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Episode 41: So Much to Do, So Much Time · From My Planit to Yours...

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, I'm Blizzard Planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Self-Friendship Podcast, where playfulness meets societal reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through the lens of self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: which I define as embracing,
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  SPEAKER_00: understanding and enjoying oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: I hopefully inspire you to critically think,
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  SPEAKER_00: creatively think and optimistically approach life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You hopped on the band rocket and now you're on planet butter,
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  SPEAKER_00: a world made of delicious,
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  SPEAKER_00: sparkly peanut butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And an adorable disco ball of self-reflection is whirling around in her transforming convertible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for joining me in my 41st episode where I'll be sharing my answer to last
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  SPEAKER_00: week's question of the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: How to be...
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  SPEAKER_00: how to come to terms with our hypnosis,
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  SPEAKER_00: a word replacement for routine,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on retreats,
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  SPEAKER_00: a renew affirmation,
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  SPEAKER_00: a party of one,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: young and wise,
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  SPEAKER_00: two types of quitting,
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  SPEAKER_00: a perspective dance with mistakes,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on potential,
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  SPEAKER_00: a self-friendship article snippet,
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  SPEAKER_00: love is easy,
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  SPEAKER_00: in love is self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as always, a brand new question at the end for all of us to self-reflect and self-connect.
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  SPEAKER_00: And email me, if you desire, selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Last week,
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  SPEAKER_00: I offered the perspective that conditioning is equivalent to hypnosis,
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  SPEAKER_00: hence the title of episode 40.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't raised in New York City.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was hypnotized in New York City.
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  SPEAKER_00: And last week's question of the week was,
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  SPEAKER_00: where were you hypnotized and what is one way it influenced you?
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you just heard, I always invite you guys to email me your answers.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this time, two of you did.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay!
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so proud of you for your willingness to share.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I will read their two answers and then gift you mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the first guy said, I was hypnotized when I was born and raised in Germany.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm an American army brat,
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  SPEAKER_00: but spent the majority of my formative years on foreign soil and didn't move to the
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  SPEAKER_00: States permanently until I was between 11 to 12 years old.
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  SPEAKER_00: It influenced me because I witnessed firsthand the livelihoods of people who
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  SPEAKER_00: weren't devoted to a rat race like we are here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I followed your posts for a few months now,
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  SPEAKER_00: and part of the reason why I believe the universe pulled me to them is because how
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  SPEAKER_00: you buck the trends and trapping of the programming society piles on us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I look forward to the day I can confidently shed the burden of societal traps and
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  SPEAKER_00: just live my life on my own planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then he listed two potential names for his planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obsessed with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he said, I haven't decided yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, thanks for all you do and keep it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I honestly believe you are doing good work here.
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  SPEAKER_00: How fucking sick.
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  SPEAKER_00: Guys, we're making progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Waves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peanut butter waves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sparkly peanut butter waves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stick around.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second answer we got was, so where was I hypnotized and what created it?
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  SPEAKER_00: He said.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was born into a family of Jehovah Witnesses,
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  SPEAKER_00: which at my core knew it was off,
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  SPEAKER_00: very cult like with controlling families with the so-called elders.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as I aged and got into junior high school slash high school,
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  SPEAKER_00: the grips of freedom was whirling like Blissy and the rebellious black hip hop
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  SPEAKER_00: culture was thriving and seeding the minds of the white kids and friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: that black people should be this, especially when I had reading and writing challenge with enunciation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I went running into this path, which my family wasn't good at expressing pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: As my mom was going through a degenerative disease since I was the age of seven,
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  SPEAKER_00: Then it turned to me, then it turned me to the world of sports.
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  SPEAKER_00: I snuck my way onto the soccer team for a year and then I got onto the football team,
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  SPEAKER_00: which was really the big shift that I followed and had support as I went to play
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  SPEAKER_00: college and university.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hell yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: As well,
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  SPEAKER_00: I started playing high school hockey as they,
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  SPEAKER_00: quite the athlete,
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  SPEAKER_00: sir,
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  SPEAKER_00: as they rebooted the hockey program.
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  SPEAKER_00: So cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then you throw the challenges of women in there and I was placed in this chaotic space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Great question, he says.
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  SPEAKER_00: P.S., the word, oh, the word play infinitesimally immaculate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Immaculant.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for sharing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've all got stuff, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, my answer to last week's question of the week, I said, I was hypnotized in New York City.
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  SPEAKER_00: One way it influenced me is the need for speed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Efficiency is a luxury.
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  SPEAKER_00: in certain respects.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's also not necessary in many respects.
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  SPEAKER_00: I learned how to be fast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was conditioned, hypnotized, to be fast.
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  SPEAKER_00: But innately,
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  SPEAKER_00: I've always tended to do a lot of things slowly because I actually enjoy savoring
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  SPEAKER_00: the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like slow mornings, leisurely walking, long showers, eating slowly, chatting, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's my answer, yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now moving and grooving.
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  SPEAKER_00: How to come to terms with our hypnosis.
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  SPEAKER_00: The best way to be able to come to terms with our hypnosis or childhood
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  SPEAKER_00: conditioning is to remember it's not personal.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we take it personally, we're caught up in our ego.
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  SPEAKER_00: While harnessing our ego can be valuable,
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  SPEAKER_00: is valuable,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I would argue necessary,
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  SPEAKER_00: but that's another conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our ego is the thing that differentiates us from being just pure energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: For the sake of our self-friendship practice and therefore our evolution,
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  SPEAKER_00: the ability to be objective is imperative.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we can be objective about our own ego and hypnosis,
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  SPEAKER_00: we can treat everything as factual experiences and positive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Perspectives.
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  SPEAKER_00: Creating the necessary space to process our life experience from a place that is
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  SPEAKER_00: detached from any belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is the trick that allows us to effectively move forward and do so differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which is required to shift our patterns.
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  SPEAKER_00: Acting differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Observing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Identifying.
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  SPEAKER_00: Acting differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: And doing it all objectively.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, so much to do, so much time.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is no time limit.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is no timeline.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are time goals, but you have all your time in your world.
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  SPEAKER_00: the rush?
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  SPEAKER_00: There is none.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship is embracing, understanding, and enjoying ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we focus on ourselves and our own life,
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  SPEAKER_00: our own time,
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  SPEAKER_00: we can appreciate that everything in life is happening as it's intended to.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we continue to prioritize our own best interest,
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  SPEAKER_00: the experiences we encounter within our time are far more fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want to have fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life is awesome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a word replacement for routine.
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  SPEAKER_00: activities.
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  SPEAKER_00: I revisited my self-friendship article from June 12, 2024, titled Routine Minus the Attachment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in it,
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  SPEAKER_00: I express how rather than creating a routine that we must stick to,
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  SPEAKER_00: we can simply recognize activities that work for us and release the attachment to
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  SPEAKER_00: the order in which we perform these activities.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine feeling comfortable with your own personal routines being flexible and ever-changing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Integrating unpredictability within our personal routines sets the tone for our
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  SPEAKER_00: relationship with external forces in our life,
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  SPEAKER_00: forming a foundation of comfort in discomfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more we integrate the layers of the external world into our individual foundational development,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more mentally and emotionally resilient we become.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are adaptable, emotionally competent, intellectually stimulated creatures.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's act like it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Please.
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  SPEAKER_00: A note on the three core methods.
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  SPEAKER_00: A loving reminder,
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  SPEAKER_00: the three core methods to activating our self-friendship are boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: confidence,
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  SPEAKER_00: alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: The note is respecting other people's three core methods.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more someone practices integrating the three core methods into every moment,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more they naturally respect others who are also honoring their own boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: showing up confidently and aligning with themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: This creates a foundation for harmony, living in harmony with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Blissy, short for Blisserence, which means living in harmony with oneself.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're new here, Blissy is the queen of the world of Planet Butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love recording this podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wish I could see my face because I'm just talking to a camera.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, hello?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you there?
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  SPEAKER_00: Jordan?
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  SPEAKER_00: Blizzard?
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  SPEAKER_00: Planet?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where is she?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm right here.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, a note on retreats.
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  SPEAKER_00: Retreat is defined as withdrawing from something.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when I say retreat these days,
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  SPEAKER_00: you probably picture a group of ladies frolicking in some faraway land together.
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  SPEAKER_00: I fully support that if it's your thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also, I'm sure men do it too.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just feel like, at least I think about just like women going on retreats for some reason.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I fully support that if that's your thing, but it really shouldn't be called a retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sure,
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  SPEAKER_00: technically people are withdrawing from something to go as per the definition,
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  SPEAKER_00: but the whole event is anything but a retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's more like an extended period of hyper socializing on somebody else's schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, if that's your thing, that's cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: But hear me out.
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  SPEAKER_00: At some point,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll plan a butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll host a retreat and I'll call it isolation together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Damn.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you guys ever seen the movie?
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  SPEAKER_00: The love guru giving all these acronyms and he just keeps saying TM.
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  SPEAKER_00: Check it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a funny movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll call it isolation together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everyone would be required to operate independently in whatever way best suits their body and mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before coming to the event,
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  SPEAKER_00: the retreat,
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  SPEAKER_00: the isolation together,
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  SPEAKER_00: we would survey to ask your favorite childhood activities and any new activities
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  SPEAKER_00: you've wanted to try.
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  SPEAKER_00: There would be a Planet Butter pizza and butter bar,
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  SPEAKER_00: as seen in the coffee table book with the lesson,
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  SPEAKER_00: Party of One.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an organic fusion restaurant with various areas of the restaurant having a
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  SPEAKER_00: vibe shift depending on the cuisine.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll have a variety of different activities accessible based on the surveys.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you come, the only rule...
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  SPEAKER_00: is to do whatever you want, whenever you want, based on your intuition.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take notes as you go on what you do,
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  SPEAKER_00: observations of yourself,
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  SPEAKER_00: any patterns or stories that develop,
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  SPEAKER_00: and see what unfolds for you during your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: At the end,
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  SPEAKER_00: we'll all come together to self-reflect and self-connect,
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  SPEAKER_00: see who crossed paths and who didn't,
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  SPEAKER_00: reflect on what each person we did cross paths with mirrored to us,
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  SPEAKER_00: what stories developed,
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  SPEAKER_00: and what we learned about ourselves and others in the experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know what you think.
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  SPEAKER_00: Isolation together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a renew affirmation, because this isn't new.
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  SPEAKER_00: I made it up a while ago in a Planet Butter Instagram reel.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not too good to be true.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not too good to be true.
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  SPEAKER_00: people life is amazing and sometimes we can psych ourselves out of amazing things
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  SPEAKER_00: because we build up self-doubt disbeliefs imposter syndrome all that but it's true
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  SPEAKER_00: it's so good it's true cool now a party of one
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  SPEAKER_00: As a loving reminder,
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  SPEAKER_00: party of one means having fun with oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: for oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: as oneself,
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  SPEAKER_00: anywhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: everywhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: no matter who's there.
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  SPEAKER_00: We become our party of one by consistently practicing self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each episode,
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  SPEAKER_00: I share little tidbits from my life that happened thanks to me showing up in the
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  SPEAKER_00: world as my party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the recovery spa that I go to,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: sauna,
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  SPEAKER_00: ice bath,
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  SPEAKER_00: all that fun stuff,
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  SPEAKER_00: hosts a monthly outdoor movie night.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's super awesome because you hang in a pool, floaty, watch the movie or a beanbag, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this month's movie was I Love You Man, a great comedy if you don't know it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wish I were exaggerating when I say I was the only person laughing out loud at
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  SPEAKER_00: during the movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will never understand people who withhold their emotions during a movie, especially a comedy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I Love You Man is a comedy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The creators want us to laugh out loud.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also,
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  SPEAKER_00: on that note,
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to acknowledge that I've been laugh shamed my entire life for laughing very
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  SPEAKER_00: loudly and now
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm getting paid for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's laughing now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Still me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I show up as my party of one,
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  SPEAKER_00: having fun with myself,
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  SPEAKER_00: for myself,
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  SPEAKER_00: as myself,
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  SPEAKER_00: anywhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: everywhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: no matter who's telling me to shut up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, silly lady.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: A note on boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boundaries, as a reminder, is the first core method to activate your self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we have to set boundaries that we don't want to set.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sticking to them can be really challenging.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's the thing with self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are not always doing what we want to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're doing what's in our own best interest.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd venture to say the most empowering boundaries are the hardest to enforce.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just going to let us sit in that for a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: The most empowering boundaries are the hardest to enforce.
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  SPEAKER_00: And again, when practicing self-friendship, we are not always doing what we want to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are doing what's in our own best interest.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sit with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Young and wise.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the honor of self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to hold space for a moment to appreciate my wisdom and acknowledge my
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  SPEAKER_00: youthfulness because it's an interesting combo to be so wise and have only 28 years
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  SPEAKER_00: of life experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also think the naivety of my youth serves in the ability to embody my wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay me.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's hilarious that I included that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I write things and I don't remember writing them and then I'm like, wow, you're hilarious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: A note on mental prep.
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  SPEAKER_00: I observe this about myself in my self-reflecting and self-connecting ways,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I'm excited to share it with you guys as a consideration for you and your ways
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  SPEAKER_00: of operating in your self-friendship practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I do work that requires a lot of my mental energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: as in the type of work that I'm capable of doing,
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  SPEAKER_00: but it does not come naturally to me,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I do it for Planet Butter because I'll do anything in Planet Butter's best interest.
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  SPEAKER_00: For that type of work, I require so much mental prep time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when the time does come,
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  SPEAKER_00: I have to ensure that I do something that's before and after that is of absolutely
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  SPEAKER_00: no similar brain power because otherwise it's game over.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so afterwards,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially again,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's like there's a buildup before of like recovery before I do the thing and then
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  SPEAKER_00: recovery after.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know that's funny to say.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it's funny.
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  SPEAKER_00: recovery before doing it doesn't make as much sense, but it's like a pre-recovery recovery.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a word for that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't think of it.
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  Oh God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like a preventative care for my brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh God, we got this.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the point is,
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  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to just offer you the consideration that when you know you have to do
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  SPEAKER_00: something that you're not natural at,
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  SPEAKER_00: but you want to do it because it's in your best interest or your work's best
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  SPEAKER_00: interest or whatever it may be,
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  SPEAKER_00: make sure that you do something completely different before and after so that you
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  SPEAKER_00: actually have the energy and clarity to do the thing that you want slash need to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hope it's helpful.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was a little rough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, self-friendship article snippet localized even when passing through because we always are.
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  SPEAKER_00: June 19th, 2024.
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  SPEAKER_00: Curiosity parallels travel, an adventurous mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our souls are eternal wanderers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our body is its transportation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our brain is the navigator and our intuition connects us to the universe, our landscape.
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  SPEAKER_00: Travel is defined as going from one place to another, typically over a distance of some length.
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  SPEAKER_00: societally speaking, it's typically referred to as going from cities, countries, or regions.
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  SPEAKER_00: As I see it,
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  SPEAKER_00: life is a perpetual state of travel,
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  SPEAKER_00: always going from one place to another,
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  SPEAKER_00: regardless of the length.
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  SPEAKER_00: As per the definition, typically over a distance of some length.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some length?
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  Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love these little details because it makes me giggle to be super literal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some length is the distance between your kitchen and your bed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some length is the distance between your bed and the moon.
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  SPEAKER_00: Traveling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now take this literal interpretation of the term travel and perspective dance with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we are equal parts perpetually traveling and perpetually localizing,
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  SPEAKER_00: we are inviting ourselves to grow.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are honoring our self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: the daily practice of embracing,
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  SPEAKER_00: understanding,
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  SPEAKER_00: and enjoying ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Local emotion, a Blizzard's dictionary term.
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  SPEAKER_00: The action of perpetually localizing ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: It embodies a state of openness, exploration, curiosity, and depths.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more comfortable we feel with immersing ourselves and localizing ourselves in
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  SPEAKER_00: new places,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more comfortable we become with exploring new parts of ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our brains are programmed with our thoughts,
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  SPEAKER_00: our experiences,
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  SPEAKER_00: and our thoughts about our experiences,
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  SPEAKER_00: which becomes our perception.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more new experiences we expose ourselves to and the more willing we are to
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  SPEAKER_00: localize in the new experiences,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more we naturally are rewiring our brain and creating our desired self,
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  SPEAKER_00: our planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a note on ideas.
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  SPEAKER_00: I personally choose to see the concept of inventing as anything we create by way of
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  SPEAKER_00: our own line of thinking,
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  SPEAKER_00: regardless if it already exists.
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  SPEAKER_00: If our own thinking arrived us to something that already exists, obviously it's a great idea.
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  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't change our invention.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our thought process led us to that idea.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just changes the need or desire to take further action.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_00: Now two types of quitting.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's quitting out of disempowerment and quitting out of consciousness.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: When we quit from disempowerment, it's rooted in stagnation, like being stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stagnation.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when we quit from consciousness,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's rooted in empowerment and is actually pivoting rather than quitting.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now another party of one.
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  Peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: The place I go for aerial yoga is on the beach and it's about an hour beach walk back to my villa.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I always walk back after class.
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  SPEAKER_00: This super, super, super, super cute handmade hat stand I've always had my eye on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the other day it was finally time to indulge and give to myself one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't have enough cash and beep, the bank transfer wasn't working.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so Mary,
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  SPEAKER_00: the queen of the hats,
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  SPEAKER_00: that is the designer creator,
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  SPEAKER_00: so cutely offered to drive me to the ATM.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love an adventure and a cute little story.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I was in.
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  SPEAKER_00: We leave the beach and the hat stand.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Note the level of trust and comfort that exists in Bali.
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  SPEAKER_00: This could be the whole world if we all keep practicing self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, back to the ATM.
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  SPEAKER_00: We go to the ATM, giggle and woo the whole way there, like on scooter.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're like, woo, because why not?
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  SPEAKER_00: Get the cash, drive back to the beach, kiss the hats with the cash.
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  SPEAKER_00: We called it cash kisses.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hugged, and then I carried on my way, wearing my new beach hat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cute.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_00: Now, a little self-friendship in action.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the Planet Butter jet hasn't landed quite yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's on its way.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: So while I was on my recent commercial flight,
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: I was sleeping in a very funky position and I crushed my foot so hard it was
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  SPEAKER_00: entirely numb.
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  SPEAKER_00: My self-friendship practice was literally saying to myself, I have a fully functioning foot and toes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a fully functioning foot and toes.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I also massaged my calf to get the blood circulating.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I squeezed the skin between my thumb and my pointer right here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when I was little,
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: I read one time that that can relieve headaches quickly because it just like causes
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  SPEAKER_00: the blood to circulate fast.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I thought I'd try it with my foot and it worked.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: So...
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship tips.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a perspective dance with mistakes.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry, I forgot to do the boogie perspective dance.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: You didn't make a mistake.
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  SPEAKER_00: You did what you were meant to do in that moment, even if it's not what you originally intended to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was meant to be that way, so therefore it wasn't a mistake.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: It needed to happen so that whatever happened following it, whether directly or indirectly, could happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we,
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  SPEAKER_00: if we're practicing self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: learn about ourselves in the given context and demonstrate to ourselves and the
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  SPEAKER_00: universe our willingness to upgrade.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know it.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: Such is life.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of difficult to come to terms with, but it's really powerful when we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can ditch regret,
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  SPEAKER_00: self-criticism that's not constructive criticism,
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_00: and any other mean stuff about what maybe momentarily felt like a mistake.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_00: Now, a note on potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all have potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship is actualizing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Consider it.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: Well, since you're here, you're already considering it.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, you.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: A note on products we use.
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  SPEAKER_00: We truly should not be using products on our bodies that say don't swallow or yeah, yeah, on our bodies.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: It should not say don't swallow or if you get this in your eyes, call the ambulance or whatever.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: I say this because I sprayed my facial sea spray cleanser, not cleanser, it's a sea spray.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a refresher thing into my eyeball by accident and it felt good.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: While that might partially be because I show up in the world as my party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I don't know.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: Probably.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's basically unheard of.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a problem.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_00: More people should be able to accidentally spray shit into their eyes and have it feel surprisingly good.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: That said,
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  SPEAKER_00: the things we are putting into our bodies and on our skin that goes into our pores
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  SPEAKER_00: and absorbed at the cellular level of our bodies really need to be things that
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: actually feel good to our bodies,
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  SPEAKER_00: not things that are extraordinarily hazardous to our well-being.
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's the planet better version of that.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_00: Now, a self-friendship article snippet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love is easy.
• 25:27
  SPEAKER_00: In love is self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: September 2nd, 2024.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's commonly discussed that we need to love ourselves first before entering a
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  SPEAKER_00: healthy romantic relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Planet Butter,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here to offer through the lens of self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: we actually need to be absolutely fucking enamored with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Utterly in love with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: That the only possible upgrade, expansion,
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  SPEAKER_00: is another human who is equally enamored with themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: This creates a united expansion of one another.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: It exposes us to parts of ourselves that are simply not accessible on our own,
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  SPEAKER_00: fueling even more of our self-friendship practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: One plus one equals eight.
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  SPEAKER_00: One human practicing self-friendship plus one human practicing self-friendship equals infinity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Expansion, eight.
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  SPEAKER_00: A partnership.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do we become absolutely fucking enamored with ourselves?
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  SPEAKER_00: Utterly in love with ourselves?
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  SPEAKER_00: We focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: A Blizzard's dictionary term.
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  SPEAKER_00: F-O-K-I-S-S.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which means giving our full attention towards something we love.
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_00: Focus, the English dictionary term, which means pay particular attention to
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  SPEAKER_00: is inevitable.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: While focus is inevitable, focus is a conscious choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we take responsibility for what we focus on,
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  SPEAKER_00: what we learn and focus ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: we perpetually upgrade and therefore evolve at the highest possible frequency,
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  SPEAKER_00: which I call a party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: having fun with ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: for ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: as ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: meaning we will inevitably become enamored with ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: in love with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: As our foundation of self becomes unshakable,
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  SPEAKER_00: the only possible upgrade,
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  SPEAKER_00: expansion,
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  SPEAKER_00: becomes romantic love.
• 27:46
  SPEAKER_00: becoming in love with another human being who is equally involved in their
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  SPEAKER_00: self-friendship practice,
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  SPEAKER_00: enamored with themselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: in love with themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: This upgrade invites us to an elevated depth of our existence,
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  SPEAKER_00: experiencing new layers of ourselves we simply cannot access without a powerful
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  SPEAKER_00: romantic connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is redundant intentionally, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Without a powerful romantic connection,
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  SPEAKER_00: who effortfully embraces,
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  SPEAKER_00: understands,
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  SPEAKER_00: and enjoys us,
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  SPEAKER_00: respects our boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: admires our confidence,
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  SPEAKER_00: and aligns with where we are while supporting us with where we're going and vice versa.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: Again, the three core methods are boundaries, confidence, alignment.
• 28:41
  SPEAKER_00: We all have, are, and desire love.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's natural.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is effortless.
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship is becoming in love, not having love, not being love, not wanting love.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is already within us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Become in love.
• 29:04
  SPEAKER_00: Become holds space for the work required, the focus,
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  SPEAKER_00: The learning, the focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: In holds space for the energetic space for active participation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love holds space for what we naturally have, are, and desire.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two souls so full of themselves, they overflow into each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ha!
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  SPEAKER_00: To be in love is an inevitable upgrade,
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  SPEAKER_00: expansion,
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  SPEAKER_00: access through the dedicated practice of self-friendship.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_00: Now the question of the week.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I'll give more context for this next week.
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  SPEAKER_00: What type of sunglasses person are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Dark shades or light shades?
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  SPEAKER_00: And why do you think that is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Email me your answers, selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna give myself a hug.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_00: You did great, girl.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks.
• 30:10
  SPEAKER_00: Cool.
• 30:11
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• 30:16
  SPEAKER_00: The link is in the show notes.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_00: And the world's first coffee table book with a lesson.
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: Party of One,
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_00: Self-Friendship in Action is where the world of Planet Butter comes to life through
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_00: really crazy,
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_00: cool,
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_00: trippy art that I made.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: And Blissy, the disco ball of self-reflection, bops around.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_00: seeing friends and making new all while having fun with herself for herself as herself.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: The hardcover is available internationally on planet butter.com.
• 30:42
  SPEAKER_00: Please continue to enjoy and review.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_00: It's super helpful.
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for landing on planet butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you next Thursday from my planet to yours.
• 30:51
  SPEAKER_00: Blizzard.