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Life Update 2023: Are you still here? · The Love Drive with Shaun Galanos

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Hey, everybody. Thanks for still being here.
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If you're still here, today is a update.
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A life update on what the hell is going on with Sean, who is
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currently living in Arizona, and who now has a relationship and
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who has not made the five cast a priority, and I'm just going to
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give you an update on all that stuff.
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Plus, the events that I have coming up both online and in
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person And also, what do I think my year is going to look like?
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And so I want to thank you for still being here.
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I also want to apologize for not being as consistent as I have in
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the past. With the podcast, I really do
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love the podcast. I do.
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I like having conversations with mostly strangers and some of my
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friends and sharing those conversations with you.
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It's just a lot of work to record and edit and host and
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Mark it and all that stuff. Off.
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So that's not an excuse. It's an explanation of where
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I've been what I've been doing. So if you're up for a little
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update, here we go. Okay it's 2023.
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It is the last day of February and where do we start?
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We start with the fact that I fell in love recently, which is
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really exciting and not something I was expecting.
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I went to California for the month of December because I was
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feeling lonely. Only and I missed my friends and
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didn't want to be in Arizona. So I went I packed up my bike
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and my dog and drift, California and visited my friends visited
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my family and on the like the first couple days that I was
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there. I set up a hinge profile and
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made are really playful simple profile with some funny, weird
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photos and I wrote in the profile.
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Casually looking for something serious.
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And I matched with a fantastic woman.
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On a Thursday, we went out on a Friday, we had a little bit of
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back and forth, banter on the app, we agreed to meet up and
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we're in a relationship now. We kind of fell, you know, hot
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and heavy and it was nearly impossible to pull back and we
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didn't we just sort of enjoyed following and now, I'm in a
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long-distance relationship with somebody who lives in
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California, which is not ideal. It's not what I had planned for
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myself, but I was casually looking for something serious
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that I think she was as well. And so, we're doing long
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distance for now, for however long that is going to last with
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the, with the expressed intention of eventually living
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in the same place whether that's here or there or somewhere else,
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I don't know. But I'm really excited about
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her. She's very sweet.
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Loving fantastic woman. She's a teacher for now and yeah
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we're having fun getting to know each other and and visiting each
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other and she's been here a couple times and I'm going there
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a couple times and we'll sort of see what happens.
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So that's exciting. I wasn't planning on doing that
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falling in love. That is but, you know, that's
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just kind of how it happens. Sometimes, I'm not going to say
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like oh, it happened when I stopped looking because I didn't
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stop. Looking right, I put myself on a
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dating app, I put myself out there, I want on a date and then
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it happened actually. The interesting thing is that I
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decided to try something different.
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I'm usually the person who sends the messages on dating apps and
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instead I decided to just see what would come in and lo and
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behold she came in. And when I asked her, you know,
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do you normally send messages to guys?
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She goes? No, I don't.
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But I decided to do it. I like your face.
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And they decided to do it. So, anyways, that's the update
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on the relationship front. I'm very happy, it's not all
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unicorns and rainbows. There are some challenges,
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mainly the distance stuff. And also, you know, getting to
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know a new person. Sometimes when you, you know,
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they step off the pedestal. You realize like, oh shit, this
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is like a beautifully flawed human, just like me.
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And so let's see how our characters and personalities our
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desires and goals. Goals and triggers how they all
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work together and so far, they've been working pretty well
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and were able to talk about the stuff that's important.
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Anyways I'm keeping it a little vague because you know several
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years ago I had a huge breakup and it didn't want to make that
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public mainly because you know the internet is weird and people
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have a very intense parasocial relationship with me and I just
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didn't want like an outpouring of support from total strangers.
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Rangers did not want that. Also I think it's important to
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keep my private life private to a certain degree.
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So I think I became really cagey about my relationship status or
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my relationships. And now I'm sort of evaluating
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what talking about it a little bit looks like so anyways, maybe
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that's what a little bit looks like.
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Okay. What else?
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Oh, I finally hired an assistant who is helping with stuff, she's
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helping to cross. Post some stuff to take, talk to
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Instagram to Facebook. She's helping with like a second
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set of eyes on some of my landing pages in my marketing.
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And also, she's going to be in a course that I'm hosting soon
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that I'll tell you about shortly as my live in person.
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Ian assistant which is super, super exciting to be able to
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have that kind of support. So I'm excited about that or
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name is Haley. She's fantastic.
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She does a whole bunch of other stuff and then I also have
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Camilla who helps with the podcast.
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She does the editing of the podcast.
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When I have new interviews which I'm hoping to have at some
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point, I really am. I've got a lot going on until
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April and then I think it opens up a little bit, so I'll share.
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With you a little bit about that after I share with you, what are
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these events that I have going on.
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So the closest thing that's happening is that yesterday I
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launched an online course called getting your needs met.
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And this is one of my favorite courses to teach just because
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the impact that it has on people.
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So getting your needs met, how do identify what you need and
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make requests that work without looking needy?
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That last part is kind of important.
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This course is Designed to help you figure out what the hell you
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need in life and in your relationships.
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Maybe not so so much in life, you know, that we're not going
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to be talking about your career choices, but we're going to be
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talking about, how can you get your needs met in various kinds
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of relationships? So what do I need?
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What do I want from my friends? My family, my lover's, my
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romantic Partners, my sexual partners, my bosses, my
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colleagues, this is a course to help you identify what you want
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and what you need and how to speak up.
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How to make your needs easy to meet and how to make requests
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from all sorts of different people that work?
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And also what happens when people say, no what happens when
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people cannot meet your needs, you have more options than you
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think. You'll also learn how to say no
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with love because I think saying no to stuff.
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You don't need is actually a way of getting the stuff you do
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need, right? So let's stop doing this shit
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that we don't want to do. That we don't need to be doing,
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but they were so terrified of saying, no to, I will show you
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how to say no with love, hopefully, in a way that people
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can respect. So, this course starts March
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9th. It's six hours, it's it's over
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three weeks. So, March 9th, March 16th March,
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23rd, 10 a.m. Pacific to noon Pacific, and
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you're going to get six hours of Coaching instruction, QA tools
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scripts. You'll have also have access to
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a Facebook group for Life. You'll have access to a private
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WhatsApp group, to stay connected to me and the students
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before between, and after the calls and you'll have access to
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the recordings of the video for Life.
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The sessions are live but don't worry if you can't attend live
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about half, the people who take my courses, can't attend live
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because I do my courses. In the middle of a nine-to-five
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workday and most people, most of my students also have 925 work
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days. And people are like well, that's
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inconvenient for me. When why don't you do it on the
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weekend it? Well, because I don't like to
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work on the weekend just like most of you if you have a 9 to 5
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Monday through Friday, don't want to work on the weekend.
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So I know I should maybe adjust my schedule to my audience but
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the reality is that like you don't want me working on the
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weekend, you don't want me working in the evening because
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I'm just not that great. That is not.
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Not my zone of Genius. I'm a morning dude.
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I'm good till about 2:00 and then it's just not good.
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So everything's recorded, you'll have access to everything for
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life if you're interested. Look at the link in the bio or
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sorry, not linking bio Link in the show notes or go to getting
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your needs met.com. The price is 249 u.s. until
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Sunday, March 5th at midnight and then after that's 29.
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So, not bad for six hours of instruction.
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But more importantly, not bad for starting to speak up for
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what you want. In your important relationships.
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I actually just got a testimonial from someone who
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sent me a DM and said this course, changed my work life.
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I finally got the promotion that I wanted.
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I am a much more loving manager. I use language, like, how's your
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heart to my coworker? Hers and my work life has never
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been better. So I think that is just like a
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fantastic piece of testimonial. Okay.
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So that's happening. Interesting, exciting news, I'm
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hosting my first retreat in Sedona.
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Arizona, Sedona is about 45 minutes from where I live in
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Flagstaff, and the retreat is called trusting love, and it's
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about renewing your faith in love, right?
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So this is for people who Have lost faith in love or who have
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been heartbroken and are having a hard time putting themselves
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out there. This is for people who want to
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deepen their capacity for love who also want to identify
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emotionally available people to love and also how to be a little
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bit more emotionally available. So, this is for you, if you want
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to be more vulnerable, if you want to be more connected, it's
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not necessarily only for single people.
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I mean, if you're in a relationship and you want to
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deepen your capacity for love or you're feeling a little unsure
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about your Yep. And you want some tools on how
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to love more deeply? This is the retreat for you.
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I'm excited. I've been to a lot of Retreats.
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I've been to a lot of conferences and festivals and
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what I'm trying to do is kind of create a little mini Festival
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one love. It's a two and a half day event
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in Sedona it starts. March 31st.
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That's a Friday. And it ends Sunday, April 2nd.
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So we're talking two and a half days in Sedona and what I'm what
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I'm doing, Bring together a bunch of different practitioners
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that are going to lead us into some exercises that are meant to
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open the heart. So we're going to do some Yoga
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Nidra, which is my favorite form of non sleep.
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Deep rest. We are going to do a high power
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chocolate experience. That's another word for cacao
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ceremony. Chocolate specific, specifically
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high-grade. Pure ceremonial grade chocolate
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has. The heart has has heart opening
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properties. It's very subtle.
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It's It's not like it's going to blow your heart wide open, but
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my friend Kristen is going to host this experience, to help
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you connect to love into your heart and your desires.
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We're also going to do a breathwork meditation towards
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the end. Lunches are included, you're
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welcome, dinner is included. All of these practitioners are
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included and there are nine seats left.
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So we're limiting it to 25 people.
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I've got two assistants I've got the chocolate experience, we've
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got the breathwork. Oh, we also have a sound healing
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evening on Saturday, which is going to be really fantastic
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hosted by a woman in Sedona heart-to-.
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And it's just going to be a beautiful experience where
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you're going to get to connect with your body, connect with
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your heart, your soul, where I'm also going to do several
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workshops, breakout groups and Q&A and a few stalks, of course
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during this whole thing. So if you want to learn more, if
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you want to sign up it, It is trusting love 2023.com or look
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at the show notes and they'll be a link there.
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Trusting love. 2023.com I'm excited.
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It's my first Retreat. I think it's gonna be really
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fun. I've got a couple facilitators a
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couple assistance and I'm excited to just do stuff in
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person. I'm kind of you know Zoom I'm
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zoomed out. All right, I'm zoomed out,
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everybody zoomed out, although it is a great tool for getting
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people together. That don't live where I live,
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but also, I want to do more live stuff.
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God damn it. I want to give people hugs.
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I want to look into their eyes. I want to like feel their
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energy, and that's why I'm excited about the retreat also,
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okay, that's that's that trusting love. 2023.com nine,
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seats left. 1599 is the price doesn't include your
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accommodation or your transport and there's some plenty of
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options in Sedona for all budgets.
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Types. And all right, another event
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that I am a part of. I'm not hosting.
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I'm a guest at In Bloom a love and relationships Summit, and
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I'm pretty excited about this. This is hosted by real love,
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ready? And I was one of the keynote
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speakers during the pandemic, so it was online.
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But this time they're doing their first impersonal event and
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they're bringing together. Freaking powerhouses of love and
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relationship, experts headliner. Of course Keynote.
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Speaker and extraordinaire, badass woman, Esther perel is
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going to be there and then there's going to be just
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fantastic people. So dr.
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Alexander Solomon, who's been on my podcast?
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Terry real, who's been on my podcast?
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Harry Cole, who has not been on my podcast yet dr.
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Ish major. Danielle Laporte reviews of
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these were just like, massive, massive, powerhouses of
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relational health and wellness and so April 4. 18th and 15 in
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Vancouver, Canada, not Washington.
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It's called In Bloom a relationship and love Summit.
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I am going to be, they're giving free love advice.
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So there's going to be a marketplace where they you know
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people have their Wares and their stuff and I'm going to be
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there just with a free love advice sign and maybe a, you
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know, Himalayan salt lamp and giving a little five minute, Q&A
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or mini. Mini coaching free, love advice
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old-school, street style. Sean is back.
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In Vancouver. So April, Fourteenth and fifteen
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Down Below in the show notes is the link for that and you can
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either attend in person on the 15th.
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That's Saturday, April 15th, or you can attend virtually.
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So there's two links down there. One for in-person attendance,
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one for virtual attendance. Okay, so that's all the like
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marketing promo stuff that I have for you.
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All right, what's my future look like?
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I want to do more. Treats, this Valentine's Day, I
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went on a ski trip. A men's ski trip.
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And I met all these dudes there were like, oh my God, your love
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coach like my wife, and I want to sign up for your retreat.
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And I'm like, oh shit, I need to do a Couple's Retreat on
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reconnecting to love on, deepening your intimacy on
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talking about the unspoken on connecting emotionally and maybe
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sexually, who knows? So a reconnecting the love kind
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of event I think would be really, really fun for You know
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Hansel couples, right? Maybe it's maybe it's the kind
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of thing where I rent like a you know house that has like 10
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bedrooms or something and we all stay there for the weekend.
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I think that would be really amazing.
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So I'd like to do that. I'd like to do a men's retreat
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but I just don't know if I have the audience for it.
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I think I would have to use my female audience to sell it.
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So a men's Retreat would be really, really fun.
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I would love to do that. Help you to connect to their
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emotional center, help them. Become more vulnerable, help
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them, communicate the things that they're scared of
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communicating. So I think that would be really,
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lovely, and supportive. And then also, I'll be honest
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with you, I do want to do sexier stuff.
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So maybe an erotic massage Retreat for couples, I've always
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wanted to do this. I've been to a few of them with
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ex-partners and they're always such supportive loving
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connective events and it would be really great to offer that.
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I think the fear Me is that I do have a desire to be more
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mainstream right to do. Like one of my big goals is to
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have a TV show. That's like The Daily Show meets
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Loveline this sort of my idea, right?
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So a variety variety show on sex and love with me as the host and
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I think the fear is that, if I host sexy Retreats that that
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will make that less likely, right?
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So that's a little fear anyways. Just sharing that with you.
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Who knows if it'll happen, but But basically, my goal is to be
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in Montreal this summer for, I don't know.
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May June July, August, September, maybe four months,
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five months. My girlfriend's going to come
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and visit. I was able to procure my old
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apartment back somehow some weird Stroke of Luck.
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So, I'm going to be, you know, Pimping out that pad basically
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as a little Montreal, love nest. And so I guess my goal this
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summer is to figure out these future events.
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It is to figure out merch, right?
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I'd love to be able to offer like a couple hoodies and a pair
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of underwear and a mug to people who want, you know, love Drive
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stuff. Probably a bunch of cool quotes.
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Like, hey my dude or you know love is a Birthright or I've got
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Whole list of them and I just don't have them in front of me.
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I want to do that. I also want to start pitching
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Retreat centers like kripalu esalen Omega Institute to have
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me for them to host me on Retreats, workshops of various
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topics around, emotional availability, connection
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intimacy, speaking up for love. So that's my plan.
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That's my future. I'm excited about it and in the
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meantime you know continue seeing my girlfriend spend time
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outside you know biking hanging with Roger skiing has been good
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this season for me. I don't know.
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I feel like at this point I could I could keep on rambling,
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but I want to be, you know, mindful of your time and your
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commute and your job or whatever you happen to be doing while
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you're listening to this. And again, I just want to say,
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thanks for sticking with me for being here for in.
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ER, acting on Instagram, for taking my courses, for doing all
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of all of what you do, right? Like without you, this job would
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suck. I mean, there would be no job,
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right? And I'm just so grateful that I
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get to do this as a full-time job, right?
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Like amazing, I had no idea when I got fired.
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Sorry. I mean I have gotten tired
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before. I had no idea when I when I got
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rejected from wanting a tech job back in 2014, that that would be
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Catalyst for me doing this work and that, you know, some nine
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years later, I'm still at it. And that I've, you know, slowly
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been able to build a living right, to make a living doing
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this stuff and I'm grateful for that.
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And for you, and thank you. Thanks for being here.
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Have a beautiful week.