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Autistic People Do THIS Without Knowing! (Literal Thinking) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So every autistic person will do one of these two things as a
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  default. But you know, what's interesting
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  is the second one is something you didn't even know was
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  actually the thing, but it's confusing.
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  Let's get into it. Hey guys, what's going on?
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  Welcome back to the MSP world. My name is Dan.
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  It's back as heck. What is going on?
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  I wanted to do this video because I was thinking about it
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  for a while and I'm thinking like, hey, there's there's a
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  thing about autism. There's like this some profound
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  look at me in the mirror. There's like some profound
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  things about autism that we all share, right?
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  That we all have all together. And I'm like, we don't even know
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  sometimes that those things are the things that we have.
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  I've seen the word thing a lot, but basically it's this look.
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  For instance, all autistic individuals will have anxiety,
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  high levels of anxiety in their life at some point, right?
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  And it could look in variant different degrees with social
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  anxiety could be like going outside, fear of big places,
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  fear of new places than heating on because it's freezing.
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  And yes, guys, as long as Christmas time here when I'm on
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  this video. And that being said, we all have
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  these like very inherent things that are the same.
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  Now, one of the things I find really interesting is that
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  artistic individuals will also have one of two things like we
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  will have, like I said before, I I did a video talking about how
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  like we'll have like restless leg syndrome or we may fidget
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  rock or kind of stem in a different way.
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  And that was like really well received because a lot of people
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  were like, yeah, you know, it's not one, it's not that
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  one-size-fits-all with autism, but it is that in autism we have
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  similar instances, but they will have the same kind of like core
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  principle. OK, so by the way guys, I'm just
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  getting my day started here and I thought I'd do the video while
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  I start. This is the most annoying thing
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  about having an electric vehicle without an electric port at the
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  side of your house. So my car's there.
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  I've got to charge it up here. It's so annoying.
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  So I've got to get out my phone and then like turn off the
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  charger and then so this is the this is my phone.
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  OK, so but stop charging. OK, here we go.
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  Just unplug this. Oh, goodness.
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  One of the things I find most interesting is taking things
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  literally. Now I'll just take individuals
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  will take things literally. I'll take things at face value,
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  which means that we will find something that you say or
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  another person says or another says at face value.
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  Which means that like somebody says to me, hey, it's raining
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  cats and dogs outside. I'll be like, is it, is it
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  raining cats and dogs? Is it truly raining cats and
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  dogs? Even though I know that that's
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  bonkers. Like it would never rain cats
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  and dogs, But at the same time, I always feel like, hey, it's
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  going to rain cats and dogs. So why is this a thing?
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  Why is literal thinking a thing? Well, they have OJ in the
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  morning. Well, you see, I just think
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  individuals have what's inherently a communication
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  disorder and communication disorder can have many
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  implications. And so whilst we are very
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  logical, we have exceptional kind of like memory and all this
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  other type of abilities to do things that are probably
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  cognitively advanced. We also like the ability to
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  sometimes reconcile what is factual and what is fictional
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  like egg timers and they use their watch timers and they use
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  lifesaver. Let's go all right, back to the
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  video. Literal thinking and autism or
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  taking things literally in autism, right?
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  So for many years I had this like this when someone tell me a
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  joke or something that's sarcastic, I just believe them
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  straight away. I'm like, Oh yeah, that that's
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  it. That's that's exactly what it
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  is. And I have no reason to doubt
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  that person, right? Like, I have no reason to say,
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  oh, this person is lying to me because why would I like it
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  makes no sense, right? When you're taking things
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  literally. This can fall into different
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  categories. Like we can have mate crime
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  where someone says, hey, you have to give me, I don't know,
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  money every week. You'd be like, oh, OK, Because
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  you'd think that Why would they be lying, right?
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  Why? Why would they not be telling
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  the truth? Right?
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  I'll put my cable back in my car.
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  Wish me luck. Like I used to get in trouble
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  with like, band for this all time, actually in a band game
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  music. And they used to say to me
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  stupid things like, oh, a Tom, it's called Tom Mule.
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  And I'd be like, no way. And then I'd be like, oh, that's
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  stupid. I remember one time we were
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  going to a gig and they told me that we were driving there and
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  the guy, they were like, yeah, yeah, his name's Fozzie, which
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  it was, but it said always his wife's name is Jang Harrad
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  because we knew a guy called Rozzie and his wife was called
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  ANG Harrad. And so they told me this because
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  I was like, no, I was blown away.
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  I was like, there's no way. Like, what are the odds?
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  So I just park in my car. Another thing about having a car
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  that has to park on a bloody different side.
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  Oh, you have to pack outside your house to charge it, but it
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  actually lives on a on a drive anyway, so I'd get to the gig
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  and I was talking to this guy and I was like, hey, fuzzy.
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  And then he's like, hey, I was like, wow, how's Jiang Harry?
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  Like that's not his wife's name. My dad just told me that because
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  it waffles. Anyway, so then it got me
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  thinking like, OK, so as autistic individuals, we do
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  think about things in a very literal sense, taking things
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  literally. Like if he tells us a sarcastic
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  joke, well, sarcasm is kind of like, it's like a it's a joke
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  that is meant to be like almost real.
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  I guess I'm making sorry, I'm making brunch, but veggie
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  sausages, vegetarian. Hold on.
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  So in autism, we call it like there's no reading between the
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  lines, right? And reading between the lines
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  could be like read the room, read the social signals.
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  And these parts of the autistic experience, these, these parts
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  of the of of like typical, like, oh, well, I grew up and I knew
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  this. Those are gone.
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  Those are missing. Autistic individuals don't
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  experience this in the same way as neurotypical people do.
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  And why? Because communication is what
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  autism is a communication issue, right?
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  Or a communication disorder. And it doesn't allow for your
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  brain to go, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it.
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  That's exactly where I should be.
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  I should be doing. And so.
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  So the first thing is that I want to talk about like, literal
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  thinking in autism, taking things at face value.
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  When someone tells you something, you feel like it is
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  right. Hence why I guess we think, why
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  would somebody lie? Because lying goes against the
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  literal thinking protocol where if you're lying, then you can't
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  be, you know, you can't be telling somebody something that
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  is a, that is not true because it goes against literal
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  thinking, right? So lying is quite a difficult
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  concept for autistic individuals to kind of conjure up.
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  Now, that being said, we all know that there's no surprise
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  autistic individuals struggle with typical kind of like, oh,
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  this is how it's going to be. It's raining cats and dogs.
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  And then you'll be like it's raining cats and dogs.
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  But one of the most this is the OK.
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  So the second part is probably the most interesting part.
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  This is like the bit that blows my mind.
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  And I was thinking about this yesterday.
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  I was doing AI was on a meeting with a friend of mine, a
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  business partner who a bit we partnered with and he's helping
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  me launch a a burnout challenge. So if you're interested in that,
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  I'll leave a link for it down below.
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  And if it's not ready, then it will be like a holding page.
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  But we do like a burnout challenge like a three day how
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  to rock out a burnout and get energy back.
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  Anyway, Long story short, me and Jan were talking and we were
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  talking about like one of the things that impacts me as an
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  autistic individual that you kind of like don't see at face
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  value, but I take at face value, and this is one of them literal
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  thinking. But literal thinking like this
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  when I am presented with somebody telling me a story,
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  right? This is this is this is
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  profound. This is crazy interesting guys.
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  Like somebody's telling me a story.
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  It could be my, my, my partner or my friends.
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  Someone's telling me a story and they're like, so I, me and John
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  were out and we're digging for bait because we're going to go
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  fishing. And then we hit something, Ding,
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  Ding. And I'm like, Oh my God, what's
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  that? In that moment when they're
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  telling me that story, I'm like, Oh my God, what's what, what
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  we're talking about? Like, I don't know how to
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  separate the reality of the literal sense of hate.
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  I'm talking to you. This is what's happening right
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  now. And hey, this is a story.
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  This isn't what's happening right now.
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  It's something that happened before because they relive it or
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  they react it right. And that I guess comes into the
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  same players. Like why we get things taken
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  literal because we're expecting things just as they are
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  constantly. It's like when something comes,
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  that's how it's going to be and there is no, there is no
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  alternative to that. And I think that's to me, one of
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  the most profound things is something that like autistic
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  individuals. No, but they don't realize,
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  right? Like I, I, I know that I'd do
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  this, but I didn't even realize it was a thing.
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  And that is kind of crazy. And then when I was talking to
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  Jan about it was someone was like, yeah, I do this.
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  And then he's like, oh, interesting.
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  And I'm like, yeah, it is interesting actually, Jan.
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  Like that is interesting. Like why, why do I take things
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  like, why can't I distinguish between a story that somebody's
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  telling me versus a story that's interrupted by something that's
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  happening right now? If you get what I'm trying to
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  say at the flow of the process. And I guess then it opens up
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  with a question that like, how can I can watch movies and TV
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  knowing that they are not happening right now?
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  They're not exactly as they are. And I guess the answer to that
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  question is that when I'm watching TVI don't know these
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  people and I have a default that everything they're telling me is
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  just make believe or fantasy. I've disconnected from myself.
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  Kind of like I don't watch the news for that reason.
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  I don't watch the news because I feel sometimes too connected or
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  I feel too kind of shocked in the moment because that's that
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  is real. That's real information that's
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  being, you know, protruded out. And so it, it kind of like, it
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  does beg that question. It does a question like, how am
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  I, how am I going to be able to talk to people and understand
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  their stories properly when I can't even do it myself?
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  And the answer is, I don't know. I don't actually know.
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  Oh, guys, I got another monitor installed in my office.
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  Actually, I see another monitor installed.
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  This is my grandmother's old television and I got a
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  refurbished Apple TV generation one from eBay.
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  Illness or something, I have no idea.
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  Look at this so profound. Profound, literal thinking in
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  autism when someone is telling you a story is probably the most
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  interesting thing that I have experienced as an autistic
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  adult. As an autistic person, I'm like,
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  wow, I, I, I really suck at knowing if someone's being
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  literal or not, or if someone's telling me a story or someone's
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  lying or someone's having a joke or whatever.
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  And so I think that really impacts me in a way where like
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  it's, it's, it's difficult because like if you think about
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  the way in which, you know, crimes are committed, people are
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  telling you, oh, you can, you know, you have to give, I don't
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  know, you have to give me, you know, your wages or you have to
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  give me XY or Z. And then you'd be like, OK, I
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  must have to, because this person said, you know, it's kind
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  of like it's, it's a profound vulnerability as well as
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  something that's quite interesting.
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  And so I, I don't know, I'd like to know your opinion on it.
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  Let me know if you experience this in the comments down below.
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  Because like, to me, it's kind of like a no brain.
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  I'm like, yeah, everyone experiences this, but like to
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  autistic individuals, but probably doesn't.
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  Anyway, I'm going to get on now guys, because I've got client
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  work to do at the back here because I actually help people
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  build online businesses because I've won awards, Business Awards
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  here and stuff like that because I like to build businesses and
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  help people. Now if that interests you can
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  always drop me a comment or e-mail me dan@theasheville.com
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  if you're interested in helping me set it on my business for you
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  and with you or whatever. You know, it's not a problem.
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  Anyway, guys, I will catch you in the next video.
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  Peace.