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111. Getting Out of the Fog · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hello, team. Hope you're having a great week.
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  Thanks for being here and listening to the show.
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  Let me know if you've ever felt this before.
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  I want to pose a question. Have you ever felt stuck in your
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  life? Maybe you don't know what comes
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  next. You aren't sure which path to
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  take. Maybe you can't even see a path
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  in front of you to take. How many of us have ever felt
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  like that? For me, the answer that comes to
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  mind is pretty much everyone. And I know that this is probably
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  something that you can relate to.
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  Maybe you felt stuck in a relationship with someone, maybe
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  it's not serving you. It could be a romantic
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  relationship, a friendship, could be work related, really
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  any type. Maybe you want to earn more
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  money and you don't have any idea where to start.
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  You're stuck in cycles of stress and worry.
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  Maybe you're stuck in habits with your health that are taking
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  you down a bad path. There's so many ways that we can
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  feel stuck in our life. It's like we can't see more than
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  two feet in front of us. There's no clear path.
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  It feels like we're walking through fog, and it can be
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  incredibly frustrating. I felt this in my life in
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  different seasons to a tremendous degree.
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  I remember feeling it after I graduated college.
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  I was two years in the corporate world outside of college,
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  working my first corporate job. I loved the job.
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  I was incredibly frustrated with where I was in my life because I
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  wasn't helping people. I wasn't feeling like I was
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  having much of an impact and I remember it being one of the
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  most frustrating, confusing fog like times of my life.
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  It happened again when I graduated from my graduate
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  program four years later. It was one of the most heart
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  wrenching times in my life for me.
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  I couldn't see anything seemingly.
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  It was like I was surrounded by thick fog.
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  I didn't know which steps to take, which path go, which
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  direction to be in. It was so frustrating for me.
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  I was also feeling the most depressed I'd ever had.
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  I was feeling anxious. I wasn't sleeping.
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  I was socked in by the fog. It happened again in my early
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  30s when I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with
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  relationships in my life. I was dating somebody who was
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  lovely person, but I just wasn't feeling like it was the right
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  person for me and I couldn't see the path forward.
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  I was seemingly surrounded by fog, and in the last decade,
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  it's happened multiple times with different situations, with
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  work and relationships and figuring out how to be the best
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  version of myself. There's so many moments where we
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  can get sucked in by the fog. I think it's just part of the
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  human experience and whether or not you've experienced that or
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  whether you're in it right now, this is the reason why we talk
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  about impact. We talk about your personal
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  influence and your effect on the world.
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  There's so many reasons why I think this conversation is
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  important, and we've talked about many of them.
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  First of all, your impact influences those around you.
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  We've talked about that so much, and obviously this is a huge
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  one. We are always having an effect
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  on the people around us, on our environment.
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  Our energy has an effect. We are broadcasting a message to
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  the world just through our energy, but it's not just about
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  the effect that you have on others, although I truly do
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  believe that that's the most valuable currency there is.
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  As Jim Carrey once said, the other reason that impact matters
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  so much is because we as humans really want life to matter.
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  It is a core human desire to feel like there's some
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  significance or meaning to our existence.
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  Without it, people are lost. They feel apathetic, they feel
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  existential angst. They feel greater instances of
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  depression and anxiety to be grounded in purpose that is
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  bigger than us. It is one of the most powerful
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  human desires. Viktor Frankel describes this in
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  his book A Man's Search for Meaning.
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  We know this intuitively. We've felt this in our hearts
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  before. But there is a third reason why
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  impact is so important in my eyes.
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  And it's because impact is about creating the life that you want.
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  When you understand your impact and all the things that go along
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  with it, you are in a better position to be the creator of
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  your life. And that is the way out of the
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  fog. To be the creator of your life,
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  to be empowered to be the captain of your own ship and not
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  be the victim getting tossed around in the waves.
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  This is the gold team. This is why impact matters.
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  It's why it's for everyone who's ever felt stuck at some point in
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  their life, anyone who has ever felt frustrated with where they
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  are now in reference to where they want to be.
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  It matters because everyone has experienced the feeling of being
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  in the fog and not being able to see the steps ahead.
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  And if we think about what impact is, I can distill it down
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  to a few things that I think are really important.
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  It's about energy. The energy that you bring into
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  the room, the energy you bring to your work, the message you're
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  broadcasting. As we talked about, it's also
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  about consistency. It's about the small actions
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  that you take every single day that add up.
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  It's about being consistent with how you show up so that people
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  can trust you and rely on you so you can build relationships.
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  That consistency is what allows for so much power.
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  On the other side, it's also about radical ownership.
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  Radical ownership is saying, hey, this might not be my fault
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  right now. I might not have asked for this
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  in my life, but it's here now and so I am going to take
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  responsibility for it. Radical ownership is about
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  owning your thoughts, your feelings, your beliefs, your
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  actions, your communication, everything that is within you.
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  You take ownership of that. One of the most crucial things
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  about impact, it's about preparation and planning,
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  meaning you schedule things in your life with intention.
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  You are paying attention to what you are saying yes to.
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  You are the controller of what goes on your schedule.
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  You are prepared ahead of time to make an impact.
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  You're planning and thinking ahead about what you want to do
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  with your life, what you want to create for your family.
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  There's such intention. That is the root of this
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  preparation and planning step, and it is one of the biggest
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  pillars of impact. And then finally, it's about
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  choice. We as humans have the ability to
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  choose so much. We choose whether or not we make
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  a move on something. We choose the story that we tell
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  in our heads about our life. We choose how we look at
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  challenge. We choose the perspective that
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  we have about people in the world.
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  There's so much that we can be in choice about.
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  And when we embrace that, again, we're not the victim in our
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  life. We are in choice.
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  And that creates a very powerful impact within somebody.
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  So if you feel like you are stuck in the fog, if you are in
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  one of these moments or seasons in your life, these
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  conversations about impact matter so much.
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  They're truly the gateway to getting access to the motion and
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  the momentum that you want in your life.
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  When you start to focus on those key things that we just talked
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  about, you start to feel more empowered.
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  And that leads to all the things you want.
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  More clarity, more agency, more freedom, more ease, more peace.
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  And those are just the feelings. It also leads to more
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  opportunities when you're more impactful.
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  People want to connect with you more.
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  Your relationships improve with everyone, your family, your
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  kids, your colleagues. People want to start being
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  around you. Things start to line up for you
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  in ways that are just absolutely beautiful and a little bit hard
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  to believe. Your health and your energy
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  improve, which give you the ability to show up in a
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  completely different way, which then just further increases that
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  positive upward spiral. The fog will start to clear out,
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  the cloud cover dissipates, and all the sudden there's these
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  beams of sunlight that are like punching through the sky.
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  It's the best way I can describe it.
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  It's like everything just clears and suddenly you can see.
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  It's why I'm so passionate about this topic and everything that
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  it entails. It's why at the end of the day,
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  harnessing the power of your impact is really about being the
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  most powerful version of ourselves.
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  And when we feel whole and capable and resilient in that
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  way, we just become unstoppable. So this week, I encourage you,
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  if you are in the fog, if you've been feeling like you're stuck
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  in that place, trust me, one of the most powerful things you can
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  do is to lean into your impact. Be thinking about those key
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  things, your energy, your consistency, your radical
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  ownership, your preparation, and then of course, how to be in
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  choice in your life, focusing on those things.
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  That's what's going to start moving the needle for you.
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  Remember, you don't have to see the entire staircase.
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  You don't have to see the entire path.
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  All you have to see is the next few steps.
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  Really, it's the next few steps that you have to see.
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  And I guarantee the more you lean into the influence and
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  effect that you have in the world, the more that stuff is
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  going to clear out. The more the cloud cover and the
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  fog is going to start to clear out.
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  And then you will have the clarity that you want and the
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  ability to see the vision for what you want your life to
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  become. So I hope this helps today.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  I just launched the Impact Effect newsletter.
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  It's a bimonthly newsletter where you get a little bit more
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  inspiration, a little more coaching from me.
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  If you are into it, go to my website, steph@stephsaffer.com
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  and sign up for that newsletter. I'd love to stay in touch with
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  you. Thank you for being here and for
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  listening. I hope that you have an awesome
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  week and thank you for being ready to Impact.
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  Thanks for listening to Impact Ready.
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  I hope today's episode inspired you to own your impact and
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  recognize that you are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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  Thanks again for being here.