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Season 4 - Episode 302 - Where does the wave start? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Question for you today is where does a wave start?
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  Where does a wave really start? Well, it starts way out in the
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  ocean, way out in the ocean. The motion from the ocean, don't
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  pun and rhyme intended in this is that you can't see where it
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  starts, but we see the end result.
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  We see the end result as a wave comes up and it crashes on the
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  shore. And if you are in the water,
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  you're looking at a wave and you maybe see it off in a distance
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  where you can start seeing little swells and you say, oh,
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  here comes a wave. But that really still isn't the
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  beginning of the wave. The wave started so far before
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  that and we just have no concept of that because we see where we
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  think it begins and when then we see where it starts to come up
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  and Crest and then we see where it crashes on the shore.
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  So what's the point of this? Well, the point is that when you
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  talk about people who go and make waves in the world, and we
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  say, oh, this person's making waves, meaning they're changing
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  things up, meaning they're doing something different, meaning
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  they're being big or they're starting to be seen.
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  But is that where it really started?
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  And no, it started long before that.
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  It started when they made that simple decision to sit down and
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  say, I want to do something better or different or bigger or
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  however it comes out. And we forget how much effort
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  and work and planning and thought and energy and
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  mindfulness and manifesting goes into those outcomes of that wave
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  hitting the shore. We see the wave hitting the
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  shore. So therefore now we acknowledge
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  that. And then we start to make our
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  opinions based on all of that. But we forget completely how
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  much went into it before that, even for ourselves.
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  So it is incredibly important imperative that we remember
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  those things. Because if we don't remember
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  them, if we don't take that into consideration, if we don't start
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  to pull that down into us, what ends up happening is something
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  interesting because it's our opinions come out very strongly
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  about ourselves and others, but they come out very strongly.
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  And they don't always come out in a positive way.
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  They come out like, oh, you know, judgement and be ridicule
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  and just comes out as mean people stuff, just unnecessary
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  energy that goes in and just yuck.
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  It's just yucky. And you know, for lack of a
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  better word, it's just yucky and it has a funk and it sticks.
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  And then if somebody hears that, if they hear that you are
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  putting that out there, then all of a sudden you become that
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  person that does that. So why are we talking about
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  this? Because typically at the end of
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  the year, you start to see people talking about what their
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  successes were. They talk about how much they've
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  accomplished or they talk about what they've missed.
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  And we sit there and we pass judgment.
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  Consciously or unconsciously, we start to pass judgment.
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  We do it on ourselves, we do it on others.
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  And it starts to erode what we're thinking we want to
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  accomplish for ourselves or what they have accomplished moving
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  forward. And you know, I have said a
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  bazillion times on this podcast that we must remember that
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  everyone is self focused. And it doesn't mean that they're
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  selfish, but it means they're self focused.
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  And you can't help it because it's part of your wiring for
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  survival. You can't get past that
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  fundamental part of your amygdala that says you must have
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  safety. And over the years, that has
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  morphed into something that is much more nefarious in certain
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  ways because it causes us to, you know, we don't have those
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  same threats that we had a long, long time ago.
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  We don't worry about being eaten by a dinosaur, but that doesn't
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  mean that that wiring isn't still there.
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  So we start to use that against ourselves, against others.
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  And it is critical as you start to see those things showing up
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  and start to hear those things showing up about what people
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  have done and what they've accomplished, that you stop and
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  you pause and you acknowledge, oh, of course I'm going to put
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  this up against what I did. I can't help it.
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  It's part of my wiring. So be OK with the fact that
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  you're comparing, OK? And people will say all the
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  time, don't compare yourself to others.
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  Well, that's like saying don't think of the color blue because
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  immediately your brain goes blue and it thinks of it.
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  Instead, be comfortable with the fact that there's a comparison
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  taking place and you're not going to allow it to stay.
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  The comparison will kick into gear.
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  But then you have to say, no, I choose to celebrate how great
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  this is for this person. And I choose to view it a
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  different way. I choose something different.
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  And that's where it's imperative that you remember where the
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  waves started a long time ago. All the things that this person
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  poured in that you never even saw, all the things that you
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  never even connected the dots on.
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  You could even sit down with that person and ask them, where
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  did this all begin? How did you learn this?
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  Because these are our opportunities to learn from
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  other people. And if we're genuinely
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  interested and we really, really want to know how we can help
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  ourselves and we go to those people and we talk to them, we
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  might actually learn something. So one, remember, comparison is
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  OK. And two, remember, where did
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  that wave start to begin with? How did this person do this?
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  All great thoughts for the day. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.