Latest / The Booth Juice Creative Podcast / Ep15 - Stories with Darren Wall: Sarcoma, Fertility, Family, Sporting Memories & Living for Today
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- 0:00SPEAKER_02: All the juice straight from the makeup booth.
- 0:02SPEAKER_02: Welcome to the Booth Juice.
- 0:05SPEAKER_02: Welcome back to another episode of The Booth Juice.
- 0:09SPEAKER_02: Most of you will probably recognise my next guest already.
- 0:12SPEAKER_02: He is one of the most hilarious, generous, resilient men I have ever met in my life, and I'm so stoked to have him on today.
- 0:21SPEAKER_02: So please welcome Port Douglas Icon Darren Wall.
- 0:27SPEAKER_02: Thank you so much for joining me today.
- 0:29SPEAKER_02: Thanks, Ray.
- 0:30SPEAKER_00: Thanks for asking me.
- 0:31SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'm worthy of an interview like this, but no, absolutely not.
- 0:36SPEAKER_00: Try and have a little bit of fun and maybe a little bit of sadness mixed in with it.
- 0:40SPEAKER_02: Yeah, exactly.
- 0:41SPEAKER_00: There's uh there's a bit going on in in my life at the moment.
- 0:44SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 0:45SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
- 0:46SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's yeah.
- 0:47SPEAKER_00: Just something that I think probably maybe 30% of the people watching would have maybe more.
- 0:57SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 0:58SPEAKER_00: Maybe 50, 60% would be able to relate definitely.
- 1:02SPEAKER_00: To what yeah, I'm going through at the moment.
- 1:04SPEAKER_02: Yeah, absolutely.
- 1:05SPEAKER_02: Um I was just saying to Daz before this, like when I started this podcast, not only did I want to interview local creatives and business owners, but I wanted to talk to people who I feel have really shaped our community.
- 1:19SPEAKER_02: And Daz was one of the people that has sprung to mind straight away.
- 1:24SPEAKER_02: So I'm really looking forward to hearing your story, Daz.
- 1:27SPEAKER_02: Um, there's quite a few topics, as you said, to discuss.
- 1:31SPEAKER_02: So I thought maybe just easiest to start from the start and tell us maybe what your childhood was like, and then what made you move to Port Douglas?
- 1:40SPEAKER_00: Yeah, well, that was the beautiful story of how we ended up living up here from Melbourne originally this year.
- 1:50SPEAKER_00: So um I don't think we're locals yet, but someone said to me once yet, your grandmother's got to be buried in the Mossman Cemetery to be a local.
- 2:01SPEAKER_02: Right.
- 2:01SPEAKER_02: So I'm classers local.
- 2:03SPEAKER_02: I play mum local.
- 2:05SPEAKER_00: I reckon 20 years is long enough.
- 2:08SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I'm not going anywhere else anyway, so absolutely and then I was working in Melbourne as I was about 30 36.
- 2:20SPEAKER_00: Been up here on a couple of holidays and loved it with the wife the first time, Louise, and then with the eldest son, Braden, who was only 18 months old at the time.
- 2:31SPEAKER_00: So we'd had two holidays here.
- 2:34SPEAKER_00: I rang a friend who was travelling Australia with a van and the kids.
- 2:39SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they were young kids.
- 2:41SPEAKER_00: Um Dean Pellegrino, his name is.
- 2:45SPEAKER_00: Cool.
- 2:45SPEAKER_02: Big shout out to Dean.
- 2:46SPEAKER_00: Dean.
- 2:48SPEAKER_00: So um I rang him one day from Melbourne, it was minus two when I got to work, and it was blowing a gale.
- 2:55SPEAKER_00: And I rang him that afternoon and said, What's happening?
- 2:57SPEAKER_00: He goes, mate, I'm in Port Douglas.
- 2:59SPEAKER_00: He said it's 26 in the middle of winter, and he said, There's that much work up here, you're mad if you don't come and have a look.
- 3:07SPEAKER_00: So that weekend I got on a plane.
- 3:10SPEAKER_01: Oh wow.
- 3:11SPEAKER_00: I went home that night though to the wife and said, How would you feel about moving to Port Douglas?
- 3:17SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 3:18SPEAKER_00: And she went, Wow, if you could get me to live anywhere, it'd probably be there.
- 3:23SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 3:24SPEAKER_00: So uh I jumped on a plane that weekend, flew up for the a Friday morning flight, Friday, Saturday, Sunday night, flew home Monday, lined up about four jobs, and then I got home, said to the missus, it's all good.
- 3:42SPEAKER_00: So we're uh amazing.
- 3:45SPEAKER_00: Massive, massive commitment from her to say yes.
- 3:49SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because she tight with the family being Italian.
- 3:53SPEAKER_02: Oh, absolutely.
- 3:54SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
- 3:54SPEAKER_00: So I'll get a little bit of this.
- 3:58SPEAKER_02: I brought her an eggplant, actually.
- 4:00SPEAKER_02: I don't let me forget from my garden.
- 4:02SPEAKER_00: Awesome, she'll love that.
- 4:03SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 4:04SPEAKER_00: Um, and uh from the phone call and lining up some work, she said, alright, if you can get me to live anywhere, it'll be there.
- 4:14SPEAKER_01: Wow.
- 4:15SPEAKER_00: So we had a Braden was six at the time.
- 4:18SPEAKER_00: Yeah, Sam and Dalton were 18 months old.
- 4:21SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
- 4:22SPEAKER_00: So I came up here in October 05.
- 4:28SPEAKER_00: She moved up in uh January of 06.
- 4:32SPEAKER_00: So I was here for a few months before she got here.
- 4:35SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 4:36SPEAKER_00: And um when she got here, she wasn't really happy after three months.
- 4:42SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 4:42SPEAKER_00: That year it was a massive wet season.
- 4:46SPEAKER_02: So she had that's tough going, yeah, moving into wet season.
- 4:50SPEAKER_00: Braden had gone to school, but she had the twins that were 18, 20 months old.
- 4:54SPEAKER_00: Yeah, to try to keep them happy.
- 4:57SPEAKER_02: Yeah, go a bit sterile crazy.
- 4:59SPEAKER_00: After about three months, she said, I've just about had enough of this.
- 5:02SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 5:02SPEAKER_00: And I said, You just got to give it a few more months, get into winter, and it'll all come good.
- 5:07SPEAKER_00: And it did, and now she said, There's no way I'm living anywhere else but here.
- 5:12SPEAKER_02: Oh wow.
- 5:13SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but to commit to what she did with the kids being the age that they were and leaving her mum and two sisters and her family down there, it was uh a massive commitment, yeah, and one that we we both love.
- 5:29SPEAKER_02: Yeah changed the path of your life.
- 5:31SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
- 5:32SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so yeah, amazing.
- 5:34SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so that was after it.
- 5:37SPEAKER_00: So that was at 36.
- 5:38SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 5:39SPEAKER_00: At 26 I got diagnosed with Hodgkin's disease, which is lymphoma.
- 5:47SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 5:48SPEAKER_00: And uh kept kept coming back.
- 5:51SPEAKER_00: I had it three times in three years.
- 5:53SPEAKER_00: Wow.
- 5:54SPEAKER_00: And how did you how did you first realise that that's what I had a big lump on the side of my neck overnight.
- 6:01SPEAKER_02: That's pretty obvious.
- 6:02SPEAKER_00: Bigger than a golf ball and and rock hard.
- 6:06SPEAKER_00: So went to the doctors and it took about a month of tests and needles getting stuck in it and everything, and then they finally said, We're gonna do a little exploratory surgery to see what's going on inside you.
- 6:20SPEAKER_00: And they cut me across there and they found that there was this Hodgkin's disease, which is awful.
- 6:27SPEAKER_00: When the doctor said, Oh, it's a good cancer to get though, he said, if you want to get one, it's it's one that's okay.
- 6:33SPEAKER_01: Okay.
- 6:34SPEAKER_00: So I went, okay.
- 6:35SPEAKER_00: Well that sounds cool.
- 6:37SPEAKER_00: So yeah, had had the chemo and then I had a stem cell transplant, which is like a bone marrow transplant.
- 6:45SPEAKER_00: They didn't work, and it came back again, and then I had a uh a month of radiotherapy, which got rid of it, but it's also caused what I'm going through now, 30 years later.
- 6:58SPEAKER_00: Wow.
- 6:58SPEAKER_00: So you can get a cancer from having the radiotherapy.
- 7:04SPEAKER_00: Right.
- 7:04SPEAKER_00: So that's what's happened now.
- 7:06SPEAKER_00: So in the middle of I had a scan yesterday actually to see what's progressed in the last three or four months.
- 7:14SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 7:15SPEAKER_00: So I get the results next Monday and see what it's doing.
- 7:20SPEAKER_00: So I feel positive and I feel good.
- 7:22SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I've I've seen a lot of your videos recently and saying you've you're feeling good, so that's reassuring.
- 7:28SPEAKER_00: Just went to Darwin a couple of weeks ago and had a ball up there and yeah, that looked beautiful.
- 7:32SPEAKER_02: What'd you guys get up to up there?
- 7:34SPEAKER_00: A little bit of um travelling around out to Lichfield National Park and a few swimming holes and that out there, but they just had that cyclone the rail go through there.
- 7:46SPEAKER_00: Of course, and not so much Darwin, but out of Darwin, got a real lot of water, and it's it's very flat up around Darwin, so it um creates a bit of drama with the the waterfalls and the swimming holes.
- 8:02SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they say that the the crocs can travel when there's a lot of water around.
- 8:08SPEAKER_00: So they they shut off the water holes.
- 8:10SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 8:11SPEAKER_00: So there were three we could get into, but two that we couldn't.
- 8:14SPEAKER_00: And yeah, that was that was a couple of days up there.
- 8:17SPEAKER_02: Waterfall getting it back.
- 8:18SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'll take, I'll just have a look.
- 8:21SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 8:22SPEAKER_02: Oh good.
- 8:23SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but and then the missus had me out doing five or six K's every morning, walking.
- 8:28SPEAKER_00: Unreal.
- 8:29SPEAKER_00: So yeah, feeling feeling good.
- 8:31SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 8:31SPEAKER_02: Oh, it's so good to hear.
- 8:33SPEAKER_02: Yay! So going back to so you've got your first diagnosis at 26, which for perspective, that's what Braden is now.
- 8:43SPEAKER_02: Yeah, exactly.
- 8:44SPEAKER_02: Which is a bit crazy.
- 8:45SPEAKER_02: Braden has been a long life friend of mine and my husband's.
- 8:49SPEAKER_02: Um we almost felt like we lived together at some point in the road.
- 8:55SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna give it a paid drink, even if you're having us every COVID.
- 9:01SPEAKER_02: Um so yeah, so putting that in perspective is like this is you know, ask now what you know, at the time that you would be getting your diagnosis.
- 9:09SPEAKER_02: So then you've then gone through a few years of different treatments and stuff.
- 9:14SPEAKER_02: So then it's ten years between being diagnosed and then deciding to move to Port Douglas.
- 9:18SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, cool.
- 9:19SPEAKER_02: Yeah, we did.
- 9:20SPEAKER_00: So then once you moved, like did you have any sort of point in that time where you were like, yep, I'm good, I'm healthy, or was it also always like I'd done a few jobs in Melbourne and struggled to get paid.
- 9:33SPEAKER_00: The bills just wouldn't cough up the money.
- 9:36SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 9:36SPEAKER_00: So in the end I said, Louise, I've had enough of chasing money and that here.
- 9:40SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 9:41SPEAKER_00: And speaking to people since we moved up here, they said, Yeah, well, in a little town like this, if you get a bad reputation, no one's gonna work for you.
- 9:50SPEAKER_00: So I came up here and off we went.
- 9:53SPEAKER_02: Amazing.
- 9:54SPEAKER_00: And never looked back.
- 9:56SPEAKER_02: Yeah, cool.
- 9:57SPEAKER_02: So then for people that don't know you, what what's your trade?
- 10:00SPEAKER_00: I'm a plasterer.
- 10:02SPEAKER_00: Yeah, more commercial than domestic.
- 10:06SPEAKER_00: So I used to travel a lot down to Cairns to work, worked at the airport for a couple of years when they redeveloped that.
- 10:12SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 10:12SPEAKER_00: Um the hospital in Cairns for 18 months.
- 10:16SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 10:16SPEAKER_00: But um, yeah, it's it's still too commercial.
- 10:20SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but um mixed in with a little bit of housing and patching and even a bit of painting.
- 10:25SPEAKER_02: Yeah, cool.
- 10:26SPEAKER_00: So but at the moment I'm just cruising along.
- 10:29SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 10:29SPEAKER_00: The wife said, I don't want you to push in yourself.
- 10:32SPEAKER_02: No, absolutely.
- 10:33SPEAKER_02: That makes sense.
- 10:33SPEAKER_00: But she pushed me to do the Ks.
- 10:36SPEAKER_02: In the in the fun ways, yeah, pushed.
- 10:38SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, that's good.
- 10:39SPEAKER_00: Yeah, no, it's been good.
- 10:41SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
- 10:42SPEAKER_02: And so, like you and Lou have been such a massive part of the AFL Crooks Club.
- 10:48SPEAKER_02: Did you kind of join when you first moved up?
- 10:51SPEAKER_02: And has that been a 20-year sort of cover?
- 10:53SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that was there, that was the first thing I did.
- 10:55SPEAKER_02: Yeah, were you AFL before moving up here?
- 10:58SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 10:59SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'd always played AFL.
- 11:00SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 11:01SPEAKER_00: I was just about to start playing rugby in Melbourne when we decided to move.
- 11:05SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's interesting.
- 11:06SPEAKER_00: So it never happened, but um, yeah, I had a couple of friends, Luke in Melbourne, that he used to play for the local rugby club, and it just didn't happen because we we moved away.
- 11:17SPEAKER_00: But yeah, as soon as we got up here, I said to Louise, the only way we're gonna meet some people is if I start playing footy again at 36.
- 11:26SPEAKER_02: Which is unreal.
- 11:27SPEAKER_00: She said, You're an idiot.
- 11:28SPEAKER_00: I said, Yeah, I know.
- 11:30SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but still, how long did you play for?
- 11:32SPEAKER_00: Played for six years.
- 11:35SPEAKER_00: Unreal only in the reserves, yeah.
- 11:38SPEAKER_02: That's so good.
- 11:40SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but through through the footy club, you meet that many beautiful people.
- 11:44SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's such a community.
- 11:46SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
- 11:47SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so through the footy club when we went to Darwin, I rang a friend Josh Wilson, and I said, Josh, do you know anyone with a B and B up there in Darwin?
- 11:56SPEAKER_00: He goes, Yeah, me.
- 11:58SPEAKER_00: Ah.
- 11:58SPEAKER_00: He goes, Stay at my place.
- 12:00SPEAKER_02: So that's perfect.
- 12:03SPEAKER_00: Had a week up there and stayed with at his place.
- 12:05SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 12:06SPEAKER_00: And um just that spoke to a friend yesterday in Perth that said, if you're coming over, yeah, because I want to do a bit of traveling in the next six months.
- 12:16SPEAKER_00: So um he said, Yeah, I've got a spare room.
- 12:20SPEAKER_00: So that's so good.
- 12:21SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 12:22SPEAKER_02: And I know um, like you often find your wife Lou in the canteen, and you know, nowadays I think have I seen you be a water boy.
- 12:31SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, so I went from playing to umpiring for about four years, just the reserves, but that was good.
- 12:39SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 12:40SPEAKER_02: Um and then obviously your boys have played too.
- 12:42SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so I've even umpired them.
- 12:44SPEAKER_02: Ah, that's so good.
- 12:45SPEAKER_00: Played with uh Braden and Sam.
- 12:48SPEAKER_00: Yep.
- 12:48SPEAKER_00: Dalton's gone the other way, he's gone the make money way.
- 12:52SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so he's awesome.
- 12:53SPEAKER_00: He's been to uni.
- 12:54SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 12:55SPEAKER_00: Finished that now and he's back home with us.
- 12:57SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's so good.
- 12:58SPEAKER_00: Sam just finished his Sparky Electrical.
- 13:01SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so he's working for Matt at Last Frontier Electrical.
- 13:05SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
- 13:06SPEAKER_00: He's a he's going well, yeah, they're always busy.
- 13:09SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 13:09SPEAKER_00: Um, and Braden's in Sydney with his girlfriend Layla.
- 13:13SPEAKER_02: Yeah, seems like a cool chicken.
- 13:16SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's good, but he's gonna be moving home soon.
- 13:20SPEAKER_02: That'll be great.
- 13:21SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I spoke to him last night.
- 13:22SPEAKER_00: He said they're looking at coming back mid to late May.
- 13:25SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 13:25SPEAKER_00: And he'll pop back for the Dustin Martin game and second one.
- 13:30SPEAKER_02: Also, I'd love to talk about this.
- 13:32SPEAKER_02: This is your I'm not an AFL girl, but I do think I'll be attending this event.
- 13:37SPEAKER_02: Um, can you tell us more about what is going on there?
- 13:41SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so through one of the sponsors at the club, yeah, there's a contact to uh someone that's a good friend of his in Melbourne.
- 13:47SPEAKER_00: Awesome, and um it took a bit of work, but it after I think Matt Lasky, the president, said it took about six weeks to get it ticked off.
- 13:58SPEAKER_02: Amazing.
- 13:59SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he's uh he's keen to come and I think we're pretty keen to have him.
- 14:04SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so what that'll be the first of May, I think.
- 14:06SPEAKER_00: Yeah, second.
- 14:07SPEAKER_02: Second of May, sorry, first week of May.
- 14:10SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so awesome.
- 14:11SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that'll be so do you know how many people you were expecting?
- 14:15SPEAKER_00: I think they could even get maybe four to five thousand.
- 14:18SPEAKER_00: Wow, yeah.
- 14:19SPEAKER_00: I think the population at Port Douglas is four thousand, so yeah, so I think there'd be a lot fly up from Melbourne and Everland too to come and see Dustin play again.
- 14:29SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that'd be amazing.
- 14:31SPEAKER_02: Are you have you got something that you're gonna get signed?
- 14:33SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I've got about five or six kids there for him.
- 14:36SPEAKER_02: A whole line.
- 14:37SPEAKER_00: Yeah, just I'll line them up and just say, pretty please.
- 14:41SPEAKER_02: I'm sure he will for you.
- 14:43SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so that's so good.
- 14:45SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but I have got I have got friends in Melbourne that have been out with him and they said he's a rip and bloke.
- 14:51SPEAKER_00: So I think everyone's in for a good time if they because there's a sportsman's nine attached to the game after the game, so yeah, yeah.
- 14:58SPEAKER_00: For a hundred bucks you can come and listen to him talk for a couple hours.
- 15:01SPEAKER_00: So he doesn't say a lot either, so there we go.
- 15:06SPEAKER_02: That'll be uh that'll be an interesting yeah, and where can you get tickets for that?
- 15:10SPEAKER_00: Uh online.
- 15:11SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 15:12SPEAKER_02: Through the Crocs AFL Club.
- 15:14SPEAKER_00: Cool.
- 15:14SPEAKER_00: Through the website, yeah.
- 15:16SPEAKER_02: Amazing.
- 15:17SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's cool.
- 15:18SPEAKER_02: And is there a number of tickets for that?
- 15:19SPEAKER_02: Like, will that sell out?
- 15:20SPEAKER_00: That'll sell out.
- 15:21SPEAKER_00: I think there's only about 160 or something like that.
- 15:24SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
- 15:25SPEAKER_02: So get on it if you're listening to this right now.
- 15:27SPEAKER_02: Get on and buy a ticket because you might miss out.
- 15:29SPEAKER_00: Get up close and personal with Dusty.
- 15:31SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it'd be unreal.
- 15:33SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so good.
- 15:34SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so that's another yeah, so it started with the juniors, yeah, and then the wheeze in the canine, me being the water boy for the seniors.
- 15:45SPEAKER_00: After after I finished umpiring, I I did about 10 years of water boy.
- 15:49SPEAKER_02: Awesome.
- 15:50SPEAKER_00: I might have to dust off the vest for dusting.
- 15:54SPEAKER_02: I think you might have to, yeah, definitely.
- 15:57SPEAKER_00: Yeah, coop coops won't be real happy about that because I'd as long as well as as well as calling myself a water boy, I also call myself an umpire's advisor.
- 16:09SPEAKER_00: So while I'm out there I'm giving them advice on what they're doing wrong.
- 16:13SPEAKER_02: Yeah, well, you know, sometimes I need to hear it.
- 16:15SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they don't like it.
- 16:18SPEAKER_00: I I always get it, I always get a couple of warnings because they that they sort of like me.
- 16:24SPEAKER_02: Sort of.
- 16:24SPEAKER_02: Ah, you know, you got right.
- 16:27SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's so good.
- 16:29SPEAKER_02: So, what else have you been up to this year?
- 16:31SPEAKER_02: Because I know obviously you just went to Darwin.
- 16:33SPEAKER_02: Yeah, Darwin.
- 16:33SPEAKER_02: And then did you have a few other trips?
- 16:35SPEAKER_00: I've got a trip to Bali for a wedding in um about five five or six weeks.
- 16:43SPEAKER_02: Awesome.
- 16:44SPEAKER_00: So looking forward to that.
- 16:45SPEAKER_00: That's a week week in Bali.
- 16:47SPEAKER_00: Then I was trying to get to the Monaco Grand Prix.
- 16:51SPEAKER_01: Yep.
- 16:52SPEAKER_00: That's only a week after the wedding, so it's gonna be tight, and Louise wasn't keen to commit until we got the results of this last scan I had.
- 17:02SPEAKER_00: So fair enough, yeah.
- 17:03SPEAKER_00: So hopefully the scan's on the positive side and we can uh book some flights and Monaco.
- 17:10SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
- 17:11SPEAKER_00: Yeah, apparently you don't stay there because it's too dear, right?
- 17:15SPEAKER_00: But you just stay in uh Cannes, which is just in France, and it's only about a 50-minute bus ride to the have you been over to France before?
- 17:25SPEAKER_00: No, it'll be first time.
- 17:26SPEAKER_02: Oh, it's so good.
- 17:28SPEAKER_02: And did I see you and Lou were driving some cool cars around at some point?
- 17:34SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, that was about a month ago, or five weeks ago down in Tassie.
- 17:39SPEAKER_00: Yeah, um some friends organized a fundraiser that gave us some money to do some things on the bucket list basically.
- 17:48SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so we went to to Tassie for five nights and um managed to book in with a company called Prancing Horse, yeah, which do uh a supercar drive day.
- 18:05SPEAKER_02: That sounds like so much fun.
- 18:07SPEAKER_00: So it's on the road, it's not on a racetrack.
- 18:10SPEAKER_02: Oh yeah, I just assumed it was like on a track.
- 18:14SPEAKER_00: Yeah, no, cool.
- 18:15SPEAKER_00: So in that day there there were six other couples, it can be you and your mate, but there was myself and Louise.
- 18:25SPEAKER_00: We drove a Ferrari which was only 12 months old, Lamborghini that was 12 months old, uh McLaren that was two years old, Aston Martin.
- 18:36SPEAKER_00: Wow, Porsche, Audi, and these they were all fast.
- 18:44SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 18:45SPEAKER_00: I don't know which was the fastest, but probably the McLaren.
- 18:49SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and they they make Formula One race cars, so you think they'd be able to make a pretty fast streetcar too?
- 18:57SPEAKER_02: Absolutely.
- 18:57SPEAKER_00: Yeah, what a thrill.
- 18:59SPEAKER_00: Suicide doors that open up.
- 19:01SPEAKER_02: Dude, you feel like Batman?
- 19:05SPEAKER_02: Every time I see those, I'm like, oh, they're just Batman vibes.
- 19:08SPEAKER_00: Yeah, no, that was that was an awesome day, one that I'll never forget.
- 19:12SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 19:12SPEAKER_00: And one that I'd love to do again.
- 19:14SPEAKER_00: So you can do it in different parts of Australia.
- 19:17SPEAKER_00: Oh, unreal.
- 19:18SPEAKER_00: We just picked Tassie and we got perfect weather and even had sun in Tasmania.
- 19:25SPEAKER_02: Wow, that's pretty lucky.
- 19:26SPEAKER_02: Do you have any other standout highlight stories like that?
- 19:30SPEAKER_00: I actually worked at the MCG in 1993 when they rebuilt the stand.
- 19:36SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 19:37SPEAKER_00: And uh through that I got to meet the West Indies cricket team.
- 19:41SPEAKER_02: Oh wow, that's amazing.
- 19:43SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and at the time they were like the best team getting around.
- 19:49SPEAKER_00: And uh they said come and bowl to us in the nets.
- 19:54SPEAKER_00: So I rocked up down on the fence.
- 19:58SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 19:58SPEAKER_00: Brian Lara came and grabbed me with his gear on and a bag of balls, and he said, come on, let's go out, you and me in the nets at the MCG.
- 20:08SPEAKER_00: Wow.
- 20:09SPEAKER_00: And uh after about 40 minutes, I got one that kept low.
- 20:13SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 20:13SPEAKER_00: He's gone back and across, he's put his finger up and he's gone, that's out.
- 20:18SPEAKER_00: And I had my dad and three blokes that I was working with standing at the back of the net watching.
- 20:23SPEAKER_00: So to prove it, I've I've rang my dad a couple of times to say this bloke doesn't believe I got Brian Laura out.
- 20:31SPEAKER_00: So we uh he got on the phone and said, Yes, it's it's true, he did it.
- 20:36SPEAKER_00: Bravo! What a moment!
- 20:38SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's amazing.
- 20:39SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 20:40SPEAKER_00: I won a cricket grand final here with uh the muddies.
- 20:44SPEAKER_00: Awesome! That was in 2016-17, yeah, and we probably shouldn't have won.
- 20:52SPEAKER_00: We uh we talked our way into that grand final, myself and Daniel Harris, and uh we ended up winning a four-day cricket grand final by um 17 runs.
- 21:08SPEAKER_02: Wow.
- 21:10SPEAKER_00: Goat in and got pretty tight there in the end, so yeah, yeah, that that was one of the best sporting stories I've got along with Brian Lara.
- 21:19SPEAKER_02: Yeah, amazing.
- 21:20SPEAKER_00: A couple of junior grand finals back in Melbourne with the footy, but yeah, no senior.
- 21:27SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
- 21:29SPEAKER_02: Now you have a bit of an interesting fertility story as well.
- 21:35SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's true.
- 21:36SPEAKER_02: If you if you want to touch on that, and I feel like I've grown up with Braden telling hilarious stories about um his dad and his mum and all of that journey.
- 21:47SPEAKER_00: So better I touch on it than you.
- 21:50SPEAKER_02: I think I'll leave that story to you.
- 21:51SPEAKER_02: But if you want to.
- 21:52SPEAKER_00: Eddie McGuire said the same thing to me when I met him.
- 21:56SPEAKER_00: So I rang up Triple M in Melbourne years ago when I was working.
- 22:00SPEAKER_00: And they wanted to know about donor sperm stories.
- 22:04SPEAKER_00: And I rang up and I got straight through.
- 22:06SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking, oh, that was easy.
- 22:09SPEAKER_00: Um I said, so what have you got for us?
- 22:11SPEAKER_00: And they called me Wally because I said it was I was Wally from Port Douglas.
- 22:16SPEAKER_00: So they must have punched it into the computer and it's come up as Wally.
- 22:20SPEAKER_00: And they've gone, Alright, we've got Wally from Port Douglas on the line.
- 22:25SPEAKER_00: I said, Yeah, get out Eddie, it's Wally.
- 22:28SPEAKER_00: He goes, Yeah, okay, Wally.
- 22:30SPEAKER_00: So I told a story about how at 26 I had chemo.
- 22:34SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 22:35SPEAKER_00: And that was gonna make me sterile.
- 22:38SPEAKER_00: So I had to go to the sperm bank and um do my thing, which back then it was a little bit different to now.
- 22:46SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 22:47SPEAKER_00: There was a stack of Playboys and Penthouses about that big.
- 22:52SPEAKER_00: There was a little VHS player with six tapes that you could take the pick of.
- 22:57SPEAKER_00: Unreal.
- 22:57SPEAKER_00: And uh and a big tub of lube sitting on the table.
- 23:01SPEAKER_00: So yeah, we ended up um 48 straws of sperm.
- 23:05SPEAKER_00: Yeah, which they're not like McDonald's straws, they're a little bit smaller.
- 23:10SPEAKER_00: But um 48 straws, and uh we had the three kids, so we've got the Braden.
- 23:16SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so he was could have been a twin, but only one embryo stuck.
- 23:21SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and then um Sam and Dalton, it was the first transplant.
- 23:29SPEAKER_00: Yeah, bang bang, both embryos stuck.
- 23:33SPEAKER_00: And that was funny story.
- 23:35SPEAKER_00: In the um ultrasound room, yeah, the girls put the gel on Louise's tummy and she's running around.
- 23:44SPEAKER_00: She goes, Oh, there you go.
- 23:47SPEAKER_00: You see that white circle there?
- 23:49SPEAKER_00: She goes, That's that's one of the embryos, because this is about maybe seven or eight weeks after they're transplanting.
- 23:57SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 23:58SPEAKER_00: And she keeps running around and we'd forgotten that you know two's a chance.
- 24:04SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:04SPEAKER_00: And she goes, and see that white circle, we've got we're gonna have twins, aren't we?
- 24:11SPEAKER_00: She goes, Yes, you are.
- 24:12SPEAKER_00: Oh, wow.
- 24:13SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
- 24:14SPEAKER_02: How'd that feel knowing that you're gonna go from one to three kids?
- 24:17SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that was different.
- 24:18SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 24:19SPEAKER_00: But um Louise's mum made it a lot easier.
- 24:23SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:23SPEAKER_00: She moved in basically for six months.
- 24:26SPEAKER_00: Wow.
- 24:26SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so she'd stay at our place Monday to Friday and then go home on the weekend.
- 24:33SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:33SPEAKER_00: And um she slept with Louise through the week.
- 24:38SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:38SPEAKER_00: I had my little man cave downstairs.
- 24:40SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
- 24:41SPEAKER_00: And uh that was that was it for the first six months.
- 24:47SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:47SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I got sleep and Louise and her mum didn't.
- 24:51SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:52SPEAKER_00: But um it was good for her because at the time she'd only lost her husband about two years before.
- 25:00SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 25:01SPEAKER_02: So it's probably healing for a lot of you.
- 25:03SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so and she's a beautiful person, Maria.
- 25:07SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so yeah.
- 25:08SPEAKER_02: She's Italian, isn't she?
- 25:10SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, amazing.
- 25:12SPEAKER_00: Yeah, she's six foot tall and blonde, totally opposite to Louise.
- 25:16SPEAKER_00: Really?
- 25:16SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I've never met her.
- 25:18SPEAKER_00: Oh yeah, she used to come up here all the time and now she's got a bad back.
- 25:21SPEAKER_00: So yeah, she she used to love walking on the beach.
- 25:24SPEAKER_02: Yeah, beautiful.
- 25:26SPEAKER_02: Yeah, oh so a very close, close family, all of you.
- 25:30SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah.
- 25:30SPEAKER_00: Yeah, Louise's really close with her elder sister, yeah.
- 25:35SPEAKER_00: Carmel.
- 25:35SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they're they're very tight.
- 25:38SPEAKER_02: Do you get back to Melbourne a bit?
- 25:39SPEAKER_00: Uh I we probably get there twice a year.
- 25:42SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 25:43SPEAKER_00: Beautiful.
- 25:43SPEAKER_00: And then Louise's sister and nephews and nieces come up once or twice a year.
- 25:51SPEAKER_00: So her nephew's got a couple of good uh restaurants in Melbourne that what are they called?
- 25:58SPEAKER_02: We'll just send people there.
- 25:59SPEAKER_00: Vicks in Sunbury.
- 26:01SPEAKER_00: So Louise meets people here at the hospital, yeah, and they uh we're from Sunbury.
- 26:06SPEAKER_00: She goes, Oh, my nephew's got a restaurant in Sunbury, and they go, Which one?
- 26:10SPEAKER_00: She goes, Vicks.
- 26:11SPEAKER_00: They go, We were there last night.
- 26:14SPEAKER_00: Only just got to town, and yeah.
- 26:16SPEAKER_01: Oh, that's so good.
- 26:17SPEAKER_00: She's had that five or six times sitting at the hospital and filling out paperwork and must be a great place to go.
- 26:23SPEAKER_02: Well, if you're in Melbourne, go and go and see Vicks in Sunbury.
- 26:27SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
- 26:27SPEAKER_00: Good Italian food.
- 26:28SPEAKER_02: Unreal.
- 26:29SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
- 26:30SPEAKER_02: If it's anything like loose cooking, yeah, it'd be amazing.
- 26:35SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's so good.
- 26:36SPEAKER_02: So, like you mentioned before that you're going through it all again because of the repercussions of you know, years ago.
- 26:44SPEAKER_02: Can you explain to those who don't know you what's actually going on at the moment?
- 26:48SPEAKER_00: And the radiotherapy that I had 30 years ago was a lot harsher than what radiotherapy is now.
- 26:56SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 26:56SPEAKER_00: So I had radiotherapy from there to there, yeah.
- 27:00SPEAKER_00: The whole tools.
- 27:02SPEAKER_00: They call it the trunk head, trunk.
- 27:04SPEAKER_00: And that now has caused uh it's called sarcoma, which is I think Louise Louise knows the name exactly, but it's it's induced by having radiotherapy.
- 27:22SPEAKER_00: So it's a sort of cancer that grows off uh the radiotherapy.
- 27:28SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 27:28SPEAKER_00: And at the moment, um I had chemo up until about three or four months ago.
- 27:36SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 27:36SPEAKER_00: And I've just stopped it for a bit to become good because I was I wasn't really crooked, but I was crooked.
- 27:44SPEAKER_00: You're feeling that day together.
- 27:46SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 27:46SPEAKER_00: I needed a spell.
- 27:48SPEAKER_00: So I put it on hold for a few months and we've done a few trips and see what see what it's doing.
- 27:54SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so you wait for this next test to make a move to figure out what's going on.
- 28:00SPEAKER_00: So it's a and it's a type of cancer that they can't well, they say they can't get rid of it.
- 28:08SPEAKER_00: So it's just something that you gotta live with.
- 28:11SPEAKER_00: And they said November, December last year that they said about 12 months, but sort of five months later I'm feeling no different from what I did then.
- 28:24SPEAKER_02: You and the rest of the community are pretty optimistic as well.
- 28:27SPEAKER_02: So at least you've got a lot of good energy going on.
- 28:30SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's it.
- 28:30SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and I've I've always had that positive mindset, so yeah.
- 28:35SPEAKER_00: We'll just keep going as hard as we can for as long as we can.
- 28:40SPEAKER_02: Yeah, awesome.
- 28:42SPEAKER_02: And if there's anyone listening who might be going through something similar or someone in their lives, do you have any sort of advice or something that you live by?
- 28:53SPEAKER_00: Or yeah, basically it's just um live for today.
- 28:59SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 29:00SPEAKER_00: Because tomorrow is not a guarantee for anyone.
- 29:04SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
- 29:04SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
- 29:06SPEAKER_00: So always try and be positive.
- 29:08SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 29:09SPEAKER_00: Glass is always half full.
- 29:10SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 29:11SPEAKER_00: And uh enjoy yourself and don't take things too seriously.
- 29:16SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 29:17SPEAKER_02: I think one of the the best things about you and your family, you guys have such a great sense of humour, and it's just it's so nice to be around.
- 29:26SPEAKER_00: So yeah, Louise Louise is a very funny lady too.
- 29:31SPEAKER_00: She is, yeah.
- 29:32SPEAKER_00: She swears more than anyone in our family.
- 29:36SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 29:37SPEAKER_02: But um but she's also like the sweetest, most kind-hearted woman ever.
- 29:42SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that yeah, and she loves working at the hospital up here at Bossman.
- 29:46SPEAKER_00: She so she's basically the face when you walk in, she'll be there.
- 29:50SPEAKER_00: Yeah, sign you in, try to make you feel comfortable.
- 29:54SPEAKER_00: Yeah, if you need a cup of tea or a cup of coffee, yeah, she's not supposed to do it, but she does.
- 30:00SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's so lovely.
- 30:02SPEAKER_02: Oh, what yeah, that's beautiful advice.
- 30:04SPEAKER_02: I really like that.
- 30:05SPEAKER_00: Yeah, she's got a lot of friends through the hospital that had patients.
- 30:09SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they still keep in touch with her.
- 30:11SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 30:11SPEAKER_00: So she touches people the right way.
- 30:15SPEAKER_02: Yeah, she does.
- 30:16SPEAKER_02: She definitely does.
- 30:18SPEAKER_02: I feel like you've got an exciting few months ahead.
- 30:23SPEAKER_00: Yeah, there'll be a bit happening.
- 30:24SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 30:25SPEAKER_02: With Dustin coming to visit and a few different trips planned, and yeah, I reckon you'll be sticking around longer than they bloody say.
- 30:35SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
- 30:35SPEAKER_02: Proven wrong.
- 30:37SPEAKER_00: Yeah, well, everyone has probably got a story that someone got told that they were had 12 or 18 months to live or something, and five, six years later they're still going.
- 30:47SPEAKER_00: Plenty.
- 30:47SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I had a friend's grandfather at 80.
- 30:50SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he got told that he had lung cancer and he had about six to twelve months.
- 30:56SPEAKER_00: He said, I'm gonna smoke more to kill it and drink more to wash it away.
- 31:01SPEAKER_00: He lived to 90.
- 31:04SPEAKER_02: No way! Wow.
- 31:06SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so oh my gosh.
- 31:08SPEAKER_02: Don't take that advice, kids.
- 31:09SPEAKER_00: But yeah, good point.
- 31:11SPEAKER_00: But yeah, you never know.
- 31:13SPEAKER_02: That's amazing.
- 31:14SPEAKER_00: Yeah, no, that's always an exception to the rule.
- 31:17SPEAKER_02: Oh, absolutely, absolutely.
- 31:18SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's so good.
- 31:20SPEAKER_02: Well, I know that we've been quite busy lately, but my mum has would really love to bring this.
- 31:27SPEAKER_02: She had this idea of these funny wall-y cards, and she's really looking forward to bringing them to life.
- 31:32SPEAKER_02: So stay tuned because once she gets through this art fair, I know that that's her next project, and she is really looking forward to it.
- 31:39SPEAKER_00: Make a few uh notes.
- 31:41SPEAKER_00: Amazing, amazing.
- 31:43SPEAKER_00: Come and get a little up rated section here in the book.
- 31:47SPEAKER_02: Absolutely, we're gonna have to have warning signs disclaimer, main offend.
- 31:53SPEAKER_02: Will offend true, um, so yeah, stay tuned for that.
- 31:58SPEAKER_02: But thank you so much for joining me today, Des.
- 32:01SPEAKER_02: It's been so nice just to have a couple with you in the chat.
- 32:05SPEAKER_02: Um, I feel like you have so many amazing stories and just such a wonderful outlook on life.
- 32:13SPEAKER_02: So I just want to say thank you.
- 32:15SPEAKER_02: Thank you.
- 32:15SPEAKER_02: Because you've been a big part of my life.
- 32:17SPEAKER_02: Like Br um Braden and I have gone to primary school and high school and everything together.
- 32:22SPEAKER_02: So I feel like I've known the walls since I was about five.
- 32:25SPEAKER_02: So I'm very, very grateful for all that your family has done for us as well.
- 32:30SPEAKER_00: And thank you to your family too, because your mum and dad have helped me out when I needed help too.
- 32:36SPEAKER_00: I need a little bit of work and they threw work at me and kept me ticking along and the family going.
- 32:42SPEAKER_02: So it's like community's all about it.
- 32:45SPEAKER_00: That's it.
- 32:45SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours.
- 32:48SPEAKER_00: Exactly, exactly.
- 32:49SPEAKER_00: And Port Douglas is beautiful for that.
- 32:51SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 32:51SPEAKER_00: I don't think there'd be any other community that can do it as good as Port Douglas, does it?
- 32:57SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 32:57SPEAKER_02: That it the fundraiser in December was such a you know an example of that, wasn't it?
- 33:04SPEAKER_02: Like that was amazing to witness.
- 33:06SPEAKER_00: And I think they organised that in about three or four weeks.
- 33:09SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it was amazing.
- 33:10SPEAKER_00: I I don't know how they did it, but yeah.
- 33:13SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 33:13SPEAKER_02: We had just for context, um, just to wrap up, um there was a an awesome fundraiser down at the Crocs Football Club, um, organised by a lot of Darren's friends, and how much I think between auctions and raffles and that sort of stuff, I think there was a lot.
- 33:30SPEAKER_02: About a hundred thousand dollars in that one day raised for this beautiful.
- 33:36SPEAKER_02: Four hours.
- 33:37SPEAKER_02: Yeah, insane, insane.
- 33:38SPEAKER_02: Which then now allows you to spend quality time with your family over the next year or so.
- 33:44SPEAKER_00: Louise is still working, but yeah, at the moment she says, while you're still healthy and going alright, yeah.
- 33:50SPEAKER_00: She said, I'll keep going to work and you can just plod along and plan our holidays.
- 33:57SPEAKER_02: That allows you to breathe a bit, I think.
- 33:59SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, amazing.
- 34:00SPEAKER_00: She can take the foot off the pedal when she needs to.
- 34:03SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 34:04SPEAKER_00: So at the moment we're going flat out.
- 34:07SPEAKER_02: Awesome.
- 34:07SPEAKER_00: Good.
- 34:08SPEAKER_02: Hope you hope you keep going flat out.
- 34:10SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 34:11SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 34:12SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, I end up with no money left in the bank.
- 34:15SPEAKER_00: That means I've had a awesome 10 years or something.
- 34:20SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
- 34:22SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
- 34:23SPEAKER_02: All right.
- 34:23SPEAKER_02: Well, thank you so much again, Daz.
- 34:25SPEAKER_02: Thanks, right.
- 34:26SPEAKER_02: And thank you everyone for listening.
- 34:28SPEAKER_02: If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a mate.
- 34:30SPEAKER_02: Um, and live by Darren's words and go and live each day like it's your last.
- 34:36SPEAKER_00: So that's it.
- 34:37SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 34:37SPEAKER_02: All right, thanks guys, have a good day.
- 34:40SPEAKER_02: See ya.
- 34:40SPEAKER_00: Bye.