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What Ancient Civilizations Still Don’t Explain · Cannabis School

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I'm Brandon. And I'm Jesse, we're cannabis
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conversations. With everyday.
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People. Cannabis companies.
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Celebrities. And your mom?
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Welcome to the sesh. Like in India, they have one of
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the most intricate carved temples out of a out of a Cliff
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side. Yeah.
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It's nuts, but the. Thing is, inside there are
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everything's in stone. They have certain animals that
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have like their teeth and they have a stone ball in there.
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There's no way they could have put the stone ball.
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In had to be carved or made while it was in that position,
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yeah. So the so the theory is, is they
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had hyper hyper focused and very precise lasers.
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Yeah, I was like that. That would be the only thing my
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mind could picture is like and a laser that you could control the
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depth and like all of that. That's crazy.
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Because vibrational frequency and stuff like that when they're
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talking about that building the Egyptian.
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Pyramids and stuff by using it didn't make sense.
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It could to an extent where they go the just the moving of it,
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not the cutting, but the moving because they go, hey, you can
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levitate or move something by vibrational frequencies.
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And if you could access this and I'm like, OK, so I could see
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that for moving a really large stone like that, but not for the
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cutting. Yeah.
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So that still leaves out another piece of like, OK, yes, maybe
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that was frequency to move these massive large stones that were
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like, how the fuck is this done? Or like, yeah, I, I have no
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idea. Lasers are the only thing.
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Or like some way to control the sun?
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Like that? This is carved.
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This is carved out of a wall. You ever heard of Petra?
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Yeah. See, they found more of Petras
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in the desert. Too.
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That's crazy. That's quite the.
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That's so hard. That's really.
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You can't. And, and you know what they're
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trying to tell people that was done with copper chisels.
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Yeah. And that's stone there.
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It's granite. You can't.
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It look like sandstone I you. And the really crazy thing?
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They don't have anywhere where they can find any.
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Excavation site. Well, they don't have any of the
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dumping grounds because in Egypt they do have those.
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Yeah. But there's a lot of them of
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these palaces that are in the mountainsides though that there
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are no excavation sites, no like trailing of stuff from it, like
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any of them. So there's a theory right now in
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Utah, there is a guy who's been going through Google Earth and
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then comes here and goes through and hikes it, and he believes
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that there was massive building done right here in Utah.
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They were excavating quarries. They find these massive,
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massive, I mean, they're the size of city blocks, these
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blocks that have been cut from stone.
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You see a lot of the other stone that's done everywhere else too.
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And it's a consistency showing that there was something far
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more advanced to be able to create that through mathematics,
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through through construction and through science.
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Like you go down, you go to Phnom, Phnom Badang or something
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like that. That's out in Thailand, that
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temple out there that was excavated not too long ago.
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And then they did lighter. They found that there was more
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underneath, more positions, more and the same thing.
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In Giza, they're finding more underneath it.
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And then they started scanning all the other pyramids and
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they're finding the same thing. Well that's what I would bet
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because most of those things have been built on Ley lines and
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other energy lines across the earth historically for forever.
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So I can imagine that underneath one of these massive things
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would be another civilizations building or another thing or
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some other historical thing that would just be mind boggling.
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Like what the fuck is this, how old is this and what was this
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intended for? Because like, humans have known
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this energy existed for so long, that's why we even have
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cathedrals and churches on them now.
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Yeah. But even then though, like it's
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archaic and that something was forgotten or wiped out.
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And and The thing is, is like where I was, I was going through
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some readings with the with Plato talking about Atlantis and
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Atlantis was just a placeholder that what it was the
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civilization. It wasn't necessarily the place.
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Atlantis was a civilization, and that's what the old priests were
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telling Solon, which was like hundreds of years before.
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Solon is the great grandfather of Plato, and he went to Egypt
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during the time when the great was it.
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Like the maze that's underneath. They have one of the largest.
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What did they call it? It's like a.
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Mazes. It's like that, but it's made
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out of stone and it's so big. And when Plato saw it, he wrote
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about it, said it actually was more grand than the pyramid
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itself because of the complexity and how many levels it goes
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down. And he was only able to visit
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the top level. He had to have a guide go with
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you or you'd be lost forever. And that kind of goes along with
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everything that's down below it. So the the theories are that
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there's two different ones. One that it's humans from the
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future traveling back. So they have this one woman.
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I'll have to send you a video. She died shortly after of it and
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said that she. Was going through the maze.
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No, after releasing a video about stuff about ultra
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terrestrials. Ultra terrestrials are
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terrestrials of people that are here, but they're more advanced
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and could be underground or in the oceans.
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In the oceans, they talk about where there could be large
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manufacturing bases of these craft that we see.
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I've never heard anything of. That I know right?
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And it it. This is stuff.
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Rabbit holes of YouTube and many.
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Strains I get well, no, I'll go with with chat 'cause I'm like
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talking about it and it'll go Oh yeah, you should look at this
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and I'm like OK and I go to that.
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And then you start looking at government documents that have
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been declassified saying, Yep, like the recat structure, the
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CIA studied that one in depth. It's still classified.
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You can't find out about anything about it.
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There's stuff done about the pyramids.
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It's classified. You can't hear anything about
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that 10 O Teachlon Sacsaywaman like all those things like you
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know. How do we know we have data if
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it's classified? They have released some things,
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but they're redacted, 100% redacted.
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So they they say, Yep, we did study that, but we're not doing
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that. What did you get this or did you
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get that? Oh shit no.
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What do? We got.
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This is just Skywalker. Oh sweet, hold on, let me go to
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the bathroom. Real.
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Quick. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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That's OK. All of a sudden, just.
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Came out, yeah, Go to the bathroom.
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That's OK. When you showed up, I was like,
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oh, I have to take a shit. I had.
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That. Proof fuel earlier?
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Yep, that'll do it. Oh.
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Got him. Oh, hey, twin, hey.
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I'm going back South. It's a good idea, I don't.
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Want friends at like 12 actually.
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Sure, he'll be out real soon. He just got in there.
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Oh, you OK? It's gonna be a hot day today
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outside. That's OK.
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I'm just letting you know later 'cause you might not want the
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hoodie when you go. Oh my.
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Gosh. I believe what I would.
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Myself at 117 with four clothes on and I was wearing kind of
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heavy cargo jeans. Yeah, honey, I.
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Might not. Actually, wait, no.
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And you're in your head over going like, yeah, that's a big
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thing. So.
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I might. Versus your mom, probably
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everyone's does if. I just like weigh myself.
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'Cause so usually when you weigh yourself is in the morning after
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you've pooped before you eat, then you go, this is my body
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weight. You're not adding in all the
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food or other things and you've already gotten rid of the waste.
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So you're really just going, hey, this is my body and.
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My computer could fit. In here, yeah, you could try,
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OK. How could I take my bag so I
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could play games? None.
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Oh, hello. The last thing I got to show you
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is funny as fuck. You would really appreciate
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this. Chill.
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It's good to see you man. It's.
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Good to see you too. Still just makes me laugh that
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you had your gay ass event. Yeah, no, Bree is like, hey,
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it's a gay event. Are you cool with it?
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And I said totally. She goes, really?
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And I'm like, yeah, totally. It was just funny.
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Like what I basically like when I was talking with Bree
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yesterday and I said said So what is your take on why a lot
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of these gay guys are just so she goes immature?
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She's like, she's like, I can't put it on there because there's
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no age range either. It's not that they're younger or
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older and she's like they're, she's like, it's just something
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like that. And I said, what does Yara say?
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She goes, that's just a constant.
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She goes. There's a lot of gay guys that
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you meet that are really super chill, very fun, which I've had
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nothing but the pleasure of meeting.
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That was the first time where I'd met diva gay guys.
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So Preston's one of his best friends, Spencer, He's gay.
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He definitely gives off more of the always offended, has some
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comment to bitch and moan about, you know, some sort of thing.
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And and I'm just like, Oh my God, life's not that hard.
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Like, well, he's the only one I've ever met like that.
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Watch this Just trying to save my marriage.
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This somebody said to me Shorty, I'm not reading all of that
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shit, but based on the length alone, I already know that I'm
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the problem and your ass is going to forgive me.
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So I'll just talk to you tomorrow night.
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Jeans cantina. This is the shit that he says.
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Damn Shorty, I ain't going to read all that shit like I was
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like. That's hilarious.
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Could you imagine if that's the response?
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It's so awesome. The fuck shut.
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Up shut up. Shut up.
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Shut up, shut. Up, shut up.
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Shut up, shut up, shut up. Yeah, that's hilarious.
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And this one's crazy. Yeah, a mummified artifact with
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bones three times the size of those in a human hand.
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A hand with a broken chain of custody that produced a
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contaminated DNA result, which tells us more about how the
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sample was handled than what it originally came from.
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We have Reinhold Mester, perhaps the greatest Mountaineer in
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history, describing A7 foot bipedal hairy creature that made
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sounds, whistled and moved in ways inconsistent with known
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bear behavior, and then spending a decade trying to explain this
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thing that he saw, speculating that maybe it was just an
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unknown or little known bear species.
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Yeah, that's just Yao Ming's lost brother out in the mount.
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That was another thing I heard it was pretty cool that Bigfoot
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the the idea between realms. That's the the reality that we
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sit in right. And with these realms, it's not
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necessarily just dimensions. It's just realms of existence
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that relay right alongside each other.
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And the concept is that they explain this, that the theory
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is, is that that's why we see apparitions.
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That's why we see certain creatures or even UFOs.
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Is that the the the the veil between each dimension becomes
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so thin? That it can pass through you can
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see at certain. And if you think back, like in,
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I think it was in the 1600s or the 1500s, this Philip, I think
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it was Filipino or something like that.
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But he was a guard at a castle, leaned back to take a nap
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against the wall and ended up in Mexico.
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And then they found him later on.
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They said that he had deserted. But they're like, oh, he was
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just here. And he was in prison over there.
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And it was super crazy. And then I think about that in
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certain areas on the planet that you can't explain, like there's
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a place where gravity doesn't really exist and that everything
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is all weird. Like, you'll stand in there,
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you'll stand up normal. But when they take a picture of
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you, you're like this. Yeah.
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And you can see the room that's like this and you can and
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gravity's all. It's super weird.
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It's an anomaly. Well, it's things like the
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Bermuda Triangle that they've thought around the world, and
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it's just like these really interesting, weird anomaly
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places. Skinwalker Ranch.
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Dude, that's another thing, you know the US government speed
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over like 80 million studying Skinwalker Ranch just this last
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few years. Oh, after Brandon finished what
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he's. Still going on, still going on.
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And Brandon Fugel, let them come on there 'cause the US
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government came to him, 'cause. He owned it, Yeah, 'cause I was
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like, I know he's been doing it for years, doing research and
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testing and stuff up there. Yeah.
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I didn't know the government was on there recently doing that as
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well, though. Oh.
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Yeah, dude, and some of the shit that came back, like certain
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scientists that went there and they'd see things like a large
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wolf on 2 legs walking around scratching at wood and stuff
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like that. They found that and then the guy
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went to New York back home and it had followed him there.
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So they think that they are able to go through parts of these.
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They're these again, these portals, if you will, where
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people can go through. And it kind of explains like if
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you look at the Ley lines again and there are places around the
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world that look like doorways, massive doorways that are stone
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that go nowhere. But the people talk about it
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before that. This is where they used to come
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from. That's what the the Anunnaki
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being like. It's like Lord of the Rings
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where the you know the dwarven door in the mountain and you
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talk to it with enter friend, speak friend and enter.
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Does that it doesn't. I don't know, man.
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Like there are certain things that make a lot more sense and
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it it's especially when going into the book of Enoch again,
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like dude, that's the thing. Like it talks about a lot of
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these really advanced, very crazy things.
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And like what? Well, the story in Enoch goes
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that there were these angels called the Watchers and this is
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told throughout old ancient Jewish mythology as well where
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and even the Bible quotes Enoch several times, but they don't
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include it because it it's. Apocrypha.
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Well, not even the reason why is because of other people wrote it
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down from what it was told to them.
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So they go, Oh well, it wasn't this.
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It's like whatever. Yeah, but everyone's got their
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reason as to, well, the. Oldest Christian.
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Why it's not? The the most law, the longest
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Christian denomination that is still here today is the
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Ethiopian Orthodox Church. How long has that been?
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I don't know exact years but I know they have the most complete
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Bible. It's 80 books. 80 books holy
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shit. Includes the entire Apocrypha.
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They've been talking about Enoch for thousands of years.
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The. Apocrypha has been probably some
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of the most interesting books that I have ever got into.
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The Book of Mary, all of these things like holy shit, like
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this. It puts a very different light
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to the story that modern day Christianity or Catholicism puts
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to light. And it's like, oh, this is this
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changes the narrative. When you look at the Apocrypha
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as well, you're like, oh, that's a different story.
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The Book of Judas. Oh, that was, I was like, what
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the fuck? Well.
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Even the word Lucifer. Lucifer was just the word to
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describe something. It wasn't his.
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First star or something? No, no, it was like a certain
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act. I'll I'll find it exactly.
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But that was a cool thing that I learned too, is that Lucifer was
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just the word that was used during that time.
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And so it's like, OK, well, that doesn't make any sense of it.
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That's where people tend to fall into dogmatic things because.
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It was just the Latin astronomical term for the planet
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of Venus. Yes, Venus.
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Like that's all that Satan was or Lucifer was.
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Lucifer Yeah. And The thing is, is that we
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attach meaning to these words and then you get mythology
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starts to follow suit and then and the.
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Stories catch up. But The thing is, it's that if
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you look at it where I look at the teachings of Christ as a
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truth hidden in story, and a lot of it, like what you said, you
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know, these are stories like, yeah, but there's truth to a lot
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of it that the thing it makes sense.
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Like all these places being wiped out, you look at the Great
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Pyramid, they're like, how can you explain all of the capstones
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being pulled off? And they said, oh, it was an
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earthquake. Then where are they?
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But then you look at other sites that are like the Great Pyramid,
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no mortar right to use to be able to do that.
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They've had massive earthquakes there.
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Nothing has ever happened to them.
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These places are set up to defeat against it.
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But water erosion is different. Well, then again, the capstone.
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Why? Why would that capstone be
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missing? It's not like it's falling on
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the ground and laying next to it because of an earthquake and the
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rest of The thing is disheveled because if it was that large of
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a thing, the rest of them would be slightly moved.
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Exactly. And that's also when you look at
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it, it's well, what moved it, I mean, it was a earthquake.
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It would have been a massive earthquake cause we've had.
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But even then, the stones that, yeah, any other massive
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earthquake over how many thousands upon thousands of
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years that those have been there would have shifted those in some
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sort of fashion at all in that time.
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But you look at temples like Teno, Teichlan and Cholula.
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The Cholula is the largest. I like Cholula.
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Yeah, I know, right? Good, we have it in the kitchen.
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That hot sauce is made in that town, right?
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But it also has the largest pyramid in the world right now
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that they know, but it the base is kilometers.
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That they were talking. About yeah, that giant.
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Really wide. Well, that's the.
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That's the middle. Below it is even more.
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Oh, so they haven't finished excavating it?
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No, they just know it's been built on top of older ones.
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Well, that's what we were saying is most of these things have
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been built on Ley lines and that the Atlantis book I lent you
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went into that and like the fact that Ley lines might have been
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used for travel because there are energy things and that even
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in that time they knew that things were built upon and like
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energy is in that area and stuff.
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I'm like. Well, it makes sense because
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energy is around. I mean, we've also, we've, we've
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been able to materialize it into light, something we can see and
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touch and feel right. But at the same time, it's only
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minimal because what is the great, greatest current that we
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have on the world? It's the oceans.
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And no, actually the north was, I think it's a North Atlantic
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anomaly. Yeah, the current system, it's
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slowing down, almost stopping completely.
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Yeah, it is slowing. I've and it's gonna be getting,
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I mean, you know, a lot of people were saying, oh, global
24:40
warming, global warming, but that's global cooling, which
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means it could usher in an Ice Age.
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Yeah, well, that's going back to that guy that but Ben Davidson,
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someone that we're used to watching.
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David Dubai. David Dubai and he went into oh.
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So depressing. To watch.
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He's so right though, on so many things.
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I was just watching this video talking about food that will
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come because of the effects of right now, the cost of gas, the
25:11
cost of everything else, how that will affect crops in that
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in the spring or next year. And kind of looking at that.
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And I was like, huh, it's interesting 'cause it all kind
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of actually lines up exactly to 2026 of David Devine.
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And that's what he had talked. About like cold time.
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And I'm like, so I'm always very curious when I look at these
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things, like, OK, is this a, a place that it could go to?
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And yes, there's always some sort of, it could go a million
25:44
different ways. I look at like the multiverse
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theory and I'm like, yeah, I could see there's any million
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trillion realities that could unfold right now.
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Like I'll be longboarding and in my head longboarding, I'm like,
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oh man, in this very moment I could have seen this happening
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and me falling and eating shit and scraping off all of this.
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I'm like, but that's not this reality.
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That's not this reality I'm in. The reality I'm in right now is
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this other one. And I think about that often.
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It'll be like, we'll get off a phone call and it went like one
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way or something. And I'm like, man, in another
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universe, like this was the outcome and another universe
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this was the outcome. And I'm like, that's so weird to
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think like that, that multiverse theory that this is just the
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reality of this moment that I'm in.
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And at any moment it could have like shifted into a different
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multi like moment of that multiverse or something like, Oh
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yeah, I don't. Know, I mean you think about it
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all the time like our our interactions with the
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multiverses is high Thoughts. By the way, guys, we are not
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scientists. No, OK.
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So for those of you going actually put it in the comments,
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that's cool. We learned here too, but this is
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just stuff that you know. It's for Karen.
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And, and I I just absorb tons of stuff and it just stays in my
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head dormant. And then somebody says something
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and it triggers and it goes, Oh yeah, it.
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Pops in, you're like, oh wait. What, like the whole microwave
27:04
thing, right? It's just like just.
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And then I looked it up and it was like, yeah, it doesn't
27:08
actually kill that much with microwaves.
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It's just more of like any sort of.
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Dehydration. Overtime does degrade the
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nutritional value of your thing, which.
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Is crazy because like you think about oh I'm gonna go off on a
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tandem let let me come back to where we were talking before
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yeah high thoughts but thinking about that where your life could
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have taken any different direction if you would have made
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one choice like literally it could have been like no I chose
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Pepsi that time and that choosing of that like you think
27:38
about every action that's ever taken place in your life like I
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think back to it and I'm like if I wouldn't have tried to get
27:45
into bodybuilding when I was a kid and was eating like six 7000
27:50
calories a day like could I have speed up the process of diabetes
27:54
doing that and so I don't know right and.
27:59
It's sort of like I look back at it and I'm like, if I wouldn't
28:02
have gotten kicked out of high school for not going to class, I
28:05
wouldn't have got sent to my private school.
28:07
I wouldn't have gone to the life I had.
28:09
I wouldn't have my kids at this moment if I hadn't have stopped
28:12
skipping. Like if I had to skip class, I
28:15
wouldn't be in this moment. And you just look at all of
28:18
those things, you're like, man, one tiny butterfly wing change
28:22
within my life and the whole trajectory would be something
28:24
different. My reality that I know now would
28:28
be something so different than what I can imagine, but that can
28:32
happen now. One small thing that we do today
28:36
can change our entire life trajectory for the rest of it
28:39
going. A true butterfly effect, right?
28:41
Because it's, it's not necessarily like in that time
28:45
period, like if a butterfly flaps and swings to Japan
28:48
earthquake happens. Like that's just, that's just.
28:51
But it's the understanding of the effect that's just the.
28:52
Probability of case. Something so tiny and
28:56
insurmountable that you would never think would have any
28:59
effect on anything, Yeah. Can change the entire world and
29:03
reality that you know. If I didn't get a job from your
29:07
help over that call center, this would have never happened.
29:10
Yeah, it's true. We wouldn't be at this moment,
29:13
but it's like so many things that led up to that.
29:15
And you're like, OK, well, how far back does that go?
29:17
OK, well, if I was 3 and I didn't do this, like none of
29:20
this would have unfolded. And you're like, holy shit.
29:22
Like so it's this weird trajectory.
29:25
Yeah, yeah, no. So now thinking about it, so we
29:28
actually have the ability to time travel and we do it all the
29:32
time in our. Heads.
29:33
Yeah, yes, 100%. But the the thing that's really
29:36
cool is that you can change the future by making a decision
29:40
today. So if you're like, you know,
29:43
like, for instance, I'm going to be really vulnerable right now.
29:47
I got really upset with my wife just a little while ago.
29:50
And the reason why is that she is working at this school and
29:54
she works with these really lower developmental kids and
29:59
they get aggressive and they can't.
30:01
Yeah. And they're, and and they're
30:03
strong too. And she has been bit punched,
30:07
poked. She had her calf.
30:09
Her, I mean, her Achilles was pretty bruised up.
30:12
I mean, she was messed up. One of the teachers recently,
30:16
the kid pulled her fingers back so far that it pretty much just
30:19
nuke the tendon. And now they have to go and
30:21
surgically fix it. Oh my.
30:23
God, there's no repercussions on these children or their
30:26
families. It's like, how can you?
30:29
But at the same time, they don't give them the tools.
30:32
They're like, well, we can't fight them.
30:33
Like you don't have to. Fight them, it's not a fight.
30:37
You've got to just be able to control them so they don't hurt
30:40
anybody else and that's hard. So it's been really pissing me
30:44
off underneath the tail. I'm just, I'm, I'm offended in a
30:49
way because I don't want my wife to work.
30:52
Yeah. Because she hasn't worked in a
30:55
really long time. Well, it and I'm gonna as a man,
31:01
having your wife have to work is different than her going.
31:05
I need something to do with my time and this is gonna give me
31:08
purpose. 100%. And like, it's this thing that
31:11
no matter what we tell ourselves, it's in the back of
31:14
her head going, hey, why aren't you doing this?
31:17
Why is your wife working? Well, not even that.
31:19
It's just like, you know, it's just not that that's not right
31:22
to me. It's not right.
31:24
And the reason why, and I know why this is right for me.
31:27
What I've been able to observe in my life, I am so grateful
31:31
that we struggled for a long time, that she would stay home
31:37
and help raise our kids. Because you know, my kids, they
31:41
love each other a lot. And in our house, we say that
31:46
all the time to each other, whether we're leaving just to go
31:49
outside or we're getting off the phone like we do, we always tell
31:53
each other we love you. We tell each other we love you
31:55
after the video game time, right?
31:57
All the time. And it's just because it's a,
31:59
it's a, it's a phrase of endearment to let them know that
32:03
I care a lot about you. You are very important to me.
32:07
Yeah. Well, neither of us grew up
32:10
being reaffirmed with that very. Often, no, not at all.
32:14
So. Not in a bad way though.
32:16
I mean, it was just the time and.
32:17
No, it was. I love you because you've got a
32:19
roof over your head, food in your mouth and clothes on your
32:22
back, you know, and I haven't smacked the shit out of you
32:25
today, so. Or maybe I have, but it was only
32:28
once, so shut up. Dude, really good example of
32:31
that one. There's a really good movie,
32:32
it's a play too, called White Fences with Denzel Washington,
32:36
and it's about this story of this guy.
32:39
I think he's like a bus driver or something like that, or a
32:42
garbage. He's a garbage man.
32:43
OK, back in like the 70s or 80s or something, back when it
32:47
didn't matter what you did. And he was really hard on his
32:51
son, real racist and real hard. And his son comes to him in the
32:55
backyard one day and says he goes, now why don't you like me?
33:00
He goes like you. Yeah.
33:03
Right. That whole thing, I think I've
33:04
sent it to you before and it's a breakdown of showing like this
33:08
is how I show love. You got, you got roof over your
33:10
head, you got clothes on your back, you got food in your
33:12
belly. Now what's love got to do with
33:14
it? I always worried that if I had a
33:18
boy, I'd probably have been way harder on him than I was on my
33:22
girls. Oh 100% you would, but think
33:26
about that. Why?
33:27
Why like we do that inherently? I have a theory, yeah.
33:33
Let's hear. So we have no idea how long man
33:37
has been around, at least our we've been finding
33:40
archaeologically going back half a million years, Oh yeah, to
33:44
even a million years. And I was like, we found almost
33:46
France and stuff that it's like, hey, this matches us.
33:48
So how does that exist simultaneously with the link?
33:53
Because it. It destroys both theories.
33:55
It destroys the modern archaeology theory and the like.
33:59
7 day Adventists. So I think that's what them are.
34:02
I I feel like it again fucks up every theory and you're like so
34:05
I don't understand was it aliens?
34:08
Where did we come from? Like what happened but again.
34:11
No again, I think. It's your theory.
34:13
The the theory is is that it is ingrained into our DNA.
34:18
When you look at the DNA code, you don't.
34:20
Say it's in your Donna. It's in your Donna.
34:24
The the reason why I say that is because it's it's something
34:27
that's built over time that actually gets passed along.
34:29
Here's something you can pass on some of your behavioral
34:34
characteristics to your kids, and they don't even have to be
34:37
around you their entire lives to have those characteristics.
34:41
Oh, yeah, 100%. It was interesting.
34:45
I was talking to my mom the other day.
34:49
I did lunch with her and I, I had asked her.
34:54
I was like, hey, so it's like with it being Mother's Day, did
35:00
you go see Grandma at all? And she was like, no.
35:05
And I'm like, well, I guess, did you go see Grandpa?
35:09
And she was like, well, you know, it's funny, I guess I
35:12
don't think about visiting mom, even though they're right next
35:14
to each other. It's I didn't have that
35:17
relationship or, or that thing. And and we started talking about
35:22
my dad's dad and, and it was like a, you know, he didn't want
35:25
us around. It was a, oh, you're here again.
35:28
Like, I already saw you this week.
35:30
Why are you here kind of thing. And I'm like, it wasn't this
35:34
relationship of love of like, Hey, I I genuinely want to know
35:38
you or, or spend time with you or connect with you.
35:40
It was more of like, Hey, I'm obligated to love you because
35:43
you have my last name. Well, because it was for a long
35:48
time, I mean, and it's throughout history, it goes ups
35:50
and downs from marriages to arrangements, right?
35:54
That was the thing. And you know, that's kind of
35:57
funny because right now they're seeing it where some people are
36:00
actually asking, like within social groups, if arranged
36:04
marriage could happen again, because they're really fucking
36:07
lonely. I did another, I, I do these, I
36:10
do dating events. I've got a whole, I, I figured
36:13
out a name. I'm going to tell you about it
36:14
afterwards. But it was doing these events is
36:20
both saddening and, and gives me hope.
36:27
Hope. Hope's the best word because
36:30
when I'm able to give them this really easy framework to follow,
36:34
because we are in a society right now, there are far more
36:39
sheep, far more sheep. Can I ask you something?
36:43
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do all of your kids want to get
36:47
married and have kids? Yeah, except Xander.
36:52
Right now he's super depressed and I've been working with him.
36:57
We've been able to do some pretty awesome advancement.
37:00
Therapy's been meh. He doesn't know him.
37:03
He doesn't like him. I think it therapy would be very
37:06
hit or miss because it's truly the person that they connect
37:09
with. And if they connect and if they
37:11
don't, they're not going to feel safe and they're not going to
37:14
truly open up to get the help they need.
37:17
So then it's just a, hey, I'm here talking to a person where
37:21
no true deep, real stuff going on underneath is shared because
37:25
they don't have that safe connection.
37:27
It's not like, hey, I feel this, so I can understand that.
37:31
That would be really hit or miss of like trying to find that
37:34
person. You know, that that's where
37:36
Bennett's thing of like, yeah, I went through this and I jumped
37:39
therapists 'cause I go through their cycle and then I'm like,
37:41
cool, well, I want to go to this one and try this and then go to
37:44
this one and try this. And I'm like, that would be the
37:46
way to do it to go. Yeah, I'm only here for a bit
37:49
because you're probably not my fit, but I just want to see if I
37:53
can work through something with you.
37:56
And if so, great, maybe I'll learn some tools.
37:58
Well, it's, I, I see it like this.
38:00
It's a, it's a stair step method.
38:02
It's, this is something that I'm building out in my, in, in my
38:04
new business venture. But you've got three types of
38:09
products. One do it yourself, the second
38:13
one do it with you. And then the next one, the
38:17
highest one is done for you, right.
38:20
So typically what I see with people when they do like a lot
38:24
of therapist shopping, like they'll go from one to another,
38:28
is they're all trying to stay within this realm in between
38:32
surface level, no, in between the do it myself and do it with
38:37
me. They want something in between.
38:40
Because the idea that I need to be this super strong individual
38:45
that can go through life, make fuck tons of money because it's
38:48
usually tied to money, is they're constantly seeking this
38:52
reassurance that everything is going to be OK.
38:55
But when it gets to a point for them where they think they've
38:58
plateaued, I think they're right because I don't.
39:01
In my own personal opinion, I don't see seeing a therapist
39:05
long term as a very good thing for you.
39:09
It's like medication. I don't know about long term.
39:11
No, I know, but I also in crisis though, because you take two
39:15
different types of people. Where I feel that therapy is
39:19
really effective is when the person is like, I'm ready to
39:23
take this on. Yeah, I think it I think it does
39:26
take a level of emotional intelligence to go, hey, this if
39:33
I'm truly trying to work or fix or whatever it is that I'm going
39:37
to this therapist for, usually there should be a reason.
39:41
I think if you're doing it, hey, I'm trying to address a trauma.
39:43
I'm I'm feeling extra depressed. Maybe there's something going on
39:46
that I don't recognize that maybe this bit.
39:49
And therapists usually have a what, 10 session or however many
39:53
session cycle of like, OK, here's this.
39:57
OK, well, once I do that, well, have they resolved the issue?
40:00
No. OK, well then the is that
40:03
because? Is that because I wasn't honest?
40:07
Is it because they didn't give me the proper tools because they
40:09
didn't feel like they knew was it, you know, what aspect of it
40:13
was it and why am I still feeling whatever or dealing with
40:17
whatever it was and then looking, you know, maybe
40:21
reflecting after that of going all right, Am I still hanging on
40:24
to something? What is it that is the issue
40:26
here? And, you know, maybe half of
40:30
that is doing the work that most of us just don't want to do.
40:33
Well, and that's the thing too, It's turning it into work.
40:36
One of the things that I've been, what I've really, really,
40:38
really liked about doing these dating events has been the self
40:45
reflection that I have has helped me to be better and more
40:53
open with my emotions with people in real time and always
40:58
putting myself into their position, saying they are
41:03
stating an opinion of feeling or whatever.
41:06
This is not yours. You don't always have to agree
41:10
with it, but you also don't need to find fault with it.
41:13
You can respect that they have that.
41:16
It's not to placate to people, it's to respect them going, hey,
41:20
you're going to have a different opinion and I'm not always going
41:23
to be right. And that's hard, especially for
41:26
people with my behavior set like I want to be right?
41:29
I think we all do to an extent, because again, when you're
41:32
wrong, you're usually I think back to.
41:35
That feeling of lesser then. Or so inbred from a genetic
41:39
level of if I'm wrong, well why? Like is that animal gonna kill
41:44
me? Did I make this decision?
41:46
Like he's so inbred into our genetics of like, if I'm wrong,
41:50
yeah 'cause it's fucked up. So like, hey, if I'm wrong, I'm
41:55
not safe. So then it's this defensive of
41:58
like, no, I'm not wrong, I'm not gonna die.
42:00
Like I didn't make the wrong decision here.
42:02
I'm OK and it's like, you are OK.
42:04
This isn't a world ender here like but we just, I think
42:08
unconsciously in the back of that genetic makeup, it's like,
42:10
no, you're not safe. And you're like, wait, not I'm
42:14
OK. Yeah, no.
42:15
And I, I tie it back to and that's why I've been so I've
42:19
been seeing a, a big improvement in myself recently and, and
42:25
living more of, of how I, I tried to put my life out there
42:30
to serve others. You know, I'm here to serve
42:33
others. And I don't want to disturb
42:35
myself because when I serve myself, I lose myself.
42:38
And what I mean by that when I was working at USI, dude, my
42:43
whole life was taken away. Yeah.
42:46
My focus, my passion of what I call now behavioral relationship
42:51
intelligence like this, this makes me makes up like what
42:57
gives me the most fulfillment, where I know I'm serving people
43:01
the best. Yeah, you feel joy and purpose
43:04
in what you're doing versus like, hey, I am punching a clock
43:09
doing something that I don't really enjoy because I'm trying
43:12
to put food on the table for my family and that is important.
43:16
But like, you feel so drained and deflated at the end of the
43:19
day from that type of stuff because it's not fulfilling,
43:22
it's not joyful. It's not like you said, it's sad
43:25
in these moments to go fuck, man.
43:29
This is the reality of humans in this moment.
43:32
And my heart hurts for them, dude.
43:34
Because I, I know that this person that I'm seeing has so
43:38
much more value than they understand.
43:40
And I wish they could see that because then they wouldn't be so
43:43
afraid or ashamed to go up to this other person.
43:45
Go, hey, you seem really fucking awesome.
43:48
You know, I'm actually pretty fucking awesome too.
43:51
And maybe we should just connect and see if we could be awesome
43:54
together or just friends, You know, maybe you can paint my
43:58
toes. I don't know how this goes.
44:00
Let's figure it out. Like, but it's that such, I
44:05
don't know. That's what I see when there's
44:07
so many bullies and things in the kids now and stuff.
44:09
And I'm like, man, I feel really bad for that kid, for that kids
44:14
life. Like I wonder what it must be
44:17
like at home. Motherfucker.
44:19
And like with his friends or family or whatever it is that
44:23
this is what is coming out of that kid of that human, of that
44:28
person. Like they're probably not being
44:31
shown love. They're probably not feeling
44:33
love. They're not like this isn't the
44:35
world that they're experiencing. And that's why what they're
44:37
reflecting back is what they're feeling and what they're, you
44:40
know, And it's like, it's really heartbreaking to see that in.
44:46
Oh, so many people. Can they?
44:48
Just give you a hug. Dude, these events, like they're
44:51
awesome because when you're there, I give them a structure,
44:54
I give them a very simple structure to follow.
44:57
And then I tell them I'm going to be walking around engaging
44:59
with you. If you want to know more about
45:02
your shape, stop me or I'll help match you to somebody based on
45:07
the vibe I'm getting from you. I'm going to know a shape that's
45:11
going to be really good for you. This event isn't meant to teach
45:14
them the shape system. What it's there to do is remove
45:18
all the judgement 'cause this is the cool part.
45:20
I did another event with them and it was completely different.
45:25
You take this personality assessment of likes at once.
45:28
And it gives you your you're. You're now going to match.
45:34
Yeah, you guys answered the same questions, right, Right.
45:38
That's why I don't like personality tests because it's
45:41
it's you're, you're going to see yourself the way you want to see
45:45
yourself in that. Oh, always, yeah.
45:48
But the behaviors is where I see it coming from because think
45:50
about it right now, behavior wise, right now in society, what
45:54
is the biggest thing for entertainment right now?
46:00
Yeah, social media. YouTube.
46:03
Video games. Really, that's done more for
46:06
entertainment than. They make billions and billions
46:09
of dollars every year. That industry is massive.
46:13
And you don't you think the industry also makes billions of.
46:17
Dollars. Oh yeah.
46:18
But you would think that the filmed industry doesn't.
46:20
But they don't make anywhere close.
46:21
They don't. Not the film I would think like
46:23
Netflix, Disney, Hulu. They still don't make as much as
46:26
they do. No, the video game industry is
46:29
worldwide constant consumers. It's the only products that get
46:33
banned from certain countries. Video.
46:36
Games. Video games, Yeah, Parts of the
46:38
UAE, yeah. You can't have video games.
46:41
If you have video games, it's illegal.
46:43
What the fuck? Oh yeah, there's video game.
46:46
What? What place would have?
46:48
I'll have to get a list of them 'cause I know I've come across.
46:50
It I've never heard. Oh yeah, it's nuts.
46:51
Well, I pay attention to all sorts of weird social things,
46:54
like the video game. World you YouTube a lot so you
46:57
watch all sorts of random shit so.
47:00
Well, I used to look at like I would got not necessarily
47:07
understanding the politics of today, but trying to understand
47:10
politics in general. Instead of trying to pick a
47:13
side, I wanted to understand underneath.
47:16
And that's what used to fill my time, which fills your time with
47:20
a lot of propaganda from both sides.
47:22
So I was like, I need to learn something here.
47:25
I don't use this as a place of, of just social masturbation,
47:31
right 'cause that's what it feels like you're doing.
47:33
You're just, you're like those people that I heard read about
47:35
in that book Gooning, where you jerk off to no end.
47:40
Wow, they wrote a whole book on it, huh?
47:43
Oh no, this woman talking about the breakdown of sexuality.
47:46
Less people are having sex. Weird.
47:48
Not the whole book is gooning. It's just a section in the book.
47:51
There's no. There's a whole type of person.
47:54
Yeah, I thought you were saying there's a whole book that was
47:57
just written on gooning. But back in the day, dude, if
47:59
you would have been considered a gooner, you would have been a
48:02
fucking weirdo. You know what it is now?
48:03
A movement. And so when guys are like, yeah,
48:08
to no end, like you're like I OK one.
48:11
But why? I mean, what's the purpose?
48:14
What's the value? What's the end result?
48:17
Well, they're they're I don't get it for celibate or in cell.
48:21
Right. So they're forced celibate,
48:23
meaning it's not that they want to be celibate, it's that they
48:25
don't have any options because they feel they can't get out of
48:29
their own head. Like when I talk to gamers at
48:32
these events, like it was really cool.
48:34
Did a we did a gay night. It was awesome.
48:37
It was so much fun. This one woman, though, she
48:40
looks like every Oval I've ever met.
48:42
And like my our friend Jordan and Jordan, they have a similar
48:47
look. And I stopped her and I said,
48:49
hey, I said, I'm Jessie. And she goes, I'm a I'm a
48:55
rectangle. They all listen.
48:57
They don't they don't reveal their name, which is very cool.
49:00
It gives them a lot of confidence.
49:02
And then I said, Hey, what video game are you just like nerding
49:08
out about right now? And her face just lit up because
49:13
Ovals love playing very deep RPG.
49:17
OK. And so she goes, well, I've been
49:19
playing Eldon Ring online. I'm like, oh, cool.
49:23
I said, did you play Skyrim back in the day?
49:25
And she goes, oh, yeah, but I play it online.
49:27
And I was like, really? And she goes, yeah.
49:28
And then I play another one with my dad.
49:30
We we play Ghost Recon break point.
49:33
And I was like, get out and we talked about Ghost Recon and she
49:37
was so open right there. And I was like, you felt like
49:41
how that communication went really smooth.
49:43
I don't know you. And we're in a place where
49:46
differences would matter else elsewhere, right?
49:50
You are gay and I am straight, but it doesn't matter.
49:55
We are shapes, and we're just interacting with each other,
49:58
like bumping around. And I go, hey, I know you like
50:01
video games. What kind do you know?
50:03
And it's almost proven every single time.
50:06
And it was so cool, 'cause her face lit up.
50:08
And we talked for a while and I said, do you think you could do
50:10
that? And she goes, yeah, I could.
50:13
And I'm gonna go get more liquid courage.
50:15
And and she grabbed my arm and she said, thank you so much.
50:18
I said, yeah, hope you find your person.
50:20
Hope you find your shape. And it was cool because that's
50:24
the thing at the matchbox thing, people would see each other.
50:28
A guy would see a chick and avoid her.
50:31
I mean, and then the woman would come over, Hey, I'm supposed to
50:35
match with this person. They're not matching with me.
50:38
DoorDash mentality. Well, they just it's the
50:40
ghosting. Everyone is ghosting everyone
50:43
now, even in business like I. Oh dude I've been ghosted so
50:48
many times so. Many times it's just, and I was
50:50
thinking about that, I'm like, man, ghosting is just such this
50:53
common theme now of like, oh, you know, I'm not going to tell
50:56
you that I don't want to interact with you anymore, that
50:59
I'm not moving forward or nothing.
51:01
I'm just going to not talk to you anymore and just go ahead,
51:03
OK. And I'm like, man, it's such a
51:06
different world then. Could you imagine ghosting 20
51:11
years ago? Someone's like, hey, what the
51:12
fuck's wrong with you? What's going on?
51:15
Well, dude, it's, it's so cool because at at this place, it's
51:19
really hard to ghost somebody that you make a connection with.
51:24
Because you made a connection. Right.
51:26
That's why I would tell people, please don't sleep with each
51:28
other tonight. Please don't do that.
51:30
You will cheapen this and you will ruin this connection if
51:34
you're going to intimacy. Because the theory is for me is
51:37
that the reason why there's a growing so much only fan, only
51:41
fan type, 'cause there's a lot of those platforms.
51:44
I didn't know how many platforms, there's a ton of
51:46
them, but you've only fans and what the hookup culture, right?
51:52
Why are these still around? Everybody complaints about both
51:55
of them. It's instant gratification.
51:57
It's instant intimacy. Yeah, you're what's the the the
52:01
most like you don't. We have lost patience.
52:06
We have lost the art of patience.
52:09
And it comes in having a really good meal.
52:12
It comes in everything we do. And I'm like, you know what?
52:15
That's nutritional. I roast my own beans now.
52:19
My coffee's a million times better.
52:21
Everything I do that's intentional is better.
52:26
Oh yeah, food's better. I Your body's better.
52:29
Yeah, I thought about sending a text to Addison to tell her how
52:33
grateful I was for her as my kid.
52:36
And just like. And then I was like, no, that
52:38
feels kind of cheap. And so I waited, and my fountain
52:41
pen came. And so I sat down and I wrote
52:44
her a letter and I put it in the envelope, put a little wax thing
52:47
on it, stamped it, and I left it on her pillow.
52:52
And I felt like that was way more meaningful and impactful
52:56
than just going like sending her a text.
52:59
And it's this patience that we just, we want things now.
53:03
We don't want to wait. We don't want to try and connect
53:07
with the person and go, no, it's fine.
53:09
I don't need to have worry about having sex with this person.
53:13
I could go flick my bean or do whatever.
53:15
And then? Yeah, but that's the thing then
53:16
just. Connect with this human because
53:18
my focus isn't going to be, hey, I need to get my rocks off Now I
53:23
can just enjoy this connection of who is this human and where
53:27
can this further? Because that real deep
53:30
connection is what real love is. It's it's like what matters, not
53:35
the infatuation that comes of like, Oh my God, look how
53:37
excited I am because that dies and fades.
53:41
Dude 100% that's what I was. I tell people I said there is a
53:44
progression here. It's friendship to relationship
53:48
to romance. You can't skip these parts
53:51
because if you do, you're trying to go to romance, which is
53:54
intimacy, which is, I mean, that's why we look for that
53:58
because we, we know it's going to be amazing, but you're trying
54:01
to shortcut actual human connection.
54:04
Which creates the amazing intimacy because we've talked
54:09
about it. Sex you can find anywhere
54:11
usually, and it's just sex. Is just sex a connection?
54:17
Is where you get this incredible connection where that comes to
54:21
this whole new level. And it's like, yeah, OK, no, I
54:24
would take this over any of that other shit any day.
54:27
But that's the thing though, I mean it, I, I remember being it
54:31
was you either hung out with the people that were really good
54:35
with it and they just attracted to the people who did want to do
54:38
more of that, right? I, I had the fortunate
54:40
opportunity be able to hang out with two gentlemen who were
54:44
amazing players and they were Ivy dude, They were chick
54:49
magnets. And they weren't like weren't
54:52
spectacular in one way or another.
54:54
It was who they were. And that's where I first started
54:57
learning about persuasion. It's the confidence honestly.
55:05
I have a buddy who's always been quite a bit larger than I and
55:10
I've always been quite impressed with how well he has done with
55:14
women. But the thing that he always has
55:16
is an incredible level of confidence.
55:19
Well, it's, it's behavioral relationship intelligence
55:21
because you understand like you've learned over time, right?
55:25
Like from books or from mirroring or practicing on your
55:29
own. Like, you know, a lot of the
55:31
books that we shared during the pandemic, 'cause we just read
55:34
every. That's when I really got into it
55:36
'cause I was doing it before just for writing, and then I was
55:39
just like more self reflective, 'cause we had a fucked ton of
55:41
time and we played the shit out of The Division.
55:44
Oh my God that game was so bored.
55:49
Such a. That would have been the time to
55:51
play Dying Light 'cause that would have been like, we played
55:54
for like 8 hours sometimes. Oh.
55:57
Man, Dying Light, Yeah, that would be a fun one to do then,
56:00
but that's OK. It's, it's, yeah, it's hard
56:03
'cause it's got a lot of investment and stuff and then
56:05
you always leave sweating. No, but I mean, no.
56:08
Anyways, like, yeah, exactly that.
56:09
It's, it's this where where we've, we've become so
56:14
impatient. We've become microwaved, right.
56:17
Let's say that one. But that'll be the, that'll be
56:19
the yeah, you're a microwave dinner.
56:21
You want it in X amount of time. Do you know the people that will
56:25
send these really vile things to this woman Brie, who sets these
56:30
events up? It is saddening and disgusting
56:37
at the same time. Quotes like I came there to meet
56:41
somebody tonight and there were, the algorithm was set up in a
56:46
very racist way to take my name and put at the bottom of the
56:50
list and not pair me. I mean, it's just like you took
56:53
this algorithm that has no feelings and you immediately
56:57
associate it with conspiracy theory.
57:00
I don't even consider it racism anymore.
57:02
It's just conspiracy theory. You just assume that this is
57:05
what's going to happen and it's so crazy.
57:08
They must have had a very rough life that that's the perception
57:12
that they had. It's common from that.
57:15
And it it destroys Bree. She like bawls because she wants
57:20
to help these people. And I'm like, no, no, no, they
57:23
have to help themselves. And this is help.
57:26
Someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
57:27
But. If someone is wanting to be a
57:30
victim, they're going to choose to be the victim.
57:32
They're not going to be there to try and.
57:33
But that's part of their ego. The ego plays the victim.
57:37
When you're able to just go to your base behaviors, you get to
57:40
mold your ego into something that actually is fulfilling.
57:44
Because I know wherever I go, I'm going to make friends.
57:47
No matter who you are, what walk of life, I do not care.
57:51
I see us all as spiritual beings.
57:53
So you're a ball of light and I'm a ball of light.
57:56
Whatever attracts you, Cool. Whatever.
57:58
That's kind of like the thing I've never felt like there's
58:02
been scary ghetto neighborhoods or scary people where I've never
58:06
had a fear of other people. I've never been one to go like,
58:11
hey, because I can go talk to anyone.
58:17
It's never been an issue of like, oh, there's some sort of
58:20
difference that I can't talk with you.
58:25
And I just, I don't understand that level of fear and hatred
58:29
for other humans on certain levels where it's just.
58:32
It's back to the microwave, right?
58:34
If you nuke it enough, if you try to speed up things too much,
58:38
you end up taking all of the nutrients.
58:40
Out of it, you end up with a dry, crusty biscuit.
58:43
Yeah, I mean literally. And what happens from that?
58:46
There's no sustenance from that. So you don't feel fulfilled and
58:50
you you're not able to produce energy.
58:52
So what do you do? You isolate, you doom scroll.
58:56
You play video games for hours and hours, like people take days
59:00
off of work for a video game launch.
59:03
And then they just play that for days, for days.
59:05
Like how do you do that? I can't.
59:08
I mean, I I get it though. But I get it because the reason
59:11
why it's not that any type of cabal has set this up to suck
59:16
away your time. We've done it to ourselves
59:19
because things feel cool and we're humans and we like to be
59:22
comfortable. I've just never my mind can't
59:25
comprehend spending that much time picking a game.
59:28
No I have but my parents were very strict with it so for me
59:32
even like when we did 8 hours on COVID times that was like a fuck
59:36
ton of game time. Yeah, but I mean, the the
59:39
coolest thing was like was the only social interactions that we
59:43
were having because. I think that's.
59:45
We were stuck in our house and so we were able to be somewhere
59:49
else during, I mean. Or at least talk and connect.
59:52
It's yeah, yeah. No dude, it's it's I I believe
59:59
it's just the and it's not the answer.
1:00:02
It's the symptoms. It's the symptom is behavior and
1:00:07
behavior for me is. When you're in patterns though,
1:00:10
so exactly it's become so hard to break 'cause it's a habit
1:00:13
then. But that's the cool part.
1:00:15
That habit is so hard for so many.
1:00:17
Well, but you can make improvements on it, right?
1:00:20
And that's the thing that it and you.
1:00:22
Can break habits and you can change.
1:00:24
But even saying that like breaking habits is so defined,
1:00:28
instead of going I'm on a path of progression, I'm I'm trying
1:00:31
to be better. For you, I mean, right?
1:00:33
To me, it doesn't bother me. No, no, no, I'm no.
1:00:36
But I'm, I'm saying structurally on that one because though the
1:00:38
way when I see these people there because it becomes so
1:00:41
habitual, they don't want to break it, which means they're
1:00:43
isolated features that they built into their life.
1:00:46
So when they're doing this. It's hard for them to.
1:00:49
Right, But when you're able to strip away the ego, which is
1:00:53
attached to your name, and you're just able to have that
1:00:55
shape. I'm not saying I'm like
1:00:56
brilliant on this one. I didn't invent any of it.
1:00:58
It just put patterns together. I, I look at patterns a lot, but
1:01:02
when you see this interacting in real world with people who don't
1:01:06
know each other and instantly bonding the coolest things.
1:01:10
Like some of the I see more groups of women leaving there as
1:01:14
friends and it's awesome because they're all similar and they all
1:01:18
match really well and they find each other interesting and
1:01:21
they're like, let's get out of here and go get dinner.
1:01:23
And the girls are running at me going.
1:01:24
We didn't meet any guys. Because some of the women don't
1:01:27
have a good friend group either. Like that's The thing is, I
1:01:30
don't know how many, I don't know how many people have great
1:01:36
friend groups, you know, that they actually do anything with
1:01:39
or associate with, hang out with, engage with, you know,
1:01:44
it's usually like they have one offs, but that that's not a
1:01:50
community. It's like 1 offs.
1:01:52
And so to feel that real community, feel that they're
1:01:56
wanting, 'cause that's what everyone genetically, it's like
1:01:59
the, the village, you know, you have your village of people to
1:02:04
survive and live and everyone's doing their shit.
1:02:06
Like it wasn't. Humans aren't independent.
1:02:10
We're not independent creatures. But we're also very like, we
1:02:14
think we're complex, but we're not.
1:02:15
We're pretty mundane right now. We're probably the the least
1:02:19
engaged in the least intelligent we've ever been before.
1:02:23
And that's across the board because we have become so
1:02:27
reliant upon comfort that we give up our ability to do, to
1:02:32
think dynamically. Yeah, how many of us are
1:02:34
intellectually the same level even that we were 20 years ago
1:02:38
in certain ways? How many phone numbers do you
1:02:41
remember every day or like, you know that you're like, oh, I've
1:02:45
got all my friends phone numbers memorized, my family's and phone
1:02:47
numbers memorized. Like you can rattle off 30 phone
1:02:50
numbers. That's.
1:02:50
A good idea, man. Like, I mean, that was like a,
1:02:52
it was like a memory thing. Oh yeah, books.
1:02:54
And and things that you would just yeah, you've got this
1:02:57
amazing memory for certain things.
1:02:58
But like every human like we used to, I feel like be way more
1:03:03
intellectual totally as a society.
1:03:05
And what what happened during those times of intellectual
1:03:08
growth? It was communities.
1:03:10
It was group and gathering. You know, I find people going to
1:03:16
bowling alleys are far more socially healthy than the people
1:03:20
who go to bars to go for hookups.
1:03:24
Oh 100% right. We used to go even to like the
1:03:28
library to story time and have all the families and tons of
1:03:32
people in that and like just random shit.
1:03:34
Go play with all the kids at the park.
1:03:39
I was watching something and it was talking about like kids in
1:03:43
the 80s and 90s and how it was such a different time because
1:03:48
you would just go out on your bike and ride off for miles and
1:03:52
go to the mall or go hang out here.
1:03:54
And then your parents would be like, they wouldn't know where
1:03:57
you were. They wouldn't know what you were
1:03:58
doing. You didn't have a cell phone.
1:04:00
You're not texting them all of this shit.
1:04:03
And then you come back when the lights are off or when they're
1:04:05
yelling out the door like, hey, come home or whatever it is.
1:04:08
They don't know that versus now we're helicoptering over our
1:04:12
kids. They're like, so we're my
1:04:17
sister-in-law was like snapped at Addie a couple weeks ago
1:04:23
because their daughter was running around outside and you
1:04:27
know, she's 18 months probably and she's just running and she
1:04:34
steps off the step onto the grass and that and she snaps at
1:04:38
her like, hey, you didn't catch her.
1:04:39
And I was like, she didn't fall. Why are you getting freaking out
1:04:45
about this? She's like, you need to watch
1:04:47
her closer. She's literally like 2 steps
1:04:49
behind her. She's been following her this
1:04:51
entire time. What are you talking about?
1:04:55
But it's just this like helicopter parent of like, oh,
1:04:57
no, my kid can't do this. Oh, they can't touch.
1:05:00
They can't learn that that might hurt.
1:05:01
They can't learn that that might not be the best option or they
1:05:04
can't. You know, we, we're so afraid to
1:05:06
let our kids learn. Yeah, my, my parents didn't
1:05:08
care. I mean, they, they were working.
1:05:10
They were trying to keep lights on.
1:05:13
They were trying to keep us fed. They.
1:05:15
Were when you think about it, your parents aren't like, Oh my
1:05:18
God, don't touch that. It's yeah, you're gonna feel it
1:05:20
and go. Oh, they they came from the
1:05:22
generation. Like AI told you that story of
1:05:24
that guy I knew when I was younger.
1:05:27
His father was German GSG 9, so special forces, right.
1:05:32
And the German special forces are another breed of psychos.
1:05:35
And when he was young, they were at a cabin and his father was
1:05:39
cooking on one of those like fucking wood stoves.
1:05:42
OK, Yeah. Like Grandma Grap, I hadn't.
1:05:46
And they had like a a burner on the top and he just kind of lift
1:05:50
this little thing off and the fire would come up through
1:05:53
there. Yeah, look like one of the gas
1:05:54
stoves. And he said Forza is that hot?
1:05:58
And he goes, I don't know, find out, 'cause he I saw the scar on
1:06:03
his. Hand.
1:06:05
And I was and he, he tell me the story and showed me his hand.
1:06:08
I was like mother fucker. And then all his father said to
1:06:11
him was I guess it's hot. So from now on what he taught
1:06:16
his son is if you're going to ask me, I'm going to tell you
1:06:21
and don't question it. Just know that that's the way it
1:06:23
is, right? And that's the way that it was
1:06:27
passed on. And that's why I think
1:06:29
genetically we are programmed to do that because we are our bone
1:06:37
density, our muscles, everything is built for protection and for
1:06:40
work and for women are completely designed differently.
1:06:45
Like it's so like I love learning about the human body
1:06:48
inside of it and. Yeah, Emily sends me so many
1:06:51
videos on like, menstruation and on women and how their bodies
1:06:55
work differently. And, and I was like, Oh my gosh.
1:06:57
Like I, I have been so incredibly educated through
1:07:04
dating her and so many aspects of things that I'm like, I would
1:07:08
have never learned this. And I think it's fascinating
1:07:11
because it's not my fascinations, but it's hers.
1:07:14
And she shares them with me. And I learned so much through
1:07:16
that because it's not something I typically will go down a
1:07:19
rabbit hole and research and learn.
1:07:20
And like we had Meredith on, she was fantastic talking about
1:07:25
endometriosis and like women cycles and menstruation and all
1:07:29
of that. But yeah, it's.
1:07:32
Well, you think about that, and that's why I like for me, the
1:07:35
concept of equality comes from the ego.
1:07:38
And the reason why I say that is because equality is always
1:07:42
looking for differences and one is not equal to the other.
1:07:46
And the more that that perpetuates, the more division
1:07:49
comes from that. But when we get along on many
1:07:53
different things, it's not because I need to be right or
1:07:56
you need to be wrong. It's about being able to
1:07:58
understand each other and how we interact with one another the
1:08:03
the way I can. The reason why I would say that
1:08:05
is I get to see this in real time every week.
1:08:12
Dude, it gets dry. Yeah, yeah, it gets dry.
1:08:15
I was going to say that's the one thing, is it?
1:08:18
This one gets you dry. Yeah, it gets you dry.
1:08:20
Dude, I've already drained my whole fucking bottle.
1:08:23
Oh, man. No, it's it.
1:08:25
That's the way I, because I see it, man, every time, every week
1:08:30
I get to see this happen right in front of me where people
1:08:33
don't judge each other. Like it's so cool these people
1:08:38
that meet together, both looking for relationship and for
1:08:41
friendship because that's what I encourage him to do.
1:08:44
But he's like, no, it's for dating.
1:08:45
And I'm like, no, it's for friendship because if I have a
1:08:48
friend and my friend network keeps growing, every time I come
1:08:52
to this event, I meet a new friend to bring into my new
1:08:56
circle of friends. These are the shapes that really
1:08:59
mesh well with us. And when they start to form
1:09:03
these groups, they actually increase their likability of
1:09:06
going. You know what?
1:09:07
I met this other guy. He's not for me, but I told him
1:09:10
that you would be awesome to talk to.
1:09:13
And they come over and it's a shape thing.
1:09:15
People don't see the physical side of a person.
1:09:18
Like I would see a heavier set woman and the guy would see her
1:09:21
and turn and walk away and go joke around with his friends.
1:09:24
But at the shape events, they'll just talk because the ego is
1:09:29
removed. I don't need to play to my name
1:09:33
and whatever thing that that is. It's like, don't talk about what
1:09:35
you do. These things strike up
1:09:38
conversations from memories. That's the that's how it's
1:09:41
designed. Maybe all it is is just that
1:09:44
space. They're not feeling like they're
1:09:46
being judged and that's all anyone wants is to go in and go
1:09:49
hey, I can connect, meet this person, share something and I'm
1:09:54
not going to feel judged. That's all it is, is the other
1:09:57
people go hey. And that, that's really just
1:09:59
acceptance. I want this person to accept
1:10:02
just me as I am. I don't need to be someone else.
1:10:05
I don't need to be anything different.
1:10:07
I wish they just would accept me for me.
1:10:10
And I think that's a problem as too many as have learned through
1:10:13
interactions with other people that we aren't OK.
1:10:17
The version of us isn't acceptable in society, family,
1:10:21
friends, whatever it is from a joke, a comment or whatever that
1:10:26
cut us down or put us down or did that was like hey, that
1:10:30
version of you isn't OK. Well, and this is the cool
1:10:32
thing, man, is that behaviors just goes across cultures.
1:10:36
It's how who you are down to the bone.
1:10:38
It's the things that you do that are unspoken that are not openly
1:10:42
revealed. And that's why, you know, when
1:10:45
Kim created this, like one of the things she would say to me,
1:10:47
and when she said it to me earlier on, it's like, OK, but
1:10:53
it really does it. It breaks down the barriers of
1:10:55
cultures and it breaks down the barriers of race because you
1:10:59
don't care who the other person is.
1:11:01
There's this gorgeous black woman.
1:11:03
I got to meet a couple of them go and she's cool as shit.
1:11:06
She's 22. And when I saw her cross and I
1:11:09
just immediately went into and I said, you care about people so
1:11:14
much that you put yourself last, don't you?
1:11:16
And she goes, I really do. And I said, who you trying to
1:11:21
help? Her face lit up.
1:11:24
She's trying to do this whole thing of being able to help
1:11:26
communities, like small communities, building tiny homes
1:11:30
and stuff like that to help get these people on their feet into
1:11:34
jobs or creating jobs to serve a community.
1:11:38
Because we see a lot of joblessness.
1:11:40
I see a lot of new solutions coming out to be able to help
1:11:44
people feel fulfilled in that, in the concept of of these
1:11:49
events plays into that. It just goes, hey, you can be a
1:11:54
nerd. I, I tried to do a
1:11:55
neurodivergent night. I think the wording didn't go
1:11:57
well, but do we? We had a ton of dudes coming.
1:12:00
In Call it Nerd Night. That's exactly what I said, Nerd
1:12:03
Night, and it said if you're into games and all these
1:12:05
different things, we welcome you.
1:12:07
Yeah, and they there's the nerd store in the mall.
1:12:09
Like, call it Nerd Night. It would be perfect.
1:12:12
It's very fitting and everyone knows that there's something
1:12:14
that they're a fucking nerd about.
1:12:17
Hey, we love you guys. Drop what you're nerding about
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in the comments and catch you Tuesday.
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Take care.