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Actor Daniel Etim-Effiong & Wife Toyosi In Counselling Over Sidechick Pregnancy Drama · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode of Bantit Lorenz here.
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  How are you all doing if you're doing great?
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  For today's episode, I want to talk about Nollywood actor
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  Daniel A-Team F Young and his wife Toyo CF Young.
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  Now, these two people, since they got married, they've been
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  giving marriage goals. And the reason why I said
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  marriage goals is because somebody once once told me that
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  to be married you have to be deaf, dumb, blind, and sometimes
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  crippled because you can't follow your husband everywhere.
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  Now, Toyo C and Daniel got married in 2017.
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  According to the story tells, Daniel came back to Nigeria, met
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  to UC, proposed marriage and they got married.
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  Anyway, let me just play that video for you to hear from
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  Daniel's mouth how he got married, right?
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  Why did you marry your wife? So what was the reason I made?
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  You said? This is the woman I was saying.
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  So I think two things came together to prepare me.
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  At that time in my life, I was tired of dealing with several
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  relationships. But I had a girlfriend at the
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  time and I told the girl that I think I'm ready to get married,
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  let's think about getting married.
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  But she wasn't ready. And she was like, we were in
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  South Africa at the time and she.
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  Was like a South African woman. Not a Nigerian woman because.
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  I'm sorry, I'm sorry. But she was not a Nigerian
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  woman. Let me leave you there.
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  She was not a Nigerian, right? Yes, so, so I told her that I
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  wanted to settle down, but she wasn't ready.
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  And she said, oh, she had plans to go for Graduate School in the
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  States and all of that. And she didn't want to get, for
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  lack of a better word, tied at the time.
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  And I was, I was disappointed. I'm like, what are you talking
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  about? Like we could do so many things
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  together. But, you know, so at that time I
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  was ready. Anyone who was with me at that
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  time, I'd asked the question, do you want to get married?
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  Like I did ask my girlfriend at the time and and she declined.
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  So well, not pop the question, pop the question, but just, you
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  know, explore. Yeah, exactly.
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  And then it coincided with coming back to Nigeria to be on
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  the project that my wife was at the time production manager on.
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  That's Giddy up Season 2. So we met.
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  We had been talking before that time.
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  So we met when I came to Nigeria.
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  She came to Nigeria at that time too, was her first job in
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  Nigeria when she came back from New York.
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  And then we met and then we started to talk.
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  And then I had this long conversation with her and told
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  her that look, babe, I really want to get married.
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  Like the same conversation that I had, you know, that I was.
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  And she said, oh, yeah, let's do it.
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  You know, I'm like, I'm like, wait, wait before you think that
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  I have like a truckload of money somewhere waiting or I have, I
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  haven't figured this thing out. Like I really, this is who I am.
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  This is every, you know, just gave her the lowdown, but I said
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  that everything. Now this is Daniel talking about
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  how he proposed to his wife Toyocy.
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  A lot of people have criticised their relationship because they
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  said their chemistry is just, there's just something off about
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  the two of them. I was watching an interview.
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  I think Toyosi at that point was that was in 2020-2021.
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  I think she was trying to build her YouTube channel.
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  So she got Daniel, the Nollywood actor, the kind of feature in
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  her channel and ask him questions.
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  It was so awkward. He just did not want to be
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  there. You see how he relaxed with him
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  today and they were having a conversation.
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  She tried to do that with him and he was just busy looking
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  somewhere else. He was fiddling with his phone.
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  He was. I wish I could find an
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  interview, but I don't. I think they took it down.
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  So their relationship or their chemistry, there's always been
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  that awkwardness between them. But they got married.
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  They had children. I think Daniel at that point
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  figured that this is, you know, a powerhouse.
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  If we get together, we get married, we are going to build
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  an empire together. And this is what they're
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  building. Daniel did not marry Toyosi
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  because he loved her. He can grow or maybe he has
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  grown to love her, but at that point he was just looking to get
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  married. And he said that several times.
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  And in their marriage, I think Daniel had cheated several times
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  because there's always somebody attached to him somewhere.
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  Sometimes they play it down as, oh, he's an Hollywood actor.
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  He he he he can't be seen with different, you know, babes or
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  seen maybe that's his, you know, a script or his like they just
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  downplayed the whole thing. Now Tokyo Makinwa in an
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  interview with Danielle's wife, Toyo Si.
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  She asked her would you is cheating a deal breaker?
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  And she was like, no. Julie, I'll ask you this
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  question and I want you to be very honest with you because
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  I'll also be honest with my answer.
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  Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
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  It's OK to be honest if it's not a deal breaker.
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  God, I know it's not. I can answer for you.
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  I know you ain't gonna leave that man if he cheats, right?
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  No, it's cheating. A deal breaker for me.
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  No, no, cheating is not a deal breaker.
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  Me too. I would say no.
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  Yeah, right. And this is not encouraging
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  cheating. Yes.
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  The reason why I said no. Me.
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  I'm not married, so let. Me, this is Toyo C saying that
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  cheating is not a deal breaker for her.
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  Now I am not bashing anybody that will stay with a cheating
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  man because listen, most men cheat, OK, married, single in a
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  relationship, they cheat, OK, some of them they cheat.
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  So I won't bash anybody to say that saying that they're going
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  to stay with a cheating husband. But The thing is coming out in
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  public to say it is like giving him a green card for him to go
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  and cheat. Now, news in town is that
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  Daniel, according to this lover, allegedly Daniel had gotten
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  somebody pregnant, another actress pregnant.
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  And Toyocy, who had given her husband a green flag or a green
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  card to go ahead and do whatever he likes to do, has now gotten
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  somebody pregnant. And there's trouble in paradise,
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  according to people. They're trying to resolve their
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  issues. They're trying to talk to talk
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  through the whole thing because I mean, if you say OK, your
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  husband can cheat, I don't think she was expecting to for him to
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  bring a child into their relationship.
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  I mean, listen, most women or most African or Nigerian women
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  can tolerate their husbands having side chicks.
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  Their husbands, you know, they know that their husband is
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  cheating. But I think one thing that they
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  will not tolerate is or sometimes they find it, they
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  eventually will accept the child, but they will kind of
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  kick against their husband bringing another child into
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  their relationship. And according to people, this is
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  what is currently going on in Daniel a team's marriage to your
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  see who have three children for Daniel is not having, you know,
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  she's trying to understand how to come out in public.
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  She that has said that, you know, cheating is the deal
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  breaker. Now that is the product of that
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  cheating allegedly. Allegedly, people are saying
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  that she don't know how to face the public.
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  Now there was another interview where she talked about her
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  husband. People DM in her husband because
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  obviously she must have heard, you know, that her husband got
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  somebody pregnant. So people are saying that,
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  listen, this woman is just going to sit down with her husband and
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  have a conversation with him because, oh, she has said
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  cheating story, deal breaker. Now let me play another
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  interview to show you maybe how the conversation is going to go
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  on in the A-team's family. Don't talk to people outside.
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  Talk to your wives and talk to side cheats.
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  Talk to your wives. Our wives Listen.
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  Listen and be safe spaces. I don't know what you're doing
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  right now, but be safe spaces for your husband because that's
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  another thing that I've heard about.
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  Like some guys talk to their wives and the wives are not
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  receptive or they start shouting.
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  The guy will come home and say, oh, I think this girl is trying
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  to talk to me or step up to me, all of that.
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  What? So you what did you do and what
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  did you say? So once you said that, what?
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  Did you say And what did you do? Listen, let me see her picture.
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  Let me see her picture first. That's what's why Instagram
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  together. Let's look at her picture and
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  get that she's fine. No, OK, so and then have a
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  conversation. Don't don't be, don't be close
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  minded. Don't be close minded.
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  Be safe spaces, husband. Be safe spaces to your wives,
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  wives, be safe spaces to your husband.
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  And I really want to eat this sausage in peace.
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  I hope Toyosi is going to be a safe space for Daniel and his
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  new side chick and their baby because she's saying that talk
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  to me. Even him he he was shocked the
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  way he was sipping the drink. Because I think.
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  He wasn't expecting her to be that open to say, let's go to
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  our Instagram page, let's see what is going on, let's talk to
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  her, let's talk about it. What did you do?
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  Like everybody wants to marry like men.
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  Every man would want to marry somebody like Toyosi.
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  And I get it. I get it.
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  Because I mean, if your wife can give her husband the go ahead to
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  cheat, to come out publicly and say she is she she was, she's
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  not going to leave her husband for cheating.
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  Now there's a that a baby has resulted from that cheating.
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  I don't think Toyosi is going anywhere.
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  So people can sit down and analyse and say, oh, Toyocy is
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  this, she's a pick me. She's a that, she's a this,
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  she's a that. Listen, so we may just want
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  peace. They just want the husband at
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  home. They just want somebody they can
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  come back to. They just want somebody they can
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  stay on that. They just want that umbrella of
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  I have a husband. And I think Toyocy is that
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  person. And we shouldn't criticise her
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  for anything. If Danielle is going to come
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  back with three children and she's willing to accept those
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  children, who are we as the spectators to put our mouths?
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  We, we, we, we cannot do anything in this situation
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  because these two are made in heaven.
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  They are a match made in heaven. So you'll see.
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  You understand that rule perfectly, Daniel, understand
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  the fact that he has been given the chance to do whatever he
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  wants to do. And I don't think he's going to,
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  he's going to want to do better. He's always going to be.
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  Danielle, let me know what you think.
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  Do you think that according to some people, they, they, they
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  feel sorry for Toyo? See, because every AK market
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  day, somebody is coming out to to talk about her marriage,
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  especially from the husband's perspective, you know, cheating
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  allegations, baby allegations, this and that.
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  People say they feel sorry for her, but Toyo sees staying put.
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  So what do you think? Do you think that that is the
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  best way to maintain a marriage, especially in this day and age
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  where we have Internet? So there's always going to be
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  somebody in your DM telling you about, oh, I saw your husband, I
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  saw your wife, I saw your DS, I saw your SO for a happy home.
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  Do you think that it is better to turn a blind eye, be deaf, be
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  dumb and sometimes be crippled? Let me know what you think.
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