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You’re Just Winging Life · The Missing Secret Podcast

• 0:04
  Kelly Hatfield: We believe life is precious. This is it. We've got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our full potential.
• 0:17
  John Mitchell: Are you living up to your potential? Are you frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.
• 0:31
  Kelly Hatfield: If this is hitting home, you're in the right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you learn it, watch what happens.
• 0:59
  Welcome to Think It Be It the podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.
• 1:04
  John Mitchell: Hey. And as always, I'm John Michell.
• 1:06
  Kelly Hatfield: We're back.
• 1:08
  John Mitchell: We're back. So this topic this week is you're just wing in life. So the reason I say that, I want to ask our audience a question. Two questions, actually. And, and maybe Kelly, why don't you think back when you were 40? And ask answer this on behalf of the audience. But the first question is, what percentage of your potential? Do you feel like you're playing the game of life hat? So so how would you answer that? That question? Okay,
• 1:46
  Kelly Hatfield: so I'm looking back 10 years when I was 40. Right. So I am a few years into my first business at that time, then. And so I would say, I probably would have said, because I was really in a challenging place, you know, because I just was starting my first business, and it was just starting to really take off, right? So I would say 50%, though, even then I would lay awake in bed at night going, man, you know, I've got more in the tank, I don't know how to access it or, you know, just being frustrated with myself because the business wasn't going faster. And I'm like, I'm not reaching my potential. So I would say again, looking back through and then trying to look through a different lens, I would say 50%. Right.
• 2:29
  John Mitchell: That's, that's, that's good. You know, it's interesting. As I work with people, I see that it ranges from people thinking they're at 80% to 25%. Just in the last I don't know, two months. I've heard that that range. So here's the second question. Do you and again, thinking that like you were when you were 40? Yeah. Do you have a way of doing life?
• 2:55
  Kelly Hatfield: No. I mean, at 40, I did not have a way of doing like, I was just, I didn't have a plan for success or anything. I was just like, Alright, here's my goal. I'm not quite sure how I'm gonna get there. I'll just take some action every day. And maybe eventually, I'll make it an appointment.
• 3:14
  John Mitchell: Well, like you were just winging it. Yeah. Totally. 100%. Well, and to our audience, just think about those two things in your life. Where are you? So what percentage are you You playing to? And do you have a way of doing life? Well, let me give you the answers to both those things. You're freaking winging it, you're just winging it. You don't have a way of doing life. Nor and I guess I can say that because I didn't either. And Kelly didn't either. And we didn't know any better, you know, you just get up and do the best she can. Nobody said, Well, you know, here's a here's a way to do in life. You know, the way that everybody does life is they just get up and do the best they can. And the problem with that, is that because we're innately wired for survival is causing you innately to be fear based and reactive issue live your your life, what you know, what a way to wing life, to be fear based and reactive. And, you know, I find it interesting that it's so obvious to me and to you. Now, when I look back and as I present think it be it to people that's ultimately where I sort of wind up is fairly quickly pointing out to them that they're just winging life and that there's nobody that is is going to slap them upside the head with this stark reality except me. And and I can do it because I was right where they were. I was weighing in life too. And I saw, you know how radically different life is when you live a life have immense intention and clarity. And, you know, we hear a lot about, well, I don't know that we hear a lot about it, but, but I've heard the concept of living a life of intention and clarity, but I never really knew what that meant. Dave, you heard that that sort of phraseology before?
• 5:20
  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, definitely. I've heard it before. And I think, you know, one thing when we talk about winging life, you know, when you say that to me, too, you know, or, or not living with intentionality, or, you know, maybe somebody think, well, I have a plan, you know, well, to the point you were making part of the problem, you know, with not having, you know, a, a way to do life, is that, back to what we've talked about on several episodes, your best intentions get sabotaged by your subconscious, by that autopilot. So unless you have a way of quote unquote, doing life, like you're talking about, even the best laid plans, you know, like, so even if you do have a, maybe a clear vision for what you want for your life, if you don't have the, the methodology or the way to do life, that the you know, like the thinking method, then it makes it exponentially harder to achieve those goals or execute on a plan, you know, what I mean? So that's when you say, do life too, I think, Okay, well, I, you know, looking back when I was 40, like, I had plans, I had goals I had, I had the best intentions, right? But it goes back to that 95% of those thoughts, and then having a system or a way of doing life that helps you overcome, you know, and build those, you know, build the new habits and override that operating system that, you know, innate operating system for fear,
• 6:53
  John Mitchell: You know, you just hit on about three key key things there in the span of like, 20 seconds. And, you know, the first one is sort of, it's, it's an intention, you know, I see that, like, I was telling you, I went to High Point University in North Carolina, where there, the whole university is built around teaching kids life skills. I mean, they, you know, you get a degree and whatever you get, but but they also focus on teaching them life skills. And, and, you know, they define life skills, as is, you know, you know, being humble and being persistent and growing, and all that type of stuff. But, you know, I see that as a teaching that it goes in one ear out the other, unless you wire it into your subconscious, because just like you said, 95% of your daily actions, and thoughts are unconscious, if you're not wiring it in there, that's where you actually make it show up in your life on a permanent basis, when you just hear it, because the professor said it, it's going in one ear out the other ear. And respectfully, that's what I'm going to share, am sharing with the president of high point is, is, here's the love what you're doing. But but you're missing it here, let me show you how to, to, you know, wire it into their subconscious. So it moves from being an intention to being, you know, part of who they are. And so that really is the the key is that again, the deeper you look and understand that 95% of your daily actions and thoughts are unconscious, the more profound it becomes. And you see how your whole life ultimately, is subconscious mind, right? Oh,
• 8:44
  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, yep. 100%. And I know I've said this a million times, if you listen to this, you're gonna go all right already. But like, once I understood the science, and how because, like, I'm reflecting back on that 40 year old, who was frustrated, who would beat herself up and have the best of intentions, like, I'm gonna do this, and this is what, and then I would do it for a period of time, and then all of a sudden, what happens, that old subconscious thinking and, you know, so all of that intention I have, so then you go through this cycle of beating yourself up because you were gonna do this, and you're not doing it consistently. And, you know, so it's this whole thing. And so, you know, 100% As soon as I was like, oh, okay, so what you're telling me is that, you know, everything 95% of what I do, I'm doing out of habitual behavior that I've learned over time, you know, habits that I've created, and, and that we're not set up for success. Naturally, our brains are set up to protect us and to keep things familiar. So, and I, there's that distinction I want to make between comfortable and familiar, because for a lot of people, being in chaos is familiar. Yeah, it is there and there's a comfort to that even though it's their lives are a mess as a result of it. So, you know, I guess just going back to and reinforcing and validating what you said, John, and looking back at my 40 year old self, you know, it, it wasn't until, you know, and again, being achiever, having a growth, mindset, all of that it wasn't until I learned a new way of doing life, this methodology to install all of the things that I was learning so that I can do that I could do them consistently, to get the outcomes, because that was my problem was consistency, I'd have the best intentions, I would do it for a period of time. And then, you know, not do it, for whatever reason, fall off the wagon, so to speak, for whatever and then lose that momentum. I had a being consistent, right way of doing life solves that. Right. And, you know
• 10:51
  John Mitchell: You mentioned it a few minutes ago, it's a system. And I see, I, you know, I see that in everything. To make it consistent, you gotta have a system, like, think it'd be it is a system, it's a system for creating immense intention and clarity in your life. And then you're feeding it to yourself every day. And then of course, that causes it to get wired into your subconscious, so that it all happens automatically without thinking, but it's a system. And you know, there are systems within a system, like we have a system for being organized, we have a system for personal growth that makes it both strategic and, and consistent. But so there are systems upon systems, and I see that anything that that you want to accomplish in life requires a system. And I don't know that I saw this 20 years ago. Yep.
• 11:50
  Kelly Hatfield: I know. I didn't. Sure. Yeah. And then to and I know, I've spoke to this before, but once you have this system, the relief, yeah, you feel like all kinds of like, and I know, I don't want to get too woowoo for people, but like different energy systems open up, because you are not taking up all of this space. Right? With, you know, just being frustrated and having the intention of not doing it, like your world expands this, this system helps things expand, versus I would say I was contracting a lot when I was before I had this system, you know, well, right. Anyway, yeah. 100
• 12:27
  John Mitchell: You know, I, and I guess you know, I just look at this, as I know, you do, too, is, is it gives you an advantage in life and edge in life. And, and boy, if there's one thing I've got, if you don't have an advantage in life, something like what we have, you're getting the average life, just plan on it. You gotta have something that gives you an edge. And, and you know, when one maybe final thought I'll share with you. So I went on this trip this past week. And I see something that happens with people as they get older, they start letting go of their health. Like I saw, in a couple of instances, I was around a couple of really successful guys. And both of them basically told me, I've given up on trying to control what I eat. I'm like, Huh, that's interesting. And, you know, it's starting to show a little. But I've been watching like, Ginger's mom, who is like, 9095, I think 95 or 96 all the problems she has from giving up exercise and giving up controlling what she eats. I mean, it's, you know, they're making a choice that feels good today. Because, you know, they can do whatever they want, but has serious ramifications down the road. And, and I was with a friend of mine, and his wife has sort of given up. You know, he hasn't but she has, and I'm like, wow, that's an interesting dynamic that that is not going to play out. Well, long term. And it's like ginger, ginger, and I are, you know, totally in sync on this. She's, she she eats better than I do. And I eat pretty damn well. Right. And and I bet I'm thinking Jared and you are the same in terms of taking care of yourself. Right? Yeah,
• 14:37
  Kelly Hatfield: We tried to Jared could use a little bit more work
• 14:42
  John Mitchell: For being honest.
• 14:45
  Kelly Hatfield: But I think but But seriously, though, too, you know you were talking about in the moment it feels good and everything, but there are long term ramifications. The other thing too, that I think about is the remit ramifications aren't long, like Literally, depending on what you put in your mouth, it immediately impacts how your brain works. Like, it doesn't take long when you're feeding yourself crap to start feeling like crap. And then that it to affect everything, you know, affects your energy, how you show up in the world, maybe whether you get a deal or not, because you're not on your game or your like, there are ramifications that are immediate, we just don't think of it that way. And again, that's where the science comes in. And understanding the science has helped me to with some of my fitness and health goals for that reason, where I'm like, I'm all about longevity and quality of life and energy, you know, an energy.
• 15:38
  John Mitchell: Right, right. You're right. I mean, it's, it is long term, but it's also short term, you know, if if you don't control exercising and eating the, the short term effect is, is you get fat. You you, you don't have a whole lot of energy. You know, if you're eating a lot of sweets, and all, all that type of stuff.
• 16:01
  Kelly Hatfield: Well, your brain doesn't work, right, it impacts your brain immediately has a response to what you're putting into your body. Yeah. And it's fascinating, but often times again, people aren't educated about that, or don't think about it that way. They're just like, I'm given up. I've worked hard my whole life, I'll just, you know, and it's like, oh, you know, and,
• 16:21
  John Mitchell: You know, I tell you, though, you know, I see this with people, I know that when you start giving up. Yeah, and I think it ends up happening as people get in their 60s and 70s. They're like, God, I've, you know, I've most of the right things, and I'm just tired, I just want to, you know, relax. Well, they unfortunately, you're gonna pay a price and and you know, the price you pay is very unpleasant, I see that, you know, you can, in theory, have a long life, you can live into 90, but you may find that your last 10 years were a friggin nightmare, because of all sorts of ailments that come from not exercising and and you know, the the nightmare is getting Alzheimer's and basically losing your mind yet, you're still have to grind through life, you know, and if you're eating a lot of sugar, and you're not exercising, you're greatly increasing your chances for getting Alzheimer's. And so I don't know, I've just this, this is my year for really upping my game on health. And I again, I've always been highly tuned in my health, but not like I am now. And I like I like it. And you know, it's interesting how this now plays into my visualization. Yeah, this highest heightened level of health and awareness of different things, is showing up in my visualization, which is pretty cool to see.
• 17:54
  Kelly Hatfield: You know, and so to just to kind of put a bow on that back to that system for doing life, this is at your health really is at the pinnacle of that. Like if you don't have your health, you know, your quality of life is going to stink, you know what I mean? If you don't have your health, there are so many things that cascade from your health. And so having a system like this where you can you can override that subconscious, you know, and create new habits with this system so that you're able to stay or to get healthy. So I think that's really the tie in here is again that system, you know, and this works perfectly for improving your health. Right,
• 18:35
  John Mitchell: Right. Okay, well, I suppose I can add to that. That sounds pretty damn good. So until next time, we'll see you.
• 18:46
  Kelly Hatfield: Thanks for listening today. If you've had your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So email us at kelly@thinkitbeit.com or John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional life