful, And that's kind
25:04
Speaker 1: of a way for me to break down a little
25:06
Speaker 1: further to you the ways in which I view purpose. Um,
25:10
Speaker 1: I also want to share some ways that I think
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Speaker 1: that you can start tapping in a little bit deeper
25:16
Speaker 1: into whatever you consider your purpose to be, or how
25:19
Speaker 1: you can get a jump start on finding what that
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Speaker 1: is to begin with. So ways to begin to find
25:26
Speaker 1: your purpose, I would say the first is that you
25:29
Speaker 1: really need to accept that purpose is a constantly evolving
25:35
Speaker 1: experience that is intertwined with the entirety of your life's journey.
25:40
Speaker 1: If you have not figured out purpose from one weekend
25:43
Speaker 1: of vision boarding, guess what you weren't supposed to. That's okay.
25:51
Speaker 1: And at every new level of you discovering yourself, at
25:55
Speaker 1: every new level of you healing yourself and growing, there's
25:58
Speaker 1: gonna be new facets to your purpose. So it's kind
26:00
Speaker 1: of like imagine like what a raw diamond is, you know,
26:03
Speaker 1: raw diamond, It's it's stuck in the earth, it's covered
26:09
Speaker 1: in rock, whatever the you know, specific geological measurements of
26:13
Speaker 1: it are. But it's it's covered. It's not looking like
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Speaker 1: the ring on your finger. Right well, with every but
26:19
Speaker 1: it's still valuable. It's still beautiful and valuable. And then
26:22
Speaker 1: with every new piece of you that you're uncovering, there
26:26
Speaker 1: is a refining, there's a sharpening, there is a chiseling,
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Speaker 1: and every new layer and every new opportunity eventually reveal,
26:35
Speaker 1: you know, a VVS stone with beautiful clarity and and
26:39
Speaker 1: all of the brilliant facets that make it dance and
26:43
Speaker 1: come alive when you see it's set, you know, on jewelry.
26:47
Speaker 1: And that's kind of how your purpose is really meant
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Speaker 1: to be. It's always you're always valuable. But depending on
26:53
Speaker 1: how much work and effort you put into yourself, you're
26:57
Speaker 1: either the raw, fresh out the earth diamond or you know,
27:00
Speaker 1: you're the brilliant VVS stone on a fifty carrot ring.
27:04
Speaker 1: You know, that's that that's in the news. So that's
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Speaker 1: kind of how I look at this evolution of purpose.
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Speaker 1: It's this constantly evolving, being an experience that is really
27:17
Speaker 1: going to change and take new shape and new form
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Speaker 1: over time, and you just kind of have to surrender
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Speaker 1: to however you're being utilized in service, in purpose. For others,
27:28
Speaker 1: it's it's not always going to look like what your
27:31
Speaker 1: plan is um and God willing, it just continues to
27:36
Speaker 1: expand and expand and expand, and before you know what,
27:38
Speaker 1: you're living a life that you never really dreamed of,
27:41
Speaker 1: your a version of yourself that you couldn't even fathom before.
27:45
Speaker 1: So also in this line of things of ways to
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Speaker 1: find your purpose, UM, someone asked me on those Instagram stories,
27:52
Speaker 1: how conscious do you need to be to realize your
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Speaker 1: God given purpose? That's from j Can Honeybean. How conscious
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Speaker 1: do you need to be to realize your God given purpose? Um?
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Speaker 1: Both vary and also not very I think the thing
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Speaker 1: about purpose again with it being that that being that
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Speaker 1: is constantly evolving and taking new shape. I mean, there's
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Speaker 1: so much opportunity for so many different versions of it.
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Speaker 1: So you can absolutely, even at the bare bones level
28:28
Speaker 1: of your growth, be exhibiting pieces of your purpose in
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Speaker 1: the way in which they're available to you in that
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Speaker 1: moment um and then as you expand that and you
28:37
Speaker 1: grow and you become more of who you've always been, UM,
28:42
Speaker 1: you get to really tackle maybe some bigger service projects.
28:45
Speaker 1: You get to tackle bigger ways and bigger vessels for
28:50
Speaker 1: you to use that. UM. So, I think at whatever
28:55
Speaker 1: stage you're in in your growth, you absolutely have an
28:58
Speaker 1: incredible amount of all you and worthiness within which to
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Speaker 1: display your purpose. Another question that I got in that
29:08
Speaker 1: same vein was how do you find your purpose in life?
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Speaker 1: I'm having a hard time finding mine. That's from at
29:14
Speaker 1: Beautiful to four seven seven. This actually reminds me one
29:19
Speaker 1: of my dear girlfriends who I know is listening to
29:21
Speaker 1: this episode right now. I'm not going to call her
29:23
Speaker 1: out by name, but I know she's going to know
29:24
Speaker 1: who she is and text me when she hears this. UM.
29:28
Speaker 1: You know, she had she had listened to one of
29:30
Speaker 1: my other episodes, and she at texts me and she said,
29:33
Speaker 1: you know, I just don't know what's wrong with me
29:36
Speaker 1: because I have been spending the whole last few months
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Speaker 1: trying to figure out my purpose and I just haven't
29:42
Speaker 1: figured it out yet. I don't know what's wrong with me. Um,
29:44
Speaker 1: And I just want to bring back to what I
29:45
Speaker 1: said earlier. You know, more than likely you are already
29:49
Speaker 1: living a great deal of your life in purpose and
29:53
Speaker 1: on purpose. You're just not giving yourself the credit for it.
29:56
Speaker 1: And you're also thinking of purpose as a destination. You're
30:01
Speaker 1: going to be arriving at your thinking of purpose in
30:04
Speaker 1: terms of it being a job title. So because maybe
30:06
Speaker 1: you didn't find the gig or the career or the
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Speaker 1: job that you can now stand in and say, yes,
30:13
Speaker 1: this is my purpose, Um, then you think you failed.
30:17
Speaker 1: Well new splash. The majority of the world, not just America,
30:21
Speaker 1: but if we look at the scope of the world,
30:23
Speaker 1: who's really doing that anyway? You know, Like, who's really
30:26
Speaker 1: having these gigantic lives, um, where they're getting paid to
30:31
Speaker 1: quote unquote being their purpose? I mean stop it be
30:35
Speaker 1: way more gentle with yourself, you know. And and for her,
30:38
Speaker 1: it's kind of like from outside looking in on her life,
30:41
Speaker 1: I see this brilliant, incredible, like deeply empathetic woman who
30:48
Speaker 1: serves as such a pillar of strength to not only
30:52
Speaker 1: her own family, her husband and her kids, but a
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Speaker 1: pillar of strength to her friendship. She is one of
30:57
Speaker 1: the most thoughtful people that I've ever met. She has
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Speaker 1: a hundred percent um strengthened me as a friend, been
31:04
Speaker 1: been so supportive. She's one of those people that when
31:09
Speaker 1: you know her, you feel seen, you feel heard, you
31:11
Speaker 1: feel valued. And I'm like, girl, that's that's you standing
31:16
Speaker 1: in your purpose. Whatever you do, You're already sharing your
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Speaker 1: purpose with so many people. Which leads me to another
31:23
Speaker 1: question I got from at Carlita Durand she her question
31:27
Speaker 1: to me, was you mentioned serving quote unquote a lot.
31:32
Speaker 1: What does that exactly mean? So serving was one of
31:35
Speaker 1: my favorite words, UM that I begin using in kind
31:39
Speaker 1: of my more spiritual vocabulary. UM. I specifically use it
31:42
Speaker 1: in terms of you've probably seen online me saying like
31:46
Speaker 1: you know, UM, I make choices that are the most
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Speaker 1: serving to me. So there's a big difference between I
31:51
Speaker 1: make good choices, or I make good choices for myself,
31:57
Speaker 1: or this is the best choice or option for me,
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Speaker 1: and I have serving choices. I'm making serving decisions. Serving
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Speaker 1: is not necessarily equated with like the best option, but
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Speaker 1: it is the most soul satisfying option. Right. So if
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Speaker 1: I'm making if I'm saying I made the best choice,
32:20
Speaker 1: that's more like ego line. That's more me talking about
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Speaker 1: my human experience and how that choice is going to
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Speaker 1: benefit me as a person in the world. Right, the
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Speaker 1: most serving choice is what fills my soul. It is
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Speaker 1: the choice that is the most spiritually beneficial to me,
32:37
Speaker 1: and the choice that is the most beneficial to not
32:41
Speaker 1: just myself but all those that are connected to me. So,
32:44
Speaker 1: when you do things based from a space of thinking,
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Speaker 1: is this serving me? It's not is this rewarding me?
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Speaker 1: You know, it's this really serving what my soul needs
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Speaker 1: and desires. Is it really serving to help me ascend
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Speaker 1: to the best version of myself? Or is it serving
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Speaker 1: me in a way that helps this situation ascend to
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Speaker 1: the best possible outcome for those involved? So that's kind
33:21
Speaker 1: of like the way that I think of that term
33:23
Speaker 1: and the way that I use that term. So right now,
33:25
Speaker 1: if you've been listening to the show and you are
33:28
Speaker 1: feeling like a girl, I still don't know what the
33:30
Speaker 1: hell are you talking about? Or I still don't know
33:35
Speaker 1: what my damn purposes? Um again, that's completely fine. But
33:40
Speaker 1: here here's some really like tangible ways to start diving
33:42
Speaker 1: into that. Okay, A really important component about finding your
33:47
Speaker 1: purpose and standing in your purpose is connecting with your
33:51
Speaker 1: intuition and tapping into the things that are inherent to
33:54
Speaker 1: you and the things that flow through you with effortless ease.
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Speaker 1: That is the real, real route of the way to
34:03
Speaker 1: find what your gifts are. Because if if you were
34:05
Speaker 1: listening to the show earlier and you're like, well, I
34:06
Speaker 1: don't know what my gifts are. I mean I don't
34:10
Speaker 1: I can't sing, I can't dance. What is my gift? Well,
34:13
Speaker 1: I can't do either of those things either. That's why
34:18
Speaker 1: when I listed my gifts, you know, it's I really
34:20
Speaker 1: listed for you, guys. The things that come really naturally
34:24
Speaker 1: to me, that are in that are inherent facets of
34:29
Speaker 1: my character, that are are inherent facets of who I
34:33
Speaker 1: am no matter what I'm doing, and and facets of
34:37
Speaker 1: who I've always been. Um. There are also things that
34:40
Speaker 1: come really deeply easy to me. Communication. It's always been
34:45
Speaker 1: so easy to me. Um, That's what I always excelled
34:48
Speaker 1: at in school. You know, even I think I was
34:50
Speaker 1: in first grade and I was reading a twelfth grade
34:52
Speaker 1: level or something. I got tested for something, right, Because
34:55
Speaker 1: I loved to communicate, and I loved to be curious
35:02
Speaker 1: about everything in the world. You know, I'm curious about
35:05
Speaker 1: myself and I'm curious about the world, and those are
35:08
Speaker 1: two of my superpowers. So I absolutely identify those things
35:13
Speaker 1: as vessels for my purpose and pieces of my purpose puzzle.
35:18
Speaker 1: So think of it in terms of that, you know, Um,
35:21
Speaker 1: what are the things that are so effortless to you?
35:25
Speaker 1: I I and even start looking at, you know, some
35:29
Speaker 1: some things in childhood that maybe you haven't paid attention to.
35:32
Speaker 1: You know, I've always been someone that I think, when
35:36
Speaker 1: I'm my most balanced, UM, give really good advice, you know.
35:39
Speaker 1: I I've naturally always been more of a counselor to
35:43
Speaker 1: people in my life, and not because I know everything,
35:46
Speaker 1: but just for whatever reason, that's how my soul connects
35:49
Speaker 1: with other people. You know. UM, I think back to
35:53
Speaker 1: I was in daycare when I was in elementary school,
35:56
Speaker 1: and one of the daycare teachers asked me for advice
36:00
Speaker 1: about her man, which now is crazy because no adult
36:05
Speaker 1: better be talking to my child about their man problems.
36:08
Speaker 1: But you know, I think that just really spoke to
36:11
Speaker 1: someone's comfortability with me and relatability with me, and just
36:15
Speaker 1: interest on what my perspective could be. UM. And so
36:19
Speaker 1: look back at things like that, you know, what, what
36:21
Speaker 1: are things that just kind of kept stumbling your way
36:23
Speaker 1: or coming out of you really effortlessly that you do well.
36:27
Speaker 1: You know, some people are master motivators. Some people are
36:31
Speaker 1: so exceptional about helping other people see themselves. That's purpose.
36:37
Speaker 1: You can do any job and be in and on
36:41
Speaker 1: purpose with that gift, you know, with that ability. So
36:46
Speaker 1: really spend some time connecting with your intuition. You know,
36:49
Speaker 1: it's really important that before you buy every single course online,
36:53
Speaker 1: before you go to every single empowerment brunch, which are
36:56
Speaker 1: awesome tools, but they don't work if you don't work.
37:00
Speaker 1: You know, before you do all of that, before you
37:02
Speaker 1: expend all this money trying to get someone else to
37:05
Speaker 1: guide you and lead you to the truth about yourself,
37:08
Speaker 1: consider taking some time with you being more connected and
37:14
Speaker 1: grounded in yourself, you know, valuing yourself more, loving yourself more,
37:19
Speaker 1: accepting yourself more, and slowly uncovering and unlayering those pieces
37:24
Speaker 1: of you that stand out that are so uniquely you,
37:28
Speaker 1: that have benefited the people in your life in some
37:30
Speaker 1: way or another. You know, you don't have to have
37:32
Speaker 1: a lot of money to be generous of spirit. You
37:35
Speaker 1: don't have to have a bunch of opportunities or things
37:40
Speaker 1: um to serve other people, Like, what are ways in
37:44
Speaker 1: which you have really helped people that don't include money,
37:48
Speaker 1: or that don't include job perks, or that don't include,
37:51
Speaker 1: you know, something physically tangible. Are you a great listener?
37:56
Speaker 1: Are you somebody that you know is great at helping
38:00
Speaker 1: people unlock themselves? Um? Are you somebody that is just
38:06
Speaker 1: kind of naturally a safe place for others? Like? That's purpose?
38:11
Speaker 1: You know. Another great way to access that too, if
38:14
Speaker 1: if you're still kind of feeling like, you know, I'm
38:16
Speaker 1: not centered enough is ask people that know you, Ask
38:20
Speaker 1: people that you trust and admire. Don't just ask anybody,
38:24
Speaker 1: don't just allow any and everybody input into your life,
38:26
Speaker 1: but definitely tap into people that you trust and that
38:30
Speaker 1: you admire for help people that know you and see you.
38:34
Speaker 1: I'm sure you would be shocked and surprised at some
38:37
Speaker 1: of the things that these people have to share with
38:39
Speaker 1: you about yourself. You know, sometimes we're we're way too
38:42
Speaker 1: hard on ourselves, We're way too biased to see ourselves
38:45
Speaker 1: clearly and in real time, and it is important and
38:48
Speaker 1: necessary for us to kind of concede to a deeper understanding.
38:53
Speaker 1: Someone else may have some kind of intuitive input that
38:56
Speaker 1: they can have into our lives. So I would really
39:00
Speaker 1: really strongly suggest you go that route too. And for
39:04
Speaker 1: those that are listening right now that are really really
39:08
Speaker 1: serious and committed to either finding your purpose or activating it,
39:14
Speaker 1: standing deeper inside of what you already know to be
39:17
Speaker 1: your purpose, whichever whichever place you kind of fall on
39:21
Speaker 1: that tree. Something that is truly a non negotiable to
39:25
Speaker 1: that is developing your spiritual practice. It's really connecting with yourself,
39:31
Speaker 1: getting to know yourself deeper, accepting all of the aspects
39:35
Speaker 1: of who you are, the light and the dark, you know,
39:38
Speaker 1: the shadow parts you don't want people to know about,
39:40
Speaker 1: and the best parts that you want everyone to see.
39:43
Speaker 1: It's really embracing all the sides of yourself and and
39:48
Speaker 1: committing yourself to to a very serving daily practice, you know,
39:53
Speaker 1: and daily practice, your daily spiritual practice. It doesn't by
39:57
Speaker 1: that personally. I don't mean like, you know, you have
40:00
Speaker 1: to be in church every day, or you know you
40:03
Speaker 1: have to do all these really grand, grandiose rituals um
40:10
Speaker 1: for me my spiritual practice. And I've done this on
40:13
Speaker 1: i G t V before, So if you're on my
40:15
Speaker 1: Instagram at Debbie Brown, one of the videos is me
40:18
Speaker 1: going over what my daily spiritual practices. UM. But for me,
40:21
Speaker 1: that looks like meditation. Meditation is my gateway drug. To me,
40:25
Speaker 1: it is the most important part of my spiritual development,
40:29
Speaker 1: That ability to get quiet and get still, that ability
40:32
Speaker 1: to stop asking and trying to interpret and rationalizing and
40:39
Speaker 1: all of the things, and being able to just let God,
40:43
Speaker 1: let the universe download into me, input into me, you know, UM, meditation.
40:49
Speaker 1: I do a lot of affirmations throughout my day. The
40:52
Speaker 1: affirmation I created for myself for this season in my
40:54
Speaker 1: life is I am a precious child of God living
40:58
Speaker 1: in the mastery of my most loving and authentic self,
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Speaker 1: exercising joyful discipline and leading from my soul's center. So
41:08
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that again. I'm a precious child of
41:11
Speaker 1: God living in the mastery of my most loving and
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Speaker 1: authentic self, exercising joyful discipline and leading from my soul's center.
41:19
Speaker 1: That is affirmation I wrote just for me. If you
41:22
Speaker 1: want to use it, please feel free. But that is
41:24
Speaker 1: something I say to myself throughout the day. I have
41:27
Speaker 1: it taped on the mirror in my bathroom. I start
41:29
Speaker 1: my day with it, in my day with it. Whenever
41:32
Speaker 1: I happen to pass by that bathroom at another point.
41:34
Speaker 1: You know, throughout the day I say it, I stop,
41:38
Speaker 1: I take a deep breath while I look at it.
41:41
Speaker 1: And the way that that has subtly worked in my
41:43
Speaker 1: life has been indescribable. You know. It's it's really all
41:47
Speaker 1: of those little steps that make you who you are,
41:50
Speaker 1: those little steps that are your unlocking and not the
41:52
Speaker 1: grand gestures. You know. Um, I have that affirmation up
41:57
Speaker 1: the thing that I say in my life, the moment
42:01
Speaker 1: I wake up, before I get out of the bed
42:03
Speaker 1: to go to the restroom, before I brush my teeth,
42:05
Speaker 1: before I scroll, I start every day and I look up,
42:09
Speaker 1: even on my most tired days, I look up with
42:12
Speaker 1: a smile and I say, thank you God for my son,
42:16
Speaker 1: thank you God for my family, thank you God for
42:19
Speaker 1: my friends, thank you God for my life. I say
42:23
Speaker 1: that all my best days. I say that all my
42:25
Speaker 1: worst days. But that has really helped to cultivate a
42:29
Speaker 1: lot of extra gratitude in my life. Finding daily joys
42:33
Speaker 1: has become a part of my spiritual practice, identifying small
42:37
Speaker 1: moments of joy that make me smile or make me
42:40
Speaker 1: feel peace, um, and just appreciating them in real time.
42:45
Speaker 1: And really taking a moment to notice them. That has
42:48
Speaker 1: become a huge part of my spiritual practice. I'm a
42:51
Speaker 1: big reader. I'm a big for lack of a better word,
42:54
Speaker 1: like do good or like I like to reach out
42:57
Speaker 1: to people. I like to do special things for people
43:00
Speaker 1: that I care about on a daily basis in some
43:03
Speaker 1: kind of way. Um, those are all parts of my
43:06
Speaker 1: spiritual practice. But more than just giving me something to
43:10
Speaker 1: do every day, those are all tools that have helped
43:13
Speaker 1: me further unlock and deepen what my purposes and become
43:17
Speaker 1: the most authentic version of myself. I would also say,
43:21
Speaker 1: and and if you have a pen and paper nearby,
43:23
Speaker 1: please I really want you to write these down. If
43:26
Speaker 1: you are trying to figure out what your purposes or
43:30
Speaker 1: again to stand more deeply inside of it. Here are
43:34
Speaker 1: some great self inquiry questions to ask yourself and to
43:38
Speaker 1: share with God. One of them is, God, please show
43:43
Speaker 1: me my next step. If you have the job of
43:46
Speaker 1: your dreams or if you're searching for a better one.
43:49
Speaker 1: If you are trying to figure it out, do not
43:51
Speaker 1: look up at that mountain and feel defeated. Get God involved,
43:56
Speaker 1: but not in a way that it's you dictating to
43:58
Speaker 1: him what you want your comes to be. He has
44:01
Speaker 1: to lead you, he has to be in control. So say, God,
44:06
Speaker 1: please show me my next step. Another one that I
44:09
Speaker 1: think is really great if you're on your journey to
44:13
Speaker 1: really figuring out who you are, or to loving all
44:15
Speaker 1: of who you are, to being at peace and an
44:17
Speaker 1: acceptance of who you are. God, please show me the
44:22
Speaker 1: truth of who I am. That's probably one of the
44:26
Speaker 1: most powerful things that you can say on your road
44:30
Speaker 1: to purpose, that you can really say to yourself and
44:34
Speaker 1: your mind and also outloud to the universe several times
44:37
Speaker 1: throughout the day. Write this down, God, please show me
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Speaker 1: the truth of who I am. We play so many
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Speaker 1: expectations on God in the universe. While on one hand,
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Speaker 1: I do think it's really important to be as specific
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Speaker 1: as possible when you're creating your vision, to write out,
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Speaker 1: you know, line by line, all the ways in which
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Speaker 1: you want things to happen. I want the car, I
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Speaker 1: want the house, I wanted this, putting the pictures up.
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Speaker 1: All of that is amazing, But we also have to
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Speaker 1: be really clear that some of the things that we
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Speaker 1: want for us are not the things that are for us.
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Speaker 1: And usually there is so much more There's so much
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Speaker 1: more depth that God wants to offer to you. There's
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Speaker 1: so many more gifts an opportunity that God wants to
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Speaker 1: offer to you that we limit by creating the full
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Speaker 1: terms of our agreements with this life. So God, please
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Speaker 1: show me the truth of who I am and be
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Speaker 1: in full acceptance of whatever is revealed to you. Because
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Speaker 1: with saying that, it is such a powerful unlocking, and
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Speaker 1: it is such a powerful catalyst for transformational growth in
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Speaker 1: your life because it can be many things. It can
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Speaker 1: be God showing you the great pieces of you that
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Speaker 1: you are not looking at. And it can also be
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Speaker 1: God showing you your darkness so you can see yourself
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Speaker 1: with full eyes, you know, and and both of those
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Speaker 1: things are necessary for you to become the next evolution
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Speaker 1: of whoever you're meant to be. So those two things
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Speaker 1: one more time, where God please show me my next step.
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Speaker 1: Say that with me. God, please show me my next step.
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Speaker 1: God please show me the truth of who I am.
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Speaker 1: Say that with me, God, please show me the truth
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Speaker 1: of who I am. Yeah, I'm still here. I just
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Speaker 1: want to take a second and really create some space
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Speaker 1: after invoking that energy for us. All right, I have
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Speaker 1: some homework for you. I want you to go on
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Speaker 1: my I G t v s on my Instagram at
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Speaker 1: Debbie Brown, and there's two videos I want you to watch.
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Speaker 1: Both of them are nine minutes. Each one of them
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Speaker 1: is me going over my daily spiritual practice. The next
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Speaker 1: one is five Books to read for spiritual Growth. I
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Speaker 1: go over five of my current favorite books that I
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Speaker 1: think you'll really dig. I think it'll really add some
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Speaker 1: new layers of discovery for yourself that you can really
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Speaker 1: utilize on this journey to purpose. Also a great DVD.
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Speaker 1: I don't know all the places this is available. I
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Speaker 1: have it on iTunes. I also have it on DVD,
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Speaker 1: even though I don't have a DVD player anymore. Um,
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Speaker 1: but it's it's a movie that I watched long, long,
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Speaker 1: long time ago that I think really beautifully expresses and
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Speaker 1: illustrates what the true meaning of a life purposes. And
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Speaker 1: the movie is called Finding Joe. Finding Joe, it's a
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Speaker 1: documentary about the teachings of Joseph Campbell. Now, Joseph Campbell
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Speaker 1: was many things. Um theologist, he was a I meant God,
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Speaker 1: just a researcher on all the belief systems and all
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Speaker 1: of time, and in a lot of his teachings, he
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Speaker 1: has identified what he considers to be the purpose of life,
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Speaker 1: like the very real purpose of why we're even here,
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Speaker 1: the point of it all. UM. And it's also a
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Speaker 1: common thread that he had identified in every story ever
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Speaker 1: told and in every religion ever believed and followed. UM.
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Speaker 1: And it's it's this thing that he has identified, UM,
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Speaker 1: that I think can aid everybody really greatly in their purpose.
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Speaker 1: It's called the hero's journey. That's the thing that's the
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Speaker 1: common tie, the commonality in every story ever told and
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Speaker 1: every religion ever followed, UM, the Hero's Journey. And so
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Speaker 1: it's a really beautiful, beautiful movie. A lot of incredible
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Speaker 1: thought leaders are in this document, Nry. It's about ninety minutes.
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Speaker 1: Watch it, Watch it with your spouse, watch it with
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Speaker 1: your kids. It's really really beautiful no matter what background
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Speaker 1: you are. UM, this is not trying to change your
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Speaker 1: beliefs in any way. This is more so just highlighting
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Speaker 1: some of the beauty and what your beliefs are in
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Speaker 1: a way that is more applicable to you. So that
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Speaker 1: is called finding Joe. It might be on a streaming service,
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Speaker 1: but I do know for shorts on iTunes. So try
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Speaker 1: to rent or buy it there um and you won't
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Speaker 1: regret it. And if you check it out, please let
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Speaker 1: me know. So I hope this episode turned out okay.
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Speaker 1: I had a good time recording it. Um, it was
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Speaker 1: interesting to me. Uh yeah. So the pressures of purpose.
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Speaker 1: In closing, I just really want to say, please, please,
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Speaker 1: please be gentle with yourself. Um, do not use purpose,
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Speaker 1: the idea of purpose, in the same way that you
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Speaker 1: are using your Instagram, which is as a tool of comparison. Okay,
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Speaker 1: not all purpose has to be grant in the way
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Speaker 1: that is quantifiable by likes or by curated perception. Please
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Speaker 1: know and believe that because of the truth of the
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Speaker 1: matter is that's not everybody's mission in this life. Everybody's
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Speaker 1: mission in this life is not to be world famous
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Speaker 1: or super rich or whatever else you know society glorifies.
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Speaker 1: We are all here to learn and to be and
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Speaker 1: to do different things. But none of those things are
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Speaker 1: greater than another person's or better than another person's. We
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Speaker 1: just have to stop looking at our own growth and
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Speaker 1: our own lives through the very warped perspective of American society.
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Speaker 1: You will cause your own suffering if you do that.
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Speaker 1: You have to find the beauty and whatever your life
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Speaker 1: is in this moment, and whatever cards you were dealt,
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Speaker 1: whatever hands you're playing. All right, I gotta go before
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Speaker 1: Quest week, So I love y'all of peace. Big thank
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Speaker 1: you for listening to this episode of The Dropping Gym's podcast.
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Speaker 1: This show is executive produced by Adrian Scott and me
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Speaker 1: Debbie Brown. Our theme music was created by producer Day one,
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Speaker 1: and the poem that you heard at the beginning of
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