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When God Warns Us: 5 Types of People You Need to Avoid · Off The Kirb Ministries

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Listen to me. Every action you take is a vote
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for the person you want to be. In other words, what time do you
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go to bed at? In other words, what do you do
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with your spare time? How long do you procrastinate
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for? What time do you get up at?
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How long do you pray for? How long do you read the Bible?
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All of these actions will form who you will be in the future
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and in my opinion, there is no greater action.
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There is nothing that will form you more than the people you
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spend time with. It was once said by a wiser man
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than me, show me your friends and I will show you the future.
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So today I want to give you 5 types of people.
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You should avoid five types of people at the word of God and
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God himself would say be wary of these people.
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These are the kinds of people you should keep at arm's length
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at the very least. Now, if this is your first time
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here, my name's Joe Kirby. I'm a very simple man and I just
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beverage. And let's study the word of God
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together. And let's have a nice brew, as
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them. OK, the first type of person
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that the Word of God says you should have nothing to do with
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this person is the divisive person.
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Just turn in your Bibles to Titus 3, verse 10.
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Titus 3 verse 10, warn A divisive person once and then
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warn them a second time after that have nothing to do with
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them. So if you want to be obedient to
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the word of God, if there's someone who is divisive, you
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warn them once you say, listen, this behaviour is not
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acceptable. What you're doing right now,
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you're divisive, you're causing harm.
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I cannot be part of this. If you're going to continue
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doing this, you warn them once, you warn them a second time, and
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then if they continue in their behaviour, you have nothing to
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do with them. Now, the actual context of this
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passage is he's talking to the church and any of you who've
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been in any kind of church work or just spent time in church,
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you know that the bond of peace, as the Bible says that the
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spirit of unity is a very fragile thing.
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It's a precious thing. It's a beautiful thing when how
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wonderful it is, how blessed it is when brothers can dwell
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together in unity. That is such a precious thing,
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but in church life it is, it's so easy to break that bond.
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It's just one person can come in and years and years of
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fellowship, years and years of love can be broken.
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And that is exactly what Paul is warning Titus.
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He's saying, listen, listen, if if there is anyone who comes
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into this church and they're causing slander, they're
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gossiping, they're causing problems in the church, warn
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them once, warn them a second time.
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And after that, they need to be put out.
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They, they need to get out of the picture right now because
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they are going to damage the church and they're going to
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bring us. There's a whole lot of
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casualties with them. There's a lot of people in the
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church who are going to be hurt if this is not dealt with
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quickly. But hey, now I also do believe
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we can take stock from this as Christians in our daily life.
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There are people and you know them as well as I do.
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Perhaps you're that very person listening right now and they
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gossip. They just love tearing people
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down. They whisper things.
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They have you heard about this person?
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You've not heard the news, have you?
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Yeah. I don't want to get into this.
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I don't want to be a gossip. Whenever someone says that, you
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know, there's trouble aired. I don't mean to gossip, but I
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just felt you should know this just so that, you know, you can
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be informed. And if you allow that gossip to
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be a channel, you are being an enabler.
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You are enabling that person to sin.
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And that's why we've got to warn these people who are tearing
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down people. You know, the kind of person
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nothing's ever good enough, Nothing ever works out.
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That person's a problem. This person's a problem.
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You need to be careful. You need to be careful if
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perhaps you're in a relationship and there's someone who is
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trying to pull you away from your loved ones.
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Perhaps you've been really close to your mum and dad for years
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and maybe you've got a new boyfriend or a new girlfriend or
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even a spouse and they start whispering things that you've
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never noticed about your parents before and they start whispering
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that they're dividing. Now obviously if that's your
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spouse, you can't just, you can't just get rid of them like
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that. You know, you need to have very
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good grounds for divorce. We're actually going to talk
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about divorce a little bit in a moments time.
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But you know what I'm trying to say, if there's someone who's
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trying to split you up from your friends and isolate you, well,
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actually there's some patterns that are quite concerning that
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that person's doing. And I would actually bring
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someone older into the picture, someone wise, maybe a counsellor
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to say, listen, I'm not comfortable with how this person
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is is trying to separate me from my friends and family.
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So be aware of that person. Now I'm more of a lie to know,
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as many of you know, me and Emma, we met on a drama course
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at university. We were theatre buddies.
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We loved drama and as we got into a relationship we quickly
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started at a Youth Theatre, we called it Pie Youth Theatre.
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It stood for passionate, inspiring entertainment and it
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was a great time. I think we did it for about four
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or five years and we had children, primary school aged
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all the way up to high school and we taught them how to act.
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We did shows like The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, Alice in
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Wonderland. It was a great time.
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There's one of the parents and Emma's mum helped us as well.
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She used to help out as well in the background because she was a
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teacher. And there's one of the parents
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who really did complain a lot about things.
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Nothing was ever good enough. The costumes that we got for the
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show, that wasn't good enough. The set design wasn't good
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enough. I feel like the price is too
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much. Even though it was, you know, 5
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lbs for two hours, which, you know, even back then was like an
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absolute bargain. You know, they complained.
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She would always complain. And me and Emma, we were only
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young. We actually started it when we
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were 19. Emma was 19, I was 20.
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And we did it in our early 20s. And because this mother was
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older than us, we kind of felt intimidated and we'd feel like
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we were always trying to impress her.
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And then Emma's mum said something about this mother.
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I don't want to name names, but she said so.
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And so whatever you do, it will never be good enough.
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She said whatever you do, she will never think better of you
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anyway. So just get on with how you want
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to do things because whatever you do, she'll never think any
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better of you. And for me as a young 20
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something year old, that was so freeing because I thought, it's
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true. There's some people, they won't
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think any if you do everything. If you pulled out a red carpet
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for them to pulled out all the stops, they'd still complain.
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Why? Because they're divisive.
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Why? Because they're a negative
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person and you can't help some of those kinds of people.
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And in fact, you just need to do your best before the Lord.
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Try and do your best and forget about all the haters basically.
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I suppose that's what I'm trying to say.
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Because they still won't think any better of you.
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OK #2 the second kind of person we should avoid, Lloyd, is the
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fool. Turn in your Bibles to Proverbs
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23 verse 9. Proverbs 23 verse 9.
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Do not speak to fools, for they will scorn your prudent words,
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and you might remember our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
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He said do not cast your pearls before swines.
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There are some people and it doesn't matter what you do, they
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just won't listen. Doesn't matter how many times
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you tell them how much time you spend with them, they will just
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love their folly and you're basically wasting your time.
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You're wasting your breath because they're never going to
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listen. Now, at this point, I do want to
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sort of have a little disclaimer with any of these people, not
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just the fool, but with any of these types of people.
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We ought to be long-suffering as Christians.
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We are to be generous with our time.
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We are to be patient, loving, and kind.
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And we're not expecting people to be perfect.
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We shouldn't have this golden barrier.
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And if people don't meet it, no, sorry, you're staying away from
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me. I'm, you know, that's the way
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the people of the world sort of think, you know, cut off anyone
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who's slightly toxic because you're going to glow better.
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Everything's going to be better if you get rid of all of these
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people. No, we're not trying to be
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worldly here. I'm trying to talk about people
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who are just consistently, you're trying your best day by
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day, and they're consistently ignoring your advice.
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We need to be wary of those people.
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Vinnie Commons, who I often talk about St.
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Preacher, evangelist, the man who who mentored me and trained
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me, he used to say, are you fat? Are you a fat disciple?
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What on earth does that mean? Fat?
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It stands for, it's an acronym. F stands for faithful.
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Are you someone who's faithful? Are you faithful to the word of
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God? Will you be faithful to the
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teaching of the Bible? Will you be faithful?
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This person who's trying to mentor and train you a stands
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for are you available? It's no good if you're working 5
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jobs and you're trying to input into someones life and they're
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always busy or they're always playing sport and things like
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that. Is this person available?
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Whatever it is. So with Vinny, for instance, he
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would say, right, the first, third and 5th Saturday of the
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month, we're going to do open airs.
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I want to train young people in, in St. evangelism.
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Are you going to be available on those Saturday afternoons?
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And I myself did make myself available to be able to be, to
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learn how to, to do evangelism. And then the T this is the most
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important one. Are they teachable?
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Is this person just full of their own wisdom?
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Are they just full of their own folly, their own pride?
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Do they just think they know best or are they able to humble
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themselves and to listen to teaching again, United Beach
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Missions, which is kind of the kind of circles that I'm talking
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about with Vinnie and, and, and my evangelism.
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United Beach Missions years ago used to say, if someone gives
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you some kind of criticism, don't quickly say, oh, I defend
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myself. No, no, you don't understand it.
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You've misunderstood that. I do this because of this.
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No, be slow to speak, don't defend yourself and just take it
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in. Is there any truth in this
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feedback? Is there any truth in this
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criticism? Because it might just be that
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the Holy Spirit is trying to show you something.
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He's trying to chip off an edge in your life.
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Just hear it, be slow to speak and just wonder, is there any
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truth in this? And that's it.
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Are we teachable now? Of course, we have got to stand
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on the word of God. And this is a danger for young
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people, particularly as they can be swept by every kind of
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doctrine. And with all the different
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voices, particularly on social media from all the different
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denominations, you've got to be careful because you don't want
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to think, oh, well, I, I suddenly changed the teaching
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that I've held to for 1520 years because this person on social
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media has put a good case to it. You've got to be firm on the
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words and you've got to read. That's why we really must plow
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through the Word of to God. We must read good books on
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systematic theology. We must know the Word very, very
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closely so we're not swept around.
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And then we can be teachable when it's at the right time,
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when it's correct teaching, and we can be discerning.
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And suppose that's what I'm trying to say.
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So are you a fat disciple? You let me know in the comments
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section right now #3 The third kind of person you should avoid
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is the user. The user Now just turn to
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Proverbs 19, verse 4, Proverbs 19, and verse 4.
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Wealth attracts many friends, but even the closest friend of
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the poor person deserts them. You don't need me to tell you
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that people are fickle. You've dealt with fickle people
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in your life. I've dealt with fickle people in
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my life. Perhaps at times we ourselves
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have been fickle. Let's not point the finger at
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others when we ourselves can be like that at times in our own
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sinful human nature. But there are people who are
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fair weather friends. You know when the sun's shining,
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when things are going well, that's when they want to be near
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you. But when the storms are there,
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when you're in those dark seasons when everyone's deserted
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you, where are those people then?
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We don't want people to be like leeches.
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We've got to be so careful of those who just want to Leech off
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you take everything they can. Another way of putting it is
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like a McDonald's soda cup or a McDonald's milkshake.
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You've got the straw and you just, you slurp all of it.
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You get, you drink the whole drink.
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And then once you're done with it, you throw it away.
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That's how some people will, will treat you.
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They'll, they'll suck all of the life out of you.
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They'll take all of the energy from you.
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And then once you've got nothing left, they discard you and they
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throw you away. That is a cruel kind of person.
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And you need to be careful with those kinds of people.
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And again, I just want to emphasize this.
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I can't say that God says never, ever spend time with these,
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avoid these kinds of people because again, we want to win
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the lost. We want to win those people who
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want to help the, the, the Christian who might be
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struggling with sin. But I just think we've got to be
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incredibly wise when we deal with these kinds of people who
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only want us for our success. Some of you have watched my
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YouTube channel, Off the Curve Ministries.
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This is just my second channel, which is, as you know, kind of
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more laid back. But some of you've been watching
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me for a number of years. And if you've been on this
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journey with me, I started back in 2016.
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So we've been, we've done a good ten years now.
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Well, it was 2015 when we started the channel, but in
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2020, that's when my channel really blew up.
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And one of the things that really hurt actually, and it
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took me years to get over this, were people who, again, they
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kept me at arm's length or they totally ignored me.
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I'd go to conferences and, and Christian conferences, if you're
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a young person or you're single, they can be the most loneliest
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place in the entire world. And I'd go to these Christian
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conferences on my own. My wife would be working in the
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school. So I, I was going there as a
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young evangelist and you'd eat meals on your own.
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You'd have to go to all the effort to talk to people and
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you'd see, you know, people and they'd have the groups, the
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clicks and things. And I was on my own.
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I find it really difficult. When my YouTube channel blew up
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and I went to the same conference, honestly, it made me
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sick how people had changed. People came up to me and said,
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so this is my testimony. I've done this, this and this,
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all these crazy things. Would you be interested in
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interviewing me sometime or Oh, YouTube?
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I've seen you've blown up on YouTube and oh, come and talk to
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me. Or how do you do this?
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I'd like to know how to get all of these numbers.
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Can you help me? Can you give me a shout out?
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Will you give me, you know, all these people who didn't care
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about me at all, gave me no time of day.
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Suddenly when there was success, they were there.
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And it hurts because you just think how fickle are people?
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But again, I don't want to judge anyone because would I be like
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that in their position? I don't know.
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But just be aware of those kind of people.
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Some of you, you've got a great position in life.
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Perhaps you've got some money, you know, you've become wealthy
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and you've seen our people change.
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Some of you perhaps, as I said, maybe in church you've suddenly
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got a new position. You're an elder or you're a
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Deacon and suddenly people want to chat to you.
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Or maybe I don't know you, you have got a few followers or
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you've done well in life or you've done well at sport, those
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kinds of things. Just be aware of these kinds of
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people. And it's not selfish.
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It's not loving to have boundaries just to make sure
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that we're not like being used. Just before I move on, a classic
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example of this is Judas Iscariot.
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And I think there are a few Judases around in the world
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today. Judas didn't really care about
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Jesus, didn't really love the Lords.
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He just wanted to be around the money purse and he used Jesus
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fame, all the people who were giving money to help them and
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all the people who were drawing close.
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He used Jesus to extract to get what he could.
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And when he thought he could get his biggest paycheck, he
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betrayed Jesus for 30 pieces of silver, just discarded him.
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Guys, be careful of those kinds of people and let none of us be
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like that. Let us be good friends thick and
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thin, you know, like we say in our marriage vows, for better,
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for worse, we should be like that with friends.
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If someone's going through trouble, maybe that this is a
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call right now. Maybe God has placed a
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particular person on your heart right now.
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And you know, I've neglected that friendship.
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We were really close when things are going well, but now they've
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got that diagnosis. So now that their families has
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left them or now they're not, well, no drawn near to that
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person, maybe you need to call that person this very day.
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Now #4 I can say with total conviction is someone that God
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does want you to avoid. If you're looking for marriage,
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if you're looking for a relationship, God does not want
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you to be with someone who is not a believer.
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He doesn't want you to be unequally yoked as the Scripture
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says. Just please turn in your Bible
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to 2nd Corinthians chapter 6 and verse 14.
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Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.
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For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?
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What fellowship can light have with darkness?
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Now anyone who's been a Christian for any amount of time
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will probably know this verse. Well, it's quite a, a very
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famous verse. And if my memory serves me
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correctly, the idea of being unequally yoked was the idea of
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you've got 2 oxen and here you've got the yoke, you've got
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this, this bar that's going on the shoulders.
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And if you had like a massive big oxen and then a tiny one,
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then the yoke would be off center.
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If I've got that wrong, please forgive me.
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You can let me know in the comments section.
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As you know, this is very unscripted.
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This is very raw as we go through this message.
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But I actually want to say something that I think is not
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going to be very popular. And again, you can correct me if
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you think I'm wrong, but I think this verse goes even further.
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I'll give you an example. When I first became a Christian,
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I'd only been a Christian for a few weeks and I was being
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encouraged by a Christian camp. I was being encouraged by
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Christian leaders to go out with a girl who'd been a Christian
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for 10 years. And, you know, we liked each
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other. But I actually said, I feel like
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I'm unequally yoked. And, and this leader said, no,
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no, no, that's just talking about an unbeliever and a
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Christian. It doesn't matter if you're,
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you're, you know, if you've only been a Christian 5 minutes, you
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can still go out with this person because you're still a
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Christian. And I'm not saying this can
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never work, but I do think, I do think there's, I think we've got
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to be so careful here. Let me give you another example.
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Say you're a Christian and you love evangelism.
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Every Saturday you're out sharing the gospel, but you
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marry a person who doesn't love evangelism, who isn't able to do
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evangelism and wants to take all of your time and doesn't want
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you to spend time sharing the gospel anymore.
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Again, as you get married, your first priority is your spouse,
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your wife. That's your first priority.
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But you've got to be careful who you marry because if you marry
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someone who is 1/2 baked Christian or doesn't have take
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the things of God seriously, I think you can be unequally
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yoked. And I think, OK, first, when
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you've got all of the the rush and the honeymoon period and
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everything's going well, it'll be exciting.
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But as the years go by, suddenly if you're not growing closer to
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God, you're going to grow close, you're going to grow in the
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opposite direction, you're going to grow away from each other and
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it'll put a rift, a problem in your marriage.
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So make sure you are equally yoked.
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Make sure you get someone who I think before looks before
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personality, before banter and having jokes and all of this
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kind of the biggest thing you need to make sure you're looking
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for in a spouse is are they similar to me spiritually?
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You know, again, this can cause problems if you're a Pentecostal
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and, and your husband's A5 point Reformed Calvinist who would
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have, you know, die 1000 deaths if he saw someone even raising
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their hands in church. You've got to be careful if
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you're marrying this person because it's, it's going to put
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a rift. And likewise for him.
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You know, if you're, you're constantly feeling like your
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wife's swinging from the curtains when you're worshiping,
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you know, you're going to have issues, aren't you?
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I know I'm being a bit light here, but just be careful with
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these things. Now, it's not just for marriage.
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This verse, I don't believe it's just for marriage.
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And well, there's a similar verse that certainly isn't just
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for marriage and that it can be applied in another way.
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If you you've got a Bible there, turn to Amos 3 and verse 3.
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Do two walk together unless they've agreed to do so.
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In other words, how can two people walk together unless
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there's an agreement? And I think with even your
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friendships, you need to make sure you've got people who are
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similar, who are standing up for the same things you believe in.
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And particularly in business now it is so it is impossible in
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this day and age to go into business and always have a born
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again Christian who is similar to you.
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I know that I'm not going to be foolish in thinking that in this
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world where you know, evil is wax worse and it's really hard
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to find Christians even in some churches at times, you know, but
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what am I trying to say here? Just be wise.
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If you're going to go into a business partnership, you're
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going to put your life savings into a work and say it comes to,
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for instance, a time when tax relief, you know, most
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businesses, they want to give to charity and you want to give to
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a missionary work or you want to give to the church or something
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that's good and godly. But your business partner who
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doesn't love the Lord wants to give into something and dare I
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say woke or something that's leaning into a non, an essential
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or a non, you know, important charity or even dare I say an
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evil charity that pushes something.
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You're going to have fractions there again, with, with
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different ways of dealing with people in your company.
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Some people in business, they have no problem with lying,
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lying to the customer, deceiving them just so they get that sale.
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But you as a Christian, you would have great difficulty with
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that. You know that the business is
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only blessed if the Lord's hand is upon it and the Holy Spirit
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cannot bless a business or a work if if there's deceit and
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there's lies and there's wrong things going on.
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So again, just make sure if it is for instance, in a business
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that you you pick the right people and again some of you in
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the comments section. I'm sure you can attest to this
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if times you've been at work and you've you've been working with
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people who had completely different world views and it
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really made a mess for you. Lastly, the fifth kind of person
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you should avoid is the person who tempts you or the person who
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makes you forget about principles you once held very
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dear. I'm not sure how true this is.
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You can Google it yourself because I find this statistic
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absolutely wild. So hard to believe, but it's
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apparently if you've got a friend who got divorced, you are
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75% more likely to get divorced yourself.
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If your close friend separated from his wife or vice versa,
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you've got a 75% chance of doing the same.
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Am I the only one who finds that crazy?
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And yet, as we said, show me your friends and I will show you
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the future. And it is true, if you've got a
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parent who had a terrible, terrible anger problem or they
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had a habit, it's most likely you yourself will get that
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habit. If you've got friends who you
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know act a certain way, eventually you'll start to act
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that way. Something I'm very embarrassed
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to admit to again, I remember when I first became a Christian,
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in my first few years of being a Christian, I'd see other
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Christians I'd hang around with who are a little bit older to
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me, who I actually looked up to as preachers and, and the like.
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And I'd be shocked at the jokes they would tell.
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Jokes that were really close to the knuckle, that were, yeah,
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just really quite bad, really. And, you know, even if non
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Christians heard them, you'd think, I'm not sure about that.
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And yeah, because I spent so much time with these people and
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some of them are still in my life now, I find myself saying
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those jokes. And I think sometimes, wow, the
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old Joe would never share jokes like that.
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And again, you might always just having a sense of humour.
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And you know, God wants us to have a sense of humour, but we
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have got to be careful. Are we getting closer to the
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Lord or further from the Lord? You see the same sun that can
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harden clay also melts butter and some things they can harden
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you or they can draw you closer to the Lord God.
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So we need to be wise about these things.
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Just I've got a Bible verse here and I think it's also very
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powerful. Galatians 2 verse 13.
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The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy, so that by their
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hypocrisy even Barnabas was LED astray.
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Now the context of this passage, without going into too much
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detail, is the apostle Paul came in and he saw some behavior that
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wasn't it was unbecoming to Christians.
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It was embarrassing. They were at one hand wanting to
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sit and eat with the the non Jewish people.
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But as soon as some bigwigs, if you like, came in, they pulled
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back and said, no, we don't want to be seen dead with you guys.
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We're we're avoiding you. And so Paul called out this
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hypocrisy and it says and Barnabas was led astray.
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Barnabas, a church leader, the son of encouragement, this
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wonderful Christian was LED, LED astray.
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Now, isn't that a really striking lesson?
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Because what does it tell us? It tells us that peer pressure
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is very powerful. If if there's lots of people
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around you and they're saying do this, do that, eventually you
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will succumb unless you're as hard as nails.
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It's very easy for our principles to be eroded away.
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And again, when I talk about being around people who might
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tempt you, someone who lost their principles was David.
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Now David saw Bathsheba, he saw her a distance and he was
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attracted to her, and instead of running away, what did he do?
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He brought her closer, and some would say she was unwise for
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where she'd chosen to take a bath.
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Listen, we're not going to get into all of that.
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But the point is this. David should have avoided this
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situation. But instead we notice that by
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pulling her closer, by going into this sin, what happened?
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More and more of his principles went.
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And then you're right. You remember Uriah Bathsheba's
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husband, David commanded him. He said to him, this chief Army
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officer, listen, Uriah, I want you to go in with your wife
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tonight and just have some fun. But he said here he is.
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He's he's had a lot to drink and he says, no, I can't do that.
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How can I do that when when my men are are are my soldiers are
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are there could be danger at present.
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I need to be with them. I need to have their back.
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In other words, this man who's had a lot of a lot to drink has
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got more principles than the king of Israel, who's supposed
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to be a man after God's own heart, who's done all of these
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sins as a way of getting his, his, this other man's wife.
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So again, be careful. It might be some people we need
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to avoid. It might be ourselves at times.
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We need to avoid that We don't lose our principles and we don't
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allow things to tempt us and put us into difficult situations.
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Do you mind if I say it one more time?
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I do want to emphasize this because I don't want anyone to
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misunderstand me. Our society has become very
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individualistic. It's all about me, my purpose,
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my beliefs, and anyone who somehow comes in towards that or
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could be in some way a threat to me having my way and my success.
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We cut them off. We're not to be like that as
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Christians. We're to love people.
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We're to share our lives with people like the Lord shared his
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lives with broken people. Please make sure you do make
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time for these people. What I am saying is there are
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some people at times, yes, you must avoid.
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If you've warned them several times and they're continuing in
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this wrong behaviour, warn them and and pull back.
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But other people, you just need to have boundaries.
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You need to keep them at arm's length and say I can't just let
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you walk all over my life. You know, as Christians, we're
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not called to be doormats. You know, we are to be gentle,
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loving, humble, but we're not to be walked all over.
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We're meant to be wise. And I will just say this as
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well, and I don't talk about this anywhere near enough, but
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every single one of you who is a channel member on this channel,
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every single one of you who has donated through my website, and
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every single one of you prays who subscribes, I just want to
29:30
say thank you so, so much. As you know, I run these videos
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ad free. There's no adverts that don't
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monetize them. So by you giving generously, you
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enable me to do all of these things to pay, you know, these
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expensive editors on my main channel off the Curb Ministries.
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You enable me to be able to have free time to go out and do St.
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evangelism because no one pays you to stand there and be a
29:53
street preacher. As you can imagine, more people
29:56
would pay to get rid of you and, and just little things.
29:59
I can afford to buy my kids ice cream because kind people like
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you give. So thank you very much for that.
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I hope you've had a good cup of Joe.
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I certainly have enjoyed it. It's done my heart the world of
30:10
good. I was a bit down, a bit sad
30:11
before I came to this video, but having a cup of Joe with you
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guys has just blessed me so much.
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God bless you all.