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Season 3 - Episode 100 - The triggers that OWN us · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  As you can hear it is a noisy day out here and we are talking
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  today about the power of being neutral.
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  Oh boy, Being neutral is not easy.
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  Taking yourself out of your emotion and not allowing your
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  emotions to get in your way and set you up for failure.
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  And you know it's a it's something that the better you
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  get at it, the happier you seem to be because things can't push
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  your buttons. So what is being neutral really
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  mean? Well it means that you don't
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  have a bunch of triggers as we talked about in another podcast,
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  that fire off constantly. Or if they do you don't keep
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  them, you try to go back to them.
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  I often say to clients you want to pretend like you're
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  Switzerland. You just don't get involved.
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  I'm. I'm not going to put my emotion
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  into that. I'm not going to put my energy
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  into that. I'm not going to put my focus on
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  that, However you like to do, It's going.
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  Being neutral more than not, and observing yourself in this
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  process is quite fascinating because it is astounding how
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  many things we get triggered on emotionally during the day,
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  whether it's someone leaving dishes in the sink, people in
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  traffic, oh man. I can't tell you how many
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  conversations that I have with clients who get angry in
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  traffic. And I find this fascinating
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  because everyone's in their own little bubble and you're
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  driving. And I've done it too.
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  I've gotten mad at people in traffic, but they can't hear
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  you. They don't even know how upset
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  you are. Half of them don't even know
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  what they did. And you're sitting there in a
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  pile of anger that's consuming you and they don't even know it,
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  and they're just gone. And even after they drive away,
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  you're still in the state of anger and you're just like, Oh
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  my gosh. And you'll even get to where
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  you're going and then talk about it and say, I was on the ride
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  here. It was the worst ride here ever.
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  Every stupid driver in the world get out there.
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  And it doesn't need to happen that way because you're getting
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  triggered by them and you're not able to pull yourself back to
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  neutral, back to not getting annoyed back to not having that
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  button being pushed back, to saying I don't always have to be
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  in a, you know, I think the way to the best way for me to
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  explain this is I'm a very happy person at the core of who I am.
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  Like inside, I'm just very happy, very peaceful, still very
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  driven. But I can say I'm happy most of
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  the time. I feel really happy.
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  Does that mean I don't get triggered?
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  Absolutely not. I get triggered.
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  But I try to let it all go as quickly as I can so that I can
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  just come back to neutral. And then I can choose from there
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  where I want to go and at the feet and and be able to feel
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  happy. Because the beautiful thing
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  about being a human being is that we get to feel multiple
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  emotions all at the same time. We can truly feel multiple
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  things at the same time. You know, my mother passed away.
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  I I love this using it as an example because it was so true.
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  She had suffered from a sickness for a long time, and when she
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  passed away, I was so at peace and so relieved that she wasn't
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  suffering anymore. While I was absolutely
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  heartbroken that she was gone and I was going to miss her
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  terribly and still do, And I was astounded that I could feel two
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  opposite ends of the the spectrum so hard at the same
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  time. And this is the great thing
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  about being a human. You can so you can feel peaceful
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  inside, you can have a sense of happiness.
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  At the same time, your triggers are going off and you've just
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  got to choose where do you want to go.
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  You know that old there's an old phrase about there are two
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  wolves inside of you and one that survives on anger and one
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  that survives on love, and the one that survives the longest is
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  the one you feed. And you have to really consider
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  the fact that you have ultimate control over this.
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  And going to neutral for me is something I love to be able to
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  teach my clients because it's powerful.
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  You you have the ability to say, you know what, I just need to
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  take time to think about that or I need to take time to pause.
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  I don't have to answer right now.
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  We we are so rushed as human beings.
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  We are so pushed to to just Doo Doo BB go, go, go.
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  And the truth is we don't have to do that.
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  We can pause. We can take our time.
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  We can take that moment and just choose something different.
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  So that's what I'm asking you to do.
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  I'm asking you to pause. I'm asking you to think about
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  it. I'm asking you to say I'm not
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  going to get that trigger fired off right now.
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  I'm going to get to neutral. I'm going to be OK and I'm going
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  to go from there. So I hope that you guys can work
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  on this today and really see the power of neutral and the the
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  blessing it is to get back to being neutral so that you don't
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  have to allow others to control you and that what their actions
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  to control you. I hope you all have a very
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.