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Season 3 - Episode 166 - What can I do when I feel like I don’t know what to do next? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about a question that I got from
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  a client when she said to me, you know, I don't know what I
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  want to do. I feel like I am completely and
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  totally in this state of, you know, discovery maybe or despair
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  because I don't know what to do. I keep thinking I know what I
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  want to do, but then when I try it, I'm not excited about it.
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  And I keep going down this rabbit hole, so to speak, of
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  being lost and not knowing what I want to do.
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  And I think a lot of us are like that.
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  I know sometimes for myself, I feel that way.
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  I think it's very common. I think a lot of us have
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  multiple things we're interested in.
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  Therefore we feel like we're directionless a lot of times and
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  we don't know what way to go. And I think it is so common in
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  the in human nature to always be looking for what's next or
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  what's better or what could be better or where should I go from
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  here that we think that means we're lost.
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  And I'm here to tell you it doesn't mean you're lost at all.
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  It's it actually is an opportunity.
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  It's exciting. It's something that you can look
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  at and say this is not a bad thing.
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  I mean, trust me, not a bad thing.
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  If you stay there forever, then it's a bad thing.
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  But when you're just there and it's a temporary thing or it's
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  for a short period of time, it's OK because you have to change
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  the language around it. You have to change your beliefs
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  around it. And you have to look at it like
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  I am in a state of possibility. I am in a state of open to all
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  the opportunities that are showing up with me and, and be
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  in an energy of excitement of what that can bring to you.
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  So again, this is all about your perspective.
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  And I know we've talked about that before, but I can't drive
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  this home enough. And when this question came up
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  about like, you know, what do you do when you just feel like
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  you don't know what to do and you feel like you're just, you
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  know, it all over the place. Look at it from a different
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  point of view. Instead of saying it's a bad
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  thing, say this is a great thing.
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  I'm in a wild state of possibility right now.
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  I can go in any direction I want.
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  I can create whatever I want. I can move in any direction I
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  want. I could build out the current
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  business I'm in. I could create a new business, I
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  could get a new job. I could create anything that I
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  want in my life. Even if it's just down to
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  something simple like, you know, creating a piece of art or
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  making a quilt or learning how to cook or doing anything that
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  excites you. It adds possibility.
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  When you have possibility framework in your brain, you are
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  going to be much easier on yourself and you're going to be
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  in that state of what do I always say curiosity?
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  Because curiosity is the power state.
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  Curiosity is such a gift. And when we are in a state of
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  curiosity, we have absolute power because we can look at
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  things and we don't put it all on ourselves to say I've got to
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  make a decision because we're just in a state of curiosity.
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  And when you're curious, you ask better questions, you show up
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  better you for yourself, you show up better for others, you
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  don't make judgments and you're just collecting information,
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  you're curating things. So I, I want to, I want to
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  emphasize that when you're in this, one of the tools that is
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  very important and primarily something that I use
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  consistently, it's grab a notebook, grab a journal, start
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  writing things down. What are all my possibilities?
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  What are my curious thoughts? What are the things that I need
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  to be thinking about doing, paying attention to because or,
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  or, or even the thoughts just even if it's just a conscious
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  stream of thought running and you write it on the paper.
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  You know that exercise in itself when your brain is on overload
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  and you sit down, you grab a pen and paper and you just start
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  putting it and you just start writing.
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  What are all my random thoughts? Once you see them on paper, you
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  can say, well, this is bullshit or this is good.
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  You can say I want to keep this or I want to get rid of it.
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  You can say, well, this is absolute ridiculousness.
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  I don't even want to keep that here.
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  This is dumb. I don't want to think this
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  again. It makes it so much easier to
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  sort out all the things that are running in your head.
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  And often times where the the problem with being in this state
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  comes in is when you're staying in your head by yourself.
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  Boy, that is very much a place of, you know, danger, danger,
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  danger because it allows you to believe what you're thinking.
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  And what we think is not always true.
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  You know, this is how people get into trouble.
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  This is how people get into despair.
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  This is how depression develops. It's one of those points where
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  when you don't share with other people, when you don't have a
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  safe place to share with other people, even if it's on paper,
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  as simple as on paper, gets it out of your head.
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  It's a beginning. And I can't tell you how much I
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  encourage my clients to do this, encourage all of you to do this
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  because it will help you sort it out.
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  So rather than going to a state of Oh no, going to a state of
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  curiosity, going to a state of possibility, reframe this for
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  yourself. Put it on paper, start to like,
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  you know, process it and actually find somebody that even
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  you that you can even sit down with and brainstorm about this
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  with. But pick somebody that you know,
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  has a more positive frame of mind.
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  Don't go to the person that's going to be like, oh, you know,
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  the Debbie Downer of it all and not wanting to see possibilities
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  with you. Pick somebody that you know is
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  great to share with. And if you can't, if you don't,
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  let's say you don't know somebody, I'm telling you, if
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  you go and you start looking, even if you go to meetup.com and
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  you start looking for, you know, groups on there that are all
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  about manifesting and goal setting and all that, you will
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  find something there. It is absolutely one of the best
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  resources out there. If you've never tried it,
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  meeting meetup.com is amazing. Put in your zip code and you'll
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  find something. But don't keep it in your own
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  head, OK? So get busy, get working on it
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  and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a very blessed day my friends.
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  Bye.