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Top 10 Newest Dating Trends, Amy puts T.J. To The Test! · I Do, Part 2

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  Speaker 1: Welcome everyone to this edition of Amy and TJ. And
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  Speaker 1: you know, this is language that I'm not necessarily familiar with,
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  Speaker 1: but I feel like we learn something new every day
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  Speaker 1: from our daughters and maybe even wait, what is the
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  Speaker 1: generation that Sabine is?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: My god, is it jen A? Now it hasn't like
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  Speaker 1: gone back to the beginning of the alphabet.
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  Speaker 2: Damn all these young folks.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, us gen xers are not familiar with so many
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  Speaker 1: of the new terminologies out there for the dating world
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  Speaker 1: that so many people find themselves in. But this has
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  Speaker 1: been fun. Like I guess this all comes from TikTok
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  Speaker 1: and Instagram, all sorts of new dating trends and dating
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  Speaker 1: red flags that folks should be looking out for. So
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  Speaker 1: if you're in the market or on the market so
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  Speaker 1: to speak, for a relationship, we have a list of
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  Speaker 1: new dating trends that you need to be aware of.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm actually gonna see you haven't seen any of
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  Speaker 1: these so far, so I'm curious I have. Let me see. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I have ten trends dating trends slash red flags. These
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  Speaker 1: are terms that are now being used in the dating world.
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  Speaker 1: I want to see how much of them you're up
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  Speaker 1: on and I'd love to hear your best guess on
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  Speaker 1: what you think they are, and then we can discuss
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  Speaker 1: what they are and why they've become such a trend.
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  Speaker 2: And is Jen alpha? By the way?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so I had the a thing, but it was Alpha? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: Jen Alpha, Jen Alpha? Are they not dating yet? Are
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  Speaker 1: they they're too young to date?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: Well give it like two years, babe, and she's going
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  Speaker 1: to start dating. She's going to start knowing all of
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  Speaker 1: these terms.
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  Speaker 2: It's ridiculous.
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  Speaker 1: She's twelve, yeah, going on thirty twelve. Okay, all right,
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  Speaker 1: So the first new dating trend and I do think
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  Speaker 1: you might know this one because you and I talked
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  Speaker 1: about this. But the first one I want to discuss
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  Speaker 1: is shreking. What do you think shreking is?
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  Speaker 2: I remember the Shreking. Yes, it had to do with
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  Speaker 2: the character Shrek. It had to do When I first
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  Speaker 2: heard it, it sounded fun like shreking because it was.
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  Speaker 1: A cartoon character Princess Fiona.
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  Speaker 2: And but this is very negative. It has to do
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  Speaker 2: with dating somebody you think is less attractive in hopes
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  Speaker 2: that they'll treat you better.
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  Speaker 1: Correct. Okay, you just nailed it. Ding Ding Ding, ing ding.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the funny thing. So shreking is and look,
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  Speaker 1: I think we've all heard this. In fact, I heard
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  Speaker 1: my daughter's talking about this, saying so and so is
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  Speaker 1: dating beneath her because she likes the attention she gets.
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  Speaker 1: So they have friends who are deliberately dating guys who
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  Speaker 1: they don't think are as attractive as they are because
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  Speaker 1: they want to be treated better. Okay, so they get
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  Speaker 1: the princess treatment.
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  Speaker 2: Dear lady. Is this not an old thing that we're
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  Speaker 2: just attaching a name? Yes, okay, we're just calling it.
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  Speaker 1: You know what it is. I think here's the difference
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  Speaker 1: between this generation and maybe ours. These kids admit to
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  Speaker 1: it like they're like, yeah, I'm shreking, Like I don't
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  Speaker 1: think anyone would admit to it. No, I love him.
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  Speaker 1: He's got a great personality and yeah, I mean he
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  Speaker 1: takes care of me. This is actually acknowledging what's going
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  Speaker 1: on that and I and I don't know that it.
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  Speaker 1: I was just assuming it was women doing it with men.
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  Speaker 1: I can't imagine men would do it, you know what.
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  Speaker 1: This is something that singularly I think women do. Can
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  Speaker 1: you imagine a man would this be true? Dating Okay,
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  Speaker 1: dating a woman who he thinks is less attractive than
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  Speaker 1: him because he likes how she takes care of him.
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  Speaker 1: Oh okay, that is a thing, isn't it. No, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know you were laughing, so I just didn't know.
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  Speaker 2: Imagio, that's why you were laughing amongst some of my friends. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: but no, I'm trying to think of a single case instance.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's the opposite with men, but maybe
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  Speaker 1: I'm wrong. Oh that's funny. So yeah, you're getting shrecked. Okay, wait,
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  Speaker 1: so actually it's funny you should say that, because that's
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  Speaker 1: not exactly what getting shrecked is. So shreking is dating
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  Speaker 1: someone you're not physically attracted to in the hopes they'll
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  Speaker 1: treat you better. But getting shrecked means you dated an
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  Speaker 1: ogre and did not get treated like a princess. So
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  Speaker 1: you just got shrecked, that's what. That's what.
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  Speaker 2: So you got the tides got turned on. You essentially
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  Speaker 2: tried to do it and it failed.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got shrecked. So even the guy who I
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  Speaker 1: thought was beneath me still treated me like crap. I
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  Speaker 1: got shrecked.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Damn, they're related, but different okay, correct treking Okay, yep,
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  Speaker 2: shreking right again. I make sure we're on the same page.
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  Speaker 2: This is an awful thing to do to somebody.
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  Speaker 1: It's terrible. It's manipulative, and you're doing it so that
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  Speaker 1: your ego gets filled. That's not love. That's manipulation. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think so, so yes, And that is not love, folks,
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  Speaker 1: That is manipulation. That is me trying to make sure
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  Speaker 1: that I feel safe at all costs, even at the
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  Speaker 1: cost of my partner.
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  Speaker 2: The part this sucks is then somebody thinking that's funny,
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  Speaker 2: like you're bragging about it allmost that part is that's
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  Speaker 2: that's tough.
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  Speaker 1: All right. So so the second dating trend is called
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  Speaker 1: bank seeing.
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  Speaker 2: I saw that kind of doing. Okay, what bank see is.
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  Speaker 1: The artist, correct, the street artist who's known for mysterious art.
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  Speaker 1: It pops up and then it goes away.
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  Speaker 2: The dating a dating trend. Okay, So can we go
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  Speaker 2: with that? Is it possible? This is my guess. Is
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  Speaker 2: it a trend of doing just that, of being there
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  Speaker 2: one minute and then.
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  Speaker 1: Poof, yes, disappearance, Yes, you nailed it. In the context
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  Speaker 1: of dating, bank seeing refers to a calculated and planned
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  Speaker 1: breakup the person who dumps distances themselves in their partner
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  Speaker 1: for some time, and that abruptly announces a breakup. So
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  Speaker 1: you got bank seed.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that is very much a a narcissistic that's an
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  Speaker 2: ego driving thing to where you don't want to be
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  Speaker 2: held responsible for not wanting to be in the relationship,
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  Speaker 2: so you distance yourself. You're essentially creating an excuse.
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  Speaker 1: Correct, So you're distancing yourself. You're probably driving the other
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  Speaker 1: person crazy trying to figure out what's going on. So
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  Speaker 1: you're creating a mystery the other person. Yeah, the other
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  Speaker 1: person has no idea what's going on, but they definitely
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  Speaker 1: feel the distance and they're starting to freak out and
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  Speaker 1: panic and spiral. This is so mean and then just
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  Speaker 1: abruptly and ounce of breakup like it was something that
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  Speaker 1: everyone was expecting, when actually no one was expecting it.
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  Speaker 1: This coming right, So yeah, bank sing that's the thing,
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  Speaker 1: and uh yeah right, I mean it's an appropriate name
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  Speaker 1: for uh what happens? Okay, Uh, the next the next
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  Speaker 1: dating trend is actually a red flag. Gen z Ors
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  Speaker 1: call this a red flag in relationships. It's called yap trapping.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think that is?
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  Speaker 2: This isn't a dating train as a flag.
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  Speaker 1: It's a trend that people have seen while they're dating,
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  Speaker 1: and they're saying it's a red flag.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, trapping, gapping, yapping has to do with talking and
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  Speaker 2: running your mouth too much. You trap, we'll kind of
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  Speaker 2: trap you trapped, but you.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, I don't know what is Yeah, I mean you
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  Speaker 1: kind of nailed it. Yeap trapping when someone dominates a conversation,
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  Speaker 1: not letting the other person share their thoughts or feelings.
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  Speaker 1: Gen Z's call this a red flag and relationship. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm dating a yap trapper.
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  Speaker 2: Someone who doesn't even allow you. It's not just a
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  Speaker 2: person that talks too much, it's like you really don't
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  Speaker 2: get a say.
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  Speaker 1: That's also to me a narcissistic quality where you actually
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  Speaker 1: don't care at all what the other person thinks or believes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, you shouldn't have give me this one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah trapping, thanks so much, your yap trapping, bab gap
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  Speaker 1: trapping me. Let's see how that works for you. All right?
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  Speaker 1: This next, this is so interesting. I want to know
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  Speaker 1: what you think this trend is. The next trend is
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  Speaker 1: called a nanoship. What is a nanoship?
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  Speaker 2: It's a relationship that requires the absolute minimum amount of
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  Speaker 2: effort from the other person. Is that right?
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  Speaker 1: You got you got it? You got it pretty well. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So a nanoship means two people in a casual and
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  Speaker 1: non committed connection where they enjoy each other's company with
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  Speaker 1: zero expectations. Is a nanoship possible?
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  Speaker 2: Sweetheart? This is just two people having sex.
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  Speaker 1: But you can't even expect the sex. See, there's no expectations.
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  Speaker 1: You're just you're just coming together in a casual and
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  Speaker 1: non committed connection. That could just be going to a movie.
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  Speaker 1: That it's a nanoship. That sounds like a hell landscape.
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  Speaker 1: We don't know what's going on. Well, it is a
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  Speaker 1: dating trend, so yes, it could be sex, but it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't specifically say it's just about sex. Yes, it is
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  Speaker 1: the trend described two people being in a casual, non
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  Speaker 1: committed connection where they enjoy each other's company with zero expectations. Fine,
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  Speaker 1: a nano chefs different. Now, there's no how is that
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  Speaker 1: actually possible? Do you think it's possible to actually be
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  Speaker 1: in a long term nanoship?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, friends with benefits is what they used to call it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I guess the friendship is even not expected.
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  Speaker 1: Like again, this sounds like zero expectations is zero? It's
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  Speaker 1: even lower than that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, they're just putting names and labels on these
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  Speaker 2: things now, all right, all right?
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  Speaker 1: So here here is the fifth dating trend to see
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  Speaker 1: if you know what this means. It's called cushioning.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's gonna mean so much dating somebody?
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  Speaker 2: Is this a rebound situation? Have anything to do with rebound?
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  Speaker 1: It's closely related, but not exactly.
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  Speaker 2: About this guest, A little bit do with maybe dating
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  Speaker 2: someone who is going to be a not going to
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  Speaker 2: be a long term thing, but maybe a soft landing,
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  Speaker 2: if you will, after you went through something difficult with
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  Speaker 2: somebody else.
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  Speaker 1: I could see why you would think that. And it's
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  Speaker 1: closely related. Okay. So cushioning is a trend that means
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  Speaker 1: keeping someone as a backup option, safety net in case
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  Speaker 1: your primary relationship doesn't work out. So it's like a
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  Speaker 1: side piece. Basically, you're cushioning a relationship. You've got a cushion.
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  Speaker 1: You've got another person who's your backup plan if your
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  Speaker 1: primary relationship doesn't work out.
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  Speaker 2: Damn that's so, who are all cushioning? Which one?
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  Speaker 1: Well?
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  Speaker 2: You're with, or the one you're got on stand by.
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  Speaker 1: No, the one on standby is being cushioned. You're cushioning
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  Speaker 1: that person. So it's like you're you're that person's cushion.
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  Speaker 1: So just in case things get ugly in the primary relationship,
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  Speaker 1: you've got your backup plan. It's got your cushion. So
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  Speaker 1: there are women or there are men who might be thinking,
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  Speaker 1: am I being cushioned?
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  Speaker 2: Do you have a cushion?
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  Speaker 1: Hell no, I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Am I your cousion.
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  Speaker 1: You're my primary and my only, my one and only.
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  Speaker 2: Then you wouldn't have said primary. People only say primary.
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  Speaker 1: Stop stop trying to make something where they're.
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  Speaker 2: Not making anything. I'm listening to what you say. I
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  Speaker 2: don't have a primary woman, You know that right, You're
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  Speaker 2: not my primary, You're my one. Introduce he this is row?
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  Speaker 2: Is this my primary?
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  Speaker 1: Is there is there ever a situation when that in
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  Speaker 1: which that is acceptable? Only if both parties know yes, acceptable.
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  Speaker 2: Knock yourself out, that's what you want to do. If
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  Speaker 2: everybody's on the same page. No, that's never oka.
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  Speaker 1: I was actually just watching couple's therapy and it's not
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  Speaker 1: a throuple because the man has his primary relationship and
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  Speaker 1: then he definitely and she's a secondary and she knows it.
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  Speaker 1: Both women know it. They aren't together, so there's no
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  Speaker 1: throuble in that sense. But I was fascinated by having
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  Speaker 1: someone be fully okay with being basically an acknowledged and
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  Speaker 1: accepted secondary relationship.
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  Speaker 2: And the two women acknowledge as well, which one of
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  Speaker 2: them is the process?
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  Speaker 1: Which one, yes, I did. I just saw that in
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  Speaker 1: a recent couple's therapy and I was blown away by that. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so we have five more dating trends to get through.
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  Speaker 1: I want to know if you all just start thinking
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  Speaker 1: before the break, if you think you know what a
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  Speaker 1: micromance is, do you know what loud crushing is? What
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to this edition of Amy and TJ. We're
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  Speaker 1: having some fun here trying to understand and actually we're
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  Speaker 1: testing TJ's knowledge if he knows what all the latest
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  Speaker 1: dating trends are for a lot of this comes from
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  Speaker 1: gen Zers and maybe soon to be Jen Alpha's.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm learned that I might be being cushioned right now.
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  Speaker 1: You are not stop. Yes, you are my guy, period.
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  Speaker 1: There's no one else.
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  Speaker 2: Stop.
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  Speaker 1: All right, So we're going to go on to number six.
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  Speaker 1: He squeeze. We're going to move on to number six
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  Speaker 1: in the dating trends. This one is called future proofing.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think future proofing means?
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  Speaker 2: Is a dating trend?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: Do you do it to somebody? Do you future trend?
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  Speaker 2: Do it to somebody? But you're doing it by your
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  Speaker 2: own action, I'm.
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  Speaker 1: F sure correct to your relationship. Yeah, I am.
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  Speaker 2: Future trending my relationship by is it? Am I making
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  Speaker 2: decisions foreign advance or maybe to advance of this relationship
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  Speaker 2: and maybe getting ahead of myself and some of the
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  Speaker 2: decisions I'm making a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that's part of it. So the actual definition
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  Speaker 1: for future proofing when someone tries to future proof their
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  Speaker 1: relationship by looking for partners who are emotionally stable, financially secure,
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  Speaker 1: and have aligned goals. This trend prioritize stability and commitment,
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  Speaker 1: so you're not necessarily looking for the butterflies or for
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  Speaker 1: that person who is gonna, you know, make your heart sing.
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  Speaker 1: You're actually being very strategic in who you're looking for.
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  Speaker 1: You're looking for someone who is going to be stable,
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  Speaker 1: who's going to be committed, who's financially in a good place,
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  Speaker 1: and so you will feel safe. So it's it's future proofing.
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  Speaker 1: So you are looking for that person who you think
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  Speaker 1: you will have a stable, successful relationship with.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that called mature dating?
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  Speaker 1: It could be called mature dating as well, but I
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  Speaker 1: still think there are people. Let's just be honest. You're
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  Speaker 1: looking for butterflies, You're looking for that head over heels
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  Speaker 1: that I can't stand to be without them feeling, and
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  Speaker 1: that those two things don't necessarily go together. So you're
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  Speaker 1: actually actively saying, I am future proofing when you're dating.
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  Speaker 1: I want to make sure I know this person is
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  Speaker 1: going to be there for me, and I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: pick the kind of person who will be.
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  Speaker 2: But it sounds like you're having to compromise or settle
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  Speaker 2: on the other thing. Can't the two things go hand
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  Speaker 2: and in they.
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  Speaker 1: Can, but it's not the priority. The priority is the
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  Speaker 1: future proofing.
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  Speaker 2: Shouldn't the priority be the future proofing.
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  Speaker 1: Some would argue that it should be.
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  Speaker 2: I'm arguing that maybe as yet, that might.
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  Speaker 1: Be a more logical way, but it isn't necessarily the
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  Speaker 1: romantic way or the emotional way to go forward.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, that doesn't work.
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  Speaker 1: That just sounds like a business partnership.
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  Speaker 2: It is, and then businesses fail daily exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's I think that's something that sounds
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  Speaker 1: good on paper future but it actually is not good
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  Speaker 1: in practice.
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  Speaker 2: But if you can stay focused on that, if that
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  Speaker 2: is your priority in finding a mate that could be
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  Speaker 2: your priority in every year of your marriage and saying
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  Speaker 2: this is a solid partnership because we have a good
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  Speaker 2: thing going a good business if you will in terms
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  Speaker 2: of me and him, incorporate it, if you will. So
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  Speaker 2: if you stay focused in the love and you don't
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  Speaker 2: have to have butterfly, maybe that can work.
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  Speaker 1: I if it works, whoever figures it out, like, I
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  Speaker 1: appreciate that that works for you. So yes, this is
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  Speaker 1: a trend now called future proofing, where like it just
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  Speaker 1: there is an intention behind the dating. All right, I
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  Speaker 1: wonder if you're gonna get this one because it sounds
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  Speaker 1: like one thing and it's actually another. That's a hint.
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  Speaker 1: But this dating trend of having a micromance.
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  Speaker 2: Micromance, okay, techo. Logically, it's a relationship something micro. It
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  Speaker 2: seems focused, it seems small. Is there as a relationship
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  Speaker 2: that's too puts too much emphasis of focus on one
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  Speaker 2: particular thing.
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  Speaker 1: You've got the focus right, You've got the small right.
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  Speaker 1: But it's a little bit different. The term micromance means
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: focusing on small and meaningful gestures that are romantic, for example,
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  Speaker 1: sharing memes or taking walks like you are focused on
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  Speaker 1: the small things that make your romance what it is,
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: which I actually think is cool. I was thinking it
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: was a short lived romance, like I'll just have a
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: short powerful romance. That's not what it is at all.
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  Speaker 1: It's actually about being intentional about those small, meaningful things
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  Speaker 1: you can do in the middle of your romance. So
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: you're focused on you want a micromance where you want
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: people to really or your partner and you to actually
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: focus on all the little meaningful things.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: That make right positive.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think this is actually one of the best
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: dating trends, the fact that there's even this acknowledgment that
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: it is those small little things that make people feel
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: special and actually foster a romance. So I love that one,
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: all right? Or eight, here's the next dating trend. It's
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: called on the same page.
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: Yep, Okay, I got nothing there.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Okay. Two people who bond over shared passions or hobbies.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: This trend is all about the importance of shared interests
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: in building compatibility. So your focus when you're dating is
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: to find somebody who is on the same page as you.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Ooh do we have that?
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Well on a lot of things, and look, I think
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: it can be good and it can be bad. You
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: don't want someone who's on the same page as you.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: You somehow you think you're gonna avoid conflict or avoid
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: different opinions. You're never gonna find somebody who's on the
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: same page with you. But I think on some big
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: things on hobbies that can be really bonding, like running,
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: we're on the same page with running, horror movies, on
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: the same page with horror movies, and those two things
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: take up a lot of our time, if we're being honest,
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  Speaker 1: and to be able to have that shared interest creates
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: a bonding and a connection. So people want to look
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: for somebody who's on the same page as them.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: That makes sense. I was thinking of it as a
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: matter of what happens when you can no longer be
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: distracted by the hiking trip or the biking trip or
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: the mountain climbing. Whence somebody gets injured. Is the relationship
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: we go away?
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Do you depend too much? Can you? Can there be
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: a threat in depending too much on those things to
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: drive you and then one day you realize, oh, this
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: was the.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Only thing that we had in comment Yeah, I mean,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, it's I think I do like the
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: idea of finding someone who you're compatible with, and that
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: is easy to determine if you have shared interests. So
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: I think that could be definitely a positive thing. But yes,
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: there could be some cautionary tale to that as well.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: All Right, do you know what loud crushing is.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna guess is a social media involved in the Yes? Okay?
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: Is that involved with going overboard if you will, or
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: out of your way to declare to the world how
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: you feel about this person you're either in or a
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: relationship with, or pursuing a relationship with.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: Ding Ding, You nailed it. Yes, open openly celebrating your
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: crush or partner on social media, sharing the excitement of
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: new relationships. Loud crushing, you do. I'm like, please stop
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: posting about me. I mean, I just it's embarrassing. Now
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: I'm not that great.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: I'm just so excited.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: Do you know what? Do you know what I think of?
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: What I know? This has nothing to do with social media.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: This is wee before social media. But I always think
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: of Tom Cruise jumping on the couch with Oprah Winfrey
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: loud crushing Katie Holmes.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: That was loud crushing.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's like he that was ridiculous, and it
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: seemed it didn't seem real. He was jumping up and
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: down on a couch a grown man.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: Your that's too much down the couch. No, nope, not
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: excited because he's excited about being in a relationship with you.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Nope.
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: All right, well I'll keep my excitement myself again.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Please stop with the social media post, babe. Okay, it's
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: just too much. It's embarrassing, all right. The final one
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: drum roll number tend dating trend. Here it's called freak matching.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: What do you think it is?
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: Okay? Is this dating someone who matches your particular maybe
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: odd or out of the mainstream interests, whether that is
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: maybe you like free con.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, exactly one hundred percent. According to this trend,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: a person finds someone who shares their unique interests. It's
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: about finding like minded partners. So yes, the more odd,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: the more curious. Yes, does my freak match your freak?
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Like that kind of a thing.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: That is interesting? Our freaks match?
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I I do. I mean I think that's where people
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: would say the horror movie because people don't understand people
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: who don't like horror movies do not understand anyone who
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: does like that's so just no like odd interests like
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: you and I both love dungeons and dragons, or we
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: both are obsessed with some like video game that's like whatever,
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: it's some weird not even weird, but yes it could
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: be unique, odd, different, but the two of you get it,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: and you get it in each other.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: Around the world for Pokemon tournaments.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: There you go. That would be freak matching, so you know,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: to each his own. I think it's fun when they
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: put these phrases and these coin these hashtags around some
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: of these dating trends. But the truth is, as you
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: kind of pointed out at the beginning, they're all they've
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: been around forever. There's nothing new that's happening. We just
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: have new ways of explaining some of these dating trends.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: And I think in that sense it's good because we're
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: talking about them, acknowledging them and the flaws behind some
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: of them, and maybe even the good that comes from
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: a lot of them.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: And it's just always good to be on the lookout.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: That's okay. I mean, some of these have funny names
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: and all these things, but they are worth your time.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: And again, this was kind of fun. We're having a
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: good time with but and I expected to sit down
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: and just have a good time, but we go through
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: the Wow, this is really important stuff, right, Just about
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: every single one of them has impacted my relationship life
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: in some way, and maybe all of them even with you.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. So it's it's fun to stay up with
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: the young folks, but also to recognize some of the
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: habits that we all fall into and maybe the ones
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: that we should let go of. And with that, everyone,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: thank you so much for listening to us. I'm Amy
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: Robach along with TJ. Holmes. Have a great day.