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Control Your Anger & Anxiety in Seconds | Simple Techniques for Daily Stress Relief | Eye Opener Society · Eye Opener Society

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  Hello everyone, welcome back to this little Saturday morning edition of EyeOpener
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  Society This is my solo episode My name is Gary Dean and this is EyeOpener Society
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  I want to welcome everybody back and thank you so much for joining me,
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  I wanted to give you some insights and some vision,
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  You know, it happens to all of us, I get it Sometimes we fall into the trap
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  where we become greedy, we become angry, we become hateful.
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  And these things happen not always because we want to.
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  See, we're living in a society where we get trapped.
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  Take, for example, when you leave your house and you get in that car.
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  I tell you, as soon as you get in the road, depending where you are,
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  where you live, traffic becomes overwhelming.
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  People start to lose their common sense. People start to lose their common courtesy,
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  start cutting everybody off and everybody gets angry.
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  We're all trapped inside of this cage on four wheels. It's just moving at speeds in excess.
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  And we sometimes fall victim to that. And sometimes we actually become that person ourselves.
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  And during that time, we start to create havoc, we start to create tension,
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  we start to create anxiety, hatred,
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  anger, and we want to lash out to the person in the car next to us.
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  We don't know that person at all, but yet we want to lash out at them.
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  We can get in lines at grocery stores and you got that one person who's still writing checks.
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  And it's taken forever as they're filling it all out and they got to go through
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  the whole process and the verifying and everything else.
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  When everybody else behind them is just using cards and swiping real quick,
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  we become overly anxious.
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  We want to be the next person. We want to get our stuff out of there. We want to go home.
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  So does that other person that's writing the check. Sometimes that's their only
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  way to pay And we need to sometimes realize that and understand that.
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  We tend as human beings to take all of these little things in And we take it
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  personally That's where the problem is,
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  That personal attack on you Even though it was not exactly done to you Sometimes it is. I get that.
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  But in all honesty, most of these things that we are picking up that's around
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  us, it's part of our environment.
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  We're taking as personal attacks on us.
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  So what do we do to become better human beings? What do we do to elevate ourselves above that?
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  Sometimes it is nothing more Than just stepping back And taking a look at the
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  whole situation Letting loose off
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  the accelerator Sliding back away Let everything happen in front of you,
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  And don't worry about it,
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  Very simple, right? I oversimplify everything, but it works.
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  Just step back. Take a moment. That person that's writing that check in the
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  line in front of you, more than likely you're on a line, there's magazines.
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  Grab a magazine, start reading it.
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  Take your mind away from the situation and put yourself in a little bit of a
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  different place at the moment.
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  And you're going to realize how quick it goes by.
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  And of all these things, and all the problems that we have, the corporations,
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  the governments, and the rules,
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  and the regulations, these things are taking tolls on us too as well.
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  We don't want to be told. Most of us are all adults. Some of us are grown well beyond our age.
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  We don't need somebody telling us what to do.
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  Some things are set up for design For safety, for your own safety For your own
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  well-being Don't stand too close to the ledge and whatnot,
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  But then there's tons of rules out there That's always in favor of the bigger
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  corporations The person with more money And they're always aiming directly at you,
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  I would give up everything The roof over my head Just to walk out into the woods
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  Set up a little tent And stay there.
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  Total separation from society Now that's extreme But it's not impossible,
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  We need to figure out The things that are actually bothering us Every time something
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  takes hold of you And it drives you into anger Write down what that problem
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  is And then compile a list,
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  I don't care how long the list is Sometimes it can be pretty damn long I get
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  it That's what's going to happen But,
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  Then when you're in a state of calm, and I would suggest right after meditation,
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  if you're meditating, which you should be because that helps with everything,
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  grab hold of that list and start reading those things off one at a time.
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  Find out which ones are reasonably making you angry, and then cross off the
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  ones that are completely ridiculous.
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  You were just having a bad day. This bothered you. That person bothered you.
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  Shorten down that list.
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  And then those things that really, really do bother you, really,
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  really did get you angry, what you then need to do is just crumple that piece
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  of paper up, toss it into a fire, safely.
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  See, rules sometimes there for good. Burn it.
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  Watch that paper burn.
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  Everything that's on that piece of paper is making you mad and you're watching
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  it dissipate into smoke and ash.
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  Watch the smoke as it travels away.
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  And those are your problems. Those are the things that made you mad and they
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  are now gone out of your life.
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  It's a tip. It's a little trick to bring you back into your own self, your own reality.
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  Once you are there, you need to start spreading some more self-confidence,
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  self-love, and love of others, regardless of what they're doing.
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  Don't get yourself into confrontations. Back off and give yourself a pep talk.
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  Talk to yourself. That person is nothing.
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  They're not bothering me. Their actions are bothering me, but it's not going
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  to ruin my day. Talk to yourself in your head.
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  This will help ease and bring down that tension.
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  And put yourself back in a level spot. A place that you want to be in.
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  Or even better yet, just picture an ocean, picture a beach, picture whatever
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  it is that you really enjoy.
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  Whenever anything starts to give you some sort of anxiety, anger,
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  whatever that case may be, envision it and immerse yourself in that vision.
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  These little things, you know, it's all related to meditation and calming,
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  but we are so wound up, so wound up tight that we forget these tiny little things
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  that I'm pushing is so simplistic, we forget about them. And sometimes we're
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  going to refuse to do them.
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  Gary does not know what he's talking about. Oh, I'm so angry and all.
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  But did you try the technique?
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  Did you take a step back? Did you take a deep breath? Did you say something
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  in your head? Did you envision something else in your head?
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  Did you divert your mind away from the situation? No.
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  And that's why you're getting the anxiety, the anger, and everything else.
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  And the more you allow that, the more it accumulates and the worse you get.
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  Internally, where all of our organs and everything that help us function every
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  single day, that breathe life into us, and we start becoming sick.
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  Things start happening to us. Our organs can't take it anymore.
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  What good is it now? What good was being angry?
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  What good was it having hatred? what good was it just not being a normal human
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  being and stepping away and taking a breath,
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  that simple simple act is going
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  to save you from some really big things you might think angers hey i'm always
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  going to be angry i'm always going to have things in front of me there's always
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  going to be people cutting me off the world sucks yes all of this might be true
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  and it's definitely true if you keep saying it.
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  Your words matter. Your words keep speaking this into existence.
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  The moment you take that breath, let it all go.
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  Yeah, maybe life sucks, but my life is fantastic. I'm having a great time. I'm happy.
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  Nothing bothers me. All these other people are trapped.
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  And they're the ones that are suffering. Not me. And I will not allow it to be me.
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  Keep yourself healthy, my friends. Stay happy.
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  Do these ridiculously easy things. Ridiculously easy. One breath.
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  I let it all go. That's it, man. It is that simple.
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  I can tell you this over and over and over again. And you're going to hate me
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  more and more and more and more.
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  You're going to keep saying it's not going to work. It's not going to work.
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  It's not going to work. What's happening?
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  It's not going to work because you're telling yourself it's not going to work.
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  Your body now is going to put itself into shutdown moments. I'm not doing that
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  because it's not going to work.
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  Start doing it. Start believing in it. Start letting it calm you down and bring
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  you back to another place.
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  Then you realize, yeah, you know, that simplicity really helped me.
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  Monitor your blood pressure. You can go into most drugstores now, right?
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  You can get your free blood pressure. Or you can buy a cuff for real easy.
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  See where your blood pressure's at.
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  And then if it's way high and then you start practicing meditation and you start
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  calming yourself down, keep taking your pressure before and after meditation.
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  Watch and see if there's a drop. Might not be completely significant,
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  but if any drop, you know how healthy that is?
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  Why go on blood pressure medications? Why go on any kind of meditation?
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  It's going to create even more problems, more side effects, more medications before you get there.
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  Practice self-healing.
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  Practice all of that magic that we all have inside of us.
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  Physical ailments be damned. We can take care of them ourselves.
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  And it all starts with that most simplistic piece of advice that I gave you.
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  To step back, take a deep breath. Tell yourself in your mind, I'm not angry.
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  Those people are angry. they are going to suffer on their own.
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  I am in my own protected bubble.
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  I tell you, you're going to be so, so pleased with the results.
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  You start to become a better person.
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  You can start to reach out to other people. You can start weaving your way through all of that anger.
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  You might be able to teach other people these simple lessons.
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  I don't have to be the only one that teaches it. Anybody can teach it.
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  The problem is, you need to be able to do it.
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  So my friends, with that Again, I thank you so much for joining me here Don't
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  forget our Monday morning episodes,
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  Lizzie and I, we are planning so much For this new season We got some big ideas,
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  We're still working on the church And the church status It's still going to
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  take a while These things do not happen overnight But they will happen Because
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  I got the ball rolling on it,
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  But we'll start doing some Thursday night sermons, basically,
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  where Lizzie and I are going to teach you things, self-help.
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  We're going to teach you about what this church is, because basically we're teaching you about you.
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  You have more to offer us than we do to you.
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  None of this would be possible without you. Tell your friends.
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  Start spreading the word.
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  Give other people our links Wherever you listen to us Wherever you watch us Share it,
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  And if you're watching and you're saying I don't like this You might know somebody
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  who does Spread us along We appreciate everything We only wish you the best
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  Health, love, happiness,
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  Spread that joy to everybody else Again, my name is Gary Dean And I will see
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  you on the next episode of Eye Opener Society Thank you.