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Season 3 - Episode 14 - How do we have people remember us? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. From the chicken coop.
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  Finally we are able to be outside.
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  Yes, cold, but we are outside. So today we are talking about
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  how to get people to remember you.
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  What is the way, the best way that you can get people to
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  remember you, to want to work with you, to feel that you are
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  other than your expertise. So we're talking about outside
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  your expertise because, you know, we have lots of people
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  have credentials on paper, but that doesn't mean people will
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  use them. That doesn't mean that people
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  will call them. It doesn't mean that people will
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  reach out to them. What it means is that they have
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  credentials on paper, and that's wonderful and I have them as
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  well. But the point is how do you get
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  people to remember you? And the most important thing
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  that I can tell you in all the time I've been doing this is you
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  have to touch people emotionally.
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  You have to find a way to touch their emotions in order for them
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  to be engaged with wanting to stay in, in touch with you, to
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  be a part of your world. Now this may seem like it's a,
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  it's an over, you know, overly daunting task because it's like,
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  OK, how do I constantly touch people's emotions?
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  Well, the best way to go about that is being yourself and
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  really sharing with them that you're human too.
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  I mean, it's the biggest thing that people want to know.
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  They want to know they're not alone in this journey and they
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  want to know that they that when their struggles are coming up,
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  they want to hear that other people's world is not perfect.
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  You know, this is one of the biggest challenges we have with
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  social media is because everybody puts out a bunch of,
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  you know, perfect world stuff. And the other extreme is they
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  put out all the disastrous stuff.
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  But there are a boatload of us who live in the middle where we
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  have things go wrong and we have things that go right.
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  But it's not like the perfect world.
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  And that's the sweet spot, my friends.
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  That is the sweet spot when you can engage in that middle ground
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  where you're sharing ups and downs and you're being real, but
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  you're not being overly negative and you're also not projecting
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  that you have a perfect life. You know, that's why I share
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  things with you guys on here about disasters that happened
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  here on the farm. The fact that we, you know, have
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  in the last three weeks have lost 5 chickens is obscene to
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  me. And I can't, you know, I can't
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  tell you how sad it makes me. I can't tell you how many tears
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  I've cried about that and how how it's affected me.
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  I'm Oh, yeah. I mean, like physically, when I
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  get that upset, things happen. Cold sores, acne, like I'm a
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  teenage girl, which is ridiculous just based on stress
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  because I can't figure out how to fix this problem right now.
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  So we are working on it. That's, that's the thing.
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  We had experts come out here. We've had lots of conversations
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  about it, about the best way to handle this.
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  And you know, it. It just takes time.
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  But Needless to say, it's not what we're talking about today.
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  What we're talking about is we are.
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  I'm sharing the emotional ups and downs and it's the middle
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  ground and I'm still functioning.
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  I'm still getting up every day. I'm still doing my stuff.
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  And that's the part that people want to know.
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  They want to know you can survive.
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  There is a way out of things. They want optimism.
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  They want to feel like you have touched their emotions.
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  You have moved them to something you're you're pointing out, hey,
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  you can do this too. If I can do this, you can do
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  this. And that's where people thrive.
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  That's where they want to be all the time because there is
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  nobody's life, not one single person.
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  We look at star after star out there and recently with the loss
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  of Matthew Perry, you know, it looked like, oh, he was, you
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  know, part of our world growing up.
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  And all of a sudden he's gone at such a young age.
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  And we say, wow, you know, I would have thought he would have
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  had a great life, but is he lived a very tortured life.
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  And he talked about it somewhat, but for the most part, people
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  really didn't think about that. But how many stars have we seen?
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  And we thank God they have all the money, they have the fame,
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  they have everything that everyone works for.
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  But they're not happy. And part of that has to be
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  because they are hiding parts of it, because they think they have
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  to be perfect. And this is where these things
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  get a little wonky for people. It's like when you touch their
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  emotions, when you share those things, you inspire other people
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  and it helps you move forward yourself.
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  It helps you start to cultivate a a feeling of peace with
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  yourself because you don't have to put on fakeness to go out and
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  and operate in the world. So those touching of emotions
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  help us in the process too. I I mean, I truly believe that
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  when someone shares their pain in a way that it's effective.
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  Not complaining, not constantly in the state, but when they
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  share it in a very real way and they are honest about the fact
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  that they're working through things and they're doing things
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  that makes a tremendous difference to everyone around
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  them. And then you're remembered.
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  But the key here, I want to finish off with this one
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  important thing. The key is, what do you want to
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  be remembered for? You don't want to be remembered
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  for complaining. You don't want to be remembered
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  for constantly pontificating that you have a perfect life
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  when everyone knows that you don't see.
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  That's the other thing. We all know that we none of us
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  have perfect lives. So it's good to touch their
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  emotions, have them remember you that way and be real for
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  yourself because it's refreshing and it's it's just unbelievably
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  beneficial to lifting the weight off your shoulders of feeling
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  like you always have to be perfect.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you all tomorrow. Bye.