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#6| How to Romanticize Your Life When You're Too Busy to Enjoy It · The Wild Woman Within: Recover from Burnout & Achieve True Work-Life Balance Through Feminine Energy

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  SPEAKER_00: Have the audacity to romanticize your life, even if you're the only one who cares.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Wild Woman Within.
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  SPEAKER_00: For fiercely independent corporate women who are damn good at managing everything and burned out from trying to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through spiritual practices and ancient wisdom, you'll reconnect with your feminine energy, recover from burnout, and achieve true work-life balance so you can feel supported, fulfilled, and wildly free without sacrificing your ambition.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Rachel Fitzpatrick, your spiritual gangster.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Tuesday, we talked about buying your own damn flowers and about refusing to wait for the right relationship, the next promotion or the perfect circumstances before you allow yourself to enjoy your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, I want to take that conversation a little bit deeper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because, you know, what if I told you the life you're waiting to fall in love with is already happening and you're just too damn busy to notice it?
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a quote commonly attributed to the Roman philosopher Marcus Aurelius that says, very little is needed to make a happy life.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to explore that with you today, not because I believe we can think our way out of all the difficult circumstances that we're in, because we cannot.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I think we can, or we've become so incredibly good at noticing everything that needs our attention that we've forgotten how to notice anything that brings us joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what we're going to practice today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about how you move through an ordinary day.
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  SPEAKER_00: You wake up and before your feet hit the ground, you're already thinking about what needs to happen, you know, the dead lines, the kids' schedules, the laundry, the groceries.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you going to even do for dinner?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're anything like me, you can walk into a room and immediately identify 12 things that need to be done.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's almost impressive.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's what I want to know.
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  SPEAKER_00: When was the last time you walked into a room and noticed something beautiful?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not something that needs cleaned and organized, but just something beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've trained ourselves to scan for problems.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're actually rewarded for it person professionally.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're dependent on it personally.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we notice what's missing, what's broken and unfinished, and all the things that could go wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: And listen, that ability has probably served you incredibly well.
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  SPEAKER_00: It served me well too.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what happens when that becomes the only way you experience your life?
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  SPEAKER_00: When every room becomes a list of responsibilities, when your vacation becomes something you have to manage.
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  SPEAKER_00: At some point, you can become so busy maintaining life that you forgot that you're actually supposed to be living it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know about you, but that's not the life I want at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Marcus Arulius wrote extensively about the relationship between our judgments and our experience of the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one of the ideas that I appreciate about Stoicism is that while we don't always get to choose our circumstances, we can examine the way we're interpreting and responding to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to be really careful here because this is a fine line between toxic positivity and stoicism, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not telling you to slap a smile on your face when you're miserable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or be grateful that the relationship that you're in is hurting you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be worse.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a bunch of bullshit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if that's the way you believe, you need to figure something else out.
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  SPEAKER_00: But some things need to change, obviously.
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  SPEAKER_00: And some situations require boundaries and difficult conversations and entirely new directions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you deserve to take those things seriously.
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  SPEAKER_00: But consider this: your life can be hard and your life can be beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Both things can be true.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be frustrated with your career and still notice the sunlight coming in through your office window.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you can be grieving a relationship that didn't work and still experience something that makes you laugh so hard that your stomach hurts, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The difficulty doesn't have to erase the beauty either.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where we get romanticizing our lives all wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: We think it means creating this picture-perfect existence, those beautiful houses, incredible vacations, this Instagram-worthy lifestyles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love all those things too.
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  SPEAKER_00: But romanticizing is more about becoming present enough to recognize the beauty that's already there, even when everything else isn't perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today, I want to guide you through the practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's ridiculously simple, but simple doesn't always mean easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Call it the art of noticing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to start with something ordinary, making your morning coffee or tea, whatever it is that you drink.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now imagine yourself tomorrow morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: You walk into the kitchen, you make your drink, and instead of immediately grabbing your phone or opening up your laptop, you're going to give yourself one minute.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one, and actually experience the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: The warmth of the mug in your hands.
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  SPEAKER_00: You notice the smell.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you hear birds outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the house is quiet, or you realize how much you love that little pocket of silence before the day begins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe none of that's happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your kid is asking you 17 questions and the dogs need to go outside, and you're already running late.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's okay too, because we're not manufacturing this perfect morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're pretending that the chaos doesn't exist and it doesn't happen, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We're actually going to live in the moment that we're having.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're experiencing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I talk about buying myself flowers on Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: I described how much I love the sensation of a rose petal against my cheek.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know that could sound absolutely ridiculous to somebody, but I genuinely love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The softness and the delicacy, the scent.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for those few seconds when I'm doing that and brushing my cheek with this rose petal, I'm not thinking about anything else.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think what I'm doing in that moment is simply giving myself permission to enjoy it, to enjoy a rose petal.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think with that, that's what I want you to understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: Falling in love with your life isn't necessarily about changing what your life looks like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's just about changing how you experience the life you're already living.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for the next 24 hours, find three ordinary moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's your morning coffee, or maybe it's the way the sky looks when you're leaving work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give it your full attention and use all of your senses.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you see?
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  SPEAKER_00: What can you hear?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you feel?
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  SPEAKER_00: Smell.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you taste?
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice what's available and then ask yourself what is beautiful about this moment?
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  SPEAKER_00: And if your answer is nothing, that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to force it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Try again later, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's not about proving that every moment is beautiful, but it's about remembering that you're allowed to experience beauty as it appears.
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  SPEAKER_00: So have the audacity to fall in love with your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because every moment is beautiful, but because you're willing to notice the beauty in the moments that you have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you don't have to wait for anything to arrive.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just have to remember that your life is happening right now and you deserve to experience it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to love everything about your life to fall in love with being alive.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if this resonates, join me in the wild council.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get unleashed with me every week inside the email, where we challenge the rules, break free from expectations, and find the audacity to live in our own rhythm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Less performing, more living, wildly free.
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  SPEAKER_00: See you there.