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I Think Life Is Actually Pretty Good Right Now · Ok But Are You Good?

• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Hi there.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Corinne, and this is Okay But Are You Good?
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Where we check in ourselves on a weekly basis to see how we're doing.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: Are we living our best lives?
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: Are we just trying to get by?
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I gotta say, for once, I think I am living my best life.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: I know lately there's been a lot of downs, anxiety's been high, thoughts have been taking over my mind, but life is good right now.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: There's been a lot of positivity.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: I've been sticking to my routine, getting things done, and I just feel great.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like it almost feels a little bit too good to be true, but I'm gonna ride this happy uh train and go with it.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: Cause why not, right?
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: And for me, and maybe for you as well, things weren't going so well for so long, and everything just felt like it was piling up and your thoughts were taking over.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: And when you focus so much on what needs to get fixed and what's upsetting you, you lose the goal or you lose like the whole point of what life is about, and that's to stop and appreciate things when things are going well and enjoy the little things and being the moment, which is what we've been working on.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna take this good time and enjoy it because life comes at you fast, right?
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: As I've mentioned probably thousands of times, I'm always looking for the next step.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm never in the moment.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm always moving backwards or too focused on the future, you know, the next trip, the next promotion, the next job, the next, the next thing I have to accomplish, or the next like goal on my list to check off.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: And there's nothing wrong with goals.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: There's we should have goals.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: We need stuff to look forward to.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: I always say that as well.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: I sound like a broken record, but it's because it's true, baby.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: Anyways.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: But when we're so focused on the next thing, we're not in the moment, we're not enjoying it.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: And I've struggled with that.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm happy to be just here living in the moment and embracing the good things in life because life comes at you fast.
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: And when you're so focused on the next thing, and oh, once this happens, then my life will be perfect.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: Or if I do this, then yeah, I'll have my life together and I don't have to think about the next thing.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: But like what about right now?
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: What about just living in this and enjoying it?
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's all about balance of having things to look forward to and being in your routine and just enjoying life as it comes.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: Cause I like being super busy, but I also like when I get this break right now where things are just working out and I'm just doing my daily routine, and that's it.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: That is my life.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: You know, there's that one Simpsons episode where it's just like the wake up, go to work, come home, and just over and over.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I love that.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: I love that that is my life right now is just working and doing what I gotta do in my personal life responsibilities and waking up and doing all over again the next day.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I think partially or a big chunk of why I'm so happy right now is two people in my family just had babies, and my sister just got engaged.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: So there's just a lot to be happy and excited about.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, there have been some downs in the past few months, so it's so nice to just like have all this positivity, all this happiness, and you're like, it's almost overwhelming because you're like, whoa, like it's too much at once, but like I love it and I'm so happy for so many reasons.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I just think I've been dealing with a lot, and my anxiety was at all-time high lately, and then now it's kind of just chilled out because I've been working through it, and I I did just get to see one of my best friends who I haven't seen in almost two years or three years.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's a very long time, and it's just nice to like enjoy life and like play tourist in my city and just like have girly time and just like just be living.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I can get so caught up in all the bad stuff.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: So right now I'm trying to do the opposite and be so caught up in all the good stuff of like witnessing that like life does work out, that I can get through the hard things, and like it's not all that bad all the time.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what if it's all good all the time?
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: And like just bad things happen sometimes because that's life, right?
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: It it honestly is kind of weird how like zen and chill I feel right now.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: Cause that this isn't a familiar feeling for me.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: I'm very much fight or flight.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, the world is ending.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna get through this.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next bad thing's gonna happen, and what are you gonna do to solve it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, bam, bam, bam.
• 4:58
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's like weird that I'm like, it's good.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: Life is good and it's surreal because this is what I've been working towards.
• 5:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope I can keep this momentum up and keep going because this is what I've been working so hard for, right?
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: Just to be living a happy, simple life and accomplishing goals and putting myself out there and booking my trips and being just being plain and simple, happy.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: That's all I want is to be a happy, positive person.
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_00: Not all the time.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: I don't need to be positive, Patty, just like simple chill.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: And happiness looks different for everyone because we all have different goals, outlooks on life, perspectives, and my happiness lately like looks different than what I thought it would be.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't think having a nail-down routine and pushing myself to stick to my daily goals, my weekly goals, quarterly, all of that jazz would bring me so much happiness.
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_00: But for me, I'm just happy that I've been putting myself first and really working towards being the best possible person I can be.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm I'm gonna be on this train for a while, but at least right now we're passing a good time, and I'm proud of myself.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: I really am, because I'm going to get through my overthinking and my anxiety and all the bad thoughts that happen up in this brain of mine.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because the world doesn't end when something bad happens.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: It will feel like that in the moment, but like I'm here on this other side of my own issues and my own problems I bring upon myself.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: And it's good.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I need to remember this feeling when the next thing happens that I get caught up in because it will happen again.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's life.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's my life, I guess.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I say happiness in adulthood looks different because, like, when I was younger, I just was like, yeah, I'm gonna get my life together.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna be so happy and like all the time, and there's gonna be a big moment where my life just falls into place and everything's just so perfect, and sunshines and butterflies and roses and all that.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: But that's I don't think I'm gonna get that big moment.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: I think we're like big moment in the sense of where everything's perfect all the time.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: I have my really good, happy, big moments.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: And like, yes, that did happen.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: But to maintain that happiness, you have to work for it.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: And you have to see it, you have to see the happiness and the positivity in the little moments in life.
• 7:30
  SPEAKER_00: You know, uh getting married, having my dream home, my pets, like those, those are really big, happy moments for me.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm so grateful for them.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: And but the little things, just like having time with my friends and my family, and like being able to see my cousins' graduation and like everyone get older and just like accomplish things.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's those little things that I'm so excited about.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: And my health was really bad a couple of years ago, and now I've been like so healthy and it like it just took time, but like I'm good, healthy physically, like I haven't been sick in so long, knock on wood.
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I I don't think I like ever thought of happiness and those little things, or like I didn't appreciate it as much when I was younger as I do now.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: And it's it's a good, like, warm, fuzzy feeling.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, okay, like you're getting this figured out day by day, and you're accepting life for what it is, and I'm just really being more appreciative of things that I probably took for granted.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: But I think a lot of people do when we're younger, and you you know, you can only grow and get better, or at least work towards getting better, right?
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: We don't want to go backwards, and this like happiness, like you could probably hear it in my voice.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it it's so great, and it also feels so weird because when you're so constantly not feeling good all the time mentally, this like peace and like solitude that's going on definitely feels odd.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: It feels unfamiliar.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I think the difference from a couple weeks ago is like I'm not waiting for the other shoe to drop.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm just enjoying this peace.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm enjoying all the positivity and exciting life events that have been happening in my life, even though it has nothing to do with me.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm just happy for my loved ones that they're moving on to this next chapter in their lives.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: And lately, like when things would be quiet like this, I'd be looking for problems.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_00: I'd be making up scenarios in my head, just basically creating stress when there doesn't need to be any.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I like I called myself out on it, and now I'm making sure I'm not doing that this time and I'm recognizing, like, okay, things work out.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like when my friend was here, everything went so smoothly.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, like I forgot.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like, not everything has to be survival mode all the time.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like things can just work out.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_00: This is like my good karma coming back from my year of not having any good, all the bad stuff happening to me.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: Or, you know, just life is simple and things don't always have to be bad all the time.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's very odd.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like a lot of people probably don't think like that, that like everything's gonna be bad or end in a bad way or things aren't gonna work out all the time.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm working to be one of those people.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's I feel like there's a good balance between like be just being realistic and then like a little bit in la la land of like, okay, like things are good, just like chill out, you know?
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because I am not someone to chill out normally, but I am chilling out right now and I'm happy, smiley, and just oh gosh, that sounds so cheesy.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm I'm chilling, bruh.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm chilling.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, maybe this is the life.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: This this is what I what I've been asking for and working towards that like I'm here now.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to wait another five, 10 years to like be at peace with life and happy and like wait for all this stuff, work to like some crazy extreme.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: I just have to, I've like realized what I need to do and what makes me feel good, which is having goals to work towards.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: Continually working on my physical health because it helps get those endorphins going.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I'm running two more half marathons this year.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I barely even ran, thought I'd run one marathon.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm glad to keep my running journey going.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I have lots of travel plans, hopefully coming up in the next few years.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: And like maybe that's all I need, you know?
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: I don't need anything crazy, extravagant, just like little trips and physical and working on and continuing to work on my physical health.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: Because with physical health comes mental health, right?
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: So I really just want to focus on enjoying life.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's really that simple because enjoying life, the other things seem to fall into place, and obviously you gotta keep up your routine, you gotta keep up with daily goals, little things, your little hobbies, which is reading books, writing things down, listening to music.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I haven't been on a concert in so long, but um, just little things.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't know, I feel like this episode's so cheesy, but I guess I am a little bit of a cheesy person sometimes.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that that's kind of that comes with the territory of like you're happy and you're just living life and things are working out.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, things always work out.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: So this is me enjoying my life working out and moving forward and like not letting my not letting things get the best of me because I'm taking back my control.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm focusing on what I can control, and I think that's why I'm so chill right now.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: So this is your reminder.
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_00: If life is feeling great and things are working out how they should be, enjoy it, take it for what it is, enjoy this moment.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: And if life isn't really working out how you want it to be right now, you're gonna be okay.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: You will get there where things are good and chill.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: So just keep working towards it and control what you can't control.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: And don't forget to ask yourself, okay, but are you good?
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening in.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_00: Let's have a great week.
• 13:27
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you all next week.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: And don't forget to like and subscribe.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.