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When Does She Sleep?! - POPULAR RADIO HOST - TIFFANY HOBBS · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club, where being a
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host, Monica Samuels,
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  Speaker 1: and I am here today with my co host Lisa Morris.
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  Speaker 1: Hello Lisa, Lisa, as Lisa is you know, my regular
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  Speaker 1: co host is Julie Orchid. She is not with me
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  Speaker 1: in a Los Angeles to day. Lisa is my sister.
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  Speaker 1: And here's how Lisa got this coveted role as my
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  Speaker 1: co host today when Julie couldn't make it. Lisa was
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  Speaker 1: a zoomer mom frequently on the show, and I always
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  Speaker 1: had this rule that I explained to everyone, you get
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  Speaker 1: one question because we're limited on time sometimes unless I say,
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  Speaker 1: what do you have another question? Of course, and Lisa
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  Speaker 1: just could never help herself if we turned it over
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  Speaker 1: to her, then she just started asking a lot of questions.
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  Speaker 1: So I said, you know, we need a co host here,
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  Speaker 1: and Julie is not going to be able to join us,
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  Speaker 1: So well, here we go. Now you've already you've already
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  Speaker 1: made your way into the co host chair, So don't
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  Speaker 1: get any bright ideas that you're going to move over here,
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  Speaker 1: because that's where we're getting to draw the line on ball.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well you know I'm always second place.
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  Speaker 1: No, Oh, she's okay, she's a middle child with her Yes, Well.
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  Speaker 3: It's only because you know she was always the smart
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  Speaker 3: is the smartest sister.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm the most fun.
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  Speaker 3: So it just depends on what you're going to put
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  Speaker 3: as important, right well, which is why I made a
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  Speaker 3: great third grade teacher, because you don't have to be
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  Speaker 3: that smart to teach third grade. They're going to hear
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  Speaker 3: it again again. I always told myself, this is not
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  Speaker 3: the last time they're going to hear this.
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  Speaker 2: So it's okay, they're not quite good.
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  Speaker 3: But yes, I'm very inquisitive, and I always think of
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  Speaker 3: something else I want to know.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I hope for all of you moms out there
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  Speaker 1: who are third grade teachers, just know that we we
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  Speaker 1: do think you're smart.
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  Speaker 4: Wasn't what.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure you are. That's why she's retired as
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  Speaker 2: I don't do it anymore.
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  Speaker 1: She's not doing something else.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I am still with kids and still with schools.
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  Speaker 1: You're now in sales.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I work in educational travel. So if you're a
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  Speaker 2: student gets invited.
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  Speaker 3: To go to Washington, DC with their teacher, you should
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  Speaker 3: let them go. It's really you know, it's such a
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  Speaker 3: growing experience.
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  Speaker 1: You should especially let them go. If Lisa's your account manager.
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  Speaker 2: Now gets credit I'm your salesperson, yes, because.
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  Speaker 1: Then she gets to go to Mexico on vacation at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the year. But she's got to go
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  Speaker 1: every year, so she's really good at so. But that
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  Speaker 1: so you went from one career from teacher to it.
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  Speaker 3: Was a good segue because I get to work with
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  Speaker 3: teachers in schools still, and I also understand what it's
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  Speaker 3: like to be in the classroom or what it's like
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  Speaker 3: to work with the principles and kind of a lot
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  Speaker 3: of teachers are hesitant. They're like, I don't wanna my
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  Speaker 3: principal won't let me, And I understand sometimes they won't
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  Speaker 3: and I don't push them like some people and be
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  Speaker 3: like who cares what your principal thinks.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't want to get you fired over
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  Speaker 2: a trip. It's not that good.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, it's it's it's really.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of fun. And they really really loved because
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  Speaker 2: teachers are big into the aha moment.
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  Speaker 3: You want to see that yourself, and this is.
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  Speaker 2: A way to see it in the field, like you're actually, well.
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  Speaker 1: You're a good salesperson. That's very good. Well, I feel
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  Speaker 1: very honored today that I am I'm sitting between today
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  Speaker 1: two teachers. I mean, I feel very honored. I'm sitting
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  Speaker 1: I'm sitting next to a very smart teacher. Yes, and
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  Speaker 1: evidently a very like subpar not smart. So I mean,
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  Speaker 1: like what an honor today.
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  Speaker 3: But the students loved to let me what reduce our
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  Speaker 3: guest because she too.
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  Speaker 1: She's a special ed teacher and she's also a radio personality.
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  Speaker 1: She appears on K six forty. She has one of
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  Speaker 1: the top radio shows there and she's the host of
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  Speaker 1: the very popular Saturdays with Tiffany, which streams online from
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  Speaker 1: five to seven on iHeartRadio. Please join me in welcoming
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  Speaker 1: Tiffany Hobbs. Welcome to the club.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you, very much the aha moment, right Personifi,
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  Speaker 4: there we go. Aha, thank you for having me. I
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  Speaker 4: really appreciate it. I enjoy what you do as a platform,
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  Speaker 4: and I'm just grateful to be a part.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you for yes, thank you for being
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  Speaker 1: with us. So you teach eighth and ninth grade special edge.
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  Speaker 4: I do special education for students who have learning challenges
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  Speaker 4: that are usually closely connected to some sort of behavioral
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  Speaker 4: challenge as well emotional disturbance. So I have the kids
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  Speaker 4: who unfortunately don't farewell in the public setting and then
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  Speaker 4: have been given this alternative setting to be able to
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  Speaker 4: recoup what they've lost to re engage with their learning.
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  Speaker 4: So it's a challenging group. I've taught public, I've taught
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  Speaker 4: elementary and high school. This by far is my favorite group.
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  Speaker 4: I am clearly insane that I love eighth and ninth
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  Speaker 4: graders anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we love people that love eighth and ninth graders. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we find some moms out there fine that once their
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  Speaker 1: children get to that age, they're happy to send them
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  Speaker 1: off to school.
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  Speaker 4: You're looking for the tree seat to send them backslutely
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  Speaker 4: don't give you.
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  Speaker 3: The same feedback than in elementary school. I used to say,
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  Speaker 3: I'm a star in my classroom, but when the middle
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  Speaker 3: school teachers, it's not cool to be fawning over your
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  Speaker 3: teacher as much.
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  Speaker 4: So you know, I fortunately experience the opposite in my
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  Speaker 4: class My kids are too close to me, They love
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  Speaker 4: me too much. They know I'm here today and they
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  Speaker 4: are looking forward to listening in later when I play
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  Speaker 4: the podcast in the classroom. So you know, like I said,
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  Speaker 4: I'm very fortunate to have this group of kids.
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  Speaker 1: So how did you get How did you go into radio?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, teacher, you're doing this and how do you
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  Speaker 1: do both?
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  Speaker 4: Well, you know, talking is talking right, talking in front
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  Speaker 4: of a classroom, I am speaking on a microphone, and
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  Speaker 4: they are very similar, required similar skills. You got to
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  Speaker 4: hook people and you got to keep their attention. But
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  Speaker 4: as far as how I got into radio, I started
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  Speaker 4: doing radio right out of college. I went to USC
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  Speaker 4: and I didn't do radio at my university, but after
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  Speaker 4: I was linked with people who were doing college radio,
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  Speaker 4: so I was a featured segment. I would go on
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  Speaker 4: and do little side hosting or fill in gigs, and
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  Speaker 4: then it just transformed. I did podcasting. Then I was
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  Speaker 4: asked to come in many years later to work at
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  Speaker 4: iHeart and KFI to do a weekly segment with one
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  Speaker 4: of the hosts, Moe Kelly, who has the Latter with
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  Speaker 4: mo Kelly Show from Monday to Friday on KFI. And
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  Speaker 4: so that weekly segment, after about a year and a half,
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  Speaker 4: actually a little bit less about a year, blossomed into
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  Speaker 4: my own opportunity with hosting on the weekend and also
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  Speaker 4: filling in for hosts on the weekdays, and it then
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  Speaker 4: transformed into me having my own show on Saturdays. So
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  Speaker 4: it does require a lot of time management. I work
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  Speaker 4: Monday through Friday teaching, and as you know, that is
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  Speaker 4: a very labor intensive job. You're not off, but because
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  Speaker 4: it's something that I love, it doesn't feel like work,
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  Speaker 4: and neither does radio.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. Well, you're very you're very fortunate that you can
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  Speaker 1: manage both of those, because that's not easy. It's not
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  Speaker 1: so Well, let's go back to the teaching piece. Are
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  Speaker 1: you teaching during COVID?
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  Speaker 4: I was. I was like I taught a private pod
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  Speaker 4: of kindergarteners. I was teaching elementary at the time, and
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  Speaker 4: our school went online, it went virtual, and at the
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  Speaker 4: time I just wasn't really I didn't really too much
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  Speaker 4: care for the structure that was set up at the
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  Speaker 4: school I was at, and I was looking for an out.
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  Speaker 4: To be honest, this was the perfect way to move on.
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  Speaker 4: And so when I left, I was contracted by a
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  Speaker 4: private company to do excuse me, to do pot teaching
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  Speaker 4: with this elementary school, which I did for the entirety
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  Speaker 4: of that twenty twenty one school year. It was a
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  Speaker 4: converted garage in Redondo Beach. We called it the Little
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  Speaker 4: school House on Avenue E, and we had all of
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  Speaker 4: everything that we could need, and it was a full
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  Speaker 4: curriculum and it was in person, so these kindergarteners who
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  Speaker 4: needed that social interaction as did I. To be honest,
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  Speaker 4: we got what we needed and I was able to
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  Speaker 4: provide that education for them. Now those kids are in
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  Speaker 4: fifth grade, and I know it is insane, and I
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  Speaker 4: have been told by their parents that they are at
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  Speaker 4: the top of their class and they attribute that to kindergarten.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's good, and it's good you got to do
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  Speaker 1: it in person, because I've heard all the nightmare stories
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  Speaker 1: about the whole zoom learning, especially with little kids, and
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  Speaker 1: occasionally it was their parents that were part of the problem.
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  Speaker 1: Like yes, wandering in and out painting him a bowl
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  Speaker 1: of cereal or like, not treating it like school.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, it was very structure, very unconventional, unprecedented times, is
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  Speaker 4: what we say. And the fact that these children were
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  Speaker 4: being asked to adapt, We were asking things that adults
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  Speaker 4: weren't able to do, so to be able to provide
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  Speaker 4: some sort of normalcy for them just wasn't honor. It
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  Speaker 4: was an absolute honor.
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  Speaker 3: I would say so, because you know, there's so much
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  Speaker 3: in the littler kids. It's just actually seeing their facial expressions,
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  Speaker 3: how they're sitting, had that where if they're getting what
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  Speaker 3: you're doing and if you're on a screen, for you
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  Speaker 3: to analyze it to that level is really impossible. And
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  Speaker 3: I bet that's why they're at the top of their
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  Speaker 3: class because they got to have that kind of education
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  Speaker 3: with such a wonderful teacher. Thank you you are very
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  Speaker 3: They were very.
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  Speaker 2: Blessed, they were, and I was.
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  Speaker 4: I got a lot from that interaction and I keep
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  Speaker 4: in touch with them. I look forward to the Christmas
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  Speaker 4: cards and the announcements every year.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, that is that is great.
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  Speaker 3: So in your schooling that you teach, now, are you
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  Speaker 3: in an alternative school? Environment is that where you teach
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  Speaker 3: at the intel an alternative school. Do you have just
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  Speaker 3: certain hours so you to do this radio thing, you
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  Speaker 3: must have to You don't have to be there eight
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  Speaker 3: hours and then do this?
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  Speaker 1: Or do you?
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  Speaker 4: I do? I do. I am required. I am contracted
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  Speaker 4: through Los Angeles Unified School District to provide the full
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  Speaker 4: day of curriculum. And then when I leave, I go
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  Speaker 4: home and I work on school related things and I
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  Speaker 4: also plan my radio show for Saturday and my weekly
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  Speaker 4: segment on Wednesdays. And so time management as a teacher
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  Speaker 4: is something that is drilled in, yes, and I drill
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  Speaker 4: into my students as well. And I have to adopt
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  Speaker 4: those same ideologies so that I can be successful. But
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  Speaker 4: it takes a lot, and I do have to make
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  Speaker 4: time for myself, you know, to do the things that
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  Speaker 4: are outside of both of those careers. But it's a
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  Speaker 4: balance that I again, I love. I feel so fortunate.
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  Speaker 4: People really want the opportunities that I've been given and
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  Speaker 4: I don't take them lightly or for granted, so I
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  Speaker 4: don't want to swander them or do them kind of
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  Speaker 4: half out. So I give my all. It does result
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  Speaker 4: in some exhaustion. I'll be honest, but I but I
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  Speaker 4: definitely reserve the time for myself to be able to
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  Speaker 4: kind of rejuvenate. Sundays are my day.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, when is your time for yourself?
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  Speaker 1: One to three A.
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  Speaker 4: Definitely that I'm a night out for sure.
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  Speaker 1: What kind of support to teachers get like that? It's
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  Speaker 1: a pretty intensive job, it is, and I mean the
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  Speaker 1: fact that you're doing another job on top of it
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  Speaker 1: that in a second, But how do you feel like
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  Speaker 1: they're supported enough or what's no?
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  Speaker 4: Oh god, no, that's a lot of quitting.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: After COVID there was a huge drobe of them that
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  Speaker 3: just left the profession, especially the older ones that had
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  Speaker 3: no idea how to use a smart bolle yeah technology,
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  Speaker 3: they're like, oh this is just too much, absolutely, and
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  Speaker 3: then they don't have enough.
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  Speaker 2: So they've got bigger classrooms.
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  Speaker 3: But you probably have a bigger class size than you
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  Speaker 3: may have expected.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, and it's it's fluid. My class size
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  Speaker 4: is because we admitt all year, so I could have
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  Speaker 4: anywhere from ten to sixteen students because it's an alternative
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  Speaker 4: setting a special education, so I don't have the full
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  Speaker 4: class size afford it to public schooling or even for
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  Speaker 4: other private schools, but the support that we get at
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  Speaker 4: my school is very unique. It's a family run business.
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  Speaker 4: They've been in operation for to forty three years now,
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  Speaker 4: and they have built their business on support of the teachers,
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  Speaker 4: of the staff, of the families of the students. So
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  Speaker 4: I feel very enveloped with support and love and affirmation.
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  Speaker 4: I can't say the same for other schools I've worked at,
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  Speaker 4: which is why I am here, and I love this
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  Speaker 4: particular school. But overall, teachers as a whole, oh no,
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  Speaker 4: there is a huge lack of support, and like you said,
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  Speaker 4: it really speaks to the poor retention of teachers and
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  Speaker 4: this turnover, this high turnover rate. It's because teachers do
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  Speaker 4: not feel underappreciated, they feel overworked. All those are adages
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  Speaker 4: that are often said, but they're true. I don't think
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  Speaker 4: you'd be getting so many people saying the same thing
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  Speaker 4: across the board nationally if it weren't true. So teachers
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  Speaker 4: need that support, and they need to still feel like
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  Speaker 4: a whole person, not that their lives are just indebted
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  Speaker 4: to the classroom. I have that balance. Like I said,
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  Speaker 4: it is a unique situation. I have not always had that,
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  Speaker 4: and I feel for educators who are navigating that struggle.
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  Speaker 3: So, as a parent, then as a mom, and I'm
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  Speaker 3: taking my kid into the classroom.
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  Speaker 2: Do you what would advice would you give us to
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  Speaker 2: support the teachers, because.
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  Speaker 1: I've heard a lot of the problems are the parents. Yes, oh,
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  Speaker 1: don't be the problem.
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  Speaker 4: Parents love their children and they want what's best and
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  Speaker 4: that is not always separated from emotion, or emotion comes
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  Speaker 4: into play. I should say a lot more than maybe
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  Speaker 4: logic should at times, or deferring to the experties of
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  Speaker 4: the educators, but it really does take that village idea,
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  Speaker 4: and so that you are even asking what could parents
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  Speaker 4: or what can parents do? Is just a testament to
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  Speaker 4: your own empathy, and I thank you for that. First
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  Speaker 4: and foremost, donate Kleenex and lifesol wipes. We need lifesawwise
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  Speaker 4: and Kleenex and copy paper. Oh my gosh. Once you
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  Speaker 4: get that down, just check in with the with the staff,
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  Speaker 4: check in with the teachers. Be a present parent. Parents
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  Speaker 4: who start strong and then fade, we don't like those.
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  Speaker 4: We want parents who are present, who are not over
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  Speaker 4: encroaching and not trying to rule the classroom, but who
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  Speaker 4: make their presence known, who want to be involved who
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  Speaker 4: want to have those check ins about where their student
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  Speaker 4: is because that's the way that we can check that
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  Speaker 4: progress and possibly implement new strategies. So just being present
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  Speaker 4: and being communicative is a huge thing. Also, respect ding
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  Speaker 4: the hours of operation. Don't text the teacher at ten
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  Speaker 4: pm asking about homework. Don't text at eight pm I'm
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  Speaker 4: asking about tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: I was one of those.
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  Speaker 4: You know, that's better than the parent who doesn't check in.
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  Speaker 4: And also I feel better boundaries are important.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, I know that's true.
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  Speaker 4: Respecting it now you are probably.
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  Speaker 1: You're one in a million. I don't know of any
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  Speaker 1: other teacher in America, and I could be wrong if
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  Speaker 1: you're that teacher in America who has an extremely successful
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  Speaker 1: popular radio show on top of being a teacher. But
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that's extraordinary. It is, so tell me it's hard.
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  Speaker 1: I can imagine if I had a radio show like that,
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  Speaker 1: even doing you know, the what you do? You have
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  Speaker 1: to prepare for it, because I'm doing to your show.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like, okay, well we just had the World Series.
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  Speaker 1: And not only does Tiffany tell you it's the World Series,
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  Speaker 1: she tells you, like the four plays into the third inning,
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  Speaker 1: this happened. I mean, it's like a very detailed kind
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  Speaker 1: of thing. You have to keep up with all of
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  Speaker 1: that you do, and so how do you prepare for that?
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  Speaker 4: Oh goodness. I have a wonderful producer. Kayla Austin is
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  Speaker 4: my producer, and she really just is my backbone. She
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  Speaker 4: brings me relevant articles and information that I then can
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  Speaker 4: weave into my show. We work very well together. I
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  Speaker 4: pull things, she pulls things, and all of those all
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  Speaker 4: of those topics are relevant to what our listenership is
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  Speaker 4: interested in. It keeps people abreast of local news, national news,
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  Speaker 4: things that you might not know. And while it is challenging,
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  Speaker 4: it is challenging to kind of, you know, really kind
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  Speaker 4: of parse through. There's so much information that we're in
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  Speaker 4: information overload, right, It makes for a very fun and
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  Speaker 4: exciting experience. I get a thrill out of creating my
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  Speaker 4: show and being able to kind of put the topics
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  Speaker 4: in you know, a format. I love it. But I again,
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: i'd be remiss if I didn't attribute a lot of
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: the success of the show to my producer.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Yes, I feel the same way about my producer, Laurie D. Muslow,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: who's not.
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: With us today.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: But you're actually, their producers are very, very important. We're well,
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: for example, this week we're from Dallas, and so I
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: imagine that you'll be talking about does anybody bring any
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: clean next to this show? By the way, I mean,
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: I'm so upset that I really, I really had to
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: pull it all.
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: Together to get up for Jasper today.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know that I'll ever be the same.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: Like, honest, we can stop talking about it. But watch
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: some MAVs for Lucas me too.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: I don't care now.
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: I mean, just like the Taylor Swift fans are for
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: the Chief.
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: Yes, I am the fans MAVs. So I don't know,
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: this is very traumatic.
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: I'm sure.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: I'm just throwing the towel. And you know what, I've
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: just got to be a Los Angeles fan all the
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: way around.
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: Don't you go jumping that you stay loyal?
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: Well, hey, the Dodgers, THEAK I.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: Love how she says it that way. The Dodgers, the Lakers.
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: Dallas, all of our teams go nowhere, and we still
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: act like they're going to do something.
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: You know, your poor cowboys and poor cowboys everybody. Let
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: at least they're consistent.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true, that's true. So we're very we're very
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: happy for you.
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, you can tell you you're being honest about
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: that one genuine.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: Sess that I got into this topic to get.
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: You know, it's funny really quick. I saw today on
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: social media a wedding party that was stopped while the
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: announcement about Luca was made. They were in the reception
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: getting ready to do the dance, and the groom found
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: out that Luca was traded there in Dallas, and they
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: stopped the entire wedding. The music cut. It was like
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: something out of a TV show, and the entire wedding
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: party and guests just went completely ballistics. I understand.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: Do you know how we feel?
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: I know how you feel, yes, except that you're gonna
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: I'm a Clipper fan. I'm a Clipper fan. I have
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: a dog in the fight. Okay, well I'm used to pay.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: Yes, so your show, so we can go anywhere from Yay.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: We just scored the biggest trade in history to like
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: the fires in LA I mean, you guys have been
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: through like talk about ups and downs of a community. Yeah,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: I was at a dinner party, speaking of trading people.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: I was at a dinner party the other night in
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: my neighborhood, and it's like, oh, all these people are
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: moving here from the Palisades, more people again from California
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: or coming to Austin.
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: Yes, because they lost.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Everything and they just they're tired of, you know, what's
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: happening here.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: If they were, if if people were already on the
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: fence about their loyalty to California, this was the final straw,
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: not just the tragedy of the fires, but the political
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: climate as well for people deciding, you know, I don't
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: necessarily want to stay in this state anymore. I'm looking
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: for something different. And so there's been kind of a
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: it's suggested that there is a wave of people are
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: there's a wave of people who are leaving, and that
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: that could continue, and Texas is one of the foremost places.
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: Arizona is another, and then they're going up north as well,
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: into Washington and Oregon. But yeah, the fires were on
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: the brink of again. I used the word unprecedented earlier,
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: but an unprecedented tragedy, the costliest in our history, one
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: of the worst natural disasters in the United States ever,
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: and we report on that. We've been talking at nauseum
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: about that. This week, I plan to talk about the
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: mobile home park that went up in flames. Unfortunately, it
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: was a little slice of heaven, people said, and affordable
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: living right on peace with beautiful views, and their entire
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: community burned to the ground save for one mobile home
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: of the one hundred and sixty or so. And I
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: have a good friend of mine who was interviewed by
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: the La Times. His name is Alec Edwards. He is
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: a fire captain who was off that day and he
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: stayed behind as he sent his wife and toddler daughter
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: to safety. He stayed behind to try and fight for
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: that mobile home park, and sadly he was just outrun
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: by the flames. So that's something we talk about. Human
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: interest stories are everything, and people want to connect to
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: the material, and this has been just a really sad
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: opportunity to connect to people. But we've also seen a
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: lot of humanity, a lot of the best of humanity
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: with donations and with sympathy and people coming together to
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: support one another from the Palisades to Altadena, sharing their
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: stories and just really making this a collective experience, not
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: something that is just relegated for those who have unfortunately
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: become victimized by it. We're all in this together, so
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: to speak.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: And there are some there are some stories you don't
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: even think about. Like we interviewed a mother and daughter
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: who had won Grammys and so they lost their home
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: in the fire. And I talked to her, the daughter
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: a week ago, and she was she had the flu
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: that day and so she was sick and they're calling her,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: You've got to get out of the house, and she said,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: you decide, like, what am I going to take? I
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: have some sick I have ten minutes to figure it out.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: And she said, I took my I said, well, do
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: they replace Grammys and Oscars and Emmys if they get burned.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: She said, yes, they do, Yeah, they do.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: But she said, I took my Grammys with me, but
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: my mom didn't take hers because she said, oh, we'll
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: be back in.
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: Three days, oh man.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: And so everybody you know, but just things like that
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: people don't think about, Like I even my husband and
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: I if we were in that situation, what would we
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: take right It's it relates. It can affect all of us.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: In fact, for those of you thinking of moving to Austin,
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: I learned through all of this that we are the
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: third most likely city to go down with a a.
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: Fire like that.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: We're subject to wildfires too, So are you.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Trying to detract people from coming to.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: That's what it seems like.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: You can come to our shoe by.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: I live an hour outside of there, and it's lovely.
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: Thank you. Cautionary tale.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Austin is lovely and welcoming as well. I just want
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: you to be prepared and think about it.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: But they'll trade an earthquake for a tornado.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well yeah, tornado is a whole.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: That is tright every place to day.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: We were my sister were talking about it. We were
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: sharing with someone that we were talking with about the
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: difference between the weather here and in Texas. And Lisa's like, yeah,
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: there's tornadoes there all that. There's lots of tornadoes and
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: she said, but I've never seen one. I said, Lisa,
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: we were in a tornado.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: Forgot She forgot about it.
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: But we were at DFW Airport.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Yep, I wait, we were sitting at the bar. Well,
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: we just happened to be there, and we were there
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: and there was a TV in front of their CNN
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: says breaking news, there's a heading over df like we're at.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: So we had to get in the bathroom as the shelter. Yeah,
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: and waited out there.
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: In that shelter too.
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: You know, I've not been in that shelter. I've definitely
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: been at that airport, and I was at that airport
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: when there was a tornado. Now, the tornado warning actually
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: was issued while we were in the air We were
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: just taking off, and the pilot says, and I love
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: a window seat. The pilot says, if you're sitting next
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: to the window, look out of your seat on this
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: side of the plane, which happened to be my side,
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: and look down and you'll see the top of the funnel.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: So I look over and I see a funnel cloud,
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: and I'm looking through the top of it into the
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: eye of this tornado. And the Pilot's like, isn't it
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: cool here? Isn't isn't this the best thing ever? And
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: I'm like, no, no, move away, I don't want to
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: see this anymore. But yes, I do enjoy texas.
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: Well.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Wow, you're not only a host of a show, You're
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: a You're and eye witness on the scene.
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: I'm, you know, an amateur meteorologist at this point, you know.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: The big middle of it. Well, Tiffany, we have some
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: moms with us and a daughter today who are our
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: zoomer moms, and they have some questions for you, so
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: please welcome our zoomer moms. Welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: Hi guys, I well, I'm going to introduce each one
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: of you and if you want to tell Tiffany a
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: little bit about yourself and then have a question first. Heather,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 25:43
  Speaker 6: Hello, Hi everybody.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: Hi Heather.
• 25:46
  Speaker 5: I'm actually a realtor in Austin, Texas. So funny so
• 25:48
  Speaker 5: you can talk about moving here. Friends with Juli Orchid.
• 25:52
  Speaker 5: Our children grew up together and well just school together
• 25:55
  Speaker 5: for a brief while. And I have my office is
• 25:58
  Speaker 5: all about Willie Nelson. He's kind of the king of
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: my office. To me, I really enjoyed following you. I
• 26:05
  Speaker 5: followed you on Instagram this weekend to learn more about
• 26:08
  Speaker 5: you and kind of see what you're about. And I'm
• 26:11
  Speaker 5: really interested, like how do you I mean, I know
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: you said you.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Take Sundays for yourself.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: Yes, I you know, I'm a mom.
• 26:18
  Speaker 5: I have a career, I've you know, volunteer, I do
• 26:21
  Speaker 5: all kinds of things and I always feel like I
• 26:22
  Speaker 5: didn't get something done every day, And how do you
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: prioritize that. I mean, what does that look like for you?
• 26:29
  Speaker 5: Because you also work out quite a bit. I mean
• 26:31
  Speaker 5: you've got quite a following as a bodybuilder.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: Oh, I think you might be following someone else because
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: I am not a bodybuilder, but I appreciate that. I
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: aspire to better health for sure. That's something that's a goal.
• 26:45
  Speaker 5: Fake news on Instagram. I am so sorry.
• 26:49
  Speaker 6: I have been following someone.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: I make the whole story about you.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: You're like, she's really interesting. She's different than I thought.
• 26:55
  Speaker 5: I looked at you and I'm like, something is different, right,
• 27:01
  Speaker 5: she thought she was in Okay, So if you were
• 27:04
  Speaker 5: a body.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: What I mean I heard radio is no joke.
• 27:13
  Speaker 5: I mean they are You have to be on your.
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: Game, yes, yes, so again, time management is everything. Uh.
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: And one thing that I've learned now in my forties
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: is to absolve myself of guilt about not completing something
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: on the list. The list is fluid, the list will
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: change day to day, week to week, whatever it may be,
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: whatever increment you're using. And to not beat myself up
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: over the fact that I didn't get to number four
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: or five, or maybe I only got to number one,
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: and that's okay. I think women as it is, whether
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: a mom, I am a stepmom, teacher, radio hosts, real
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: estate agent, whatever it is you may do, we put
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: a lot of importance on the quantity of things we
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: can accomplish and not necessarily the quality. And so I
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: would encourage everyone, and including myself. I'm speaking to myself
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: as well, to again really focus on how well you
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: do the things that you're able to give your time to,
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: and not as much of stretching yourself thin so that
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: you can check off a bunch of boxes. Is having
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: done this, Give yourself credit, Give yourself credit. But when
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: it comes to having some time for yourself, it is
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: imperative that you carve out a couple of hours and
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: that if it's just sitting in your car, you just
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: drive away. Keep the kids with the dad, or if
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: they're old enough to be on their own, or you know,
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: whatever the case. Find some time for yourself. Go sit
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: in your car, go read a book. If you're a
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: doom scroller and you want to scroll the socials, scroll
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: the socials. But whatever it is you like to do,
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: take a walk feet the ducks, workout, not body built.
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: That's not me. I'm not doing that. But whatever it
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: is you like to do, do it without the guilt
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: of thinking that you're not doing something else because you
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: are giving to yourself. That is. That's probably the thing
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: that I have embraced the most, because I do do
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: a lot, and I'm not gonna be able to do
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: a perfect lesson every time with my students, and each
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: one of my radio shows is not going to be flawless.
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: But hey, at least I have them. At least I
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: have the opportunity. You know, at least these kids are
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: getting something. So don't beat yourself.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Up, you know.
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: And I don't know if I'm not suggesting you do
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: do that, but I would say if you have any guilt,
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: to try your best to release that. I hope that
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: doesn't sound hokey, because it is like the most freeing thing.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: I think. That's no. I think that's good advice. In fact,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: I feel better about when I wrote my son's eighth
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: grade English paper telling him that I could get an
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: A because he was having struggling with it, and you
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: ended up getting a B.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna release that, release that guilt.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: He went on to college. It's all good, yeah, But
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: I do like, you know what happens a lot of times,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: is we don't we need to tell our families, I'm
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: gonna take some time for myself. Yeah, I mean I'm
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: literally going to because what happens is you your your
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: husband comes home and he's like, well, what did what
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: have you been doing all day? Well, and then you're
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: give them the list and the list doesn't sound that exciting. Well,
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: I'd go fix the mailbox and then I had to
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: go do this, and then but it's a lot, it's
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: a lot, and so it gets on, it gets to you,
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: and so I think first you got to say I'm
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: going to take the time, yeah, to do.
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: That, absolutely, you know. And and again, women, we put
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: so much pressure on ourselves to do everything, and if
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: we don't do one thing, we're like, dang, I didn't
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: do it, and my day is now ruined or I
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: feel lackluster in some way. And like you said, if
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: you itemize everything we do, oh my gosh, the list
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: is long and it's ever expanding and it puts other
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: lists to shame. And that's just our normal day to
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: day activity. Just as women, everything that we do and
• 31:03
  Speaker 4: how selfless we are. So you have to you have
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: to regain that that part of you that's okay with
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: being a little selfish. It's not selfish in the negative sense.
• 31:14
  Speaker 4: It's doing for yourself, taking care of you.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: What's your favorite thing to do? Since it's not body.
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: Not bodybuilding, but what at all.
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: If you have that time for yourself, what do you
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: like to do?
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: You know, I love long walks on the beach. You know, now,
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: I do love long walks on the beach. But I
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: love to read. I love to read. I don't do
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: nearly as much of it just because of my attention,
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: I end up doing something else. But I love to read.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: I love to be with my dogs. I love to
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: visit my mom. I love to spend time with my partner,
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: my fiance. Museums. We love to just find a museum
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: and walk through. But if it's just me, I am
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: perfectly fine sitting on the couch and watching Netflix. I
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: just started a new series and I'm very happy to
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: sit in front of the TV for two hours and
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: to watch, you know, episode after episode with a nice
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: drink something juice or whatever it may be, but just
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: you know, just to really just kind of veg out
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: and disconnect from everything and just just enjoy.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: I can relate to that. Kim, welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: Tell us a little bit about yourself, and do you
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: have a question for Tiffany?
• 32:25
  Speaker 7: Sure.
• 32:26
  Speaker 6: So I am Kim Coley and I am from North Carolina.
• 32:29
  Speaker 6: So I can completely understand about the fires because we've
• 32:32
  Speaker 6: been dealing with western North Carolina.
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: Yes, the hurricane and.
• 32:38
  Speaker 6: Then the whole political thing. So I got that completely.
• 32:41
  Speaker 7: I feel for you, and I really I first want
• 32:46
  Speaker 7: to go back and just thank you for acknowledging your
• 32:50
  Speaker 7: producer and that it's a team effort.
• 32:54
  Speaker 6: So many times we as women forget the other women
• 32:59
  Speaker 6: that come along and help us, you know, whether it's
• 33:03
  Speaker 6: over the wall or make us look good or or
• 33:06
  Speaker 6: edit our stuff. And I appreciate that about all you
• 33:11
  Speaker 6: do instead of tooting your own horn, you acknowledge that
• 33:15
  Speaker 6: you've got help and you appreciate that, which I think
• 33:20
  Speaker 6: it just when you ingratiate other people, it opens yourself
• 33:25
  Speaker 6: up to receive that back, and so I want to
• 33:29
  Speaker 6: thank you for that, And then I want to.
• 33:32
  Speaker 7: Ask how did you get to decide or come to
• 33:37
  Speaker 7: that these were the people you wanted to spend these
• 33:41
  Speaker 7: years with. How did you decide on this career? Path
• 33:44
  Speaker 7: when obviously you had so many different choices. How did
• 33:49
  Speaker 7: you come to the conclusion you wanted to spend eight
• 33:53
  Speaker 7: hours a day with eight ninth graders.
• 33:59
  Speaker 4: Not easily, but it Teaching is a lot. It is
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: next to parenting. It is probably the most challenging job
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: in the world. And I really truly believe that my
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: school and my students they chose me. When I got there.
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: I had interviewed for the job, I was selected from
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: a pool of applicants. I did the whole process, but
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: once I got in to be able to stay and
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: affect positive change, they had to accept me. So the
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: fact that they accepted me was tantamount to any application process,
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: you know what I mean. So it really does feel
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: like I was chosen and once I earned their respect,
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: we created a culture in the classroom that has carried
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: over year after year, and my students who come into
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: my classroom expect that culture, and my students who then
• 35:04
  Speaker 4: leave my classroom reminisce about that culture. So it's a
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: culture that has been cultivated, and it's one that I'm
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: proud of, and it's one that is definitely built on
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: just like that acknowledgment that none of us can do
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: it by ourselves. And you spoke to that, Kim, and
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: I appreciate you for saying that and for acknowledging my producer,
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: and the same thing goes for my students and teaching
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: them that you can't do this on your own is
• 35:33
  Speaker 4: important because so many of them, based on the nature
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: of why they're even in my class, have dealt with
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: a lot of emotional trauma and now a cornerstone of
• 35:44
  Speaker 4: who they are has become and what I work to combat.
• 35:47
  Speaker 4: But it's become kind of pushing people away, and to
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: get them to trust again involves them understanding that you
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: can't do everything by yourself. You're not alone in this,
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: and you create your tribe. You know, this is my tribe,
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: and I love it like I'm one of those teachers,
• 36:08
  Speaker 4: and not to like pat myself on the back, but
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: I'm one of those teachers who were done with the
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: day and I'm not ready to leave, you know what
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: I mean? My kids are It could even it could
• 36:15
  Speaker 4: be a really stressful day. Don't get me wrong. It
• 36:17
  Speaker 4: is not perfect. And I have my days because these
• 36:19
  Speaker 4: are kids who you know, they got in trouble at
• 36:22
  Speaker 4: their previous schools for major outbursts and violence and other things.
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: And even on those days, I can sit at my
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: desk and say to myself, I love being here because
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: I know that these are moments that are fleeting. At
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: the core, what we are creating is a family, and
• 36:41
  Speaker 4: they take that. So spending eight hours with them feels
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: like spending eight hours with my family. And you don't
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: want to leave your family. You love your family. I
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: have a family. So I get to go between two
• 36:55
  Speaker 4: arenas that I love, you know, two different environments that
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: I love, so spending time with them it's not a chore.
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: I'd like to speak really quick to what's happening in
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: North Carolina, and I feel for you, and I honestly, Kim,
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: I do not think that you guys are getting nearly
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: enough press about what you're going through. I would have
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: loved for the Grammys last night to acknowledge what's happening,
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: and for other platforms to acknowledge what's happening in your state.
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: You are getting overshadowed, and it is very unfair because
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: you have been dealing with this for many, many months
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: now and people are still in I believe in the
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: convention centers and dealing with the homelessness, and so I
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: really feel for you, and I hope that the tide
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: starts to change and that you do get the attention
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: that your state deserves. And my heart just goes out
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: to all of you.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome. I agree, is what we
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: on our website. So we put a call out for
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: moms to help when the LA fires happened, and so
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: we put resources on our website side the Mom's Club
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: dot com and there's a there's a button there for
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: all the resources in California. We're adding another section for
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: North Carolina because we do feel like it hasn't gotten
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: the attention I mean. And that's the thing too. It
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: was interesting because being in Texas when all this is
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: going on, and having so many friends and our producers
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: and everyone being out in Los Angeles, and it was
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: very real to everyone here as it was happening. But
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: you know what they say in the news, if it bleeds,
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: it leads, and that's kind of what the thing is.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: And so when I was talking to people out here
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: and they were still very much experiencing it, and then
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: they would say, well, do you want to put this
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: on social media or that I'm like you know what,
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: they've kind of moved on sadly already the next thing
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: is happening, and you know, and that's that's unfortunate.
• 38:45
  Speaker 4: So I really hope.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: We keep the focus on everybody that needs help like that,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: because we can do so much, you know, we can.
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: We can do so much good. And I also appreciate
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: I do appreciate you to supporting your producer to you.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: I wrote a book with a Wall Street Journal reporter
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: called Comeback Moms, and we interviewed one hundred women across
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: the country and it was about staying home with your
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: kids and how you navigate that and stay connected to
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: your job and your family. And we've interviewed all these
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: women and part of the interview would be who's the
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: worst boss you ever had? And it was always a woman.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: And finally my co author said, are we writing the
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: wrong book? Should we be writing a book about how
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: women need to support each other and help each other
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: and speak up for each other? So I commend you.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: That is says a lot. So I think that's a
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: great thing. Emily. So this is our Zoomer daughter, who's
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: actually my niece. Emily I am, and she is here.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: She is currently childless from at least what she's told
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: the family. We don't know anybody. Tell Tiffany a little
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: bit about yourself. And do you have a question, Hi, Yes,
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: I do have a question.
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: My question is what is the biggest lesson that you've
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: learned from your students, Because obviously I'm sure you teach
• 40:04
  Speaker 4: them a lot, so I'm wondering what you've learned from them. Oh,
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: my goodness, Emily. First of all, how insightful are you
• 40:13
  Speaker 4: and mature are you to be here today to give
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: your time and to participate in this So that says
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: a lot about who you are and your bright future.
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: Thank you, You're welcome. Hope to see you up here
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: one day.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 40:28
  Speaker 4: So you know, there are lots of lessons that my
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: kids teach me, my students teach me, But one that
• 40:36
  Speaker 4: comes to mind is one that I practice with them often,
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: which is do not be too proud to apologize. And
• 40:47
  Speaker 4: it came from modeling. What I learned with them is
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: that in their lives, adults have done a lot of wrong,
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: and very few of those adults have ever atoned or
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: take an accountability or apologized for, whether something small or
• 41:05
  Speaker 4: something greater in scale. So my students came to me
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: more or less used to people just doing things and
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: never again acknowledging the hurt that they cause. And what
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: I what I made sure to do is that, how
• 41:24
  Speaker 4: however small, the mistake was, if there was something that
• 41:28
  Speaker 4: I needed to apologize for, to let them know, you know, hey,
• 41:31
  Speaker 4: I'm sorry I spoke over you when you raised your hand.
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: I shouldn't have done that. I apologize And they're like,
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: whoa you know, can you imagine like a teacher is
• 41:41
  Speaker 4: acknowledging that they spoke over me, or that they didn't
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: call on me, or I had my hand up too long,
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: or that I made a mistake about something or this
• 41:49
  Speaker 4: kid did the thing and you said it was me.
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: You know, I'm sorry I was wrong. They're like, what, So,
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: what I've learned is the importance of doing that I
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: had it in my mind to do because I'm a
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: grown up. We should apologize, But the importance of doing
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: that with children is something that they have really codified
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: or strengthened. And I thank them for that. I really
• 42:19
  Speaker 4: really do. You know, to the point now that if
• 42:22
  Speaker 4: I if I do anything, they're like, you didn't apologize,
• 42:26
  Speaker 4: you didn't say that, and I'm like, don't you weaponize,
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: don't you throw it back at me? But they're you know,
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: and I love it. I love it because I am
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: I am contributing to who they are as people, and
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: I for the time I have them in the classroom.
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: Just like when you're with your teachers, what your teachers
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: should aim to do is to help you be the
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: best you possible for that very short amount of time
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: before we release you back to your families and into
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: the world. So I'm like, math is important, history is important, sure,
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: but personally building stuff that that is where it's at.
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: So the power of apology.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Which is a very good practice. And listen, I've always
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: wondered with teachers. So you have them for eight hours
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: a day and you love having them, and they're and
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: they're in eighth and ninth grade and society says they
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: can't stay with you forever. Yeah, So how does that
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: feel when they grad when they moved to the do
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: you ever think, oh I miss my class? Oh God,
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: and you keep up with you said, yeah, no, the
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: five year fifth graders, no, yeah, so some of your
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: eighth and ninth graders are now.
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: Seniors the college. Yeah, absolutely, I I absolutely keep up
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: with them. I am friends with my third grade teacher,
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: who is you know, well passed retirement. And relationships are important.
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: So knowing that you could have that kind of relationship
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: with the teacher and you're a blood is something that
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: I look forward to. With my students. I keep up
• 44:03
  Speaker 4: with them and hopes that I'll be able to see
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: them have their kids and see them get into their careers.
• 44:08
  Speaker 4: But I cry. I cry every graduation. I'm the sap,
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: you know, I'm I'm the one who does the yearbook.
• 44:15
  Speaker 4: I'm the one who's crying all the time. They're used
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: to it by now, but I you know, you just
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: you really do get attached. You really you should.
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 44:23
  Speaker 4: And that's so I'm like, you're spending all you know,
• 44:25
  Speaker 4: you're spending all this time with these kids, and you
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: get to know them, and they get to know you
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: very well, and it really does feel like an extension
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: of family. And so it is hard to give them
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: to the next class. And I do worry about their uh,
• 44:39
  Speaker 4: you know, retaining what I've taught them and not just academically,
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: but emotionally as well. And I keep up as best
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: as I can keep up with the families that the parents,
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: of course, and I think sometimes I bug them too much,
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: but I really want to know how they're doing so well,
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: It would it would be.
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: Cool to still be as an adult be friends with
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: your third grade teachers. I remember when I was in
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: third grade, if we saw our teacher, like at the
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: grocery store, it was almost out of body experience.
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: Possibly why are they here? Yeah you're not at school?
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you like? Friends with them?
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: Would be just a yeah. Mister Mitchell is my third
• 45:18
  Speaker 4: grade teacher's name, and he just moved to Idaho and
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: he is enjoying retirement and I love him like a parent.
• 45:27
  Speaker 4: I've known him for a long time and he is great.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: Well, that is wonderful. We had missus Moody as our
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: fourth grade teacher. She was a tough piece of work,
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: but you know what, I appreciate everything she taught me.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the one that made you line your desk up
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: on this tile.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: We didn't realize between this side.
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: Every day tile.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: And so you're like, we didn't realize she had OCD.
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: It was not something. But anyway, we learned a lot
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: from Yeah, we had some really great teachers.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: Learned about high standards.
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we did anxiety as well, actually got that anyway.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: Well, no, it's been so great to have you here.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: Thank you so honored that you joined.
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: Us today, and I'm honored thanks for those of you.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: In Los Angeles KF I am six forty. You want
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: to hear a show there and on Heart Radio you
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: get to hear on Saturdays with Tiffany from five to seven.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: And where else can we fund you? On social media?
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: You can find me on social media at my correct Instagram,
• 46:18
  Speaker 4: right Heather, and that is at tiff Hobbes on here,
• 46:25
  Speaker 4: tiff Hobbs on here. You can find me on Facebook
• 46:28
  Speaker 4: Tiffany Hobbs. There is another Tiffany Hobbes, that's the one
• 46:31
  Speaker 4: you're talking about. I'm trying to figure out how to
• 46:32
  Speaker 4: get her pushed further down an algorithm exactly. I need
• 46:38
  Speaker 4: to put my middle initial in there or something. But yeah,
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: you can find me on social media, and I'm very
• 46:42
  Speaker 4: happy to engage with you. Everything is public. Please say hi.
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: I would really enjoy that. And yeah, if you would
• 46:51
  Speaker 4: love to enjoy listening to a radio show that is
• 46:54
  Speaker 4: insightful and keeps you up to date on current news,
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: then you can listen from five to seven on the
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: iHeart app or KFI AM six forty dot com and
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: if you are in Los Angeles, you can listen on
• 47:07
  Speaker 4: AM six forty on your radio dial. Thank you, Emily,
• 47:10
  Speaker 4: Heather and Kim.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, ladies, it's been it's been great.
• 47:15
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much, thank you very much.
• 47:17
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• 47:45
  Speaker 1: I thank you so much.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: So I'm sure you're gonna want to do this again
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: and again and again. Yes, of course we're gonna have
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: to have a word with Julie about that. Thank you. Yes, yes,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: thank you, thank you so much.
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: You know, take Julie out in traffic.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: Lisa, No, no, no, no no no, Maybe we'll just have
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: more than one co host. I don't know, but anyway,
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for joining us. Well, ladies, it's
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: I can't believe that the time, our time has passed,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: but we're going to be back again next time with
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: celebrities and extraordinary moms just like you. And we know
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: all your me time is precious and valuable. Thank you
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: so much for spending it with us. Remember our motto,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: it's very important. If you don't laugh, sometimes you are
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: gonna cry. And if your class didn't get your Kleenex,
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: then you're gonna be really good. So laugh, ladies. We'll
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: see you next time inside the Mom's Club