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How to Align Your Life: (S5) S26:E7 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Series 5, show number 26.
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Today's episode is number 7, How to Align
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Your Life.
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Series 5, show 26, episode 7.
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And our theme is everything should point in
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one direction.
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I know a lot of times people get
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confused because they're trying to do something, but
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then they don't understand it.
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And because they don't understand it, they just
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basically get stuck, or they wind up going
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backwards.
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So welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now, ladies and gentlemen, to be now
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a published author.
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Today we close this week with integration, not
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addition, not subtraction, but alignment.
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Because when everything in your life begins to
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point in the same direction, everything changes.
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This reminds me of something Dr. Dwayne Dyer
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shared with us many years ago, rest his
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soul.
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He learned from Petangelis, his master, and he
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said, when we change the way we look
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at things, the things we look at change.
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When we change the way we look at
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things, the things we look at change.
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When we change the way we look at
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things, the things we look at change, similar
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fashion.
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Our core message here is most people are
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not stuck because they lack effort.
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No, they become stuck because their energy is
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divided.
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Their habits say one thing, their goals, well,
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they say another.
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Their environment pulls them in another direction.
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Alignment is the solution.
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Alignment creates unity across your entire system.
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And that's hard for a lot of people
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to understand, but what I've found is that
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when you become in alignment, things get easier,
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but you actually open up hidden doorways, right?
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You see things, they were always there, but
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you weren't really paying attention to them.
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Number one, alignment creates momentum across every area
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of your life.
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When everything moves together, progress accelerates.
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Number two, when things align, life feels easier,
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like naturally.
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Yeah, it feels that way naturally.
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I think that's another one of those things
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that a lot of people I think don't
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realize that when something happens naturally, it goes
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with the flow.
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Resistance decreases when systems match direction.
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When we go in the direction of the
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flow, there's literally no resistance.
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Number three, stop working against your own goals.
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So many people do this every day, and
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they don't even know they're doing it.
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Internal conflict slows everything down.
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Number four, your habits must match your long
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-term vision.
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Daily behavior defines future outcomes.
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What you're thinking about now affects tomorrow.
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Number five, your circle should support your direction.
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Not somebody else's direction, your direction.
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Environment determines the momentum that you move at.
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Number six, your time should reflect your true
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priorities.
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Time reveals what you value.
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Number seven, misalignment creates unnecessary stress.
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Confusion is often structural, not emotional.
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People try to make it emotional, and then
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they don't get the right answers.
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They get frustrated.
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They sometimes damage relationships, all because they don't
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understand.
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They don't realize that they're looking at it
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the wrong way.
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They're looking at it the wrong way, and
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I think that's a very, very big problem.
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If something is misaligned, it must be corrected.
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Small adjustments create major clarity.
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Small, micro adjustments, not huge adjustments.
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Number nine, clarity is the foundation.
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It's the building blocks of alignment.
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Without clarity, guys, direction just sort of ceases.
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It breaks.
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It stops.
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Number 10, alignment reduces internal resistance.
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When we're in alignment, our path opens up
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before us.
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Less friction means smoother execution.
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That's an interesting way to think about it.
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Number 11, you move faster when systems are
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unified.
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But sometimes getting things unified, well, that could
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be a real act.
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Right?
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Fragmentation slows progress.
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Disjointed efforts is basically what it is.
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Number 12, saying no creates alignment, guys, because
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when you say no, you're saying yes to
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yourself.
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Every no protects your direction.
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Learn to say it.
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You can say it respectfully.
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No.
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I appreciate you asking me, and I'm flattered.
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Right now, I have a lot on my
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plate, so I'm going to pass.
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Oh, John, you can't do it right now.
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There's a lot on my plate, and I'm
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going to have to say no.
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I want to say yes, but I have
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to say no.
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Oh, I understand.
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But you don't get those people trying to
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push you.
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Oh, come on, come on, come on.
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And those people are actually not doing the
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best for you.
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They're trying to do what's best for them.
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Number 13, a cohesive life produces stronger outcomes.
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Disconnected effort weakens the results.
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We're disconnected.
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We don't have the connection.
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We're not taking the information we learned from
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one thing to another.
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We're just sort of just doing things, but
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not really looking at feedback.
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Number 14, guys, stop splitting your attention across
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competing priorities.
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How many companies do you know?
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Well, we've got a chat system, but we've
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got lots of people on the chat system,
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and you've got to handle all the people
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at one time.
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That's insane.
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Focus requires consolidation.
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It does.
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Number 15, focus naturally creates alignment.
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Attention determines structure.
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If you've got good attention, guys, you're going
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to have good structure.
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I mean, that's just a, that's like a
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hands down, right?
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A hands down, if you've got good structure.
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I say you need two things for success,
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ladies and gentlemen.
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We keep going back to this.
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Consistency, right?
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And structure.
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You cannot be successful without a structure and
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without doing consistently.
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Number 16, guys, alignment.
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It builds confidence over time, not overnight.
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Consistency reinforces belief.
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When a belief is reinforced, it releases dopamine
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in our brain.
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It gives us a natural high that makes
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us want to do something.
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Because we feel so good about it.
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We feel so good about it.
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Number 17, everything in your life should support
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your direction.
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Not somebody else's direction, your direction.
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Your direction.
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Support systems determine success.
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And a support system is not built overnight,
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guys.
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It takes time.
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It takes time.
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Number 18, your actions always reveal your priorities.
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Your actions reveal your priorities.
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So what you think about is what you
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bring about.
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What you do, what you take action toward
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is what's important to you.
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What's in alignment with, we've said it before,
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guys, your core values.
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You do things day in and day out
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that are reflective of your core values.
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That's a wild thing, but it's the truth.
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Your core values get you to act or
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not act.
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If you suddenly don't act, you've probably figured
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out that this is not in direct alignment
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with my core values.
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Nothing wrong with that.
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But don't try to make it fit.
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Don't put a square peg in a round
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hole.
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Square pegs go in square holes.
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Round pegs go in round holes.
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Don't try to force them because that's when
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you have problems.
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That's when you're not going to get flow.
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That's when you're going to get resistance, right?
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What happens when we take, I'll give you
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a perfect example.
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I had a customer the other day, a
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client that had a cartridge.
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And, well, they bought one of these cheap
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cartridges, unfortunately.
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And they bought the kind where they buy
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three cartridges for like $99 instead of it
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being $130 a cartridge.
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They bought three cartridges for $99.
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I said, oh, gee, that's a great value,
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right?
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Sounds like a great value.
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$99 divided by three, $33.
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But those cartridges were not in alignment with
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the printer.
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Because as soon as the person put them
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in the printer, tried to pull them out
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or realign, they got stuck.
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And then they wound up basically breaking the
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whole paper path mechanism.
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And it was just cheaper to throw the
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printer away.
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So when you do things that are not
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in alignment or for the greater good of
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all concern, it's going to cause you to
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take a turn that you may not like.
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It's going to cost you money.
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It's going to use up resources.
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And resources, ladies and gentlemen, could be people,
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things, right?
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Emotions, money.
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I mean, that's really the truth of it,
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guys.
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So this is important to understand.
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Behavior never lies.
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As much as you think it's trying to
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trick you, it's actually trying to say, hey,
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wake up.
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You're not on the right track.
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Wake up.
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You're on the wrong track.
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You're in the wrong lane.
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What happens on the highway if your car
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starts to go over the lane?
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Somebody's going to hit the horn at you.
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True story.
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Client of mine, his son was traveling down
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toward Princeton.
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And basically about three or four weeks ago,
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he went over the yellow line.
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And when he went over the yellow line,
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he got into a very bad accident.
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The whole left part of his body got
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damaged.
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Lots of surgery.
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He was unconscious.
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His car was not in alignment with the
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lane.
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If it was, there would have been no
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issue.
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You see, when we stay in our paths,
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we create alignment.
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Sometimes we go out of a path.
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But we got to be in alignment with
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our principles.
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For if we don't do that, we disappoint
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not only ourselves but others.
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And we also can lose respect and damage
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that reputation that we took years to build.
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You can destroy the reputation, guys, in a
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fraction of a second.
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Damage it in a fraction of a second.
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Take years, weeks, months, years to build.
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And then you just destroy it like that.
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Number 19, guys.
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Contradictions must be eliminated.
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Conflicting behavior blocks progress.
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If you didn't know that, let's think about
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tug of war.
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If I'm trying to tug one way, you're
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trying to tug the other, we're going to
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cancel each other out.
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What happens if you have a positive number?
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Let's say it's 100.
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What happens if you add a negative number?
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It cancels itself out.
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So there is no 100.
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If you have a negative, you add a
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positive, it cancels itself out.
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When we're on one track and we're moving
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in that direction, and it is for the
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greater good of all concerned, we will succeed.
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Now, sometimes we'll succeed anyway if it's not
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for the greater good.
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But down the road, we're going to pay
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a price.
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The whole thing today is about being accountable
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for what you do.
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Number 20, guys.
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Intentional living.
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You've heard that word thrown around before, that
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buzzword.
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Randomness, on the other hand, guys, reduces control.
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Randomness reduces control.
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And when it reduces control, we get into
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a state, ladies and gentlemen, of what?
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We get into a state of chaos, okay?
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We get in a state of chaos.
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Number 21, designing your days creates stability.
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We said before, if you fail to plan,
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you have planned to fail.
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Structure removes chaos.
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When we are clear, we remove chaos.
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Clarity is a real big asset.
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Number 22, if we choose to live on
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purpose, our clarity will improve, if we intentionally
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live on purpose.
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And purpose organizes, ladies and gentlemen, behavior.
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Purpose gives a structure to the meaning of
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what we're doing.
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Number 23, simplifying decisions strengthens alignment, which is
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why we want to keep things simple, not
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complicate things.
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Less noise creates better choices.
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And when I say noise, I don't just
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mean noise like from a stereo or a
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car.
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I mean noise like interference.
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Like you're trying to do one thing, and
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the other side of the room says, oh,
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we shouldn't do it that way.
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We should do it this way, right?
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You're working on an interface, and one side
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of the room says, you know, we should
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make sure that every page is ready for
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mobile friendliness.
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This is all we can't do that we
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have time.
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Number 24, your environment should reflect your goals.
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Surrounding influence, outcome.
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And so how do we do this?
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We have tools.
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We have colors.
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We have things that make us feel comfortable
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to let us go that step.
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Having things right where you can access them
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is a good recipe for success.
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Number 25, your habits must reinforce your identity.
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Your habits must reinforce your identity.
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You don't do habits because somebody said, oh,
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let's do a habit.
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No, guys.
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You do a habit because it's part of
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consistency.
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It's part of a structure, right?
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Part of that.
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When we understand that, we can make positive
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changes in our life.
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Now, repetition, ladies and gentlemen, builds alignment, but
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not overnight.
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Number 26, your mindset must support your direction,
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not somebody else's.
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Thinking shapes execution.
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Thinking shapes execution.
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What we're going to use, what resources.
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Number 27, everything in your system should connect.
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Disconnected parts reduce effectiveness.
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Interesting, right?
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Think about what that means.
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Think about how that reflects on you.
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Number 28, when alignment is present, guys, acceleration
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will naturally follow.
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When alignment is present, things will get better.
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Let me see if I can give an
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example.
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If you're doing inventory and the inventory practices
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are done in the standards of GAAP, general
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accounting principles, they follow consistency and structure all
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the time, the inventory will get better if
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it was bad.
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Remember, ladies and gentlemen, that flow replaces resistance.
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The flow of a river, the flow of
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a stream, the flow of your faucet or
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your shower, it replaces resistance.
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What would be resistance?
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You're turning on the faucet, you're putting your
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finger up there and holding the water back.
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That is resistance.
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Let's even think about sneezing, right?
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You're going to sneeze.
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If you try to hold it, I hope
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it's holding my knee.
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I'm not trying to sneeze, but if I
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hold my nose back, well, it causes resistance.
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It causes unnecessary discomfort.
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That's not the same as discomfort for success.
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That's a necessary discomfort.
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That's a difference.
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Number 29, less chaos creates more control.
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Less chaos creates more control.
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And now that we know that, we can
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understand one other thing.
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Order improves performance.
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The order always improves performance.
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But when people are starting out, they're like,
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I don't know what you're talking.
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I have no idea what you're even thinking
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about.
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There's a lot of people that, you know,
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they're watching what the Joneses are doing.
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And the Joneses might not be doing the
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right thing, right?
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It's important that you make the choices on
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what's best for you because things that you
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like might be different what other people like,
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right?
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I think that's a very wise thing to
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actually understand, to understand what that whole concept
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means, right?
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It's important, guys.
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It's definitely, definitely very, very important.
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So number 30, alignment is how you win
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long term.
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You don't win long term by just gambling.
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Unified systems will always outperform scattered results.
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What's a uniform, unified system?
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A system that is all tied together.
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The outputs report back to the other inputs
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so that things can be measured and controlled.
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Let's say you're running a system for a
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bakery and you start out with the dough,
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all right?
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Then after the dough and you've got the
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dough made, now it needs to go in
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the oven.
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Every part of that process reports back so
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that you get a great loaf of bread
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or a good cookie or whatever you're making.
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But when we take the feedback of what's
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going on, we can adjust it.
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Maybe we notice that the bread is starting
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to burn, we better adjust it.
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But this could all happen now with technology.
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This can all happen with micro controls.
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They use sensors to constantly check the feedback
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of things.
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I remember doing work for a company that
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manufactures blades and every 1,000th blade was
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scanned and a micro adjustment was made and
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then maybe one or two blades were discarded
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and then it was ready for better production.
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Because every 1,000 blades we discovered that
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the process seemed to degradate.
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It made not the same sharp blade.
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In closing, ladies and gentlemen, here is the
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truth.
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Are you ready for the truth?
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You do not need more effort.
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You do not need more complexity.
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You need alignment in your life because when
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your life stops pulling in different directions like
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the tug of war rope, it starts moving
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forward as one unified, controlled system.
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And that, ladies and gentlemen, is where acceleration
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begins.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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It's always such a privilege and pleasure to
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be here with you here.
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This has been Inspirations For Your Life and
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this is where alignment becomes momentum.
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The question I have for you today or
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tomorrow is, if you're not in alignment, what
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are you waiting for?
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What's gonna make you get aligned?
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Is it loss of money?
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Is it frustration relationships?
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Is it a disappointed client?
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What is it?
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Have yourself a great one, everyone, and I'll
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catch you tomorrow with a brand new master
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topic.
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Be well, everyone, and take care.