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Wholehearted Abundance for Life (Summit Bonuses Recap) · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_02: Welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast with Amy Wicks, your wholehearted life and business coach.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_02: You should know this podcast will inspire you to grow in self-awareness, be passionate about your faith, and get clear on your calling.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you are new here, then welcome to the community of multi-passionate women who love to go deep on topics like faith, Enneagram, relationships, leadership, and community.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_02: This conversation might provide the step you need to make the change you desire.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_02: So let's get started.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_02: Friend, if you thought the main sessions from the Whole Hearted Abundance Summit were powerful, wait until you hear about the bonuses.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_02: This is where I have offered content and conversations to help you take your abundance mindset even deeper and get super practical advice and wisdom about integrating all the truths that we covered into daily life and daily rhythms.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_02: So in today's episode, I'm sharing exclusive snippets from the bonus content available inside the VIP Pass.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_02: Now, you could maybe accuse me of making the VIP Pass benefits too overwhelming.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_02: But in short, there is so much content, rich content in the bonus section.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_02: It's almost a whole summit in itself.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_02: I mean, we're talking about Dana White, guested, Beth McCord, who offered exclusive bonuses, Tracy G, who is this expert about helping you get clear on what you want.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_02: Marissa McCrory, she talked about integrating spiritual life in our health journey.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_02: You had Lizzie Clark leading you through some beautiful abundance mindset contemplation prayer.
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  SPEAKER_02: There was somatic exercises led by Heather Berg.
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  SPEAKER_02: I mean, the list just goes on and on.
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  SPEAKER_02: Not only were they Enneagram rich resources, but also just abundant life in Christ resources that are just really incredible.
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  SPEAKER_02: So the list is too long to share here, but I have given some of my best snippets of this bonus content.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_02: And then at the end, I'm sharing a QA snippet specifically about a topic that I've been messaged about again and again lately.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_02: And that is on the topic of estrangement.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's a loaded conversation and it's worth its own podcast series.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_02: But for this episode, I shared a beautiful response and answer by Kristen Ye, one of our wholehearted coaches, because she has really some hard-earned wisdom on the topic and the subject.
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  SPEAKER_02: So we dedicated a large portion of our day two QA to that.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I'll share a little bit at the end of really this overview of some of our amazing bonuses.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_02: So I'll introduce each of the speakers and the snippet and kind of give you an idea of what to expect right before I go into that.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_02: So before I give you a little insight about what Dana shared, I want to remind you that the conversations, the sessions, the teaching, the resources, the materials that were available at the Whole Hearted Abundance, they are truly incredible.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_02: Now, they really will only be available for a limited time.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_02: Even if I make the Wholehearted Abundance Summit available, that content later on, the bonuses will not be available.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_02: So that's just a heads up because one of the amazing bonuses that we added in there, and this is really thanks to the generosity of my Wholehearted Coaches, is each of my coaches offered a free full session, like 55 minutes of breakthrough, clarity, next steps for your specific situation that you really can't get anywhere else.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_02: Even though you got some great takeaways from the summit, getting insight specific to you in a one-to-one time from someone who is also tuned into the Lord and listening to the Holy Spirit during your conversation, well, that's invaluable.
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  SPEAKER_02: You really can't quantify or put a value or price tag on that kind of option and opportunity.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_02: So if you go ahead and decide to invest in the session so you can get the full sessions and all the bonuses, you will still have access to book that call, but it's for a limited time.
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  SPEAKER_02: So do it.
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  SPEAKER_02: Stop delaying.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's worth investment.
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  SPEAKER_02: I promise you.
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  SPEAKER_02: I keep getting so much amazing feedback from all of those who have listened, including the speakers and my coaches.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_02: They were just blown away by this amazing content.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay, so now let's jump in to the conversation I had with Dana White.
• 4:58
  SPEAKER_02: Dana White has been a favorite podcast episode and podcast guest in the past.
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  SPEAKER_02: In fact, her episodes are probably in the top two most downloaded episodes in the eight years of the Simply Whole Hard podcast, truly.
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  SPEAKER_02: So that lets me know you all want practical wisdom and advice about how to get organized and stay organized, even as a multi-passionate woman who tends to get overwhelmed at times.
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  SPEAKER_02: So anyway, the whole conversation was fantastic.
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_02: And what I'm sharing with you today is something really practical and applicable that you can implement into your life today.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_02: So let's jump right in.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_02: What is the overarching thing that you would tell us as women who are multi-passionate in business and yet we want to find simplicity in our home life?
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_03: The way your brain works is not a mistake.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_03: You are created to have the brain that you have, and there's a way, there are ways to do the things that you want to do that don't require you to be a different person than you are.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_03: I think so many times when we as women have struggles.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_03: I know this was my case, you know, for me in my home, when my home was completely overwhelming to me.
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  SPEAKER_03: I thought the answer was I need to be a different person than I am, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like I need to be like her.
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  SPEAKER_03: I need to completely, you know, just be different.
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  SPEAKER_03: And in reality, I started making the progress I wanted to make when I accepted that this is how my brain works.
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  SPEAKER_03: And that's not a mistake.
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  SPEAKER_03: It's designed, not defective, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like I was finally able to make the progress when I stopped fighting against how I was created.
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  SPEAKER_02: So good.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_02: Yes, we could talk about Enneagram and how all of that relates to us.
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  SPEAKER_02: And we're not gonna do that right now in this moment, but thank you.
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  SPEAKER_02: We don't have to become someone else in order to live the life that God intended us to have.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay, we're gonna get really practical here.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: I want to hear what are the top things that busy women could or should delegate that may not be so obvious because that tends to be a pain point.
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  SPEAKER_02: As women, we're we're used to caring it all.
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  SPEAKER_02: We are SRPs, super responsible people.
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  SPEAKER_02: We have different reasons for being afraid to delegate, but maybe where could we begin that we may not be thinking of already?
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I think of it in two different ways, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like there's some physical things that I delegate, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like even such simple things as grocery delivery.
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  SPEAKER_03: I know that that sounds so small, and yet it's a thing that a lot of people have a hangu about, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like for some, and so any time where you're like, well, I could delegate this, but I should, or I think I'm the only person who can pick out the good fruit.
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  SPEAKER_03: All those are the reasons that people say they don't.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_03: Even for me, I I mean, I was on grocery delivery the minute I found out what it was.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like I was happy with it, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: And not delivering with grocery pickup, like for pick up.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_03: But for some reason, I was like, I don't need to have it delivered.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, I can do that.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_03: Come on.
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  SPEAKER_03: And then in the last several months, I've realized, why am I not having it delivered?
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_03: You know, like, yes, I have to tip.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_03: I am happy to tip.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_03: That is a thing because, like we were talking as we just got started, this book launch that I'm in the middle of is a very, very busy season.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_03: And to not have to take that time to drive to the grocery store and sit there and have it loaded and come back, it feels like, oh, what is the big deal?
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_03: And yet, because I think, like you said, we're super responsible people, you know, like I'm supposed to be responsible for my money.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_03: And so if I could do this myself, I mean, I mean, honestly, I feel like I was raised that way, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like there, absolutely there was a moral implication to buying pre-graded cheese.
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  SPEAKER_02: Like for real.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_02: Right.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, or using coupons or not using coupons or sales or not sales.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_03: Yes, it it was discussed as a moral issue.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_03: And I I understand.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_03: And so I'm not criticizing that, but I am saying that I have to be really careful that I am not placing these arbitrary rules upon myself that keep me from being able to do the thing.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_03: You know, I I talk about cleaning and organizing for a living.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_03: Like that's what I teach.
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_03: I have someone who comes and cleans for me every other week.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_03: Love it.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, technically, she cleans the downstairs one week and the upstairs the next week.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_03: Like I mean, it's just like I'm like, this is a reality.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_03: And yet I can't tell you how many women are hesitant to do that because it's like, but I'm supposed to be able to do this thing.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, well, I can do this thing because you know, I wrote my first book seven years after I'd been working on this.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_03: I had been doing it.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_03: But when I wrote that first book and I hit a certain amount where I could kind of be confident I was gonna make a such such and such amount every month, I went, This is the line.
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna do this because there's no reason to not, like there's no reason for us to be a superwoman because all that does is wear us out.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_03: You know, I teach the container concept for physical things, right?
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_03: You know, which is physical space is finite.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_03: And if I try to put more stuff in that space, then we'll fit.
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  SPEAKER_03: There isn't any hope of it staying under control.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_03: It's not a matter of finding the best system so that I can keep it all.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_03: It's a matter of accepting the reality of my space.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_03: It's the same thing with my time and my energy, right?
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_03: And so because I have a business, because I do all of this, then I don't feel even a teeny tiny bit bad about having somebody else scrub my bathtub because I want the bathtub to be scrubbed, right?
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_03: And so the other thing that happens is I tell myself, I shouldn't have groceries delivered.
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_03: And so then, which this happens some in the summer, you know, when things are bananas, I haven't gotten groceries.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_03: And I've got three young adult kids at home for the, you know, and they're like, Mom, do we have any food?
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_03: Do we have any food?
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  SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, You can go to the store here, I'll give you some money.
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  SPEAKER_03: But like that reality of what is it that I'm trading off, because the facts are that I have finite time and energy.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_02: In this snippet, Tracy G is going to help us get clear on what we actually want and how to make confident decisions that align with your values.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, once again, a quick caveat here.
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  SPEAKER_02: Tracy shared a whole lot more in our conversation that is shared within the bonus section of the summit.
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  SPEAKER_02: But I really love getting to highlight this initial step.
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  SPEAKER_02: I think it will bring a lot of clarity and breakthrough for you.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_02: My friend Tracy, you are an expert on the conversation that we're about to have.
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  SPEAKER_02: And we're gonna get to the nitty-gritty of a step-by-step process for getting clarity on what we want.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_02: And I so appreciate you coming and sharing because you wrote a book on it and you're gonna give us a sneak peek into some of the details.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_02: Now we don't have time to go through the whole book.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_02: That's what the book is for.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_02: But let's start the conversation with this.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_02: What is the value of knowing what we want?
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_04: So many things.
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_04: I could talk about this for so long, but I know we only have so much time.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_04: I think first and foremost, my conviction is that everyone has a unique genius.
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  SPEAKER_04: That is who they are, how they image God in their unique way.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_04: That is a gift to others and their communities and the world, but also it comes out of a deep place of joy and thriving and connection.
• 13:21
  SPEAKER_04: And uh what is endlessly fascinating to me about that is that it truly is really unique for each person.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_04: There might be some themes that we all share, there might be some commonalities, but as I've done this process with so many folks, that's one of my favorite things is saying, like, oh my goodness, I've never heard anybody express it quite that way, or the where the direction you want to take this, that's that makes total sense with who you are and your experiences.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_04: So again, it's very unique and so important to begin to figure that out, especially for those of us that really value self-awareness and things like that.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_04: But I think what I've been so um drawn to is thinking about how our desires have a really important role to play in that.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_04: And that oftentimes for people who really care about things like purpose and making a difference and wanting to do good in the world, they can sort of fall into the mistake of thinking, well, if I if I care about those things, then I have to put myself to the side or have to diminish my desires.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_04: And I think what I'm trying to help people realize is I think what I've noticed is actually when you pay attention to your desires, you get a clearer, better, stronger window into what your unique genius is to bring to the world.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_04: So I think it's so important.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_04: I think it's so fascinating.
• 14:39
  SPEAKER_04: And I also think it's important because for a lot of us, we've gotten the message again that this is not important, that it doesn't matter, that it's something that we should be ashamed of or feel guilty of or try to minimize as little as possible so that it doesn't inconvenience anybody or ourselves and just, you know, try to squash it down.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_04: And on the contrary, I feel like I've seen people who give this more spaciousness in their lives really find that place of thriving and impact and joy, which I think is so not only just important for us as individual people, but for us collectively as well.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I feel like a lot of women who are listening or watching, they are nodding their heads and going, yes, yes, yes.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_02: And what's really interesting, the the meme or the clip that keeps running through my mind as I prepared for this conversation, but even came across your book for the first time, is when Ryan Gosling in the notebook, the 2004 phone, is going, What do you want?
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_02: And Rachel McAdams is going, I don't know.
• 15:44
  SPEAKER_02: And he keeps getting the ball.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, right?
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_02: Or something like that.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_02: It's not that easy.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_02: And so as we're all going, yes, yes, yes, that's me too.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_02: No matter, I think no matter our personality types, no matter how far we have found our way through our lives or how many decades we've lived on this planet, we still are probably invited to answer this question.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_02: And it's not very easy most of the time of what do we want.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_02: So please help us.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_02: I know your book does, and definitely it's it's going to be a resource that women not only need one time, but probably go back through a few times in life.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_02: So, what are first the three to five obstacles that might be getting in our way to know what we want or what you say desire?
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_02: Because even that word desire, whoo, that can that can poke.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_02: I don't know, it can make us a little uncomfortable.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_04: For sure, for sure.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_04: Well, first of all, I love that you referenced that meme because at one point that was what do you want?
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_04: I think was a title option.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_04: And I was like, I can't, I can't because I I will always think of Ryan Gosling.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_04: So same.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_04: For real.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_04: I think obstacles, there's several.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_04: I think one is not having enough of a having a uncle, what I call an uncalibrated intercompass.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_04: So not having enough awareness, I think, to know what is uniquely ours.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_04: I think there's a lot of mistakes that we make in this.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_04: We think, well, I do this well, but everyone can do this.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_04: Or what I do is not that important.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_04: But look at the gifts of other people.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_04: So we kind of sort of discount ourselves in that way.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_04: And what and I summarize that by saying, again, there's like this, we all have this intercompass, but sometimes if we're not tuned into it enough, we sort of put it to the side or we ignore it or we override it.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_04: But truly, I think having that sense of who you uniquely are and what that means, and not denigrating that or putting that down, but instead learning how to listen to and honor that is so important.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_04: So I think that can be an obstacle.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_04: I think, as we've already sort of touched on, it's really easy to minimize desire, try to shut that down.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_04: Again, I have heard people say this feels terrifying.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_04: This feels actually scary to talk about.
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  SPEAKER_04: I don't feel joyful or hopeful when I think about what I want in my life.
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  SPEAKER_04: I think I feel scared.
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  SPEAKER_04: And that's so common.
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  SPEAKER_04: And I started hearing more and more people talk about that.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_04: And so again, I think sometimes we, you know, minimize what we want.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_04: And sometimes those messages are literally spoken to us.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_04: We've heard them explicitly from others, from people we respect, from society, first, especially as women.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_04: Um, you know, a lot of times women tell me I know what everyone else needs and wants, I know what my children need and want, I know what my spouse, my community, my church, my work, I know what all those people want from me, but I don't know what that is for myself.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_04: Like I remember one person I was speaking to, and I just remember the look on her face when she was like, What do I want?
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_04: I haven't asked myself that question in years.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_04: I can't remember the last time I asked myself that.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_04: So I think minimizing or ignoring just this part of ourselves.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_02: Now I'm just getting to know Marissa McCrory, and she is a wealth of information about how to create simple, sustainable habits that support physical health without adding stress.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_02: Like she is my person, and I'm probably her ideal avatar.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_02: And if you don't know what that means, it just means I'm probably like the perfect client for her.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_02: So if you and I are in a similar stage of life and experiencing similar changes physically, Marissa is your gal.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_02: I think you'll love her approach again about using the spiritual to impact and feed and fuel our physical.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_02: They really are aligned.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_02: And while you and I know that, it's always good to be reminded and hear from the experts on what that actually looks like and the impact on one another.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_02: So, again, she has several resources in our bonus section, but this will give you a little bit of a flavor of Marissa's style and the wisdom that she has to offer.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_01: And so I'm going to go deep really fast.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_01: This is obviously a huge topic, but I want you all to flourish in your life and in your experience as a Christian woman in doing what you're called to do.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_01: And that means we need to do some foundational work in our minds and in our hearts based off the word of God that is alive and active and renew our mind in a way that also helps promote health in our bodies.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_01: And so I'm weaving spiritual truth all throughout this presentation today.
• 20:41
  SPEAKER_01: I hope it helps bring you clarity.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_01: I hope it brings lasting impact.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_01: Obviously, this is a lot in a short amount of time.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_01: So there's other ways you can engage with me, either as a one-on-one client.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_01: I often also do group experiences, and then I have an ebook that will be finished later this year.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_01: So you also are getting a freebie with this presentation.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_01: It's actually one of the things I use with my clients.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_01: It's a healing scriptural declaration workbook.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_01: It's so powerful, and when you use it, it will transform your life in a really deep and meaningful way.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_01: It's a great daily practice that I believe in, helping renew your mind.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_01: It's a simple little thing, but so many of us don't do it, and it will literally change your mindset based off the word of God.
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, a little bit about me.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_01: I already shared a little bit, but like I said, my name's Marissa McCrory.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_01: I've passionately coached hundreds of women on how to heal their soul over the past 10 years.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_01: I'm also a certified integrative health practitioner, and we use functional medicine to get the root cause of any health issues.
• 21:49
  SPEAKER_01: I just love seeing women flourish in their lives, and I integrate ministry and medicine to help you do that.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm also trained in SOZO, which is an Your healing technique out of Bethel.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_01: There's lots of tools I use in my tool belt to help women renew their minds and then also get healthy in their bodies, but it's all based and rooted in the word of God and your experience as a Christian woman.
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_01: And today I want to talk to you about something that is very, very common in a lot of my clients.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_01: It's called burnout.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_01: So it's time to burn again, not be burned out.
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_01: You know, the word says that we get to feel the flames, that we should fan the flames into fire and the Holy Spirit is a fire.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: And it's so just like powerful to think about that, that's that visual of fire.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_01: But too often I see women's bodies literally in a bad way on fire and they are burnt out.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_01: And that help that means that there is some unhealthy things going on in their body.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_01: And it can stem from many different things.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I do know that part of our real experience as a human is that we are a spirit, we have a soul, and we live in a body.
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_01: And we I see those things like interwoven together.
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  SPEAKER_01: They work together.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're treated separately, though.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like Western medicine is treating a body and it's not doing it usually from a biblical standpoint.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_01: Therapy addresses the mind, but we're aren't we aren't integrating all three.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_01: And as women of faith, and if we truly believe that the word is alive and active, then why aren't we integrating that biblical perspective into our health physically and mentally?
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_01: So I want to start from a very small, it's not enough time.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_01: This is a big subject, but I want you to know that you can have the experience that Jesus came for in living the life more abundantly.
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  SPEAKER_01: And even with all of the noise, even with all of the inundation of chemicals in our food, in our bodies, like it feels overwhelming.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_01: If you are into health at all, the health and wellness world is very noisy and it can feel overwhelming like everything else does.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_01: And we as women, you know, we like to take on a little bit too much.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why we need to be abiding and sitting at Jesus' feet on a regular basis.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_01: So I kind of got off tangent there, but this is what we're talking about.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's time to burn again, not be burned out.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to give you some practical tips around your physical health, but then also around your mental soul health.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_01: All right, let's go.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_01: So I want to start off by saying if we want to burn again and not be burned out, I could go straight for the physical health, right?
• 24:45
  SPEAKER_01: I could give you all the tips on how to fix your gut health and hormones.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_01: You'd have some more focus and energy physically, but it might just be one more thing on your to-do list and add more stress, which I don't want to do.
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_01: So I really want to touch on our thought life and our mindset and specifically how you think about yourself and God.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_01: Because your soul is your mind, your will, and your emotions, and how you think about yourself and God matters.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_01: So I have a little movie clip I would love to share, but for time's sake, I can't.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just going to share it with you.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_01: And if you feel so led, if you haven't already seen this movie, it is so funny.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_01: And I just love this monologue that America Ferrera gives.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_01: And it's on like femininity and womanhood in general and what it means to be a woman and how we tend to just have these conflicting ideas of what it means to be a woman and how stressful it is.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_01: So I highly encourage you if you have YouTube, go type in America Ferreira's The Barbie speech.
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_01: It's a monologue in the movie.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_01: And it just gives you that this version of the world's version of womanhood, is confusing, exhausting, and honestly feels impossible.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_01: I don't have time to unravel everything that she shared there.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_01: Just go watch it sometime.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I do see a common theme in some of the lies that she vocalized that we believe about ourselves.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_01: And this lie, as faithful women and we who are rooted in the word, know that this lie started with Eve in the garden.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_01: And it's just so pervasive in successful women.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I see it lead them to burnout all the time.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_01: And it's the lie of self-dependence.
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_01: It is one of the biggest rooted lies that I see women fall into the trap of.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's leading them to actual physical burnout.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_01: This lie might be in your life if you believe things like, if it's going to be, it's up to me.
• 26:53
  SPEAKER_01: Or maybe you're a firstborn daughter and you believe that it's my responsibility and I need to hold everything and everyone together.
• 27:02
  SPEAKER_01: Or maybe people have let you down and you transferred that to how you see God, saying, I can't trust God to take care of me.
• 27:10
  SPEAKER_01: So I have to take care of myself.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_01: This breaks the dependency and the basic foundation really of our faith.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_01: If we don't trust God, then we will fall into religion and we will do everything in our own power and we will be exhausted.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_02: One of the things that I love about hosting summits is that it tends to open up conversation or begin conversation with those who are attending, or with even you who are in the community, and forget to share your thoughts or questions with me.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_02: So one of the things that I heard repeatedly in the email conversations for those who sign up to join the summit, was one of their biggest pain points that they were dealing with in life was estrangement in their relationships.
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_02: And estrangement goes a number of different ways.
• 28:01
  SPEAKER_02: It can be with a parent, it could be with a child, it could be with a spouse, it could be with a community, it could be with a friend.
• 28:08
  SPEAKER_02: But one thing I have heard repeatedly, not just from you in the community, but from my clients, is the pain of estrangement.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_02: Now, there are some good resources out there, but they are honestly kind of hard to find right now, and many of them don't bring faith to the conversation.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_02: While this is not a topic anyone really likes to talk about, I know it's important to address.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_02: And I'm so grateful that one of the wholehearted coaches, Kristen Ye, was willing to share on this topic.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_02: I did add my perspective as well as Dr.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_02: Jared Nelson Cunningham, another wholehearted coach who specializes in attachment and Enneagram.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_02: We shared our thoughts on the QA panel, and I haven't shared the whole thing here, but Kristen had some valuable information to share from a personally lived example that I know you're going to really appreciate.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_02: So listen to this all the way through, and I have a few more thoughts for you at the end of the segment.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, thanks, Amy.
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_00: And nothing like starting off with this topic.
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  SPEAKER_00: But first of all, I just want to offer so much empathy to the woman who finds herself in this space.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's not a space that she wants to be, and yet she's there.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: And it's a space full of grief and disappointment and longing and frustration and friends.
• 29:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm in it, and I know the gamut of emotions.
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_00: We're in the midst of an estranged relationship with our 21-year-old son.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I am here.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_00: And there's two sides to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got the hope for things to be better than they are, and for reconciliation, and for connection, and then there's so much uncertainty about when or if or how that can or will happen.
• 30:03
  SPEAKER_00: And so you're holding both things at the same time.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_00: And so, in the midst of the heartache, I just would encourage you then in several ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: First and foremost, lean into Jesus.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, he is the man of sorrows, he is acquainted with grief.
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: He sat and cried with Mary when she was grieving.
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_00: So he's a tender god who loves you and loves your strange relative even more than you do.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_00: And you will find comfort in his arms when you when you seek it.
• 30:37
  SPEAKER_00: And then you gotta remind yourself about the truth of your identity.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: You know, don't let your identity be defined by what that other person says you are, or even by what your friends and family who really don't understand, you know, say that you are.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_00: Speak the truth of God's word to yourself over and over and over again.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: And although you know the goal is always reconciliation, um, I just want to encourage people to use this hard season just to get curious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what could the Lord be teaching me right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, about myself and about him.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's really important to just invite other people into this process.
• 31:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, maybe it's a Bible study group or a coach or a counselor or a trusted friend, but sharing your story with others in the context of community is really helpful.
• 31:38
  SPEAKER_00: There is a lot of shame surrounding strange relationships, and it is really hard to be vulnerable and share what's what's honestly going on, but shame loses its grip in the light of true connection and community, and uh finally just begin to loosen the grip of control.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's really hard because you love that person so much and you miss relationship with them.
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, God is continually like peeling back my fingers from control of the situation.
• 32:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's not my steering wheel, it's his, and and really he's the one that's in control, and then just continue to pray, pray, pray.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, pray that God would bring first people into that other person's life to speak truth and to give wise counsel and pray for a soft heart for you and for that other person, and pray for God to just continue to work in ways that you can't see right now, and just trust that he is.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_00: So those are some of my things that have been helping me in the season.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_02: Kristen did such a beautiful job in sharing her story and offering some wisdom.
• 33:01
  SPEAKER_02: And if you needed it, I hope that you can receive it.
• 33:05
  SPEAKER_02: And perhaps you even decide to take the next step, reach out to Kristen and book a session with her.
• 33:14
  SPEAKER_02: If you happen to have the VIP pass, she is offering a free 55-minute session, but you can also book a discovery call with her to talk about your unique situation and how spiritual direction combined with Enneagram and life-lived wisdom can support you in your journey.
• 33:34
  SPEAKER_02: And remember, in addition to Kristen Ye, the wholehearted collective coaches are here to be your guide by the side no matter what stage of life you are in.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_02: Just know that no matter what you are facing and going through, you do not have to go through it alone.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_02: There is a wholehearted guide by the side who has been trained, has practiced, and is available to support you in your time of need.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_02: You can find all the links to meet the coaches and to book a breakthrough and clarity call with them in the show notes or go to simply wholehearted.com and you can even book a call with me.
• 34:14
  SPEAKER_02: I'd love to hear more about your story and help you find the next right step in your faith, family, or finances.
• 34:24
  SPEAKER_02: Now, I sincerely hope that you have enjoyed getting these highlights from the Wholehearted Abundance Summit.
• 34:31
  SPEAKER_02: It was a phenomenal event, not only to get to connect with several of you live on Zoom, but to share these resources and network with these amazing women and bring it all together to offer this resource that really will provide some of the next steps that you need.
• 34:52
  SPEAKER_02: So if you haven't let me know your favorite takeaways yet, I want to hear from you.
• 34:57
  SPEAKER_02: It blesses me so much and really encourages me to continue to share these resources with you week in and week out.
• 35:06
  SPEAKER_02: Now, friend, I've got another amazing month of podcast episodes lined up for you in April.
• 35:14
  SPEAKER_02: Each of the conversations were so rich.
• 35:17
  SPEAKER_02: Just to give a little sneak peek and preview, you're gonna get to hear from Aubrey Sampson, Adam Young, Jennifer Dukes Lee, and Michelle Mitchell.
• 35:29
  SPEAKER_02: Oh my goodness, y'all.
• 35:31
  SPEAKER_02: I'm just so excited to share these with you.
• 35:33
  SPEAKER_02: I won't share any more except for make sure that you are subscribed to the Simply Wholehearted podcast.
• 35:39
  SPEAKER_02: You will get the episodes as soon as they're available on Monday mornings.
• 35:44
  SPEAKER_02: Remember, friend, you belong here because we are all broken.
• 35:48
  SPEAKER_02: We're all blowing it, but the brave one does something about it.