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Dana Sardano - FindUniquelyU · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here's your host, Melissa Capria.
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Hey everybody, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating the
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life you crave. How are you guys doing today? It's Wednesday. I
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love Wednesdays. I love doing my show. I hope everybody's doing well.
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They know we're in August already. I can't even believe it. And I'm
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sure a lot of you are getting ready for back to school, so you're
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not good luck with all that. I don't have to worry about that part.
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Yeah, it's been you know, summertime, it's been hot. I
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hope you guys are staying cool. We're trying here. Thank God for air
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condition. I mean, that is the best invention ever. So stay cool,
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and we're getting ready to roll in the fall here, which is my
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favorite time of the year. But today, I have a really cool show.
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My guest is author Dana Sardano, and Dana was on my show.
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I think it was in March, I can't remember exactly. And I just
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love her so much. I just love her energy. She's also a Florida
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girl. She's going to join me in just a couple of minutes because we're
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gonna be talking about a workshop that I'm doing. But Dana is doing a
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bunch of different workshops, so it's really cool what she's put together. So
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we're going to get into that a lot today, So just stay tuned for
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that and she'll be here with me in just a sec. Okay, So
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to all my regulars, thank you guys for coming each week. You don't
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even know how much it means to me. If you keep coming back to
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my show and listening to me and sending me emails, it just makes me
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so happy to hear that you are enjoying my show. So please keep coming
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back. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Now, if you're
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just tuning into me for the first time, I want to say welcome,
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thank you so much, and I hope that you keep coming back. Please,
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and you know, if you really like my show, please share it
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in the future, you can always listen to the replay. The shows are
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always put up for replays after the live show, and you can always find
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it on my podcast also which is on Postcards to the Universe, and Own
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Times Radio on their podcast. Okay, so let me just tell you a
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little bit about me if you're just discovering me for the first time. I'm
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a photographer and artist and I'm also an author, and I have a book.
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It's titled Postcards to the Universe, Harness the Universe's power and manifest your
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dreams. And all the photographs in the book are mine. I took all
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the photos. So in my book, I have thirty manifesting stories along with
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the photos that I took of the people who contributed. They're manifesting postcard for
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they sent them to me or they made them in a workshop that I did.
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And what a manifesting postcard, I guess the easiest way to describe it
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for people who are like, what is she talking about? It's kind of
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like a mini vision board. You put on your postcard something that you want
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to manifest in your life. You send it to me, and when not
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becomes a reality, you let me know and we talk about it how it
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manifested for you. So in the book there's thirty of those stories. And
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I also have like all these writing exercises because we need to really get clear
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on what it is we want to manifest, because we're not always clear.
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Usually we have a feeling we want we want to feel more joy, we
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want to feel abundant, we want to feel happy, So we want to
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look for those areas in our life to bring us more of that. So
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that's why we make the manifesting postcard. And I have really cool exercises in
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the book in the main areas, right, there's always the main areas love,
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money, health, career. So there's a whole bunch of like exercises
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I put in the book that we can all do to manifest more in those
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areas. So if you're interested and doing the inner work exercises and reading these
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people's incredible journeys of transformation, inspiration and manifesting, please go and purchase my
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book. You can get on Amazon, Barnes, and Noble, and if
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you go into a bookstore, if you like going into a brick and mortar
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bookstores, they will order you the book if it's not already there. All
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right, So each week I ask everybody to please keep sending me manifesting postcards.
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And I know people are listening because I'm getting them, so thank you.
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Please keep doing that, I know. So if you go to Postcards
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to the universe dot com, I tell you on there how to make one,
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and there's an address listed on there that you could send it to me.
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And if you join my newsletter, I have joined my movement. If
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you go there and you do that, you will get in your inbox automatically
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tools and tips about you know what, how do you what to use for
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your manifesting postcard? And I also have another free gift which is an eight
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step manifesting process to manifest in any area of your life. So that's for
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you. So yeah, please join me, and if you like me,
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I still do like Facebook. I know not everybody does, but I do.
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I have a group it's called Postcards of Love and we share funny and
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uplifting posts and it's all good stuff. It's all feel good stuff. So
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join me over there and just post anything uplifting and funny. Okay, So
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I'm gonna bring Dana on. I'm going to read her bio right now because
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I've been talking. You guys have been hearing me talk about a workshop that
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I'm doing with her. Well, well kind of we're not co doing this
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particular workshop together, but you'll find all this out. So let me just
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tell you a little bit about Dana first, and then we'll talk about what
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I'm doing and what she's doing. So, Dana Sardana is the owner,
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resident artist and intuitive at Ubuntu Got to Say That Right Fish Gallery in Stuart,
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Florida. She's a published author and co founder chief officer of Curriculum at
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find Uniquely You the letter you dot com. Dana has authored several books,
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all centered around personal growth and wellness. She wrote and illustrated her first book,
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Vata Finds Her Crown, a book centered around chakra health and development to
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help a teachers, parents, and caretakers who are educated the whole child.
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She then authored ten Recommendments for Personal Empowerment and Decoding The Woo Woo, an
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autobiographical account of her own spiritual journey written with the hope of demystifying spiritual practices
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by presenting them in a practical and understandable way. Dana's goal is to act
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as a bridge between the mainstream and the metaphysical community so that those on the
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quest for personal growth and development can do so without being deterred by sometimes fearful
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and biased conceptions of spirituality. She's offering a Meet the Author workshops based on
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ten recommendments for personal empowerment. Vata finds her Crown and Decoding the Woo woo
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at Find uniquelyu dot com, which is an online learning platform designed for creators
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to connect and collaborate with their audience through small virtual workshops, interact with experts
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in their field for a fraction of the costs of working with them one on
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one, and creators benefit from sharing their content on a deeper level and seeing
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the impact they have in real time, while participants benefit from their expertise.
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And I am one of the creators now who's doing a workshop on the platform.
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Find f I N d uniquely you n I q U E l Y
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you the letter you dot com. Welcome Dana, Thanks so much. I
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am so excited to talk to you. After reading through my bio all of
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the biggest All right, start and I'll keep it together. So'll get all
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crazy focus. Well, you have that creative energy too, and so it's
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like I know that we connected right away, like from when we met,
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from the last time you were on my show, and you know, we
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just both like have all this creative spark and we want to share it with
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other people, right because for me, I learn and I get so much
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when I utilize that create my creativity, and I know you do too.
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But let me let you explain what find uniquely You is, how that came
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about and what you're offering, because I'm doing a workshop there, but there's
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many workshops, so I'll let you start, Okay, So I just want
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to begin by saying that we my business partner and I, Angela DeMarco.
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You know, Angela B and I have created a company called uniquely Phenom Collaboration.
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Okay, it's a it's a marriage of find uniquely you dot Com and
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Cenom Publishing. I don't want to put too much time into the origin story
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because there were so many pivots. I mean, we'll make two or three
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hours, but I will tell you that we see the value of creators and
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what they're doing any thing from content creators on social media to musicians to authors,
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mostly authors, right, and the content creators. You know this.
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You know, you write a book, you put it out there. You're
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all excited because you know that what you have is special and it could help
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people. But how don't you get it to people? And once they've read
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it? So you have a situation where you do the thing with the with
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the postcards. But you know, one of my books, probably my flagship,
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is ten Recommendments for Personal Empowerment. I know people are reading it.
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I see the sales because the Royal No people are reading it. But what
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happens is I now we're intimate. Right now, you've got a piece of
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me, you know, piece of my soul, piece of my guts,
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and there's really no interaction. And I want to see people's progress. That's
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why we do what we do. So Angela and I we've decided to take
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content creators. Sometimes it could be through people who publish books through us,
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but content creators who have something, who have a story to tell, who
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want to connect with their audiences, want to take their contents a step further
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and teach workshops. So we have these content creators. We have a ready
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teach program that I run to assist because maybe there's a content creators like I
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don't know how to teach class, you know, and I walk you through
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this program. I'm a retired educator, walk you through this program. So
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you can have live intimate workshops, I say, intimates who try to keep
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them under twenty five people intimate workshops. So now people who read your books
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can go the step further with the authors, so you can connect with these
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people. So we could take this again, we could take this a step
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further. So it's really exciting, and we have awesome We have an awesome
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catalog people who are all with the same purpose, doing the same thing,
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but it looks completely different for each of us, which makes it which makes
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it amazing. Yeah, yeah, I mean that is what makes it amazing.
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And I love the fact because you'll see like and I'm sure you come
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across it too. If you're just scrolling on social media when you like posts,
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you see more of a similar posts. And I see a lot of
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people doing workshops. And but a lot of times the workshops are pre recorded
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and you just get you'll get the recording and whatever. If there's work that
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they want you to do also, and maybe they'll have a question and answer
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or maybe a one time meet. But what I like about this workshop specifically
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and minus titled just for you guys listening. It's called Manifesting through Gratitude,
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a visual journey. And my workshop runs Thursday evenings six to eight pm Eastern
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time, so it's two hours. It's I'm there with you, we're doing
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it from We're in the comfort of our home. We're all online together,
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but I am participating with everybody in the group in the workshop for the five
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weeks that it runs, and then we're going to keep rotating them over,
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you know, but it each workshop runs for five weeks. That's my workshop,
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so they vary slightly, right, You want to share a little bit
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about what some of the other workshops are and how how you facilitate them.
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Yeah, yeah, So so just to you know, give you a little
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bit of the catalogs, like I teach workshops. I have three books that
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I've authored, and each one of those books I have created four week workshops
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eight hour workshops from and I have taken because I understand that's a heavy commitment
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for some people, so I have taken some of the best parts of the
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books that I've authored and created like little micro workshops, little intentions. But
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just as an example, I wrote a book called Beta Fines or Crown,
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and it's a little fanciful story. It's it's really to help children with their
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emotional development. But I do it based on the Shocker system, so I
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marry the spirituality and the practicality. So I write this little story and then
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there's a workbook attached to it to assist again people in and regulating their emotions.
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I initially wrote it for children, so I do a workshop for adolescents,
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but I also do the work as it's fun. You know, it's
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colors for adults. But I also have done an intensive for teachers and educators
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and parents who want to apply this to you know, either their homeschooling or
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traditional education. So that's just one example. But most of my all of
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my stuff is all about personal empowerment in one way or another. But then
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there's Angela DeMarco. She does stuff for websites, building businesses, understanding their
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brands. Because we are in and I know that you understand this. We
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are in a time where people are starting to understand that there's more to life
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than what they've been told, that they've been certainly how they've been confistioned,
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and people are leaving relationships, leaving their jobs, moving on to the next
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day. They're expanding upon their creativity. So what do you do you're a
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creative, what do you do You've been in this nine to five or your
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whole life. So she's empowering people through the business aspect of the next step.
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And just to give you a couple more examples, you know, we
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have a we have another workshop or another facilitator who teaches people how to understand
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their own style and she does them through the clothing that they wear and empowers
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them through clothing, which is really cool. And then, oh my god,
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it stop me when you need to stop me. No, I want
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you to because I want people to you know, I want people to understand,
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you know, because they're going to be hearing me talking about my workshop
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now all the time, so I want them to understand where it's at and
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it's not. I'm not the only one there, right, So if what
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my messages isn't resonating with you specifically, don't just you know, still go
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and check it out because there maybe another that really does resonate with you,
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right, because we're all the creatives, right exactly, and you know they're
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load aways the skin a cat, right, Yeah, we're all looking right.
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I clean that up for you, but we're when you really really break
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it down, we all just want to get our needs met. We all
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just want to feel good, to be happy, content, have peace in
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our lives. And there's so many ways to go about that, depending on
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the individual. For me, it's communication and creativity. For somebody else that
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might clothing. We have another instructor who does She's got a course called Energy
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one on one, and she's got another one called the Claire's you know,
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clair Voyage. Yeah, And what she's doing is she's teaching people about energy
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and it's learnt to the physical stuff and then how to how to wake up
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their own special gifts. Right. You know that's somebody who teaches a course
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about how to address parents who have gifted children. And then there's you with
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gratitude, Oh my god, gratitude day long. And you talk about the
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man. You talk about the manifesting through gratitude. You know, people throw
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the work manifestation around. It just means to get what you want, to
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take actions, that's what you want, And and all of these right.
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All of these workshops are ways to do that. So what we're doing here,
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you know, if I may say so myself, but we are doing
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something so important for the for humans, for humanity, Andrew and I was
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like, in the sake of humanity, but for humanity's time, because so
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much it's become in human and me, and we're trying to bring that back
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through authenticity, through just you know, being well obviously that's authenticity, but
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being who you are and bringing into the world without apology. And these workshops
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are or an example of that. Yeah, I mean I totally agree with
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you because I don't think people really Okay, so we all know one thing.
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We all know we all want to be happy, right, y'all want
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joy in our life. I mean universally, I don't care who you are.
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Everybody wants joy in their life. And and you know, you throw
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the Ever since that movie The Secret came out, you know, some people
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rolled their eyes. They're like, oh, the law of attraction, and
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they don't realize that we're constantly attracting to us the state that we are we
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are, So if we're walking around bitter all the time, we're going to
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be attracting things that keep us in that energy of bitterness or anger or sadness.
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Right, So when I start, Yeah, so when I started with
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the manifestation and you know, being wanting to be like a co creator with
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the universe and consciously create what showed up in my life, which only came
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to me after being in a very painful situation, because that's usually what happens,
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right, that's when we want to change our life. I started to
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realize something is that with gratitude, gratitude of what I already have. When
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I really felt grateful, I mean, not pretending to be grateful, not
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just looking at like, you know, I love my apartment or my home
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and I'm just like, oh my god, it's so great, it's so
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cute, but I really feel it, you know, more things would show
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up in my life. More artwork would show up, more aesthetic things that
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were pleasing for my home would show up. So something in me went,
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h Okay, I need to pay attention to this. I need to pay
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attention to this. What can I do to help other people understand? If
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we can tap into that energy of gratitude, it is the fastest and most
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powerful way to bring the joy that you are looking for into your life period
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exclamation point, Like really, that's it, And that's basically, in a
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nutshell, what the workshop is, right, So it's to me, it's
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like invest in your happiness and in your joy because when you open up to
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your own world and see what you already have to be grateful for, and
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then you start to see and you tap into that energy, all those things
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that are going to start coming to you when you're really feeling that. And
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that's when I'm going to help you practice on a daily basis so that you
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can get into that feeling. You're going to be like, oh my god,
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why wasn't I doing this before? Yeah? Yeah, yeah? And
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can I add a little piece to that? Yes? Please? Sorry,
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I just want to. I'm so excited about it because I know it's amazing,
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all of it, all of it. Because I finally feel that time
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is coming for those of us who kind of work that we're like, okay,
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we're here. Are you ready? You're not ready? You're ready now,
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okay. But but as far as the gratitude, what you're saying is
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when you practice gratitude before gratitude comes to you. I believe so strongly that
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we are always presented with everything we need. Right, yes, whatever it
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is, it will, it will show up to us. But what happens
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is when shitty crew, no you con curse, you con curse on the
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shop. Yeah no, you can say shitty, no problem, okay,
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beautiful, thank you. So when shitty circumstances come our way, we immediately
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were like, well, that doesn't make sense, that's not what I need.
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But when we don't realize, that's exactly what we need because the shitty
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circumstances are just as important to the beautiful situation or circumstances, so it's important
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to practice. Gratitude is difficult as it is for the shitty well, because
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all that is is information, and that shitty information you told me, I
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have to say shitty. So I'm just gonna keep Yeah, I'm like styles
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that could hear lads belts. But even in that information, it's it's it's
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it's alerting us to what we need to do. So the gratitude is not
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just for oh look my oh on, I love my home so much and
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I don't know, it's so wonderful. It's right, it's stand top and
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I got fired from my job and yeah, that's that's set a minute.
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Ay, it's telling me something that I'm not right for this anymore, and
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it's given me an opportunity too. So so you said it perfectly that it's
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not enough to just say you have gratitude, it's to really be it.
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And I talk about this and decoding the woo woo that you know, our
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energy, you know, belies anything that we say. You know, I
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gets smacked up ahead and I'm like, fine, So you're clearly not fine,
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right, You're exactly on that too. Yeah, well, yeah,
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absolutely you have to. That's why I loved that statement, that the statement
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that life doesn't happen to us, it happens for us, and it I
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didn't grasp it right away, you know, because when you're going through something
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terrible and painful and don't and I always tell people, I am not one
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of those woo woo people that minimizes pain. I don't think it. You
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should try to skirt over it and pretend it's not happen and living, you
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know, rainbows and butterflies. No, I'm not that person. So no,
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if something terrible or traumatic is happening to you have to process that grief.
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You have to go through it. But it is. It's if you
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can look at it as life is happening for you instead of to you.
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You can look at when you process the pain, what is this here to
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teach me? And where am I supposed to go now from here? And
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that's when your life can open up and shift in amazing ways. And you
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know, it's one of those things that the more you really sort of grasp
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that and understand that, it's like I just kind of remember the moment that
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I sort of really got what that meant, and it was after a terrible
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period of my life and after the worst of the pain had already dissipated.
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Then I could look back and see how that was it gift and be grateful
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for that. That makes sense. Yeah, Hindsight is a beautiful thing,
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isn't it? Yeah? It is? It really is, right. That's
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why they say hindsight is twenty twenty because you'll be like, what the heck
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now, I see that? But yeah, or at least what it's taught
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me is when I'm in a situation that I don't have clarity, to just
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take a breath and you know, and really instead of just reacting with emotion,
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really really talk myself through it because I know that in hindsight is gonna
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makes sense to me. So when you understand, when you have the faith
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that everything, I don't want to say everything's happening for a reason, like
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I didn't want to punch myself for saying, right, yeah, there really
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is truly purpose and everything, and it's what we glean from it. But
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we can't glean anything from it if we are in a snit of emotion and
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we're not taking a moment to find the clarity. Right Well, and most
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of the people that listen to Own Times, listen to my show and the
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other shows here are the kind of people that are asking those questions. That's
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why they're attracted to listening to this show, right. I mean, we
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know there's some people that are just not there, not even don't even want
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to question anything, don't want to ask the big questions, just like you
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know, I want to wake up, go to work, eat, go
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to bed, like just leave me alone. Okay, that's fine, that's
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where they're at. But for the rest of us, for the rest of
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us that want to understand and expand our lives and get to the deeper meaning.
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This is why creators like you and me want to do the things that
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we do. And this is also why I love doing this show, because
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I get to meet people like you, one of the people that I've met,
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and other people that I feature an interview on my show who are doing
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Like like we said earlier, everybody's basically doing the same kind of work.
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It's just that the message is different from each individual person. But we're all
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like trying to expand and grow our lives and it's so interesting. And that's
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why, like I said, Wednesday, it's my favorite day because I love
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my show. But I want to I see we're going to be coming up
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to our first commercials, so I want to take it now because I wanted
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to talk to you more about this and some of the other things that you're
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doing when we come back. So why don't you guys stay tuned and in
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just a couple of minutes, we'll be back. I'm back with Dana.
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just joining me, my guest today is author and creator Dana Sardano. So,
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Dana, did you hear your commercial? Look famous? We are?
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No, it's good, but it's interesting. I love the commercial because you
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talk about what's your story? Right? So let's talk about that, because
30:03
we all have a story, We carry stories. Stories are passed down,
30:07
you know, from generation a generation. Like so if our story is about
30:11
around lack, you know, lack keeps showing up in our life, we
30:15
inherit that from our families if that's what was their story. So I love
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the way that you put the commercial together because you're saying, like, so,
30:23
what is your story? Like, what do you want your story to
30:26
be? You know, and you wanted to define you? And how do
30:30
you wanted to to find you? Can you share a little bit about that?
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Oh? Sure? That is actually the first page in ten Recommendments for
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Personal Empowerment Because when I wrote that book, I basically used my life experience
30:44
and in my stories as support for the points that I was making. It
30:48
was very very vulnerable book, Like I was not pretty in all of the
30:52
stories. Yeah, but you know what it was honesty and right and this
30:57
whole idea that we all have a story. You know, when I went
31:02
to college, my husband he stayed home when he went to college. When
31:04
I went to college, I went about twelve hundred miles away, and so
31:07
his experience he lived at home was a little bit different. And what I
31:11
did is, you know, you're hanging out with people in your dorm friends,
31:15
and whether you're drinking, whatever it is, you're hanging out, and
31:17
everybody's telling their stories, always constantly in telling their stories, telling their stories,
31:21
sort of like you know camp fire stuff. You know, you're telling
31:23
your stories. And when every time I told one of my stories or my
31:29
story, I evolved even more because there was a level of healing, a
31:33
new perspective in that shared story. And I didn't even realize through that experience
31:40
I involved more as a human being. And when I met my husband and
31:42
we talked about these experiences, I can actually see the difference in his emotional
31:48
evolution when he was in his twenties versus mind. And when I realized in
31:52
with my partner in La DeMarco, my business partner and Or DeMarco, well,
31:56
we realized is we all have a story to tell. We all have
32:00
our own narratives. Who am I in the story? Am the victor?
32:05
Victim? Am I you know this empowered person? Am the benevolent soul?
32:10
Who am I in this story? And then when we realize what our stories
32:15
are and realize that maybe they're not serving us, Maybe I am the victim
32:20
and all my stories, maybe I need to rethink my beliefs about myself and
32:23
the world around me. So the act of storytelling is the core of everything
32:29
we do. You and I are talking about the online educational platform for the
32:35
workshops. That's for people who are telling their stories, who are overcoming their
32:38
stories, learning from their stories, and presenting their information. Again mostly authors,
32:44
but we have all these other arms, you know we do. We
32:49
do a podcast called Go and Commando. It's all about authenticity with your story.
32:53
We have a publishing company, Seen on Publishing and for people who have,
32:57
you know, overcome things in their lives that are ready to share their
33:00
story to help inspire others. There's so many assets. Oh my god,
33:06
we're running on LinkedIn. Sorry we're running out. It was like, what
33:09
what happened? I gotta I gotta excited? I told you, But I
33:15
mean we did. We're running a video series for people. It's called those
33:20
who Rise and Shine. Given people the opportunity to tell stories that are under
33:24
ten minutes long and showcasing them because it's the beauty of the story that connects
33:30
us as human. Yeah, that's why it's here. That is why we're
33:37
here. And if your story, if your whole life, your story,
33:40
let's say, because you said victim is victim, and you decide one day,
33:45
I don't want to I don't want that story anymore. I don't want
33:47
that to continue to be my story, right, But you don't know how
33:51
to change that. But you don't have to stay in that victim story.
33:57
Yeah, rewrite your story, worry, right, And so that's what I
34:02
had to do, you know. I mean I had an old story and
34:06
an old life, and my news story now is while I'm talking to you
34:10
right here. It is completely different than the people pleaser story. Then the
34:16
everybody else is more important than me story, Like that story has been buried.
34:22
I'm a story anymore. You know. We're always evolving, and so
34:29
it's kind of like when we get it, we can't help but want to
34:32
share it. Because I said this when I was being interviewed on another podcast.
34:40
We don't need to go out and change the world. We don't need
34:44
to do all that that's too overwhelming. All you need to do is change
34:47
yourself because when you heal yourself, you automatically heal the world. Because if
34:52
we all collectively did it, imagine what the world would look like, right,
34:55
It would be paradise. Right. I remember remember my father passed a
35:00
few years ago, but when he was still alive, I remember him asking
35:04
me it was a real hot a political topic. It was, you know,
35:07
a Hillary certain promp that was it was. And he asked me.
35:12
I remember we were at the park and my husband was standing behind my father,
35:15
and my father an old school guinea, you know, from Jersey.
35:20
He said to me, what do you think about the wall? Right?
35:22
And I'm like, oh my god. And Rob is just going to snog
35:24
your head and say yes, it's behind him, go and just nod your
35:27
head. And I'm like, I love it. And he's like, so
35:30
he's pursuing this, and I'm like, listen, I'm not. I can't
35:32
get into the politics. I'm not. And he say, how are you
35:37
going to change the world if you're if you don't follow politics? And I
35:42
looked at him and I both itself, and then I most to my children,
35:47
and I right, it's the talent changing the world. And I in
35:52
that moment again this old school guy from Jersey and then hed it. I
35:55
thought in his eyes he got it. I'm like, why would I?
35:58
How am I changing the world by getting angry out of the people's actions.
36:01
The only way the world is being the best version of myself? Right,
36:06
right, It's hard not to get angry, and it's hard, like,
36:08
let's just say it is, especially when you see injustices. But what happens
36:13
is is like anything else is contagious. So if you're approaching the world angry
36:16
about something about an injustice, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't feel it.
36:22
But if you keep going at the world that way, angry, angry,
36:24
angry, angry, it's going to keep coming back to you of more reasons
36:28
to be angry, more things to be angry at, more fighting, more
36:30
fighting, more conflict. So you want to change it by healing those things
36:36
inside yourself so that you can still approach it. It's not saying like,
36:38
don't just sit on your hands and do nothing. If you feel called right,
36:43
if you feel called for social justice, then absolutely that's what you should
36:46
be doing, right, Yeah, I mean it's but it's the way we
36:51
approach things on the outside that bring back. So you know, if and
36:55
that's why with the gratitude, where I wanted to do the gratitude is because
37:00
I notice we're both then are Italian, so we're very passionate. You know,
37:06
the blood boils quickly, you know, it just does. And so
37:14
you know, I notice that if I get if I allow myself to go
37:17
there for too long, it's a detriment to my emotional health, my emotional
37:24
body and it and it shows up in my world. It shows up in
37:28
my world. Yep. Yeah, yeah, it's truly truly something. It's
37:35
hard to wrap your brain around it if you're not, if you haven't made
37:39
yourself aware of it, anybody's listening, if you just take a moment,
37:45
and you could do it moments a moment at first, because if everything is
37:50
muscle memory, and sure, how am I feeling in this moment? How
37:52
what does my circumstances around me look like? And does assess it and does
37:57
it You'll start to see. You'll start to see, like when I am
38:00
going through whatever I'm going through, I noticed my kids act out. Yeah,
38:06
that's well, why do they act out more? Because the energy that
38:08
is coming from me is creating discomfort in the home. All right, So
38:13
think about that. If my energy can affect two other human beings, I
38:16
take that out into the world. Amazing what we bump up against if we're
38:22
not getting attention. Yeah, no, exactly. And you don't even have
38:25
to be saying anything to your kids. They can just feel it. Because
38:29
we're so sensitive energies, we can feel it. Right, That's that's why
38:32
everything vibrates. Everything vibrates, and and we match what what is in our
38:38
We vibrate to what's matching in our space. So you know, that's the
38:43
only way we can right, we can't go we can't be at a higher
38:47
vibration level and get those things that resonate at that level. If we're not
38:52
there, right, we're not there. There's this saying that we say in
38:57
my family, and it just makes me laugh. We say pennywise and dollar
39:00
foolish. And I'll give you an example. So people will like because you're
39:06
talking about just talking about it in the sense with the workshops. So the
39:07
workshops are not free, right, people have to make an investment and I
39:12
believe you're making an investment into yourself. Right, So people will see a
39:16
price and they'll get like all like freaked out, like oh no, no,
39:20
no, no, I won't do that. But if they're going through
39:23
something and they're trying to self medicate, they may spend a fortune on alcohol
39:28
or on retail therapy. Or you'll go out with friends to a dinner and
39:32
you know you'll spend four or five hundred dollars for one evening out and not
39:37
think twice about it, and okay, and that might be great for the
39:40
moment, but then where are you after that? So that's why we say
39:45
like penny wise and dollar foolish. So you won't have a problem spending on
39:49
the money for a quick fix that'll give you that feeling of satiation. But
39:54
when sometimes when you have to make the investment in yourself to do the real
39:59
inner word where you're gonna get the lifelong benefits, people put up a sense
40:04
of like resistance. You know, they'll see it. They'll see prices and
40:07
they'll say, oh no, that's just too steep for my blood. But
40:09
they don't see where they're leaking the money and spending it where it's not benefiting
40:15
them. Does that make sense? Don't know what I'm talking about, Okay,
40:17
okay, yeah, what we do as human beings, we have coping
40:22
mechanisms that we've set up from childhoods for whatever difficulties that we've run across this
40:27
so we learn, right, right, And some of our coping mechanisms are
40:30
unhealthy. And there's self soothing and distraction right true. I am always blown
40:36
away at what people spend their money on because people are buying the thing,
40:40
people are buying the feeling that comes with the thing, right right, right,
40:45
And I think back's going to talk about self soothing. Some of my
40:47
self soothing soothing definitely still my cookie must have cookies. But I did all
40:55
the party, did the drugs. I'm yeah, alcohol stuff, Yeah,
41:01
yeah, that was a mechanism for me. Yeah, oh my god.
41:06
Promiscuity is another one. I'm not going to call you out, but I'll
41:08
speak to myself. Like all these things, I want to die out girls.
41:13
But so with all of these self soothing techniques. And here's the thing,
41:22
I now, I don't drink. This is not this is not like
41:28
a toys, but I don't. I don't do drugs. I don't I
41:31
don't do all of those self soothing things. And it's nothing to do with
41:37
judgment on anybody. It's where I am right now because I don't feel the
41:40
need to and even by like, I don't even like to like shop that
41:45
much anymore because I know, oh it's worked up in my house. It's
41:47
like Jerry Seif felt something like, you know, you're just growing junk because
41:52
it's something you know what I mean, struggle. So so when if anybody
41:59
who listening, you know, drink or whatever, whatever the whatever, it
42:04
is, right, it's not a judgment, it's it's what it is.
42:07
It's an opportunity to look at yourself and say, what need am I looking
42:13
to fulfill with it? When I'm standing online at publics or whatever, shopping
42:17
sent there and I see I have to buy the magazine, I have to
42:21
buy the kindy. What what is because I'm only going to put it on
42:22
account or not look at it. What is it about that that I feel
42:27
like I have to do that when I have to take the selfies like what
42:30
am I womens to get other people? When I and not judgment, Oh
42:35
why am I doing that? I'm doing that because I need some sort of
42:39
a reactor or attention. So what am I lacking that I need that?
42:43
It's just the question to ask the question. Yeah, no, it is,
42:47
And it goes to what's your story? So if your story? If
42:51
here's a money story, I mean I know that I've I've I've had a
42:53
money story and I'm working on and I've shed a lot of that story.
42:57
I wouldn't say completely, but I'm working on it, you know, a
43:00
little at a time. But it's definitely shifted quite a lot. So you
43:04
know, I catch myself so like I have to. I look at it
43:07
as like, well, something like one of the workshops, like, well,
43:08
I'm investing in myself. I'm investing in myself. Is it do I
43:14
want to invest in myself? And then it shifts it for me because then
43:17
I'm like, oh, yeah, I mean I totally want to invest it
43:21
in myself. Why would I not want to invest it in myself. I
43:22
wouldn't say that. I wouldn't say that if a whole bunch of us are
43:24
going out to a birthday party to a really expensive restaurant, you know,
43:29
an office row down my part of the check, like it's nothing, you
43:31
know what I mean, And it's like, oh right, and then so
43:36
I go back to Okay, so if you can do that to Mi'll say
43:39
to myself, then if I see something that I see down the line is
43:45
going to benefit me my spirituality and my personal empowerment and growth, then yeah,
43:52
then then I can I sh I start. And that's how I'm changing
43:57
part of that money story that I've cared that I've inherited from my parents.
44:01
You know when they inherited from their parents where yeah, yeah, yeah.
44:07
So so that's the joke around the house because I've talked to my mother about
44:12
this, and my mom retail therapies her thing, and on I go,
44:15
pennywisell a foolish mom, don't tell me you can't do this. When I
44:19
see, I just follow what you just ordered, you know what I mean.
44:22
We laugh about it. It's like the joke, you know, like
44:25
let's be smart, like what are we doing here? Are we? Are
44:29
we nurturing ourselves or we're escaping escaping a feeling? And then if you're escaping
44:35
a feeling, you want to ask yourself, well, what is that feeling
44:37
that you don't want to address, and maybe now it's time to address it.
44:43
I was thinking that when you when you were talking, I was thinking
44:45
about how you know, It's like, oh, do I want to invest
44:47
in myself, you know, versus I guess the thousand dollars self sells versus
44:52
investing in myself? Right? Right? Right? And if your answer is
44:58
WHOA, you know, I don't know, if you're hesitant about it yourself,
45:02
then you need to look into that as well. Right. But why
45:06
do I think because now now we're back to those questions, why don't I
45:09
think I'm worthy? Where does this come from? Did I inherit it from
45:13
my mother or in her so forth? And and I keep going back to
45:17
the same thing. We don't ask ourselves these questions enough because we're so focused
45:22
on the minutia and the distractions and the chaos in our lives, and it's
45:30
hard to see past that. But if you realize, if you understand that
45:34
there is something pass that, and you take the time to look, you'd
45:37
be astounded by by which you think, yeah, yeah, And I do
45:42
think. I think on some instinctual level, people understand and are afraid because
45:49
they know, I don't know if they're if everybody's ready to go there,
45:52
because they know it's going to change them, and then you have to be
45:55
ready for that. You have to be ready for that. And I think
45:59
that's a lot of times where why we get so resistant because there's an instinctual,
46:02
something deep inside our soul or whatever that tells us, Okay, if
46:07
you're gonna do this, this shit's gonna change. Right. It's not always
46:13
it's gonna hits a fan and then it's gonna change, you know. I
46:19
wrote it in Decoding the Wou. I talk about people's behavioral patterns, and
46:22
I and I use the analogy of hermit crabs and when hermit crabs, when
46:29
they grow out of their shell, they go on a search for a bigger
46:31
shell, and then they switch shells, right, right, But there is
46:35
a moment between shells that they're fair ass naked essentially, right, and if
46:42
there's any predator, if there's any danger to them, they will always run
46:45
back to their original shell because it's the devil, they know, because the
46:50
fee. Yeah, and we do that behaviorally. Yeah, we want to
46:53
change and we want better, but in any kind of peril, for lack
46:59
of a better word, it's it's the devil, you know. It's like
47:01
why people stay with with exs or go back to because of the fear of
47:07
the unknown. It's the y for shame or self low. No, we
47:15
alway through it. Nobody's special, nobody's examined, right, nobody. We've
47:19
all been there, We've all done it, we all continue to do it.
47:22
Yeah, because if you decide that you want to change your life,
47:24
it may call it and you may have to end that relationship or quit that
47:29
job, or leave the state or you know, a million and one ors,
47:34
and you know you have to be ready to take that on. And
47:38
I believe that's why usually not everybody, there are the few, but usually
47:45
when our life changes is because we already got hit with the pain that was
47:51
so tremendous that we were forced to change. Right. We didn't have a
47:54
choice because we got we just got it. The universe said, all right,
48:00
I've been trying to tell you you're not listening. I've been trying to
48:01
tell you you're not listening. I'm trying to tell you and then booms red.
48:10
I'm like it would start with a tap on the shoulder, maybe a
48:14
little you know, non to the yard. Maybe then you know, you
48:17
work your good old slot pugs to really let you know with suns it's terrible.
48:24
It's terrible to go through when you're going through it. But like we
48:30
said, if you once you get through it, and if you're open to
48:34
looking at the lesson there for you, because it's only for you to grow
48:37
and you can get you can look back, you're going to be like,
48:40
oh, I'm so glad that that happened, you know. And so now
48:46
what I want to do is they want to grow without having those faithful lessons
48:52
anymore. You know, I want to be conscious about my growth. I
48:55
want to be like, oh, okay, I'll listen to the first nudge.
48:59
Let me listen to the first Yeah. Yeah, yeah. But you
49:01
know what, it does get easier. You know, there's no anything about
49:05
Buddhism and there's affordable truth in the Eighthold Path. I'm not going to give
49:08
you all history lessons, but in the Eighthold Path it talked about right action,
49:14
right meditation, right truth, right whatever. But they refer to it
49:17
as a spiral staircase. So if you could envision a spiral staircase, you're
49:22
always going up, but you're going in a circle. So you'll revisit something
49:27
that you need to work on. But it's like damage part of you light,
49:30
you know what I mean. You'll have that crushing dark knight of the
49:34
soul, and then you'll come around and you'll see it again. It'll look
49:37
a little different, be a little bit easier, and then you'll handle that,
49:38
and then you'll come around again. And then after a while, it's
49:43
like it's sort of like like a ping pong or badman and it comes back.
49:46
You know, you thought it and it comes out sometimes. And I
49:52
mean, I'm not, you know, by any means, you know,
49:54
living in this ivory tower, but I am starting to enjoy these little dilemmas
50:00
because I've learned how to navigate them more fluid. Yeah, oh definitely,
50:08
yeah, exactly instead of being on the floor right, being on the floor
50:13
and no, I definitely know. And now and because I've been doing over
50:17
the last you know, at least ten years now, so much work on
50:21
myself, you know, I can see, I can feel when it's coming,
50:24
I can feel when I am becoming overwhelmed. I can see it,
50:28
and I have the tools now to handle it, to process it, so
50:35
I don't live there, you know anymore, and I can grow from it,
50:38
Like I've have these tools and the tools I've gotten is by doing the
50:44
kind of work that I'm doing and that you're doing, and taking the courses
50:46
that we're offering, and reading those books and you know, working with other
50:52
people who have already gone through it. That's why I have the tools that
50:57
I have now because I've done all that before to get to this point.
51:00
Yeah. Yeah, yes, and and and you'll shed you'll shed people who
51:05
you're no longer in alignment with, but I have. Yeah. Yeah.
51:09
It's hard to do because you get the time, loyalty and all the things.
51:14
But what you do is you connect with people that you become that you
51:16
are alignment that they show up right of us. I know, you know,
51:21
it's true. People show up. People show up who are like,
51:25
oh, you're on the same wavelength and I am. And that's why it
51:29
sounds so hippie dippy, like like from the seventies, like we're like five
51:32
and together. But it's the kind of knew something those hippies. It's just
51:38
like everybody else now we're all starting to catch up. Yeah, no,
51:43
it's it's really really it's good stuff. Man. It's like you know,
51:49
and I don't know, I think once you get to a middle aged point
51:52
in your life, like you drop a lot of that stuff that was important
51:55
to you when you're younger. I feel like there needs to be like more
52:00
fiction books about middle aged women, especially who are going on these magical journeys
52:06
and who are like having these whole new experiences. You know how they focus
52:08
so much on people like just coming of age. I think middle age is
52:13
another coming of age, like in a whole different way, a whole different
52:16
way. Yeah. I am actually right now in the process of editing a
52:22
book that we're probably published in the next few months. It's called Forever Connected.
52:27
And if a middle aged man actually but he has his own dark Night
52:31
of the Soul and he writes it's a beautiful novel. It's like, oh,
52:37
it's so good. It's so good. It's so good. And I'm
52:39
not a novid reader. I'll read if I can. I am. I
52:43
am an avid reader, Like I have to have another book lined up before
52:45
I'm finishing a book before a huge reader. Yeah, Okay. The best
52:51
compliment that I gave him was that if I wasn't tasked to read this book
52:55
because it's my job, yeah, I would anyway, Like I'll tech Adela
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every three chapters. Oh, I can't wait to read it when it comes
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out. But it is about, you know, the midlife crisis, you
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know what I mean, he had their thoughts about and he made a choice
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to go through the healing process and how we started questioning all that he bore,
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you know, all all of it. Yeah, I don't have to
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tell you what it is. Yeah, no, beautifully, Yeah, it's
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an opportunity. I think we need to look at it as an opportunity,
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not that our life is over and that we're just barreling down to old age.
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I think we need to look at it as an opportunity. It's a
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new for a new adventure. So oh my god, da, I can't
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even believe it. We have like two minutes left, So you want to
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share anything that we have, you know about about find uniquely you dot com
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about what people should do or you know, I'll just give you the mic.
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Yes, I definitely think that if if anybody's picking up what we're putting
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down, definitely check out find uniquely you dot com. It's the U the
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letter you. Because it's not just about workshops. It really if the workshop
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if it definitely take out the listen to workshops definitely check out workshop gratitude is
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the attitude, but definitely check that out. But there's other workshops. If
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the workshops don't speak to you, there's sort of arrows with other opportunities.
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Again, there's the phenom publishing. You know, if you have a story
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to tell, there there's really this huge umbrella and like I mentioned earlier when
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we opened, of people just wanting to connect with one another, people that
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have stories to tell, people that want to inspire and be inspired. And
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wherever you fit, you fit in as an instructor, you sit in as
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a as a what do you call it, a purchaser, a workshop participant.
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I'm so eloquent workshop whatever it is connecting with people and and really again
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celebrating the human and humanity because that's what the world needs right now. Oh
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definitely. And it's fun. So the thing too is the thing when you
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work with creatives, right, you know, this isn't like you know,
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I mean like a you know, physics workshop, you know, where you're
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taking a lot of notes, and it's right, I mean, this is
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like, we're creative. So we make our workshops a lot of fun.
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And I believe you that you retain the information you get the Aha moments.
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It sticks with you when you're having fun doing it. Learning through fun is
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so important and you're gonna get so many Aha moments. Dana. I can't
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believe it. We're out of time. I had so much fun with you.
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Thank you so much for being on my show today, and guys,
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please check out my workshop Manifesting through Gratitude and all the workshops at find Uniquely
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You the letter you dot com. Thank you, Dana, thanks for listening,
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Thank you, thanks for listening to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating
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the life you crave. And I'm wishing everyone a wonderful week filled with joy,
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abundance and love. Peace. Come on,