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So Inspirations for Your Life, the master weekly
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topic is Series 5, Show 30, Building the
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Habits that Shape an Extraordinary Life.
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How to Build Confidence that Lasts, Series 5,
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Show 30, Episode 5.
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Welcome, everyone, to the Inspirations for Your Life
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show.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, in case you guys did
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not know that, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
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lifelong learner at Montclair State University, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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That's right, guys.
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Confidence is something almost everyone wants, yet many
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people spend their lives waiting for it to
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magically appear.
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The truth is that lasting confidence isn't something
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you're given.
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It's something you build.
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Every promise you keep, every challenge you face,
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every lesson you learn, and every step outside
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your comfort zone strengthens your belief in yourself.
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Confidence isn't about believing you'll never fail.
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It's about knowing you'll continue growing no matter
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what happens.
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Today, I want to explore practical habits that
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help build confidence that lasts a lifetime.
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Confidence is earned.
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Confidence isn't created through wishful thinking.
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It's earned by consistently doing what you said
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you would do.
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Every commitment you honor strengthens the trust you
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have in yourself.
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Number two, action creates belief.
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The fastest way to overcome doubt is through
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action.
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Every time you take a positive step, you
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prove to yourself that you're capable of moving
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forward.
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Action turns possibility into confidence.
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Keep your promises, guys.
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The promises you make to yourself matter just
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as much as those you make to others.
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Every promise you keep strengthens your self-respect.
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Trust begins within.
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Number four, learn from failure.
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Failure isn't proof that you can't succeed.
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It's valuable feedback showing you how to improve
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every setback.
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It becomes a lesson when you choose to
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learn instead of quitting.
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Number five, celebrate progress.
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Don't wait until you've reached the finish line
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before recognizing your growth.
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Every small victory deserves appreciation because progress creates
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momentum and motivation is key.
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Number six, stay authentic.
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Real confidence comes from embracing who you are
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instead of pretending to be someone else.
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Authenticity allows your strength to shine naturally while
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giving you the freedom to continue improving.
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Number seven, believe in growth.
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Your abilities aren't fixed.
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Every new experience expands your knowledge, your skills,
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and your confidence.
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Believe that improvement is always possible.
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Number eight, improve daily.
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Small improvements made consistently create extraordinary transformation.
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Becoming just a little better every day strengthens
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your confidence because you can clearly see your
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own progress.
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Number nine, face discomfort.
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Growth always begins outside your comfort zone.
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I've said this before.
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Every uncomfortable situation you overcome expands your confidence
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and prepares you for greater opportunities ahead.
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Number 10, confidence grows slowly.
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Lasting confidence isn't built overnight.
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It develops through repeated experiences, consistent effort, and
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patient persistence.
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Trust the process and allow confidence to grow
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naturally.
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Number 11, build self-respect.
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Self-respect comes from living according to your
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values and honoring your commitments.
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The more integrity you demonstrate, the more confidence
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you develop in, well, yourself.
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Number 12, stay accountable.
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Taking responsibility for your actions strengthens your character.
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Accountability allows you to learn from every outcome
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instead of blaming circumstances of other people.
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Number 13, learn continuously.
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Knowledge creates confidence.
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Every new skill you develop expands your ability
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to solve problems and overcome challenges.
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Lifelong learning fuels lifelong confidence.
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Number 14, trust yourself.
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You've already overcome challenges that once seemed impossible.
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Remember those victories whenever doubt appears.
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Trust the experience you've earned through persistence.
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Number 15, guys, build confidence.
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Confidence grows when there's more practice, okay, because
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you prepare and you improve your abilities.
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The more naturally confidence flows, skill development creates
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lasting belief in yourself.
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I think that's important, guys.
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Number 16, stay humble.
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True confidence doesn't need to prove itself.
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Humility keeps you open to learning, growing, and
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improving without believing you've mastered everything.
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The most confident people continue listening because they
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know growth never ends.
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I think that's an important piece that a
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lot of us don't understand, okay?
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They don't understand how that works, but it's
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important.
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It's very, very important.
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And you might be saying to me, John,
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I don't quite understand it, but I can
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tell you that it definitely does work, right?
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It definitely does work.
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Number 17, focus on effort.
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While results are important, your effort is what
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you control every day.
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Giving your best builds confidence because you know
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you've done everything possible to move forward.
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Consistent effort always produces long-term rewards.
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Number 18, keep practicing, guys.
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Confidence grows through repetition.
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Every hour spent improving your skills strengthens your
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ability and reduces uncertainty.
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Practice transforms hesitation into confidence and preparation into
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performance.
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I think that's one that a lot of
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people, you know, they get off track.
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They don't understand why that's happening, but this
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is really truth, guys.
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Absolutely, absolutely, absolute truth, okay?
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We have to think about that.
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Number 19, stay positive because a positive mindset,
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ladies and gentlemen, helps you recognize possibilities.
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Instead of limitations, challenges become opportunities to grow
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rather than reasons to quit.
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Optimism doesn't ignore reality.
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It believes better outcomes are possible.
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Number 20, confidence inspires others.
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When people see someone acting with quiet confidence,
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they often feel encouraged to believe in themselves
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as well.
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Your example may give someone else the courage
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to pursue a goal they once thought, okay?
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But it felt like it was impossible, but
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it wasn't.
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Confidence has a powerful ripple effect, and I
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think if we just become aware of that
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for a moment, like, wow, this is pretty
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cool.
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This is pretty amazing.
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Build confidence.
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Build resilience.
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Confidence becomes stronger every time you recover from
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disappointment.
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Resilience teaches you that setbacks are temporary and
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that you have the strength to continue moving
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forward.
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Every recovery builds greater belief in yourself.
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So why not actually pay attention to that,
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right?
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Why not pay attention to that?
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I think that's a very important thing to
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understand, right?
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It's important to understand what can happen.
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Number 22, guys, encourage yourself.
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Your internal conversations matter.
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Replace unnecessary self-criticism with constructive encouragement that
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reminds you of your progress and potential.
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Speak to yourself with the same respect you'd
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offer someone you care about.
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Number 23, learn new skills.
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Every new skill expands your confidence because it
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proves you're capable of learning and adapting.
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Stay curious, continue growing, and never, ever stop
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challenging yourself to improve.
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Growth keeps confidence alive.
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So the question I have is why are
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so many people scared of growth?
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I'll tell you why.
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It's because people want things to be easy.
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They think that if things are difficult that
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that means it's not going to happen.
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So when things are harder, it means that
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you're learning something.
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You are learning something.
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And if you're learning something, it's going to
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stick.
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And guess what?
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It's going to be easier next time, okay?
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Number 24, stay committed.
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Confidence isn't maintained by occasional effort.
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It's strengthened through daily commitment to your goals
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and, of course, your values, your core values,
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that is.
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Continue showing up even when progress feels slow
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because consistency always builds strength.
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Strength.
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So there's no secret, guys, to consistency.
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Just do it.
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That's important.
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That's very important.
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I think sometimes when people see certain things,
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they wonder why.
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And I think if we wonder why, then
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we may be able to ask ourselves and
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say, wait a minute, why is this appearing
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different now?
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Right, why?
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Did something change?
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And if something changed, then maybe it's about
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a shift.
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A shift that maybe we didn't pay attention
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to.
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One that was probably there the whole time,
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but one that we missed.
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And something we missed because we weren't aware
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of the situation.
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There's so many things happening in life each
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day.
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And when we miss the intentional pieces, it's
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like, all right, what do I do now?
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What do I do now?
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Right?
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What do I do now?
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And you might be saying, John, I have
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no idea what I do now.
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But all I can tell you is now
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matters a lot.
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Now matters a lot.
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Now matters a lot.
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But what?
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And if we understand what now is, maybe
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we'll change our perspective.
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Maybe we'll change our thoughts.
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Hey, maybe we'll change our actions.
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And if we change our actions, you know
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what's going to happen?
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We're going to indeed affect our results.
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And that is what we want, isn't it?
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Sure it is.
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But when people fail, they think that's licensed
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to say, OK, I'm done forever.
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You're not done forever.
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You need to change.
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You need to tweak.
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You need to retool something.
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That's it, guys.
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Retool something.
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When you retool something, you'll get a completely
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different perspective.
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A completely different perspective.
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And maybe you're going to say to me,
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John, I don't quite understand.
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The more, ladies and gentlemen, that we become
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aware of something, the more that we are
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able to make better decisions, the more that
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we're able to understand, the more that we're
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able to dismiss confusion, the more that we
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can appreciate where we're coming from at the
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current moment.
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Number 25, guys, progress creates confidence.
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It sure does.
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It creates confidence every single day of our
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life.
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Every single day, it creates confidence.
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And that confidence is something that hopefully will
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let you build.
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It will let you build.
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It will let you build because you're going
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to be able to see something from a
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different angle.
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Let me give you an example.
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Have you ever looked at number six or
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the number nine?
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If you look at the number six that's
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on the ground, it could look like a
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nine depending on your perspective.
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If you look at the other side, it
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could look like a six depending on the
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exact angle that you're focusing on.
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Sometimes we look at one angle and we
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figure that's the only way, but that is
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not the only way.
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That might be the way for now, but
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it's not the only way.
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So just by shifting our perspective just a
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little bit, we can actually change where things
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are coming from, where they're going, where our
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thoughts are, the actions we're taking, and again,
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the outcomes that we're able to create.
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Number 25, guys, progress creates confidence.
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And looking back and seeing how far you've
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come reminds you that your hard work is
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making a difference.
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Celebrate improvement instead of chasing perfection.
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Every step forward reinforces your belief that you're
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capable of even greater things.
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Number 26, guys, never, never, never, never, never,
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never, never, never, never stop improving.
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The most competent people in life are lifelong
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learners.
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They understand there's always another level to reach
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and another lesson to discover somewhere.
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Improvement keeps confidence grounded and continually growing.
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I think if we just take that verbatim,
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OK, that's a lot, guys.
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That's a lot.
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And the more that we think about that,
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the more that life can become easier for
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us, right?
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The more it can become easier.
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Number 27, guys, please believe through your actions.
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Belief becomes stronger every time you act despite
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your uncertainty.
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Waiting until you feel completely confident often delays
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progress.
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Take the next step anyway and let your
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actions strengthen your confidence along the way.
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A lot of people I know are afraid
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to take that step.
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Now, you could be wrong with that step,
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but what if you're right?
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It'll help you grow.
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It'll help you appreciate what you're doing.
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And again, it will raise the dopamine in
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your head so you can indeed do better
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things in life.
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You can do better things in life.
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I think that's important, guys.
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You could do better things in life.
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If you could do better things in life,
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I want to ask you one thing.
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What is it you would do if you
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could do something better right now in your
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life?
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What is it?
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Is there something you want to accomplish?
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Is there something you want to set the
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record straight on?
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Like, what is it that you want?
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What do you want to change in the
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world?
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You could change anything you want.
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Number 28, guys, success follows confidence.
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Confidence encourages you to accept opportunities, overcome obstacles,
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and keep moving when others stop.
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It doesn't guarantee success, but it greatly increases
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your willingness to pursue it.
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Belief often opens doors that fear keeps closed.
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Number 29, stay courageous.
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Courage isn't the absence of fear.
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It's the willingness to keep moving despite it
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anyway.
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Every courageous decision expands your comfort zone and
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prepares you for even greater opportunities in your
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future.
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Number 30, guys, confidence changes everything.
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Confidence influences us how to think, to communicate,
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to lead, to solve all kinds of problems
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and pursue your goals.
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It affects every area of life because it
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changes how you see yourself and what's possible.
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Build it patiently, protect it daily, and allow
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it to become one of your greatest strengths.
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In closing, confidence isn't something you find.
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It's something you build through thousands of small
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decisions made consistently over time.
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Every promise you keep, every challenge you face,
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every lesson you learn, and every step outside
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your comfort zone strengthens your belief in yourself
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just a little bit more.
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The more you invest in your growth, the
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more naturally confidence becomes part of who you
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are.
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Remember that lasting confidence isn't about being perfect.
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Nope.
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It's about trusting yourself to keep learning, adapting,
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and moving forward regardless of the obstacles you
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encounter.
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Continue, my friends, building your skills.
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Owning your commitments.
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Staying humble and believing in the progress you're
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making.
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See, the confidence you build today will become
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the foundation for the opportunities you embrace tomorrow.
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And I know that's hard for a lot
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of people to realize, but this is really,
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this is the good stuff, guys.
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This is the stuff that's gonna make you
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become that great person.
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I do thank you so much for joining
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me for another amazing, outstanding episode of the
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Inspirations for Your Life show.
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Of course, you know by now I'm John
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C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and grateful
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now to be a published author.
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Of course, ladies and gentlemen, until next time,
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believe in your potential.
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Trust the work you're putting in.
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And remember that confidence isn't created by waiting.
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No, it's not.
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It's created by taking action, learning continuously, and
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becoming a little stronger every single day.
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Ladies and gentlemen, please keep growing, okay?
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Keep believing.
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And continue building the habits that shape an
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extraordinary life.
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But you can't do any of this, guys,
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if you're fearful, if you're worried about taking
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that step.
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The step might be uncomfortable, but that step
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might get you to the place you need
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to be to experience success.
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I have a question for all of you.
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Are you afraid to take that step right
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now?
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And if you are, I'd love to know
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why you're afraid of taking that step.
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Just answer that question for me.
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Is it because somebody put fear in you,
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false evidence appearing real?
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Is it because you're just afraid of failing?
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Is it because you're worried about being perfect?
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What's the real reason that you don't wanna
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build confidence?
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I doubt you're lazy.
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I doubt that.
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What is the real reason that you don't
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wanna build confidence?
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Why don't you wanna have an extraordinary life?
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I was talking to somebody tonight.
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It was another coach at a networking event.
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And I said to him, what type of
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coaching do you like?
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And he says, well, all parts.
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And I started asking him questions and then
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he started answering.
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But I said to him, people that don't
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wanna change shouldn't watch my show or be
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coached because they really don't wanna change.
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They're only there because they told somebody else
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they're thinking of changing.
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I think that's a big, big, big, big,
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big, big problem.
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Big problem.
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But what does it mean?
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It means that we have the power and
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that power is not a sense of entitlement.
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It's a sense of knowing.
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It's a sense of confidence.
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It's a sense of understanding.
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Derived knowledge, insights, challenges,
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frustrations, wins.
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If we look at something and we haven't
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succeeded yet and we're on that path, don't
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dare turn around.
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You're so close.
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Why would you wanna turn around?
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Why?
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I just wanna know this one question.
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Why would you not wanna build confidence?
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The only reason I could think of, I
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told you people are lazy.
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But I don't think that's the core reason.
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I think it's a sense of inner fear.
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I think it's a sense of, well, what
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happens if I fail?
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But here's the other question.
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What happens if I succeed?
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You didn't think about that.
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What happens if I succeed?
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You know, more people are fearful of not
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failure.
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They're feeling or being failure prone because they're
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worried about succeeding.
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And they're like, oh my gosh, if this
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happens, what do I do?
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Has my life changed?
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Take a breath.
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Relax.
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Enjoy the world.
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Enjoy the ride.
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Enjoy the experience of life.
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And once you've done all that, you do
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it mindfully, the world, ladies and gentlemen, can
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be your oyster.
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I hope you have a great rest of
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your day or evening.
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And please be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved
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.com for more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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Take care, everyone.
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Be well.