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EP083: Fomo and Toxic Positivity · Unpause Your Life

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  You are listening to unpause your life with doctor Kelly es Says and Master Coach
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  Jenny Fontana, founders of the Life Coach Method. Each one of our uplifting
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  and deep dive episodes is geared to help you tackle the things that hold you
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  back from having the most magnificent life you deserved. Sit back, relax,
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  and prepare to be coached. Yes, you wake up, there's a negative
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  event. All right, let's hit the dog pete on the carpet. Toxic
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  pots positivity goes, Oh, that's okay, I'm gonna get a new carpet
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  anyway. I'm not worried about it. I'm glad the dog pete on the
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  carpet. Now I can get the new carpet. I've always wonted. So
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  the next event happens it's negative, and you come up with another positive reason
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  that happened. That's toxic positivity consistently. After a while, it's exhausting because
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  you know in your head you're really upset the dog pede on the carpet.
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  I want you to try something else. Acknowledge the dog pede on the carpet,
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  acknowledge your feeling around it. I am pissed off. I am irritated,
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  I am angry, I am frustrated. Whatever it is, be grateful
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  it wasn't worse. I'm glad the dog pede and didn't poop on the carpet
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  or chew it up. Okay, action step, I'm gonna get the carpet
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  cleaned. The rest of my day will be great. That's how you combat
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  toxic positivity and not getting into a negative, downward spiral, the spiral of
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  death, as I call it. So in the culture that we live in,
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  and it's not just in the United States, it's all over the world.
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  You've got a bunch of people that are making waves on social media,
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  getting attention, getting likes, getting followers, and they don't generally have the
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  training of the education for the message they're putting out there. They've googled it,
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  they've read a white paper whatever, and they're trying to promote something a
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  certain way. That's why we're hearing so much pop psychology. You're hearing breadcrumbing
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  and gaslighting, and you're hearing coupling, and you're hearing all these words that
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  don't even exist in the therapy cycle of things being created by people on the
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  internet with a name that they think they know about. That's why toxic positivity
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  is becoming prevalent. It's the new pop culture pop word. So again,
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  how do you combat fomo and toxic positivity? The first thing is trying not
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  to go down the TikTok rabbit hole, the Instagram rabbit hole of reels and
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  videos and YouTube, unless it's someone you trust and know that's been doing this
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  type of work for some length of time that has some educational backing behind it.
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  You see me, I did a reel on the narcissist thing. There's
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  too many people calling each other narcissist. It doesn't even meet criteria. Just
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  put it that way. It's a pop term. It garners likes and attention.
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  Those people that need millions of likes and attention have fomo. They have
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  fear of missing out, missing out on a like, missing out on a
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  friend, missing out on a follow, missing out on the attention. All
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  of those things are fomo. Toxic positivity is one way to combat fomo,
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  but it actually creates pomo. So that's your lesson for today. Take it
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  through out. It's worth definitely check out the secret triangle. It's one of
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  the best ways to explain what I do and how to use law of attraction
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  and how to use your brain to get what you want correctly. Have a
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  great day. Listen to the podcast, check out Unpauseourlife dot com and as
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  always, the Addictions Coach dot com. See you guys soon. Thank you
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  for listening to Unpause your Life with doctor Calli Estez and Master Coach Jenny Fontana.
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  Head over to www. Dot The Lifecoach method dot com to learn more
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  about coaching yourself and how to become a Master Coach.