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HHBSO 134: Gifts? Really? · He's Hot but Something's Off...

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Hello and welcome to He's hot but something's off.
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OK, Still learning to fade out the music after a million
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episodes. It's 67° in the room right now.
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I just recorded the Gay Koutsen Travel podcast, which went up
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last night. And in the winter when I do need
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to run the heat sometimes. And I did record a podcast
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because my HVAC unit is super loud and I don't want it running
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when I'm recording. Like I have a podcast mic which
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should cancel out most of the noise.
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But The thing is it's so loud that it might wreck the
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recording. I was recording the other one
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and I ate lunch right before that other recording earlier
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today and even had a little soup to warm me up.
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I have my jacket on and just eating food.
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The act of eating a bunch of food warms me up.
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And my jacket on I had some warm soup.
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It was like it was a hot lunch and I did have the heat set on.
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69 is what I usually said, not because it's the 69, it's just
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because that's the minimum temperature where I can feel
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where I can stop feeling frigid cold.
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Normal people set it to like 72. Look, if I didn't care about my
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utility bills, it will be set to 75 probably like 737475 anyways,
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but I because I do have to pay my bills, it's 69 and I just
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like sweatpants, put on layers, put on a jacket and that's fine.
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But I was recording If you're watching the video version as
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you should be doing, this is a new sleeveless tee that I just
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recently got. I actually wore it on the cruise
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for the first time and it's now my Symphony 2026 cruise shirt.
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It reminds me of our cruise, but it's the first time I wore it
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and I actually really like this shirt.
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But anyways, I recorded that podcast.
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I was still warm, and when I'm recording, I don't feel that I'm
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cold as much. And after I recorded it, I
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wanted to upload it right away. So I went into my office, Edit,
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edit, edit. And then I had a client
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messaging me about something. So I was like talking to the
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client while all that was going the the the HVAC wasn't running
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besides shut off the HVAC while I was recording that episode.
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So like it was on and I was eating lunch and I turned it off
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to do the recording. And then when I was editing, I
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didn't turn the heat back on. And now that I'm recording this
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episode, by the time I started recording this, it was like it
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was 67° and cooling in the living room.
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That was not helpful information for any of you, but it is what
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it is. How are you doing today?
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How are all of you out there in Internet land?
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I don't have any like super. I mean, I always have something
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to talk about. Don't die.
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I always have something to talk about.
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Well, actually, you know, even if you're not that that
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interested in like the cruises and all that kind of stuff, I
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would recommend just go listen to the last 10 minutes of the
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gay crews and travel podcast episode that just came out
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yesterday. Just the last, I think about 8
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or 10 minutes, but I was I was slightly reading someone so that
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that's that'll be interesting. Even this the whole the whole
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thing is like 45 or 50 minutes. You don't need to sift through
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the entire thing. You don't want to.
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But the last 8 or 10 minutes there, there's some good bits in
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there. Plug for my Patreon and I just
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uploaded a poll to my Patreon just for my top tier OPA
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subscribers with only those subscribers get to have a live
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monthly live stream with me and every month I do a little poll
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for them for that live stream to basically get their
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availability. Like hey, which days and what
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times work best for you? And then whichever day and time
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guess the most votes. Then I try to have the live
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stream on that particular date and time.
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And also all the live streams are recorded.
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So if you subscribe to my Patreon, I say OPA right now.
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Not only would you get to participate in the upcoming live
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stream and you will also get to vote in the poll to help decide
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a time that work better for you and also all the other Opas, but
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you can actually watch all the previous live streams that I
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did. The live streams tend to go for
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anywhere from like 45 minutes, 45 minutes to an hour.
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And obviously your access to like all the other content that
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all the other Patreon survivors get, like all my travel vlogs,
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all the previous uncut page on exclusive episode.
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By the way, the last uncut. Can we talk about that?
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It's also a Patreon exclusive. Every Patreon tear gets the
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extra uncut podcast episodes that are released every weekend.
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It was I got a lot of comments on that episode where I was
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talking about the couple of guys.
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I went into detail, man. I went into details guys on like
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some of the guys, just a couple that I met on the cruise, but it
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was only within the secure electric fence of the Patreon
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paywall. Can I really let that?
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Can I do that much kissing and telling?
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I can't kiss and tell on this. That goes on to the public
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Internet. It goes on to my YouTube
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channel. It goes on to all the podcast
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platforms unrestricted. I can't do that.
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So not only does your, you know, like 3 like what $0.30 a day?
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Well, it's like $0.03 a day. It's $3 for the entry level tier
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on Patreon. So for a month, 3 bucks a month.
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That's is that how many cents a day is that 33 / 30?
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Oh, that's like $0.10 a day, right?
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I didn't school, I didn't go to school for math, but yeah, for
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$0.10 a day, that's the type of content you can have access to.
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So please sponsor me for Tencent.
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You know those old commercial that's like you can sponsor
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anyways, Like let's not go there and get ugly.
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I don't have anything super special to talk about.
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I know sometimes I run my mouth, but this is going to be one of
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those very like casual, go with the flow HHHBSO episodes.
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I know the last one that I did was like a little intense.
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The one that I did right before the cruise, that one was a
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little intense. So we're just going to lighten
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it up. Something I randomly thought of,
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which I forgot what it was, that made me think about this, how
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different generations have like different trends that they
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experience. And I'm of a certain age where I
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don't get the 6-7 trend. I was up in Vancouver in this
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was like December, I was last in December visiting family in
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Vancouver and we were at a family dinner and my niece and
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nephew were there and my niece and nephew, there are four and
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nine. And you know, that's obviously
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like that's what 2 generations down from me.
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The, the Gen. Z ers are just starting to get
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into the workplace. Like the, I think the more the
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older members of Gen. Z are what, in their early mid
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20s now, something like that early 20s.
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And obviously for like the, the elementary school kids, they're
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like 1. I think they're one generation
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below. What do we call it a generation?
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I've got no idea. But they're in on a six seven
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thing only because obviously all their classmates are doing that
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thing. And I didn't know about it until
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they like mentioned it, but they weren't mentioning it.
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They weren't explaining it to me, but like they were just like
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doing it, the family dinner and obviously like no one else at
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the table got it because I'm the next youngest amongst all the
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people that were they. But it's like my brother and my
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sister are both older than me. Obviously my my stepbrother who
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are like the, the dad of the kids, like he doesn't get it,
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but he's older. Obviously my mom's older and you
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know that that was and it was me and then like my niece and
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nephew. So I obviously I'm like 2
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generations removed from them. I've no idea what it means.
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I had to Google it. That's how old I am.
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But you know, every generation has kind of like their thing.
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And I remember when I was, when I first started Google, this was
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like when I was like in my early 20s and I was in, I worked for,
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I worked in it with Google because I was in it.
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And we had this thing called OTP, which stands for one time
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password. You know that thing sometimes
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when you log into something and then they have to text you a 6
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digit number or they have to e-mail you a 6 digit number and
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you have to like copy and paste that in.
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Sometimes that's called a one time password.
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There's different things that it's called by different people.
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It's more commonly called 2 step or two factor authentication
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nowadays. But, you know, internally at
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some companies, the corporate term was OTP.
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And, you know, when I was in my 20s doing that job like OTP was,
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it just meant one time passage didn't have any other
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connotation. But we had some, we're all like
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new grads, right? We're all fresh out of college.
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And we obviously had people that are like our managers or
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supervisors, like our mentors. And they were like a little
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older than us. Obviously they were not fresh
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out of college. They were like real adults or
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real experience. And then they're like, yeah,
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OTP. You know me like, and I didn't
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get that. We we didn't get that reference.
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We just completely do not. I don't even fully know what it
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means now, but I remember the look on their face like where
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they like try to like throw that in.
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And then we're all just like blank face, like we're all like
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2324 sitting. And I was like, what?
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We just have no idea what they're talking about.
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So it's the same. It is with like the six seven
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thing. Anyways, I don't know why I'm
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randomly talking about this. Maybe because it was like
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somewhat, well, not even that recently my birthday.
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So, Oh, by the way, why does it, why is it that companies need to
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text and e-mail me to wish me a happy birthday, but I didn't
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give you my birthday out of the kindness of my heart?
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It's because I kind of had to because I rented a car from you.
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So you had to know my birthday was I flew on your airline once
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and you only had my birthday, but you had to.
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I didn't give you my birthday so that you can spam me with like,
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do you really think, do you really think JetBlue is sending
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me an e-mail of the goodness of their hearts just so I would
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feel a little better on my birthday?
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Like, do I really need a big corporation to wish me happy
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birthday? Really.
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So that that was like a a weird thing.
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Anyways, let's grab. Do we have nothing to talk about
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today? This is the first time where
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it's not that I don't have anything to talk about.
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I think it's just been a busy day for me.
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So like, I'm not, it's not that I'm not in the podcast mood.
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I am in a talkative mood. But like I don't have an outline
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and I don't write things usually.
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Sometimes, well, sometimes I come with a topic because
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something is already on my mind. It's just one of those days
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where I just didn't have. And it's dangerous for me to run
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my mouth on days like this completely unfiltered because I
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will start ranting and ranting is not attractive.
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Like there's so many things I can bitch about.
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Are you kidding me? There's so many things.
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I mean, that's why you should watch the the last 8 or 10
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minutes of the gay ghost travel podcast episode that I uploaded
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yesterday. But I Wrestleman for.
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But they someone again came into my YouTube comment section.
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This guy was not that bad. This person wasn't that bad.
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But if you had to come into my YouTube session and leave those
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comments, I will rate you on my YouTube.
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So there you go. OK, let's turn to the good book
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3000 questions about me. Because I think this one of the
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reasons I got the book is because I think it's just
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sometimes these questions are great conversation starters.
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I'm going to start earmarking some of these, but someone
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actually suggested to me like, you should write these down.
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I'm like, I'm too lazy for that. OK, Question 2430.
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We're going to have a light episode today.
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OK, it it won't be me talking about before 40 minutes.
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Just be thankful for that. Question 2431, how fast can you
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get changed? Now, there's a critical
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difference there. How fast can you get ready and
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how fast can you get changed is different.
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Getting ready is like OK, like you need to like wash your face,
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you need to brush your teeth, you need to like do your hair,
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you need, you know, whatever, take a quick shower, whatever
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that is. Getting change just changing
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clothes and it's literally like a 32nd operation with me.
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It's like if I already know what clothes I need to wear is very
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fast, like 20 seconds, 30 seconds done.
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It's like clothes off, clothes on.
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It's very, very easy. My closet is all it is 90%
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T-shirts and tank tops, literally 95.
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There is a very small selection of there's like a couple of
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polos in there. I the polos are not there
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because I like polos. Polos are there because once in
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a great while I'm required to wear something that's not a
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regular T-shirt. Like if I for volunteering for
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Atlantis Team Atlantis on Atlantis cruises, part of the
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dress code is we need a couple of polo Tees and that's why I
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have those two polos. There are like 5 or 6 button UPS
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like Oxford, Abercrombie and Fitch style button UPS, not the
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type that you would wear in like with a business suit or they're
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not formal button. They're the type that you'll
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tuck into your shirt. Some of them are short sleeves
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as well. And then I've got a few
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sweaters. Sweaters that I hardly ever wear
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because I'd much rather just put on like a jacket on top of AT
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shirt. And with the reasons, I live in
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LA, so it doesn't even take me long to pick out clothes because
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I don't. Yeah, it's, it's a T-shirt or a
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tank top and very limited in the number of pants that I have.
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My closet is actually very simple.
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So it's very fast for me to get changed.
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Question 2004 to 32. In your opinion, what is the
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worst invention ever? There are a lot of inventions
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that a lot of people don't know about, including me.
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I I, I, it doesn't sound like it's a sensical answer, but
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there are a lot of things that exist that a lot of people don't
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know about, You know, they're probably not very successful
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things. So I feel like there are a lot
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of things have been invented that are bad.
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OK, why don't we, in your opinion, what is the worst
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invention? I'm going to tweak a little bit
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as like, what is the worst invention ever for inventions
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that someone would know about? Like obviously there's some,
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it's probably some obscure invention that never was
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successful. That is probably the actual
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worst invention ever, but it'd be limited to things that most
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people would know about. I don't know, I try.
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I don't know if I, I mean, I, I think there's certain things
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that are a bad idea, but I don't know if they were like
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inventions. I guess there's certain things
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that I don't like. Are they in, I guess, I guess
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everything is an invention. Everything has to be an idea
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from something, right? And this was like naturally
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occurring. Can we come back to that?
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Because there's not so many inventions that I think most
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people would know about that. I think it's so horrendous
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anyways, OK, we're going to, we're going to, I'm going to,
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I'm going to cherry pick this. I'm allowed.
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It's my podcast. Oh I'm really allergic I I am
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allowed to cherry pick OK but some of these are just not
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conversation worthy. Question 2437 do do people often
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ask you for your opinion and do you give it freely?
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My friends, I always value when friends give me their opinion
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when it's necessary. And a lot of the times those are
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like constructive criticisms. And I think I have a reputation
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amongst my friends that I don't like that I don't like to hear
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it. And maybe my response to critic,
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you know, sometimes you get constructive feedback and it can
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sometimes be easy to get defensive about it without you
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even really realizing it. It's almost like your intuition
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or your default to like be defensive about something.
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So I actually like it if people can tell me where my shit
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stinks. But you know, if you need to
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deliver hard feedback like that, you have to have two things.
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A certain rapport with that person.
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You know that there's got to be a level of trust between the two
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of you. So that when you deliver that to
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someone, that person, because they trust you so much, they
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know that, oh, this person is giving it to me for real because
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this is something I needed to hear.
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That's number one. The second thing is it's got to
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be in a setting, a situation where it's like a private
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one-on-one. So there's no like public
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shaming that goes on in a friendly or otherwise.
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It's like sometimes your friend needs to hear the ugly truth for
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their own benefit. But you have to do it tactfully
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in a situation where there's some comfort and safety in your
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surroundings and it's not like in front of other people.
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So I think it's really important.
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Everyone's personality is like a little bit different.
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So like the exact approach I think could depend on the
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person. But no, I think people don't.
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My, I don't think people, I think friends, close friends
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might ask for my opinion on something.
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But The thing is like I'm also like a little sarcastic and I
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don't to be honest, I think sometimes friends can't trust me
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to not like make fun of something to ask an opinion on.
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The other thing is, if not that, sometimes I'm very direct and
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and be blunt about something. If it's like a close friend
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asking me, I'll be like I don't like it and I don't really mince
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the words. But that's also partially
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because that's kinda how I would want the feedback delivered to
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me as well. Because I think if we're close
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enough friends and we have a good enough relationship and
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trust, like yes, do it in private and do it like nicely.
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But like just tell me straight up if my shit stinks.
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I'd rather a friend tell me than me go on stage and I have egg on
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my face. You know, I'm more like that.
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I don't know how much people actually ask for my opinion,
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like my friends, like people ask my opinion about like the
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cruises and that kind of stuff and things like that.
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And I do give it freely. The question is, do you often,
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do people often ask you for your opinion and do you give it
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freely? I will give it freely.
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Like if I don't, if I don't really know you and it's like a,
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you're asking for like a personal opinion.
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That's where I might do that default theoretical thing of
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like I'll kind of gloss and trigger coat.
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Especially like a corporate situation, that corporate sugar
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coating, which I don't like. But if you're a close friend,
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close enough friend, I will tell you straight up.
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If you ask for my opinion, it's like I feel like at least you
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deserve the truth from me. If you really want to know
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something from me and I think it's not good, I'm going to tell
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you it's not good. All right.
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Oh, this is interesting question 2438.
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Do you have a list of things to do before you're X years old?
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No, I think when I was a kid, when I was a child, I think I
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had this concept of, oh, by a certain age I'll be doing a
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certain thing or I'll have certain things, or I'll achieve
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a certain level of something. Now that I'm an actual adult and
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have lived actual adult live lives an actual adult life.
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No, I don't have like a oh I'm too young or old for this type
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of a thing. I I need to do these things
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before I turn X years old. No, I don't have any of that.
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What is something you're really good at but hate doing?
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I don't know if I hate it. I mean I I get it's a chore so I
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don't like cleaning very much. I don't hate it, but I would
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rather not have to do it. But I'm pretty, I'm fairly
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meticulous. If I clean, sometimes you need a
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a quick clean and tidy. I also kind of like tidying.
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Well, I mean, if, if, if I have the choice to not have to do it,
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then I would rather not have to clean and tidy.
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But I think I'm pretty good at it.
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I don't hate doing it, but I'm pretty good at it.
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Maybe there's there's some like work things that, you know, no
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one likes to do work, right, like work work, like job work.
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I mean, I, I feel like I was pretty good at my jobs.
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There's certain things where like, OK, I'm really good at
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this, but like, would I rather be not doing work?
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Sure. I don't know if it's anything
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that I hate doing, but to find out if you're really good at
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something, sometimes you need to have dinner repeatedly.
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And if it's something I really hate, I won't do it repeatedly.
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Does that make sense? What is your go to accessory?
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I don't know. I don't wear accessories.
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Like I have an Apple Watch. I think they mean like clothing
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type accessories, like jewelry and that kind of like clothing.
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I don't have accessories. I mean, I have a ring, but it's
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an aura ring that's like a health and sleep tracking thing.
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And I'm only really there for like the tracking abilities.
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I'm not in it for like as a piece of jewelry.
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I have an Apple Watch with like the basic sports band and it's a
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Series 5 and it doesn't even get software updates anymore.
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It doesn't get software updates anymore.
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I knew actually, that'll be the last question because I have
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other things now. Now that we're warmed, I have
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other things. How about that?
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Oh, that's great. It's a Series 5.
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I bought it in like 20. I think I bought it in 2017 or
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2018. I remember I was about to go on
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the October cruise of Atlantis that year and literally the
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night before I flew out, I was in San Francisco.
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So this probably is 2017 because I think I was going to fly down
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to San Diego or LA the day after.
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But the night before, I remember going to the Apple Store in in
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San Francisco in Union Square, that location to like pick up
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this Apple Watch because I wanted it for to go on the
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cruise with and because I was leaving the leaving tomorrow for
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the cruise the night before. I remember taking the subway,
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going to the Unit Square Apple Store in San Francisco and pick
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it up in person. And I've been somewhat tempted
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to get a new Apple Watch, but every Apple Watch kind of looks
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and feels the same. And this one isn't broken yet.
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It's still, it's very slow doing half the things I needed to do,
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which is not that much. The only things I really do on
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it is I wear it to, I mean, if I go out, I wear it, but the most
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use I get out of it is just tracking my workouts at the gym.
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So when I get to the gym, I'll start tracking the workouts on
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it and then at the same time acts as like the playback
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controls for the media as well. Like it's so slow.
24:56
I don't know. I think newer Apple Watches
24:57
don't do this. Half the time the volume
25:00
adjustment on the Apple Watch does not work to actually adjust
25:04
the volume. Sometimes it's very delayed,
25:06
sometimes it doesn't do it at all.
25:08
It lags between between your workout screen.
25:12
You can swipe across to get to your media controls.
25:15
Swiping between that and the workout stats is laggy as F.
25:19
Sometimes it gets stuck halfway. I think it's probably because
25:22
it's not as broken but it's so glitchy though.
25:25
It's it's like Apple products are not supposed to be this
25:28
glitchy. So I'm only assuming it's
25:30
because it's such an old watch running software that came out
25:34
last year, not current year because I don't get updates
25:36
anymore that it's not that it's broken.
25:40
It's just that the software, the hardware is so slow that it's it
25:46
lags as if it's like super buggy.
25:49
I haven't used any newer. This is the only Apple Watch
25:51
I've ever had, but it's I've had it for what, nine years now?
25:56
So, but the rumor is that the next Apple Watch that's going to
26:01
come out, the 12 or whatever it's going to be called, it's
26:02
supposed to be like some significant physical redesign.
26:07
I've kind of been waiting for an Apple Watch that looks and feels
26:11
kind of different because every Apple Watch every year, kind of
26:17
there's the Ultra, but I don't want the Super big one.
26:18
But the normal ones, they all are very similar and look very
26:22
similar. I know like, yeah, it's gone
26:25
faster and the software gets better and like the screen is
26:28
bigger and it's brighter and it's thinner and the charges
26:30
fast. Yeah, it's all that kind of
26:31
stuff. But it's like, I don't go out
26:33
enough and I don't use my watch enough for all those things to
26:37
matter. So I'm hoping next this coming
26:43
this later this year, whenever they release the next Apple
26:46
Watch, if it's a significant redesign of like the physical
26:54
design itself, that's where I'll pull the trigger and get the new
26:58
one. If they come up with something
27:00
that's just like that's pretty much the same as previous year,
27:03
then maybe later this year I'll wait for one of the previous
27:07
generation ones to like get a deep discount because the Series
27:11
11 is the one that's the current one that's on sale.
27:13
Like Apple Watch is on sale all the time.
27:15
The previous one, the Series 10 that came out in 2024, you can't
27:20
get that for like what, 230? Like about 240 or $250.
27:27
Obviously it's an older model, but like, that's why like it
27:29
goes on like a deep discount. Like when that one was new, it
27:32
was like 400 bucks, but you can get it for like 250 now.
27:36
And it's very similar to the current generation that's being
27:40
sold. So yeah, would anyone like to
27:43
buy? OK, some, some of you out there
27:51
are very generous and I'm very thankful.
27:53
Like I love that some of you subscribe to the Patreon and how
27:59
to get. I know kinds of creators push
28:01
stuff like Patreon and like like I say, I don't like seeing the
28:04
live subscribe thing very much. These are like call to actions.
28:07
Oh, please, like my video and subscribe to it and do this.
28:10
I don't watch that many creators, but if I constantly
28:16
were watching YouTube videos and people were constantly telling
28:18
me to like and subscribe like it's been done to death like
28:24
give it up Mary. I don't want anyone telling me
28:27
what to do. Do not tell me to like and
28:29
subscribe like it. If you want to like it,
28:32
subscribe it. You want to subscribe like is me
28:34
telling you is every kind of creator telling you you like and
28:37
subscribe really going to move the needle or is it like noise
28:40
in and noise out? OK, I actually was asking AI
28:43
because I was trying to work out this this.
28:45
You might find this super interesting or very boring.
28:48
I was trying to layout the sales funnel for just Joey Travels,
28:55
OK. I was trying to get really
28:57
organized about OK, I want to set OK Rs for the year, OK R is
29:01
corporate speak for objectives and key results.
29:04
You have an objective, you have a goal, OK.
29:07
And key results are basically how you quantify that goal, OK.
29:11
So the objective for just to retravel says, OK, I want to
29:15
increase my sales, OK, But it needs to be measurable.
29:19
It needs to be quantifiable, OK? So you can't just say I want to
29:23
increase sales as your goal, OK? The OK R would be like, I want
29:27
to have $50,000 in net bookings revenue by the end of the year,
29:35
December 31st of 2026. So it's like, OK, it's
29:39
measurable because do you hit 50K or not in net booked
29:43
revenue? It's a yes or no.
29:45
You hit the number, you didn't. Did you do it by December 31st
29:48
of the year? Did or you didn't?
29:49
So it's very measurable. It's very quantifiable, right?
29:53
So that's what an OK R is, right?
29:55
It's goal setting, but it has to be specific and has to be
29:58
measurable and has to have a time component.
30:01
OK, So I was trying to do that in terms of like, I was trying
30:05
to do that for just three travels.
30:06
And part of it is, OK, I want to actually dig into the salesman,
30:09
but I'm selling something, I'm selling a service, I'm selling
30:12
bookings, I'm selling cruises. So as I was doing that, I was
30:16
just like using AI to help. And then I was asking AI.
30:20
OK, well, I do make content. It is part of the marketing
30:24
strategy. What's a better way instead of
30:27
asking people to fucking like and subscribe all day long,
30:31
what's a better way to actually get people to click on my stuff
30:35
or to subscribe to my stuff or to like view my stuff?
30:38
And AL is actually very helpful with Google is actually very
30:41
helpful in like coming up like, oh, OK, there's all these other
30:44
ways you can increase your engagement and get your metrics
30:47
up for these OK Rs. That has the same effect of
30:51
people liking and subscribing and engaging with comment
30:53
without saying liking and subscribe.
30:56
Anyways, I don't know how we got into this rat, but here we are.
30:58
We're in Rat City now, so I hope we're all buckled into Rat City
31:03
anyways. Yeah, but when anyone wants to
31:04
buy me an Apple Watch. Oh, OK, I remember that.
31:07
I remember now. OK, You don't want to go.
31:09
You don't want to get into my brain.
31:10
It's a scary place in there. OK, yeah, we got on a topic
31:13
because I would say some of you are very generous.
31:17
I know that on my Patreon I tell people, hey, I have a Patreon,
31:20
please pay me money. So I don't literally say it like
31:23
that, but I do this. The only way I advertise my
31:26
Patreon is I just talk about it on my podcast.
31:30
But my top tier open subscribers like bless your hearts, you guys
31:35
are the best fans I could ever hope to have and let you guys
31:40
are. But all my Patreon subscribers,
31:42
you guys are putting your hard earned dollars on me and helping
31:47
support me. I'm so grateful for that.
31:50
There are some of you, though, and I'm not and I never expect
31:55
this. I never expect like anything
31:59
additional, honestly. I have had a few fans that
32:05
sometimes tip me an absurd amount of money and I have like
32:09
one or two fans that likes buying me things and they're
32:13
they're so sweet and I never, I don't expect you to buy me
32:18
things. So that's why I said when I
32:19
jokingly said anyone want to buy me an apple, I was like, OK, I
32:21
do, I, I can't, I'm joking, I'm joking, I'm joking.
32:25
I can't buy my own Apple Watch. Not that I don't appreciate, not
32:29
that I don't appreciate. I like gifts.
32:32
Like if someone wants to buy me something.
32:34
I think when I was growing up, I had this idea where I had to be
32:38
very self-sufficient and mom didn't like it when people got
32:46
us gifts. We never got gifts like when it
32:50
was like our birthday or like a holiday or whatever, we never
32:54
got gifts. The closest thing that we got
32:55
was, you know, in like Chinese New Year.
32:59
Oh by by the way, 2 days ago was Lunar New Year.
33:01
But I'm Chinese. So in my family, we call it
33:03
Chinese New Year. In Chinese New Year, we were
33:05
growing up. It's Chinese tradition to have
33:09
the lucky red pocket money, right?
33:12
So if you got these tiny little like vertical red envelopes and
33:16
the tradition is that for New Year's or like it was someone's
33:19
birthday, you know, in Chinese culture, you will put a little
33:25
bit of money in it. Or you could put more money.
33:28
But like, you know, if it's someone you don't know that much
33:29
or whatever, you know, it's if it's just more like a sign of
33:33
like a gift, put like 5 or 10 bucks in there.
33:37
If you want to be a little more generous, maybe 20 bucks.
33:39
But you know, sometimes you could get it from like someone
33:42
who's a little bit closer, not from like a random friend or
33:45
acquaintance. Maybe it's like someone in your
33:46
family's. And it's like $100, right?
33:48
So basically you put this, you know, you put the bill into this
33:53
red pocket and you give it as a gift.
33:55
And it's like a Chinese New Year thing.
33:56
And it's also like a birthday thing.
33:57
It's like a very common tradition in Chinese culture.
34:01
So that's the only kind of gifts that we got when we were kids
34:04
and mom did not like like family friends or like other extended
34:10
family, for example, to give us things.
34:13
But I think mom didn't want us to ever get used to getting
34:18
gifts because I think mom wanted control over like how spoiled or
34:23
not spoiled we're going to be. I guess Mom didn't want us to be
34:26
spoiled. Mom didn't ever want us to
34:30
expect or get used to gifts from people.
34:33
So the red pocket money thing, because that is like so
34:37
prevalent in Chinese culture. Like that was it.
34:40
But yeah, mom would not let other people give us bias
34:45
things. Even if they really wanted to.
34:47
Mom would mom would like mom was tiger mom.
34:48
So mom's like no, like you can't buy them things.
34:50
You can't buy my kids things. You're not allowed.
34:53
Mom would not let us accept gifts.
34:55
But we also never got this Sounds like a poor me.
34:58
Sorry, but it's really not. I'm just telling you to tee.
35:00
But we were also not the type of family internally that did
35:04
gifts. Like we didn't celebrate.
35:06
OK this sounds sad but like I really don't care.
35:09
Like we don't celebrate well but I I never had my birthday
35:13
celebrated. So my birthday wasn't like a
35:15
thing. I don't think it was for my
35:17
brother's death. We didn't do birthdays.
35:19
We didn't do anniversaries. We don't do like Christmas is
35:23
not a holiday for my for my parents, like they're not Shin
35:27
or Catholic, whatever. And we grew up in Hong Kong
35:30
where it's like it's not, it's not really a holiday for people
35:34
that you know, like that are not religious in that way to go.
35:37
Christmas isn't a holiday. There was no Thanksgiving in
35:40
Hong Kong. It doesn't exist.
35:41
That's like a that's like AUS Canadian thing and that's it.
35:44
I don't think Thanksgiving is any is anywhere else outside of
35:48
the US and Canada. So we didn't have any holidays.
35:51
So we don't have gifts. It's just like the Chinese New
35:53
Year or sometimes it was a birthday when we're really young
35:56
where we still have like the extended family sometimes.
35:59
So I've never got used to getting gifts.
36:02
And I'm also very, I grew up to be very independent as well.
36:07
I'm very much like I can provide myself and I don't like the
36:11
reliance on others, however that may develop.
36:15
You're not my therapist getting paid $300.00 an hour.
36:17
So we need to crack that open. Yeah.
36:19
But I, I sometimes still feel a little bit of a way about like,
36:23
oh, is somebody giving me gifts? Like, oh, it's OK, I don't need
36:25
it. It's also kind of very like,
36:28
Chinese and kind of of certain Asian cultures to be like, oh,
36:31
it's OK. I don't want to bother you.
36:34
I don't want to be inconsiderate.
36:36
I don't want to put someone out of their way.
36:38
I notice that that's a little bit more of a trait of like
36:41
certain Asian personalities more so than some like Western
36:45
personalities, for example. So I'm very much like that.
36:49
That's kind of more like my background and upbringing.
36:52
You know, obviously I, you know, I, I, I've spent so many years
36:56
in Western culture now and I'm a lot older.
36:59
I don't mind getting gifts, you know, so I've got these, I've
37:02
got like a few of these fans who are like, sometimes they'll give
37:04
me like a relatively big tip and I'm, and I'm very appreciative
37:07
of that. You know, I'm not asking for a
37:09
handout. You know, I don't, I don't ever
37:13
want to like expect a gift. It's like something you
37:16
shouldn't for me anyways. Like I, I know there, there are
37:19
a lot of kids that expect a Christmas present under the tree
37:23
from Santa and they expect things for their birthday.
37:26
Like I just happened to not be one of those people.
37:29
I think if you want to give someone a gift out of the
37:32
kindness and goodness of your heart, you can do that whatever
37:35
you want. If it happens to be a holiday
37:37
and it's a convenient time to do it, sure.
37:40
Yeah. So it it's just sometimes feels
37:42
like a little weird, but like I just not a person that expects
37:45
gifts. I would never expect someone to
37:47
buy me a gift. Well, if I had a boyfriend.
37:49
OK, Actually, you know what? That's interesting.
37:51
Would you expect what I expect? I think this is the me question.
37:54
This is all about me, by the way.
37:55
It's my podcast. Hello.
37:57
Are this the first time listening?
37:58
It's my podcast. Would I expect a partner like a
38:02
long term partner, like a long term boyfriend or husband to get
38:07
me gifts? I don't think I would, but I
38:16
think it's a two way St. If my if my partner just because
38:21
of like their background, upbringing or their preference,
38:25
whatever. If my partner is the type of
38:28
person that like they do gifts at Christmas, they do gifts at
38:30
Thanksgiving, they do gifts for like birthdays.
38:32
And if they are used to that, which is kind of the more
38:35
typical, like Western cultural expectation to like, oh, gifts
38:41
for Christmas, gifts for birthdays, gifts for blah, blah,
38:44
then I would also do that with them.
38:50
And I'd be OK with like between the two of us each other, like,
38:53
oh, is it's our anniversary, Let's do gifts for each other
38:57
for anniversary. Let's like have a nice meal or
38:59
like do something. Oh, let's get gifts for each
39:02
other's birthdays. Let's get gifts for each other
39:05
for like whatever holiday. I'm OK.
39:07
I'm fine with that. It was purely up to me.
39:10
I'd be like, let's just hang out.
39:11
Like that's a better gift. I don't need, I don't need
39:15
physical things from you for you to show me your affection.
39:20
Very like Jennifer Lopez loved and caught the thing.
39:23
But I've just just only because I'm not, I'm not used to getting
39:29
gifts or giving gifts. Like between me and my close
39:31
friends, we also don't do gifts. Like I've got like 2 of the
39:37
three different groups of like closer friends.
39:40
In none of those groups do we ever like always.
39:44
Yeah. In none of those groups do I
39:46
ever do we ever like do gifts or like do we celebrate birthdays,
39:50
one of the reasons we're friends?
39:51
Probably. So yeah, I don't really do that,
39:55
but if someone like to give me, oh, you know, I just did AI just
40:00
did a post on my Patreon. By the way, you can go to my
40:02
Patreon and be a free member. It doesn't cost you money.
40:05
You don't obviously get most of the content, but you can still
40:08
see some stuff. I just did a post for everyone
40:10
that like you don't have to have paid money for my Patreon, but
40:13
if you're on Patreon, you'll see it.
40:14
Just asking some advice about Kindle.
40:17
It's like an ebook because I was reading recently that.
40:23
They may be really good to fall asleep too and like just getting
40:26
back from the cruise, for example, where I've been
40:28
partying all night and like it was a bit of a different time
40:30
zone and a holiday and everything.
40:32
It told me like a full week before I got remotely somewhat
40:36
back to my regular sleep schedule without any like
40:39
melatonin or like chamomile or like those whatever herbal sleep
40:43
aid things. So I was like, oh, I wish there
40:45
was a better way for me to fall asleep.
40:47
And I just happened to have read about, oh, you know, like maybe
40:50
like an ebook will be good for that.
40:52
And I'm thinking like, maybe this should get me in the
40:55
Kindle. Don't buy me, don't buy me
40:57
things. Don't buy me things.
40:59
I won't. If you want to buy me something,
41:01
I'm OK with it, but I don't expect gifts.
41:06
I'm making this such a big deal because I already feel guilty
41:08
for talking about it. So that there you go that that's
41:12
a little bit into, you know, a little bit more about my Apple
41:15
Watch. You know, a little bit more
41:18
about my upbringing and my, and my my cultural upbringing and my
41:23
family and my background. You know, more about getting me
41:29
or not getting me gifts. Oh, you know, you also know a
41:32
little bit more about what I would look for in a boyfriend.
41:34
You know, I actually did an episode about what I'm looking,
41:37
what I was, what I would just for fun, what I would look for
41:40
in a boyfriend You don't like. Literally a few days after I
41:43
recorded episode, I literally thought I did it completely
41:47
wrong. I did that episode completely
41:49
wrong. I actually do need to redo that
41:52
episode because if I actually sat down, I actually did this
41:56
recently, by the way. Anyways, I actually did the I
42:00
actually right after the cruise and I was sort of emotional
42:04
mess. I actually opened up the notes
42:06
app on my phone. I was listing out actually all
42:10
the attributes I would want to see in a boyfriend that's
42:16
actually worth talking about. That is something maybe you
42:19
should sign up and subscribe like, like and subscribe for in
42:23
the future. Anyways, I was going to talk for
42:27
20 minutes, now I've talked for 40.
42:29
So there you go. It's a very random episode, even
42:33
even for me, today has been very, very random.
42:37
But thank you for killing 40 minutes of your life that you
42:42
will never get back. Thank you for helping me kill 40
42:46
minutes of my life I would never get back, even though I probably
42:49
maybe have actually, you know what?
42:50
If I didn't spend the 40 minutes here, I'd probably be spending
42:53
40 minutes probably not being productive anyways.
42:55
So this is the more productive than probably what I would have
42:58
done over the last 40 minutes. And with that, we're going to
43:01
sign off. Until next time, Bye y'all.