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Season 3 - Episode 201 - Giving up or pivoting? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good early morning from the flower garden.
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  Can hear lots of bugs out there. The girls are clucking around,
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  but they are it's, it's still pretty dark, so they're sticking
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  kind of close, but they're not very noisy.
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  In any event, good early morning from the flower garden.
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  Now, why are we in the flower garden today?
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  Because there's a lesson in the fact that I had to pivot greatly
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  in growing anything here. From what I learned, the South
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  is very different than the North.
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  And when I grew up up north, I grew up and it was very
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  different environment for growing overall anything,
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  vegetables, flowers, you name it.
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  Very, very, very different environment.
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  And when I moved down here, I had to really start to
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  contemplate what I was going to grow successfully.
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  And notice that's a word I added in at the end successfully,
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  because I could grow anything. I could try growing anything.
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  I could get things to grow, but could I get them to fruit?
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  Could I get them to do what they were supposed to do?
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  Could I get them to fully actualize themselves?
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  That would be a hard no, my friends.
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  So my first lesson over the years of doing this year really
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  came in flowers because I was planting flowers that really
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  need a deep cold in order to form their buds and come out and
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  become stunning. And that just doesn't happen
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  here. And you have to find certain
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  things that can grow in these conditions.
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  So yesterday I happened to be in this group that does talks about
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  gardening overall and how difficult it is in the South.
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  And, but they talk about all kinds of things.
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  But the subject yesterday was that they were talking about how
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  difficult it was to grow. And this woman had commented
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  that she was, has been trying this for five years and she
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  spent so much money and she's not getting what she wants and
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  she thinks she's just going to throw in the towel.
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  And I thought to myself, well, I've, I've been there, like not
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  to throw in the towel, but I've been so frustrated because you,
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  you buy things, you plant things and nothing seems to take shape.
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  Everything seems to just be a disaster over and over and over
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  again. And it's very frustrating on
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  your, on your soul because you're trying to figure it out
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  and you're like, oh, I wish this would just work.
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  And let alone the money and everything else that you're
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  spending in gardening is so it's so expensive, but it's not about
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  the, the, that portion of it. It's about feeling fulfilled and
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  doing something with it. So she was talking about how she
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  was going to throw in the towel. Nothing seemed to work, whether
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  it was her vegetables or her flowers.
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  And what was interesting to me and why we're talking about this
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  today is that so many people jumped in and started
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  commenting. And there were a few people that
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  agreed with her. They were thinking the same
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  thing. And a good group of people that
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  that kept saying don't give up, you just have to do this.
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  And they were giving her advice. They were saying all these
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  different things, and none of them were wrong.
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  None of them were wrong. And she was commenting back to
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  each one of them. Yeah, But da, da, da, da, da,
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  da, da. Yeah, But da, da, da, da, da.
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  So two lessons in this one. She was stuck in her story and
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  she was going to stay to stay with it.
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  Even though people were offering her solutions and really damn
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  good solutions. She was not willing to accept
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  the fact that there were other possibilities because she was
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  stuck where she was emotionally and she could not move past it.
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  So she was so frustrated that frustration was driving her bus
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  and she was committed to being frustrated.
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  Hear that she was committed to being frustrated.
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  She wasn't committed to a solution.
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  She went into the group just to essentially complain and not
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  have resolution. She just wanted to complain and
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  maybe she wanted to get attention for saying she was
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  going to quit, which is exactly what happened because other
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  people jumped in because at the core, humans are great and they
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  want to help and they want to say don't do it, don't quit,
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  stick it out and lift her up. But she wasn't willing to listen
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  to that. And two, it's about being able
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  to take on new information and say, let me try something else.
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  So if you had said to me years ago you're going to be obsessed
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  with growing Zinnia, I would have been like, I don't even
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  like Zinnia. So why would that happen?
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  Because I had a completely different vision of what a
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  Zinnia was in my head at that time.
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  And they weren't fun. They just looked kind of boring
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  to me. But guess what?
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  When I realized I couldn't grow what I wanted to grow here, I
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  did the research. I started figuring out what does
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  grow well in the South, looking for things that can tolerate
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  heat and lack of water or too much water.
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  They have to be resilient. They have to do all kinds of
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  different things in their lifespan in order to be
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  successful. Kind of like humans and taking
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  on new information. So if this woman had just
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  stopped and paused and said, OK, I'm going to just complain for a
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  minute, but I'm really not going to, you know, throw in the towel
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  and hurt everybody trying to lift her up.
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  She could have said thank you for being inspirational and
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  thank you for the information and move on.
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  But that's not where she was. And who knows if she's going to
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  quit or not, but she was a really great lesson giver if you
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  want to say she provided us with a great lesson today because
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  this is all about being able to take on new information, hear
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  the possibilities from other people, letting other people
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  lift you up and moving forward and not getting stuck in your
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  story. So I hope this was helpful
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  today. I hope you grow some great
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  flowers out there and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.