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That GenX Friend: Appropriate emotional responses can make a world of difference · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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Hello, welcome or welcome back to that Gen.
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X Friend podcast. Forgive me if I sound a little,
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I don't know, emotionally heightened right now.
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That's actually exactly I think this is very appropriate, the
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topic that I'm covering. So, but before I start, sorry I
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got a little distracted squirrel.
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If you listen to my last podcast, I talked about always
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being distracted. Anyways, I'm back.
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So before I start, as usual, I want to give a shout out to MB
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Radio for give me a platform to share, to share some of these
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life experiences. And wow, life is unpredictable
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for sure, for sure. So today's topic is about having
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an appropriate emotional response to whatever situation
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that you're encountering, right? So when I first started, I was a
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little, like I said, I think I said emotionally heightened,
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which is true because I'll just kind of describe to you the
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situation. I have lived basically the last
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week without electricity because the area that I lived in or that
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I'm living in had been declared a disaster zone due to a weather
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unprecedented weather event, right?
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How many times? How many more times can we live
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through another unprecedented blah blah blah.
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Please, dear God help us all. Anyways, so I've been since
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getting my power back. Thank God for that.
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Never have I been so happy to take a, you know, hot bath.
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Anyways, enough about that. So I've been trying to catch up
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doing a lot of stuff, you know, and also a lot of stuff that I
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normally do I'm I'm needing to do too.
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So I went out this morning as usual early in the morning so I
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don't pass out from heat exhaustion to mow my lawn.
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But it took a little bit longer than usual because I had to deal
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with unplanned lawn care issues. So also my allergies are going
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crazy. So I'm so sorry guys.
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So but I had planned to record this a lot earlier first.
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I usually am up between anywhere between like 12:00 AM or like
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fully awake right? Because I'm just so exhausted, I
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can't sleep. And actually I was able to kind
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of stay in bed and not be so peeved that I was just get up
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sometimes. I always just stay up.
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But I was able to stay in bed until 4:00 in the morning.
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Yeah, so, so that's usually my, when I want to get up to get
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things started. So I didn't, I was like, yay, I
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got up, you know, I, I got to stay in bed and not be so mad
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that I didn't sleep all night. And at least I was able to close
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my eyes and just rest my eyes. So like, yes, I'm getting
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started properly. I do my thing.
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I put a load of wash into the washer because I hadn't been
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able to wash clothes either. So wash them clothes and dear
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Lord, the washer registers uneven load.
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You know, when it makes the clunking sound, it's like, Oh my
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God, I think it's about the break.
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It's clunking and it stops, it beeps, it keeps running the
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water. So I go down there like I think
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three times in a row to fix it. And you know, until the third
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time it kept doing it. So that added another like half
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an hour of my time that I had already put into my mind when
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things going to get get done. Because I've done this so much,
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I typically know how much time every task needs.
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So I'm I'm already peeing right? Like, no, no, no, you can.
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If this is what's going to happen, you're going to have to
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deal with it. So I, I calm myself down, get
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myself out there as it's getting light.
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So I'm all along, like I said, and I had to deal with some
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extra stuff because that's just what happens.
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So then I come upstairs, I'm like, OK, you know what?
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That took a little bit longer. That's OK.
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It's still early enough where I can not feel rushed because I'm
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one of those people. Punctuality is my thing.
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When I say I'm going to be there, I'm going to be there.
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I would rather sit there five hours early than to be one
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second late. I, I, I'm pretty sure.
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Well, my parents raised me that way, but the military made me
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even more so, like OCD about being on time.
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So I have this internal clock that happens that has this sort
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of silent alarm that goes off regardless of the task.
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I'm going to do it like once I put into my mind that clock
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starts to run down and when I don't make the time, I feel
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rushed and I feel bad. I feel guilty because I'm, I
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feel like I'm wasting time or I didn't do it properly or
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something, especially when it has to do with somebody else.
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I, I don't want to waste other people's time and nor do I want
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to waste mine. So I come by the end, I clean
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myself up and I'm opening my laptop to record.
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But because I haven't had power, all these things are happening
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with my laptop. It's saying you have to restart,
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you have to download this, you have to upgrade this.
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All these things are happening, right?
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And so I'm like, Oh my God. So it's adding on to the fuel
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where the laundry delayed it, the lawn mowing delayed it.
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Like now it's an hour or more added on top of my time, pushing
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my time to the right than what I had thought I had when I first
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started this morning. So I'm sitting here and like
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shit, oh God, do I have to do this?
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Fine, I have to do this because you know your computer won't run
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properly if you don't do the proper updates.
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So it's been a week without power.
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So now I'm having to do all these things I didn't even think
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about I had to do. So I sit here, I do the upgrade
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and I'm still remaining calm. Granted that alarm clock, if you
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know how I think they actually make these like, or is it a meme
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where they make these alarm clocks that start either shaking
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their bed or maybe pushing you a little and the later it gets
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like the ones that push you will start punching you, The ones
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that shake you a little bit will start shaking your bed.
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I wonder if that's so real because that would be really
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funny because that's what it feels like inside me, right?
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It's like I'm being pummeled now, like you're late.
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Oh my God, so emotionally heightened.
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And it's so odd because this is the topic I'm trying to cover.
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And as I'm writing the the little write up that we do, I
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think, wow, you know, I I really need to get hold of myself.
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What examples can I give? So I guess God's like, here you
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go, here's a perfect example, your own life.
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Look at what you're doing now you're freaking out.
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So I download everything, restart, and I'm getting
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anxious. And as I restart stuff, the one
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thing that really bugs me is that iCloud, because I use
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iCloud for storage. I don't know why it kicks me
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off, it pops up, but I was having a lot of tech issues
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prior to this year because it would just kept popping up and
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I'm like, Oh my God, please, please don't let it be one of
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these issues. So I had to rethink my thought
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process because I was freaking out.
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I'm like God, because I was getting frustrated and like, do
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I have to do this now? Why is it every time I have
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something planned, something else always happens, right?
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So perfect. So as I'm sitting here
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reflecting, this is the after actions, right?
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Because I'm actually recording this now.
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Was it? Did I have to?
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Was my emotionals? Because the emotionals, Wow, I'm
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losing my ability to speak. Also, my emotions that were
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attached to being late, were they appropriate for that
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situation or for this situation? For each situation, when I woke
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up, did a little laundry, yeah, you knew sometimes that your
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washer will get this uneven load thing and this is just what
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happens. Granted, I didn't even wash that
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many things because I knew this was going to happen and I had
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carefully placed everything to make sure that to balance the
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load. But it kept happening and it
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kept irking me and irking me. And instead of not getting
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frustrated, I was getting emotionally involved with a
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thing. An inanimate object that had it
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was just doing his thing and it was just registering whatever is
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registering. And I let the third time, by the
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third time I went downstairs to do what I needed to do.
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I was so frustrated I I sort of took a shortcut.
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There was something else I plan to do I didn't do right.
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I finally fixing it. I went straight from fixing my
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laundry into going out to mow the lawn because I didn't want
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to wait for later in case it got hot and also because rain has
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been forecasted through I think this whole week.
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And because, oh guys, my house is on the market.
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Great. So I still have to maintain this
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house, but I usually do this anyways.
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I have to make sure the lawns mowed and I don't want to catch
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another day of rain, so I can't mow it.
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So I go from that into adding anxiety into my head, right?
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The emotion of Oh my God, I have to do this.
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If I don't do this, what's going to happen?
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I was catastrophizing the the lay of this task, the lawn
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mowing. And also in the back of my mind,
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this recording stuff came in too emotionally.
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I could have just took a deep breath and said, yeah, this is
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what's going to happen. Me freaking out, me getting all
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anxious and frustrated. And you know, when we get
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frustrated, we're like, oh, this sucks to me.
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Sometimes people throw stuff or you or you just walk around,
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you're slamming doors, you're not being careful.
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And whatever you, you project a lot of this stuff out into the
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task you're doing or inanimate objects.
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Like for example, some people, if they're mowing the lawn,
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right, you could just you're picking up your gear and you're
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slamming it down. I didn't do that.
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But that's adding emotions to a task that you don't have to.
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I try to calm myself because when I'm mowing the lawn, I, I
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try to be present because I, I don't want to like mow a whole
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lawn. And having discovered that I
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didn't mow this one strip and there's, you know, these long
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grass and then everything else is mowed.
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I've done that before. So I've learned when I'm mowing
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the lawn, I should be present. But because it took a little bit
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longer, it's sort of, even though I consciously try to
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suppress, right? I try to suppress this instead
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of working it out in my mind, like, what are you going to do?
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How does any of these emotions add to it?
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Is it appropriate? Sure, you can be frustrated
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mentally. Oh my God, why does this have to
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happen? Sure, get it out, voice it.
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Don't suppress it because that's what I did.
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Because you're not letting it out, you're not airing it out,
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and you're just like, suck it up.
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Well, some emotions are appropriate.
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Getting frustrated? Sure.
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Experience it. Let it go.
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Me, I suppressed it. I was holding on to it in the
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back of my head, you know that. Yeah, the silent films, or maybe
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not even silent ones. All this stuff was all in my
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head and I was walking around doing my thing and feeling this
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anxiety build and build and build and without acknowledging
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it, which, you know, not a good thing, right?
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So I come in like, oh, OK, I can do this now.
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I can go clean up and still have time.
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Now I'm getting hungry, I'm tired, blah, blah, blah.
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Yeah. I take a deep breath.
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I clean up, turn on my computer. Should have known, Should have
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remembered, because I've done this long enough that after not
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turning on your computer, some stuff might take some time.
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And that adds to me feeling even more frustrated.
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Appropriate, you can say. Yeah, maybe, but it should be
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fleeting, the additional OK, when I felt frustrated, yeah,
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that's a normal response. Sure, when you're
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inconvenienced, you feel frustrated, But if you logically
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work it out in your mind, you're like, what can I do?
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I have to do these tasks. These things are sequential.
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Like I turn on my computer, it says it needs to be updated.
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Sure, you're frustrated, but then let it go.
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It's the emotions that after the frustration, I was like
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internally beating myself up, like, Oh my God, why do I have
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to do this? That I picked the wrong day to
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record this and I'm feeling even more rushed that that stuff is
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not appropriate at all. It just made me even more
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anxious. It like astronomically made
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things feel worse within my own mind.
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I still had to do this. I'm still going to do it.
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So what if it got pushed maybe an hour to the to the right?
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Well, it, it does matter. But The thing is, I can move
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tasks that I had to, I planned around today to accommodate for
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this stuff, right? But I didn't think about that.
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I was just lamenting. Not only was I frustrated, I was
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in my head bitching and complaining like, Oh my God, why
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do I have to deal with this? Those emotions to me are not
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appropriate looking back on it, right?
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But it's so easy to get caught in the moment and let all this
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stuff avalanche because the initial feeling that we get from
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whatever situation we're encountering, right could be
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appropriate. But it's the pile on afterward,
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after you feel the initial response that can make it so
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much worse. Like I did, like right now, my
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heart is still sort of pounding. Thank God you can't hear that
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because my God, that'd be crazy because I feel like I'm late.
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But then there are other times when you encounter situations,
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your initial response, emotional response is wholly inappropriate
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because you're it's not logical and the emotional response is
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actually triggering something that had nothing to do with the
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situation. Right.
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Let's just talk about those who have, I don't know, kids or
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anybody you have relationship, like a deep relationship with.
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And you, you care about this person.
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I'm sure you've gotten in fights.
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And because somehow here's a hypothetical scenario.
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You had a bad day, right? You got out to do your laundry,
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your washing machine was freaking out.
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You go out and mow the lawn and you had to do all this extra
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stuff because you didn't anticipate it in your computer
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and you had to do all this stuff for your computer before you can
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get anything that you really plan to do started.
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So and then right then you feel rushed.
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And then whoever this person might be that you have a close
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relationship with, you talk to them and you don't know what
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happened during their day. They might have gone through
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something not similar, but you know, that aggravated the same
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way. And both of you are sort of
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short, not because you're trying to be short with each other,
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because whatever you're feeling emotionally, you didn't let go.
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You didn't deal with it, and it's not appropriate.
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You didn't sit down and talk to yourself and like, hey, you know
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what? This is not helping.
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So you talk to each other and somebody says something that was
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misinterpreted or short or projected.
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Like, man, why are you giving me such a hard time?
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And you're just like, what? What are you talking about,
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right? Instead of asking, hey, what's
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going on? Instead of thinking, OK, today
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I've had a rough day. I know I'm a little emotionally
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raw. Let me not add fuel to the fire.
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I know we have to sometimes do these assessments really quick,
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but you know what? The only way to do it better is
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to practice, especially in the moment and and most of life
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happens in a rush right? Like when you don't expect it.
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Because if you can prepare, if you can pre think out scenarios
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and truthfully it really never happened the way we planned it,
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that would be great. Most people could handle that.
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But life comes at you and demands of you to be in control
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of yourself and assess our responses.
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Emotional responses, because that is that is a trigger that
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leads into so many other things like worsening behaviors, right
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back to the scenario. They say something and you say
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something back and this emotional rush of not having
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verbalized this frustration that you felt all day.
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Now it's projected onto the person because now you have in
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your mind without even thinking about it, a legit target.
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They were just being an A hole. Like, what do you mean?
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I'm not trying to be short. So now you have diverted your
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own responsibility, accountability to your own
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responses, emotional responses, right to this person.
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Sure it didn't. They were probably rude, but you
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didn't check the volume, the emotions attached to your
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response to them. Like what the hell?
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Why are you always trying to do this?
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You make every day so much worse, and this is within the
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first minute of you guys speaking.
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Really. Can the person?
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I mean, I'm sure some people can, but in that situation, had
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the person made it so much worse?
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Have they always made it so much worse?
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No, that's all this emotional frustration that's coming out
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pouring out to the other person like a fire hose is blowing it
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over emotionally. And guess what?
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Things escalate because you don't know that they they had,
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they haven't had a chance to share with you.
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Like maybe called you to tell you, hey, Oh my God, this is how
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my day went. They didn't even get that out.
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And now they feel unheard and attacked because they are also
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harboring their own emotional all this crap that they carry
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through their day, right? And now you have gasoline on
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fire from both of you. Emotionally inappropriate, not
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appropriate at all. But nobody's there checking on
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themselves. You can check the other person,
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but I can guarantee you that's not going to work.
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Well, we all know that. It's like telling somebody who's
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mad to calm down. Do they really calm down?
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Do they, do they ever calm down? It's like, what are you?
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You calm down, right? That's typically the response.
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So appropriate and not appropriate.
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So when we attach emotions, this is just normal stuff.
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This is like, I think most people, if not everybody has
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gone through something similar where your emotions, emotions
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get triggered and you, you add it on to a situation that's not,
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that doesn't require such the velocity in which you're
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throwing this emotional out, like emotions out in your
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language, in your body language, in your how you express
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yourself. And it makes things worse.
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I'm sure you've gotten those fights and you don't speak for
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months, over days, weeks, months or never.
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I'm sure people have lost relationships due to an
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inappropriate emotional response.
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Now, I'm not saying that every emotional response is
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inappropriate. For example, when when this
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unprecedented weather event went through my neighborhood, it
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literally went from sunny to complete chaos in less than two
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minutes. I was like Oh my God.
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Holy crap. Maybe that was a little too
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strong, but that was a shock because now they're reporting it
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was 90 to 95 mile hour winds. And I was in shock, sure, but
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that that is in some ways appropriate.
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I wasn't freaking out. I wasn't running around with my
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hair on fire or anything like that.
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Like Oh my God, somebody help me.
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I was just like, Oh my God, shocked that didn't.
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Sometimes it's how I express myself.
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So it is emotionally appropriate and post that storm when we
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didn't have power for, you know, a week, frustration start to
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build, right? Yeah.
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If you look at the situation, sure.
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I think that was that was somewhat normal, right?
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Only it frustration only becomes abnormal when you take it out on
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other people, right? For instance, if I was talking
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to somebody because I was frustrated because I didn't have
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power, I was eating can't greet means and the guy was in the
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military, it would have not survived.
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It was horrible. You know, if I started, if I
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hauled off and started yelling at people like you guys suck, I
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hate everybody in the world, and you know, because I didn't have
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power, that would have not have been emotionally appropriate,
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right? So the reason why I share is
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that every situation is different.
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We should when we can, when we catch ourselves, because we know
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we feel this rush is physiologically when you get all
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riled up, you feel this. Whatever building inside you
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pressure a rush. Let's take a second.
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Just take a take a deep breath. If all you you can do that
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right, Everybody has them breathe.
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So even if you take a deep breath and say, is this
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appropriate give you that self, that one second to calm down,
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not by somebody else telling you to calm down.
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Well, if they are, maybe take that advice, maybe you should
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calm down, right and think, hey, am I making things worse?
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My is this whatever emotion that I am feeling or projecting or
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letting loose on somebody else, on the situation or on myself
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appropriate to the situation, right?
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When something sad happens, like when I lost my fur babies, my
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older fur babies, it was emotionally appropriate when I
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started crying, that was normal, right?
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Not every emotion is inappropriate in response to a
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situation is that we need to learn to assess the
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appropriateness of it to whatever situation that we're
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encountering at the moment. Because if you, I don't know, if
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you guys listen to news, there's a lot of situations that's that
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that's happening currently, that's actually worsening
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because a lot of people are responding emotionally in that
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moment, in the heat of the moment, right?
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Which makes things worse. If we can just all step back,
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learn to step back, try to step back, especially in the
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situation to see where we stand, how we are using our emotions in
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this, in whatever situation that we're going through, if it's
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helping or hurting or if it's appropriate, right?
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I think we can at least lessen the heat that sets off these
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catastrophic fires like around the world, not just physically,
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but you know, from person to person, like you're just adding
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fuel to the fire, that sort of thing.
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Let's decrease the heat. Let's let the heat die down
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first in us because we cannot change anybody else but
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ourselves, right? Let us be the leaders who just
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for a second, hey, I can feel myself getting emotionally
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charged. I know what happens when
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emotional inappropriate behavior is applied to a situation.
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And I don't want to make this worse because it's not just
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going to make it worse for you, it's going to make it worse for
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everybody. The whole situation and the
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consequences probably will bring you even more frustration.
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And we don't want that. We're trying to make life
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easier, right? It's not going to be easy, so
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let's not add to the issue. So, you know, I try to use my
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own examples and today I like to sharing my experience just this
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morning. I know that in my attempt to
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assess my emotional state, if it's appropriate, my emotional
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response, if it's appropriate or not to this certain situation,
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sure, it helped a little, but I need so much practice because
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obviously I'm sitting here, I'm still feeling frazzled and I
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rushed myself in certain things. So I know I need practice and I
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know everybody. I, I don't like seeing that.
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Let me go back, rewind. I know that there are people out
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there who feel the way I feel and sort of get emotionally all
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tangled up in all sorts of situations like I do, right?
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Like in being frustrated, I add things on top.
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I add fuel to the fire to whatever situation I'm in,
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right? I've learned that I need to slow
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down. I need to slow down, slow myself
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down. Just mentally, physically,
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emotionally to assess what's happening because I don't want
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to be that idiot being controlled by something where I
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know I have full control. I can control myself.
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So that's why I share this. I know there's so many things
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going on right now, right? We all feel pressed, we feel
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pressured, we feel stressed out for whatever reason.
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And that emotion, whatever emotional response within you
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from everything builds up, right?
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There's pressure, there's stress.
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Let's reason it out within ourselves.
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Like let's talk it through logically, like an equation.
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Let's work it through. I could have just slowed down
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and said, hey, Reed, can you can what you're feeling right now
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help you go faster with your laundry?
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No, you still have to fix it or else it's not going to work.
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You still have to mow the lawn. Oh, yeah, You had extra work.
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What did you think They grow things grow outside.
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You're going to have to, you know, cut additional grass or
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whatever. It's just the way it is.
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Your task didn't change. It might have been a little bit
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longer, but it didn't change. So you got to do what you got to
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do. So stop feeling frustrated.
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This is just life coming in here, looking at your computer,
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you're like, oh, do I have to download this stuff?
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Yeah, you do. So why are you frustrating
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yourself with something that has to be done in order for you to
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achieve what you need to achieve?
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There's no, there's no perfection.
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There's no perfecting A timetable, right?
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That's why I have my PMP guys should have thought about that.
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You should always add a little bit extra time because sometimes
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I think, oh, I typically takes this long.
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I should always add a little bit longer time.
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So that way I have wiggle room. If I get things done ahead of
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time, great. If I get things done, you know,
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within the time frame, great. But now at least I know to add
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flexibility and which decreases my emotional response, right?
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So all this should be done beforehand in preparing
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ourselves to handle these urgent things and you know, the things
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that just pop up, right? Because life mostly consists of
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things that pops up, but when we think to ourselves, hey, I know
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this is kind of person I am. I'm not saying that's who you
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are. I'm saying this is who I am.
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I sort of get all riled up, you know, like, Oh my God, maybe I
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don't express it outside, but within my internal functioning,
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I get all riled up and emotionally, I burden each task
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with a growing emotional like this pain that's growing, right?
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And it doesn't help me at all. So now I'm starting to think,
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OK, maybe I should start checking in with myself instead
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of just blindly going around each day like a robot doing
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whatever we do, when we're doing whatever I do, check in with
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myself. Hey, did that situation go
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properly afterwards like an after actions review, you know,
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when proper wait, you don't have to check in with yourself If you
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drank a cup of water, like did that go well, I'm not saying do
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that, but when appropriate 1 is a task that could have brought
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some frustrations. Makes maybe take a minute.
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Sometimes it's less than a minute.
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Hey, OK, that made me a little frustrated.
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May mean let me take a minute to calm down so you don't carry
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this exponentially growing emotional burden into each task
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that you do right? Sometimes it's just a nice task.
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Sometimes it lasts for days and you're carrying this stuff that
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happened like a week ago the the power went out a week ago.
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Maybe I'm so frustrated, So let's try to, I don't know who
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else is feeling like I am. And if you are, I want to share
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this. So let's try to check in with
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ourselves and see where we are emotionally, right?
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And then take the time to practice this emotional
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intelligence and see is this appropriate for the situation?
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If you know your friends leaving for or moving and you cry,
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that's appropriate guys. So it's going to take practice.
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You're not going to have a perfect right I, I don't think
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there's such a thing as perfection.
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So each time when you catch yourself, hey, do it.
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And I guarantee you in time it will, you can recognize how it
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helped you eliminate a lot of the extra crap that came with
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having an inappropriate emotional response.
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So I am going a little bit longer than I usually do, but I
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have an hour so I appreciate you guys listening.
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I hope you guys are I hope you're doing well.
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I hope things continue to work out for you and there are people
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out here who care I pray for you guys.
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I think about you guys. So until next time, which is in
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two weeks. Oh, I also wanted to make this
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in case the power went out again.
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That's one of the reasons why I was also also in a hurry.
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Anyways, until next time, please be safe, be kind to yourself,
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right? Check in with yourself, right?
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And know that we're all we're all going through life and it's
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going to be OK. We're all going to be OK.
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OK. I'll talk to you guys next time.
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