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How to spot a Narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is? Going on beautiful people today.
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  We are talking. About.
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  How to spot? A narcissist.
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  If you new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  So welcome back folks. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. This is Mike.
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  This is MMM. First of all I want to thank
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  everybody on YouTube who's doing the donating to the the Super
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  thanks and the Super chats. And we're not on YouTube by CMO.
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  I truly appreciate it. Y'all helping support the
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  channel. I truly appreciate every single
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  one of y'all and everybody who joined the channel memberships
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  as well. So shout out to y'all, but yeah,
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  yeah, how? Do you spot?
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  A narcissist? How do you spot one you know,
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  covert, overt. How do you know?
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  That's one of the main questions that I personally get myself off
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  a lot. Of people ask.
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  Me personally. How do I?
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  Personally spot narcissist like that You like Lee.
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  Can you tell if you do You know if you're dealing with a
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  narcissist? Can you tell if you dealt with a
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  narcissist? Can you tell if you're around a
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  narcissist? And I'm just like I can tell.
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  Me personally, because I've. Studied a lot of narcissistic
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  people and I myself am a narcissist.
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  I can. I have to be around them.
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  I have to get a feel for them. You can.
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  Sometimes you can tell. Online, but that's very rare
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  because people can fake if people can fake who they are
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  online. If people can, people can fake
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  who they are in. Person as.
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  Well, but. It's.
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  A little bit more difficult in person.
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  You know me personally, when I get around people I that feel
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  narcissistic, I can feel the energy and I know it's it's vibe
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  my I, like a lot of narcissists are very intuitive people.
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  My intuition kicks. In y'all.
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  My intuition. Kicks in crazy and they'll.
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  And they'll say something or do something that's kind of off
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  putting for me and. I'll be like huh?
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  You got something going on or they're or they'll say something
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  that's kind of off the wall that only I would understand, you
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  imagine. Just like.
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  Why do you say that? You know, I'm just always asking
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  questions like. That to myself, like why would?
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  They say that, you know, a lot of covert, narcissistic.
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  People Y'all are very analytical people.
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  They're laid back, analytical people that.
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  It doesn't necessarily mean. That they're introverted.
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  But if you're. In a group of people.
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  In a meeting. Or whatever gathering or
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  something like that, and you see a person that you think might be
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  narcissistic. And they're just sitting
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  annoying for everybody, kind of people watching, studying, you
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  know what I mean? They might be.
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  Interacting here and there, but there are people.
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  Watching, they're studying people Co or.
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  Narcissistic people study how they analyze.
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  You know. I would say covert narcissists
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  are like the scientists of the narcissistic field, but you
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  know, of the narcissistic personality disorder spectrum.
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  Like they study. Analyze people like me.
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  I like people watching. I'm watching mannerisms.
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  I'm watching energy. I'm watching how you react,
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  interact with people, you know, if you look at me, things like
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  that. I'm by the language, You know,
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  they looking at by the language and things of that nature.
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  So I get the feeling for covert, narcissistic people like that.
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  They just kind of don't integrate themselves into crowds
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  a lot. Some of them do, but not a lot
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  of them. Some of them.
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  Can be very introverted and. What I just.
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  Get a reading from covert, narcissistic people.
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  I just it just feel weird, you know?
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  They'll. Say something off the wall.
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  They just they'll say something that makes.
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  It feel like that they are trying to separate themselves
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  from the crowd, so to speak. You know, they'll say something
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  that makes it that makes. It seem like they're special or
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  something like that, you know? Nobody else will understand them
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  unless you have this. Unless you.
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  Unless you are them, you know. You can't understand.
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  Them. Unless you are them, you know
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  they'll say something. They typically try to put the
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  other people down in subtle controlling.
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  Way in subtle ways. Passive aggressive ways.
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  Nothing like very. Rarely would they be.
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  I mean, they can't get their way, but rarely would they be
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  like super, like aggressive, they pushy and things like that.
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  Very rarely when they do that, they're very, it doesn't happen
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  like that. But covert, narcissistic people
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  tend to be very analytical, just kind of stay away from the
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  crowd. Outside looking in, they they're
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  still on the inside. But.
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  They're on the outside of the. Inside looking in.
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  Covert narcissist try to be. The center I hope this makes.
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  Sense. Yeah, Covert narcissist.
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  Try to be the center of attention.
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  Without being. In the center of the attention
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  spear, you see, like over narcissistic people are on the
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  outside of the spear like they're they're inside the
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  circle. Right, but they're further from
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  the centre. But you notice.
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  Them. It's not peacocking, but you.
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  Notice them, They stand, they stand out in a very unique way,
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  you know? Which so?
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  You know they the. Centre of attention without
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  drawing attention to themselves in a unnecessary way, like in a
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  loud boisterous way, you know. Can some do that?
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  Yeah, some. Of them can do that, but a lot
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  of them draw attention to themselves by staying on the
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  outside looking in, you know, So if you're in a group setting or
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  a workplace and things like that.
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  You see somebody being a. Center of attention.
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  But not trying to be the center of attention like outside
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  looking in type stuff, you know, they kind of outside controlling
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  the narrative. They might be narcissists.
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  I'm not saying that there's a guaranteed sign.
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  Just because you're an outsider doesn't mean.
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  That you're a narcissist job, but overt narcissist?
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  Overt narcissist try to be the center of attention.
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  By being in the center. Of the attention spirit.
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  Loud. Boisterous best dressed.
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  Best cars. Best.
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  The best of everything. Especially to the.
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  Malignant ones like super drawing.
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  Attention to themselves, loud out.
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  Just unnecessarily loud, charming, charismatic, fun,
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  outgoing, and things like that. The covert narcissist can be
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  fun, charming, outgoing and things like that, but it's just
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  more on a covert level where you're not.
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  Yelling and screaming, drawing attention to yourself.
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  My Malignant narcissist. Friend literally would yell to
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  draw attention to themselves. You know, and that attracts
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  people to them. It's wild.
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  Because people don't find yelling loud.
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  Annoying people. Obnoxious people.
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  Attractive to a lot of times. But sometimes it just draws you
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  in. You know.
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  That's the difference. That's how you.
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  Spot a narcissist in a crowd. But you know.
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  It's just in a real life in a dating.
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  Situation. Just listen to how they talk.
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  Y'all. If you're just getting to know
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  somebody, listen to how they talk first of.
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  All trust your intuition. Your intuition is there to
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  protect you. But listen to how they talk,
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  Like are they? Are they at the dinner table,
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  the first date, or just meet? When you meet them at work.
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  Or whatever this place is. Are they making themselves seem
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  like they're the most important person in the room?
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  The more most important person around?
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  More important than you? Already like you just getting in
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  to know. This person.
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  They have this grandiose sense. Of self importance.
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  Or like. Are you getting like, do they
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  think that they're more important?
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  Than you just because they were born in a certain type of way.
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  You know, ask yourself that question right there.
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  Also ask yourself, are they super delusional?
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  Is this? Person Extremely delusional.
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  Are they like they have delusions of grandeur?
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  Are they are they living in their fantasy world where they
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  think you know the world is out to get them or they super
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  conspiracy theory oriented or they you know it's just a wild
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  type of dynamic you know but if you already if you're just.
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  Meeting them and you feel like they need you to.
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  Constantly praise them. You get in to know.
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  You get in to know. Them.
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  They feel like you. You feel like they need your.
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  Compliments like they. Thrive.
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  On your compliments if you don't.
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  Compliment them. They get angry.
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  Or so you don't. You don't like this shirt.
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  What? Do you mean you didn't?
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  You didn't and compliment me on this.
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  I'm assuming you don't. Like it?
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  Stuff like that. You know.
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  Or you don't like how I do my? Job.
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  Just be on the lookout for how they.
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  Talk about themselves like if they are always in the need of
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  consistent validation and admiration and things like that,
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  you know? It's just like.
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  Again, y'all if you just getting to know somebody as well these.
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  Are these are? Telltale red flags right here.
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  Watch how they treat people. Not just you.
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  Watch how they treat. Other people.
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  Yeah, if they're mean or if they're unnecessarily.
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  If you're. On a date.
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  And they're unnecessarily mean or rude.
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  To the wait. Staff.
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  Or the the Uber driver or the cab.
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  Driver, the cashier. The waiter.
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  The waitress, The bartender. If they're just unnecessarily
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  just putting people down. Because they're in a service.
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  Industry like Y'all run far away from that person.
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  I know people are like, well, Lee.
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  Sometimes people are just frustrated and you never know
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  what they're going through. You can get him a second, third
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  or four chances if you want to, but the more chances if somebody
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  messes up on the first date or the second date, like, the more
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  chances you give them, the more they're going to course.
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  Correct their behavior. Just enough to manipulate you,
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  you know. So they act this way up front.
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  Assume this is the way that they're going to be like if
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  they're acting this way, assume this is how they going to be,
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  This is who this is how they are.
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  This is how they're going to consistently act if they are
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  already acting this way. You know, I don't think.
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  It just makes it makes sense. Like I'm saying, if you see
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  them, like if another red flag out there talking about their
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  exes up front, they're talking if they're just unnecessarily
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  bashing, beating down their ex just in front of you and.
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  Y'all for no. Reason like y'all I'm.
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  Just telling you. Be very be on the lookout, Bolo.
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  This is how you spot them right here.
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  If they're just does talking bad about your ex.
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  Make you a narcissist? No.
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  It's the context that absolutely matters in these.
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  Situations you know. To be dealing with a.
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  Toxic narcissistic person. It really is the context.
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  Of why they're talking bad about their ex.
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  Why if they, especially if they keep talking bad about their?
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  Ex. If they.
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  If their ex is always on their mind.
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  With, you know what people say nowadays?
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  If their ex is living in their. Heads rent free.
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  Then y'all you are going to be. Living in there too, like you
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  have a third person in your apartment or your house when
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  y'all move in together because they're still focused on their
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  ex. You know the.
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  Ex. Is.
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  Living in. Their head rent free.
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  So in essence, they're living in your apartment or your house.
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  Rent free as well, so it's just like.
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  If you. Get dealing with a person that's
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  still. Obsessed with their ex.
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  That might be a narcissistic person.
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  You know, That might be a narcissistic person.
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  But you also get into this space where you know a lot of time.
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  One of the easiest ways to spot a narcissist child is to ask
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  them. You know, there's a there's a
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  narcissist question. It's.
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  Called a narcissist question and it says to what extent.
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  Do you agree with it? To what extent?
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  Do you agree with this statement on a one to 10 scale?
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  You know, I am a narcissist. And a lot of people who are
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  narcissists, Yeah, will tell Will will not try to.
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  Downplay narcissism. Like they'll be like, well,
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  everybody has little narcissism and like, everybody's
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  narcissistic. Some of us are just higher
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  narcissist than other people. You have to be narcissist to be
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  successful. Some of them will openly admit
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  to being a narcissist under the right type of context.
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  If you're not painting. If you're not painting it in a
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  villainizing way. Then some of them will
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  absolutely. Admit to it.
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  You know, admit to it upfront, you know.
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  But you do have to. Trust your intuition in these
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  spaces right here. Y'all it really.
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  You really do have to trust your intuition.
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  In these spaces. Because if you don't, that's
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  when you end up, you end up getting.
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  Caught up. You know, just trust yourself,
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  like. If you're dealing with a person.
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  And you're. Just getting.
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  To know them like another. Way to spot them, Yeah, short.
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  A lot of some narcissists are short tempered.
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  Like if they're super short tempered and not.
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  When I say short tempered, it doesn't mean that's it doesn't
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  always, just necessarily. Mean that they want to yell and
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  scream at you. Short tempered can also mean
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  they they give you the silent. Treatment or with with.
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  Retreat within themselves. They refuse to just talk to you
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  and deal with the. Issues or deal with the
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  problems. That is also.
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  Super. Red flaggy right there.
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  Y'all. It just is and some.
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  People are like believe this, we got people deserve more chances.
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  That y'all y'all can give people as many chances as y'all want
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  to, but you got to realize you only get one life to live.
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  Don't waste it giving the wrong. Person multiple chances when
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  they absolutely do not deserve it, you know.
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  But anyways, y'all hope y'all enjoyed this video.
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  If y'all have any any other ideas on how to spot a
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  narcissist, let me know. Let me know you know, drop me in
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  the comment section help everybody out.
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