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The Art of Friendship, Celebrating Milestones, Overcoming Hardships and Toxicity · All About The Joy

• 0:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'm in a bad mood now.
• 0:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I was in a good mood.
• 0:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I was, and now I'm in a bad mood.
• 0:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, Rich.
• 0:07
  Rick Costa: It's all about the joy time.
• 0:10
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, I'm so annoyed yeah, it's all about the joy, blah, blah blah.
• 0:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Welcome everybody, so glad you're here.
• 0:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Hopefully nobody will show up because I don't even feel like doing this today.
• 0:23
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't post anything all week.
• 0:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like I'm just having a time of it.
• 0:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm done with everybody Done.
• 0:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I hear you, but you said you had good, joyful noise.
• 0:35
  Rick Costa: Yeah, noise news, it's all good, it's all good.
• 0:40
  Carmen Lezeth: So I will let you do the show.
• 0:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, there's a lot.
• 0:44
  Rick Costa: It's actually a lot.
• 0:45
  Rick Costa: Did you do it?
• 0:46
  Carmen Lezeth: on your show.
• 0:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Did you talk about it on your show?
• 0:49
  Rick Costa: I think more or less Mr Dawson and Bill, and Joyful, joyful.
• 0:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, mario.
• 0:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Mario, did I send you a link?
• 0:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know if I sent you a link, because I'm in such a bad space.
• 1:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry if I didn't.
• 1:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I think I did, but I'm in such a bad space I'm sorry if I didn't.
• 1:03
  Rick Costa: I think I did, but you don't have to come on, I'm just saying.
• 1:05
  Rick Costa: But if you want to, no, tony's too busy.
• 1:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, melanie.
• 1:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie's the only one who makes me happy because she's reliable.
• 1:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie, thank you for always being reliable.
• 1:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, I appreciate you so much.
• 1:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Not like these other jokers.
• 1:23
  Rick Costa: Okay, thank you, I appreciate you so much, Not like these other jokers.
• 1:26
  Rick Costa: Okay, so there actually is one piece of not so great news and I just want to make sure people know this.
• 1:32
  Rick Costa: So some people that maybe we used to watch this on HAPS there was somebody that used to broadcast on there as well that unfortunately, we just got the news that she passed.
• 1:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh wait, do I know this person?
• 1:45
  Rick Costa: Oh, I don't know if you remember her, but she was definitely up there quite a bit on HAPS.
• 1:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Are you going to share the person's name?
• 1:52
  Rick Costa: Yeah, she was known as Badger.
• 1:53
  Rick Costa: I also have a GoFundMe.
• 1:55
  Rick Costa: Do you think I should post that?
• 1:58
  Carmen Lezeth: You can post it.
• 1:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't mind that at all.
• 2:00
  Rick Costa: She and her family were in the car.
• 2:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie, thank you.
• 2:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Something's wrong with your volume, Rick.
• 2:07
  Rick Costa: Me.
• 2:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick, your volume sounds low.
• 2:10
  Carmen Lezeth: It's low, I hear you fine here, but then when I go to edit that's how my week started People want to know why I didn't post anything this week.
• 2:18
  Carmen Lezeth: It's because, hi, alma, ooh Alma, I need your direct email.
• 2:23
  Rick Costa: Ooh, you got a new picture.
• 2:23
  Rick Costa: I need your direct email.
• 2:24
  Rick Costa: Oh, you got a new picture.
• 2:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I need your direct email so I can send you emails.
• 2:27
  Carmen Lezeth: To come on the show without your husband.
• 2:31
  Cynthia Ruiz: No.
• 2:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just kidding, that was so mean.
• 2:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Anyways, yeah, hi Alma, hi Alma.
• 2:36
  Rick Costa: I like your picture Alma, that's nice.
• 2:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I think I have that picture up on our site now.
• 2:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, not on the site now.
• 2:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, not on the site, not on the live site.
• 2:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Never mind, never, okay, okay.
• 2:44
  Rick Costa: So badger was on haps and yeah, she did artwork basically, and lindsey was her actual name, lindsey badger maybe if I saw her.
• 2:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Thing yeah, you're gonna put up the gofundme page, the gofundme thing yeah, and there's a picture on there so her name was lindsey lindsey badger I think here's the last name too.
• 3:05
  Rick Costa: I don't know why YouTube is taking forever for the chat box to come up.
• 3:08
  Rick Costa: Oh, there it goes.
• 3:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Why don't you do it on the private and then I can put it up?
• 3:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, dana D.
• 3:14
  Rick Costa: Oops, that's too long, hold on.
• 3:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Did you put it in the private chat and then I can.
• 3:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You'd rather.
• 3:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I can try to.
• 3:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not saying I'll be able to do it, but I'm going to do my best, because you know I do my best.
• 3:25
  Carmen Lezeth: But if people want to contribute to the GoFundMe page, is this for her family?
• 3:33
  Rick Costa: Yes, because obviously this was very unexpected.
• 3:36
  Rick Costa: She was young.
• 3:37
  Rick Costa: There we go, and so what happened was her and her family.
• 3:46
  Rick Costa: It was her husband, husband or two kids.
• 3:47
  Rick Costa: They were in the car, hey Dana, and a guy blew through a stop sign, going 80 miles an hour at a 20 mile an hour zone.
• 3:52
  Rick Costa: She was killed on impact.
• 3:55
  Rick Costa: Husband ended up on a ventilator, but I think he's doing better.
• 3:58
  Rick Costa: Kids were okay, thank God.
• 4:00
  Rick Costa: And when the boy woke up he didn't know anything.
• 4:03
  Rick Costa: He was like what's going on?
• 4:04
  Rick Costa: And they had to say your mom died and he was devastated, of course.
• 4:09
  Rick Costa: So it's just really sad.
• 4:11
  Rick Costa: Oh, and the guy it was a hit and run, he left.
• 4:14
  Rick Costa: I'm like, are you kidding me?
• 4:15
  Rick Costa: But they found him, they caught him.
• 4:17
  Rick Costa: He's going to get charged with manslaughter.
• 4:19
  Rick Costa: Yeah, it's just really sad.
• 4:21
  Rick Costa: She was so young.
• 4:22
  Carmen Lezeth: So the GoFundMe, I just put it in the chat.
• 4:29
  Rick Costa: How did it come up on YouTube?
• 4:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, because I think we have that thing where it sends messages to oh, so my message goes to everybody.
• 4:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's cool.
• 4:35
  Rick Costa: Most of them, yeah, okay, and it's also in the ticker below.
• 4:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember the person, but still that's a horrible thing to happen.
• 4:39
  Carmen Lezeth: If we can help another person, but still that's a horrible thing to happen.
• 4:42
  Carmen Lezeth: If we can help another person, a cyber neighbor, that would be really nice and they were one of the artists on the site.
• 4:50
  Rick Costa: Yeah, she would do artwork all the time.
• 4:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah, so I'm all cool with helping people best way we can, any way we can, for people listening in the audio.
• 5:01
  Carmen Lezeth: It's gofundme forward slash 7728C518 if that helps in the future.
• 5:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so that's sad, terrible news.
• 5:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you were supposed to be lifting me up and somehow.
• 5:14
  Rick Costa: I just wanted to get that out of the way first.
• 5:16
  Rick Costa: Hello, Gene Dawson.
• 5:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi Gene Dawson.
• 5:19
  Rick Costa: Exactly.
• 5:20
  Rick Costa: Rest in peace badges.
• 5:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, rest in peace, tony remembers her.
• 5:23
  Rick Costa: Yeah, I talked to him already about it.
• 5:24
  Rick Costa: So anyway, yeah, if you can help the family, that'd be awesome better news now.
• 5:32
  Rick Costa: All the rest of it's gonna be really good.
• 5:34
  Rick Costa: Update on my leg because remember I was up along cassidy for a while from the wasp attack today.
• 5:40
  Rick Costa: Today is the first day I did not use the cane at all, so you were using the cane the whole time.
• 5:47
  Rick Costa: Until yesterday yep, yesterday, part of the day I didn't use it, but today is the first day I absolutely did not use the cane at all.
• 5:53
  Rick Costa: So, yay, I'm getting better, a little better.
• 5:55
  Rick Costa: Still have to be really careful.
• 5:57
  Rick Costa: It can hurt if I twist it a little bit, weird.
• 6:00
  Rick Costa: But yeah so I'm on the mend, so that's another good thing.
• 6:03
  Rick Costa: Okay, weird, but yeah, so I'm on the mend, so that's another good thing.
• 6:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, all right.
• 6:07
  Carmen Lezeth: So another piece of news now this I'm really glad that you're on the mend.
• 6:08
  Carmen Lezeth: It's just been a really ridiculously funny not so funny story I'm just saying not the wasp attack not the wasp attack.
• 6:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you're mario's mom hi mario's mom oh, no way, hi, I think we met at.
• 6:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait a minute, we did meet, because I was at the shower for Alma before Marissa was born.
• 6:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, ms Dawson, that is so cool.
• 6:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure you remember me.
• 6:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure I'm just kidding.
• 6:40
  Rick Costa: You raised an amazing son.
• 6:41
  Rick Costa: Thumbs up to you.
• 6:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and a great granddaughter.
• 6:56
  Rick Costa: Yeah, so that is good.
• 6:56
  Rick Costa: And then this was bad, but then good.
• 6:57
  Rick Costa: So mom was acting really extra for a while there and I was like I don't understand why she's so mean to me.
• 7:02
  Rick Costa: This is too much what is happening.
• 7:04
  Rick Costa: Did she have a stroke and personality change?
• 7:06
  Rick Costa: I couldn't get it.
• 7:07
  Rick Costa: Then it dawned on me when I was doing her pills for the week.
• 7:10
  Rick Costa: I was like, wait a minute, I'm missing one of the pills and I forgot that.
• 7:16
  Rick Costa: I called the pharmacy, called the doctor, and nobody ever got back to me.
• 7:19
  Rick Costa: So I called the doctor again and looked up what the medicine was.
• 7:23
  Rick Costa: It was for depression, anxiety, all that kind of stuff, and from day one of picking up that medicine, night and day, drastic change, so it was your fault.
• 7:34
  Rick Costa: It was my fault.
• 7:34
  Carmen Lezeth: You're trying to put it on your mama and it's your fault.
• 7:37
  Carmen Lezeth: It was my fault For people who don't know, rick is a caretaker, caretaker.
• 7:42
  Cynthia Ruiz: I'm a caretaker.
• 7:46
  Rick Costa: Because, I was going to give the ticker Care star tricker.
• 7:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey Tony.
• 7:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Thanks See, LinkedIn is working now.
• 7:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, Tony.
• 7:52
  Rick Costa: Awesome.
• 7:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Why is Mario saying hi again?
• 7:53
  Carmen Lezeth: He's saying hi to his mama, Probably.
• 7:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you know what I'm just going to.
• 7:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if he wants to come online.
• 8:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what he wants.
• 8:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what Mario needs.
• 8:04
  Rick Costa: Tony says does this thing work?
• 8:05
  Rick Costa: Yes, tony it works, it works.
• 8:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So you messed up, you put your mother through torture, you tried to blame her for what was your fault, and now she's better again.
• 8:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So that's what I heard there.
• 8:20
  Cynthia Ruiz: Sure.
• 8:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Alma just said oh, no, I know you were confused.
• 8:24
  Carmen Lezeth: What's happening?
• 8:25
  Rick Costa: He's at her house.
• 8:26
  Rick Costa: He's at his mom's house.
• 8:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I'm at her house and it's a lot of noise.
• 8:34
  Rick Costa: Tell everyone to calm down and just watch the show.
• 8:36
  Rick Costa: I'm just kidding, we are the hottest podcast out there, I'm just saying it was so funny.
• 8:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so here's my thing I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining.
• 8:47
  Cynthia Ruiz: I am venting though.
• 8:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Now I you know what.
• 8:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I got a couple of, uh, direct messages from people and, um, somebody was mad at me because of the last episode I posted.
• 9:00
  Carmen Lezeth: By the way, I posted a last episode and I didn't even promote it at all, okay, and all I was doing was it was an extension from last week's conversation we had, because last week's conversation went on too long.
• 9:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, rick, did you fix your mic so that the volume is up?
• 9:18
  Rick Costa: The problem I was having has not happened since.
• 9:20
  Rick Costa: I looked up how to fix it and I did it, and it hasn't happened since.
• 9:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but I trust Melanie.
• 9:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie said you were low.
• 9:26
  Rick Costa: But what about on your thingy?
• 9:27
  Rick Costa: You can't see my levels.
• 9:28
  Rick Costa: No, I can hear you fine.
• 9:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just worried about the recording because-.
• 9:32
  Rick Costa: Well, if it's only me, then maybe it should be easier, hopefully, to jack me up a little bit.
• 9:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 9:39
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I'm going to make you edit an episode.
• 9:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't believe.
• 9:42
  Carmen Lezeth: You just said that.
• 9:42
  Carmen Lezeth: If it's only me, okay, let me do the process, so you understand?
• 9:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 9:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, you pull down the recording.
• 9:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, everyone needs to understand that rick has been doing this for eight years, non-stop, right, is it eight years?
• 9:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Over eight years and he does it every day.
• 9:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I do this once a week, but the difference, she said it's still low what about everybody else, is it?
• 10:05
  Rick Costa: you hear me though?
• 10:05
  Rick Costa: She would say, carmen, you're low, yeah, but your voice is like a higher pitch, so it's easier to hear you.
• 10:11
  Carmen Lezeth: He was trying to say I'm allowed, no, I'm being scientific.
• 10:14
  Rick Costa: No, I'm being scientific.
• 10:15
  Rick Costa: It's true, lower voices are harder to hear than higher voices, that's a scientific fact.
• 10:19
  Carmen Lezeth: You're not Tony and we've never had this problem with you in the past.
• 10:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, can everyone else hear Rick, Tony, can you hear Rick?
• 10:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Fine, on your end.
• 10:30
  Rick Costa: Tony, can you hear me?
• 10:31
  Rick Costa: This is why Tony talks.
• 10:31
  Rick Costa: Tony talks like this.
• 10:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Tony doesn't talk like that, because if he did, we could hear him.
• 10:34
  Carmen Lezeth: He's like Loud and clear.
• 10:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, Tony said loud and clear on my end.
• 10:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, tony, greatanie said eight and three quarter.
• 10:48
  Carmen Lezeth: You oh, look at melanie on point, you're keeping track oh yeah, she's just riding down melanie tony just said he can hear rick fine on his end.
• 10:56
  Carmen Lezeth: So I don't know.
• 10:57
  Carmen Lezeth: But thank you for saying that mr dawson can hear me too he can hear you fine too.
• 11:02
  Carmen Lezeth: okay, my volume is all the way up.
• 11:04
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what, melanie?
• 11:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm on team Melanie.
• 11:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I believe it's Rick's fault, but here's what's going to happen.
• 11:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me explain something.
• 11:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So the difference between what me and Rick do is simply, first of all, I have a guest, or I have guests on the show, and then the other part of this is I actually download it.
• 11:26
  Rick Costa: I edit, put it on.
• 11:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Carmen is fine, that's the end of the sentence.
• 11:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Carmen is fine, you got to say it right, carmen is fine, rick is low.
• 11:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia said she's on her way.
• 11:36
  Carmen Lezeth: She said sorry, she must've been sleeping or whatever.
• 11:40
  Carmen Lezeth: So let me finish what it is that I do.
• 11:42
  Carmen Lezeth: So I download the audio and the video and I edit it, but when I can't hear somebody or this cross talking, I have to download not just the entire thing, I have to download each individual track, right.
• 11:58
  Carmen Lezeth: So I have my voice, only Rick's voice, only Tony's book.
• 12:03
  Carmen Lezeth: It depends on how many people, and last week, not only did it go way over an hour, I forget how long it was, but I couldn't hear Rick, I could barely hear Tony, and I was so mad because I thought it was a really good episode, but you couldn't hear it.
• 12:17
  Carmen Lezeth: So it was just too much work.
• 12:20
  Rick Costa: Can I get closer to my microphone?
• 12:22
  Rick Costa: I can jack my microphone all the way up if you want to.
• 12:24
  Rick Costa: Here it's all the way up now.
• 12:28
  Carmen Lezeth: What an attitude.
• 12:29
  Carmen Lezeth: It's all the way up now, melanie.
• 12:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Hello, sleeping Beauty, what?
• 12:33
  Cynthia Ruiz: happened.
• 12:34
  Cynthia Ruiz: I actually fell asleep on the couch.
• 12:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Didn't I say Okay, here's me, I'm texting everybody.
• 12:42
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, are you coming on this show?
• 12:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I know I said it was fine.
• 12:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, here's me.
• 12:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm texting everybody.
• 12:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, are you coming on this show?
• 12:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Like by myself, I know I said it was fine, but I think I'm gonna cancel.
• 12:50
  Carmen Lezeth: And then when rick came on, I'm like I think I'm just gonna cancel.
• 12:53
  Carmen Lezeth: He's I'm on, let's go, let's go.
• 12:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick comes on one minute before now because he knows you're on the show all the time.
• 13:00
  Rick Costa: It's not just that.
• 13:01
  Rick Costa: It's not just that, it's because I'm trying to get mom to bed and I do everything I can to hurry it up, but you can't rush dementia.
• 13:08
  Carmen Lezeth: I think if you told her kindly.
• 13:10
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what.
• 13:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Carmen, who's your familia, from Portugal, has a show with kids.
• 13:15
  Cynthia Ruiz: That's true.
• 13:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I need you to calm down and go rest so that I can be on the show Wait let me say hi, who's her mother, who's her father, who's her family?
• 13:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll be like, oh, so scary.
• 13:30
  Carmen Lezeth: How are you, Cynthia?
• 13:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Welcome to the show.
• 13:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Better Than Never.
• 13:35
  Carmen Lezeth: What's up, girl?
• 13:37
  Carmen Lezeth: How you doing?
• 13:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm good, I'm good.
• 13:40
  Cynthia Ruiz: Did I wake you up?
• 13:41
  Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, I know it was funny, because I like took a quick little nap around eight o'clock.
• 13:45
  Cynthia Ruiz: I was like, let me just stay for like a half hour or whatever, and once aren't you supposed to be on the show.
• 13:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, oh my God, I jumped up and today I had a little bit of a panic attack because nobody was showing up and I was like all of them said they'd be on, like everybody was like, okay, great, yes.
• 14:04
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm like, oh my God, so I'm going to make rules now.
• 14:08
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding, but I did freak out a little bit, but I'm just having a time of it.
• 14:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I was telling Rick I didn't post anything this week.
• 14:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I posted some stuff this week, but I didn't post anything about the show this week because I didn't edit it.
• 14:21
  Carmen Lezeth: So anyway, let me finish.
• 14:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I have to download all these separate tracks and then I have to edit them separately and it's just so time consuming.
• 14:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I also don't like doing it like I assume people who are editors love editing.
• 14:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like I hate it and I hate it more and more every day.
• 14:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought by now I'd be like faster at it and love it or whatever, but then it just becomes this thing.
• 14:41
  Carmen Lezeth: And this past week I was like you know what?
• 14:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not, I'm just done.
• 14:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm'm not, I'm just done, I'm not doing it, I'm just one week.
• 14:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not doing it.
• 14:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not sending out any socials, I'm not going to do anything.
• 14:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Let's see what happens.
• 14:51
  Carmen Lezeth: The show's going to falter, it's going to be over, there'll be no more.
• 14:54
  Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy.
• 14:55
  Carmen Lezeth: But then I did a little podcast myself, which was just an extension of what we had.
• 15:09
  Carmen Lezeth: It went fine.
• 15:09
  Carmen Lezeth: It actually got just as many listens.
• 15:11
  Rick Costa: So that was cool, because I guess you have your regular hey darcy, shout out to dark darcy's the one with the new book out right, yep put your book in the chat so people can go check it out.
• 15:17
  Rick Costa: Is it out today or no, tuesday, I think it gets released out on tuesday, darcy, put your book.
• 15:23
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know what it's about, but see, I'm trusting my regular people got good stuff.
• 15:27
  Carmen Lezeth: So if she has a website, I thought she had a website or something.
• 15:30
  Rick Costa: I don't know if it's ready for the public.
• 15:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I thought you were promoting it on your show.
• 15:35
  Carmen Lezeth: That's how I knew.
• 15:37
  Rick Costa: Yeah, we're gonna be talking about it on Saturday, yeah.
• 15:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh okay.
• 15:40
  Carmen Lezeth: So on Saturday, if you want to go to Rick's show, oh okay, darcy, go ahead.
• 15:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick, what's your show on Saturday?
• 15:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that with all the other pastor people?
• 15:48
  Rick Costa: I say it respectfully, because I don't know, it's just going to be me and Darcy, and if her husband wants to join, he'll be there too.
• 15:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you're having like a private show with just Darcy yeah.
• 15:57
  Rick Costa: Yeah, and her husband if he wants to be there.
• 16:00
  Rick Costa: It's her life story basically.
• 16:03
  Rick Costa: Oh it's a memoir.
• 16:05
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like my book.
• 16:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh Darcy, oh okay.
• 16:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So Darcy's going to be on Rick Costa's show on Saturday.
• 16:12
  Carmen Lezeth: At what time?
• 16:13
  Rick Costa: So 1 pm your time, 4 pm Eastern time.
• 16:17
  Carmen Lezeth: So my time is PST Pacific for those listening on the audio Rick.
• 16:23
  Rick Costa: Yes, ma'am audio.
• 16:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick and Darcy's website is wwwdarcyhafercom.
• 16:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me spell that out D-A-R-C-I-H-A-Y-F-O-R-Dcom.
• 16:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Go there, check her out, figure out what's going on with Darcy, who's cool, always coming on my show and hanging out and check out her book.
• 16:47
  Carmen Lezeth: That's going to with Darcy, who's cool, always coming on my show and hanging out and check out her book.
• 16:48
  Carmen Lezeth: That's going to be available on Tuesday, august 6th.
• 16:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that was nice of me, because I don't even know Darcy but I'm going to read her book because I'm all about the memoirs man.
• 16:56
  Carmen Lezeth: All about the memoirs, okay, cool.
• 16:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, writing a book is a thing, that's right.
• 17:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Alma just said congratulations, darcy.
• 17:04
  Carmen Lezeth: It's true, writing a book is a thing, that's right.
• 17:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Alma just said congratulations, darcy.
• 17:06
  Carmen Lezeth: It's true, writing a book is a thing.
• 17:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm trying to write the second one to Canela, and let me tell you, it's hard, especially when you're working full time and everything.
• 17:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Is this Darcy's first book or is it like her third or fourth?
• 17:16
  Rick Costa: I think it's the first one.
• 17:17
  Rick Costa: I think yeah.
• 17:17
  Carmen Lezeth: And it's her memoir.
• 17:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, so good, I'm so excited.
• 17:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'm going to read it, I'm going to buy it.
• 17:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm a buy it, I'm a read it, girl.
• 17:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I got to.
• 17:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, darcy just said thank you, that was very sweet.
• 17:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I talk about a lot of intense thing.
• 17:30
  Carmen Lezeth: That just made me more interested, okay.
• 17:32
  Carmen Lezeth: So I got a couple of DMS this weekend and, listen, I have a right to talk about whatever I want to talk about on my show.
• 17:42
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying this as a thing to everyone.
• 17:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick talks about whatever he wants to talk about on his show.
• 17:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia talks about whatever she wants on her imaginary show.
• 17:51
  Carmen Lezeth: And here's the thing people can bring up whatever they want.
• 17:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I only have two rules.
• 17:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh wait, mr Dawson just said that Alma is working on an erotica novel.
• 18:02
  Rick Costa: Oh, my Okay.
• 18:03
  Carmen Lezeth: And I know Alma, know alma, that's gonna be good.
• 18:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Now, mario, did alma want you to put that out there right now?
• 18:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying like, maybe it's gonna be like a rollout that she wants to do.
• 18:18
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know, that's husband, wife, they're pretty close.
• 18:20
  Carmen Lezeth: She wouldn't do it if she didn't want it, although wouldn't it be interesting if she did?
• 18:24
  Carmen Lezeth: it somebody's in the dark house we're making up stories now about who they fight and I think they're getting divorced.
• 18:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not like a whole thing um so here's what I want to say the only rules I have on my show that I usually break, and I can't break them because it's my show.
• 18:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Is this we try not to talk.
• 18:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Is this we try not to talk about religion and we try not to talk about politics.
• 18:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I've changed the wording to try.
• 18:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I always say don't, but when there's something in the news, we're going to talk about it.
• 18:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Here's the thing.
• 18:57
  Carmen Lezeth: If I choose to change my mind, it's my show.
• 19:00
  Rick Costa: That's right.
• 19:01
  Carmen Lezeth: No one is forcing you to stay here.
• 19:05
  Carmen Lezeth: On the one hand, I have people who want people say they will come on the show.
• 19:08
  Carmen Lezeth: People I love will come on the show if I talk about politics and I'm like I don't want you.
• 19:13
  Carmen Lezeth: There's so many, create your own show.
• 19:16
  Carmen Lezeth: You don't even have to create a show people, you can just go live.
• 19:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You can go live on Facebook.
• 19:21
  Carmen Lezeth: You don't have to buy anything whatever.
• 19:22
  Carmen Lezeth: If you have a Facebook page or you have a YouTube, you can.
• 19:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, but on YouTube I think you have to have a certain amount of followers or something.
• 19:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I think you can do it from your phone regardless, but if you do it, what I'm saying is you don't have to find other people who are having shows to complain, and I feel like everybody is finding reasons to complain all the time.
• 19:45
  Carmen Lezeth: So that was one of the DMs I got, and then the other one was somebody was like you're so pretty, why do you always look so ugly on your show?
• 19:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like what I know.
• 19:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like wow, here's the thing, I know this person.
• 20:00
  Carmen Lezeth: This wasn't like a spam thing or whatever and I didn't even answer that because I was like, wow, that is the weirdest thing.
• 20:06
  Carmen Lezeth: So I only look pretty if I wear makeup.
• 20:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Does that make sense?
• 20:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I want everyone to think about that for a moment.
• 20:14
  Carmen Lezeth: So women look pretty if they wear makeup, but if they don't wear makeup, they're not pretty.
• 20:19
  Carmen Lezeth: That's corny, totally corny.
• 20:21
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm no longer friends with that person.
• 20:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Blocked, blocked.
• 20:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought it was mean and cruel.
• 20:26
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 20:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I feel like Cynthia's going to say something or she's just waking up.
• 20:29
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, no.
• 20:32
  Carmen Lezeth: How was your week, cynthia?
• 20:38
  Cynthia Ruiz: At your new job, week five.
• 20:39
  Cynthia Ruiz: Yes, it's been very busy, oh, but in a good way in a good way.
• 20:45
  Carmen Lezeth: In a good way, okay, I know, because it seemed not, but in a good way.
• 20:46
  Carmen Lezeth: In a good way, in a good way, okay, I know, because it seemed not really in a good way.
• 20:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Good way, good way.
• 20:48
  Cynthia Ruiz: No, no, it's in a good way, because I'm learning more things now.
• 20:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Any gossip with your husband, anything juicy, anything you want to reveal.
• 20:57
  Cynthia Ruiz: No.
• 20:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Nothing, no, nothing, nothing, rick, anything else Nothing, I guess we're going to be done.
• 21:05
  Rick Costa: Yes, yes, yes, I got more.
• 21:07
  Rick Costa: I'm going to do a little teaching lesson in a moment.
• 21:10
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I don't want to bore people right now.
• 21:11
  Carmen Lezeth: So while there's a nice audience, let's give them joy.
• 21:23
  Rick Costa: So I think I might have mentioned I'm not sure if I did or not that my son had to do a test for his physical therapy license for.
• 21:26
  Rick Costa: Connecticut.
• 21:26
  Rick Costa: He's already a doctor, right, you still have to do the test to be official in.
• 21:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Connecticut.
• 21:29
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like a lawyer.
• 21:30
  Rick Costa: You finish?
• 21:30
  Carmen Lezeth: law school and then you have to get the LSATs or whatever.
• 21:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, okay, we're going to get to Darcy in a minute.
• 21:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead.
• 21:36
  Carmen Lezeth: So he took the test.
• 21:38
  Carmen Lezeth: He passed.
• 21:40
  Rick Costa: He passed.
• 21:41
  Rick Costa: He was so happy.
• 21:43
  Rick Costa: And then today that was yesterday I found out on my broadcast and I was, of course, screaming on my broadcast.
• 21:48
  Rick Costa: And then today, my niece, my brother's daughter, she just got promoted to the nursing job that she wanted.
• 21:54
  Rick Costa: I was like, let's go with the young costas, let's go.
• 21:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Come on, that's so good.
• 22:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Mario just said let's set it off.
• 22:02
  Carmen Lezeth: What does that?
• 22:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Mean, I don't know Well, read what Darcy wrote.
• 22:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, no, I'm going to Darcy.
• 22:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Me and my so-called best friend split yesterday.
• 22:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, I will never befriend her again, rest.
• 22:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, is that in the book?
• 22:15
  Carmen Lezeth: No, it happened yesterday.
• 22:16
  Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, that'll be a part two.
• 22:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, darcy, okay.
• 22:22
  Carmen Lezeth: So on the one hand, I must say I'm sorry because she said so-called best friend that means they were best friends.
• 22:30
  Carmen Lezeth: That's hard, that's hard, that's hard.
• 22:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I will say this, and I hope Mia is not listening.
• 22:35
  Carmen Lezeth: So Mia is one of my best friends.
• 22:36
  Carmen Lezeth: We went to college together.
• 22:38
  Carmen Lezeth: We lived together in college.
• 22:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Yep, mia and I had the same thing.
• 22:41
  Carmen Lezeth: It happens.
• 22:42
  Carmen Lezeth: It happens.
• 22:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Mia and I didn't talk for seven months, which was weird.
• 22:47
  Carmen Lezeth: We were just done with each other.
• 22:49
  Carmen Lezeth: And I was done with her because she was dating somebody I didn't like.
• 22:52
  Carmen Lezeth: And I am that person.
• 22:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm that person.
• 22:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I will tell you I do not like this person, but I knew this wasn't just somebody.
• 22:59
  Carmen Lezeth: She was dating Like he had already met her parents, like I knew she always wanted to get married.
• 23:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I was afraid and so I was like no, this is not working.
• 23:07
  Carmen Lezeth: And we connected again because she dumped his ass after whatever not me, many people, whatever and we're still best friends today.
• 23:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So you never know what can happen, but I'm really sorry about that.
• 23:19
  Carmen Lezeth: It's a 20 year friendship.
• 23:21
  Carmen Lezeth: That's terrible.
• 23:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Mario said, when I say let's set it off, it means let's go whoop, whoop their butt because nobody talks about my friend.
• 23:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I think friendships are hard, though.
• 23:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm always shocked by what friends think they can get away with, and that's when you really know they're not really a friend.
• 23:40
  Rick Costa: Yep, it's true.
• 23:42
  Carmen Lezeth: And sometimes it really hurts because you think somebody's your friend and you can't see what you can't see because you're so in it.
• 23:46
  Carmen Lezeth: And sometimes it really hurts because you think somebody's your friend and then and you can't see what you can't see because you're so in it, and then other people will tell you things.
• 23:52
  Carmen Lezeth: The same thing with Mia.
• 23:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Like we were all telling I met the man.
• 23:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like uh-uh, I'm in his face.
• 23:57
  Carmen Lezeth: You can already tell what I did.
• 24:00
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 24:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even have to explain it because you can feel the energy.
• 24:03
  Carmen Lezeth: But she couldn't see it and it wasn't just me, it was all of her friends.
• 24:09
  Carmen Lezeth: And then we had to just let it be.
• 24:11
  Carmen Lezeth: And then she figured it out.
• 24:12
  Carmen Lezeth: And whenever I bring it up and I'm sure if she's listening, she's gonna be like I can't fucking believe and I better not make a clip of this because she'll be pissed.
• 24:22
  Carmen Lezeth: But I'm just saying sometimes, yeah, and it's hard.
• 24:26
  Carmen Lezeth: It's hard.
• 24:27
  Carmen Lezeth: 20 years friendship.
• 24:28
  Carmen Lezeth: What's the longest friendship you've had, cynthia, with a best friend?
• 24:32
  Cynthia Ruiz: let's see, I was friends with someone since the fourth grade and we stopped being friends probably about six months after I met Juan.
• 24:45
  Cynthia Ruiz: I was 18.
• 24:46
  Cynthia Ruiz: No, 19.
• 24:47
  Cynthia Ruiz: That was a long time.
• 24:49
  Cynthia Ruiz: Was she the one that liked Juan?
• 24:52
  Cynthia Ruiz: She liked Juan at first, but there was some jealousy, issues of spending too much time with him and not with her.
• 25:01
  Cynthia Ruiz: We got into a fight, yeah, and that friendship Now it's blown over.
• 25:07
  Cynthia Ruiz: We're friends on Facebook and friends on Facebook are for real and forever.
• 25:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick, you have a best friend now that I never heard of.
• 25:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I remember recently.
• 25:21
  Carmen Lezeth: So Cynthia and I talk every once in a while, once a month, like our own conversation, whatever.
• 25:27
  Carmen Lezeth: And I've known Cynthia since she was born basically I'm older than she is and then one day, out of the blue, she's like oh Carmen, can I call you back?
• 25:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I have to talk to my best friend or something.
• 25:38
  Carmen Lezeth: And I was like.
• 25:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like is she just making up shit to get off the phone with me because I'd never heard of his best friend.
• 25:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like is she just making up shit to get off the phone with me Because I'd never heard of his best friend.
• 25:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I was so humiliated Again, it wasn't about me, she actually has a best friend.
• 25:53
  Carmen Lezeth: So that best friend you've known for how long?
• 25:57
  Cynthia Ruiz: That one for about.
• 25:58
  Cynthia Ruiz: Let me see 20 years.
• 26:01
  Cynthia Ruiz: I have another one that's been 26 years.
• 26:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, these best friends, though, are they imaginary friends?
• 26:06
  Carmen Lezeth: They're best friends, my best friends, yes, okay.
• 26:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy said the thing, oh, the thing.
• 26:15
  Carmen Lezeth: She called me will ensure that I never make up with her.
• 26:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, ooh, okay.
• 26:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Mario said my best friend and I have been friends for over 40 years.
• 26:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Whatever, mario no, I'm just kidding Can you imagine being best friends with Mario for 40 years?
• 26:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't, I can't.
• 26:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I was going to say something like funny, but then it didn't seem funny in my head when I went over it, so I had to let it go.
• 26:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick, what's the longest friend you've ever had?
• 26:47
  Rick Costa: You said friend or best friend.
• 26:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Best friend.
• 26:49
  Rick Costa: Best friend, probably maybe 15 years, but it could be longer, could have been longer, but every time I had a best friend, most of them ended up moving away somewhere.
• 27:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, but moving shouldn't matter, in best friendship-ness.
• 27:03
  Rick Costa: I agree.
• 27:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I agree, but they let you down.
• 27:07
  Rick Costa: But people distance does not make the heart grow fonder in this case, apparently.
• 27:12
  Carmen Lezeth: So wait, was your best friend, like someone you were romantically involved with, or just?
• 27:16
  Rick Costa: No, no, no, no, no, no.
• 27:17
  Rick Costa: But in my heart, in my mind, when you're my friend, you're my friend always, like forever.
• 27:23
  Rick Costa: But apparently, if you move away, out of sight, out of mind, and who is you?
• 27:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but who is you?
• 27:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but did you reach out to them and call and try to be friends Of?
• 27:33
  Rick Costa: course.
• 27:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it possible that you could just lose touch and then you reconnect again, or did you really get hurt because they didn't reach out to you?
• 27:41
  Rick Costa: I mean it's been several people.
• 27:42
  Rick Costa: Oh, thank you, darcy.
• 27:43
  Rick Costa: She said Rick's always come through for me.
• 27:45
  Rick Costa: You're so sweet, thank you.
• 27:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick lets me down every Thursday night, sorry.
• 27:54
  Rick Costa: And who's been with you every Thursday for how long I'm sorry.
• 27:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Tonight I was scared.
• 27:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I had to send you an Instagram.
• 28:01
  Rick Costa: I was like oh did you?
• 28:02
  Rick Costa: I didn't even see it.
• 28:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, because you don't even look at my Instagrams.
• 28:05
  Carmen Lezeth: No more.
• 28:05
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding.
• 28:06
  Rick Costa: No, because I'm busy with mom, I'm just saying but anyway, you know what I really was like.
• 28:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I was just too tired to do this on my own.
• 28:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy said that the name that her ex-best friend called her was really bad.
• 28:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I think the idea that any friend of mine would call me a name A best friend would never call me a name that's just wrong.
• 28:27
  Carmen Lezeth: That's a whole other connection I can't even deal with.
• 28:33
  Carmen Lezeth: That's strange.
• 28:34
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm really sorry about that, Cause that must hurt your feelings.
• 28:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I know that would hurt my feelings.
• 28:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I've ever had a friend call me a name not to my face, and certainly not anything I heard about Cause I would.
• 28:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 28:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I think if you're in a heat, like in a moment of anger, if your best friend still calls you like me and Andrea have never had an all out fight.
• 28:55
  Carmen Lezeth: We've been mad at each other, but we just don't talk to each other for five days you know what I mean Like in silence, but there's no like name calling or yeah and Cynthia, when you and I had a fight, you were vile.
• 29:13
  Cynthia Ruiz: You apologized, but the words out of your mouth were so bad.
• 29:15
  Rick Costa: Every name in the book Wow In Spanish and English Right.
• 29:19
  Carmen Lezeth: It was because you can imagine Cynthia being.
• 29:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, you guys can?
• 29:23
  Carmen Lezeth: It's usually the quiet ones, right?
• 29:25
  Carmen Lezeth: You see what I'm saying?
• 29:26
  Carmen Lezeth: The giggly quiet ones Am.
• 29:28
  Cynthia Ruiz: I right Am I?
• 29:28
  Carmen Lezeth: right.
• 29:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy said after she called me that I hate to admit it, but I let it rip on her and I went crazy on her booty.
• 29:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm being all like casual now and I'm usually staring at her ass.
• 29:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I can't wait to read this book.
• 29:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I was talking about that, but you can already tell she got juice going.
• 29:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, she got juice going, darcy.
• 29:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry, it feels like it's really raw and new and that's the hardest part and I have no words to share to say it's going to get better.
• 29:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Blah, blah, blah.
• 29:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Now that bullshittery everyone tries to do to make you feel better, because it just sucks and I'm sorry you're going through it and I'm sorry she hurt you.
• 30:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 30:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I have a hard time with friendships that are not really friendships and I let them go pretty quickly.
• 30:14
  Carmen Lezeth: But I don't know.
• 30:16
  Carmen Lezeth: We've talked about relationships before, about friendships and the definitions of friendship, but I think, like for me, mario and I had stopped just out of circumstance, like I, he moved on from city, national bank, I had left brand new school, little distance, you know what I mean.
• 30:34
  Carmen Lezeth: We hadn't talked for a while.
• 30:35
  Carmen Lezeth: But then the definition of friendship that became.
• 30:38
  Carmen Lezeth: The thing is that once we reconnected, it was like just yesterday yeah.
• 30:44
  Rick Costa: That's the way I am.
• 30:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 30:46
  Rick Costa: Everybody is.
• 30:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I think it's about connection, though.
• 30:49
  Carmen Lezeth: So maybe the people that moved away weren't really connected to you in the way you thought.
• 30:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that possible that hours and hours and drove to his house like a half an hour, so other people understand?
• 31:10
  Carmen Lezeth: The definition of friendship from my point of view is like it's not.
• 31:14
  Carmen Lezeth: It doesn't matter what we do as individuals in the friendship.
• 31:18
  Carmen Lezeth: What matters is understand the reciprocation and understand what they're going through.
• 31:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Right and understanding.
• 31:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Are they really that friend?
• 31:27
  Rick Costa: Right, yeah, like the friend I have now.
• 31:30
  Cynthia Ruiz: Me.
• 31:31
  Rick Costa: Definitely.
• 31:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, of course, my actual best breath, like you, literally you said, like actual, I'm not actually a friend best I'm not your best what the fuck am I in my book?
• 31:44
  Rick Costa: best friends talk almost every day, almost every day you have to talk every day.
• 31:49
  Rick Costa: We, my best friend we talk pretty much every day, yeah okay, I'm on it.
• 31:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm gonna call you tomorrow.
• 31:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Boo, I'm just kidding, I'm just messing with you.
• 31:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Alma just said my bestie sister and I have been together for 36 years.
• 32:01
  Carmen Lezeth: That's really cool.
• 32:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy said she was never a true friend and I kept thinking she would change, but she didn't.
• 32:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's hard.
• 32:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's right, mar Mario.
• 32:11
  Carmen Lezeth: It's about authenticity what I said.
• 32:14
  Cynthia Ruiz: That's tough because in Darcy's eyes that she was her best friend.
• 32:17
  Cynthia Ruiz: But this woman obviously didn't see Darcy as hers because she she said it right there she thought she would change over time but she didn't but look at Darcy looking out.
• 32:28
  Carmen Lezeth: She's like hey, am I your best friend, rick?
• 32:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Exactly, you need to choose, you need to choose, you need to choose.
• 32:33
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding, I'm just messing with you.
• 32:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so you and your best friend talk every day.
• 32:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I used to do that when I was like in my 20s, me and I used to talk every day, but now we don't, yeah.
• 32:52
  Rick Costa: And he's proven over and over again like he's.
• 32:53
  Rick Costa: When I got in my car accident a few years ago, he was like an hour away.
• 32:55
  Rick Costa: He immediately drove to me to help me.
• 32:56
  Rick Costa: We're there for each other.
• 32:56
  Rick Costa: It's like constantly, anytime he needs me.
• 32:57
  Rick Costa: Vice versa.
• 32:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Does he watch the show?
• 32:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Because that would define my understanding if he's really your best friend.
• 33:02
  Rick Costa: I don't know if he watches this show.
• 33:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, but he watches your show every day.
• 33:07
  Rick Costa: No, not every day.
• 33:09
  Carmen Lezeth: He needs to watch this show.
• 33:10
  Carmen Lezeth: If he wants to be considered your best friend, he needs to support the show.
• 33:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying, I'm just kidding.
• 33:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy said she always wanted to see how much money she could get out of me.
• 33:19
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I'm thinking this really no, I don't want to define it just based on a chat thing or whatever.
• 33:24
  Carmen Lezeth: But again it goes back to that thing I was saying before is I think sometimes we put more into the relationship than we understand the other person's putting in as well.
• 33:37
  Carmen Lezeth: This is with all friendships.
• 33:38
  Carmen Lezeth: This is it.
• 33:38
  Carmen Lezeth: It's all relationships.
• 33:38
  Carmen Lezeth: It's mother, daughter, sister, brother, it's friendships, romance, whatever you.
• 33:42
  Carmen Lezeth: There's a give and take.
• 33:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Sometimes your friend needs more, more love, more hugs, more understanding, more compassion, and then it switches right.
• 33:53
  Carmen Lezeth: So it balances out.
• 33:55
  Carmen Lezeth: If you're not getting that, if you're not getting that like I have one friend who I don't talk to anymore and I know he gets it because he stopped calling me he really was just a good friend.
• 34:05
  Carmen Lezeth: We actually met in church at Agape and he's a good guy.
• 34:09
  Carmen Lezeth: But it's just the constant.
• 34:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I felt like there was a constant grievance, constant negativity, constant doing bad and I was just like I can't take on this all the time.
• 34:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't do it.
• 34:23
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 34:24
  Carmen Lezeth: And it's not that I, if he called tomorrow and said he needed something, I would help him.
• 34:28
  Carmen Lezeth: But and then so it's been like a year or two.
• 34:31
  Carmen Lezeth: And it's so funny because I was just thinking about him the other day.
• 34:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm hoping he was doing well and but I would never say he was my best friend and we were friends.
• 34:42
  Carmen Lezeth: But now I'm like, okay, it's just changed.
• 34:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Right now he needs to get into a better space, to be in my aura or whatever you want to call it, cause I can't take all that negativity.
• 34:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't mean that in an ego way.
• 34:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I think we all need to do that.
• 34:52
  Carmen Lezeth: We all need to find ways to protect our aura, our spirit, our joy and I'm not saying that in a funny way, I'm saying that for real, like if there's anything being older has taught me is exactly that you can't let toxicity be in your life, especially when you see it.
• 35:11
  Carmen Lezeth: And people see toxicity and then they stay in it, which I don't understand.
• 35:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't get it.
• 35:16
  Carmen Lezeth: But why are you laughing, cynthia?
• 35:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Because it's true.
• 35:21
  Cynthia Ruiz: It's so true.
• 35:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Expand on your truth.
• 35:28
  Cynthia Ruiz: No, it's very true, and I know you are very quick to get rid of negativity in your life we're going back to me and my past.
• 35:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Look it.
• 35:40
  Carmen Lezeth: We all have different paths.
• 35:41
  Carmen Lezeth: We all have strengths and weaknesses and I've said this before our strengths and our weaknesses are always also the opposite.
• 35:48
  Carmen Lezeth: So a lot of my strength is also my weakness.
• 35:50
  Carmen Lezeth: It's hard for me after my three-time rule to give people another chance.
• 35:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I really have the inability.
• 36:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I can forgive you, but I don't want to see a dumb ass in my life ever again.
• 36:05
  Cynthia Ruiz: You know what I mean.
• 36:06
  Carmen Lezeth: You can go do your thing, but after three times of hurting me and hurting me.
• 36:12
  Carmen Lezeth: It takes a lot to hurt me, but if you hurt me more than three times you're done out of my life.
• 36:17
  Carmen Lezeth: It's a really simple rule that works for me.
• 36:21
  Carmen Lezeth: And the reason why Cynthia's laughing is because I've done it with blood DNA people and I did it a long time ago.
• 36:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I was much younger and everybody was stunned that I had done it Not stunned, but it was a pretty remarkable thing for me to be able to do.
• 36:36
  Carmen Lezeth: But I did it because I had support elsewhere and I think that's the difference, right, I had a whole support network somewhere else so I could walk away from pain.
• 36:48
  Carmen Lezeth: And also, by the way, it wasn't just for me, it was also for them.
• 36:53
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 36:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't think of it that way because it was selfish on my part I was protecting me, but at the end of the day, I think they live happier, lovelier lives without me in it.
• 37:03
  Rick Costa: That's how I see it Cynthia's.
• 37:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I ain't even going to say a word.
• 37:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to leave that alone.
• 37:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Because Cynthia's in touch with those people, so that's why she's staying.
• 37:14
  Cynthia Ruiz: I don't act like I call them every day.
• 37:16
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just saying, and I understand there's issues, complications, whatever.
• 37:22
  Rick Costa: I think with some people they've just grown up with that and that's literally all they've experienced and known, and so for them that's just the way it is.
• 37:30
  Rick Costa: They don't realize there's a way out of the toxicity.
• 37:32
  Rick Costa: They just think this is normal and they don't realize no, this is definitely not normal.
• 37:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy just said her name is okay.
• 37:40
  Carmen Lezeth: We're not going to do that.
• 37:41
  Carmen Lezeth: She started putting down my son, who has.
• 37:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm surprised I didn't go after her.
• 37:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, darcy, here's what I'm going to suggest, though I'm going to suggest something.
• 37:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Girl, I don't want you to write anything.
• 37:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I know I don't know you, but I say this from love and from a place of experience.
• 37:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't want you to write no more in the chat that you may regret 10 years later or three months later and it's still on my chat because it's going to be on Rick's and Cynthia's.
• 38:10
  Carmen Lezeth: And I say that because I think sometimes, when things happen close, like in time period, we haven't had a moment.
• 38:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not saying you're going to forgive her, I'm not saying she's ever going to be a friend again or whatever, but I don't know you at all.
• 38:22
  Carmen Lezeth: But I feel very comfortable saying that you don't want to hurt somebody else.
• 38:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I know you wanted to hurt her yesterday or whenever this happened, but I think in the bigger picture of who you are, you know.
• 38:34
  Carmen Lezeth: You see what I'm saying, though Like I, I just I just feel like you have a good energy and I'm not even into energy, but you know what I'm saying.
• 38:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I think most people sometimes in the heat of the moment, will say things and then be like, ooh, I wish I didn't do, you know.
• 38:49
  Carmen Lezeth: So I just I'm trying to protect you in a way.
• 38:51
  Carmen Lezeth: You have every right to feel the way you feel.
• 38:53
  Carmen Lezeth: So that's not what I'm saying.
• 38:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I just don't want you to put it down and regret it in a few weeks, especially when the podcast goes viral and crazy.
• 39:02
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 39:03
  Carmen Lezeth: And then people are like who is this Darcy woman?
• 39:04
  Carmen Lezeth: But that would be good, because then they're going to buy her book because we talked about it earlier.
• 39:09
  Carmen Lezeth: It's going to be available on Tuesday.
• 39:11
  Carmen Lezeth: What's the date?
• 39:12
  Carmen Lezeth: August 4th, sixth, Sixth Wait, what's the name of the book?
• 39:18
  Rick Costa: Scapegoat.
• 39:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Scapegoat on Amazon.
• 39:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Look at me doing all this free publicity no.
• 39:24
  Cynthia Ruiz: I'm happy.
• 39:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, I know what it's like to be an author first time author writing your pain and your whatever down and then putting it out there.
• 39:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I know.
• 39:33
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm just so happy for you.
• 39:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Again, bravo, and don't write the second book right away.
• 39:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Give it some time.
• 39:40
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't want to talk about this in the book too much.
• 39:43
  Carmen Lezeth: It comes out on her birthday.
• 39:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh okay, oh, that's going to be good.
• 39:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to try to watch on Saturday.
• 39:52
  Carmen Lezeth: What time?
• 39:52
  Rick Costa: Saturday One o'clock my time, your time, one o'clock.
• 39:55
  Rick Costa: Yeah, one o'clock I'm going to try.
• 39:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to try At rickkostacom oh there's always a replay too.
• 39:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I could do the replay if I wasn't so busy.
• 40:05
  Rick Costa: All the editing.
• 40:07
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
• 40:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I'm going to do it again.
• 40:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I know I'm trying not to complain.
• 40:11
  Rick Costa: Oh, so you were explaining.
• 40:12
  Rick Costa: The difference between you and me is I don't do any editing, I just go live and it's done and that's it.
• 40:17
  Rick Costa: I don't think about it, but not yours.
• 40:18
  Rick Costa: You have to go back because you got to fix the audio and the podcast.
• 40:21
  Rick Costa: It's a lot more work.
• 40:22
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I upload it on the podcast and then I do clips so that we can hey.
• 40:27
  Rick Costa: I don't know how to say Rina Rafia.
• 40:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Rafia.
• 40:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you know, rafia?
• 40:32
  Rick Costa: Yeah, she's my Muslim friend from England.
• 40:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, rafia, I love the name, but I didn't want to mess it up.
• 40:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I wasn't sure.
• 40:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, yeah, so it's because we're trying to gain an audience on the podcast and I had first started doing the podcast before I did the live stream, so it became Bing.
• 40:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, she's so cute.
• 40:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Darcy's like deleted that comment with her name on it.
• 40:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Good, hey, mr Mate, what's his name?
• 40:55
  Rick Costa: Anthony.
• 40:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, Anthony Rick.
• 40:58
  Carmen Lezeth: How do you know?
• 40:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Because people come on your show all the time, so you remember everybody.
• 41:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember people's like their moniker and then their real name.
• 41:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I try, my memory sucks usually, but I try, but it's eight years, so I guess that's different.
• 41:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but your show is also.
• 41:14
  Carmen Lezeth: You do it every day, you do it solo.
• 41:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So even if you had to edit anything or even if you wanted to edit anything, it's just new, so it'd be one track.
• 41:21
  Carmen Lezeth: But again, I'm not trying to complain, I'm trying to just figure out a way to give myself a break once in a while.
• 41:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what my.
• 41:34
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not my rush, but it's I just liked.
• 41:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I like the end result, I like that somehow people are laughing or telling me oh my God, that show is so funny, who's that guy?
• 41:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Or?
• 41:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I realized I haven't finished the website, I haven't put up our store yet, even though the store is ready, I just haven't put it up yet.
• 41:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I haven't.
• 41:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I have everybody's bios ready.
• 41:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I just I.
• 41:50
  Carmen Lezeth: And I realized you know what I got to calm down, I gave myself a three year business plan and I don't know why I came up with that.
• 41:58
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 41:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I put myself in a box and then I was like suffocating in it because I put up all these rules, because I want it to be something substantial, and I want, but we do have an thank you everyone who's listening.
• 42:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate you all.
• 42:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I really do, and I should just be okay with the fact that we're having fun and chit chatting.
• 42:20
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 42:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 42:21
  Rick Costa: And no matter what, we're here every Thursday, so they always have something to watch and listen to.
• 42:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Sadie.
• 42:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, sadie, I asked Tony for your information so that I could email you, so you and I could chat.
• 42:33
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't have to do a live stream or whatever, but I thought you and I could have a separate chat.
• 42:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Can you go to my contact page or something?
• 42:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Go to aatjoycom and send me your information, or tell Tony to send me your email or something.
• 42:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know Sadie's real name, like her last name, to find her on anything.
• 42:53
  Carmen Lezeth: But hi, sadie, thank you for stopping by.
• 42:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate you so much, oh thank you.
• 42:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Alma.
• 42:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, no problem, cool, thank you, sadie.
• 43:01
  Carmen Lezeth: So, yeah, so that's what my realization was this year, this past weekend, if you're stressed, just eat chocolate.
• 43:08
  Carmen Lezeth: You have no idea.
• 43:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Honey, my hips will tell you I do.
• 43:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, Darcy, tony D just said happy birthday.
• 43:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, happy birthday, sadie.
• 43:23
  Rick Costa: Oh yeah.
• 43:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, it's Sadie's birthday.
• 43:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, Happy birthday.
• 43:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought he was saying happy birthday to Darcy.
• 43:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, Darcy, you can find me at Carmen Lisette.
• 43:35
  Carmen Lezeth: So if you go to, I guess I could do the little thing here.
• 43:38
  Cynthia Ruiz: Let me just I never said it to her.
• 43:41
  Carmen Lezeth: No, but don't I have this right here where I do?
• 43:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it showing?
• 43:46
  Carmen Lezeth: No, there it is.
• 43:48
  Carmen Lezeth: If you go there you can find all my links.
• 43:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Yep, the AT joycom, all about the joycom.
• 43:57
  Carmen Lezeth: But even if you go to the website all about the joycom you can find all my links there.
• 44:01
  Carmen Lezeth: But it's at Carmen Lee sat and Lee said is L-E-Z-E-T-H.
• 44:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Why is Tony doing that?
• 44:08
  Rick Costa: I don't know.
• 44:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Tony, if you have time to do all that in the chat, you could come online and say it to my face.
• 44:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, he knows what I'm saying.
• 44:18
  Carmen Lezeth: He knows what I'm trying to say there you got something to say baby, say it to my face.
• 44:25
  Cynthia Ruiz: What he's going to come in with this look like what did you say?
• 44:31
  Carmen Lezeth: he afraid, he afraid, he afraid.
• 44:32
  Carmen Lezeth: There is something I want to talk about in the last 10 minutes.
• 44:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick, you don't have to reward me, because now I'm not sure I already had it ready.
• 44:38
  Rick Costa: You're right, I already typed it in, ready to go here's the thing everyone you should also know.
• 44:42
  Carmen Lezeth: The other thing is we keep going long, which is really fun, or whatever, and I think one of the things I talked to rick about is that eventually I'd love to do a maybe friday night, which is just for fun.
• 44:53
  Carmen Lezeth: We could stay on for as long as people want to stay on, but then people don't have to work in the morning.
• 44:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Blah, blah, blah.
• 44:58
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, but the thursday night show really is what I want to try to promote for the podcast and have it on a regular basis.
• 45:06
  Rick Costa: Oh, Sorry Go ahead, man, I thought it was going to go like this.
• 45:13
  Rick Costa: I was close.
• 45:13
  Rick Costa: I thought it was going to go like this.
• 45:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Say it to my face Go ahead.
• 45:23
  Tony D.: I don't know why everybody can understand me, but you.
• 45:27
  Tony D.: Hey, his mic is working good today and you're going to say somebody else's name, then read it and be like oh, it's her birthday.
• 45:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, you said happy birthday, Sadie.
• 45:39
  Tony D.: How's everybody doing?
• 45:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, did that not say happy birthday Sadie.
• 45:43
  Tony D.: At first you didn't.
• 45:43
  Tony D.: You'll see it on the replay.
• 45:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Because I thought you would, because you missed.
• 45:46
  Carmen Lezeth: It was Darcy's birthday on Tuesday, that's when her book's coming out.
• 45:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Happy birthday, Darcy.
• 45:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I did not know.
• 45:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so.
• 45:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought okay, you want to apologize to me now.
• 45:53
  Carmen Lezeth: No, it was just.
• 45:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought you were saying happy birthday to Darcy.
• 45:57
  Carmen Lezeth: What name is behind the happy birthday?
• 45:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I just saw the happy B and then a D.
• 46:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't see the S because I was going so fast because I'm trying to host the show.
• 46:07
  Tony D.: We've been around each other for a year, I have to tell you it is not that hard.
• 46:13
  Carmen Lezeth: It is not that hard.
• 46:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Here's the thing.
• 46:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I think you want me to understand you better than I have the capability of doing, or that I care to.
• 46:26
  Cynthia Ruiz: You care to See.
• 46:29
  Tony D.: Excuse me, I've been up here a lot.
• 46:32
  Tony D.: I said I was going to sit back.
• 46:33
  Tony D.: I went and got something to eat.
• 46:34
  Tony D.: I was taking my time, I was getting situated.
• 46:36
  Tony D.: You got something to say to my face.
• 46:37
  Cynthia Ruiz: I will click the hell out of it.
• 46:38
  Cynthia Ruiz: You know why I said that.
• 46:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Did you not get?
• 46:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Why I said that?
• 46:41
  Carmen Lezeth: You did not.
• 46:42
  Carmen Lezeth: You have no.
• 46:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Sadie understood why I said it.
• 46:44
  Carmen Lezeth: They understood why I said it.
• 46:47
  Carmen Lezeth: You have no idea.
• 46:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let me just give my little lesson I want to give today.
• 46:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I have a little lesson I want to share with you.
• 46:53
  Carmen Lezeth: How's everybody doing?
• 46:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Tony, we down to nine minutes?
• 46:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Alma, alma, no.
• 47:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Never ever, ever do that.
• 47:06
  Tony D.: We're going to have people coming down in this room.
• 47:09
  Tony D.: How are you all a hold of me?
• 47:10
  Tony D.: This is what me and her do.
• 47:11
  Tony D.: This is why we are on the opposite sides of the country.
• 47:14
  Carmen Lezeth: That's right, this is what we do.
• 47:15
  Carmen Lezeth: We fight, but we love, but we fight.
• 47:22
  Tony D.: Don't tell her her voice changing on me.
• 47:23
  Tony D.: We love, but we fight.
• 47:26
  Carmen Lezeth: That's the way it is, though.
• 47:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, wait, I do have to do this lesson.
• 47:30
  Carmen Lezeth: There's a reason why this is not about politics.
• 47:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Like Spole siblings, that's a good one.
• 47:35
  Carmen Lezeth: That's right, anthony.
• 47:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, here's the thing.
• 47:37
  Carmen Lezeth: So, on TikTok, I posted a TikTok explaining to people that I was both Latina and Black.
• 47:43
  Carmen Lezeth: So we're not getting into politics, but I do want to explain to people in case there's any confusion.
• 47:49
  Carmen Lezeth: This past week Was it yesterday, the day before Donald Trump was at the I'm taking the day off.
• 47:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't tell you to come up.
• 47:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I did not tell you to come up.
• 47:58
  Carmen Lezeth: We're not going to talk about politics.
• 48:00
  Carmen Lezeth: You said it in my face.
• 48:01
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what you did.
• 48:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I said it in my face and you said nothing.
• 48:03
  Tony D.: You said nothing in my face.
• 48:04
  Tony D.: I got all zoomed up, I pulled a Mario, I got all in the camera.
• 48:08
  Carmen Lezeth: That's my boy, mario, but you said nothing, and then you realized that it was just a little mistake and that you understood that I was saying.
• 48:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought you said happy birthday to Darcy.
• 48:17
  Rick Costa: Is this a black job?
• 48:18
  Rick Costa: We kids in the house?
• 48:28
  Rick Costa: That's an excellent question.
• 48:29
  Rick Costa: Go ahead.
• 48:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Here's what I do.
• 48:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Want to explain something because I think it's important For everyone who's listening.
• 48:37
  Carmen Lezeth: This is not just about politics.
• 48:39
  Tony D.: Six and a half minutes.
• 48:40
  Carmen Lezeth: There are four races.
• 48:42
  Carmen Lezeth: There are only four races.
• 48:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, this is how Vice President Harris and we we're gonna put respect on her name.
• 48:53
  Carmen Lezeth: If you don't know how to say her first name, you can call her.
• 48:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Vice president harris can be both with tony la cara.
• 48:57
  Carmen Lezeth: What's with the face?
• 48:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Why are you?
• 49:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm keeping my opinion to myself.
• 49:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I've been in opinion.
• 49:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I am trying to just put a smile with I'm this about opinion.
• 49:08
  Carmen Lezeth: This is a fact.
• 49:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to explain why people are confused, because I get the same drama from people when you're mixed.
• 49:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, there are four races.
• 49:17
  Carmen Lezeth: The four races are black, white, asian, and then the fourth one is called and this I get it wrong all the time.
• 49:26
  Carmen Lezeth: It's called where is it?
• 49:28
  Carmen Lezeth: It used to be called it's like Austrioid, okay, austrioid.
• 49:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like Australia, but with an IOD.
• 49:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, and it says it's a historical grouping of people indigenous to Australia and Melanesia.
• 49:47
  Carmen Lezeth: It can also refer to people from parts of Southeast Asia and South Asia.
• 49:52
  Carmen Lezeth: So the thing about race that's interesting is that race is a construct, about what we look like.
• 49:58
  Carmen Lezeth: It's usually about skin color, right, it's usually about characteristics, like what our nose looks like, our hair, whatever, but usually race is about we see something and we have we look alike.
• 50:10
  Carmen Lezeth: There's more like of me and Tony than maybe me and Rick.
• 50:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so, race, there's only four races.
• 50:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Kamala Harris, vice president Harris, has two races One is black and one is Asian.
• 50:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I have, I am black and my ethnicity is Latina, so ethnicity is different from race.
• 50:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Ethnicity is where you come from, so you can be white and be Irish.
• 50:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Your race is white, your ethnicity is Irish or Scottish or whatever.
• 50:48
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean Latino, like my mother's from Honduras.
• 50:52
  Carmen Lezeth: The reason why this is so important is because people are trying to disparage Vice President Harris for being both Black and Asian.
• 51:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Her family is very mixed, like all of ours, all of us if you're white, you're not just white, exactly, and now let me explain the last part of this that I think is really important.
• 51:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Like all of ours, all of us If you're white, you're not just white.
• 51:12
  Carmen Lezeth: And now let me explain the last part of this that I think is really important.
• 51:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Nationality is where we come from as a nation.
• 51:21
  Carmen Lezeth: So everyone on this live right now is from the United States of America.
• 51:23
  Carmen Lezeth: That's our nationality from America.
• 51:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so please Google and understand before you start making accusations.
• 51:32
  Carmen Lezeth: You can find different ways to disapprove of Donald Trump or disapprove of Kamala Harris.
• 51:41
  Carmen Lezeth: You can have your differences about whoever you want, but be better than trying to knock people down because of where they come from and who they are as individuals.
• 51:52
  Carmen Lezeth: That's like the lowest you can go, like I'm and this isn't just about the political thing, I'm just saying in general.
• 51:59
  Carmen Lezeth: We're so afraid of people that don't look like us, so we don't understand, instead of embracing the possibility that we could learn something and be somebody and do something.
• 52:10
  Carmen Lezeth: How do you, rafia?
• 52:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that how?
• 52:12
  Rick Costa: you say it, rafia.
• 52:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Rafia, I've been seeing the images on X as well.
• 52:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's not fair to disparage her like that.
• 52:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Albeit, I don't live in USA.
• 52:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, okay, thank you for saying that.
• 52:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry I didn't mean to say everybody in the chat as well, I meant here, but you're right.
• 52:25
  Carmen Lezeth: But thank you for saying that.
• 52:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's just the lowest of low when we become those people, and I think the smarter thing to do, the better thing to do, is not only be educated and know those differences but also understand.
• 52:40
  Carmen Lezeth: That's the if you.
• 52:41
  Carmen Lezeth: There are so many other things you can argue with her about If you want to.
• 52:45
  Carmen Lezeth: If you can find something in her policies or things that she's done that you don't agree with, then that's going to be the high watermark for you to have a really good, solid argument.
• 52:56
  Carmen Lezeth: But to be taking people down and look at I said this when I was a kid, not that I would ever change where I come from, who I am or what I look like, but none of us have any control over that it's like being mad at somebody because they have blue eyes or brown eyes.
• 53:14
  Carmen Lezeth: It's the most ridiculous, pathetic thing, and all you're doing is showing I'm going to say it, your racism and your uneducated-ness and I just showed mine, because that's not really a word educated-ness.
• 53:27
  Carmen Lezeth: But you see what I'm saying there?
• 53:30
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like you're just showing who you are and how little you know.
• 53:34
  Carmen Lezeth: So please, I'm gonna say it one last time race, ethnicity, nationality, those are three different things and we all fit under those categories.
• 53:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, go, tony, I feel like you have something you want to say about that.
• 53:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you disagree with those?
• 53:53
  Carmen Lezeth: You got one minute left, sid.
• 53:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Now he's on the thing, cynthia.
• 53:58
  Cynthia Ruiz: No, I agree 100%.
• 54:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Rick.
• 54:03
  Rick Costa: Humans are weird.
• 54:04
  Rick Costa: I've always said this that if something happened and the world and they did a TV show about this something happened and the world went blind, everybody we would find something else to nitpick about.
• 54:17
  Rick Costa: Yeah, and it's crazy.
• 54:19
  Rick Costa: Why are humans like this?
• 54:20
  Rick Costa: I don't understand.
• 54:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's just an easy way.
• 54:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Look, I've said this before.
• 54:25
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I love this show and I love all about the joy as the concept and I love that I figured that out about myself that no matter what I went through as a kid, I always tried to find the joy.
• 54:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I think as humans, we tend to I don't know we always want to see the car accident, we always want to be in the drama.
• 54:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it takes a lot of effort to get out of the drama, to get out of to drama, to get out of, to force yourself to move away from that.
• 54:50
  Carmen Lezeth: And I have to tell you, it's like we were saying earlier getting toxic people out of your life.
• 54:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Why do we stay in it?
• 54:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Why do we stay in it?
• 54:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Because I think there's something that gravitates us to be in that situation.
• 55:03
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean To be in that situation, so we can maybe be figuring out something or trying to fix other people or whatever, when the easier thing to do is to walk away and fix yourself.
• 55:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie, this will be the last comment I say, because we're going to jump off.
• 55:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie said I wish politicians would just talk about their policies and not putting down their opponent.
• 55:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Melanie, you and I, we agree all the time.
• 55:25
  Carmen Lezeth: We have political differences, and yet you and I always agree on the same fundamental things, and this is why I believe our country is far more in the middle and agree on more things than we don't.
• 55:37
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, that's happening way too much.
• 55:40
  Carmen Lezeth: We're putting down each other instead of talking about our policies and arguing about things that are of substance, that really matter.
• 55:47
  Carmen Lezeth: With that said, I just want to say thank you to everyone who stopped by today.
• 55:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what's happening, but I'm grateful.
• 55:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, thank you, thank you.
• 55:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Shout out to everyone watching the show.
• 55:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you for everyone who stopped by in the chat.
• 56:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I adore you so much.
• 56:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate all the new people.
• 56:04
  Carmen Lezeth: So, with all that said, please remember everyone.
• 56:06
  Carmen Lezeth: It really is all about the joy.
• 56:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Please smash that like button, please, please.
• 56:12
  Carmen Lezeth: We really could use that, and we'll see you guys again next week.
• 56:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, bye everyone, see ya.
• 56:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
• 56:22
  Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy be better and stay beautiful.
• 56:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Folks have a sweet day.