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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-TCultivating Divine Connection Beyond Obligation 8.27.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Three, the country has a duty is opening up by telling us that
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  it's very much misunderstood. Again, he's not even talking
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  about the modern day. Hasidim was talking before
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  Hasidim existed. He's saying he's misunderstood
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  because people believe it involves external stuff and
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  people who jumped to that. These were more kabbalists,
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  right the. Pre the real world Hasidim from
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  the beginning were the wrong ones or the right ones.
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  That he's returned to is. More more than Kabal, yes, color
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  related, 100% yes. The people were doing extreme
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  things, Mason Kabbalah and those types of things.
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  And he was saying he told me against it, saying at least for
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  the regular person, you're jumping 1000 steps and you're
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  doing external stuff and it doesn't develop you at all.
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  As he uses the words a person now learning it doesn't, doesn't
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  you know and develop himself. Law.
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  I'm artists Hassid maybe an I'm artists a person.
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  It can't be a Hassid. It's not possible because
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  there's no way they have a strong enough connection to
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  Hashem. So now we're on the level of
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  Hasid. Now let's get the steps.
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  Bonnenburger behind Yanu. The process is Quina mitzvot and
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  mutzvot. The idea of the concept is
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  interesting because we have a Torah, we have mitzvot at 6:13.
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  It has all the ravenous, it has all the developments.
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  It's all the same for everyone. So what does it mean for one
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  person to be a Hasid? 1, not quad.
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  Do you do it? All the mitzvot are well known
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  and vocal baton you do on and the obligation to keep them
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  unknown adhere to him and God. What is my responsibility?
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  What is my obligation? Everyone's the same Omnam,
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  however me show have it to operate back.
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  Someone has a burning love to Hashemish more about committed
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  real love. He's not trying to get off easy
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  as you sent to me something about loopholes.
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  He's not trying to find his way out easy.
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  The mash requirement, exactly with everything magic, he won't
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  try someone who loves a sham. He's not going to try simply to
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  absolve himself of his obligations by just doing what
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  he has to do right. He's rather going to be in a
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  position like a son who loves his father, who wants his
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  service. Fuck Shi Luigale Aviv editor
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  Kiluimah. The son knows you know it's
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  similar to Osman his wife trying to figure out what birthday
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  present together once he wants. He loves his wife wants to get
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  her a gift and his example son to his father.
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  If he knows he gets a hint. I he trying to figure out if
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  ever what does she want? What does she want to feel that
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  she has everything feels she doesn't want anything.
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  Then she gives you a little bit of a hint saying she wants and
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  you jump and get it. That's a certain level of love
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  or maybe if I ask maybe a degree of fear, whatever you want to
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  call it. But for her son to a father, she
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  go there. I'll be without to kill him not
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  she will confess with the the son sees his father's thirsty,
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  so he realizes his father needs something.
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  Claudia Bay. I've been in the Devar since all
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  over it. Oh, over my cell call Marshall
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  as much as he can Vava be Shalomaru Aviv.
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  Even though his father only said mentioned passing a la pamercha
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  to Bahasidi bur one time in 1/2 a sentence he in a dialogue
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  Taliban. That's enough for something to
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  catch on Lavin Hekanda Tosha Aviv to understand exactly what
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  his father wants. That's part of the .1 he catches
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  on 2. His son goes all the way with
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  the hint of his father, even if the father did not say it
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  openly. Kevin, because his son is
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  comparing and bringing back to himself.
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  He knows, he can tell that this is something Hashem loves.
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  My lawyer, I'm teen. He's not waiting for the
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  commandment, he's not waiting for the for the follow Tom
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  directly. He's not waiting for this to
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  become an obligation. He wants it to remain this way
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  as an option and extra deed lamb.
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  Tina should really should really tell if it rush or she's going
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  to be told twice. He does want to hear clear.
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  He simply wants to jump on it. And this is a structure and life
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  all over the place. It's a very physical thing.
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  It's part of our world and that is the people that we love, the
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  people we want to serve, the people we want to take care of.
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  We're not, we don't want to be obligated.
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  It's not about obligation. We know we have a mitzvah you
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  would have and we know it's one of the most difficult myths.
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  We understand that, but we also know that we like, we loved the
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  opportunity to serve our parents in one way or another.
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  We like visiting. We're only visiting for their
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  sake, which is the ultimate purpose.
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  We know the visit of our sake. And that's and, and I was like,
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  what? I mean, it's not somebody to
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  feel warm and fuzzy. That's true too, but also
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  because we want to make our parents happy.
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  We want to be there for them, we want to serve them.
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  And this mindset, take out father, insert Hashem.
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  That's really a hasit. As someone who really tries to
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  find ways to do more, he's bored as an extra minute.
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  How can I make Hashem happy now, Now and then?
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  By the way, if you think that way, you leave this in the back
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  of your mind. It's important to know that
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  every area of our life can have a Hasid element to it, which
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  means we already know that a Hasidou does not only mean the
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  external stuff. And we also know I mean doesn't
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  only mean the extremes when it comes to purity or if she knew
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  when it comes to Tefila, which is part of Hasidou to a degree.
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  But it doesn't only mean that. Rather it means a crossing
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  tiger. Everything you do, whether it be
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  charity, giving gazoo to others, giving other people advice, you
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  know, being honest in business, being nice in your home, being
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  caring, there's a million areas of life and they all have a
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  layer of Hashidut. That's an important point to
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  note. Pretty much everything in this
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  book, Messiahshim steps can apply to all mitzvot, but
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  Hashidut is the one of all that one would think in their mind.
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  It only applies to the things that I know of.
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  Like I said, Tifila, OK, I understand being a Hasid over
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  praying. I understand the cause of being
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  a Hasid when it comes to being pure, going to McVeigh everyday,
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  whatever it is a Hasid when it comes to controlling myself and
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  limiting myself in my worldly indulgence, I can understand
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  that as well. I don't know four or five topics
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  of Hasidut to think that Hasidud can be across the entire
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  government. It's just an implication of how
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  off our mind is on that terminology.
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  And again, even if we're not not saying anything negative about
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  the the term Hasid today, we still have to realize that it's
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  so much bigger. And even when they as Hasidim
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  are striving for is so much more than what they display to us,
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  even they are striving as a Hasid to be caring and kind and
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  warm and all those things. And many of them are there's a.
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  Lot of positive. All right.
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  Absolutely. And really it goes across the
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  entire board. And the idea is if if you love
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  Hashem, which we all do, and you want to give Hashem in your life
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  and you want to evolve Hashem more than you have to, that's
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  Hasidut. Too many things to be extra.
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  Now it's very hard to find exact because it's a vague and
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  expanded area. It's hard to find exact spots
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  that you can apply to Hasidut. The thing that you keep in the
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  back of your head is anything extra that you do not extreme,
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  rather extra. And the extra you do, if it's
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  coming from a good place, it's a beautiful thing and you're
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  developing a connection to a shame.
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  Nazir Disney has to bring Kordan.
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  OK, close. He didn't, you know.
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  So Nazir, technically speaking, is a Hasidut concept?
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  Absolutely. It's someone who's withholding
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  himself and he wants to be on a higher plane.
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  The problem was in Azir. At the same time, he's a little
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  bit painting himself and now enjoying this world.
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  So we tell him to be in Qurban, Qatar.
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  That's definitely a good theme. And my theme I was about to
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  mention was silly hot, silly hot.
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  Everything about it is extra. It's been Haag opens up with the
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  words. Been Haag is our custom, right?
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  But if you get into it, you go as much as you can and you
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  actually enjoy the words and you delve into a little bit, you are
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  delving into an active absolute 100%.
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  This is a concept that exists between all those who love each
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  other and our friends. You know, many times the wife
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  say I understand how come you have to think of me?
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  He's saying to himself I did everything she wanted what she
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  talking about? What's the complaint?
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  How come I don't think I did exactly you told me to do and we
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  all know this to be the truth and that is to what they told us
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  to do is not enough. We're expected to somehow read
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  the tea leaves, pick up on the hints, recognize the moods,
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  sense the motions, and figure out what someone wants without
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  even being told. And the truth of the matter is,
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  as, as you know, it seems to us to be so difficult and maybe
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  realistic. We know that that this is
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  exactly the mediality talking about between friends.
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  I mean, that's not a shame. You know what they like, you
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  know what they want, you know what makes them feel good.
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  All these concepts are concepts of basically beyond the borders,
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  beyond basic relationship, beyond feeling responsibilities.
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  Every strong relationship is built on this.
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  A man can do more for his wife by doing what she doesn't ask
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  more than doing what she does ask, Right?
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  You can make mistakes. She tells you to do this, tells
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  you. Dad, take out the garbage.
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  If you're not taking out the garbage, OK, Try not to take out
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  the garbage. I'm not a terrible person.
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  I forgot, you know you didn't do something she asked for.
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  Take the kids to school. You can't do it.
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  Fine. All good.
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  But the small things, a few things that indicate that she's
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  on your mind, right? Or that you remember the certain
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  things that she likes, you know, her food that she likes and all
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  those things. Those certain items are much
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  more effective. We all want to be the case.
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  In fact, I was thinking about this because, you know, my
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  husband isn't home that much. And I think about the fact that
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  if a husband does it right, he can be homeless or involved less
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  and be loved more and have a strong relationship.
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  How so if he hits these binds perfectly, if he has a sense of
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  the right times to be home or the right sensitivity, not just
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  to be the fathers all around. Of course, that's also great if
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  you can. But more, maybe more
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  importantly, more effective is this is the idea of being
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  someone who knows what's on someone's mind.
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  Suppose they want and take all this entire model, which we know
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  how much has changed our relationship, and you apply it
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  to our Hashem. Now tell me if it's easy.
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  I think you have to do it. They say first, that's your
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  first base you do or else they're like, hey, why are you
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  doing this? I asked you to do this.
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  Right, do that skipping the steps.
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  You got me right to the extremes.
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  True 100%. But if you let me discussion if
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  you have a guy I know in the beginning of my marriage I was I
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  do this all the time, a lot sweeping every night.
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  It's up the house all right. At one point my wife told me,
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  like she said, you know, the house needed it, but she said
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  like you're doing, you can do less of this and more of the
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  other stuff, whatever they are, and it'll be more effective and
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  more appreciated. And that sweeping takes time.
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  Doing dishes takes time. You got to do that as well at
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  times if it is. But he sit there and say one
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  thing, is it really the worth the hour that I'm spending?
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  Is it really worth an hour for my wife is a lot of time.
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  You know, I can spend the hours sitting and talking.
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  I can spend the hour, you know, picking up a nice dessert or
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  something, whatever it is. So is it really worth that time?
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  You're right. When you're asked, do we have to
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  do it? But when your structure includes
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  the fact that you can do it and instead you have select time,
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  the idea of doing those few things that are nice are far
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  more impactful, right? Again, is spoken for a person
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  who doesn't do it all the time at all.
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  I don't do AI don't do B so much.
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  I hope my wife understands. It's really my model, but the
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  truth is we know that it's effective and when Now The thing
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  is when I Shim it to figure out and work on this is your own
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  connection. By the way, this is a personal
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  connection about you understand what I shall wants.
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  You understand what makes them happy.
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  If certain strengths everyone does and those strengths,
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  whether it be spending the right time with your kids or, you
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  know, pushing your kids to do a little extra.
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  That's something that you feel I shall would like you do it.
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  You're good at it. Great.
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  Or it's give me extra charity more than it's the 10% or
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  whatever things that you sense and and they have to click
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  within us our the same way for our lives.
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  We can't all buy the exact jewelry that's right for her or
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  do the right vacation and schedule the right cute birthday
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  present with tickets to Florida. Whatever the trick is, we don't
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  all have the same trick. Everyone knows what works
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  similar between all of us and same as Shem and we all have our
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  own constitute. And that's the key point to
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  think about. I am my restitute and you have
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  yours. I have a sense to say that Shem
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  wants of me to find another half hour to learn and you have your
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  Hashem wants a view, the development of certain area.
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  We all have our things because we all have our strengths and
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  areas to work on, a lot of them to go connected.
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  So a person has to realize that to be the most beloved person
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  with Hashem. K used to doing extras, but not
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  extras as extremes, extras as a sign of love.
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  That's the point. The guy starved himself for a
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  week because he's trying to be extra to Hashem.
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  He's has to going backward most probably his connection, his
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  love is probably right now backfiring.
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  He's probably resents it. He probably is not happy.
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  All those issues that come up. Rather it should be coming in a
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  labor of love and actually, you know that couple when the guy is
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  dying, do whatever he can for his wife and trying to find
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  things. He enjoys it.
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  That should be a similar thing about him.
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  I work as they do actually should be something that
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  develops us as well that makes us stronger in our connection.
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  It's a full idea that he's bringing over here.
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  OK, O we'll start with this concet.
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  I think it's a fundamental concet.
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  Start with my 3:30.