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Experts Warn 45% of Women Will Be SINGLE By 2030 | Why Women Stay Single · Mindful Success Path

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A Morgan Stanley study shows that 45% of women in the United States are going to be single by 20.
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30.
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And in this video, what we're gonna be doing is we're gonna be breaking down what the study says, what some of the reasons for this might be, and in addition to that, I'm gonna be sharing some reasons that none of the articles or the studies mentioned based on my 15 years of experience coaching women in different areas of their lives.
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So.
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Let's get into it.
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Uh, the way that I'm gonna break this down is I'm going to be reading an article that I found, uh, on this subject that was actually pleasantly surprising.
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I had some thoughts, uh, where I was like, oh, this is gonna go off the rails, but it actually ended up being pretty measured in its approach.
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So we're gonna go through that article and then I'm gonna be sharing some thoughts that the article itself.
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Did not mention.
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Now this particular study is not anything new.
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People have been talking about it since 2022.
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The article's actually gonna be from 2022, but you may have noticed that it's making a, um, resurgence again on these internet streets.
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It feels it's, it's almost like every year people start talking about this again as we get closer.
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To 2030 because they see more single people.
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They see a loneliness, epidemic.
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They see, um, divorce rates in certain age groups going up.
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They see marriage happening later in life.
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People aren't having kids.
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So, you know, every, like once a year, this study, uh, tends to pop up again.
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So, without further ado, let's get into it.
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I'm going to attempt to do a screen share here.
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Let's see how this goes.
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Justin Keltner-4: All right, so here we go.
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Justin Keltner-4: Study predicts.
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Justin Keltner-4: 45% of women will be single by 2030.
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Justin Keltner-4: This article was actually kind of interesting.
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Justin Keltner-4: I thought it was gonna go off the rails, but it didn't.
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Justin Keltner-4: So that's why I want to show this one.
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Justin Keltner-4: And it seems to just be making its rounds again on social media.
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Justin Keltner-4: So Yep.
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Justin Keltner-4: You read that right?
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Justin Keltner-4: It's estimated a 45% of women ages 25 to 44 will be single by 2030, according to a study by Morgan Stanley.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, and.
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Justin Keltner-4: I think this is specifically to women in the United States, although I have seen other countries reporting on this as well.
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Justin Keltner-4: But I believe the study was by Morgan Stanley.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, oh, it's even older.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's from 2019 and people still keep talk, talking about it.
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Justin Keltner-4: Okay.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um.
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Justin Keltner-4: Yeah, I believe it is in the United States.
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Justin Keltner-4: At least that's how I saw it.
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Justin Keltner-4: Report as the us.
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Justin Keltner-4: Yes.
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Justin Keltner-4: Okay.
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Justin Keltner-4: So just wanted to clarify.
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Justin Keltner-4: So with the modern dating market, nearly half of women in their childbearing years will be without a male count counterpart, which is kind of shocking.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, there are a few reasons for this prediction.
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Justin Keltner-4: So what we're gonna do is we're gonna go into the predictions mentioned, uh, or reasons mentioned in this article.
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Justin Keltner-4: And then I'm gonna do is.
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Justin Keltner-4: Separate part of this video where I'm gonna explain some of the things that might be going on in the minds of women that are actually keeping them single in this day and age, so that they can be partnered if they actually want to be partnered, which spoiler alert, most women do.
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Justin Keltner-4: So one, women aren't getting married young anymore.
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Justin Keltner-4: Yes.
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Justin Keltner-4: We all have also.
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Justin Keltner-4: So many other options for what to do with our lives that getting married is no longer the default option.
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Justin Keltner-4: We're focusing on our careers, going to grad school, traveling our friends in extended social circle circles, and taking our time to find the right guy.
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Justin Keltner-4: Two, we aren't having babies like we used to with more options for birth control than ever before, and somewhat reliable treatments for infertility.
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Justin Keltner-4: The pressure to have kids within a certain timeframe just isn't there.
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Justin Keltner-4: Anymore.
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Justin Keltner-4: And with that pressure gone, so is the urgency to get married for the sake of starting a family.
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Justin Keltner-4: I did actually talk about this, uh, in a recent video where I said one of the things that screws women over in dating is when they have a sense of urgency.
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Justin Keltner-4: And I did actually bring this up, these particular things, uh, in that video.
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Justin Keltner-4: So make sure to check it out.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, so many women are single that is unmarried and will remain this way for the foreseeable future.
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Justin Keltner-4: Now this is where the article gets interesting because, um, she starts going into some of the messaging that women get.
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Justin Keltner-4: She starts going into what does this mean for a society?
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Justin Keltner-4: What does it mean for men?
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Justin Keltner-4: What does it mean for women?
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Justin Keltner-4: And again, it got interesting.
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Justin Keltner-4: So we are told that to be single woman is to be empowered.
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Justin Keltner-4: If I had a penny for every time I've heard she's a strong, independent woman who don't need no man, same girl.
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Justin Keltner-4: We'd all be millionaires.
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Justin Keltner-4: With all the pennies that we all would've received by judging by the number of times we heard that growing up in the United States, she can take care of everything herself.
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Justin Keltner-4: She makes her own money, drives to her own car, pays her own rent.
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Justin Keltner-4: You know the music.
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Justin Keltner-4: She's a survivor.
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Justin Keltner-4: Can you pay my bills?
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Justin Keltner-4: You know, all that kind of stuff.
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Justin Keltner-4: You know, basic things that any functioning adult should be able to do, but I digress.
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Justin Keltner-4: She can do it all in her own little world of man free bliss, and without a man.
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Justin Keltner-4: And this is where, um, I thought this was gonna go off the rails until I started reading the rest of the article, right?
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Justin Keltner-4: But this is where I was like, oh God, here we go.
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Justin Keltner-4: Right?
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Justin Keltner-4: She can do it all in her own little world of man free bliss.
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Justin Keltner-4: And without a man, she doesn't have to deal with his implicit misogyny.
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Justin Keltner-4: She doesn't have to cook, clean, or care for an overgrown.
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Justin Keltner-4: Manchild, she doesn't have to compromise or have anyone complain about what she wears or the pictures she posts online.
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Justin Keltner-4: She can have as many girls trips and hot girl summers as her heart desires.
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Justin Keltner-4: Ah, the blissful of single life.
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Justin Keltner-4: So I wanna make a point here.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, I don't think the author necessarily agrees with all of this based on how the rest of this article goes, but I do wanna make a point that if you keep attracting overgrown man children, um.
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Justin Keltner-4: That's because you're a strong, independent woman.
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Justin Keltner-4: So there's this thing called the mirror principle, uh, which I will get into in other videos.
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Justin Keltner-4: But basically, whatever you believe on the inside is what you're going to attract.
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Justin Keltner-4: So if you believe that you have to be a strong, independent woman who pays all her own bills, the only types of men, strong, independent woman who pay all their own bills and don't eat no man tend to attract is overgrown man children.
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Justin Keltner-4: That's why they think all men are overgrown.
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Justin Keltner-4: Man children, because if a woman was in her feminine energy, which is a lot of what we talk about on this channel, she would be attracting masculine men who don't act like children, right?
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Justin Keltner-4: And this is one of the things that a lot of women don't understand, that while it's great that you make your own money, it's great that you can take care of yourself.
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Justin Keltner-4: If you make that your entire identity, you will attract men that you feel like you need to take care of, or you will attract men.
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Justin Keltner-4: Who, um, feel like you need to go 50 50 on the bills, you will attract men who will be like, go on girl, go do your thing.
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Justin Keltner-4: Because he's expecting you to go pay his bills.
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Justin Keltner-4: Right.
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Justin Keltner-4: So that's one thing, uh, to keep in mind that this is kind of a.
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Justin Keltner-4: You know, if you are one of these strong, independent women and you're being told by society, you don't need no man, and that all men have implicit misogyny and they're all overgrown, man children, your experience is that because as an independent, strong woman, the reciprocal of a strong, independent woman who don't need no man is a man who needs a mother.
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Justin Keltner-4: That's how this works.
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Justin Keltner-4: Okay.
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Justin Keltner-4: She doesn't have to compromise or have anyone complain about what she wears or the pictures that she posts online.
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Justin Keltner-4: I just don't even understand why women post thought po photos on the internet or thirst trap photos.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, I've had online businesses for 15 years.
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Justin Keltner-4: You know, before I met my husband, I had a pretty well-known online business and I never once felt inclined.
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Justin Keltner-4: To post sexy pictures on the internet, like not once.
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Justin Keltner-4: The thought did not even cross my mind.
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Justin Keltner-4: I think I have one picture from my travels in Costa Rica.
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Justin Keltner-4: Where I'm in a bikini and that's like the only one.
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Justin Keltner-4: And then I noticed how much like attention and not necessarily good attention I was getting from a lot of men after posting that photo and I never did it again.
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Justin Keltner-4: So I don't really understand the need or the desire, uh, to do that.
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Justin Keltner-4: Right.
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Justin Keltner-4: I also do not understand the need or the desire to have your boobies out in public or your butt cheeks out in public.
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Justin Keltner-4: Like I just.
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Justin Keltner-4: I just don't understand.
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Justin Keltner-4: I just, I never felt inclined to do any of those things, so I just don't get it.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, and the reality is that the way that you dress and the way that you present yourself, the reason why men get.
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Justin Keltner-4: Kind of weird about that is because he's trying to protect you.
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Justin Keltner-4: Men understand that if you dress a certain way, that it's going to call a certain type of attention.
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Justin Keltner-4: And guess who has to go save you once You're getting that type of attention.
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Justin Keltner-4: He does, right?
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Justin Keltner-4: You're putting him in danger in a lot of those situations.
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Justin Keltner-4: But a lot of women don't think like that, which is why, um, I wanted to kind of, uh.
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Justin Keltner-4: Do this and, and just kind of add my, my thoughts here.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, uh, the blissful single life.
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Justin Keltner-4: Now here's where it gets interesting, but if a man is single, he's lonely because you know, he's clearly miserable and sexless not by choice.
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Justin Keltner-4: There's even a Reddit term for it.
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Justin Keltner-4: Incel a man who is involuntarily celibate.
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Justin Keltner-4: The idea here is that all men would want a girlfriend or at least a female partner.
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Justin Keltner-4: They could have one.
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Justin Keltner-4: The never ending rhetoric is that married men are happier, live longer, and benefit tremendously from having a live-in maid or I mean wife.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, which is true.
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Justin Keltner-4: Men do benefit a lot from marriage.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, she's not a live-in maid though.
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Justin Keltner-4: But that is the narrative.
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Justin Keltner-4: Uh, young people are socially conditioned to believe that single men are one of two things.
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Justin Keltner-4: Number one, super attractive, top 20 percenters who don't need to settle down with one woman to have plentiful sex, attention and admiration, uh, from women, which is a lie.
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Justin Keltner-4: Or everyone else average to uh, to unimpressive men who don't know how to talk to women and couldn't get a date even if they tried.
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Justin Keltner-4: Are those really the only two options?
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Justin Keltner-4: The answer is no.
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Justin Keltner-4: Those are not the only two options.
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Justin Keltner-4: They are not right.
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Justin Keltner-4: And we talk a lot about that on this channel, but I think the authors just.
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Justin Keltner-4: Pointing it out like this is what people are being told.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is what society is telling young men and women, which is leading to, uh, this issue that we're having of 45% of women are gonna be single by 2030.
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Justin Keltner-4: Double standards, double standards.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is nothing new.
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Justin Keltner-4: There are probably some women and men who fall into these categories, but it's ridiculous to pretend that.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is everyone's.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is where I was like, okay, this is coming back to reality.
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Justin Keltner-4: I thought this was gonna go off the rails, but it didn't.
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Justin Keltner-4: Okay.
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Justin Keltner-4: Most of the single women I know don't feel particularly empowered in their singleness.
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Justin Keltner-4: Neither do I.
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Justin Keltner-4: This channel would not have started making money from core sales in the last couple months if women were happy being single.
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Justin Keltner-4: Okay.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's true.
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Justin Keltner-4: I don't know any single woman who necessarily feels empowered by paying all her damn bills, by having to work her ass off by having to do a lot of things that if she had a partner, her life would not be as difficult.
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Justin Keltner-4: I don't know that many, right.
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Justin Keltner-4: In fact, most of them are actively dating and looking for Mr.
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Justin Keltner-4: Wright, correct?
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Justin Keltner-4: Most single men I know aren't lonely.
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Justin Keltner-4: Or one wondering when a woman will finally look their way.
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Justin Keltner-4: Also true, they're just going about their lives, working, going to school, traveling, participating in their hobbies, and trying to build the life that they want.
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Justin Keltner-4: Guy or girl.
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Justin Keltner-4: The healthiest attitude is somewhere in the middle and single and empowered and don't need anyone, especially not a cis white man, does not reflect most women.
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Justin Keltner-4: Correct.
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Justin Keltner-4: I'm single and lonely and I just wish that any man would look my way so I can finally get lay.
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Justin Keltner-4: Any woman, I'm sorry, would look my way so I can finally get laid.
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Justin Keltner-4: Does not reflect most men.
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Justin Keltner-4: Correct.
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Justin Keltner-4: To lump all men and women into these categories is unfair and perpetuates a stereotype that just isn't true for most people.
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Justin Keltner-4: And neither of these attitudes is healthy nor aspirational.
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Justin Keltner-4: Yes.
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Justin Keltner-4: Thank you.
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Justin Keltner-4: Is there a problem with 45% of women being single?
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Justin Keltner-4: On an individual level?
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Justin Keltner-4: No.
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Justin Keltner-4: But perhaps on a societal level.
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Justin Keltner-4: Yeah.
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Justin Keltner-4: Huge problem, right?
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Justin Keltner-4: Trends like these are symptoms of the bigger issue.
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Justin Keltner-4: Which is what my husband and I recently said on an interview that we were talking about.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is what my husband's business deals a lot with.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, you know, he gets a lot of men on his entrepreneur expat channel.
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Justin Keltner-4: We, he helps people move to other countries and invest in other countries and global tax optimization and all that fun stuff, right?
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Justin Keltner-4: And one of the things that keeps coming up over and over and over again, uh, in my husband's business, which I'm also seeing over here.
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Justin Keltner-4: I mindful success path is this.
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Justin Keltner-4: Our social fabric is falling apart.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is true.
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Justin Keltner-4: It is where the nuclear family used to make up the fabric of society.
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Justin Keltner-4: The separation of sex from commitment and babies has led to a sentiment of selfishness.
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Justin Keltner-4: Correct.
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Justin Keltner-4: Our individual happiness has become the most important thing in each of our lives.
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Justin Keltner-4: Correct?
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Justin Keltner-4: Correct, correct, correct.
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Justin Keltner-4: In the United States, and I can say this.
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Justin Keltner-4: Having lived in multiple countries and traveling all over the world, and you know, being from Latin America and first generation immigrant, uh, first generation American, my husband's also first generation American, who's also lived in multiple countries and we travel a lot and we help people move to other countries, Americans.
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Justin Keltner-4: Um, and I don't know if it's so much in Canada and Australia and Western Europe, but I can tell you from the United States'cause that's where I grew up and spent most of my life.
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Justin Keltner-4: There is this, um.
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Justin Keltner-4: Over, uh, they put too much weight on their feelings.
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Justin Keltner-4: They put too much weight on their emotions.
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Justin Keltner-4: Right.
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Justin Keltner-4: They put too much weight on individual happiness, whereas in other countries, it's a lot more about the collective.
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Justin Keltner-4: There's a much more mature way of going through life where you are not the center of the universe.
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Justin Keltner-4: What happens in the United States is that everybody thinks that they are the center of the universe and that because they have certain feelings.
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Justin Keltner-4: They're entitled to act in horrific ways because of their feelings.
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Justin Keltner-4: And that's not reality.
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Justin Keltner-4: That is not how life works, and it certainly does not make for good relationships to hell with having kids and a husband or a wife.
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Justin Keltner-4: They're only good if they make us happy and fulfilled, and if not, well, you're better off without'em.
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Justin Keltner-4: This is the way we feel about our interpersonal relationships, and it's extremely damaging and it's one of the reasons why we're having a relationship crisis, and this is why I have to tell people, like, you have to be careful about the type of content that you, uh, ingest.
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Justin Keltner-4: You have to be careful about who you're hanging out with, especially now in the age of AI where you don't even know what's real and what's not.
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Justin Keltner-4: I know one of the things that I had to do, uh, when I was ready to manifest my husband and I wanted a masculine provider guy.
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Justin Keltner-4: I had to stop spending so much time in Facebook groups or networking groups or, uh, just friends in real life of women who would bash men.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's one of the things I had to do because if I'm trying to get married and have a healthy relationship with a masculine provider, man, why would I be hanging out with women that all they do is bash men and have this kind of thought process and ideology of they're all little boys, or they all have internalized misogyny, or they're useless unless they're making me happy.
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Justin Keltner-4: Th that's the same as like somebody trying to get sober and hanging out with alcoholics.
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Justin Keltner-4: Like it just doesn't make any sense, right?
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Justin Keltner-4: So that's one of the things I had to do.
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Justin Keltner-4: You have to be very careful about where you are getting your information from and the kinds of people, uh, you are hanging out with.
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Justin Keltner-4: Because this is like a disease that's infected society in the Western world.
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Justin Keltner-4: You have to be really, really careful.
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Justin Keltner-4: And the thing is that you now have conscious men and women.
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Justin Keltner-4: Of all faiths, of all cultures, of all walks of life who are waking up to the fact that we've all been bamboozled.
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Justin Keltner-4: And I think that's kind of what she's pointing out here in the article.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's like the narratives that we've been taught aren't necessarily, um, reality of how this stuff works.
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Justin Keltner-4: Let's continue.
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Justin Keltner-4: If it doesn't make them happy, then if it doesn't make me happy, then I don't want it, which is very immature with this attitude.
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Justin Keltner-4: No wonder the divorce rate is so high.
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Justin Keltner-4: No wonder people don't wanna get married and have children anymore.
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Justin Keltner-4: We don't want to make sacrifices or endure.
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Justin Keltner-4: Unpleasant times for the sake of something greater.
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Justin Keltner-4: I'm gonna talk about this momentarily when I'm done with the article.
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Justin Keltner-4: This isn't about, this isn't only about women choosing to be single.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's also about men choosing to abandon their children.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's about children refusing to care for aging parents.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's about parents neglecting their children.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's about all of us operating under a mindset where my happiness is the most important thing in my life.
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Justin Keltner-4: At all times.
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Justin Keltner-4: I wonder how many people who live by that philosophy truly leave this world at peace.
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Justin Keltner-4: They don't.
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Justin Keltner-4: Final thoughts.
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Justin Keltner-4: Modern society has driven us further away from the values and structures that truly bring fulfillment in life.
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Justin Keltner-4: Interpersonal relationships, or some of the few experiences in life that are truly meaningful to the human heart.
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Justin Keltner-4: Correct?
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Justin Keltner-4: Uh, we are.
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Justin Keltner-4: Community creatures by nature.
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Justin Keltner-4: While not everyone is necessarily called to a romantic partnership or marriage, also true, we should not pretend that the lack of a relationship is somehow empowering.
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Justin Keltner-4: It ain't girl nor or should we pretend that having a relationship is our ultimate purpose in life.
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Justin Keltner-4: And without it, we're only half a person.
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Justin Keltner-4: That's also extremely damaging.
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Justin Keltner-4: It's just the pendulum swinging in the other direction.
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Justin Keltner-4: So will 45% of women really be single by 2030?
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Justin Keltner-4: I don't know.
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Justin Keltner-4: I think they will be.
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Justin Keltner-4: In the United States based on some things I'm gonna talk about momentarily, if they don't change their mindset about a few things.
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Justin Keltner-4: But if this is the case, it will be a symptom of the many challenges with modern dating, not something to celebrate.
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Justin Keltner-4: Now, I didn't see anybody celebrating this.
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Justin Keltner-4: I don't know if anybody, in the last few years that this study has been out and people keep bringing it back up.
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Justin Keltner-4: I don't, I haven't seen anybody.
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Justin Keltner-4: Celebrating it, honestly, so I'm not really sure where that comes from.
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Justin Keltner-4: Mostly I've seen people who are just very concerned, you know?
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Justin Keltner-4: Or people like the red pill guys who are like, see, we told you.
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Justin Keltner-4: Right.
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Justin Keltner-4: That's all I've really seen in that regard.
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Justin Keltner-4: I haven't seen anybody celebrating it because I think anybody with two brain cells understands that this is not something to celebrate and that it is actually a huge problem.
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Justin Keltner-4: Okay.
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Justin Keltner-4: So now in the next section I'm gonna be talking about some of the, uh, mindset shifts that I believe women need to make in order to not end up in this statistic.
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Justin Keltner-4: 'cause I'm gonna bring up a couple things that this article did not, that I think are really, really important because I see certain very damaging narratives happening online in a lot of spaces that are gonna keep women single if they follow them.
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All right, so now let's talk about a few of the things that I think are gonna keep women single.
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Again, this is based on my 15 years of experience coaching women in different areas of their lives.
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This is based on spending six or seven years around high performing the men and asking them what they desire.
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This is based on being married.
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To a high performing man.
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This is based on me having to have, uh, rewired and reworked my own mindset.
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A lot of these things.
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So I think the, the article, like I said, I thought it was gonna go off the rails, but it didn't.
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I'm trying, thank God.
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Um, and I think the, the first point that.
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They're correct about, which I was gonna do a whole video and a whole diatribe on, but the article talked about it was the fact that in the United States, people put too much weight on their feelings and their own personal happiness, which is just a very immature way of looking at life.
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I'm in Mexico right now, for example, and I'll tell you a difference between Mexico and the United States.
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One difference between Mexico and the United States is that in Mexico everything's about the family, right?
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Family is number one.
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It's more traditional in that sense, like Mexico is changing'cause the United States exports Hollywood all over the world and the proximity to the United States and all that stuff.
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Uh, and it's happening in Asia as well from what I'm hearing in the comments from you guys.
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But.
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There is this more traditional way of looking at family.
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There is this more traditional way of looking at values.
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Um, and I'll say this too, like here in Mexico, even if I know people who are divorced, I have yet to meet a divorced person in Mexico who doesn't have a healthy co-parenting relationship with their ex because it's kind of like, Hey, I'm gonna put my feelings aside about how pissed off I am at you right now, and we're gonna make this co-parenting situation work because we have a child.
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Whereas in the United States you hear stories about, you know, women keeping children from men and, and all that kind of stuff.
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Again, just very immature, super immature way of looking at relationships.
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I'm not saying that doesn't happen in other parts of the world.
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I'm sure it does.
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Right.
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But not to the same degree.
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Not to the same degree because in the United States it is that focus of personal fulfillment, personal happiness, uh, and feelings.
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And life just does not.
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Work that way.
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Okay.
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There's hard things people go through in life and just because you have a feeling does not mean it dictates the rest of your decisions, right?
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You've got a lot of emotionally dysregulated people running around all over the United States.
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Trying to date is part of what's going on, and again, it's just immature, but I, but I wanted to to point that out because that was one of the things.
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That I was gonna talk about, and I'll give some examples of where this, um, immaturity shows up when it comes to dating and, uh, relationships.
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So one of the areas in which it shows up is that women don't realize that they are attracting men who are attracted, who are a reciprocal of who they are, which I talked about this momentarily, right?
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So if you are dealing with men who are children.
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I promise you that you are not living that much in your feminine energy.
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I'm not gonna get too deep into what feminine energy is right now because I don't have time.
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It'll give you a really good rundown of what feminine energy is and how to, um, talk to men based on their own psychology.
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'cause that's the other thing is like women.
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A lot of times in the United States, the narrative is blame men for your problems.
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Blame the patriarchy for your problems.
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I'm like.
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Girl, what if you just work on you?
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Because if you work on you, your experience of men is going to change and you're going to realize that you've probably been bamboozled a little bit.
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And again, a lot of women on this channel are, are waking up to that.
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So again, it's this and that goes back to the immaturity, right?
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Where it's like, oh, it's based on my feelings and what I feel like doing in that moment.
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If I feel, and I used to see this all the time when I was coaching women, uh, in business, by the way, I did used to see this sometimes where it's like, well, I don't feel like doing my marketing today.
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I just don't feel.
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Like it, and I'm like, girl, it doesn't matter whether you feel like it or not, you gotta go do it.
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Uh, because otherwise you don't have a business, uh, is kind of a thing.
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Now, I'm not saying that if you genuinely feel ill or don't feel well, that you just have to push through it.
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I'm talking about just like normal stuff.
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There's like normal, uh, daily activities that everybody has to do that a lot of women would just be like, I just don't.
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Feel like it today.
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It just doesn't make me happy, girl.
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Sometimes you gotta do things that don't make you happy, okay?
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Like it's that simple.
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Um, that's called maturity.
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And when if you wanna attract a healthy, masculine, mature man, you have to be, become mature within yourself.
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Okay?
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That's how this works because, uh, like attracts like, that's how it works.
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Okay, so then the other thing that I wanna talk about, an area that I see online a lot, and I've even seen it in the comment section here sometimes that is definitely gonna keep women single, is this idea where women do not understand the difference between building a man and supporting a man.
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Okay.
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We don't want to build men, and I will go into what that looks like.
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But if you wanna be married, you will be supporting a man and he will be supporting you.
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That's how it works.
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But a lot of women don't understand the difference between these two words because we live in a society where people.
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Don't use nuance anymore, they just see like a 32nd clip that was probably made from AI and then make a bunch of assumptions that aren't even true.
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That's what most people do.
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'cause again, we're running around totally emotionally dysregulated for a lot of reasons and just getting dopamine hits and reacting to everything around us.
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So I want to kind of dispel this, right?
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You want to avoid men that you have to build.
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Okay.
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Men that you have to build is men who are too young for you.
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Let's start there.
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Right?
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It, because right men, up until like their forties or fifties, they're, they're, they're in a grinding stage right now.
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It's different if a man is in his thirties and he has a career and he knows where he's going and he has skills, right?
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Like my husband's, my husband and I are both in our thirties, right?
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So my husband's in a grind stage.
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Um, that's normal.
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For a man in his thirties to be in a grind stage, it's normal right now.
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If he's under that age, he may not know up from down where he's going left from, right?
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Like all this kind of stuff, right?
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So if you're getting with men who are too young, then you're getting with men that you're going to have to build.
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You're getting with men who you are going to have to teach.
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A lot of you are tired of in the comments.
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Be like, I gotta teach'em everything.
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Okay, well it might have something to do with that.
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Now there is this other piece of it, right, where men will mature, um, at different times.
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My husband's really mature for being 30 something because of, because he decided to, right?
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He decided to go do personal development work.
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He decided to go do spiritual work.
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He decided to do all this stuff before he and I had ever even met.
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So my husband has been through the, uh, maturity of actually being a masculine man.
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A lot of men out here have not, and you have to learn how to discern between men who are mature and men who are not.
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And what happens a lot of times is that these independent women who don't need no man end up with men that they have to build.
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And this is for a few reasons.
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Number one, they think they can just.
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Fuck anybody, right?
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Like, I'm gonna have to put a bleep here.
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Right?
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That's number one in the name of a freedom.
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They think they can do that.
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Number two, they're like, oh, we're, we're equal.
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So none of this stuff matters, right?
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So that's another reason why, and number three, men who need a mommy are going to be attracted to women who are hyper independent.
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That's how this is going to work because it's about a reciprocal, uh, in this situation, right?
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So by nature you will be attracting very immature men, men who have not done the work on themselves, and quite frankly, have no interest in doing the work on themselves.
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And then you're there being the mommy building him up.
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Right, and being like, oh, why don't you go start this business?
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Why don't you go do that?
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You know what?
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I'll pay all the bills.
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It doesn't really matter.
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I've seen so many high achieving women do this who are like the very hyper independent, high achieving run businesses, all that kind of stuff.
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And then they are shocked when they find out that other high achieving women, such as myself, are not out here paying bills because their husbands are the ones paying the bills.
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And then they're like, wait a minute.
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I'm paying for all my husband's bills.
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And then they start going like, whoa, well what is actually going on out here?
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Like y'all, like the, the famous TikTok that went around about the women who were like, went to their husbands and they were like, babe, I don't have money for the mortgage.
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And the masculine men were like, girl, you haven't paid for a Morg, the mortgage and.
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Years.
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Like, what?
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What do you mean you don't have your half, um, of the mortgage?
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Or men being like, girl, don't worry about it, baby.
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Don't worry about it.
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That's on me.
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That's what the masculine men were saying.
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And then the bitch ass men, the men that someone have to build, which is the one that the hyper independent women usually end up with because it's, it's polar.
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It's the magnet.
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Right?
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It's the polarity.
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Those dudes were like, go get a job.
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Right.
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Those dudes were like.
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Well, I don't even know who we pay rent to.
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You're the one who takes care of that.
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I don't even know how, who the mortgage company, um, is.
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And then they were just putting more burden, more burden, more burden, um, on a woman.
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And then there was a TikTok that went viral of a woman, right?
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Who was like, wait a minute, I didn't even know about this 50 50 stuff.
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I've been paying 100% of my partner's bills.
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Light bill, uh, cell phone bill.
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That's what building a man is right?
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Building a man is what happens when you end up with a little boy and when you end up with a little boy.
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Most of the hyper independent women, they attract little boys, so that's one of the things that you need to know.
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Now, supporting a man, supporting a mature masculine man is a totally different thing.
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Okay, you are married, you are ING together.
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You are building assets together.
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You are lifeing, you are managing a household together.
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If you have kids, you're raising kids together, obviously that you are going to be supporting each other, but what happens is a lot of women.
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See support as submissive, right?
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And then they don't even understand what submissive is.
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That's a whole other conversation.
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They don't even understand what it is to be submissive, right?
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They think that being submissive and supporting a man is being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.
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That's what they think it is.
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That's not what it is, and I'll have to do another.
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Video breaking that down.
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But that's another one of the mindset shifts that women have to make if they plan on actually being with a man.
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And not just being with a man, but being with a man that they don't have to raise.
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That's the key thing here.
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Now, if you're supporting a man, for example, my husband, right?
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He has businesses, right?
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He's got his relocation business, he's managing properties here on, on, the condo that we live in, he's got a hosting business.
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He does business consulting.
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My husband does a lot.
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Right?
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So what happens sometimes, well, here's a really clear example.
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Sometimes we've got an Airbnb booking for one of the properties that he manages.
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And I remember this was happening because the owners gave us the, gave him the property like.
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A day before we had a booking.
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Um, and basically what happened, my husband,, our house helper and myself, right, had to go to the other house and deep clean it.
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Before the first guests arrived.
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Now one of these dumb ass feminist women who don't understand the difference between support and building would be like, oh, I'm not a maid.
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I'm not this, I'm not that.
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And I'm like, girl, this is a family.
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Okay, if we, if the whole family needs to start.
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Working right to make sure that the money's coming in and that the guests are gonna be good and that my husband's business is going to be good, then that's what I'm gonna go do.
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But that's what a mature woman does.
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That is not what immature women do.
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And there's a huge difference, right?
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Like my husband's got that going.
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I just go in as a support system when we need to do it.
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Because sometimes you could have one booking that's done, for example, and then the next day there's a new guest coming in.
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Well, somebody's gotta go over there and clean it.
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And the somebo, if we can't get our housekeeper over here, in time's gonna be me and my husband, those who the somebodies are going to be, right.
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So that is a.
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A, a practical, um, uh, way of looking at this right now.
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The other thing to keep in mind is you have to be clear on who it is that you wanna marry.
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And I think a lot of times what happens with women is they believe that if a man is not already a multimillionaire, then he just must not be worth it because he's not going to provide for her and she doesn't wanna support him.
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That's part of what goes on, and this is very frustrating to men, even high achieving men.
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This is very frustrating to them, right?
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Because at the end of the day, all these men are building and grinding.
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For you.
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And that's what a lot of women don't understand.
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So my husband works his ass off for, well, for himself too.
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But for me and our future, my husband this morning was telling me things like, Hey, I'm gonna try and do this over here, um, with the business because I want X amount of money coming in.
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And that way we can start investing in real estate.
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We can start doing this over here.
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He's future minded, he's future focused, right?
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That is not a man that you have to build.
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Because he's already got the plan.
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That's a man that you will support as he executes on the plan for the whole family.
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For you included.
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He's doing it for you, girl.
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He's doing it for you.
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I need women to understand this about men.
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He's doing it for you.
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Most women don't realize that, and most women don't understand how powerful they are because most women have been told all this type of bullshit, like the author pointed out in this article.
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Now building a man is, he's got no direction.
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He's got no plan.
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He doesn't know where he's going.
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He doesn't have skill sets that can make money.
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By the time I met my husband, he'd already had six figure businesses, right?
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And a lot of people out here will be like, oh, well you guys work together, right?
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Or You support him.
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So that's not really him providing, again, this is very immature because this comes from women who think that the only way to be provided for is by a multimillionaire.
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It's from women who think that they're never going to have to support a man in anything.
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And the thing is that if you're married and you're married for a long time, you're gonna be supporting each other on a lot of things.
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On a lot of things.
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It's a two-way street and it's mutual.
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The problem is, again, most women think that supporting a man is either raising a man child, which means you got with an immature man, period.
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End of story.
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You did not get with a mature masculine man.
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You didn't even know how to look.
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For a mature masculine man, which is one of the reasons why this channel exists, is to help y'all make sense of this stuff.
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Number two.
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When they get with the immature man, they stay with him for too long.
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Right?
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That's a mistake.
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I've heard from a lot of you that you're with men who wanna go 50 50 on everything and you're with them for years, right?
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And these are not men that you're even married to, by the way, if you're married, this is another conversation.
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You made vows.
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I'm talking about men that you're just dating and you're with these dudes for years because you're like, oh, he'll turn around.
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He will turn around.
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He will decide, and I will be the woman who changed him.
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That is building a man.
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Okay?
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That is what actually building a man is as if you get with a dude and all he has is potential and you're like, I'm the woman who will change him, or the other one.
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He's like, he's a bad boy.
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And then you think, oh, he's gonna change for me and I'm going to be that woman that is building a man because you don't know what to look for in terms of what a healthy masculine man is, and that is not the same as supporting a man.
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I like to cook for my husband.
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I enjoy it, right?
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'cause he works his ass off to make sure that we've got money coming in that we're preparing for our future.
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This man thinks so big in terms of what he wants to create for businesses and things like that, and he works so hard that I'm like, yes, I will go make you.
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A meal so that you don't have to worry about what it is that you're eating.
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Now, a lot of people will be like, oh, but that's you raising a man.
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No, it's not.
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We all gotta eat.
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Okay?
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Okay.
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It's not that deep people gotta eat, but again, that's what immature.
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Women believe, and these immature women oftentimes are going to fall into that hyper independent trap.
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And when you fall into the hyper independent trap, you are going to attract man children.
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And that's why you think that all men out here are man children, because that's what you attract.
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And the reason why you attract it is because.
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You're a hyper independent and to masculine men, they don't like hyper independent women'cause it's like dating another man.
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So I just wanted to come on and talk about this, uh, quickly.
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'cause I, I saw this on social media starting to circulate again.
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I think it's really interesting and I think ultimately at the end of the day.
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A lot of the misconceptions that women have about these things really just come down to the fact that in the United States we've created a very immature society.
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And again, I can tell you this, from living in other countries and traveling, uh, with my husband's business.
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Yeah.
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I remember having one class here in Mexico.
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We were training, uh, with one of our meditation teachers, were doing some trainings and we were doing an abundance class.
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This is a perfect example, right?
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And, um, they showed examples of people in the United States.
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At Walmart having tantrums grown adults having tantrums in Walmart in the United States.
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I'm not kidding.
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Because a lot of what they were talking about, which is a lot of what I talk about on this channel is regulating your emotions.
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In order to attract abundance, a relationship, anything that you want, you gotta learn how to regulate your nervous system and regulate your emotions.
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So they were giving examples of what dysregulated people looked like.
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It was grown as adults in the United States in Walmart throwing full on tran tantrums like their two years old.
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And a lot of our Mexican friends,'cause we were the only Americans in the group, a lot of our Mexican friends looked at us and they said, uh, we don't mean to be offensive, but uh, why are Americans so, and they were trying to find the word to not offend us and we're like soft.
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It's that the word you're looking for?
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Little bitches?
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Is that the word you're looking for?
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Immature.
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Got the tick, tick, boom.
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And they were like, yeah, we just didn't wanna be mean.
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And we're like, you're, you're not gonna be mean.
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We left for a reason.
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We started traveling and living in other countries for a reason, girl.
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'cause uh, we saw the, the fabric of society in the United States falling apart um, and people just based on their feelings then act however they wanna act.
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And of course that's gonna create a crisis in dating and.
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And relationships.
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So I just wanted to leave it, uh, there for now.
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'cause I find it really fascinating.
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Um, and it's very helpful to you guys as well.
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