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Ep 4: How I learned how to be myself · Adventures in Adversity: an inspirational podcast

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  Well, in the spirit of being myself, I'm going to start over.
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  Maybe I'll even just keep this. OK, what am I talking about?
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  Guys, seriously, I got to get my shit together here.
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  I am talking about a very important thing today and it is
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  called Being Yourself. Now as I mentioned, the majority
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  of this podcast, once I get it off the ground here is going to
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  be me talking to people and interviewing them and providing
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  a space for people to tell their stories about how they have
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  overcome adversity in any area of their life until those guests
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  are booked and ready to go and recorded and ready to push play.
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  I'm going to tell you some stories about myself that all
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  involve overcoming adversity in one area of my life.
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  So this will be a quick one, but I feel like going into the
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  weekend I just kind of get a get a little reflective about who I
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  am, what I've done that week, how I've been, what I've done
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  well, what I've not done well. And I think I've done something
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  really well this week that I used to have a really hard time
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  with. So something that used to be
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  sort of a real source of adversity for me has now
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  literally become an adventure. See what I did there?
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  Adventures. An adversity baby.
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  That's what it's all about. So my friends that know me well,
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  probably, well, they probably know this, but if they recently
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  met me, they might not know that I didn't always used to be this
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  sort of carefree and how I presented myself.
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  I feel like for years I would, you know, with good intentions,
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  try to make sure that everyone in the room liked me.
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  I would kind of turn down my sense of humor if I thought the
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  people in the room would think it was too much, or I'd turn it
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  up if it was like a louder crowd, or I'd be a little
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  quieter if it was quieter. And what I realized was is A
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  that was kind of bullshit because it wasn't really me,
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  even though I thought it was, and B, it was exhausting, like
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  exhausting, like who can keep that up?
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  Just, I don't know if I was doing it subconsciously or I
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  would catch myself like just trying to be what people wanted
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  me to be. And if and when I wanted to like
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  crack a joke, if it was like too much, I'd hold back a little bit
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  depending on the crowd. Or, I mean, I know you're
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  supposed to do that, but I'm just being honest that I I
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  really cared so much about what people thought, which prevented
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  me from doing a lot of things like starting this podcast.
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  It's like, oh, what if I suck? What if, you know, I'm annoying
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  and people don't like my voice and only my friends like it?
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  Well, who gives a shit? Because no matter what you do,
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  you're going to be too loud or too quiet or too funny or too
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  not funny or too boring or too exciting or too happy or too
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  emotional or too unemotional for people.
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  So why don't you just be yourself?
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  That's what I've learned. I think going through hard times
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  and like being stripped of my confidence and identity and just
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  not knowing who I was anymore. Like a year ago, I just went
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  through a crisis and it really when I came out of it, I learned
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  a lot about who I am, who I don't want to be, who I know
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  that I am underneath who I wasn't being.
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  It was just, I don't know. I feel like adversity brings
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  that brings the the real you out.
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  And even just being yourself can feel like a source of adversity
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  if you don't have that confidence or you're worried
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  about people, what other people think.
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  And it used to paralyze me. And I know I'm not the only one.
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  And and there are times where, you know, I I still do worry
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  about what people think, but it doesn't stop me from doing what
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  I want to do anymore. And that is the victory man.
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  So if you're listening and you feel like you change yourself
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  when you walk into a room to be more of this or less of that
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  because you want people to like you, yeah, just stop.
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  Because it's really awesome to stop.
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  And just then the people who really like the quirks of you
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  and the imperfections you have and your vulnerabilities and
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  your mess ups and your all the shit that you just makes you,
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  you, the people that love you will love that and you'll get
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  over the sting of other people not liking you.
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  Who gives a shit, right? So that's my little adventure
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  and adversity. I wanted to share with you about
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  being myself. I also wanted to as I'm
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  recording this, thank my friends again for just being so
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  supportive. And I like providing space and
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  my family for providing space for me to be myself and discover
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  myself, especially in this last year and as I look at this
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  microphone that my friend bought for me, Ashida and then I this.
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  Yet last night, my friends Eddie and Danielle bought me this
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  microphone shield because they all know about recording and
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  Eddie records music and it's like the universe and my friends
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  are delivering me all these tools, a microphone, a
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  microphone shield, all of which are like symbolic of these are
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  the things that are going to help you be yourself and
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  hopefully me being myself on this podcast.
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  And some people will like it, some people won't, and that's
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  totally cool. I like some podcasts.
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  I don't like others. I have to be OK with that.
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  And these are tools that the universe has sent me through my
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  friends to remind me to be myself.
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  So I want to kind of close this out with just a few quotes about
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  being yourself that I found on goodreads.com.
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  I will tag this page in the show notes as always to thank my
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  sources of inspiration. All right, one is from Coco
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  Chanel. A girl should be two things.
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  Who and what she wants. Love that one.
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  Don't compromise yourself. You're all you have.
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  That was John Grisham in The Rainmaker.
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  All right, what other one do we have here?
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  When you are content to be simply yourself and don't
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  compare or compete, everyone will respect you.
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  That's from Lao Tzu. I probably missed pronounced
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  that a couple more here. About all you can do in life is
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  be who you are. Some people will love you for
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  you, most will love you for what you can do for them, and some
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  won't like you at all. Well, that's just wonderful, but
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  true. So be OK with people not liking
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  you, because especially with this podcast, I'm going to get
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  some reviews. They're going to be like
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  negative, negative, no. And I'm going to be like, it's
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  cool, I'll keep trying this one, Jim Morrison said.
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  A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be
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  yourself, and especially to feel or not feel Whatever you happen
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  to be feeling at any moment is fine with them.
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  That's what real love amounts to, Letting a person be what he
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  or she really is. Very cool.
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  And let's do this one, this last one.
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  This is kind of, well, that's kind of a long 1.
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  Taylor Swift. T Swift in the house.
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  Love you, Love her Amazing concert.
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  Just be yourself. There is no one better Love
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  that. And we're going to tie this up
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  from Roy T Bennett from The Light in the Heart.
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  You are unique. You have different talents and
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  abilities, You don't have to always follow in the footsteps
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  of others. And most important, you should
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  always remind yourself that you don't have to do what everyone
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  else is doing and you have a responsibility to develop the
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  talents that you have been given.
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  So with that, I hope you have a very happy Friday.
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  I hope you be yourself today. I hope I continue to be myself.
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  Even when that negative voice tries to remind me to people
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  please or tone myself down. Screw it be you and the rest
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  will just kind of fall into place.
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  All right people, closing out my sign off here going into the
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  weekend. Let's see what I come up with
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  from this little brain. The next time adventure.
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  Back up The next time. The next time Adversity comes
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  your way. You know what you can do.
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  Just be yourself, man. Be yourself.
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  Take one step at a time. Love you all.
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  Thanks for the love for my 17th Spotify followers.
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  I see you None.