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Street Farbrengen Episode #138: Chai Elul And The Courage To Own Your Life · ChabadLife.TV Street Farbrengen

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SPEAKER_01: Zukhar, you know how I often say to the people that I brush paths with that they have to get out of Khaider.
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SPEAKER_01: They have to stop thinking like a five year old.
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SPEAKER_02: Your favorite.
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SPEAKER_01: So I realized tonight, Chayalo, there's a different question.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not get out of Khaider, that's not even their problem.
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SPEAKER_01: They haven't been born.
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SPEAKER_02: So what you're saying is the insult of calling somebody a seven-year-old wasn't enough.
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SPEAKER_02: You had to call them literally an infant?
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SPEAKER_01: First of all, I didn't call them a seven-year-old, and I wasn't insulting them.
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SPEAKER_01: I was telling them just get out of Khaydra.
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SPEAKER_01: Take Chaider thinking, like a five-year-old.
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SPEAKER_01: Like God is like the, you know, the Rush Yeshiva and my son's yeshiva, which will go unnamed, that used to, you know, beat up the kids, you know.
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SPEAKER_01: God is the same way.
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SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, no.
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SPEAKER_01: Get out of Khaydr.
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: What is the whole Mahus?
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SPEAKER_01: says the Rebbe.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, one of the things that had happened in Marv was that uh someone says, Why are you wearing a kapata?
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SPEAKER_01: And I said, because it's Chayala.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh, what is Chayalo?
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SPEAKER_01: I'm talking to like a litva.
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SPEAKER_01: And I tell him, he goes, and he just like he couldn't grasp because he never heard.
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SPEAKER_01: And I don't know if Lubaviters appreciate this in your age group.
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SPEAKER_01: There's no such thing as celebrating birthdays till the Rebbe made it a big thing.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, the Friedrich Rebbe made Chayel, but and the Rebbe made birthdays in general a big thing.
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SPEAKER_01: It was a secret.
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SPEAKER_01: There was not the I even till today, the the many of the Chasidim don't know Chayel is the birthday of the Bashamtav and certainly not the ultra rebbe.
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SPEAKER_01: So what's the mahus of a chael, says the Rebbe, is that it's about birth.
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SPEAKER_01: And what's birth?
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SPEAKER_01: That until the actual birth, the child doesn't have a mitssius in Halacha where it kind of could compete against the life of the mother.
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SPEAKER_01: So it becomes an issue.
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SPEAKER_01: Either we sacrifice the child's life or the mother's life, we sacrifice the child's life because chashal should be such a thing.
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SPEAKER_01: Because the mother is a Metsyus, and the child is called Yerech Imui.
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SPEAKER_01: He's the thigh of his mother.
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SPEAKER_01: He's the chaias is hers, not his.
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SPEAKER_01: Then when he's born, that's a different discussion, or when he so therefore he has his own recognizance, his own chaias, his own kium, his own gusto, his own uh, as we say in America, what does it say?
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SPEAKER_01: Mojo.
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SPEAKER_01: So and that that's what I'm saying.
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SPEAKER_01: That I realized for many, many people, it's not get out of hair.
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SPEAKER_01: It's be born.
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SPEAKER_02: Get out of the womb.
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SPEAKER_01: Get out of the get out of not of having the total dependence on another entity for your own life.
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SPEAKER_02: And you're saying that entity that they're being connected to is what?
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SPEAKER_02: That they're stuck in?
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SPEAKER_01: Um I don't know even know if it's something specific.
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SPEAKER_01: It's just they're not to themselves.
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SPEAKER_01: What ends up to be like.
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SPEAKER_02: Let me let me let me let me um I'm so curious what what kind of conversation you had that made you think about that.
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SPEAKER_02: But it again, it's I guess the same.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, I'm having these con it actually came together as as two separate conversations in the same few days.
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SPEAKER_01: And and that so I'll put it this way, and I hope that he doesn't get upset because nobody knows who he is, anyways.
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SPEAKER_01: I get this text from a very special man, and he says in the text that he's finally got what is needed for himself.
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SPEAKER_01: I said, What's that?
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SPEAKER_01: And he goes, Hashem wants me to be an unstoppable.
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SPEAKER_01: Now I'm not gonna say it uh properly what he wrote.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm just gonna say, if you don't know what it means, don't worry about it.
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SPEAKER_01: An unstoppable MFR.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: Now let's repeat that.
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SPEAKER_01: Hashem wants me to be an unstoppable man, we'll say.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay?
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: I looked at that text and said, something's really, really, really, really, really off.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, what what exactly and it's very simple.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: I wrote back, yeah, you're right, except for one thing.
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SPEAKER_01: Why are you act telling me Hashem wants you to be that way?
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SPEAKER_01: Why aren't you saying I want to be an unstoppable man?
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SPEAKER_01: And you know what I realized is so interesting because I was thinking about maybe it's because of the previous conversation too with this guy.
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SPEAKER_01: I realized my life as a Balichuva is in this text.
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SPEAKER_01: Hashem wants me to be blah blah blah blah blah.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I mean that is how it is always described.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm a man.
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SPEAKER_01: Manipulation, it is no different than this is manipul this is sickness.
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SPEAKER_01: And that's the whole essence of Chail.
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SPEAKER_02: Of being born is getting out of even the feeling that it's because Hashem wants you.
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SPEAKER_01: I didn't say the word because he said Hashem wants me.
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SPEAKER_01: What do you mean Hashem wants you?
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SPEAKER_01: What about you?
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, so you can say, Oh, yeah, but I'm not allowed.
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SPEAKER_01: I have to, everything is butle, everything is this, everything is that.
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SPEAKER_01: That's what I'm saying.
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SPEAKER_01: Only uh so we were learning this mimor.
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SPEAKER_01: You learned it together with me.
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SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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SPEAKER_01: Let me I didn't say which one it is.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't know, but uh I think it's Tez Zayan in in the middle of Av.
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SPEAKER_01: The Rebbe went to Machne Camp Gan Yisrael, and the Rebbe said an incredible mimur, right?
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SPEAKER_01: And said, Hashem Royi, Hashem is my shepherd.
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SPEAKER_01: I think we spoke about it already.
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SPEAKER_01: And Hashem is my shepherd, and the the Rebbe brings down and puts it all together in one package that the that there's a mach uh different opinions between the Rambam and the Rambana as to the base of Migdash.
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SPEAKER_01: How is there Kedusha in that spot?
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SPEAKER_01: Is it intrinsic to the spot, or is it just a passing through kind of thing?
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SPEAKER_01: And the Rambam holds it's a passing through.
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SPEAKER_01: Kadusha has nothing to do with, just happens to be the locale.
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SPEAKER_01: And we give the example of writing an idea, a deep idea, on a piece of paper, your fingers do not have a connection to the sechel.
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SPEAKER_01: And the Ramban holds, no, it's intrinsic, it's like sechel in the brain.
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SPEAKER_01: And the Rebbe goes and says, This is what this means, Hashem Royi.
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SPEAKER_01: That he works, he gives the example.
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SPEAKER_01: Who is the, we've spoken about, who's the quintessential shepherd?
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SPEAKER_01: Is Moisha Rabinu.
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SPEAKER_01: And what do we know about him?
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SPEAKER_01: The famous Madrash.
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SPEAKER_01: He knew exactly which sheep needed to eat, which kind of grass.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, why didn't he say, you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: I have a program, and you're gonna eat the grass that I'm gonna give you.
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SPEAKER_01: No, he knew exactly how to work with who they were.
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SPEAKER_01: And that's the point of the basemicdash.
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SPEAKER_01: The abus is working with the spot that it's intrinsically.
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SPEAKER_01: So I said to this guy, why are you saying Hashem wants you?
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SPEAKER_01: And I was learning the mimor with him for the last few weeks.
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SPEAKER_01: I said, You want to be an unstoppable man.
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SPEAKER_01: And you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: You be that footprint of the base amygdala, the Abrish will come right in and be right there with you.
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SPEAKER_01: So you're but you're And that is high ell.
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SPEAKER_01: Until then, you are you're the thigh of, I don't know, the of the mother.
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SPEAKER_01: You you you life happens to you, not for you.
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SPEAKER_01: You're you're you're not engaged with a objective and a direction, you're just swirling around in the goop of life, and hopefully you make it out to the other end properly.
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SPEAKER_01: And in the mean, and in between you have a few lichaems and sushi on Shabbos.
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SPEAKER_02: So, but your your problem is with the starting point.
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SPEAKER_02: Is that accurate to say?
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SPEAKER_01: Because I think I don't know what you're being philosophical.
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SPEAKER_01: What's the starting point?
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SPEAKER_02: I'm being philosophical.
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SPEAKER_02: Such a trip.
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SPEAKER_02: Um I'm saying What's the starting point?
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SPEAKER_02: The starting point of meaning the statement isn't wrong that Hashem wants me to be a strong man.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, yes, you're being intellectual.
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SPEAKER_01: Of course, the statement is in and of itself well, how do you know?
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SPEAKER_01: Maybe he wants you to be a tatala.
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SPEAKER_01: Maybe he wants you to go like this, you know, like have the Khasidan walk around, and they put their hands in the the the Rebbees, they put their I'm sorry to be such an epicurus, they put their hands, you know, into the into the cuffs of the other of the other sleeve, and they they they shake hands like like like like fish, like yeah, like cold fish, etc.
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SPEAKER_01: etc.
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SPEAKER_01: How do you know?
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SPEAKER_01: But the point is, yes, it's it's this is the attitude.
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SPEAKER_02: So the starting point of the chassid has to be birth.
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SPEAKER_02: That's what you're that's I I like what you're saying.
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SPEAKER_01: Starting, ending.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't care what point of the thing is.
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SPEAKER_01: No, the ending point you're saying.
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SPEAKER_02: What is high elo?
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SPEAKER_02: I got it.
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SPEAKER_02: You want to call it the starting point?
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SPEAKER_02: Fine.
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SPEAKER_02: What is high elo?
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SPEAKER_02: Why do you have to go flip to what no?
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SPEAKER_02: Because I'm what what I wanted to bring out, yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: So bring it out.
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SPEAKER_02: It is if it's okay, if you could give me a second, I'll try to bring it out.
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SPEAKER_02: Is that okay?
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SPEAKER_02: So the the idea that I'll decide later.
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SPEAKER_02: The idea that is what you're saying, which is so beautiful, is that the starting point, which is the fact that it's coming from your Ratsign and your acknowledgement, recognition, you know, idea of yourself.
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SPEAKER_02: And then you said, like you said, then Hashem is gonna take it, actually give you everything that you're asking for.
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SPEAKER_02: So what this reminds me of is asking for or not asking for, you're right.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm sorry, embodying it.
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SPEAKER_02: Not embodying, doing, doing.
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SPEAKER_02: Well, that's kind of embodying, but fine, whatever.
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SPEAKER_02: Um but I'm reminded of something I actually think we had mentioned before a long time ago, but it always stuck with me, is this voort of the Rebbe about the um about the fact that if you open up a pin drop, then Hashem is gonna open up the antechamber, is gonna open up the whole, yeah, the whole thing, and that everybody touches that to usually mean that you put in a little bit of effort, and then Hashem is gonna take care of the vast majority.
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SPEAKER_02: And the Reba's I I think this was the Rebbe's Kiddish, unless he was quoting somebody, he'll remind me.
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SPEAKER_02: But the idea that no, you open up the pin trap, and then Hashem opens up the koichis that you have that you're going to be able to then accomplish everything that you need to uh to to do what you're setting out to do.
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SPEAKER_02: So it's a similar idea here.
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SPEAKER_01: It's no, that's not what he said to be precise, and it was a letter to me.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: Be more precise.
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SPEAKER_01: And what it's not a pin drop, it's open up a hole, the eye of the needle, and then he will open up to you the coches you don't think you have.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: Thank you for being more precise.
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SPEAKER_02: I appreciate that.
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SPEAKER_02: But that's the that's what you're saying here is that here you think that, oh, I have to you keep on not liking the fact that I'm saying starting point, but the starting point that most people think that they need to have is Hashem wants me to ask.
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SPEAKER_01: Get past the starting point because it's very transactional.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm talking about who you are as a chasid.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, no, no, I'm agreeing with you, and I'm saying that starting point, it is a starting point because Hashem has to reveal the kaikais.
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SPEAKER_01: That's your now that's your added issue with the fact fact that I was told something in the letter.
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SPEAKER_01: The very essence of Hai El, of Chasidis, of being a Lababacher Chasid, is your self-contained system that is makuyam and it fulfills its its its being on its own recognizance.
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SPEAKER_02: Yes, but I'm saying most people don't feel that power.
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SPEAKER_01: So what that's why I'm saying this not only they don't feel that power, they think that Hasidis is the opposite.
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SPEAKER_02: That okay.
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SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
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SPEAKER_02: That's a little different.
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SPEAKER_02: But that's that's you're right, that's the first step.
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SPEAKER_02: And I'm saying, even for those who who understand that, but they just don't think then they have that ability to be able to do so.
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SPEAKER_02: Hashem hasn't revealed the fact that they're not going to be able to do that.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't think it's I don't even know if they think that they have the ability or not.
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SPEAKER_01: I think this is the place they've been put in, and that they accept that that's the place, and that's being chasidish.
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SPEAKER_01: That's what I'm saying.
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SPEAKER_01: It's identity, it's not the child who's born and has their own chayas, has no sechel right now, can't walk, can't talk, and all it could do is we know what Allah could do.
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SPEAKER_01: But it's independence, it's life force is in its own.
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SPEAKER_01: So when you say Hashem wants me to do this, you what you really mean, obviously, the guy really meant was I want to be an unstoppable man.
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SPEAKER_01: But he thought for some reason that's not the right thing to say.
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SPEAKER_01: Plus, he probably thinks that he has doubts whether he could be it, but he's putting it now on Hashem's want, right?
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SPEAKER_01: That therefore it's valid for him to look to go seek it out and be it.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's this is this is Koyach Nisan, and more than that, this is the essence of Gimel Thomas.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, I want to explore that.
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SPEAKER_02: I was gonna say this is really the essence of Rosh Hashanah, also.
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SPEAKER_02: I mean, obviously Chayelo is supposed to be the twelve days before Rosh Hashanah.
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SPEAKER_02: This is actually what you're supposed to be building towards within yourself to get to Rosh Hashanah.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, the Rebbe in Tafshin Yud Evel, that means before Yud Shvat says the twelve they points out something very obvious, but we don't think about it.
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SPEAKER_01: The twelve days of Chael till Roshana, the Alfred Rebbe said each day corresponds to a month.
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SPEAKER_01: So which month is Chael?
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SPEAKER_02: Tishrei.
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SPEAKER_01: Tishrei.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: What's the last day of the twelve days?
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SPEAKER_02: Which el The Eloh's.
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SPEAKER_02: Oh wow.
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SPEAKER_02: Never thought of that.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: So I came a I I I came across a s a famous story this last past week.
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SPEAKER_01: I I told you about.
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SPEAKER_01: That uh the Sheikh family in Toronto in 1952 had an accident with their daughter and uh boiling water fell all over her, and she was rushed to the hospital.
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SPEAKER_01: She was in a state of life and death was the question.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Not being a lababacher, but associated with lababachers, Rabbi Sheikh, we're talking about the father of the famous ones that we know today, wrote uh phone the Rebbe.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, he phoned 770, and the Rebbe picked up.
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SPEAKER_01: Which, you know, whatever that means.
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SPEAKER_01: And he said, and he asked for a bracha and told the Rebbe what was going on, and the Rebbe said, This Shabbos make a suit side duh.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: But suddah, the story goes that two weeks later, he's she's still in the hospital.
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SPEAKER_01: He did the Suda.
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SPEAKER_01: She's still in the hospital, and a cop comes over to his house to tell him that the hospital said that he should come to the hospital because uh it's in her last moments.
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SPEAKER_01: And he writes, he phones 770 again, and the Rebbe, I don't know if I don't think the Rebbe answered on the phone, but the Rebbe says they're wrong and they're doing something wrong.
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SPEAKER_01: Anyways, the point of the story is the question is how is it possible?
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SPEAKER_01: Or what does it mean that you make a suicide before it happens?
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SPEAKER_01: Is this wishful thinking?
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SPEAKER_01: Is this you know magic?
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SPEAKER_01: Or someone when I told over the story in Shul, they said this is because it's the Rebbe.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm gonna cut to the chase and say, guess what?
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SPEAKER_01: Ell is your Shabbos Kiddish before in this story before the child gets healed.
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SPEAKER_01: Where do we have and you know what I just noticed today?
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SPEAKER_01: Parsh isn't tsavim, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Always before Rashana, we say we're all united, blah, blah, blah.
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SPEAKER_01: It's all very nice.
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SPEAKER_01: And and not only that, but we say that um that the Rebbe teaches that this is the Shabbosmavorchim.
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SPEAKER_01: This is the the parsha, the Shabbosm of Vorchim, this is the bracha of Shabbos Mavorchim, in the Bashem, of the upcoming year.
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SPEAKER_01: We don't say a bracha and do Shabbos Mavorchim.
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SPEAKER_01: Nakarish the Khaidish, but this is the Kiddish the Khaidish, it's the Parsha.
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SPEAKER_01: Rashi says a very interesting thing that is so apropos to all of us Tatilas who can't get up and say, I want to be an unstoppable man.
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SPEAKER_01: Hashem wants me to be, but I want.
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SPEAKER_01: And he says, now I'm going to go back and I'm going to explain it differently.
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SPEAKER_01: And he says, Why Atun Natsavim?
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SPEAKER_01: It comes after the Klaulois of last week, the curses.
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SPEAKER_01: Because the Jews got freaked out that they can't survive.
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SPEAKER_01: Look at all these curses.
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SPEAKER_01: Right?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Like the guy who comes into our shore every every elo, and he goes, hello.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, that's the the literature way, hello, we're gonna die.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: And what does Rashi say?
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SPEAKER_01: The shen says to them, What are you talking about?
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SPEAKER_01: You're all standing here today.
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SPEAKER_01: He made it.
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SPEAKER_01: No, but wait a second.
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SPEAKER_01: They knew who they were.
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SPEAKER_01: The Abbashan knows who they are.
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SPEAKER_01: And we're still and we know who we are.
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SPEAKER_01: We're reading the Kumash.
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SPEAKER_01: And Rashis telling us that the Torah's telling us, Adun Tsavagai, Kulchemayom, you're focused on all the curses and you're not gonna make it.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm saying differently.
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SPEAKER_01: Think about that.
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SPEAKER_01: So you have a choice.
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SPEAKER_01: Which one, which side of the equation are you gonna you're gonna tap into?
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SPEAKER_01: The Klalois or Rashis Vort?
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SPEAKER_01: And that's make a pseudoshaidah.
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SPEAKER_01: Elul's the Sudashaidah.
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SPEAKER_01: Where does this weakness come from?
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SPEAKER_01: I know where it comes from.
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SPEAKER_01: It comes from 2,000 years of being kicked in the teeth and in the stomach and other places.
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SPEAKER_01: So all of the development of thought was based around that.
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SPEAKER_01: But we are chasidim of the Lababach, and we are a chasidum of Khael, that you have your own koyah, you have your own power, and if you act like a tatilah, whatever that means in your own situation, everyone is different, then basically you're saying there's no.
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SPEAKER_01: So think about it.
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SPEAKER_01: Put everything together.
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SPEAKER_01: The Rebbe says, Friedrich Rebbe teaches us that Chi El is Kenegad Tishrei.
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SPEAKER_01: And as you said, Chai El is, as the Rebbe says, independent force that you are.
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SPEAKER_01: So why do you think you come to Rosh Hashanah as a helpless begging beggar?
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SPEAKER_03: It doesn't it doesn't work.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, so where's the betal of Rosh Hashanah?
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SPEAKER_01: Because your power is in your recognition that everything is from the Abish then.
21:53
SPEAKER_01: But that doesn't mean that you don't go and say he wants me to be a unstoppable man.
22:00
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
22:01
SPEAKER_01: Well, I mean, you don't just say it's him.
22:02
SPEAKER_01: No, no, no.
22:03
SPEAKER_02: I I I got that.
22:04
SPEAKER_02: And how would you how do you connect this to the king is in the field?
22:08
SPEAKER_02: How do you see that?
22:09
SPEAKER_02: Perfectly.
22:13
SPEAKER_01: What's you know, it's amazing how again we've I think we mentioned it last time we met, how people are amazed about the king in the field.
22:20
SPEAKER_01: This there's songs about it.
22:23
SPEAKER_01: Even literature people say it now, but they have no idea what it's about.
22:26
SPEAKER_01: And it's this small little mushal in a mimer that the Rebbe made at front page.
22:32
SPEAKER_01: What's the whole mushal?
22:35
SPEAKER_01: On Yomtuf, you are elevated to a different level, right?
22:39
SPEAKER_01: Shabbas and Yuntuff.
22:40
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
22:41
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
22:41
SPEAKER_01: How come?
22:42
SPEAKER_01: What did you do?
22:44
SPEAKER_01: You did nothing in general.
22:47
SPEAKER_01: Katshavakaima, except for that what day is Yuntuff is by the Yiddin.
22:52
SPEAKER_01: But Katsel Shabbas.
22:53
SPEAKER_01: Katshavakaima.
22:54
SPEAKER_01: It's holy.
22:55
SPEAKER_01: Where's the whole?
22:56
SPEAKER_01: Those are the Yudgimul Minas of Rachimim.
22:58
SPEAKER_01: Rachimim according the way the re three says in Tanya is Giloy Elakus and Giloi Tzedikim.
23:07
SPEAKER_01: That you see God in the world through tzedikim is is is Rachimim.
23:11
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
23:12
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
23:13
SPEAKER_01: So the question is that in Aizhaim, that it says that the month of Elul is Mare Yudgimul Minus Rachimim.
23:24
SPEAKER_01: So the Althareba's question is, how could that be their weekdays?
23:28
SPEAKER_01: And he gives the answer the king is in the field.
23:31
SPEAKER_01: Sometimes the king comes into the weekday, even though it's still a weekday.
23:35
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so now what does it mean?
23:39
SPEAKER_01: And this is where actually you're touching on something that I said to both of these guys this week.
23:46
SPEAKER_01: And to myself, uh you know, I'm using these guys just as uh punching bags.
23:51
SPEAKER_02: I'm sure they appreciate it.
23:53
SPEAKER_01: The um well, if a freaking does something for them, then they will appreciate it.
23:59
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
24:00
SPEAKER_01: So the I give them I I gave them the mushroom like this.
24:06
SPEAKER_01: You have a guy who's 20 years an alcoholic, and his life is completely in chaos.
24:13
SPEAKER_01: He's lost, he's lost his business, he's lost his family, he's getting evicted.
24:18
SPEAKER_01: You know, all the kinds of things that go on with people in that situation.
24:21
SPEAKER_01: I was once at a convention of Jewish alcoholics when I was a schliach, and I went asked to participate and be an observer and learn.
24:34
SPEAKER_01: And this guy told me, he's a 50-year-old guy, said, You have to realize, Rabbi, with how low I fell.
24:41
SPEAKER_01: I was literally, he said to me, with my head in the toilet bowl, holding on to a rifle, shooting out the door of my bathroom into my backyard of my Long Island suburban house.
24:59
SPEAKER_01: Oh my goodness.
25:00
SPEAKER_01: Okay, he could have killed not only himself, but the next door neighbor.
25:03
SPEAKER_01: And he realized there's something wrong here, right?
25:07
SPEAKER_01: And he hit bottom.
25:08
SPEAKER_02: That's a good hit.
25:10
SPEAKER_01: Okay, I never forgot that example, and I once I put it actually into a script.
25:14
SPEAKER_01: Anyways, so so this is my comment.
25:19
SPEAKER_01: So he turns around when that happens, and he says, I hit bottom.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: Basically, we say he hit bottom.
25:26
SPEAKER_01: He's going to take care of his life, he's gonna change, but he needs a higher power, and that's the next step, right?
25:32
SPEAKER_01: So I'm helpless, I hit bottom, I can't take this anymore.
25:35
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
25:36
SPEAKER_01: What's the difference between the day before and now?
25:41
SPEAKER_01: Because anyone else would say the day before was also chaos and crap.
25:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
25:45
SPEAKER_01: Okay, what happened?
25:46
SPEAKER_02: You you changed, you had recognition, das, chapts, whatever you want to call it.
25:51
SPEAKER_01: You decided you didn't want this anymore.
25:56
SPEAKER_01: That's the I mean, you want to say this cause, that's the mech mechanic.
26:00
SPEAKER_01: My ratsun kicked in and said no more.
26:04
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
26:05
SPEAKER_01: So the the Mitlarebbe says in Derachayim the same thing about Kabbalah soil, about about precursor, uh not having the oil of the of the Abishta.
26:16
SPEAKER_01: I take on the reality that everything is here, is God to serve God.
26:27
SPEAKER_01: That's my ratsang.
26:29
SPEAKER_01: That I accept it.
26:30
SPEAKER_01: Doesn't mean I feel it, right?
26:33
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
26:34
SPEAKER_02: I mean, that almost sounds like the statement that the guy made.
26:40
SPEAKER_02: He's trying to take on the rats and then I'm a powerful, you know, man.
26:44
SPEAKER_01: No, but he didn't yeah, you're being nice, but that's not the way he's gonna be.
26:47
SPEAKER_02: No, I I understand.
26:48
SPEAKER_02: So I'm saying you you still have to you have to.
26:53
SPEAKER_01: Wait, wait.
26:53
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna I I don't know if I'm allowed to do this in the context of what we say that Chasid says everything, but look at the 12 steps.
27:01
SPEAKER_01: First you hit bottom and you say, I don't want to do this anymore, but I need a higher power.
27:10
SPEAKER_02: So you still have your own first rats?
27:12
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
27:13
SPEAKER_01: Where do you have the ability to kick to check out of your own life?
27:17
SPEAKER_01: Where does that come from?
27:22
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
27:22
SPEAKER_01: This is this is such gull it comes from gullus mentality.
27:28
SPEAKER_01: And I hate to say it, it comes from a power grab, I believe.
27:34
SPEAKER_02: You're saying from the system.
27:36
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, the system will keep you under lock and key and helpless because we're afraid that if you're very independent, you're not gonna follow the rules.
27:46
SPEAKER_01: Plus, half the leaders themselves are not sure of where they are holding, so at least they can, you know, manipulate everybody else.
27:52
SPEAKER_01: So I don't want to go down the road, but um it's too depressing.
27:56
SPEAKER_01: No, it's not, you know, this is my shtick, so you know who cares about my shtick.
28:01
SPEAKER_01: But um all the teachings of the sides, and particularly the Rebbe and Rosh Hashanah, is all about your koyak to create your year.
28:14
SPEAKER_01: I so there's all this Pakar and Nira, Yomim Narayim.
28:19
SPEAKER_01: That's the Naira that you have the ability to do it, and you're sitting there like a yacht not getting it.
28:25
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and now that I'm getting it, how do I use out the power?
28:31
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
28:32
SPEAKER_01: Not that you're helpless.
28:34
SPEAKER_02: No, the exact opposite.
28:35
SPEAKER_02: How do I, like you just said, how do I actually use out what's been given to me all of the blessings and that's kaichis?
28:42
SPEAKER_01: So look what happens when we're off post-Gimmel Thomas.
28:47
SPEAKER_01: We're we're we're in the same situation.
28:50
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I mean, every I shouldn't say everybody, I wasn't there, but and people still do it today, but it's the Reba's kaichis, and I don't have the ability, and otherwise I'm a nothing, and I, you know, the rhetoric that everybody likes to spew that uh they think they're so chasidh because they don't think they uh have anything of themselves.
29:13
SPEAKER_01: We think mediocrity is chasidish.
29:17
SPEAKER_02: Mediocrity of ourselves, but therefore I'm tapping into what's wonderful, but I am myself am mediocre.
29:27
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but not only am I mediocre, but my behavior could be mediocre.
29:35
SPEAKER_01: How many letters are there from the Rebbe screaming at Kfar Chabad about they're doing nothing?
29:40
SPEAKER_01: How many letters uh are are are have been written to people now that you did this, why aren't you doing more?
29:46
SPEAKER_01: The Rebbe's not a uh you know the story, it's uh the beautiful story from uh Rabbi uh Groner in in Australia.
29:55
SPEAKER_01: Just to remind you, because it's a great story.
29:57
SPEAKER_01: He and maybe it was even Chayel, he went to Eris Israel and he was for bringing at the uh at the shool in uh in Old City.
30:07
SPEAKER_01: And there were other lot he was famous, so a lot of people came.
30:10
SPEAKER_01: And Rabbi Groner, Al-Hash, from Melbourne, was we'll say, uh corpulent, and he had a big huge beard, and his his voice was like a bullhorn.
30:24
SPEAKER_01: I could see him saying this.
30:26
SPEAKER_01: And the guy, some guy from some host that says, Tell me about your Rebbe.
30:30
SPEAKER_01: This is before Gimbal Thomas, right?
30:32
SPEAKER_01: He says, Tell me about your Rebbe, who is your Rebbe?
30:34
SPEAKER_01: Tell me all about him, and Rabbi Gorner goes, My Rebbe Shake is you want to know about my Rebbe?
30:41
SPEAKER_01: My Rebbe is a slave driver.
30:48
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
30:50
SPEAKER_01: The Rebbe the Rebbe understood the Kaihas we have.
30:56
SPEAKER_01: We just don't understand the Kaihas we have.
30:58
SPEAKER_01: So So uh the this guy's answer to me today was so beautiful, Era of Chael, because when you think about it, he's encapsulating he knows he wants to be an unstoppable.
31:16
SPEAKER_01: But he can't say it.
31:18
SPEAKER_01: He has to say the Abishta wants him to be an unstoppable.
31:22
SPEAKER_01: Even if you say, Oh, but if I Abish doesn't want I can't be, I know all I know all the theology.
31:28
SPEAKER_01: I'm talking about emotionally, where is he holding?
31:30
SPEAKER_01: He's holding that he can't really do it.
31:33
SPEAKER_01: And if the Abishta grants him, he'll have the Qay do it.
31:37
SPEAKER_01: Right.
31:40
SPEAKER_01: And it's so off.
31:44
SPEAKER_01: And that's what the Rebbe says the Mohushidis of the birthday of the Balshemtav and the Al T Rebbe.
31:50
SPEAKER_01: And he says, Why is it just to prove the point that birthdays are not traditionally a Jewish celebration?
32:01
SPEAKER_01: Yard sites, yeah, but not birthdays.
32:04
SPEAKER_02: He didn't do anything yet.
32:05
SPEAKER_02: It's all in potential.
32:07
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's what that's the reason.
32:09
SPEAKER_01: And the Rebbe said, why by the Altarebbe and and um Balshamtav?
32:15
SPEAKER_01: Because that is the mohost of Chasidis.
32:18
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, is his birth.
32:22
SPEAKER_01: So now what and Chail?
32:24
SPEAKER_01: Now what?
32:25
SPEAKER_01: And how's that tie into Tishrei?
32:29
SPEAKER_02: I mean, we just said how it ties into Tishrei that this is the preparation of how you're supposed to be going into Rosh Hashanah.
32:35
SPEAKER_02: No, no, no, no.
32:36
SPEAKER_02: That's El.
32:37
SPEAKER_01: That's that's the last day before.
32:38
SPEAKER_01: I'm thinking the first day of Hai El Connected Tishre.
32:43
SPEAKER_01: You're not going into, you're in it.
32:45
SPEAKER_02: No, you're in it, but I'm saying you're going to crown the king in that space is totally different.
32:54
SPEAKER_02: I'm saying it's a totally different experience when you're crowning the king after 12 days.
33:00
SPEAKER_01: No, you're not you're missing it.
33:02
SPEAKER_01: I'm asking you, Chai El is connected Tishrei.
33:05
SPEAKER_01: Chai El is all about independent power.
33:09
SPEAKER_01: How is that connected to Gabalas and Malchus on Tishre on the fruit on Rosh Hashanah?
33:15
SPEAKER_02: Okay, how?
33:16
SPEAKER_01: I I bet we said it already.
33:18
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's what I was saying, but you didn't like my answer.
33:20
SPEAKER_02: So what do you what is it?
33:23
SPEAKER_01: You give me this answer about preparation and this it's it's the incredible koyach you have given to you to create your life for the next year.
33:37
SPEAKER_01: But you have to be bottled that the koih that you have to do it is not yours.
33:44
SPEAKER_01: But it's given to you as yours.
33:55
SPEAKER_01: So it's just you know, everyone has a level where they're they have the power and the other person doesn't.
34:10
SPEAKER_01: Right?
34:11
SPEAKER_01: It could be in a million different ways.
34:14
SPEAKER_01: And it doesn't have to be big power.
34:16
SPEAKER_01: Right?
34:17
SPEAKER_01: Um you can have the you know, the keys to the executive office and now you're in a big power, you know, or whatever.
34:23
SPEAKER_01: So there's always room for abuse of power on both sides.
34:33
SPEAKER_01: Meaning the macable sits there like a za a tatala.
34:37
SPEAKER_01: Right.
34:39
SPEAKER_01: All I'm saying is that we and isn't that what what Rabbi uh Sax Allah Shalom said about the Rebbe.
34:49
SPEAKER_01: A lot of r a lot of Rebbe's and rabbis have followers and the Rebbe made leaders.
34:58
SPEAKER_03: That's the opposite of independence is not making leaders.
35:07
SPEAKER_03: So isn't that what Panemius means?
35:16
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
35:17
SPEAKER_02: It's all it's you're saying it saying accurately, and I see that now.
35:22
SPEAKER_02: It's all of Hasidus.
35:24
SPEAKER_02: It's the whole mass of my of Hasidus.
35:27
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, this is uh so um am I not cor am I correct that the Friday Gribb is said goodyontif on Khayel?
35:37
SPEAKER_01: I believe so.
35:38
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
35:41
SPEAKER_01: That's for sure.
35:43
SPEAKER_03: And um we should sh all of us have our victimhood pieces of us and our weak weakling parts of us.
36:04
SPEAKER_01: And you know what, you could be a weakling, but you can still go to the gym to get muscles.
36:08
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so that means you're a weakling within a weakling because you don't go.
36:11
SPEAKER_01: So we all have that.
36:14
SPEAKER_01: And it's so it's so so for in our generation at least, the bital of the twelve days between Chael and Tishrei is the is the uh uh letting go of weakness.
36:38
SPEAKER_01: Yes, it's a very interesting paradox, isn't it?
36:44
SPEAKER_01: So you should be strong, should be healthy, should be blessed, MF, should be blessed.
36:51
SPEAKER_01: You should what did you say?
36:52
SPEAKER_02: A strong MF.
36:54
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you should be a strong MF.
36:56
SPEAKER_01: What a stupid name that is, but anyway, so I don't want to go there.
37:00
SPEAKER_01: And you should be full of awe and all of the blessings that the Avishta gives you externally and internally.
37:13
SPEAKER_01: And you we should dance.
37:15
SPEAKER_01: There's a whole piece in the Kutadabur about the Rebbe watching through the Rebbe Shabbat, I think it was the Rebbe Shabbat, watching the Khassidim dance.
37:24
SPEAKER_01: We should dance and have what to dance for, and we should feel Adenat Sabim kulchamaya.
37:32
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