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Speaker 1: Welcome to Come Back to Love with your host, Robin Vogel.
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Speaker 1: Each week at this same time, come Back to Love
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Speaker 1: covers an endless array of topics related to relationships, love
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Speaker 1: and intimacy, along with all the reasons you may be
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Speaker 1: keeping love at a distance. Can a shattered heart be
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Speaker 1: your doorway to your greatest love story? Robin will give
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Speaker 1: you practical tools that can be used to heal the
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Speaker 1: past and help you to safely love again. And now
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Speaker 1: today's come Back to Love.
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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, this is Robin Vogel, and this is come
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Speaker 2: Back to Love Radio. We are on km E T
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Speaker 2: and I am broadcasting today from Costa Rica from the
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Speaker 2: mountains in Costa Rica. What a thrill to be able
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Speaker 2: to be here and also be connected with each of
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Speaker 2: you that's listening to the show. The show is live
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Speaker 2: on Thursdays at one thirty pm Pacific time that's four
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Speaker 2: thirty pm Eastern Time, and also can be listened any
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Speaker 2: place that you listen to your podcasts. So welcome, Welcome.
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Speaker 2: This is episode number two and I'm Robin Vogel. This
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Speaker 2: episode is honoring I also want to say celebrating, but regardless,
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Speaker 2: talking about heartbreak as transformation which is a really big
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Speaker 2: part of the work of Come Back to Love. When
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Speaker 2: your heart breaks open instead of breaking down, there's an
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Speaker 2: opportunity for transformation, and we're going to talk about that today,
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Speaker 2: how heartbreak can become the beginning of your deepest healing
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Speaker 2: and your most authentic life. This episode is going to
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Speaker 2: be about what happens after life feels like it's falling apart.
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Speaker 2: But first I'll take a moment to introduce myself. Since
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Speaker 2: this is a new show on km ET and I
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Speaker 2: have a new audience listening in, so it'll take a
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Speaker 2: little bit to get to know me, and so I
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Speaker 2: want to introduce myself again. My name is Robin Vogel
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Speaker 2: and I'm a psychotherapist. I'm a love an Intimacy coach
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Speaker 2: and the author of come Back to Love, a Path
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Speaker 2: to Healing. That book was published this year February twenty
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Speaker 2: twenty six by Kohler Books and can be found anywhere
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Speaker 2: that you buy books online. For over twenty years, I've
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Speaker 2: been helping people do what I had to learn to
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Speaker 2: do myself. Heal the past, understand the patterns, and create
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Speaker 2: the kind of love that's actually real, not the love
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Speaker 2: that looks good on paper. Not the love that looks
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Speaker 2: or feels like a roller coaster you can't get off,
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Speaker 2: but the love that feels like finally, This is what
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Speaker 2: I was looking for. This episode is for you if
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Speaker 2: you have been through a heartbreak, if you have heartache
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Speaker 2: in your life, come back to Love is for all
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Speaker 2: of you that have experienced a loss, perhaps that's divorce
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Speaker 2: or grief from a death, or a major transition in life.
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Speaker 2: Perhaps you experience the betrayal, abandonment, some kind of disappointment,
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Speaker 2: major disappointment in life, even aging, change an identity, adult
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Speaker 2: children leaving home that's a big one for me, a
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Speaker 2: loss of a friendship, illness, loneliness, and just kind of
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Speaker 2: sharing all the different ways that people experience heartache and
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Speaker 2: heartbreak in their lives. It's really universal, isn't it. Then
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Speaker 2: they come back to love. Work and the work that
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Speaker 2: we do together and the things I'm going to talk
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Speaker 2: about on my radio show again all have to do
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Speaker 2: with healing the heart. Healing the heart and coming back
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Speaker 2: to love. That is a mantra that I use often
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Speaker 2: often because the heartbreak changes us. It changes us each
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Speaker 2: time it happens, and sometimes you try to fix it
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Speaker 2: really quickly move on really quickly. There's a lot of
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Speaker 2: pressure in our culture to move on. Gosh, you know,
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Speaker 2: don't stay sad too long. Other people get uncomfortable. They
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Speaker 2: want you to move through it quickly. Your mother dies,
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Speaker 2: you take a day off from work, but the boss
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Speaker 2: expects you back at work the next day. Meanwhile, you
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Speaker 2: haven't had a chance to take a breath. There's a
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Speaker 2: lot of hidden shame around grief and our culture. What
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Speaker 2: if heartbreak isn't just something to survive and kind of
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Speaker 2: push through. What if it's an initiation into a deeper life.
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Speaker 2: It certainly has been for me. I'll share a little
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Speaker 2: bit about my story right here, so it's yeah, I
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Speaker 2: had a tragic childhood. I will say that you can
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Speaker 2: certainly read lots of details in my book, but I'll
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Speaker 2: share here that I had my mother who died when
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Speaker 2: I was ten years old in nineteen seventy six. She
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Speaker 2: had cancer. She actually discovered it herself back in nineteen
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Speaker 2: seventy two. I was six years old at the time.
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Speaker 2: She discovered a lump in her breast and she went
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Speaker 2: to the doctor and the doctor said, oh, everything's yeah,
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Speaker 2: it's fine, it's nothing. Just you know, it'll go away,
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Speaker 2: don't worry about it. So she came home and she
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Speaker 2: reported back to her mom, to my dad, her husband.
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Speaker 2: You know, the doctor said everything's fine, and they both said, nah,
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Speaker 2: go get a second opinion, Like that's that doesn't seem right.
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Speaker 2: You should get a second opinion. But I think she
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Speaker 2: was so relieved to get, you know, not a death
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Speaker 2: sentence in that meeting, that she just said, no, no,
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Speaker 2: I'm just going to I'm just going to believe this doctor.
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Speaker 3: And.
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Speaker 2: Then, you know, hopefully I'll get better. Long story short,
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Speaker 2: she didn't get better. The lump got bigger. She went
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Speaker 2: back to the doctor a year later, and at that point,
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Speaker 2: very sadly, the cancer had metastasized and she had it
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Speaker 2: many different organs in her body. At that point, she
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Speaker 2: did start treatment, and she spent three years treating. You know,
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Speaker 2: under treatment, I would say surgeries and chemotherapy and radiation.
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Speaker 2: And it's interesting because I find myself hesitating as I
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Speaker 2: tell you the story because the truth is, I was
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Speaker 2: so young. I don't actually know what she went through.
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Speaker 2: I don't know all the specific details. My parents didn't
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Speaker 2: talk about it. The wisdom quote unquote of that time
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Speaker 2: was don't talk about it. With the kids. Keep it
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Speaker 2: to yourself, you know, we don't want to make the
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Speaker 2: kids feel this or that or the other thing. And
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Speaker 2: so it was like a big secret in my house,
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Speaker 2: which was another trauma and another heartbreak. And so when
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Speaker 2: I asked the question, what if heartbreak isn't just something
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Speaker 2: to survive but an initiation into a deeper life. Now,
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Speaker 2: certainly for me it was something to survive. For many years.
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Speaker 2: It was so challenging and hard to survive at age ten, eleven,
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Speaker 2: twelve thirteen. Right all those teenage years, it was, oh gosh,
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Speaker 2: it was just like torture, and all I was doing
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Speaker 2: was trying to survive. But once I stepped in to
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Speaker 2: more of an adult and the realization that I really
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Speaker 2: needed to start not just surviving but doing the healing
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Speaker 2: work to heal my own heart, it became clear after
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Speaker 2: a while that this was a very significant initiation into
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Speaker 2: a deeper life. And it has completely changed and guided,
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Speaker 2: i want to say, guided my life to the work
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Speaker 2: that I'm doing today, which is supporting others in a
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Speaker 2: very large community that I've created in the northeastern part
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Speaker 2: of the United States, but also extending out nationally internationally
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Speaker 2: as I've been teaching in various places over the last
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Speaker 2: twenty five years, but really inviting people to look at
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Speaker 2: what's holding them back and love and noticing what heart breaks,
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Speaker 2: what heart aches, what traumas have people been through that
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Speaker 2: are still lingering. And people are yeah, once they see
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Speaker 2: that they or once they notice that they feel stuck
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Speaker 2: in relationship, in love and intimacy, once they notice that
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Speaker 2: they feel afraid, once they notice that they feel like
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Speaker 2: their heart is closed, or even they might not know
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Speaker 2: what the reason is, but just a feeling of stuck
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Speaker 2: and not having the intimacy in their lives that they want.
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Speaker 2: That's when they come to the work of come back
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Speaker 2: to love, to do the healing, to open their hearts
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Speaker 2: again to themselves that they can live a life full
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Speaker 2: of love, whatever that looks like. I always tell my
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Speaker 2: clients and my workshop participants. Once you do the healing
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Speaker 2: work and you come back to love with yourself and
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Speaker 2: you open up to such a deep place of self
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Speaker 2: love inside yourself and you feel more aligned with yourself,
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Speaker 2: you get to choose do you want to be in
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Speaker 2: relationship or no? Do you want to have children? What
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Speaker 2: kind of work do you want to do? Do you
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Speaker 2: want to change your work. Where do you want to live? Like,
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Speaker 2: Once you're really that deeply connected to yourself and aligned
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Speaker 2: with your true, authentic self, that's the place to make
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Speaker 2: choices from. And that's an incredible place to make choices
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Speaker 2: from versus when you're all over the place and running,
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Speaker 2: you know, a million miles an hour and disconnected from yourself,
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Speaker 2: dissociated from your body. It's really hard to make good,
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Speaker 2: healthy choices for yourself when you're feeling that. So heartbreak
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Speaker 2: and trauma affect us in very deep ways. That's obvious,
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Speaker 2: but I want to say that, you know, there's a
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Speaker 2: lot of talk about nervous system work these days. You know,
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Speaker 2: reset your nervous system, And that's because when we I've
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Speaker 2: had trauma, our nervous systems are haywire. And I didn't
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Speaker 2: know that. When I first started doing my own work,
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Speaker 2: I was doing mostly emotional work. I became a psychotherapist,
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Speaker 2: but I couldn't quite get to the endpoint that I wanted.
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Speaker 2: I kept making progress. Everything I did was helped so helpful,
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Speaker 2: and I'll share more about the things that I did
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Speaker 2: for myself in this radio show over the coming weeks.
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Speaker 2: But it wasn't until I started doing the nervous system
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Speaker 2: recovery work that I finally healed some big symptoms that
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Speaker 2: were just in my way. Wow, that was majorly life changing.
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Speaker 2: When I came across the nervous system, I almost said neuroplasticity,
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Speaker 2: because those are the tools that I teach, and then
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Speaker 2: I'll be teaching on this radio show some of them
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Speaker 2: that you can use right away. That really changed things
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Speaker 2: for me in a very significant way. Another piece of
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Speaker 2: what happens when there's been a trauma or a significant
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Speaker 2: heartbreak is we put up protective walls. Now often we
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Speaker 2: need those protective walls when the trauma or event is happening.
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Speaker 2: When my mother was sick and going to chemotherapy and
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Speaker 2: feeling ill and feeling angry and taking it out some
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Speaker 2: ways just in her mood and her energy in the
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Speaker 2: house towards me, I had to put protection up. That's
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Speaker 2: a good thing. When we put protection up when we're young,
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Speaker 2: when we went through when we're going through something really painful,
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Speaker 2: those protective parts are so valuable. As an internal family
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Speaker 2: systems therapist, I work a lot with parts, and we
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Speaker 2: saying there are no bad parts. We need the protection
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Speaker 2: at the time that we need it. However, after a
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Speaker 2: betrayal or a loss has happened and we put up
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Speaker 2: some protection, we then need later on to look at
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Speaker 2: those protective parts and to do the healing work to
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Speaker 2: lower those walls and barriers and open the heart. So
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Speaker 2: that's really deep work and such important work. Often what
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Speaker 2: happens when there's a heartbreak or a heartache is we
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Speaker 2: lose trust. There's a lot of trust we Sometimes we
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Speaker 2: don't trust ourselves and often we don't trust others. In
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Speaker 2: my case, I've lost trust in adults like they lied
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Speaker 2: to us. I had to recover that trust over time.
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Speaker 2: I lost trust in love because I was you know,
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Speaker 2: your mother is like your first love, your most primary
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Speaker 2: love relationship. I've lost trust in love. For those of
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Speaker 2: you that have had a betrayal, which many of my
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Speaker 2: clients have, or have been with a narcissistic partner, regaining
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Speaker 2: trust is so important to your process of healing. There's
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Speaker 2: sometimes an identity collapse. Like I thought I was someone
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Speaker 2: who chose well in relationship, but when I look back
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Speaker 2: at my life, I've chosen two narcissistic partners for example.
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Speaker 2: Just continuing with that example, so there's a piece of identity.
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Speaker 2: That's just one example that sometimes collapses and falls apart
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Speaker 2: art and then you know there's a rising out of that.
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Speaker 2: There can be emotional numbness, and that relates to the
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Speaker 2: protective walls, but there can be very much so a
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Speaker 2: shutting down in fear from the trauma from the heartbreak
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Speaker 2: of the past, and that of course numbness. We say
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Speaker 2: in internal family systems work and none is a part.
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Speaker 2: It's a protective part. So again we do the healing
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Speaker 2: work and figure out, you know, what to do with
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Speaker 2: that in terms of healing and opening up, coming back
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Speaker 2: to your authentic self and you know, doing the healing
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Speaker 2: work that's necessary. All right, stay with me. This is
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Speaker 2: Robin Vogel. We are on k M e T Radio.
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Speaker 2: We are on we Are Come Back to Love today
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Speaker 2: Thursdays live at one thirty pm Pacific for thirty pm
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Speaker 2: Eastern every week. I'm talking about heartbreak and the things
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Speaker 2: that that heartbreak actually does to us. And one of
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Speaker 2: the last pieces I want to mention right now is overfunctioning.
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Speaker 2: And if you're identifying with any of these things, I'm saying,
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Speaker 2: you know, reach out because these are all the things
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Speaker 2: I actually have experienced in my life because of my
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Speaker 2: own heartbreak, and overfunctioning is one of them, and I
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Speaker 2: will say I am still working on that one. Overfunctioning, overdoing, overworking,
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Speaker 2: trying to make other people happy, trying to make everybody happy,
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Speaker 2: trying to be the best, the most perfect, fill in
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Speaker 2: the blank. If this is you, I'm with you, And
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Speaker 2: you know, just another really important thing to look at
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Speaker 2: when it comes to healing the heart and coming back
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Speaker 2: to love. Because when we're overfunctioning, we're actually disconnected from ourselves.
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Speaker 2: We're overriding fatigue, we're overriding our natural rhythms, our natural pace,
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Speaker 2: which may be way slower. We override symptoms from our bodies,
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Speaker 2: we get sick, we heard ourselves, all of these things
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Speaker 2: because of the disconnect. So overfunctioning is a really big
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Speaker 2: piece and something to just think about in terms of
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Speaker 2: looking at yourself and asking yourself like, hmm, am I
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Speaker 2: someone who overfunctions. So there's also other pieces you know
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Speaker 2: of our lives, of course, that are impacted by trauma.
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Speaker 2: There's attachment, there's anxiety, there's the good girl conditioning, which
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Speaker 2: is kind of like overfunctioning, and there's the abandonment wounds.
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Speaker 2: Of course, you know that we'll talk more about down
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Speaker 2: the road, but all of these are, you know, ways
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Speaker 2: that heartbreak has impacted. And what I want to talk
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Speaker 2: about in the second half of the show today is
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Speaker 2: I want to introduce you to the healing methodology that
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Speaker 2: I have developed over the last twenty five years of
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Speaker 2: working not only with hundreds of individuals and couples, but
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Speaker 2: also working with myself. Because, like I said earlier, I teach,
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Speaker 2: I share, I facilitate that has worked for me. Otherwise,
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Speaker 2: you know, I can't teach you, I can't guide. I
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Speaker 2: guide from my own experience, from the things that I
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Speaker 2: have spent a lot of time with, not just a
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Speaker 2: quick you know, oh yeah, I tried this one thing
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Speaker 2: and it worked, and now I'm going to teach it now.
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Speaker 2: I really have spent a lot of time, years and
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Speaker 2: years and years healing and really looking at what has
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Speaker 2: had impact. So I have developed something called the Four Gates,
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Speaker 2: the Four Gates approach, and actually in my book Come
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Speaker 2: Back to Love, A Path to Healing, the Four Gates
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Speaker 2: approach are introduced and also gone into in the book
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Speaker 2: with some depth. Of course. Each chapter has an introduction
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Speaker 2: to one of the gates and then exercises to do
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Speaker 2: the work with yourself, and then of course, if you
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Speaker 2: need support, you reach out to your own therapist or
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Speaker 2: a coach, or to me. I always offer thirty minutes
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Speaker 2: of free consultation. So you can find that link very easily,
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Speaker 2: or you can find it. I'm on my website, which
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Speaker 2: is just simply come back to love dot com. So
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Speaker 2: beyond the emotion is Gate one. And actually, before I
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Speaker 2: speak about the gates, I just want to invite all
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Speaker 2: of my listeners in this moment to take a deep breath.
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Speaker 2: Take a deep breath. You might close your eyes for
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Speaker 2: a moment and visualize yourself on a path, see a
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Speaker 2: beautiful path, whatever that beautiful path is for you. For me,
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Speaker 2: it's definitely outside. It's dirt, it's surrounded by green, it's
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Speaker 2: got beautiful benches and trees and berries and perhaps fruit trees.
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Speaker 2: Since I'm here in Costa Rica right now, and I
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Speaker 2: see that path, the path, as the path to love,
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Speaker 2: and they invite you to do the same. See the
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Speaker 2: path as the path to love. And as you're walking
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Speaker 2: down the path, you will eventually come to each gate,
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Speaker 2: four of them. And when you stop at the first one,
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Speaker 2: I'll invite you to do some inner work and when
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Speaker 2: we get to Gate two, the same Gate three, gay four.
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Speaker 2: Now they're not necessarily linear, but our minds like linearity,
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Speaker 2: so I created them as a linear path because it's
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Speaker 2: an easier framework for all of us to use. I
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Speaker 2: want to invite you to see yourself walking down the
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Speaker 2: path and stop for a moment at this first beautiful
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Speaker 2: gate that you come to, the first gate I call
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Speaker 2: beyond the emotion. Now, as a psychotherapist, of course I
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Speaker 2: do a lot of emotional healing work with people, and
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Speaker 2: as I said earlier, I was doing a lot for
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Speaker 2: myself and it wasn't the whole story, which is really
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Speaker 2: how these gates I want to say, we're channeled so
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Speaker 2: that the methodology could be created for people to use.
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Speaker 2: So beyond the emotion though, really important, because when you've
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Speaker 2: had loss and you're feeling stuck in your life, there's
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Speaker 2: probably more emotional work to do. In my work, Like
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Speaker 2: I said, I use internal family systems work strongly. I
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Speaker 2: use many other things for emotional healing, but learning how
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Speaker 2: to be with heartbreak, move through heartbreak at your own pass,
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Speaker 2: move through loss at your own pass, at your own pace,
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Speaker 2: without becoming consumed by it. You know, you might be
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Speaker 2: looking at emotional overwhelm, a lot of grief. How to
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Speaker 2: alchemize the emotions. Healing isn't about avoiding the emotions. It's
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Speaker 2: actually about learning not to disappear inside the emotions and
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Speaker 2: also not to block them. They can't be expressed. So
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Speaker 2: the first gait, beyond the emotion, really important, and we
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Speaker 2: spend a lot of time there. As you can imagine
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Speaker 2: the second gait I call beyond the mind, which is
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Speaker 2: moving beyond limiting beliefs. It's moving beyond obsessive thinking. It's
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Speaker 2: moving beyond replaying the past over and over and over
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Speaker 2: again in your mind. It's moving beyond self blame, moving
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Speaker 2: beyond places that you don't love yourself, moving beyond a
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Speaker 2: mental way of kind of controlling your pain, if that
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Speaker 2: makes sense to you. These limiting beliefs can get They
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Speaker 2: dictate our lives. I'm not good enough, I'm not lovable,
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Speaker 2: I'm not choosable, nobody likes me, I'm too broken. Any
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Speaker 2: of those thoughts come from the trauma from the past,
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Speaker 2: and they get stuck. They're neural pathways in the brain
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Speaker 2: that get stuck, and they get there's actually stuck until
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Speaker 2: you use the tools of neuroplasticity, which again I will
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Speaker 2: say more about and you can learn more about, certainly
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Speaker 2: by connecting with me. But these tools are so powerful
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Speaker 2: and they will stop those thoughts in their tracks. Honestly,
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Speaker 2: it was it felt like magic to me when I
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Speaker 2: did it myself. So if you're like ruminating or over analyzing,
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Speaker 2: or really attached to a story in your life that
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Speaker 2: just is guiding everything, if you're trying to make meaning
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Speaker 2: and over make meaning in your mind from the trauma
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Speaker 2: from the past that you've experienced, I invite you to
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Speaker 2: really get to know these limiting beliefs so you know
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Speaker 2: what they are. And once you know what they are,
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Speaker 2: they can be healed. Yeah, it often begins. The healing
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Speaker 2: begins when we loosen our grip on these thoughts and
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Speaker 2: on the story. The third gait, just briefly, is beyond
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Speaker 2: the human, and beyond the human is about looking at
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Speaker 2: your being as a soul, looking at spiritual initiation where
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Speaker 2: heartbreak can become spiritual initiation, looking at what your soul
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Speaker 2: is supposed to learn in this lifetime right now, on
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Speaker 2: the planet, right now. This is very powerful work. It
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Speaker 2: invites you to surrender to what's true. It invites your
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Speaker 2: soul to grow and evolve. This particular gait teaches you
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Speaker 2: something about your purpose for being here, and it adds grace.
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Speaker 2: It invites an awakening. There's a sacred transformation that happens
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Speaker 2: when we do the work of Gate three beyond the human.
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Speaker 2: The fourth gate has to do with the body, including
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Speaker 2: the body, finding out and discovering how trauma is still
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Speaker 2: being held in your body, doing somatic practices, understanding why
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Speaker 2: your hip hurts, your right hip and not your left,
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Speaker 2: your knees, whatever it is. However, your body is holding
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Speaker 2: the trauma and the heartbreak. You might have numbness in
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Speaker 2: your body, it might not be pain. This part of
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Speaker 2: our work talks about sensuality and how that might be
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Speaker 2: a challenge for you. Talks about safety in the body,
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Speaker 2: talks about yes and no and maybe and how to
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Speaker 2: really navigate and know from the inside out how to
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Speaker 2: feel safe, how to regulate yourself, and how to reconnect
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Speaker 2: to your body so you have pleasure, so you have vitality,
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Speaker 2: so that you make a ligne choices for yourself. The
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Speaker 2: body remembers heartbreak, but it also remembers how to heal.
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Speaker 2: So those are the four gates. That's the four gate
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Speaker 2: approach to come back to love. A shattered heart is
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Speaker 2: not proof you failed at love or you failed in
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Speaker 2: your life. Sometimes it's the breaking open required to become
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Speaker 2: more full of yourself. I invite you to check out
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Speaker 2: my book, come Back to Love. I invite you to
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Speaker 2: check out my web site of the same name. Feel
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Speaker 2: free to join my newsletter list. You actually can download
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Speaker 2: a free the first chapter of my book for free
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Speaker 2: on my website come Back to Love, and also, of
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Speaker 2: course thirty minutes free consultation. I really invite you to
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Speaker 2: self identify, to notice where you resonated with the things
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Speaker 2: that I share today about my own story about how
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Speaker 2: heartbreak changes us and impacts us in such a significant way.
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Speaker 2: And just notice if you feel resonant with this work.
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Speaker 2: I invite you to continue listening and continue exploring. This
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Speaker 2: has been the second episode of come Back to Love,
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Speaker 2: and I'm so glad you were here. If something stirred
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Speaker 2: in you today, if you felt something open or recognized
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Speaker 2: yourself and what we explored, I want you to know
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Speaker 2: that you don't have to figure this out alone. Again,
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Speaker 2: I offer a free thirty minute private conversation just the
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Speaker 2: two of us no agenda except to understand where you
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Speaker 2: are and what might be possible for you. You can book
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Speaker 2: yours again at comebacktolove dot com. If you're ready for
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Speaker 2: that conversation, please reach out and if not, come back
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Speaker 2: to me. Come Back to Love next Thursday at one
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Speaker 2: thirty pm Pacific four thirty pm Eastern. Right here on
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Speaker 2: km E T I will be here again. This show
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Speaker 2: is called come Back to Love because I believe with
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Speaker 2: everything in me that love is not something you find,
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Speaker 2: it's something you return to. It's already in you. It
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Speaker 2: already is in you. It's always been in you. We're
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Speaker 2: just finding our way back. I'm Robin Vogel. Be gentle
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Speaker 2: with yourself. Love is possible, and it starts with coming
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Speaker 2: back to You. I'll see you next week.
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Speaker 3: Hi, this is Robin Vogel, host of come Back to Love.
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Speaker 3: If you are ready to heal the past and open
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Speaker 3: your heart to love again, I want to talk with you.
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Speaker 3: Book a free thirty minute private conversation with me at
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Speaker 3: give you real tools you can use right now. Because
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Speaker 3: love isn't just possible for you. It's waiting for you.
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Speaker 1: Today, you've been listening to come Back to Love with
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Speaker 1: Robin Vogel, a transformative program that covers an endless array
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Speaker 1: of topics related to relationships, love and intimacy, along with
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Speaker 1: all the reasons you may be keeping love at a distance.
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Speaker 1: Tune in each week as Robin gives you practical tools
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Speaker 1: that can be used to heal the past and help
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Speaker 1: you to safely love again. Join Robin again next week
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Speaker 1: at the same time for come Back to Love