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Choose Well (S5) S12:E6 Thursday · Inspirations for Your Life

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All right, everyone, welcome to Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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It is so great to have you here.
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The weekly topic is seeing clearly, and we're
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not just talking with our two eyes, right?
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When your vision sharpens, your decisions improve, and
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this week's focus is on learning to see
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and actually experience things clearly and deeper, and
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think that way, and act with courage and
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live with integrity and purpose.
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Strong lives are built when awareness replaces assumption
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and intentional choice replaces, yes, drift.
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So how to choose well is what we're
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basically about.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and
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a passionate lifelong learner, and pretty soon, guys,
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yes, a published author.
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Yeah.
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Welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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This is all about seeing clearly, developing clarity
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in thought, courage in action, and integrity in
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your choices.
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Today's episode focuses on practical strategies to make
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decisions better, to build discipline and create momentum
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in your personal and your professional life.
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So better choices build stronger lives.
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Did you know that?
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Yes, they do.
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Every intentional decision compounds.
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That's right, guys, the impact.
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Discipline improves outcomes.
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Focus fuels consistent results.
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Consistent habits build progress.
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Repeat effort multiplies over time.
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Values guide decisions.
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Aligning action with principles ensures true purpose.
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Strong standards strengthen character.
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Integrity is the foundation of our leadership.
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Discipline, ladies and gentlemen, yes, it builds freedom.
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Structure gives autonomy.
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So discipline builds freedom.
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Structure gives it autonomy.
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Better choices reduce regret, guys.
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Proactive decisions protect future opportunities.
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Consistency, well, it builds trust.
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Reliability amplifies the influence.
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Good habits strengthen success.
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Routine choices create momentum.
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Smart decisions build momentum.
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Deliberate action moves the needle.
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We've talked about the needle before.
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I'm talking about the meter, right?
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Everybody measures things with a meter.
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Now we have digital meters, but we used
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to talk about a needle and how much
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the needle would be affected this way or
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that way.
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So discipline fuels progress.
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Steady effort outpaces the burst of motivation.
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Value creates direction.
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Clarity of purpose simplifies action.
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Consistency builds reliability.
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Dependability is earned through reputation.
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Better habits build better days.
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Small wins create life-changing results.
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That's right, guys.
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Discipline improves results.
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Structured approaches deliver measurable outcomes.
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Value strengthens leadership.
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Ethical choices inspire trust and, yes, followership.
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Strong decisions create stability.
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Confidence emerges from intentional action.
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Consistent effort fuels progress.
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Daily execution compounds our success.
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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Smart choices guide strength and momentum.
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Intentionality builds randomness.
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Discipline improves performance.
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Focus drives the capability.
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More importantly, your peak performance capability.
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Clear values guide action.
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Alignment ensures meaningful results.
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Good habits support growth.
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Repeated positive behaviors expand your potential.
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Consistency strengthens success.
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Discipline reinforces every win.
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Discipline fuels achievement.
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Structured execution turns vision into reality.
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Strong standards guide choices.
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Principal decisions protect integrity.
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Better decisions strengthen futures.
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Foresight prevents setbacks.
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Values shape identity.
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Who you are is defined by what you
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uphold.
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Consistent effort builds strength.
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Resilience comes from daily practice.
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Smart choices improve outcomes.
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Strategy maximizes effectiveness.
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Choose wisely.
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That's my message for you.
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Your deliberate action today sets tomorrow's trajectory.
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I think when we think about trajectory and
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we think about tomorrow and we think about
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pace and we think about being well, a
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lot of people focus on the fact of
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what they did in the past.
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And you might say, well, John, that's what
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I do.
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But your past does not have to equal
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your future.
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It doesn't.
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See, if you change your life, if you
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change your thoughts, your past will not equal
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your future.
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Your thoughts create your reality.
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Did you know that?
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Your thoughts create reality.
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And when we think about reality, right?
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It's not something in a far distant place.
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Reality is what you're seeing, you're hearing, you're
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touching, you're smelling outside of your body.
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That is reality, okay?
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Reality is not some thing somewhere.
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It's not some mystical TV show or place.
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It's what you experience outside of your human
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body.
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That is reality.
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Now, here's the truth, guys.
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Your mind, oftentimes, 99.9% times or
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more, cannot tell whether it's reality or whether
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you're imagining something.
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So when you imagine something, your reality that
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you are in, notices things like muscles contracting.
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So they've done studies with athletes and they've
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done meditations.
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And when they've done this, they've noticed the
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same muscles contracting when they imagined it, just
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as if they actually did it.
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So that means that our brains are pretty
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intelligent.
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And because they're very intelligent, they can interpret
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a program.
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And when they do that, that program that
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you give it or other people give it,
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it causes a state change.
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I think when we say the word choose,
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the biggest thing that comes to mind is
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how, why, when, where, those do come up
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when we choose.
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If I said to you, what type of
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ice cream do you enjoy?
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Is it vanilla?
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I know I'm gonna get you hungry now.
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Is it chocolate?
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Is it butter pecan?
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Is it pistachio?
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Is it chocolate chip mint?
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Is it Oreo mint?
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Is it peanut butter?
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Is it fudge?
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Is it Rocky Road?
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Chocolate chip mint?
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Thinking about those flavors, I bet your palate
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is already watering just by me saying that.
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So when we go to a place to
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get ice cream, we go there cause we
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want ice cream, right?
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That's why we're there.
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So we're gonna choose a flavor.
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Most people are gonna choose something they've already
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chosen before and they've been happy with.
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Some people will try something different.
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90% of the time I go to
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get ice cream, I will have a flavor
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that I've had before and I've had many
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flavors before.
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Sometimes there'll be a new flavor.
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I'm like, hmm, I wanna try that.
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And I say, could I have a sample?
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And they'll give me a little spoon with
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a pretty big helping of it.
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And hmm, not bad.
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Let me just take the chocolate chip mint
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then.
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Oh, you don't want this?
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No, I don't want that.
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So our choice gets made by a couple
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of things.
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The color, the texture, the taste, and even
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the smell.
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That's right guys, even the smell.
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So that's how we choose.
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We choose this way because we don't want
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to have ice cream that we're unhappy with
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and waste money.
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So we think about what flavor we would
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like to enjoy.
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We might think about the size first.
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Typically, is it gonna be a cone or
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cup?
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If I'm getting a twist, like a black
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and white, I typically will get it in
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a small cone.
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Now you might say, John, what's the difference?
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Small, medium, large?
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I find that I'd rather have some ice
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cream than a lot of ice cream.
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I just need a taste.
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I don't need to have anything bigger than
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a medium, right?
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Or let's say a small.
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So there's a kid size, there's a small,
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and once in a while I'll get the
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medium.
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And so I choose between the cone and
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the cup, but sometimes people have the cone,
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the waffle cone, and the cup.
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Now you have to choose from, well, do
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you want the cone, the waffle cone, or
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the cup?
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And so you still have to choose size
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a lot of times.
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Sometimes there's a small and a large in
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each.
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With the waffle cone, it's just grande.
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I mean, it's just one size.
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And with the waffle cone, it's like you're
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eating a meal.
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I mean, I don't know how many scoops.
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I get they probably put in like, I'm
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guessing three or four scoops of ice cream
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in there.
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That's a lot of calories.
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And when you think about the cup, different
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things go through your mind.
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Well, do I want the cone?
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Well, I don't wanna get all over myself
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and I'm afraid that if I get the
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cone, it's gonna go all over myself because
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I'm wearing my favorite shirt.
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So you 86 or forget about the cones,
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is the waffle cone and the regular cone.
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And you get it in a cup, kids,
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small, medium, large, whatever.
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And when you get that cup, the ice
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cream goes in there and then maybe you
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get a topping, right?
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What kind of topping do you want?
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Do you want sprinkles?
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Do you want colored sprinkles?
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Do you want, I really like hot fudge.
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Do you just want syrup?
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Do you want marshmallow on the top?
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I usually don't want that.
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I never liked that.
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Do you want nuts?
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As long as you're not allergic to nuts.
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And then they give you the spoon.
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Some places even ask you, do you want
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the small spoon?
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Do you like the real short spoon or
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you want the real big spoon?
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And then you sit down and you take
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a moment, get your napkin ready.
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You put your napkin on your lap or
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shirt and you start to enjoy the ice
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cream.
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And then you realize that your time in
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not rushing to choose the flavor was actually
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well worth the investment.
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And you enjoy the ice cream and chances
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are you're probably gonna come back for more
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ice cream.
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So that's one kind of choice.
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We can make another kind of choice.
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Let's call it a friendship choice.
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So you've got two or three friends.
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One wants you to go with them to,
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I don't know, the racetrack.
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Another wants you to go with them to
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the football game.
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Another one wants you to go to them
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with, I don't know, going to the beach.
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So you got the beach, you got the
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football game, right?
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And the racetrack.
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Let's stick with those three.
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How do you choose which one you go
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to?
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Well, some people try to figure out if
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they can fit it in the same time
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and that usually doesn't work.
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Do you like race cars?
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Yes or no.
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Do you like football games?
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What do you like more?
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Now, if you like all of them the
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same amount, this becomes a real conundrum.
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How do you choose?
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They're all good friends of yours and you
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don't wanna disappoint any one of them.
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You might say something like, hey, I got
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a pick, right?
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And next we've got to pick again in
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the following week.
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So I'm gonna pick one of you today
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and next we're gonna pick another.
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So I'm gonna pick all of you within
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the next couple of weeks but today I
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can only pick one.
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And I don't know, the race car seems
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kind of exciting.
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Haven't done that in a while.
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So I choose to go with Mark and
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go to the racetrack.
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Now, what I didn't tell you about the
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racetrack is you're actually gonna be racing the
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cars.
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So it's not like a big Grand Prix
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but it's a pretty high-end car that's
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on a track.
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It's not like the cars that you see,
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like I said, at the Evel Knievel type
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thing, but it is a car.
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And I think when you made that choice,
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a lot was going through your head.
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I know what was going through my head
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was, well, gee, I don't wanna disappoint any
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of my friends but I already got that
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out of the way.
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It's like, well, what would be kind of
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fun tonight?
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What would be different?
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Something I haven't done in a while.
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I haven't raced in a race car in
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a while.
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So I do that.
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And that choice is coming to us not
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so much by our core values or our
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moral values, the ice cream, I should say,
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but this choice is coming to us based
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on the type of fun we wanna enjoy,
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the experience we want.
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Was the ice cream similar?
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It was, but the ice cream was more
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about not making a mess and also the
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taste.
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It wasn't about whose company I was gonna
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be with or the experience that I was
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gonna be partaking in.
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Let's talk about another choice.
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You're getting ready for your midterm or your
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final.
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You decide that you're gonna wait to the
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last minute to study.
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Now, maybe you didn't study at all before.
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I'm not saying you can't stay the night
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before because tomorrow's my midterm, but you still
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have to realize what that means.
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It means that you are making a choice.
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And sometimes the choice we make doesn't seem
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like a great choice right now.
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Like your friends ask you to go hang
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with them, but you need to study.
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You might say, John, this happens more in
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college as an undergraduate.
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You're right, but it could happen as a
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graduate student.
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And so the choice that you make is
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about the situation at hand.
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That's what a lot of people do.
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And that's short-term gratification.
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I wanna go to the milk bar and
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have ice cream.
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I wanna go here and have a steak.
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I wanna go over here and go roller
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skating or what have you.
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That's the short-term gratification.
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What I'm not doing is looking at the
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long-term gratification.
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The fact that, yes, it's gonna be a
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little challenging.
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I'm gonna have to do these things, but
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guess what?
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What?
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I'm gonna get an A on my test.
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That long-term gratification is worth delaying the
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gratification.
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A lot of people can't delay because like,
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oh, I gotta have it now, gotta have
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it now, gotta have it now, gotta have
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it now.
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We live in a now world.
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But can we just stop for just one
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moment?
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Can we silence our phones for just one
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moment?
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Can we do that?
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Can we silence our phones?
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Most people can't.
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They've gotta have constant stimulation.
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And I think the body and the mind
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need a break.
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They definitely need a break.
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And if we understand that, then we'll treat
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our body in a certain way.
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I wanna give you another choice.
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And this choice is a choice that's not
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so easy to think about.
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You're in a public place and the lockdown
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alarms have suddenly sounded.
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A little scary.
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They sounded because there is a gunman in
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the building and they figure it's safer to
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lock everybody in the building with them than
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try to let that person out.
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I don't know where they get this mentality
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from.
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And everybody else has to kind of, you
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remember the run, hide or fight.
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So my choice to you is this.
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What do you choose first?
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Do you choose to run?
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Do you choose to hide?
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Do you choose to fight?
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You should choose to run right away.
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But then you might say to me, John,
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I'm trying to escape, but I can't.
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I have to jump out of a window.
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No, I'd never take a jump out of
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a window.
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But somebody is after your life and you're
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a little scared about jumping out of the
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window or jumping off that higher piece.
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It's better to take that risk, possibly break
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a leg.
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I'm not saying you should, but if you
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do that, you'll be alive because you don't
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know if that person is gonna come after
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you.
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So the choices we make when our wealth
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or our health are at stake are different.
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They're different kinds of choices.
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I mean, first we talked about ice cream
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choices.
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That's fun.
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We talked about where we wanna go for
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fun with our friends.
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And now we're talking about something that's pretty
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serious.
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Person's on the run of the building and
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you're just there, locked in a classroom, locked
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in a boardroom, locked in an office, maybe
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several floors up.
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The gunman's on the first floor, somewhere on
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the first floor.
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Security's watching him on cameras and they've locked
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the building down pretty much.
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But that doesn't mean he can't get up
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the floors.
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It doesn't mean that you're safe on the
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fourth floor, the fifth floor.
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You don't know what floor he's gonna go
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to.
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What I didn't tell you is just before
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this all happened, a whole flood of people
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left the building and got out just before
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the doors locked and everybody else is stuck
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in the building.
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Very silent, waiting on bated breath, taking their
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time to figure out while they're just waiting
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impatiently.
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Some people are trying to figure out how
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do they hide themselves?
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Where do they block in?
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The building might be four stories.
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We're not talking about a building that has
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like 10 million offices.
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We're talking about a building with four stories
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and maybe each floor has 10 offices.
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Maybe each office has 10,000 square feet.
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It's not a lot of area and somebody
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like that could easily cover that in several
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hours.
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So you're in your office that you work
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in and you're in the conference room and
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you've got things behind the door trying to
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keep it safe.
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And on the right is a great big
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window.
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And this is four stories.
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Your opportunity to run is gone.
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You missed that window.
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It was only first come first serve and
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you couldn't get out in time and then
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bam, everything locked.
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You can't run, you're hiding.
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There's a window out there.
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It's four stories to the bottom.
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What makes you have the decision to stay
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or potentially jump out?
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Well, if I jump out, I might break
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my leg.
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If you stay and he gets to your
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floor, you might not live.
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Now, in the unlikely event that the person
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actually gets to your floor, then it's time
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to basically fight.
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Now, nobody really wants to fight, ladies and
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gentlemen.
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Nobody wants to fight, nobody.
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But you gotta defend yourself.
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You gotta protect yourself.
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So you start looking for things that could
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be weapons, could be a fire extinguisher, could
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be anything.
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And anything that could be used in that
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office to protect yourself.
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It's not something we wanna think about, but
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I wanted to share these different types of
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choosings because that's what they are.
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The last one I'm gonna give you is
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you're in a supermarket.
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You're just trying to make a choice.
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Do I go with the Twizzlers?
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Do I go with the Dum Dums?
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Do I go with the Hershey Kisses?
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Or do I go with something else, like
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maybe Sour Patch?
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You're probably gonna be replaying what each candy
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tastes like in your mind, similar to what
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you do with the ice cream.
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But you're not gonna spend as much time
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because you just wanna get the pack and
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leave.
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Our choice algorithm is different for each state,
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each type of environment we're in.
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Many people choose something just to get it
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over with.
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They don't realize that the choice shouldn't be
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rushed.
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There's no need to rush the choice.
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But other people put fear in others, false
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evidence appearing real, to chase, to rush.
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No need for that.
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So choosing well, choosing good food, nutrition, that's
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another type of choice.
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So we have, oh gosh, so many different
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choices in our life.
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We have so much freedom.
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We have so many different ways we can
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go.
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But a lot of people don't understand this.
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And so you know what happens?
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They just choose wrongly.
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And they don't think it's gonna make a
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big difference.
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Ah, I chose chocolate today.
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Maybe not.
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But one choice might make a difference.
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Like which account has the best interest?
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There's different types of choices.
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And what I'm trying to get out is
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we choose well by seeing, hearing, touching, feeling,
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experiencing what's going on.
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And if we have information from the past
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about a situation that was similar, we're gonna
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replay that in our mind to help us
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make the right decision.
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The right decision.
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Now, the right decision may not be right
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or wrong, but to us, it's right.
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Meaning right that it's the best for me
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at the time.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I personally wanna thank you
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for joining me on this Thursday and watching
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or listening Inspirations For Your Life.
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turn into intentions, the ones you have daily,
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into critical impact.
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take deliberate action to build unstoppable momentum.
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Keep inspiring yourself and others.
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And remember, the choice is up to you.
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You have many choices that you need to
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make, so choose wisely.
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Have a great one, everyone, and be well.
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