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The Five Love Languages Of Children - Are You Sure You Know How To Love Your Kids? · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Excuse
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  me,
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  Skyler.
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  Okay,
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  best
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  selling
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  author
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  and
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  Mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  You're
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  looking
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  ravishing
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  in
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  that
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  blue
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  today.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  It's
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  really
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  bright,
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  isn't
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  it?
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  I
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  love
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  it.
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  It's
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  fabulous.
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  I
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  think
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  it's
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  just
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  a
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  blue
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  sweater
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  because
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  it's
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  cold
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  outside.
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  It
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  is.
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  It
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  is
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  cold
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  outside.
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  It
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  snowed
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  yesterday.
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  It
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  did.
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  I
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  couldn't
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  believe
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  it.
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  I
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  took
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  pictures.
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  I
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  mean,
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  I
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  took
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  video
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  of
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  it
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  and
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  sent
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  it
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  to
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  all
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  my
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  friends.
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  I
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  was
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  so
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  excited.
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  Today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  doing
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  the
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  Five
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  Love
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  Languages
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  of
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  Children
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  by
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  Gary
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  Chapman
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  and
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  Ross
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  Campbell,
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  teen.
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  On
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  a
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  scale
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  of
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  scientist
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  to
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  parent,
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  how
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  readable
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  was
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  this
• 0:56
  book?
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  Oh,
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  it's
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  a
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  very
• 0:57
  readable
• 0:58
  book.
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  And
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  definitely
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  I
• 1:00
  don't
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  even
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  remember
• 1:01
  if.
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  I
• 1:02
  don't
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  recall
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  a
• 1:02
  single
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  study
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  cited.
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  I
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  don't
• 1:04
  think
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  one
• 1:04
  study
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  was
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  cited.
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  No,
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  not
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  that
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  I
• 1:07
  know
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  of.
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  It's
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  very
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  unscientific,
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  but
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  persuasive.
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  Yes,
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  persuasive.
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  Interesting.
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  Absolutely.
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  It
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  does
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  have
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  a
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  bit
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  of
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  a
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  Christian
• 1:16
  bent.
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  So
• 1:17
  if
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  that
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  is
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  your
• 1:18
  bag,
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  this
• 1:18
  might
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  be
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  the
• 1:19
  book
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  for
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  you.
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  A
• 1:20
  little
• 1:20
  bit.
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  Not
• 1:21
  overwhelmingly,
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  but
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  a
• 1:23
  little
• 1:23
  bit.
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  It
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  felt
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  to
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  me
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  like
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  it
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  was
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  written
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  by
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  a
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  pastor,
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  but
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  it
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  may
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  or
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  may
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  not
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  have
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  been,
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  I
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  don't
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  know,
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  investigate.
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  So
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  don't
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  quote
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  me
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  on
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  that.
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  But
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  that's
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  how
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  it
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  felt.
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  Yeah,
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  but
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  he
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  was.
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  He
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  was
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  a
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  wise
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  person.
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  A
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  wise
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  person.
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  Yes,
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  yes,
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  very
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  wise.
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  Okay,
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  so
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  the
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  five
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  love
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  languages,
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  you
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  may
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  be
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  familiar
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  with
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  everybody,
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  they're
• 1:42
  like,
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  all
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  over
• 1:43
  the
• 1:43
  place,
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  but
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  they
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  are
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  physical,
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  touch,
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  words
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  of
• 1:47
  affirmation,
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  gifts,
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  acts
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  of
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  service.
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  What's
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  the
• 1:52
  last
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  one?
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  You're
• 1:54
  asking
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  me
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  to
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  remember
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  something.
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  Mirror.
• 1:56
  Mirror.
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  Well,
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  yeah.
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  No,
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  I'm
• 1:59
  laughing.
• 1:59
  Quality
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  time.
• 2:00
  Quality
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  time.
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  Quality
• 2:01
  time.
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  So
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  all
• 2:03
  the
• 2:03
  time
• 2:03
  I
• 2:04
  hear
• 2:04
  on
• 2:05
  other
• 2:05
  podcasts
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  and
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  in
• 2:06
  media,
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  what's
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  your
• 2:08
  love
• 2:08
  language?
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  So,
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  Tina,
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  what's
• 2:10
  your
• 2:10
  love
• 2:10
  language?
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  You
• 2:11
  know,
• 2:11
  I
• 2:11
  didn't
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  even
• 2:12
  know
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  what
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  a
• 2:12
  love
• 2:12
  language
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  was
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  until
• 2:14
  I
• 2:14
  read
• 2:14
  this
• 2:14
  book.
• 2:15
  I
• 2:15
  have
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  to
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  say
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  I
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  haven't
• 2:16
  been
• 2:16
  following
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  the
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  new
• 2:19
  term
• 2:19
  of
• 2:20
  love
• 2:20
  languages.
• 2:20
  It's
• 2:21
  actually,
• 2:21
  I
• 2:21
  think,
• 2:21
  a
• 2:21
  pretty
• 2:21
  old
• 2:22
  term.
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  Oh,
• 2:22
  it
• 2:22
  is?
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  Yeah,
• 2:23
  it's
• 2:24
  been
• 2:24
  in
• 2:24
  the
• 2:24
  lexicon.
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  Okay.
• 2:25
  I
• 2:25
  missed
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  it,
• 2:26
  but
• 2:26
  that's
• 2:27
  okay.
• 2:27
  Yeah,
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  I
• 2:28
  didn't
• 2:28
  realize,
• 2:28
  but
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  I
• 2:29
  thought,
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  okay,
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  this
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  really
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  does
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  make
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  sense.
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  And
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  I
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  think
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  my
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  personal
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  love
• 2:35
  language,
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  I
• 2:36
  believe,
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  is
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  words
• 2:38
  of
• 2:38
  Affirmation.
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  So
• 2:39
  that's
• 2:39
  what
• 2:39
  you
• 2:39
  like
• 2:40
  to
• 2:40
  receive?
• 2:40
  That's
• 2:40
  what
• 2:41
  I
• 2:41
  like
• 2:41
  to
• 2:41
  receive.
• 2:41
  What
• 2:41
  do
• 2:41
  you
• 2:41
  like
• 2:42
  to
• 2:42
  give?
• 2:43
  Well,
• 2:43
  I
• 2:44
  think
• 2:44
  the
• 2:44
  reason,
• 2:44
  I
• 2:44
  think
• 2:45
  that
• 2:46
  that
• 2:46
  must
• 2:46
  be
• 2:47
  my
• 2:47
  love
• 2:47
  language
• 2:48
  is
• 2:48
  because
• 2:48
  that's
• 2:49
  what
• 2:49
  I
• 2:49
  like
• 2:49
  to
• 2:49
  give
• 2:49
  other
• 2:50
  people.
• 2:53
  But.
• 2:55
  I'm
• 2:55
  not
• 2:56
  100%
• 2:56
  sure
• 2:57
  because
• 2:57
  I
• 2:57
  feel
• 2:57
  like
• 2:57
  I
• 2:57
  use
• 2:58
  all
• 2:58
  of
• 2:58
  them.
• 2:59
  Obviously,
• 3:00
  I
• 3:00
  do
• 3:00
  use
• 3:00
  all.
• 3:01
  I
• 3:01
  mean,
• 3:01
  we
• 3:01
  all
• 3:01
  use
• 3:01
  all
• 3:02
  of.
• 3:02
  For
• 3:02
  the
• 3:02
  people
• 3:03
  we
• 3:03
  love,
• 3:03
  but.
• 3:05
  Yeah,
• 3:05
  but
• 3:05
  what
• 3:06
  do
• 3:06
  you
• 3:06
  think
• 3:06
  yours
• 3:06
  is?
• 3:07
  So
• 3:07
  I
• 3:08
  think
• 3:08
  for
• 3:10
  others,
• 3:11
  I
• 3:11
  like
• 3:11
  to
• 3:11
  do
• 3:12
  acts
• 3:12
  of
• 3:12
  service.
• 3:13
  Okay.
• 3:14
  And
• 3:14
  words
• 3:15
  of
• 3:15
  affirmation.
• 3:16
  I
• 3:16
  really
• 3:16
  like
• 3:16
  writing
• 3:17
  letters.
• 3:18
  Right.
• 3:18
  Yes.
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  write
• 3:19
  a
• 3:20
  lot
• 3:20
  of
• 3:20
  letters
• 3:20
  and
• 3:20
  say
• 3:21
  nice
• 3:21
  things
• 3:21
  to
• 3:21
  people.
• 3:22
  Yes.
• 3:22
  I
• 3:23
  think
• 3:23
  that
• 3:23
  people
• 3:24
  cherish
• 3:24
  letters.
• 3:25
  They're
• 3:26
  also
• 3:26
  people
• 3:26
  just
• 3:27
  so
• 3:28
  they
• 3:28
  just
• 3:28
  don't
• 3:28
  receive
• 3:29
  a
• 3:29
  lot
• 3:29
  of
• 3:30
  post.
• 3:31
  You
• 3:31
  know,
• 3:31
  people
• 3:32
  don't
• 3:32
  get
• 3:32
  letters.
• 3:33
  Right.
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  won't
• 3:33
  talk
• 3:34
  on
• 3:34
  the
• 3:34
  phone,
• 3:34
  but
• 3:34
  I
• 3:34
  will
• 3:35
  write
• 3:35
  you
• 3:35
  a
• 3:35
  letter.
• 3:36
  Right.
• 3:36
  I
• 3:36
  love
• 3:36
  you.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  love
• 3:37
  your
• 3:37
  letters.
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  think
• 3:38
  that's.
• 3:38
  Thank
• 3:38
  you.
• 3:39
  Yeah,
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  really
• 3:39
  do.
• 3:39
  And.
• 3:40
  And
• 3:40
  in
• 3:40
  fact,
• 3:41
  on
• 3:41
  your
• 3:41
  wedding
• 3:42
  day,
• 3:42
  I
• 3:42
  remember
• 3:43
  and
• 3:44
  this
• 3:45
  broke
• 3:45
  me.
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  woke
• 3:48
  up
• 3:49
  and
• 3:49
  there
• 3:49
  was
• 3:49
  an
• 3:50
  envelope
• 3:50
  under
• 3:50
  my
• 3:51
  door,
• 3:52
  which
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  thought
• 3:53
  was
• 3:53
  the
• 3:53
  bill
• 3:53
  for
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  whole
• 3:54
  wedding.
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  was
• 3:55
  like,
• 3:55
  oh,
• 3:55
  shh,
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  have
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  pay
• 3:56
  for
• 3:57
  it
• 3:57
  now.
• 3:57
  But
• 3:57
  anyway,
• 3:58
  I
• 3:58
  went
• 3:58
  and
• 3:58
  got
• 3:59
  the
• 4:00
  envelope
• 4:01
  and
• 4:01
  it
• 4:01
  was
• 4:01
  a
• 4:02
  letter
• 4:02
  from
• 4:02
  you.
• 4:02
  And
• 4:03
  it
• 4:03
  was
• 4:03
  the
• 4:04
  most
• 4:04
  beautiful
• 4:04
  letter.
• 4:05
  I
• 4:05
  still
• 4:05
  have
• 4:06
  it.
• 4:06
  Of
• 4:06
  course.
• 4:07
  I
• 4:07
  cherished
• 4:08
  it.
• 4:08
  I
• 4:08
  cherish
• 4:08
  it
• 4:09
  now.
• 4:09
  I
• 4:09
  mean,
• 4:09
  I've
• 4:10
  kept
• 4:10
  every
• 4:10
  letter
• 4:11
  you've
• 4:11
  ever
• 4:11
  written
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  me.
• 4:12
  Everything
• 4:12
  you've
• 4:12
  ever
• 4:13
  written
• 4:13
  to
• 4:13
  me,
• 4:13
  I
• 4:13
  have
• 4:13
  kept.
• 4:14
  So
• 4:14
  that's.
• 4:15
  I
• 4:15
  think
• 4:15
  that's
• 4:15
  true.
• 4:16
  Do
• 4:16
  you
• 4:16
  remember
• 4:16
  the
• 4:16
  letter
• 4:17
  I
• 4:17
  wrote.
• 4:17
  You
• 4:17
  from
• 4:17
  summer
• 4:18
  camp?
• 4:18
  Yes.
• 4:19
  When
• 4:19
  I
• 4:20
  had
• 4:20
  heat
• 4:20
  poisoning,
• 4:21
  so
• 4:22
  my
• 4:22
  parents
• 4:22
  used
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  send
• 4:23
  me
• 4:23
  to
• 4:23
  summer
• 4:24
  camp
• 4:24
  in
• 4:24
  Texas,
• 4:25
  where
• 4:25
  it
• 4:26
  got
• 4:26
  up
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  120
• 4:27
  degrees.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:28
  being
• 4:28
  a
• 4:28
  kid
• 4:28
  from
• 4:29
  New
• 4:29
  York
• 4:29
  City,
• 4:29
  I
• 4:29
  was
• 4:30
  not
• 4:30
  built
• 4:30
  for
• 4:30
  that.
• 4:31
  It
• 4:31
  didn't
• 4:31
  get
• 4:31
  to
• 4:31
  120
• 4:32
  at
• 4:33
  that
• 4:33
  time.
• 4:33
  Teen
• 4:34
  it
• 4:34
  was
• 4:34
  prehistorically
• 4:35
  hot,
• 4:36
  but
• 4:37
  it
• 4:37
  was
• 4:37
  biblically
• 4:38
  hot.
• 4:38
  It's
• 4:39
  hot
• 4:39
  and
• 4:39
  humid,
• 4:39
  let's
• 4:40
  put
• 4:40
  it
• 4:40
  that
• 4:40
  way.
• 4:40
  But
• 4:41
  anyway,
• 4:41
  I
• 4:41
  was
• 4:41
  suffering
• 4:42
  from
• 4:42
  heat
• 4:42
  stroke,
• 4:42
  like
• 4:43
  every
• 4:43
  other
• 4:44
  day.
• 4:44
  Well,
• 4:44
  not
• 4:44
  real
• 4:45
  heat
• 4:45
  stroke,
• 4:45
  but
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  were
• 4:46
  hot.
• 4:46
  I
• 4:47
  was
• 4:47
  hot.
• 4:47
  You
• 4:47
  were
• 4:47
  hot.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:48
  I
• 4:48
  wrote
• 4:48
  these
• 4:48
  letters
• 4:49
  to
• 4:49
  my
• 4:50
  parents,
• 4:50
  and
• 4:50
  I
• 4:50
  think
• 4:51
  I
• 4:51
  literally
• 4:51
  said
• 4:51
  in
• 4:52
  one
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  my
• 4:52
  dad,
• 4:52
  if
• 4:53
  I
• 4:53
  am
• 4:53
  still
• 4:53
  the
• 4:53
  apple
• 4:54
  of
• 4:54
  your
• 4:54
  eye.
• 4:54
  Yeah,
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  did.
• 4:55
  You
• 4:55
  will
• 4:56
  come
• 4:56
  and
• 4:56
  you
• 4:57
  will
• 4:57
  retrieve
• 4:57
  me
• 4:58
  from
• 4:58
  this
• 4:59
  hellhole.
• 5:00
  Although,
• 5:00
  what's
• 5:00
  funny
• 5:00
  is
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  loved
• 5:01
  camp
• 5:01
  in
• 5:02
  Texas.
• 5:02
  Like,
• 5:02
  I
• 5:03
  had
• 5:03
  a
• 5:03
  great
• 5:03
  time,
• 5:04
  except.
• 5:04
  For
• 5:04
  when
• 5:04
  it
• 5:04
  was
• 5:05
  that
• 5:05
  hot.
• 5:05
  I
• 5:06
  know
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  know
• 5:06
  you
• 5:07
  kept
• 5:07
  checking
• 5:07
  yourself
• 5:07
  into
• 5:08
  the
• 5:08
  infirmary
• 5:09
  because
• 5:09
  it
• 5:09
  was
• 5:09
  air
• 5:10
  conditioned.
• 5:10
  Yes.
• 5:11
  The
• 5:11
  only
• 5:11
  air
• 5:11
  conditioned.
• 5:12
  That's
• 5:12
  so
• 5:12
  mean.
• 5:13
  I've
• 5:13
  loved
• 5:14
  your
• 5:14
  letters
• 5:14
  that
• 5:14
  you've
• 5:15
  sent
• 5:15
  all
• 5:15
  your
• 5:15
  life,
• 5:16
  but
• 5:16
  what
• 5:16
  do
• 5:16
  you
• 5:16
  like
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  receive?
• 5:18
  I
• 5:18
  like
• 5:18
  to
• 5:19
  receive
• 5:20
  words
• 5:20
  of
• 5:20
  affirmation.
• 5:21
  I
• 5:21
  think
• 5:21
  that's
• 5:22
  my
• 5:22
  big
• 5:22
  one.
• 5:23
  Yeah.
• 5:23
  Yeah,
• 5:24
  Yeah.
• 5:24
  I
• 5:25
  kind
• 5:25
  of
• 5:25
  think
• 5:25
  that
• 5:25
  I
• 5:26
  need
• 5:26
  that
• 5:26
  too.
• 5:26
  Yeah.
• 5:27
  I
• 5:27
  need
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  talk
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  your
• 5:28
  dad,
• 5:29
  my
• 5:29
  husband,
• 5:30
  about
• 5:31
  that,
• 5:31
  because
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  think
• 5:32
  he
• 5:33
  could
• 5:33
  give
• 5:33
  me
• 5:33
  more
• 5:33
  words
• 5:34
  of
• 5:34
  affirmation.
• 5:34
  Dad
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  not
• 5:35
  an
• 5:36
  affirmative
• 5:36
  guy.
• 5:37
  He's
• 5:38
  really
• 5:38
  not.
• 5:39
  He
• 5:39
  sort
• 5:40
  of
• 5:40
  assumes.
• 5:41
  Although
• 5:42
  if
• 5:42
  you
• 5:42
  get
• 5:43
  him
• 5:43
  late
• 5:43
  night,
• 5:44
  he
• 5:44
  will
• 5:44
  give
• 5:44
  you
• 5:44
  words
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  affirmation.
• 5:46
  After
• 5:46
  a
• 5:47
  few
• 5:47
  drinks,
• 5:48
  he's
• 5:48
  handing
• 5:48
  out
• 5:48
  words
• 5:49
  of
• 5:49
  affirmation.
• 5:49
  Totally.
• 5:50
  Like,
• 5:50
  they're
• 5:51
  free.
• 5:51
  I
• 5:51
  know,
• 5:52
  but
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  hate
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  have
• 5:53
  to
• 5:53
  wait
• 5:53
  for
• 5:53
  that.
• 5:53
  You
• 5:54
  know,
• 5:54
  like,
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  gotta
• 5:55
  catch
• 5:55
  him.
• 5:55
  Right.
• 5:56
  We
• 5:56
  were,
• 5:56
  you
• 5:56
  know,
• 5:56
  we
• 5:56
  were
• 5:57
  going
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  that
• 5:57
  wedding
• 5:57
  last
• 5:58
  weekend.
• 5:58
  And
• 5:58
  I
• 5:59
  stood
• 5:59
  there
• 5:59
  and
• 5:59
  I'm
• 5:59
  like,
• 6:00
  well,
• 6:00
  tell
• 6:00
  me
• 6:00
  how
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  look.
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  mean,
• 6:01
  I
• 6:02
  had
• 6:02
  to
• 6:02
  just
• 6:02
  ask
• 6:02
  for
• 6:03
  it.
• 6:03
  Okay.
• 6:03
  Do
• 6:04
  I
• 6:04
  look
• 6:04
  really
• 6:04
  nice?
• 6:05
  That's
• 6:06
  so
• 6:06
  funny.
• 6:06
  That's
• 6:07
  so
• 6:07
  Dad.
• 6:07
  I
• 6:08
  know.
• 6:08
  And
• 6:08
  he's
• 6:08
  like,
• 6:08
  well,
• 6:08
  yeah,
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  think
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  look
• 6:09
  really
• 6:09
  nice.
• 6:09
  I
• 6:10
  really
• 6:10
  need
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  talk
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  him
• 6:11
  about
• 6:11
  it.
• 6:11
  We've
• 6:12
  been
• 6:12
  married
• 6:12
  almost
• 6:12
  50
• 6:13
  years.
• 6:13
  Yeah.
• 6:13
  I
• 6:14
  mean,
• 6:14
  and
• 6:14
  it's
• 6:14
  time.
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  need
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  have
• 6:15
  this.
• 6:16
  Now
• 6:16
  that
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  understand
• 6:17
  love
• 6:17
  languages,
• 6:18
  I
• 6:18
  really
• 6:18
  do
• 6:18
  need
• 6:19
  to.
• 6:19
  What
• 6:19
  do
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  think
• 6:19
  Dad's
• 6:20
  love
• 6:20
  language
• 6:20
  is?
• 6:21
  Oh,
• 6:21
  my
• 6:21
  gosh.
• 6:22
  That's
• 6:23
  a
• 6:23
  really
• 6:23
  good
• 6:24
  question.
• 6:26
  Ooh.
• 6:27
  What
• 6:27
  is
• 6:28
  his
• 6:28
  love
• 6:28
  language?
• 6:29
  That's
• 6:29
  hard.
• 6:31
  Maybe.
• 6:32
  I
• 6:33
  think
• 6:33
  quality
• 6:33
  time.
• 6:34
  Yeah,
• 6:35
  I'm
• 6:35
  thinking.
• 6:35
  That's
• 6:36
  what
• 6:36
  I
• 6:36
  was
• 6:36
  kind
• 6:36
  of
• 6:36
  thinking,
• 6:37
  is
• 6:37
  that
• 6:37
  just
• 6:38
  giving
• 6:38
  him
• 6:38
  quality
• 6:39
  time.
• 6:40
  And
• 6:41
  although
• 6:42
  acts
• 6:42
  of
• 6:42
  service
• 6:42
  as
• 6:43
  well,
• 6:43
  he
• 6:44
  likes
• 6:44
  that.
• 6:44
  Although
• 6:45
  he
• 6:45
  does
• 6:45
  all
• 6:45
  the
• 6:45
  work
• 6:46
  around
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  house.
• 6:46
  So
• 6:47
  I
• 6:47
  don't
• 6:47
  know.
• 6:47
  So
• 6:47
  he
• 6:48
  likes
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  give
• 6:48
  act
• 6:48
  of
• 6:48
  service.
• 6:49
  Acts
• 6:49
  of
• 6:49
  service
• 6:50
  receive
• 6:50
  quality
• 6:51
  time.
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  think
• 6:51
  quality
• 6:52
  time
• 6:52
  might
• 6:52
  be
• 6:52
  his.
• 6:53
  But
• 6:54
  we're
• 6:54
  here
• 6:54
  to
• 6:54
  talk
• 6:54
  about
• 6:55
  love
• 6:55
  languages
• 6:55
  of
• 6:56
  children,
• 6:56
  which
• 6:57
  are
• 6:57
  actually
• 6:58
  the
• 6:58
  same
• 6:58
  love
• 6:59
  languages.
• 6:59
  They're
• 7:00
  not
• 7:00
  different.
• 7:00
  They're
• 7:01
  not
• 7:01
  different.
• 7:01
  No,
• 7:02
  they
• 7:02
  are
• 7:02
  the
• 7:02
  same.
• 7:02
  And
• 7:03
  one
• 7:03
  of
• 7:04
  the
• 7:04
  things
• 7:04
  this
• 7:05
  book
• 7:05
  talks
• 7:05
  about,
• 7:06
  which
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  think
• 7:06
  is
• 7:07
  important,
• 7:07
  which
• 7:08
  we've
• 7:08
  seen
• 7:08
  in
• 7:09
  a
• 7:09
  number
• 7:09
  of
• 7:09
  books
• 7:09
  that
• 7:10
  we've
• 7:10
  read,
• 7:10
  is
• 7:10
  that
• 7:11
  we
• 7:11
  need
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  keep
• 7:11
  our
• 7:12
  child's
• 7:12
  love
• 7:13
  tank
• 7:14
  full.
• 7:14
  The
• 7:15
  first
• 7:15
  time
• 7:15
  I
• 7:15
  heard
• 7:15
  that
• 7:15
  phrase
• 7:16
  was
• 7:16
  on
• 7:16
  the
• 7:16
  Real
• 7:16
  Housewives
• 7:17
  of
• 7:17
  Orange
• 7:17
  county
• 7:18
  when
• 7:18
  Vicki
• 7:18
  was
• 7:19
  complaining
• 7:19
  about
• 7:19
  dawn
• 7:20
  saying,
• 7:21
  my
• 7:21
  love
• 7:21
  tank
• 7:21
  is
• 7:22
  empty.
• 7:22
  And
• 7:22
  then
• 7:22
  they
• 7:23
  got
• 7:23
  divorced
• 7:23
  the
• 7:23
  next
• 7:24
  season.
• 7:25
  So
• 7:25
  keep
• 7:25
  your
• 7:25
  kids
• 7:26
  love
• 7:26
  tank
• 7:26
  full.
• 7:27
  We
• 7:27
  must
• 7:27
  keep
• 7:28
  our
• 7:28
  children's
• 7:28
  love
• 7:29
  tanks.
• 7:29
  Full,
• 7:29
  lest
• 7:30
  they
• 7:30
  divorce
• 7:30
  you.
• 7:31
  Well,
• 7:31
  they're
• 7:31
  not
• 7:31
  going
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  divorce
• 7:32
  you,
• 7:32
  but
• 7:32
  they're
• 7:32
  not
• 7:32
  going
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  like
• 7:33
  you
• 7:33
  or,
• 7:33
  you
• 7:34
  know,
• 7:34
  you're
• 7:34
  not.
• 7:34
  Your
• 7:35
  relationship
• 7:35
  won't
• 7:36
  be
• 7:36
  as
• 7:36
  good.
• 7:37
  And
• 7:37
  what
• 7:37
  the
• 7:38
  book
• 7:38
  actually
• 7:38
  says
• 7:39
  is
• 7:39
  that
• 7:39
  we
• 7:40
  all
• 7:40
  have
• 7:41
  a
• 7:41
  sort
• 7:41
  of
• 7:41
  innate
• 7:42
  way
• 7:42
  that
• 7:43
  we
• 7:43
  want
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  be
• 7:44
  loved.
• 7:46
  And
• 7:46
  that,
• 7:47
  you
• 7:47
  know,
• 7:47
  we
• 7:47
  can
• 7:48
  fail
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  recognize
• 7:49
  and
• 7:49
  our
• 7:49
  children
• 7:50
  can
• 7:50
  fail
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  recognize
• 7:51
  that.
• 7:52
  That
• 7:52
  people
• 7:52
  love
• 7:53
  us
• 7:53
  if
• 7:53
  they
• 7:53
  aren't
• 7:54
  loving
• 7:54
  us
• 7:54
  in
• 7:55
  the
• 7:55
  way
• 7:55
  that
• 7:56
  actually
• 7:56
  works
• 7:57
  for
• 7:57
  us.
• 7:57
  Our
• 7:58
  preferred
• 7:58
  love
• 7:58
  language.
• 8:00
  And
• 8:00
  so
• 8:01
  that
• 8:01
  means
• 8:02
  you
• 8:02
  need
• 8:02
  to
• 8:02
  understand
• 8:03
  what
• 8:03
  your
• 8:03
  child's
• 8:04
  love
• 8:04
  language
• 8:04
  is.
• 8:05
  You
• 8:06
  need
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  speak
• 8:06
  it
• 8:07
  and
• 8:07
  do
• 8:08
  it
• 8:08
  with
• 8:09
  your
• 8:09
  child,
• 8:09
  I
• 8:09
  guess,
• 8:10
  all
• 8:10
  the
• 8:10
  time.
• 8:11
  I
• 8:12
  mean,
• 8:13
  they
• 8:13
  do
• 8:13
  say
• 8:14
  you
• 8:14
  should
• 8:14
  give
• 8:15
  them
• 8:15
  all
• 8:15
  five
• 8:15
  love
• 8:16
  languages,
• 8:16
  but
• 8:17
  really
• 8:17
  with
• 8:18
  a
• 8:18
  big
• 8:18
  preference
• 8:18
  to
• 8:19
  the
• 8:19
  one
• 8:19
  that
• 8:19
  they
• 8:20
  take
• 8:21
  as
• 8:21
  meaning.
• 8:22
  Yes,
• 8:22
  I
• 8:23
  am
• 8:23
  loved.
• 8:23
  Yes.
• 8:24
  Determine
• 8:24
  what
• 8:24
  their
• 8:24
  love
• 8:25
  language
• 8:25
  is
• 8:26
  through
• 8:26
  their
• 8:26
  behavior.
• 8:27
  Because
• 8:27
  obviously
• 8:28
  they
• 8:28
  can't
• 8:28
  be
• 8:28
  like,
• 8:28
  my
• 8:29
  love
• 8:29
  language
• 8:29
  is
• 8:29
  this.
• 8:30
  They
• 8:30
  can't
• 8:30
  tell
• 8:30
  you.
• 8:31
  They
• 8:31
  have
• 8:31
  no
• 8:31
  idea.
• 8:32
  No.
• 8:32
  But
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  can
• 8:33
  figure
• 8:33
  out,
• 8:33
  like,
• 8:34
  what
• 8:34
  based
• 8:34
  on
• 8:34
  what
• 8:34
  they
• 8:35
  respond
• 8:35
  to.
• 8:35
  So
• 8:36
  some
• 8:36
  kids
• 8:36
  respond
• 8:36
  really
• 8:37
  positively
• 8:37
  to
• 8:37
  gifts.
• 8:38
  Some
• 8:39
  kids
• 8:39
  respond
• 8:39
  really
• 8:40
  positively
• 8:40
  to
• 8:40
  words
• 8:41
  of
• 8:41
  affirmation
• 8:42
  or
• 8:42
  quality
• 8:43
  time.
• 8:43
  Right.
• 8:44
  I
• 8:44
  don't
• 8:44
  know
• 8:44
  that
• 8:45
  kids
• 8:45
  totally
• 8:45
  understand
• 8:46
  what
• 8:46
  acts
• 8:46
  of
• 8:46
  service
• 8:47
  is,
• 8:47
  because
• 8:47
  all
• 8:48
  they
• 8:48
  do
• 8:48
  is
• 8:48
  receive
• 8:49
  acts
• 8:49
  of
• 8:49
  service.
• 8:50
  We
• 8:50
  are
• 8:50
  their
• 8:50
  servants.
• 8:51
  We
• 8:51
  are
• 8:51
  their
• 8:51
  servants.
• 8:52
  We
• 8:52
  do
• 8:52
  everything
• 8:52
  for
• 8:53
  them.
• 8:53
  They
• 8:53
  expect
• 8:53
  that
• 8:54
  we
• 8:54
  will
• 8:54
  do
• 8:54
  everything.
• 8:54
  For
• 8:55
  them
• 8:55
  until
• 8:56
  a
• 8:56
  certain
• 8:56
  point.
• 8:56
  Right.
• 8:57
  So
• 8:58
  I
• 8:58
  don't
• 8:58
  know
• 8:58
  that
• 8:58
  that's
• 8:58
  quite
• 8:59
  as
• 8:59
  valid
• 9:00
  for
• 9:00
  kids.
• 9:01
  Although,
• 9:01
  listen,
• 9:02
  according
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  this
• 9:03
  book.
• 9:03
  Yes,
• 9:03
  it
• 9:04
  is.
• 9:04
  It
• 9:04
  is.
• 9:04
  Well,
• 9:04
  they
• 9:05
  say
• 9:05
  that
• 9:05
  when
• 9:05
  they're
• 9:05
  really
• 9:06
  young,
• 9:06
  you
• 9:07
  have
• 9:07
  to
• 9:07
  do
• 9:07
  all
• 9:07
  five
• 9:08
  and
• 9:09
  just,
• 9:09
  you
• 9:10
  know,
• 9:10
  just
• 9:10
  do
• 9:10
  them
• 9:10
  all.
• 9:12
  But
• 9:12
  that
• 9:12
  if
• 9:12
  you
• 9:13
  do
• 9:13
  them
• 9:13
  all.
• 9:14
  Do
• 9:14
  them
• 9:14
  all.
• 9:14
  Which,
• 9:15
  of
• 9:15
  course,
• 9:15
  we
• 9:15
  probably
• 9:16
  all
• 9:16
  do.
• 9:17
  We
• 9:17
  try.
• 9:18
  But
• 9:20
  that
• 9:20
  when
• 9:21
  your
• 9:21
  child
• 9:22
  does
• 9:22
  feel
• 9:22
  the
• 9:23
  love,
• 9:23
  they
• 9:24
  will
• 9:24
  be
• 9:24
  more
• 9:24
  confident,
• 9:25
  they
• 9:25
  will
• 9:25
  act
• 9:26
  out
• 9:26
  less.
• 9:27
  They're
• 9:27
  gonna
• 9:27
  be
• 9:27
  able
• 9:27
  to
• 9:28
  show
• 9:28
  you
• 9:28
  how
• 9:29
  they
• 9:29
  care
• 9:29
  for
• 9:29
  you.
• 9:30
  So
• 9:31
  it's
• 9:31
  very
• 9:31
  much
• 9:32
  a
• 9:32
  win,
• 9:32
  win.
• 9:33
  And
• 9:33
  it's
• 9:33
  not
• 9:33
  like
• 9:33
  you
• 9:34
  have
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  do
• 9:34
  anything
• 9:34
  extra
• 9:35
  that
• 9:35
  you
• 9:35
  weren't
• 9:36
  already
• 9:36
  gonna
• 9:36
  do.
• 9:37
  Yeah.
• 9:37
  So,
• 9:38
  yeah,
• 9:39
  you
• 9:39
  were
• 9:39
  doing
• 9:39
  it
• 9:39
  anyway.
• 9:40
  So
• 9:40
  just
• 9:40
  do
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  like
• 9:41
  this.
• 9:41
  Do
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  the
• 9:42
  right
• 9:42
  way.
• 9:43
  It's
• 9:43
  just
• 9:43
  funny
• 9:43
  that
• 9:44
  we
• 9:44
  need
• 9:44
  a
• 9:44
  book
• 9:45
  to
• 9:45
  tell
• 9:45
  us
• 9:45
  how
• 9:45
  to
• 9:46
  love
• 9:46
  our
• 9:46
  children.
• 9:47
  I
• 9:47
  mean,
• 9:47
  that's
• 9:47
  kind
• 9:48
  of
• 9:48
  weird.
• 9:48
  Well,
• 9:48
  I
• 9:48
  think
• 9:49
  it's
• 9:49
  more
• 9:49
  just
• 9:50
  like,
• 9:52
  be
• 9:52
  specific.
• 9:52
  Right.
• 9:53
  So
• 9:53
  like,
• 9:53
  love.
• 9:54
  What
• 9:55
  a
• 9:55
  nebulous
• 9:56
  idea.
• 9:56
  It's
• 9:57
  big.
• 9:57
  It's
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  big
• 9:57
  idea.
• 9:58
  Yeah.
• 9:58
  So
• 9:58
  this
• 9:58
  sort
• 9:58
  of
• 9:59
  breaks
• 9:59
  it
• 9:59
  down
• 9:59
  into,
• 10:00
  like,
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  ways
• 10:00
  we
• 10:01
  can
• 10:01
  show
• 10:01
  love
• 10:02
  and
• 10:02
  receive
• 10:02
  love.
• 10:03
  Because
• 10:04
  love
• 10:04
  is
• 10:04
  Actionable.
• 10:05
  It's
• 10:05
  not
• 10:06
  just
• 10:06
  a
• 10:07
  big
• 10:07
  idea.
• 10:08
  Right.
• 10:08
  We
• 10:09
  know
• 10:09
  what
• 10:09
  it
• 10:09
  feels
• 10:10
  like
• 10:10
  to
• 10:10
  feel
• 10:10
  loved
• 10:11
  and
• 10:11
  we
• 10:11
  know
• 10:11
  what
• 10:11
  it
• 10:11
  feels
• 10:12
  like
• 10:12
  to
• 10:12
  love
• 10:12
  someone
• 10:13
  or
• 10:13
  something.
• 10:14
  But
• 10:14
  this
• 10:15
  book
• 10:15
  really
• 10:15
  puts
• 10:16
  that
• 10:17
  idea
• 10:18
  in.
• 10:18
  Into
• 10:18
  a
• 10:19
  way
• 10:19
  that's
• 10:19
  like,
• 10:19
  oh,
• 10:19
  okay,
• 10:20
  I
• 10:20
  can
• 10:20
  do
• 10:20
  this
• 10:21
  to
• 10:21
  show
• 10:21
  love.
• 10:22
  Which
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  think
• 10:22
  is
• 10:22
  helpful
• 10:23
  for
• 10:23
  a
• 10:23
  lot
• 10:23
  of
• 10:23
  people.
• 10:24
  And
• 10:24
  we
• 10:24
  need
• 10:24
  instruction.
• 10:25
  Yeah,
• 10:25
  a
• 10:26
  little
• 10:26
  bit
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  instruction.
• 10:27
  And
• 10:27
  that,
• 10:27
  that
• 10:27
  with
• 10:28
  this
• 10:28
  child,
• 10:29
  the
• 10:29
  best
• 10:30
  way
• 10:30
  to
• 10:30
  do
• 10:30
  it,
• 10:31
  the
• 10:31
  way
• 10:31
  he'll
• 10:31
  receive
• 10:32
  it
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  best
• 10:33
  and
• 10:33
  understand
• 10:34
  it
• 10:34
  and
• 10:34
  take.
• 10:34
  And
• 10:35
  it'll
• 10:35
  maybe
• 10:36
  give
• 10:36
  us
• 10:36
  more
• 10:38
  of
• 10:38
  his
• 10:38
  love.
• 10:39
  Tank
• 10:39
  will
• 10:39
  be
• 10:39
  filled
• 10:40
  if
• 10:40
  we
• 10:40
  do
• 10:40
  it
• 10:40
  this
• 10:40
  way.
• 10:41
  A
• 10:41
  la
• 10:41
  Vicki
• 10:41
  Gunvalson.
• 10:42
  Yes,
• 10:42
  exactly.
• 10:45
  I
• 10:45
  bet
• 10:45
  she
• 10:46
  read
• 10:46
  this
• 10:46
  book
• 10:46
  because
• 10:46
  early
• 10:47
  seasons
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  real
• 10:48
  Housewives
• 10:48
  of
• 10:48
  O.C.
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  women
• 10:49
  were
• 10:50
  pretty.
• 10:51
  They
• 10:51
  loved
• 10:51
  church.
• 10:52
  They
• 10:52
  all
• 10:52
  talked
• 10:53
  about
• 10:53
  church
• 10:53
  quite
• 10:54
  a
• 10:54
  lot.
• 10:55
  Although
• 10:55
  based
• 10:56
  on
• 10:56
  their
• 10:56
  behavior,
• 10:57
  it
• 10:57
  did
• 10:57
  not
• 10:57
  seem
• 10:58
  like
• 10:58
  they
• 10:58
  were
• 10:59
  like
• 10:59
  all
• 10:59
  about
• 11:00
  church.
• 11:00
  Church.
• 11:01
  Right.
• 11:01
  But
• 11:02
  what
• 11:02
  is,
• 11:02
  but
• 11:02
  how
• 11:02
  does
• 11:03
  church
• 11:03
  relate
• 11:03
  to
• 11:04
  the
• 11:04
  love
• 11:04
  languages?
• 11:05
  I
• 11:05
  don't
• 11:05
  know
• 11:05
  that
• 11:06
  it
• 11:06
  relates
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  the
• 11:06
  love
• 11:07
  languages
• 11:07
  specifically.
• 11:08
  Yeah.
• 11:09
  But
• 11:09
  again,
• 11:09
  this
• 11:10
  book
• 11:10
  did
• 11:10
  feel
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  me
• 11:11
  like
• 11:11
  it
• 11:12
  was
• 11:12
  pretty.
• 11:13
  It
• 11:13
  wasn't
• 11:14
  like
• 11:14
  Christian
• 11:14
  centric.
• 11:15
  But
• 11:15
  he,
• 11:16
  they,
• 11:16
  they
• 11:16
  reference
• 11:17
  the
• 11:17
  Bible,
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  Hebrews,
• 11:20
  which
• 11:20
  I'm
• 11:21
  like,
• 11:21
  what
• 11:21
  a
• 11:21
  funny.
• 11:21
  Who
• 11:21
  are
• 11:22
  the
• 11:22
  Hebrews?
• 11:22
  I
• 11:22
  guess
• 11:23
  the
• 11:23
  Jews.
• 11:23
  Oh,
• 11:24
  okay.
• 11:24
  I
• 11:24
  don't
• 11:24
  know.
• 11:25
  Okay.
• 11:25
  In
• 11:25
  the
• 11:25
  Bible.
• 11:26
  I'm
• 11:26
  honestly
• 11:26
  not
• 11:27
  sure.
• 11:27
  Maybe
• 11:27
  it's
• 11:27
  anybody
• 11:28
  who
• 11:28
  is
• 11:28
  from
• 11:29
  that
• 11:30
  part
• 11:30
  of
• 11:30
  the
• 11:30
  world.
• 11:31
  I
• 11:31
  don't
• 11:31
  know.
• 11:31
  I
• 11:32
  have,
• 11:32
  obviously
• 11:33
  I
• 11:33
  have
• 11:33
  not
• 11:33
  read
• 11:33
  the
• 11:33
  Bible.
• 11:34
  I
• 11:34
  have
• 11:34
  not
• 11:34
  read
• 11:34
  the
• 11:34
  Bible
• 11:35
  in
• 11:35
  a
• 11:35
  while
• 11:35
  either.
• 11:35
  I
• 11:36
  haven't
• 11:36
  read
• 11:36
  it.
• 11:36
  We
• 11:37
  had
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  read
• 11:38
  it,
• 11:38
  honestly.
• 11:39
  You
• 11:39
  never
• 11:39
  had
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  read
• 11:39
  it
• 11:40
  in
• 11:40
  school?
• 11:40
  No.
• 11:42
  You
• 11:42
  did,
• 11:42
  I
• 11:43
  think
• 11:43
  at
• 11:43
  one
• 11:43
  school
• 11:44
  or
• 11:44
  two
• 11:45
  schools.
• 11:46
  Yeah.
• 11:46
  I
• 11:47
  don't
• 11:47
  know.
• 11:47
  I
• 11:47
  mean,
• 11:47
  I
• 11:48
  went
• 11:48
  to
• 11:48
  Sunday
• 11:49
  school,
• 11:49
  but
• 11:50
  we,
• 11:50
  you
• 11:50
  know,
• 11:50
  we'd
• 11:51
  read
• 11:51
  pieces
• 11:51
  of
• 11:52
  the
• 11:52
  Bible.
• 11:52
  Yeah,
• 11:53
  yeah,
• 11:53
  yeah.
• 11:54
  Stories.
• 11:54
  Yeah,
• 11:55
  exactly.
• 11:56
  Right.
• 11:56
  For
• 11:57
  kids.
• 11:57
  Anyway.
• 11:57
  All
• 11:58
  right,
• 11:58
  all
• 11:58
  right.
• 11:58
  Well,
• 11:59
  anyway,
• 11:59
  so
• 11:59
  they
• 12:00
  start
• 12:00
  out
• 12:01
  with
• 12:01
  an
• 12:01
  example
• 12:02
  of
• 12:02
  a
• 12:02
  boy.
• 12:02
  His
• 12:03
  grades
• 12:03
  were
• 12:03
  slipping,
• 12:04
  he
• 12:04
  was
• 12:04
  very
• 12:04
  depressed.
• 12:06
  And
• 12:07
  so
• 12:07
  they
• 12:07
  went
• 12:07
  and
• 12:08
  I
• 12:08
  think
• 12:09
  talked
• 12:09
  to
• 12:09
  the
• 12:09
  author
• 12:10
  of
• 12:10
  the
• 12:10
  book
• 12:11
  because
• 12:11
  they
• 12:11
  went
• 12:11
  to
• 12:11
  a,
• 12:11
  I
• 12:11
  guess
• 12:12
  a
• 12:12
  seminar
• 12:12
  he
• 12:12
  was
• 12:13
  leading.
• 12:13
  And
• 12:14
  the
• 12:14
  guy
• 12:14
  said,
• 12:14
  well,
• 12:15
  has
• 12:15
  anything
• 12:15
  changed
• 12:16
  at
• 12:16
  home?
• 12:16
  And
• 12:16
  it
• 12:16
  turns
• 12:17
  out,
• 12:17
  well,
• 12:18
  yeah,
• 12:18
  the
• 12:18
  father
• 12:19
  is
• 12:19
  now
• 12:19
  working
• 12:20
  more
• 12:20
  and
• 12:20
  not
• 12:21
  home
• 12:22
  as
• 12:22
  much.
• 12:23
  And
• 12:23
  he
• 12:23
  used
• 12:24
  to
• 12:24
  take
• 12:24
  his
• 12:24
  son
• 12:25
  to
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  football
• 12:25
  game
• 12:26
  every
• 12:26
  Saturday,
• 12:26
  but
• 12:26
  he's
• 12:27
  not
• 12:27
  doing
• 12:27
  that
• 12:27
  anymore.
• 12:28
  And
• 12:28
  the
• 12:29
  mother
• 12:29
  got
• 12:29
  a
• 12:29
  full
• 12:29
  time
• 12:30
  job
• 12:30
  and
• 12:31
  now
• 12:31
  she
• 12:31
  doesn't
• 12:31
  pick
• 12:31
  him
• 12:32
  up
• 12:32
  from
• 12:32
  school
• 12:32
  anymore.
• 12:33
  So
• 12:33
  they
• 12:33
  don't
• 12:33
  have
• 12:33
  their
• 12:34
  little
• 12:34
  talks
• 12:34
  that
• 12:34
  were
• 12:35
  really
• 12:35
  important
• 12:35
  to
• 12:35
  them.
• 12:36
  And
• 12:36
  so
• 12:37
  they
• 12:37
  realized
• 12:38
  that
• 12:38
  maybe
• 12:39
  what
• 12:39
  the
• 12:39
  boy
• 12:40
  really
• 12:40
  needed
• 12:41
  was
• 12:42
  more
• 12:43
  quality
• 12:43
  time.
• 12:44
  Quality
• 12:44
  time
• 12:44
  with
• 12:45
  his
• 12:45
  parents.
• 12:45
  And
• 12:45
  so
• 12:46
  they.
• 12:46
  They
• 12:47
  changed
• 12:47
  things
• 12:48
  around.
• 12:48
  Now
• 12:49
  mom
• 12:49
  found
• 12:50
  a
• 12:50
  way
• 12:50
  to
• 12:50
  pick
• 12:50
  him
• 12:50
  up.
• 12:51
  Father
• 12:52
  is
• 12:52
  taking
• 12:52
  him
• 12:52
  to
• 12:52
  football
• 12:53
  games,
• 12:53
  and
• 12:53
  suddenly
• 12:54
  grades
• 12:54
  got
• 12:55
  better
• 12:55
  and
• 12:56
  he
• 12:56
  was
• 12:56
  happier.
• 12:57
  Father.
• 12:58
  Father
• 12:58
  feels
• 12:58
  like
• 12:59
  such
• 12:59
  a
• 12:59
  formal
• 12:59
  word.
• 13:00
  Daddy.
• 13:00
  I
• 13:00
  don't
• 13:00
  know,
• 13:01
  whatever.
• 13:02
  But
• 13:03
  the
• 13:03
  dad
• 13:05
  was
• 13:05
  doing
• 13:05
  those
• 13:05
  things
• 13:06
  anyway,
• 13:07
  so.
• 13:07
  So
• 13:07
  he's
• 13:07
  saying,
• 13:08
  you
• 13:08
  know,
• 13:08
  you
• 13:08
  can
• 13:09
  discipline
• 13:10
  your
• 13:10
  kids
• 13:10
  so
• 13:10
  much
• 13:11
  better
• 13:11
  if
• 13:11
  their
• 13:12
  emotional
• 13:12
  tank
• 13:13
  is
• 13:13
  full.
• 13:14
  They
• 13:14
  have
• 13:15
  to
• 13:15
  feel
• 13:15
  this
• 13:16
  unconditional
• 13:17
  love.
• 13:18
  And
• 13:18
  don't
• 13:19
  make
• 13:19
  it
• 13:19
  conditional.
• 13:20
  Don't
• 13:20
  make
• 13:20
  it
• 13:20
  conditional.
• 13:21
  You
• 13:21
  know,
• 13:22
  don't
• 13:22
  say,
• 13:22
  well,
• 13:23
  I'll
• 13:23
  give
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  a
• 13:24
  gift
• 13:24
  if
• 13:24
  you
• 13:24
  do
• 13:25
  this.
• 13:25
  Because
• 13:25
  that's
• 13:26
  payment
• 13:26
  for
• 13:26
  services
• 13:26
  rendered.
• 13:27
  Exactly.
• 13:28
  Yes.
• 13:28
  I
• 13:28
  remember
• 13:29
  that
• 13:29
  from
• 13:29
  the
• 13:29
  book.
• 13:29
  Yes.
• 13:30
  And
• 13:30
  so,
• 13:31
  yeah,
• 13:31
  it
• 13:31
  can't
• 13:31
  be
• 13:31
  conditional.
• 13:32
  It
• 13:32
  has
• 13:32
  to
• 13:32
  be
• 13:32
  unconditionally
• 13:33
  given.
• 13:34
  Another
• 13:34
  thing
• 13:34
  they've
• 13:35
  mentioned
• 13:35
  too,
• 13:35
  do
• 13:36
  not
• 13:36
  use
• 13:36
  your
• 13:36
  child's
• 13:37
  love
• 13:37
  language
• 13:38
  with
• 13:38
  their
• 13:39
  discipline
• 13:40
  in
• 13:40
  the
• 13:40
  sense
• 13:40
  that
• 13:40
  it's
• 13:41
  like,
• 13:41
  if
• 13:41
  they're.
• 13:41
  Love
• 13:41
  language
• 13:42
  is
• 13:42
  quality
• 13:42
  time,
• 13:42
  don't
• 13:43
  withhold
• 13:43
  quality
• 13:44
  time
• 13:44
  as
• 13:44
  a
• 13:44
  punishment.
• 13:45
  Right.
• 13:45
  Because
• 13:46
  that's
• 13:46
  cruel.
• 13:47
  Yes.
• 13:47
  Because
• 13:47
  it's
• 13:48
  gonna
• 13:48
  hit
• 13:48
  them
• 13:48
  much
• 13:48
  harder.
• 13:49
  Yeah.
• 13:49
  I
• 13:50
  mean,
• 13:50
  maybe
• 13:50
  if
• 13:50
  you're,
• 13:50
  like,
• 13:51
  so
• 13:51
  upset
• 13:51
  with
• 13:51
  them
• 13:52
  and
• 13:52
  you
• 13:52
  do
• 13:52
  wanna
• 13:52
  hit
• 13:53
  them
• 13:53
  harder,
• 13:53
  but
• 13:53
  I
• 13:53
  don't
• 13:54
  think
• 13:54
  it's
• 13:54
  a
• 13:54
  good
• 13:54
  idea.
• 13:55
  Yeah.
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  feel
• 13:55
  like
• 13:55
  that
• 13:56
  creates
• 13:56
  more
• 13:57
  distance
• 13:58
  and
• 13:58
  more
• 13:58
  of
• 13:58
  a
• 13:58
  disconnect
• 13:59
  than
• 14:00
  solving
• 14:00
  anything.
• 14:01
  Yeah.
• 14:01
  That
• 14:01
  would
• 14:01
  be
• 14:01
  cruel,
• 14:01
  wouldn't
• 14:02
  it?
• 14:02
  That
• 14:02
  would
• 14:02
  be
• 14:02
  mean.
• 14:03
  Yeah.
• 14:03
  Yeah.
• 14:04
  So,
• 14:04
  yes.
• 14:05
  So,
• 14:05
  for
• 14:05
  example,
• 14:06
  and
• 14:06
  if
• 14:06
  words
• 14:06
  of
• 14:07
  affirmation
• 14:07
  is
• 14:08
  their
• 14:08
  love
• 14:08
  language,
• 14:09
  don't
• 14:10
  speak
• 14:10
  to
• 14:10
  them
• 14:10
  super
• 14:11
  harshly'
• 14:12
  cause
• 14:12
  it's
• 14:12
  gonna
• 14:12
  hur.
• 14:14
  There
• 14:14
  was
• 14:14
  one
• 14:14
  example
• 14:15
  about
• 14:15
  the
• 14:16
  kid
• 14:16
  who
• 14:16
  threw
• 14:16
  a
• 14:17
  baseball
• 14:17
  through
• 14:17
  his
• 14:17
  neighbor's
• 14:18
  window.
• 14:19
  And
• 14:20
  I
• 14:20
  actually
• 14:20
  really
• 14:21
  appreciated
• 14:21
  this.
• 14:22
  Sort
• 14:22
  of.
• 14:23
  He
• 14:24
  had
• 14:24
  to
• 14:24
  be
• 14:24
  disciplined
• 14:25
  in
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  sense
• 14:25
  that
• 14:25
  obviously
• 14:27
  the
• 14:27
  dad
• 14:28
  was
• 14:28
  like,
• 14:28
  listen,
• 14:28
  I
• 14:28
  know
• 14:29
  you
• 14:29
  made
• 14:29
  a
• 14:29
  mistake.
• 14:29
  This
• 14:30
  really
• 14:30
  hurts
• 14:30
  me
• 14:30
  to
• 14:30
  do,
• 14:31
  but
• 14:32
  I
• 14:32
  have
• 14:32
  to
• 14:33
  restrict
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  from
• 14:33
  playing
• 14:34
  baseball
• 14:34
  for
• 14:34
  the
• 14:34
  next
• 14:35
  two
• 14:35
  weeks
• 14:36
  and
• 14:36
  you
• 14:36
  have
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  pay
• 14:37
  for
• 14:38
  the
• 14:38
  damage
• 14:39
  to
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  window.
• 14:39
  Right.
• 14:40
  Understand
• 14:41
  it
• 14:41
  hurts
• 14:41
  me
• 14:41
  to
• 14:41
  punish
• 14:42
  you,
• 14:42
  but
• 14:42
  this
• 14:43
  is
• 14:43
  really
• 14:43
  important
• 14:43
  that
• 14:44
  you
• 14:44
  learn
• 14:44
  this
• 14:44
  lesson.
• 14:45
  Right.
• 14:46
  And
• 14:46
  I
• 14:46
  was
• 14:46
  like,
• 14:47
  huh?
• 14:48
  Instead
• 14:48
  of
• 14:49
  disciplining
• 14:50
  with
• 14:50
  anger,
• 14:50
  you
• 14:51
  can
• 14:51
  discipline
• 14:52
  with
• 14:52
  love.
• 14:53
  Right.
• 14:53
  You
• 14:53
  know,
• 14:53
  it's
• 14:54
  like,
• 14:54
  this
• 14:54
  is
• 14:54
  something
• 14:54
  I
• 14:55
  have
• 14:55
  to
• 14:55
  do.
• 14:55
  I
• 14:55
  have
• 14:56
  no
• 14:56
  choice.
• 14:56
  You
• 14:56
  need
• 14:56
  to
• 14:57
  learn
• 14:57
  this.
• 14:57
  But
• 14:57
  it
• 14:58
  hurts
• 14:58
  me
• 14:58
  to
• 14:58
  do
• 14:58
  this
• 14:59
  to
• 14:59
  you.
• 14:59
  Right.
• 14:59
  So
• 15:00
  understand
• 15:00
  that.
• 15:00
  And
• 15:01
  then
• 15:01
  at
• 15:01
  the
• 15:01
  end
• 15:01
  of
• 15:01
  that
• 15:02
  conversation,
• 15:02
  he
• 15:02
  gave
• 15:02
  his
• 15:03
  son
• 15:03
  a
• 15:03
  hug
• 15:03
  and
• 15:03
  was
• 15:03
  like,
• 15:03
  this
• 15:04
  is
• 15:04
  the
• 15:04
  deal.
• 15:04
  This
• 15:04
  is
• 15:04
  the
• 15:05
  consequence.
• 15:05
  Right.
• 15:06
  I
• 15:06
  still
• 15:06
  love
• 15:06
  you
• 15:06
  guys.
• 15:07
  That
• 15:07
  is
• 15:07
  a
• 15:07
  Good
• 15:08
  way
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  punish
• 15:09
  a
• 15:09
  kid.
• 15:09
  And
• 15:10
  they
• 15:10
  will
• 15:10
  learn
• 15:11
  the
• 15:11
  lesson,
• 15:11
  I
• 15:11
  would
• 15:11
  think.
• 15:12
  Yeah.
• 15:12
  And
• 15:12
  I
• 15:12
  think
• 15:13
  they'll
• 15:13
  probably
• 15:13
  learn
• 15:13
  it
• 15:13
  more
• 15:14
  effectively
• 15:14
  and
• 15:15
  they
• 15:15
  won't
• 15:16
  resent
• 15:16
  you.
• 15:17
  Right.
• 15:17
  You
• 15:18
  know,
• 15:18
  I
• 15:18
  think
• 15:18
  that's
• 15:19
  a
• 15:19
  better
• 15:19
  way
• 15:19
  to
• 15:19
  help
• 15:20
  them
• 15:20
  understand.
• 15:20
  Listen,
• 15:21
  sometimes
• 15:21
  we
• 15:21
  make
• 15:22
  mistakes,
• 15:22
  but
• 15:22
  those
• 15:22
  mistakes
• 15:23
  have
• 15:23
  consequences.
• 15:24
  Right?
• 15:24
  Yes.
• 15:25
  Yes.
• 15:25
  No,
• 15:25
  I
• 15:26
  think
• 15:26
  that's
• 15:26
  right.
• 15:26
  And
• 15:27
  they,
• 15:27
  they
• 15:27
  do
• 15:27
  talk
• 15:28
  about,
• 15:28
  you
• 15:29
  know,
• 15:29
  using
• 15:29
  the
• 15:29
  love
• 15:30
  languages
• 15:30
  to
• 15:31
  discipline
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  child.
• 15:32
  And
• 15:32
  they,
• 15:32
  they
• 15:33
  say,
• 15:33
  always
• 15:34
  start
• 15:34
  out
• 15:34
  by
• 15:35
  showing
• 15:35
  your
• 15:35
  love
• 15:36
  and
• 15:37
  explaining
• 15:37
  what
• 15:38
  you're
• 15:38
  like,
• 15:38
  exactly
• 15:39
  what
• 15:39
  you
• 15:39
  just
• 15:39
  described.
• 15:40
  Explain
• 15:40
  what
• 15:40
  you
• 15:41
  have
• 15:41
  to
• 15:41
  do
• 15:41
  to
• 15:42
  help
• 15:42
  them
• 15:43
  learn
• 15:43
  the
• 15:43
  lesson
• 15:43
  they
• 15:43
  need
• 15:44
  to
• 15:44
  learn
• 15:44
  and
• 15:44
  then
• 15:45
  show
• 15:45
  them
• 15:45
  love
• 15:45
  afterwards.
• 15:46
  I
• 15:46
  think
• 15:47
  that's
• 15:47
  ideally
• 15:48
  the
• 15:48
  way
• 15:48
  you
• 15:48
  would
• 15:48
  do
• 15:49
  it.
• 15:49
  Yeah.
• 15:49
  Of
• 15:49
  all
• 15:49
  the
• 15:50
  books
• 15:50
  we've
• 15:50
  read
• 15:50
  about
• 15:50
  discipline,
• 15:51
  this
• 15:52
  book
• 15:52
  isn't
• 15:52
  even
• 15:52
  about
• 15:52
  discipline.
• 15:53
  And
• 15:53
  this
• 15:54
  chapter,
• 15:54
  one
• 15:55
  chapter.
• 15:55
  Yeah.
• 15:56
  But
• 15:56
  this
• 15:56
  struck
• 15:57
  me.
• 15:57
  This
• 15:57
  is
• 15:58
  the
• 15:58
  way
• 15:58
  I
• 15:58
  hope
• 15:59
  to
• 15:59
  implement
• 15:59
  discipline
• 16:00
  when
• 16:00
  it
• 16:00
  needs
• 16:00
  to
• 16:01
  be
• 16:01
  implemented.
• 16:02
  He
• 16:02
  also
• 16:02
  mentioned
• 16:03
  discipline
• 16:03
  is
• 16:04
  not
• 16:04
  punishment.
• 16:04
  It's
• 16:05
  not
• 16:05
  the
• 16:05
  same
• 16:06
  thing.
• 16:06
  Not
• 16:06
  necessarily
• 16:07
  punishment.
• 16:08
  No.
• 16:08
  Discipline
• 16:08
  is
• 16:09
  about
• 16:09
  having
• 16:09
  a
• 16:09
  standard
• 16:10
  of
• 16:10
  an
• 16:11
  expectation
• 16:12
  that
• 16:12
  you
• 16:12
  either
• 16:13
  meet
• 16:14
  or
• 16:14
  you
• 16:14
  fall
• 16:14
  short
• 16:14
  of.
• 16:15
  And
• 16:17
  punishment
• 16:18
  is
• 16:18
  a
• 16:19
  separate
• 16:19
  thing.
• 16:20
  Punishment
• 16:20
  is
• 16:21
  a
• 16:21
  consequence
• 16:22
  for
• 16:23
  when
• 16:23
  you
• 16:23
  fall
• 16:24
  short
• 16:24
  of
• 16:24
  these
• 16:24
  standards.
• 16:25
  Right.
• 16:25
  Maybe
• 16:25
  not
• 16:26
  in
• 16:26
  those
• 16:26
  exact
• 16:26
  words,
• 16:26
  but
• 16:26
  that's
• 16:27
  the
• 16:27
  idea
• 16:27
  that
• 16:27
  I
• 16:27
  interpreted.
• 16:28
  Right.
• 16:28
  Well,
• 16:29
  let's
• 16:29
  go
• 16:29
  through
• 16:29
  the
• 16:30
  different
• 16:30
  languages,
• 16:31
  so
• 16:31
  just
• 16:31
  so
• 16:32
  we
• 16:32
  make
• 16:32
  sure
• 16:32
  we
• 16:32
  cover
• 16:32
  them.
• 16:33
  Yes.
• 16:33
  So
• 16:33
  if
• 16:33
  you
• 16:33
  haven't
• 16:34
  read
• 16:34
  the
• 16:34
  book
• 16:34
  or
• 16:34
  you
• 16:35
  don't
• 16:35
  know
• 16:35
  about
• 16:35
  love
• 16:35
  languages,
• 16:36
  as.
• 16:36
  I
• 16:36
  didn't,
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  know,
• 16:38
  maybe
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  do,
• 16:39
  but
• 16:39
  I
• 16:39
  didn't.
• 16:39
  Okay,
• 16:40
  so
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  first
• 16:40
  being
• 16:41
  physical
• 16:41
  touch.
• 16:43
  Some
• 16:43
  kids
• 16:43
  respond
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  hugs
• 16:45
  and
• 16:45
  kisses
• 16:46
  and
• 16:46
  piggyback
• 16:47
  rides
• 16:47
  and
• 16:48
  snuggles
• 16:48
  and
• 16:49
  that
• 16:49
  sort
• 16:50
  of
• 16:50
  thing.
• 16:51
  That's
• 16:51
  my
• 16:51
  baby.
• 16:52
  Yeah,
• 16:52
  I
• 16:53
  know,
• 16:53
  but
• 16:54
  you'll
• 16:54
  be
• 16:54
  back
• 16:54
  home
• 16:55
  soon.
• 16:55
  No,
• 16:55
  no,
• 16:56
  I
• 16:56
  said
• 16:56
  that's
• 16:56
  her
• 16:56
  link,
• 16:56
  her
• 16:57
  love.
• 16:57
  Oh,
• 16:57
  that
• 16:57
  is
• 16:57
  her
• 16:57
  love.
• 16:58
  She
• 16:58
  loves
• 16:58
  to
• 16:58
  be
• 16:59
  close
• 16:59
  more
• 16:59
  than
• 17:00
  anything,
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  think.
• 17:00
  Well,
• 17:01
  she
• 17:01
  can't,
• 17:01
  like,
• 17:01
  speak
• 17:02
  and
• 17:02
  she
• 17:02
  doesn't
• 17:03
  appreciate
• 17:03
  gifts
• 17:04
  yet.
• 17:04
  No,
• 17:04
  that's
• 17:05
  true.
• 17:05
  No,
• 17:05
  that's.
• 17:06
  That
• 17:06
  doesn't
• 17:06
  even
• 17:07
  goes
• 17:07
  right
• 17:07
  over
• 17:08
  her
• 17:08
  head.
• 17:08
  Yeah.
• 17:09
  No,
• 17:09
  no.
• 17:09
  Of
• 17:09
  course,
• 17:10
  babies
• 17:10
  love
• 17:11
  this
• 17:11
  physical
• 17:12
  touch.
• 17:12
  And
• 17:13
  they
• 17:13
  say
• 17:14
  that
• 17:14
  young
• 17:14
  boys
• 17:14
  get
• 17:15
  less
• 17:15
  physical
• 17:15
  affection
• 17:16
  than
• 17:16
  girls,
• 17:17
  but
• 17:17
  that's
• 17:17
  a
• 17:17
  mistake.
• 17:18
  Boys
• 17:19
  need
• 17:19
  it
• 17:19
  just
• 17:19
  as
• 17:20
  much
• 17:20
  as
• 17:20
  girls.
• 17:20
  Treat
• 17:21
  them
• 17:21
  the
• 17:21
  same.
• 17:22
  Give
• 17:22
  your
• 17:23
  kid
• 17:23
  a
• 17:24
  hug
• 17:24
  when
• 17:24
  they
• 17:24
  go
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  school,
• 17:25
  when
• 17:25
  they
• 17:25
  get
• 17:25
  back
• 17:26
  from
• 17:26
  school.
• 17:27
  They
• 17:27
  said
• 17:28
  that
• 17:28
  girls
• 17:28
  have
• 17:29
  a
• 17:29
  really
• 17:30
  big
• 17:30
  need
• 17:30
  for
• 17:31
  expressions
• 17:31
  of
• 17:32
  physical
• 17:32
  love,
• 17:33
  like
• 17:33
  hugs
• 17:33
  and
• 17:34
  things
• 17:34
  from
• 17:34
  their
• 17:34
  dads,
• 17:36
  until
• 17:37
  they
• 17:37
  reach
• 17:37
  about
• 17:38
  age
• 17:38
  11.
• 17:38
  That.
• 17:39
  That's
• 17:39
  kind
• 17:39
  of
• 17:40
  a
• 17:40
  really
• 17:40
  important
• 17:41
  time
• 17:41
  to
• 17:42
  make
• 17:42
  sure.
• 17:42
  You're
• 17:42
  giving
• 17:43
  it.
• 17:44
  So
• 17:45
  physical
• 17:45
  touch
• 17:45
  was.
• 17:46
  That's
• 17:46
  the
• 17:46
  first
• 17:46
  one.
• 17:48
  The
• 17:48
  second
• 17:49
  is
• 17:49
  words
• 17:49
  of
• 17:49
  affirmation
• 17:51
  saying,
• 17:51
  I
• 17:52
  love
• 17:52
  you.
• 17:52
  Positive
• 17:53
  comments,
• 17:54
  expressions
• 17:54
  of
• 17:55
  appreciation,
• 17:56
  honest
• 17:56
  praise,
• 17:57
  encouragement
• 17:59
  spoken
• 17:59
  in
• 17:59
  a
• 18:00
  gentle
• 18:00
  tone.
• 18:02
  Even
• 18:02
  when
• 18:02
  you
• 18:03
  guide
• 18:03
  your
• 18:03
  child,
• 18:04
  they
• 18:04
  say,
• 18:04
  always
• 18:04
  try
• 18:05
  to
• 18:05
  make
• 18:05
  it
• 18:05
  positive.
• 18:06
  Not
• 18:06
  like,
• 18:07
  don't
• 18:07
  lie
• 18:08
  to
• 18:08
  me.
• 18:09
  But,
• 18:09
  yeah,
• 18:09
  you
• 18:09
  know,
• 18:10
  it.
• 18:10
  It's,
• 18:11
  you
• 18:11
  know,
• 18:11
  be.
• 18:11
  Be
• 18:11
  more,
• 18:13
  I
• 18:13
  guess,
• 18:13
  for.
• 18:14
  How
• 18:14
  do
• 18:14
  you
• 18:14
  say
• 18:14
  that
• 18:14
  in
• 18:14
  a
• 18:15
  positive
• 18:15
  way?
• 18:15
  I
• 18:16
  really
• 18:16
  don't
• 18:17
  like
• 18:17
  it
• 18:17
  when
• 18:17
  you
• 18:18
  don't
• 18:18
  tell
• 18:18
  me
• 18:18
  the
• 18:18
  truth.
• 18:19
  Yeah.
• 18:19
  Or
• 18:20
  like,
• 18:21
  I
• 18:21
  mean,
• 18:21
  there's
• 18:21
  all
• 18:22
  sorts
• 18:22
  of
• 18:22
  ways
• 18:22
  you
• 18:22
  can
• 18:22
  say
• 18:23
  it.
• 18:23
  Like,
• 18:23
  please
• 18:24
  don't
• 18:24
  lie
• 18:24
  to
• 18:24
  me.
• 18:25
  It's
• 18:25
  also
• 18:26
  because
• 18:27
  lying,
• 18:28
  especially
• 18:28
  with
• 18:28
  teenagers,
• 18:29
  they're
• 18:29
  often
• 18:29
  lying
• 18:30
  about
• 18:30
  things
• 18:30
  that
• 18:30
  can
• 18:30
  put
• 18:31
  them
• 18:31
  at
• 18:31
  risk,
• 18:31
  right?
• 18:32
  So.
• 18:33
  Because
• 18:33
  they
• 18:33
  don't
• 18:34
  want
• 18:34
  to
• 18:34
  not
• 18:34
  be
• 18:35
  allowed
• 18:35
  to
• 18:35
  do
• 18:35
  it,
• 18:35
  and
• 18:36
  they
• 18:36
  don't
• 18:36
  want
• 18:36
  to
• 18:36
  draw
• 18:36
  attention
• 18:37
  to
• 18:37
  it.
• 18:37
  So
• 18:38
  what
• 18:38
  I
• 18:39
  saying
• 18:39
  to
• 18:39
  my
• 18:39
  daughter,
• 18:39
  if
• 18:40
  she
• 18:40
  ever
• 18:40
  engages
• 18:41
  in
• 18:41
  anything
• 18:41
  risky
• 18:42
  at
• 18:42
  that
• 18:42
  age,
• 18:42
  is
• 18:42
  like,
• 18:43
  listen,
• 18:44
  you,
• 18:44
  please
• 18:44
  do
• 18:44
  not
• 18:45
  lie
• 18:45
  to
• 18:45
  me
• 18:45
  about
• 18:45
  this
• 18:46
  stuff.
• 18:46
  I
• 18:46
  will
• 18:47
  never
• 18:47
  be
• 18:47
  angry
• 18:47
  at
• 18:47
  you
• 18:48
  for
• 18:48
  being
• 18:48
  honest
• 18:48
  with
• 18:48
  me.
• 18:49
  I
• 18:49
  will
• 18:49
  share
• 18:49
  my
• 18:50
  experience
• 18:50
  about
• 18:50
  whatever
• 18:51
  it
• 18:51
  is
• 18:51
  that
• 18:51
  you
• 18:52
  are
• 18:52
  doing.
• 18:53
  And
• 18:54
  ultimately,
• 18:55
  I
• 18:55
  just
• 18:55
  want
• 18:55
  you
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  be
• 18:56
  safe
• 18:56
  and
• 18:56
  I
• 18:56
  want
• 18:56
  to
• 18:56
  protect
• 18:57
  you.
• 18:57
  And
• 18:58
  so
• 18:59
  if,
• 18:59
  God
• 18:59
  forbid,
• 19:00
  you
• 19:00
  ever
• 19:00
  end
• 19:00
  up
• 19:00
  at
• 19:00
  a
• 19:01
  party
• 19:01
  and
• 19:01
  you've
• 19:01
  been
• 19:02
  drinking,
• 19:03
  call
• 19:03
  me.
• 19:03
  I
• 19:03
  will
• 19:03
  come
• 19:04
  get
• 19:04
  you.
• 19:04
  I
• 19:04
  don't
• 19:05
  ever
• 19:05
  want
• 19:05
  you
• 19:05
  to
• 19:05
  put
• 19:05
  yourself
• 19:06
  in
• 19:06
  an
• 19:06
  even
• 19:06
  more
• 19:07
  unsafe
• 19:07
  situation
• 19:08
  by
• 19:08
  having
• 19:08
  somebody
• 19:09
  drive
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  home
• 19:09
  who's
• 19:10
  been
• 19:10
  drinking
• 19:11
  or
• 19:11
  with
• 19:12
  drugs.
• 19:12
  It's
• 19:12
  like,
• 19:12
  listen,
• 19:13
  people
• 19:13
  are
• 19:14
  people.
• 19:14
  People
• 19:14
  will
• 19:14
  do
• 19:15
  silly
• 19:15
  things
• 19:15
  and
• 19:15
  try
• 19:16
  things,
• 19:16
  and
• 19:16
  everybody's
• 19:17
  curious.
• 19:18
  But,
• 19:18
  like,
• 19:18
  again,
• 19:19
  there
• 19:19
  are
• 19:19
  safe
• 19:19
  ways
• 19:20
  to
• 19:20
  do
• 19:20
  things
• 19:20
  and
• 19:20
  unsafe
• 19:21
  ways
• 19:21
  to
• 19:22
  do
• 19:22
  things,
• 19:22
  and
• 19:22
  I
• 19:23
  just
• 19:23
  want
• 19:23
  you
• 19:23
  to
• 19:23
  be
• 19:23
  safe.
• 19:24
  I
• 19:24
  think
• 19:24
  that's
• 19:24
  a
• 19:24
  good
• 19:25
  place.
• 19:25
  That's
• 19:25
  what
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  did
• 19:26
  with
• 19:27
  you
• 19:27
  guys.
• 19:28
  And
• 19:28
  I
• 19:28
  remember,
• 19:29
  especially
• 19:30
  with
• 19:30
  Sam,
• 19:31
  when
• 19:32
  we
• 19:32
  were
• 19:32
  living
• 19:32
  in
• 19:32
  Miami
• 19:33
  and
• 19:33
  kids
• 19:34
  were
• 19:34
  driving,
• 19:34
  and
• 19:35
  I
• 19:36
  said
• 19:36
  to
• 19:36
  him,
• 19:36
  just,
• 19:37
  just,
• 19:38
  I
• 19:38
  don't
• 19:38
  care
• 19:38
  what
• 19:38
  you
• 19:39
  do.
• 19:39
  I
• 19:39
  mean,
• 19:39
  I
• 19:39
  do,
• 19:39
  but
• 19:40
  I'm
• 19:40
  like,
• 19:41
  do
• 19:41
  not
• 19:41
  ever
• 19:41
  get
• 19:42
  in
• 19:42
  the
• 19:42
  car
• 19:42
  with
• 19:42
  someone
• 19:43
  who's
• 19:43
  been
• 19:43
  driving
• 19:44
  and
• 19:44
  don't
• 19:44
  drinking
• 19:45
  and
• 19:46
  don't
• 19:46
  ever
• 19:46
  get
• 19:46
  behind
• 19:47
  the
• 19:47
  wheel.
• 19:48
  I
• 19:48
  think
• 19:48
  forbidding
• 19:49
  things
• 19:49
  makes
• 19:50
  kids
• 19:50
  more
• 19:50
  likely
• 19:51
  to
• 19:51
  lie.
• 19:52
  Well,
• 19:52
  he.
• 19:52
  He
• 19:53
  actually
• 19:53
  listened.
• 19:54
  I.
• 19:54
  I
• 19:54
  don't
• 19:54
  think
• 19:54
  he
• 19:55
  ever
• 19:55
  did.
• 19:55
  I
• 19:55
  think
• 19:56
  because
• 19:56
  I
• 19:56
  said,
• 19:56
  I
• 19:56
  will.
• 19:57
  I
• 19:57
  will
• 19:58
  come
• 19:58
  get
• 19:58
  you,
• 19:58
  and
• 19:58
  I.
• 19:58
  Will
• 19:58
  not
• 19:58
  judge
• 19:59
  you.
• 19:59
  I
• 19:59
  will
• 19:59
  not.
• 20:00
  I
• 20:00
  made
• 20:00
  it
• 20:00
  like,
• 20:01
  I
• 20:01
  don't
• 20:01
  care.
• 20:01
  It's
• 20:02
  like,
• 20:02
  I
• 20:02
  will
• 20:02
  never
• 20:02
  judge
• 20:03
  you
• 20:03
  for
• 20:03
  this
• 20:03
  because
• 20:04
  I
• 20:04
  don't
• 20:04
  want
• 20:04
  you
• 20:04
  in
• 20:05
  that
• 20:05
  situation.
• 20:06
  Similar
• 20:06
  to
• 20:06
  what
• 20:06
  you're
• 20:06
  talking
• 20:07
  about.
• 20:08
  But
• 20:09
  I
• 20:09
  hope
• 20:10
  she
• 20:10
  doesn't
• 20:10
  make
• 20:10
  any
• 20:10
  bad
• 20:11
  choices.
• 20:11
  But
• 20:11
  again,
• 20:12
  everybody's
• 20:12
  human.
• 20:13
  Kids
• 20:14
  do.
• 20:14
  I
• 20:14
  mean
• 20:14
  we
• 20:15
  all
• 20:15
  did.
• 20:15
  And
• 20:16
  you
• 20:16
  just
• 20:16
  hope
• 20:17
  that,
• 20:18
  God
• 20:18
  willing,
• 20:19
  that
• 20:20
  nothing
• 20:20
  terrible
• 20:20
  ever
• 20:21
  happens.
• 20:23
  So
• 20:24
  they
• 20:24
  give
• 20:24
  you
• 20:24
  tips
• 20:25
  for
• 20:25
  all
• 20:25
  of
• 20:25
  them.
• 20:26
  They
• 20:26
  give
• 20:26
  you
• 20:26
  tips
• 20:26
  like
• 20:27
  here
• 20:27
  are
• 20:27
  ways
• 20:28
  you
• 20:28
  can
• 20:28
  show
• 20:28
  your
• 20:28
  affection
• 20:30
  this
• 20:30
  way.
• 20:30
  And
• 20:30
  like
• 20:31
  with
• 20:31
  words
• 20:31
  of
• 20:32
  affirmation,
• 20:32
  you
• 20:32
  can
• 20:33
  put
• 20:33
  post
• 20:33
  it
• 20:33
  notes
• 20:34
  in
• 20:34
  their
• 20:34
  lunchboxes.
• 20:35
  Just
• 20:35
  text
• 20:36
  them
• 20:36
  or
• 20:36
  call
• 20:36
  them
• 20:37
  to.
• 20:37
  Just
• 20:37
  to
• 20:37
  say
• 20:38
  I
• 20:38
  love
• 20:38
  you.
• 20:39
  Leave
• 20:39
  them
• 20:39
  notes
• 20:40
  when
• 20:40
  you're
• 20:40
  out
• 20:40
  of
• 20:40
  town.
• 20:40
  That's
• 20:41
  so
• 20:41
  cute.
• 20:42
  Isn't
• 20:42
  it?
• 20:42
  Also
• 20:43
  the
• 20:43
  one
• 20:43
  where
• 20:43
  he's
• 20:43
  like,
• 20:44
  write
• 20:44
  a
• 20:44
  little
• 20:44
  note
• 20:44
  and
• 20:44
  send
• 20:45
  it
• 20:45
  in
• 20:45
  the
• 20:45
  mail
• 20:45
  so
• 20:46
  that
• 20:46
  they
• 20:46
  get
• 20:46
  a
• 20:46
  little
• 20:46
  piece
• 20:47
  of
• 20:47
  mail.
• 20:47
  It's
• 20:48
  you
• 20:48
  saying
• 20:48
  how
• 20:48
  much
• 20:49
  you.
• 20:49
  That's
• 20:49
  so
• 20:49
  cute.
• 20:49
  Wouldn't
• 20:50
  that
• 20:50
  be
• 20:50
  nice?
• 20:50
  I
• 20:50
  like
• 20:51
  that.
• 20:52
  And
• 20:52
  then,
• 20:53
  you
• 20:54
  know,
• 20:54
  just.
• 20:55
  And
• 20:55
  they
• 20:55
  tell
• 20:55
  this
• 20:56
  really
• 20:56
  nice
• 20:56
  story.
• 20:57
  This
• 20:57
  is
• 20:57
  a
• 20:57
  beautiful
• 20:58
  story
• 20:59
  about
• 20:59
  this
• 20:59
  guy
• 21:00
  who
• 21:01
  I
• 21:01
  guess
• 21:01
  in
• 21:01
  one
• 21:02
  of
• 21:02
  his
• 21:02
  classes,
• 21:02
  like
• 21:02
  fifth
• 21:03
  grade,
• 21:04
  all
• 21:04
  the
• 21:04
  kids
• 21:05
  wrote
• 21:06
  to
• 21:06
  each
• 21:06
  of
• 21:07
  the
• 21:07
  kids
• 21:07
  in
• 21:07
  their
• 21:07
  class
• 21:08
  and
• 21:08
  said
• 21:08
  something
• 21:09
  nice
• 21:09
  that
• 21:10
  they
• 21:10
  really
• 21:10
  liked
• 21:11
  about
• 21:11
  that
• 21:11
  person.
• 21:12
  And
• 21:13
  so
• 21:13
  every
• 21:13
  kid
• 21:14
  got
• 21:14
  a
• 21:14
  piece
• 21:15
  of
• 21:15
  paper
• 21:15
  with
• 21:16
  a
• 21:16
  note
• 21:16
  from
• 21:17
  one
• 21:17
  of
• 21:17
  their.
• 21:17
  That
• 21:18
  the
• 21:18
  teacher
• 21:19
  consolidated
• 21:19
  it
• 21:20
  all
• 21:20
  the
• 21:21
  nice
• 21:21
  things
• 21:21
  people
• 21:22
  said
• 21:22
  about
• 21:22
  them.
• 21:23
  And
• 21:23
  sadly,
• 21:24
  the
• 21:24
  boy
• 21:25
  was
• 21:25
  killed
• 21:26
  in
• 21:26
  war.
• 21:27
  Oh
• 21:27
  yeah.
• 21:27
  In
• 21:28
  the
• 21:28
  war.
• 21:28
  In
• 21:28
  the
• 21:29
  war.
• 21:29
  But
• 21:29
  he
• 21:29
  had
• 21:30
  that
• 21:30
  piece
• 21:30
  of
• 21:30
  paper.
• 21:30
  Paper
• 21:31
  on
• 21:31
  him
• 21:31
  like,
• 21:32
  like
• 21:32
  fold
• 21:33
  it
• 21:33
  up
• 21:33
  because
• 21:33
  it
• 21:33
  gave
• 21:34
  him
• 21:34
  encouragement.
• 21:35
  Think
• 21:35
  about
• 21:35
  that.
• 21:36
  I
• 21:36
  mean,
• 21:36
  that's
• 21:36
  so
• 21:36
  nice.
• 21:37
  That
• 21:37
  is
• 21:37
  so
• 21:38
  nice.
• 21:38
  Teachers
• 21:38
  should
• 21:38
  do
• 21:39
  that.
• 21:39
  They
• 21:39
  really
• 21:39
  should.
• 21:40
  Because
• 21:41
  giving
• 21:41
  other
• 21:42
  people
• 21:43
  positive
• 21:44
  reinforcement,
• 21:45
  it's
• 21:46
  a
• 21:46
  skill
• 21:46
  people
• 21:47
  appreciate
• 21:47
  so
• 21:48
  much
• 21:48
  in
• 21:48
  life.
• 21:48
  If
• 21:48
  you
• 21:49
  can
• 21:49
  be
• 21:49
  the
• 21:49
  person
• 21:49
  at
• 21:50
  your
• 21:50
  company
• 21:50
  who
• 21:51
  like,
• 21:51
  even
• 21:51
  if
• 21:51
  somebody
• 21:52
  got
• 21:52
  something
• 21:52
  wrong,
• 21:53
  you
• 21:53
  find
• 21:53
  something
• 21:54
  positive.
• 21:54
  To
• 21:54
  say
• 21:54
  about
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• 23:43
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• 23:43
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• 23:44
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• 23:45
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• 23:47
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• 23:47
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• 23:47
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• 23:48
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• 23:48
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• 23:49
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• 23:49
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• 23:50
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• 23:51
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• 23:51
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• 23:51
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• 23:52
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• 23:52
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• 23:52
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• 23:53
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• 23:54
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• 23:54
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• 23:54
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• 23:55
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• 23:55
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• 23:55
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• 23:55
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• 23:56
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• 23:56
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• 23:57
  very
• 23:57
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• 23:58
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• 23:59
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• 23:59
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• 23:59
  woman
• 24:00
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• 24:00
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• 24:00
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• 24:01
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• 24:01
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• 24:02
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• 24:02
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• 24:02
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• 24:02
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• 24:02
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• 24:03
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• 24:03
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• 24:03
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• 24:04
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• 24:04
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• 24:04
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• 24:04
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• 24:05
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• 24:05
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• 24:05
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• 24:05
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• 24:05
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• 24:06
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• 24:06
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• 24:06
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• 24:07
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• 24:07
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• 24:07
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• 24:07
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• 24:07
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• 24:08
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• 24:08
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• 24:10
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• 24:12
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• 24:12
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• 24:12
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• 24:12
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• 24:12
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• 24:12
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• 24:14
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• 24:14
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• 24:14
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• 24:15
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• 24:15
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• 24:15
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• 24:15
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• 24:16
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• 24:16
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• 24:17
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• 24:17
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• 24:17
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• 24:17
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• 24:17
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• 24:18
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• 24:19
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• 24:19
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• 24:20
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• 24:20
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• 24:20
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• 24:20
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• 24:21
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• 24:21
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• 24:21
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• 24:21
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• 24:22
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• 24:22
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• 24:22
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• 24:23
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• 24:24
  Gift
• 24:24
  giving,
• 24:25
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• 24:26
  make
• 24:26
  sure
• 24:26
  it's
• 24:27
  given
• 24:28
  unconditionally.
• 24:29
  Meaningful
• 24:30
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• 24:32
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• 24:32
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• 24:32
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• 24:32
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• 24:33
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• 24:33
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• 24:33
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• 24:33
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• 24:34
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• 24:34
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• 24:34
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• 24:34
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• 24:35
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• 24:35
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• 24:35
  they
• 24:36
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• 24:36
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• 24:36
  Oh,
• 24:37
  I
• 24:37
  love
• 24:37
  that.
• 24:37
  You
• 24:37
  know,
• 24:38
  remember
• 24:38
  that.
• 24:39
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• 24:39
  it
• 24:39
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• 24:40
  more
• 24:40
  meaningful.
• 24:42
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• 24:42
  then
• 24:42
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• 24:42
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• 24:42
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• 24:43
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• 24:43
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• 24:43
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• 24:44
  it
• 24:44
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• 24:44
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• 24:44
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• 24:44
  it
• 24:45
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• 24:45
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• 24:45
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• 24:45
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• 24:45
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• 24:45
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• 24:46
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• 24:46
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• 24:46
  It
• 24:46
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• 24:46
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• 24:47
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• 24:47
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• 24:47
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• 24:47
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• 24:47
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• 24:47
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• 24:48
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• 24:48
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• 24:48
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• 24:48
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• 24:49
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• 24:49
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• 24:49
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• 24:49
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• 24:49
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• 24:50
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• 24:50
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• 24:50
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• 24:51
  make
• 24:51
  a
• 24:51
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• 24:52
  Yeah.
• 24:52
  Oohing
• 24:52
  and
• 24:53
  ahhing
• 24:53
  and
• 24:53
  everything.
• 24:54
  And
• 24:54
  you
• 24:55
  know,
• 24:55
  I
• 24:55
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• 24:55
  thinking
• 24:57
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• 24:57
  the
• 24:57
  gifts,
• 24:58
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• 24:59
  Sam,
• 25:00
  your
• 25:00
  brother
• 25:01
  is
• 25:01
  the
• 25:01
  best
• 25:02
  gift
• 25:02
  giver
• 25:03
  ever.
• 25:03
  He
• 25:03
  is
• 25:03
  so.
• 25:04
  He
• 25:04
  is
• 25:04
  the
• 25:04
  most
• 25:04
  thoughtful
• 25:05
  person
• 25:06
  in
• 25:06
  the
• 25:06
  entire
• 25:06
  world
• 25:07
  when
• 25:07
  he
• 25:07
  gives
• 25:08
  gifts.
• 25:08
  Oh
• 25:08
  my
• 25:08
  gosh.
• 25:08
  When
• 25:09
  my
• 25:09
  baby
• 25:09
  was
• 25:09
  born,
• 25:10
  he
• 25:10
  commissioned
• 25:11
  a
• 25:12
  billboard
• 25:13
  in
• 25:13
  Times
• 25:13
  Square
• 25:14
  announcing
• 25:15
  her
• 25:16
  birth.
• 25:16
  I
• 25:16
  know.
• 25:17
  And
• 25:17
  made
• 25:17
  her
• 25:17
  the
• 25:18
  sweetest
• 25:19
  video
• 25:20
  welcoming
• 25:20
  her
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  the
• 25:21
  world
• 25:22
  and
• 25:22
  saying
• 25:22
  how
• 25:23
  excited
• 25:23
  he
• 25:23
  was
• 25:24
  and
• 25:24
  how
• 25:24
  excited
• 25:24
  he
• 25:25
  was
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  announce
• 25:25
  it
• 25:26
  to
• 25:26
  everyone.
• 25:28
  And
• 25:28
  it
• 25:28
  was
• 25:28
  just
• 25:29
  so
• 25:30
  touching.
• 25:30
  Yeah.
• 25:31
  I
• 25:31
  watch
• 25:31
  that
• 25:31
  video
• 25:32
  once
• 25:32
  a
• 25:32
  week.
• 25:33
  Yeah,
• 25:33
  I
• 25:33
  love
• 25:33
  that.
• 25:33
  I
• 25:34
  do,
• 25:34
  too.
• 25:34
  I
• 25:34
  watch
• 25:34
  it
• 25:35
  all
• 25:35
  the
• 25:35
  time.
• 25:36
  And
• 25:36
  the
• 25:37
  thing
• 25:37
  is,
• 25:37
  it's
• 25:37
  not
• 25:37
  like
• 25:37
  Sam
• 25:38
  has
• 25:38
  a
• 25:38
  lot
• 25:38
  of
• 25:38
  money.
• 25:40
  It
• 25:40
  was
• 25:40
  not
• 25:40
  expensive.
• 25:41
  Apparently
• 25:42
  you
• 25:42
  can
• 25:43
  do
• 25:43
  that
• 25:43
  for
• 25:43
  not
• 25:44
  a
• 25:44
  lot
• 25:44
  of
• 25:44
  money.
• 25:45
  It
• 25:46
  shows
• 25:46
  up
• 25:46
  for
• 25:46
  a
• 25:46
  minute
• 25:47
  or
• 25:47
  whatever,
• 25:47
  but
• 25:48
  you
• 25:48
  can
• 25:48
  do
• 25:48
  that.
• 25:48
  You
• 25:49
  can't.
• 25:49
  Also,
• 25:49
  he
• 25:49
  made
• 25:50
  me,
• 25:50
  for
• 25:50
  my
• 25:50
  birthday,
• 25:51
  a
• 25:51
  video
• 25:52
  where
• 25:53
  he
• 25:53
  got
• 25:53
  a
• 25:53
  green
• 25:53
  screen
• 25:54
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• 25:54
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• 25:54
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• 25:54
  did
• 25:55
  a
• 25:55
  whole
• 25:55
  presentation
• 25:56
  about
• 25:56
  why
• 25:56
  my
• 25:57
  baby
• 25:57
  is
• 25:57
  the
• 25:58
  cutest
• 25:58
  baby
• 25:59
  of
• 25:59
  all
• 25:59
  the
• 25:59
  babies
• 26:00
  who
• 26:00
  have
• 26:00
  ever
• 26:00
  lived
• 26:01
  throughout
• 26:01
  history.
• 26:02
  We
• 26:02
  should
• 26:02
  put
• 26:02
  that
• 26:03
  video
• 26:03
  up.
• 26:04
  Let's
• 26:04
  put
• 26:04
  that
• 26:05
  video
• 26:05
  up
• 26:05
  so
• 26:06
  people
• 26:06
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• 26:06
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• 26:06
  it.
• 26:06
  It's
• 26:06
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• 26:07
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• 26:07
  I
• 26:07
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• 26:07
  know,
• 26:07
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• 26:07
  how
• 26:08
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• 26:08
  would
• 26:08
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• 26:08
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• 26:09
  But
• 26:09
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• 26:10
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• 26:10
  so.
• 26:10
  It
• 26:11
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• 26:11
  so
• 26:11
  good.
• 26:11
  Like,
• 26:12
  it's
• 26:12
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• 26:12
  amazing.
• 26:12
  He's
• 26:13
  so.
• 26:13
  And
• 26:13
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• 26:13
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• 26:13
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• 26:14
  He
• 26:14
  get.
• 26:14
  But
• 26:15
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• 26:15
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• 26:15
  a
• 26:15
  thoughtful
• 26:16
  gift
• 26:16
  giver.
• 26:17
  And
• 26:17
  it
• 26:17
  makes
• 26:17
  me
• 26:18
  think,
• 26:18
  you
• 26:18
  know,
• 26:18
  I.
• 26:19
  He.
• 26:19
  Is
• 26:20
  that
• 26:20
  his
• 26:20
  love
• 26:20
  language?
• 26:21
  Does
• 26:21
  he.
• 26:21
  I
• 26:22
  think
• 26:22
  that's
• 26:22
  the
• 26:22
  way
• 26:22
  he.
• 26:23
  I
• 26:24
  think
• 26:24
  that's
• 26:24
  the
• 26:24
  way
• 26:24
  he
• 26:25
  shows
• 26:26
  love.
• 26:26
  That's
• 26:26
  how
• 26:26
  he
• 26:26
  shows
• 26:27
  love.
• 26:27
  But
• 26:27
  he
• 26:28
  might
• 26:28
  want
• 26:28
  to
• 26:29
  receive
• 26:29
  it.
• 26:29
  In
• 26:29
  a
• 26:30
  different
• 26:30
  way.
• 26:30
  I
• 26:30
  should
• 26:30
  ask
• 26:31
  him
• 26:31
  or
• 26:31
  talk
• 26:31
  to
• 26:31
  him
• 26:32
  about
• 26:32
  it
• 26:32
  if
• 26:33
  he
• 26:33
  likes.
• 26:33
  Yeah.
• 26:33
  Because
• 26:34
  I.
• 26:34
  I
• 26:34
  think,
• 26:34
  oh,
• 26:35
  I
• 26:35
  don't
• 26:35
  give
• 26:35
  him
• 26:36
  love
• 26:36
  that
• 26:36
  way
• 26:36
  because
• 26:37
  I
• 26:37
  give
• 26:38
  him
• 26:38
  money
• 26:38
  because
• 26:38
  he
• 26:39
  always
• 26:39
  wants
• 26:39
  money.
• 26:40
  But.
• 26:41
  But,
• 26:41
  you
• 26:41
  know,
• 26:41
  that's
• 26:41
  what
• 26:41
  he
• 26:42
  says
• 26:42
  he
• 26:42
  wants.
• 26:43
  Everybody
• 26:43
  loves
• 26:43
  money
• 26:44
  for
• 26:44
  gifts.
• 26:45
  I
• 26:45
  know,
• 26:45
  but
• 26:45
  I'm,
• 26:46
  you
• 26:46
  know,
• 26:46
  anyway.
• 26:46
  But
• 26:47
  all
• 26:47
  right,
• 26:47
  so.
• 26:47
  So
• 26:47
  they
• 26:48
  give
• 26:48
  you
• 26:48
  lots
• 26:48
  of
• 26:49
  ideas
• 26:49
  for
• 26:49
  gifts.
• 26:50
  You
• 26:50
  know,
• 26:51
  little,
• 26:52
  you
• 26:52
  know,
• 26:53
  gifts
• 26:53
  that
• 26:53
  fit
• 26:53
  their
• 26:54
  interests,
• 26:54
  Personalized
• 26:55
  gifts
• 26:55
  with
• 26:55
  their
• 26:56
  name
• 26:56
  on
• 26:56
  it.
• 26:56
  Hiding
• 26:57
  gifts
• 26:57
  in
• 26:57
  their
• 26:57
  lunchbox.
• 26:58
  There's
• 26:58
  so
• 26:59
  many
• 26:59
  ways.
• 26:59
  Oh,
• 27:00
  a
• 27:00
  piece
• 27:00
  of
• 27:00
  jewelry.
• 27:01
  Very.
• 27:01
  That
• 27:01
  can
• 27:01
  be
• 27:02
  very.
• 27:02
  Who
• 27:02
  doesn't
• 27:02
  love
• 27:03
  jewelry?
• 27:03
  Well,
• 27:04
  yeah,
• 27:04
  I
• 27:04
  mean,
• 27:04
  something
• 27:05
  special.
• 27:06
  So
• 27:06
  anyway,
• 27:06
  so
• 27:07
  lots
• 27:07
  of
• 27:07
  good
• 27:08
  ideas
• 27:08
  on
• 27:08
  gifts.
• 27:09
  Then
• 27:10
  acts
• 27:10
  of
• 27:10
  service
• 27:11
  is
• 27:11
  the
• 27:11
  last
• 27:12
  one,
• 27:12
  which
• 27:12
  is
• 27:13
  just.
• 27:13
  Just
• 27:13
  helping
• 27:14
  someone
• 27:14
  in
• 27:14
  a
• 27:14
  very
• 27:15
  loving
• 27:15
  way.
• 27:18
  Fixing
• 27:18
  their
• 27:19
  doll
• 27:19
  who's
• 27:20
  broken,
• 27:21
  helping
• 27:21
  them
• 27:21
  with
• 27:21
  a
• 27:21
  Halloween
• 27:22
  costume,
• 27:24
  Helping
• 27:25
  them
• 27:25
  with
• 27:25
  a
• 27:25
  diorama
• 27:26
  that
• 27:26
  they
• 27:26
  might
• 27:26
  need
• 27:27
  to
• 27:27
  make
• 27:27
  for
• 27:27
  school.
• 27:29
  I
• 27:29
  wouldn't
• 27:30
  know
• 27:30
  anything
• 27:30
  about
• 27:30
  that.
• 27:31
  No.
• 27:31
  Right.
• 27:33
  Whatever.
• 27:34
  Just.
• 27:35
  But
• 27:35
  doing
• 27:36
  things
• 27:37
  that
• 27:37
  help
• 27:37
  them
• 27:37
  out
• 27:38
  that
• 27:38
  are
• 27:38
  special.
• 27:39
  That's
• 27:39
  really
• 27:39
  what
• 27:39
  they're
• 27:40
  talking
• 27:40
  about.
• 27:42
  Yeah.
• 27:42
  And
• 27:42
  so
• 27:42
  they
• 27:43
  give
• 27:43
  you
• 27:43
  lots
• 27:43
  of
• 27:43
  ideas
• 27:43
  for
• 27:44
  that.
• 27:45
  And
• 27:46
  then
• 27:46
  they
• 27:46
  talk
• 27:46
  about
• 27:46
  how
• 27:47
  do
• 27:47
  you
• 27:47
  discover
• 27:48
  your
• 27:48
  child's
• 27:48
  love
• 27:48
  language.
• 27:49
  And
• 27:49
  there's
• 27:49
  lots
• 27:49
  of
• 27:50
  ways
• 27:50
  to
• 27:50
  do
• 27:50
  it.
• 27:52
  First
• 27:52
  of
• 27:52
  all,
• 27:54
  just
• 27:55
  watch
• 27:55
  how
• 27:55
  they
• 27:56
  show
• 27:56
  their
• 27:56
  love
• 27:56
  to
• 27:56
  you.
• 27:57
  That
• 27:57
  might
• 27:57
  be
• 27:58
  how
• 27:58
  they
• 27:58
  want
• 27:58
  to
• 27:58
  get
• 27:59
  it.
• 27:59
  Could
• 28:00
  be.
• 28:01
  Watch
• 28:01
  how
• 28:01
  they
• 28:01
  express
• 28:02
  their
• 28:02
  love
• 28:02
  to
• 28:02
  other
• 28:03
  people.
• 28:03
  They
• 28:04
  always
• 28:04
  want
• 28:04
  to
• 28:04
  give
• 28:04
  their
• 28:05
  teacher
• 28:05
  a
• 28:05
  gift.
• 28:06
  Maybe
• 28:06
  that
• 28:06
  they
• 28:07
  want
• 28:07
  gifts.
• 28:07
  Maybe.
• 28:09
  What
• 28:10
  do
• 28:10
  they
• 28:10
  request
• 28:10
  the
• 28:11
  most?
• 28:11
  Like,
• 28:11
  with
• 28:12
  you?
• 28:12
  Like,
• 28:12
  do
• 28:13
  they
• 28:13
  always
• 28:13
  want
• 28:13
  to
• 28:13
  go
• 28:13
  places
• 28:14
  with
• 28:14
  you?
• 28:15
  Yeah.
• 28:15
  Like
• 28:15
  he
• 28:15
  was
• 28:16
  saying,
• 28:16
  for
• 28:16
  a
• 28:16
  birthday,
• 28:17
  you
• 28:17
  can
• 28:17
  say,
• 28:17
  listen,
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  can
• 28:18
  either
• 28:19
  get
• 28:19
  you
• 28:19
  this
• 28:20
  gift
• 28:20
  or
• 28:20
  we
• 28:21
  can
• 28:21
  go
• 28:21
  on
• 28:21
  a
• 28:21
  trip.
• 28:22
  So
• 28:22
  would
• 28:22
  they
• 28:22
  prefer
• 28:23
  the
• 28:23
  thing
• 28:23
  or
• 28:24
  the
• 28:24
  experience?
• 28:25
  Right.
• 28:25
  So
• 28:25
  he
• 28:26
  tells
• 28:26
  you
• 28:26
  how
• 28:26
  to
• 28:26
  figure
• 28:27
  it
• 28:27
  out.
• 28:28
  Yeah,
• 28:28
  he
• 28:28
  does.
• 28:28
  Which
• 28:29
  is
• 28:29
  really
• 28:29
  nice.
• 28:30
  Yeah.
• 28:31
  Some
• 28:31
  of
• 28:32
  us
• 28:32
  need
• 28:32
  guidance.
• 28:33
  Well,
• 28:33
  yeah.
• 28:33
  Cause,
• 28:34
  you
• 28:34
  know,
• 28:34
  you
• 28:34
  don't
• 28:34
  know
• 28:35
  for
• 28:35
  sure.
• 28:35
  No.
• 28:36
  How.
• 28:36
  So
• 28:37
  a
• 28:37
  kid's
• 28:37
  not
• 28:37
  gonna
• 28:37
  tell
• 28:38
  you.
• 28:38
  I
• 28:38
  like
• 28:38
  acts
• 28:38
  of
• 28:39
  service.
• 28:40
  No,
• 28:40
  Never.
• 28:40
  Never.
• 28:41
  And
• 28:42
  they
• 28:42
  won't.
• 28:42
  Yeah.
• 28:43
  They
• 28:43
  don't
• 28:43
  have
• 28:43
  that
• 28:43
  language.
• 28:45
  No.
• 28:46
  So
• 28:47
  I
• 28:47
  guess.
• 28:48
  Yeah,
• 28:49
  we
• 28:49
  have
• 28:49
  to
• 28:49
  figure
• 28:49
  it
• 28:50
  out
• 28:50
  and
• 28:50
  try
• 28:51
  it
• 28:52
  anyway.
• 28:53
  And
• 28:53
  then
• 28:53
  they
• 28:53
  get
• 28:53
  into
• 28:54
  discipline,
• 28:54
  which
• 28:54
  we've
• 28:55
  talked
• 28:55
  a
• 28:55
  little
• 28:55
  bit
• 28:55
  about.
• 28:57
  And
• 28:57
  they
• 28:57
  say,
• 28:57
  before
• 28:58
  you
• 28:58
  discipline
• 28:58
  your
• 28:58
  child,
• 28:59
  make
• 28:59
  sure
• 28:59
  their
• 29:00
  love
• 29:00
  tank
• 29:00
  is
• 29:01
  full.
• 29:01
  Make
• 29:01
  sure
• 29:01
  that
• 29:01
  tank
• 29:02
  is
• 29:02
  full.
• 29:02
  Right.
• 29:02
  Because
• 29:03
  they
• 29:03
  cannot
• 29:03
  maybe
• 29:04
  take
• 29:04
  the
• 29:04
  discipline
• 29:05
  if
• 29:05
  it's
• 29:06
  empty.
• 29:07
  And
• 29:08
  they
• 29:08
  said
• 29:08
  the
• 29:09
  more
• 29:09
  loved
• 29:09
  a
• 29:09
  child
• 29:10
  feel,
• 29:11
  the
• 29:11
  more
• 29:11
  they're
• 29:11
  gonna
• 29:12
  accept
• 29:12
  your
• 29:12
  guidance
• 29:12
  without
• 29:13
  resentment,
• 29:14
  without
• 29:14
  hostility.
• 29:15
  Yes.
• 29:15
  Treat
• 29:15
  discipline
• 29:16
  as
• 29:16
  guidance,
• 29:17
  not
• 29:17
  as
• 29:18
  punishment.
• 29:18
  As
• 29:19
  much
• 29:19
  as
• 29:19
  you
• 29:19
  possibly
• 29:20
  can.
• 29:20
  Right.
• 29:20
  And
• 29:21
  they
• 29:21
  say
• 29:21
  kids
• 29:22
  will
• 29:22
  misbehave
• 29:22
  because
• 29:23
  they
• 29:23
  have
• 29:23
  a
• 29:23
  need.
• 29:24
  And
• 29:24
  before
• 29:25
  you
• 29:26
  punish
• 29:26
  them,
• 29:27
  try
• 29:27
  to
• 29:27
  figure
• 29:27
  out
• 29:27
  what
• 29:28
  that
• 29:28
  need
• 29:28
  is
• 29:29
  that
• 29:29
  they.
• 29:30
  That's
• 29:30
  not
• 29:30
  being
• 29:31
  met.
• 29:31
  That's
• 29:31
  not.
• 29:31
  Yeah,
• 29:32
  it
• 29:32
  might
• 29:32
  be
• 29:32
  their
• 29:32
  love
• 29:33
  tank
• 29:33
  wasn't
• 29:33
  full
• 29:34
  and
• 29:34
  they
• 29:34
  were
• 29:34
  just
• 29:34
  trying
• 29:34
  to
• 29:35
  get
• 29:35
  your
• 29:35
  attention.
• 29:37
  Or
• 29:38
  they
• 29:38
  might
• 29:38
  be
• 29:38
  in
• 29:38
  pain,
• 29:39
  they
• 29:39
  might
• 29:39
  be
• 29:40
  hungry,
• 29:40
  they
• 29:40
  might
• 29:41
  not
• 29:41
  feel.
• 29:41
  Well,
• 29:42
  there's
• 29:43
  lots
• 29:43
  of
• 29:43
  reasons
• 29:44
  why
• 29:44
  kids
• 29:44
  misbehave.
• 29:45
  And
• 29:45
  so
• 29:47
  before
• 29:47
  you
• 29:47
  punish
• 29:48
  them,
• 29:48
  try
• 29:48
  to
• 29:48
  get
• 29:48
  to
• 29:48
  the
• 29:49
  bottom
• 29:49
  of
• 29:49
  that.
• 29:49
  Because
• 29:50
  sometimes
• 29:50
  investigate.
• 29:51
  Yeah.
• 29:52
  You
• 29:52
  may
• 29:52
  not
• 29:52
  need
• 29:52
  to
• 29:53
  be
• 29:53
  as
• 29:53
  harsh
• 29:54
  or,
• 29:54
  you
• 29:54
  know,
• 29:54
  and
• 29:55
  they
• 29:55
  say,
• 29:55
  this
• 29:55
  is
• 29:56
  interesting.
• 29:56
  If
• 29:57
  they
• 29:57
  misbehave
• 29:58
  and
• 29:58
  they're
• 29:58
  genuinely
• 29:59
  sorry
• 30:00
  about
• 30:00
  what
• 30:00
  they
• 30:01
  did,
• 30:01
  don't
• 30:02
  punish
• 30:02
  them,
• 30:02
  but
• 30:02
  forgive
• 30:03
  them.
• 30:03
  That's
• 30:04
  interesting.
• 30:04
  I
• 30:04
  like
• 30:05
  that.
• 30:05
  You
• 30:05
  know,
• 30:05
  I
• 30:06
  mean,
• 30:06
  I
• 30:06
  guess
• 30:06
  depending
• 30:06
  on
• 30:06
  what
• 30:07
  it
• 30:07
  was.
• 30:09
  If
• 30:09
  they're
• 30:10
  sincere
• 30:10
  and
• 30:11
  they
• 30:11
  understand,
• 30:12
  I
• 30:13
  think
• 30:13
  that's
• 30:13
  effective.
• 30:14
  And
• 30:14
  I
• 30:14
  just
• 30:14
  mean
• 30:15
  sincere.
• 30:15
  And
• 30:15
  they
• 30:15
  understand
• 30:16
  in
• 30:16
  the
• 30:16
  sense
• 30:16
  that,
• 30:16
  like,
• 30:17
  you
• 30:17
  don't
• 30:18
  think
• 30:18
  they
• 30:18
  will
• 30:18
  do
• 30:19
  it
• 30:19
  again.
• 30:19
  Right.
• 30:20
  Punishment,
• 30:20
  I
• 30:21
  think,
• 30:21
  should
• 30:21
  come
• 30:21
  in
• 30:22
  after
• 30:22
  you
• 30:22
  have
• 30:23
  explained
• 30:23
  that
• 30:23
  a
• 30:23
  child
• 30:24
  has
• 30:24
  done
• 30:24
  something
• 30:24
  wrong
• 30:25
  and
• 30:25
  they
• 30:25
  do
• 30:25
  it
• 30:25
  again.
• 30:26
  Because
• 30:27
  the
• 30:27
  second
• 30:27
  time
• 30:27
  it's
• 30:28
  deliberate.
• 30:28
  Right.
• 30:29
  You
• 30:29
  know,
• 30:29
  the
• 30:29
  first
• 30:30
  time,
• 30:30
  not
• 30:31
  with
• 30:31
  everything,
• 30:31
  but
• 30:31
  Often
• 30:32
  they
• 30:32
  have
• 30:32
  been
• 30:33
  told,
• 30:33
  this
• 30:33
  is
• 30:33
  not
• 30:33
  what
• 30:34
  you
• 30:34
  do.
• 30:34
  And
• 30:34
  they
• 30:34
  do
• 30:34
  it
• 30:34
  again.
• 30:35
  And
• 30:35
  they
• 30:35
  do
• 30:35
  it.
• 30:35
  Yeah.
• 30:36
  And.
• 30:36
  Yeah.
• 30:37
  But
• 30:37
  I
• 30:37
  do
• 30:37
  think
• 30:37
  if
• 30:38
  you.
• 30:39
  Or
• 30:39
  we
• 30:39
  could
• 30:39
  count
• 30:40
  one,
• 30:41
  two.
• 30:42
  That's
• 30:42
  one
• 30:43
  chance.
• 30:45
  Don't
• 30:45
  count.
• 30:45
  Well,
• 30:46
  it's.
• 30:47
  That
• 30:48
  was
• 30:48
  what
• 30:48
  one
• 30:48
  book
• 30:48
  recommended.
• 30:49
  I
• 30:49
  mean,
• 30:49
  this
• 30:49
  is
• 30:49
  a
• 30:50
  very
• 30:50
  different,
• 30:50
  more
• 30:51
  loving
• 30:51
  approach
• 30:52
  to
• 30:52
  punishment.
• 30:54
  And.
• 30:54
  Yeah.
• 30:55
  And
• 30:56
  so
• 30:57
  I
• 30:58
  think
• 30:58
  if
• 30:58
  you
• 30:58
  do
• 30:58
  forgive,
• 30:59
  at
• 31:00
  least
• 31:00
  it
• 31:00
  models
• 31:01
  forgiveness
• 31:01
  for
• 31:01
  your
• 31:02
  child.
• 31:02
  And
• 31:02
  that's
• 31:03
  something
• 31:03
  that.
• 31:03
  Kids
• 31:04
  need
• 31:04
  to
• 31:04
  be
• 31:04
  able
• 31:04
  to
• 31:05
  do
• 31:05
  that
• 31:05
  with
• 31:06
  their
• 31:06
  friends
• 31:06
  when
• 31:07
  they
• 31:07
  get
• 31:07
  mad
• 31:07
  at
• 31:07
  their
• 31:07
  friends.
• 31:08
  You
• 31:08
  gotta
• 31:08
  get
• 31:09
  over
• 31:09
  it.
• 31:09
  Yes.
• 31:10
  Unless
• 31:10
  your
• 31:10
  friend
• 31:11
  does
• 31:11
  the
• 31:11
  same
• 31:11
  annoying,
• 31:12
  horrible
• 31:12
  thing.
• 31:12
  Yeah.
• 31:14
  Then
• 31:14
  they're
• 31:14
  not
• 31:14
  your
• 31:15
  friend.
• 31:15
  That's
• 31:15
  right.
• 31:16
  But
• 31:16
  anyway,
• 31:17
  get
• 31:17
  better
• 31:18
  friends.
• 31:18
  So
• 31:19
  let's
• 31:19
  talk.
• 31:19
  He
• 31:20
  gives
• 31:20
  you
• 31:20
  five
• 31:20
  ways
• 31:21
  to
• 31:21
  control
• 31:21
  your
• 31:22
  child's
• 31:22
  behavior
• 31:24
  using
• 31:24
  this
• 31:25
  system.
• 31:26
  And
• 31:26
  some
• 31:26
  are
• 31:27
  negative
• 31:27
  and
• 31:27
  some
• 31:27
  are
• 31:28
  positive.
• 31:30
  The
• 31:30
  first
• 31:30
  being
• 31:31
  just
• 31:31
  make
• 31:31
  requests
• 31:32
  of
• 31:32
  them
• 31:33
  in
• 31:33
  a
• 31:34
  kind
• 31:34
  but
• 31:34
  firm
• 31:35
  voice,
• 31:35
  and
• 31:36
  they're
• 31:36
  gonna
• 31:36
  feel
• 31:36
  like
• 31:36
  they're
• 31:37
  in
• 31:37
  partnership
• 31:37
  with
• 31:37
  you,
• 31:38
  and
• 31:38
  they
• 31:38
  might
• 31:38
  just.
• 31:39
  Do
• 31:39
  you
• 31:39
  ask
• 31:39
  them
• 31:39
  to
• 31:40
  do.
• 31:40
  And
• 31:40
  that's
• 31:41
  that.
• 31:41
  That's
• 31:41
  that.
• 31:42
  And
• 31:42
  then
• 31:42
  you'd
• 31:42
  be
• 31:42
  so
• 31:43
  happy.
• 31:44
  Go
• 31:44
  clean
• 31:44
  your
• 31:45
  room.
• 31:45
  Okay,
• 31:46
  Mom.
• 31:46
  You
• 31:47
  know,
• 31:47
  something
• 31:47
  tells
• 31:48
  me
• 31:48
  that
• 31:48
  that
• 31:49
  doesn't
• 31:49
  often
• 31:49
  happen,
• 31:50
  but
• 31:50
  if
• 31:51
  it
• 31:51
  does,
• 31:52
  good
• 31:52
  on
• 31:52
  you.
• 31:52
  That's
• 31:53
  right.
• 31:53
  Try
• 31:53
  it.
• 31:54
  Start
• 31:54
  that
• 31:54
  way.
• 31:54
  Worth
• 31:55
  a
• 31:55
  try.
• 31:55
  Yes.
• 31:56
  And
• 31:57
  then.
• 31:57
  Okay,
• 31:58
  you
• 31:58
  want
• 31:58
  to
• 31:58
  go.
• 31:58
  The
• 31:58
  next
• 31:59
  one
• 31:59
  is.
• 31:59
  Yes.
• 31:59
  The
• 31:59
  second
• 32:00
  is
• 32:00
  you
• 32:00
  issue
• 32:00
  commands.
• 32:01
  So
• 32:02
  necessary
• 32:02
  when
• 32:02
  firm
• 32:03
  requests
• 32:03
  fail.
• 32:04
  Requires
• 32:04
  a
• 32:05
  harsher
• 32:05
  tone.
• 32:05
  And
• 32:05
  if
• 32:06
  you
• 32:06
  do
• 32:06
  this
• 32:06
  occasionally,
• 32:07
  it
• 32:07
  should
• 32:07
  work.
• 32:07
  Work.
• 32:07
  Right.
• 32:08
  If
• 32:08
  they're
• 32:08
  not
• 32:08
  used
• 32:09
  to
• 32:09
  it
• 32:09
  sparingly
• 32:10
  because
• 32:10
  you're.
• 32:10
  Yeah,
• 32:10
  exactly.
• 32:11
  It's
• 32:11
  like
• 32:11
  you
• 32:11
  become
• 32:12
  numb
• 32:12
  to
• 32:12
  things
• 32:12
  when
• 32:13
  they're
• 32:13
  done
• 32:13
  a
• 32:13
  million
• 32:14
  times.
• 32:14
  And.
• 32:14
  And
• 32:14
  they
• 32:15
  don't
• 32:15
  really
• 32:16
  have
• 32:16
  that
• 32:16
  same
• 32:17
  severity
• 32:18
  as
• 32:18
  if
• 32:18
  you
• 32:18
  reserve
• 32:19
  it
• 32:19
  for
• 32:19
  when
• 32:19
  you're
• 32:19
  really
• 32:20
  serious.
• 32:20
  Like,
• 32:20
  oh,
• 32:21
  Mom's
• 32:21
  using
• 32:21
  her
• 32:21
  serious
• 32:22
  voice.
• 32:22
  I
• 32:23
  better
• 32:23
  do
• 32:23
  it
• 32:24
  right.
• 32:24
  Yeah,
• 32:25
  yeah.
• 32:26
  My.
• 32:26
  My
• 32:26
  puppies
• 32:27
  know
• 32:27
  when
• 32:27
  I'm
• 32:27
  using
• 32:28
  my
• 32:28
  serious
• 32:28
  voice.
• 32:29
  They're
• 32:30
  like,
• 32:31
  she's
• 32:31
  mad.
• 32:31
  Your
• 32:32
  daughter
• 32:32
  will
• 32:32
  know
• 32:32
  it
• 32:32
  too.
• 32:33
  Yeah,
• 32:33
  I'm
• 32:33
  sure.
• 32:33
  Well,
• 32:34
  you
• 32:34
  guys
• 32:34
  used
• 32:34
  to
• 32:34
  use
• 32:35
  my
• 32:35
  middle
• 32:35
  name
• 32:35
  when
• 32:35
  you
• 32:36
  were
• 32:36
  serious.
• 32:36
  Oh,
• 32:37
  that's
• 32:37
  a
• 32:37
  good
• 32:37
  one.
• 32:37
  Yes.
• 32:38
  Sky
• 32:39
  Elizabeth.
• 32:39
  And
• 32:40
  I'd
• 32:40
  be
• 32:40
  like,
• 32:40
  oh,
• 32:40
  oh,
• 32:41
  no.
• 32:41
  I'm
• 32:41
  in
• 32:41
  trouble.
• 32:43
  So
• 32:43
  did
• 32:43
  you
• 32:44
  listen
• 32:44
  then?
• 32:44
  I
• 32:45
  don't
• 32:45
  know.
• 32:45
  Maybe.
• 32:46
  I
• 32:46
  knew
• 32:46
  you
• 32:46
  were
• 32:46
  not
• 32:47
  playing.
• 32:48
  Okay.
• 32:48
  When
• 32:48
  I
• 32:48
  got
• 32:48
  my
• 32:49
  mom.
• 32:49
  That's
• 32:49
  good.
• 32:49
  If
• 32:49
  you
• 32:50
  have
• 32:50
  a
• 32:50
  thing
• 32:50
  you
• 32:51
  do
• 32:51
  that
• 32:51
  you.
• 32:52
  Where
• 32:52
  you
• 32:52
  can
• 32:52
  show
• 32:53
  your
• 32:53
  child.
• 32:53
  I'm
• 32:53
  not
• 32:53
  playing.
• 32:54
  I
• 32:54
  mean
• 32:54
  it.
• 32:55
  I'm
• 32:55
  ratcheting
• 32:56
  it
• 32:56
  up
• 32:56
  a
• 32:56
  little
• 32:56
  bit.
• 32:57
  Yeah,
• 32:57
  ratchet
• 32:58
  going
• 32:58
  up.
• 32:58
  Going
• 32:59
  Up.
• 32:59
  Okay,
• 33:00
  go
• 33:00
  ahead.
• 33:00
  Next.
• 33:01
  One
• 33:01
  punishment,
• 33:02
  which
• 33:02
  you
• 33:03
  skipped
• 33:03
  one.
• 33:03
  Sorry.
• 33:03
  Excuse
• 33:04
  me.
• 33:05
  Gentle
• 33:05
  physical
• 33:06
  manipulation,
• 33:06
  which
• 33:07
  is
• 33:07
  effective
• 33:07
  with
• 33:08
  young
• 33:08
  kids.
• 33:08
  So
• 33:08
  you
• 33:09
  guide
• 33:09
  them
• 33:09
  where
• 33:09
  you
• 33:09
  want
• 33:10
  them
• 33:10
  to
• 33:10
  go.
• 33:11
  Right.
• 33:11
  In
• 33:11
  another
• 33:12
  book
• 33:12
  we
• 33:12
  read,
• 33:12
  they
• 33:12
  were
• 33:13
  like,
• 33:13
  you
• 33:14
  can
• 33:14
  confront
• 33:14
  your
• 33:14
  children
• 33:15
  until
• 33:15
  they
• 33:15
  reach
• 33:16
  a
• 33:16
  certain
• 33:16
  size,
• 33:17
  and
• 33:18
  then
• 33:18
  they
• 33:18
  might
• 33:19
  take
• 33:19
  you
• 33:19
  out.
• 33:19
  That's
• 33:20
  right.
• 33:20
  Okay.
• 33:21
  That's
• 33:21
  not
• 33:22
  what
• 33:22
  this
• 33:22
  means.
• 33:22
  This
• 33:22
  just
• 33:23
  means,
• 33:23
  like,
• 33:23
  if
• 33:23
  you
• 33:23
  need
• 33:24
  them
• 33:24
  to,
• 33:24
  like,
• 33:24
  get
• 33:24
  in
• 33:24
  the
• 33:24
  car
• 33:25
  or,
• 33:25
  like,
• 33:25
  go
• 33:26
  brush
• 33:26
  their
• 33:26
  teeth,
• 33:26
  you
• 33:27
  physically
• 33:27
  guide
• 33:28
  them
• 33:28
  to
• 33:28
  what
• 33:28
  it
• 33:29
  is
• 33:29
  you
• 33:29
  want
• 33:29
  them
• 33:29
  to
• 33:29
  do.
• 33:30
  Okay.
• 33:30
  And
• 33:30
  then
• 33:31
  punishment.
• 33:31
  So
• 33:32
  this
• 33:32
  must
• 33:32
  fit
• 33:32
  the
• 33:32
  crime.
• 33:33
  Decide
• 33:33
  ahead
• 33:34
  of
• 33:34
  time
• 33:34
  what
• 33:34
  the
• 33:34
  punishment
• 33:35
  is
• 33:35
  that
• 33:35
  you'll
• 33:35
  give
• 33:35
  each
• 33:35
  child
• 33:36
  so
• 33:36
  you
• 33:36
  don't
• 33:37
  go
• 33:37
  overboard
• 33:37
  in
• 33:37
  anger.
• 33:38
  And
• 33:38
  it
• 33:38
  really
• 33:38
  feels
• 33:39
  like
• 33:39
  a
• 33:39
  punishment
• 33:40
  to
• 33:40
  the
• 33:40
  child.
• 33:40
  So
• 33:40
  if
• 33:40
  they're
• 33:40
  being
• 33:41
  defiant,
• 33:42
  you
• 33:42
  can
• 33:42
  change
• 33:42
  the
• 33:43
  behavior
• 33:43
  with
• 33:43
  a
• 33:43
  request.
• 33:44
  Try
• 33:44
  that
• 33:45
  before
• 33:45
  punishing.
• 33:46
  So
• 33:46
  proportionality
• 33:47
  is
• 33:47
  key.
• 33:48
  Decide
• 33:49
  what
• 33:49
  your
• 33:49
  punishment
• 33:50
  scale
• 33:50
  will
• 33:51
  be
• 33:51
  before
• 33:52
  bad
• 33:52
  things
• 33:52
  come
• 33:53
  up.
• 33:53
  Because
• 33:53
  when
• 33:53
  we're
• 33:54
  angry,
• 33:54
  we're
• 33:55
  tempted
• 33:55
  to
• 33:55
  be
• 33:55
  more
• 33:56
  severe,
• 33:56
  and
• 33:56
  it
• 33:57
  might
• 33:57
  not
• 33:57
  be
• 33:57
  proportional.
• 33:58
  Right.
• 33:59
  Exactly.
• 34:00
  Exactly.
• 34:01
  And
• 34:01
  as
• 34:01
  we've
• 34:02
  discussed
• 34:02
  before,
• 34:05
  think
• 34:05
  about
• 34:05
  their
• 34:06
  love
• 34:06
  language.
• 34:07
  Don't
• 34:07
  use
• 34:07
  their
• 34:07
  love
• 34:08
  language
• 34:08
  again
• 34:08
  against
• 34:08
  them
• 34:09
  in
• 34:09
  a
• 34:09
  punishment.
• 34:10
  That
• 34:10
  sounds
• 34:10
  like
• 34:11
  that's.
• 34:11
  That's
• 34:12
  just
• 34:12
  too
• 34:12
  mean.
• 34:13
  Yeah.
• 34:13
  Yeah.
• 34:13
  Huh.
• 34:15
  And
• 34:15
  then.
• 34:16
  Then
• 34:16
  becomes
• 34:17
  behavior
• 34:17
  modification.
• 34:18
  You
• 34:18
  can
• 34:19
  try
• 34:19
  positive
• 34:20
  rewards
• 34:20
  for
• 34:21
  doing
• 34:21
  what
• 34:21
  they're
• 34:21
  supposed
• 34:22
  to
• 34:22
  do.
• 34:22
  Yes.
• 34:22
  Loss
• 34:23
  of
• 34:23
  privileges
• 34:24
  for
• 34:24
  doing
• 34:24
  what
• 34:24
  they
• 34:25
  shouldn't
• 34:25
  be
• 34:25
  doing.
• 34:27
  And
• 34:27
  then
• 34:28
  give
• 34:28
  your
• 34:28
  child
• 34:29
  expressions
• 34:29
  of
• 34:30
  love
• 34:30
  before
• 34:30
  and
• 34:30
  after
• 34:31
  the
• 34:31
  punishment
• 34:32
  as
• 34:32
  you
• 34:32
  demonstrate.
• 34:33
  Love
• 34:34
  sandwich.
• 34:34
  The
• 34:35
  love
• 34:35
  sandwich.
• 34:35
  That's
• 34:36
  right.
• 34:36
  Yes.
• 34:36
  Okay.
• 34:37
  All
• 34:37
  right.
• 34:38
  Right.
• 34:39
  Okay.
• 34:40
  So
• 34:41
  learning
• 34:42
  and
• 34:42
  love
• 34:42
  languages.
• 34:43
  Yeah.
• 34:44
  When
• 34:45
  teaching
• 34:45
  your
• 34:45
  child,
• 34:46
  treat
• 34:46
  them
• 34:46
  with
• 34:47
  respect
• 34:47
  and
• 34:47
  kindness.
• 34:48
  They'll
• 34:48
  reject
• 34:49
  your
• 34:49
  lessons
• 34:49
  if
• 34:50
  you
• 34:50
  don't
• 34:50
  be
• 34:51
  involved
• 34:51
  in
• 34:51
  all
• 34:51
  of
• 34:51
  your
• 34:52
  child's
• 34:52
  learning.
• 34:52
  It's
• 34:53
  the
• 34:53
  key
• 34:53
  to
• 34:53
  their
• 34:53
  success
• 34:54
  as
• 34:54
  students.
• 34:55
  What
• 34:55
  did
• 34:55
  you
• 34:55
  think
• 34:56
  of
• 34:56
  that?
• 34:56
  That
• 34:56
  was
• 34:57
  like.
• 34:58
  I
• 34:58
  thought
• 34:58
  one
• 34:59
  of
• 34:59
  the
• 34:59
  smartest
• 34:59
  things
• 35:00
  he
• 35:00
  said,
• 35:01
  because
• 35:01
  I
• 35:01
  believe
• 35:01
  in
• 35:01
  that.
• 35:02
  I
• 35:02
  believe
• 35:02
  that
• 35:03
  a
• 35:03
  parent
• 35:03
  is
• 35:04
  a
• 35:04
  child's
• 35:04
  most
• 35:04
  important
• 35:05
  teacher
• 35:07
  in
• 35:07
  every
• 35:07
  way.
• 35:08
  And
• 35:08
  that's,
• 35:09
  you
• 35:09
  know,
• 35:09
  so
• 35:09
  just
• 35:09
  be
• 35:10
  so
• 35:10
  involved
• 35:11
  in
• 35:11
  their
• 35:11
  learning
• 35:12
  and
• 35:12
  be
• 35:12
  positive
• 35:13
  in
• 35:13
  their
• 35:14
  learning.
• 35:15
  I
• 35:15
  think
• 35:17
  helping
• 35:17
  them
• 35:17
  when
• 35:18
  they
• 35:18
  need
• 35:18
  help,
• 35:18
  stepping
• 35:19
  in
• 35:19
  when
• 35:20
  they
• 35:20
  need
• 35:20
  someone
• 35:20
  to,
• 35:22
  you
• 35:22
  know,
• 35:22
  go
• 35:23
  to
• 35:23
  school
• 35:23
  and
• 35:24
  advocate
• 35:24
  for
• 35:24
  them.
• 35:25
  Yeah,
• 35:25
  absolutely.
• 35:26
  I'm
• 35:27
  100%
• 35:27
  behind
• 35:28
  that.
• 35:28
  You
• 35:28
  just.
• 35:30
  And
• 35:31
  I
• 35:31
  do
• 35:31
  like
• 35:31
  the
• 35:31
  idea
• 35:32
  of
• 35:32
  being
• 35:32
  kind
• 35:32
  when
• 35:33
  you're
• 35:33
  trying
• 35:33
  to
• 35:33
  teach
• 35:34
  them
• 35:34
  something,
• 35:34
  because
• 35:35
  otherwise
• 35:35
  they're
• 35:35
  not
• 35:35
  going
• 35:35
  to
• 35:35
  listen
• 35:36
  to
• 35:36
  you.
• 35:36
  Totally.
• 35:37
  Yeah.
• 35:39
  And
• 35:39
  they
• 35:39
  say
• 35:39
  that
• 35:40
  to
• 35:40
  be
• 35:40
  able
• 35:41
  to
• 35:41
  learn,
• 35:42
  even
• 35:42
  at
• 35:42
  school,
• 35:43
  the
• 35:43
  child
• 35:44
  has
• 35:44
  to
• 35:44
  feel
• 35:44
  loved
• 35:46
  because
• 35:47
  that
• 35:47
  impacts
• 35:47
  their
• 35:48
  self
• 35:48
  Esteem
• 35:48
  their
• 35:49
  emotional
• 35:49
  security
• 35:50
  and.
• 35:50
  Their
• 35:51
  ability
• 35:51
  to
• 35:51
  take
• 35:51
  risks.
• 35:52
  Yeah.
• 35:53
  And
• 35:53
  just
• 35:54
  cope
• 35:54
  with
• 35:54
  the
• 35:54
  stress
• 35:55
  of
• 35:55
  school.
• 35:56
  So
• 35:56
  you
• 35:56
  want
• 35:56
  their
• 35:57
  tank
• 35:57
  to
• 35:57
  be
• 35:57
  full.
• 35:58
  Fill
• 35:58
  that
• 35:59
  tank.
• 35:59
  Fill
• 35:59
  the
• 35:59
  tank
• 36:00
  when
• 36:00
  they
• 36:00
  go
• 36:00
  to
• 36:00
  school.
• 36:01
  And
• 36:01
  so
• 36:02
  that
• 36:02
  way
• 36:02
  they're
• 36:02
  going
• 36:02
  to
• 36:02
  be
• 36:02
  in
• 36:03
  the
• 36:03
  best
• 36:03
  position
• 36:04
  to
• 36:04
  learn.
• 36:05
  I
• 36:05
  think
• 36:06
  that's
• 36:06
  important.
• 36:07
  And
• 36:07
  going
• 36:07
  from
• 36:07
  third
• 36:08
  to
• 36:08
  fourth
• 36:08
  grade
• 36:09
  is
• 36:09
  a
• 36:09
  very
• 36:09
  critical
• 36:10
  time.
• 36:10
  That's
• 36:10
  when
• 36:10
  you
• 36:10
  go
• 36:11
  from
• 36:11
  concrete
• 36:12
  to
• 36:12
  abstract
• 36:12
  learning.
• 36:13
  What
• 36:13
  does
• 36:13
  that
• 36:13
  mean?
• 36:13
  Well,
• 36:14
  I'll
• 36:14
  tell
• 36:14
  you
• 36:14
  what
• 36:14
  that
• 36:14
  means.
• 36:15
  And
• 36:15
  this
• 36:15
  is
• 36:15
  a
• 36:15
  big
• 36:16
  thing
• 36:16
  that
• 36:16
  parents
• 36:17
  should
• 36:17
  understand.
• 36:18
  Okay,
• 36:19
  so
• 36:19
  up
• 36:20
  until
• 36:20
  third
• 36:21
  grade,
• 36:22
  it's
• 36:22
  like,
• 36:22
  first
• 36:23
  of
• 36:23
  all,
• 36:23
  you
• 36:23
  know,
• 36:23
  you're
• 36:24
  learning
• 36:24
  to
• 36:24
  read,
• 36:24
  right?
• 36:25
  So
• 36:25
  you're
• 36:26
  learning
• 36:26
  to
• 36:26
  read,
• 36:26
  but
• 36:27
  from
• 36:27
  third
• 36:27
  grade
• 36:27
  on,
• 36:28
  you
• 36:28
  read
• 36:28
  to
• 36:29
  learn.
• 36:29
  So
• 36:30
  you
• 36:30
  have
• 36:30
  to.
• 36:31
  I
• 36:31
  know
• 36:31
  that
• 36:31
  sounds
• 36:32
  a
• 36:32
  little
• 36:32
  horse
• 36:33
  corny,
• 36:33
  but.
• 36:34
  But,
• 36:34
  but
• 36:34
  it's
• 36:34
  huge.
• 36:35
  My
• 36:35
  mind
• 36:35
  is
• 36:36
  blown.
• 36:36
  Well,
• 36:37
  it's
• 36:37
  huge
• 36:37
  because
• 36:38
  all
• 36:38
  you're
• 36:38
  trying
• 36:38
  to
• 36:39
  do
• 36:39
  is.
• 36:39
  Is
• 36:40
  like
• 36:40
  learning
• 36:40
  what
• 36:40
  words
• 36:41
  mean.
• 36:41
  Learn
• 36:42
  vocabulary,
• 36:42
  learn
• 36:43
  how
• 36:43
  to
• 36:43
  say
• 36:43
  what
• 36:44
  the
• 36:44
  word
• 36:44
  is
• 36:44
  in
• 36:44
  a
• 36:44
  book.
• 36:45
  But
• 36:45
  suddenly
• 36:46
  you're
• 36:46
  given
• 36:46
  books
• 36:47
  and
• 36:47
  you
• 36:47
  have
• 36:47
  to
• 36:47
  read
• 36:48
  it
• 36:48
  and
• 36:48
  figure
• 36:48
  out
• 36:48
  what
• 36:49
  they're
• 36:49
  telling
• 36:49
  you
• 36:50
  starting
• 36:50
  in
• 36:50
  third
• 36:51
  grade.
• 36:52
  So
• 36:52
  school
• 36:52
  becomes
• 36:53
  much
• 36:53
  harder.
• 36:53
  Also,
• 36:55
  early
• 36:55
  on,
• 36:55
  it's
• 36:56
  pretty
• 36:56
  simple.
• 36:56
  The
• 36:56
  stuff
• 36:57
  you're
• 36:57
  learning,
• 36:58
  it's,
• 36:59
  you
• 36:59
  know,
• 36:59
  it's
• 36:59
  addition,
• 37:00
  subtraction,
• 37:01
  it's.
• 37:01
  It's
• 37:02
  really
• 37:02
  pretty
• 37:02
  basic.
• 37:03
  But
• 37:03
  suddenly
• 37:04
  you're
• 37:04
  going
• 37:04
  to
• 37:04
  be
• 37:04
  analyzing
• 37:05
  things,
• 37:06
  and
• 37:06
  that's
• 37:06
  the
• 37:06
  more
• 37:07
  abstract
• 37:07
  kind
• 37:07
  of
• 37:07
  stuff
• 37:08
  that
• 37:08
  you're
• 37:08
  going
• 37:08
  to
• 37:08
  have
• 37:08
  to
• 37:09
  do.
• 37:09
  So
• 37:09
  school
• 37:10
  gets
• 37:10
  really
• 37:10
  hard,
• 37:11
  and
• 37:11
  that's
• 37:11
  what
• 37:11
  they're
• 37:11
  saying.
• 37:12
  And
• 37:13
  that.
• 37:13
  That
• 37:13
  when
• 37:14
  kids
• 37:14
  hit
• 37:14
  that
• 37:15
  point,
• 37:15
  they
• 37:16
  need
• 37:16
  to
• 37:16
  be
• 37:16
  in
• 37:16
  a
• 37:16
  good
• 37:17
  emotional
• 37:17
  state
• 37:18
  if
• 37:18
  at
• 37:18
  all
• 37:19
  possible,
• 37:19
  because
• 37:19
  they're
• 37:20
  going
• 37:20
  to
• 37:20
  need
• 37:20
  all
• 37:20
  their
• 37:21
  energy
• 37:21
  to
• 37:22
  put
• 37:22
  into
• 37:22
  learning
• 37:23
  because
• 37:23
  it's
• 37:24
  going
• 37:24
  to
• 37:24
  get
• 37:24
  a
• 37:24
  lot
• 37:24
  harder
• 37:24
  for
• 37:25
  them
• 37:25
  at
• 37:25
  that
• 37:25
  point.
• 37:26
  So
• 37:27
  keep
• 37:27
  that
• 37:27
  love
• 37:28
  tank
• 37:28
  full.
• 37:28
  Keep
• 37:29
  that
• 37:29
  love
• 37:29
  tank
• 37:29
  full.
• 37:30
  Stop
• 37:30
  at
• 37:31
  the
• 37:31
  love
• 37:31
  gas
• 37:31
  station.
• 37:33
  That's
• 37:33
  right.
• 37:34
  So
• 37:34
  motivate
• 37:34
  your
• 37:35
  child
• 37:35
  by
• 37:35
  encouraging
• 37:36
  their
• 37:36
  interest
• 37:37
  and
• 37:37
  let
• 37:37
  them
• 37:37
  take
• 37:37
  initiative.
• 37:38
  You
• 37:38
  always
• 37:38
  did
• 37:38
  this.
• 37:39
  Let
• 37:40
  them
• 37:40
  take
• 37:40
  responsibility
• 37:41
  for
• 37:41
  homework
• 37:41
  and
• 37:41
  help
• 37:42
  only
• 37:42
  when
• 37:42
  they
• 37:42
  ask
• 37:43
  for
• 37:43
  it.
• 37:43
  This
• 37:43
  would
• 37:43
  not
• 37:43
  have
• 37:44
  worked
• 37:44
  for
• 37:44
  me
• 37:44
  because
• 37:44
  I
• 37:44
  just
• 37:44
  wouldn't
• 37:45
  have
• 37:45
  done
• 37:45
  my
• 37:45
  homework
• 37:45
  well.
• 37:46
  I
• 37:46
  know,
• 37:46
  but
• 37:47
  I
• 37:47
  think
• 37:47
  if
• 37:47
  you
• 37:47
  can
• 37:48
  get
• 37:48
  your
• 37:48
  child
• 37:49
  to
• 37:49
  take
• 37:50
  responsibility
• 37:50
  for
• 37:51
  homework,
• 37:52
  that
• 37:52
  is
• 37:53
  a
• 37:53
  huge
• 37:53
  thing.
• 37:55
  And
• 37:55
  it's
• 37:56
  funny,
• 37:56
  I
• 37:56
  don't
• 37:57
  know
• 37:57
  that
• 37:57
  I
• 37:57
  ever
• 37:57
  could
• 37:58
  have
• 37:58
  let
• 37:58
  go
• 37:58
  like
• 37:58
  that.
• 37:59
  That's.
• 37:59
  But
• 37:59
  because
• 38:00
  your
• 38:00
  child's
• 38:01
  grades
• 38:01
  may
• 38:01
  go
• 38:01
  down
• 38:02
  before
• 38:02
  they
• 38:02
  go
• 38:02
  up
• 38:03
  if
• 38:03
  suddenly
• 38:04
  they're
• 38:04
  in
• 38:04
  charge
• 38:05
  of
• 38:05
  doing
• 38:05
  their
• 38:05
  own
• 38:05
  homework.
• 38:06
  But
• 38:06
  you
• 38:06
  know,
• 38:06
  at
• 38:07
  testing,
• 38:07
  Mom,
• 38:08
  I
• 38:09
  remember
• 38:09
  we
• 38:09
  have
• 38:09
  this
• 38:10
  one
• 38:10
  family,
• 38:10
  good
• 38:11
  family.
• 38:11
  They've
• 38:11
  been
• 38:12
  with
• 38:12
  us
• 38:12
  really
• 38:12
  since
• 38:13
  their
• 38:13
  child
• 38:13
  was
• 38:13
  in
• 38:14
  kindergarten.
• 38:15
  And
• 38:15
  great
• 38:15
  kid
• 38:16
  and
• 38:16
  great,
• 38:17
  great
• 38:17
  family.
• 38:18
  But
• 38:18
  they
• 38:18
  were
• 38:18
  really.
• 38:20
  The
• 38:20
  father
• 38:20
  was
• 38:21
  really
• 38:21
  big
• 38:21
  on
• 38:21
  giving
• 38:22
  that
• 38:22
  son
• 38:22
  responsibility.
• 38:24
  And
• 38:25
  he
• 38:25
  was
• 38:25
  struggling.
• 38:27
  And
• 38:27
  he
• 38:27
  said
• 38:28
  to
• 38:28
  the,
• 38:28
  to
• 38:29
  the
• 38:29
  child,
• 38:30
  you
• 38:30
  really
• 38:30
  need,
• 38:30
  I
• 38:31
  think,
• 38:31
  some
• 38:31
  tutoring.
• 38:31
  And
• 38:32
  the
• 38:32
  child
• 38:32
  agreed.
• 38:33
  And
• 38:33
  he's
• 38:33
  like,
• 38:33
  well,
• 38:34
  call.
• 38:34
  Call
• 38:35
  Karen
• 38:35
  the
• 38:35
  testing
• 38:36
  mom
• 38:37
  and
• 38:37
  set
• 38:37
  up
• 38:37
  your
• 38:38
  tutoring.
• 38:38
  And
• 38:38
  I'm.
• 38:39
  And
• 38:39
  so
• 38:39
  the
• 38:40
  kid
• 38:40
  calls
• 38:41
  me
• 38:41
  to
• 38:41
  set
• 38:41
  up
• 38:41
  his
• 38:42
  tutoring.
• 38:42
  And
• 38:43
  I'm
• 38:43
  thinking,
• 38:43
  why
• 38:44
  is
• 38:44
  this
• 38:44
  child.
• 38:45
  Usually
• 38:45
  it's
• 38:46
  the
• 38:46
  parent
• 38:46
  and
• 38:47
  they're
• 38:47
  calling
• 38:47
  to
• 38:47
  say,
• 38:48
  here's
• 38:48
  my
• 38:48
  child's
• 38:49
  problem.
• 38:49
  This
• 38:49
  is
• 38:50
  what
• 38:50
  they
• 38:50
  need.
• 38:50
  But
• 38:51
  this,
• 38:51
  this
• 38:51
  father
• 38:52
  believed
• 38:53
  and
• 38:53
  believes
• 38:54
  that
• 38:54
  his
• 38:55
  son
• 38:55
  needs
• 38:55
  to
• 38:56
  be
• 38:56
  responsible
• 38:56
  for
• 38:57
  things.
• 38:57
  And
• 38:58
  so
• 38:58
  he
• 38:58
  put
• 38:58
  his
• 38:58
  child
• 38:59
  in
• 38:59
  charge
• 38:59
  of
• 38:59
  getting
• 39:00
  his
• 39:00
  own
• 39:00
  tutoring.
• 39:01
  He's
• 39:01
  like,
• 39:01
  we'll
• 39:01
  pay
• 39:02
  for
• 39:02
  it,
• 39:02
  but
• 39:02
  you
• 39:03
  need
• 39:03
  to
• 39:04
  arrange
• 39:04
  it,
• 39:04
  you
• 39:04
  need
• 39:05
  to
• 39:05
  show
• 39:05
  up,
• 39:06
  you
• 39:06
  need
• 39:06
  to
• 39:06
  do
• 39:06
  it.
• 39:07
  I
• 39:07
  like
• 39:07
  that.
• 39:07
  And
• 39:07
  I
• 39:08
  was
• 39:08
  like,
• 39:08
  wow.
• 39:09
  And
• 39:10
  I
• 39:10
  was
• 39:10
  so
• 39:10
  very
• 39:11
  impressed
• 39:11
  as.
• 39:11
  He
• 39:12
  rose
• 39:12
  to
• 39:12
  the
• 39:12
  occasion.
• 39:13
  He
• 39:13
  really
• 39:14
  generally
• 39:14
  did.
• 39:14
  There
• 39:15
  were
• 39:15
  a
• 39:15
  few
• 39:15
  times
• 39:16
  when
• 39:16
  his
• 39:17
  schedule
• 39:17
  got
• 39:18
  kind
• 39:18
  of
• 39:18
  messed
• 39:18
  up
• 39:18
  and
• 39:20
  we
• 39:20
  dealt
• 39:20
  with
• 39:20
  it.
• 39:21
  But
• 39:21
  I
• 39:21
  was
• 39:21
  really
• 39:22
  impressed
• 39:23
  with
• 39:23
  how
• 39:23
  much
• 39:23
  response,
• 39:24
  responsibility
• 39:24
  they
• 39:24
  gave
• 39:25
  this
• 39:25
  child.
• 39:25
  And
• 39:26
  while
• 39:26
  things
• 39:26
  maybe
• 39:27
  weren't
• 39:27
  perfect,
• 39:28
  the
• 39:28
  child
• 39:28
  got
• 39:29
  better
• 39:29
  and
• 39:29
  better
• 39:30
  and
• 39:30
  he
• 39:30
  took
• 39:30
  much
• 39:31
  more
• 39:31
  responsibility
• 39:32
  for
• 39:32
  his
• 39:32
  learning.
• 39:33
  Yeah.
• 39:33
  And
• 39:33
  I
• 39:33
  was,
• 39:34
  I
• 39:34
  was
• 39:34
  pretty
• 39:34
  impressed.
• 39:35
  I
• 39:35
  don't
• 39:35
  see
• 39:35
  that
• 39:35
  very
• 39:36
  often.
• 39:36
  Yeah,
• 39:37
  well,
• 39:37
  as
• 39:37
  we
• 39:37
  learned
• 39:38
  in
• 39:38
  another
• 39:38
  book,
• 39:38
  10
• 39:39
  year
• 39:39
  olds
• 39:39
  used
• 39:39
  to
• 39:39
  be
• 39:39
  blacksmiths.
• 39:40
  That's
• 39:41
  true.
• 39:41
  If
• 39:42
  they
• 39:42
  could
• 39:42
  be
• 39:42
  blacksmiths
• 39:43
  and
• 39:43
  have
• 39:43
  jobs,
• 39:44
  they
• 39:44
  ought
• 39:44
  to
• 39:44
  be
• 39:44
  able
• 39:45
  to
• 39:45
  arrange
• 39:45
  their
• 39:45
  own
• 39:45
  tutoring.
• 39:46
  Yeah,
• 39:47
  exactly.
• 39:48
  So
• 39:49
  they're
• 39:49
  saying,
• 39:49
  give
• 39:49
  your
• 39:50
  child
• 39:50
  more
• 39:50
  responsibility
• 39:51
  because
• 39:52
  they
• 39:52
  will,
• 39:52
  it
• 39:52
  will
• 39:53
  build
• 39:53
  their
• 39:53
  confidence.
• 39:54
  They
• 39:54
  may
• 39:54
  struggle
• 39:55
  at
• 39:55
  first.
• 39:55
  They
• 39:55
  can
• 39:55
  come
• 39:56
  to
• 39:56
  you
• 39:56
  for
• 39:56
  support,
• 39:57
  but
• 39:58
  try
• 39:58
  to,
• 39:59
  you
• 39:59
  know,
• 39:59
  try
• 39:59
  to
• 39:59
  give
• 40:00
  them
• 40:00
  that
• 40:00
  responsibility
• 40:01
  so
• 40:01
  they'll
• 40:01
  become
• 40:01
  more
• 40:02
  independent.
• 40:02
  I
• 40:02
  thought
• 40:02
  that
• 40:03
  was
• 40:03
  good
• 40:03
  advice.
• 40:03
  I
• 40:03
  do
• 40:04
  too.
• 40:04
  I
• 40:04
  think
• 40:04
  that's
• 40:04
  really
• 40:04
  good
• 40:05
  advice.
• 40:06
  And
• 40:06
  then
• 40:06
  your
• 40:07
  child.
• 40:07
  Oh
• 40:07
  yeah,
• 40:07
  we
• 40:07
  just
• 40:08
  did
• 40:08
  that.
• 40:08
  Anger
• 40:09
  and
• 40:09
  love.
• 40:09
  Anger
• 40:10
  and
• 40:10
  love.
• 40:10
  Will
• 40:11
  you
• 40:11
  tell
• 40:11
  me
• 40:11
  about
• 40:11
  anger
• 40:11
  and
• 40:12
  love?
• 40:12
  Oh,
• 40:12
  anger
• 40:13
  and
• 40:13
  love.
• 40:13
  Well,
• 40:13
  just
• 40:14
  the
• 40:14
  fact
• 40:14
  that,
• 40:15
  you
• 40:15
  know,
• 40:15
  helping
• 40:15
  kids
• 40:16
  understand
• 40:17
  that
• 40:17
  you
• 40:17
  will
• 40:17
  get
• 40:18
  angry,
• 40:18
  that's
• 40:19
  normal,
• 40:20
  but
• 40:20
  it's
• 40:21
  how
• 40:21
  you
• 40:21
  handle
• 40:21
  it.
• 40:23
  They
• 40:23
  talked
• 40:24
  about
• 40:24
  how
• 40:26
  passive
• 40:26
  aggressiveness
• 40:27
  as
• 40:27
  a
• 40:28
  reaction
• 40:28
  to
• 40:28
  anger
• 40:29
  is
• 40:29
  the
• 40:29
  worst
• 40:29
  reaction,
• 40:30
  which
• 40:31
  was
• 40:31
  interesting.
• 40:31
  Cause
• 40:31
  I
• 40:32
  thought
• 40:32
  I
• 40:32
  would
• 40:33
  have
• 40:33
  maybe
• 40:33
  thought,
• 40:33
  you
• 40:34
  know,
• 40:34
  physical
• 40:34
  reaction.
• 40:35
  Well,
• 40:35
  that.
• 40:36
  But
• 40:36
  I
• 40:36
  think
• 40:36
  that's
• 40:36
  presuming
• 40:37
  that
• 40:37
  you're
• 40:37
  not
• 40:38
  physically
• 40:39
  punishing
• 40:39
  your
• 40:39
  kid.
• 40:40
  I
• 40:40
  actually
• 40:41
  agree
• 40:41
  with
• 40:41
  that.
• 40:41
  I
• 40:42
  think
• 40:42
  passive
• 40:42
  aggressive,
• 40:43
  Passive
• 40:44
  aggression
• 40:44
  in
• 40:44
  General
• 40:44
  is
• 40:45
  insidious.
• 40:46
  I
• 40:46
  think
• 40:46
  it's
• 40:46
  really
• 40:47
  confusing
• 40:47
  for
• 40:48
  anyone,
• 40:48
  particularly
• 40:49
  for
• 40:49
  kids.
• 40:50
  I
• 40:51
  think
• 40:51
  it
• 40:51
  makes
• 40:51
  kids
• 40:51
  emotionally
• 40:52
  insecure
• 40:53
  and
• 40:53
  fearful
• 40:54
  because
• 40:55
  they're
• 40:55
  not.
• 40:57
  They
• 40:57
  will
• 40:57
  struggle
• 40:58
  to
• 40:58
  read
• 40:58
  and
• 40:58
  interpret
• 40:59
  situations
• 41:00
  if
• 41:00
  they're
• 41:00
  receiving
• 41:01
  passive
• 41:01
  aggression.
• 41:02
  Right.
• 41:03
  And
• 41:03
  he
• 41:04
  also
• 41:04
  said
• 41:04
  that
• 41:04
  kids,
• 41:05
  if
• 41:05
  you
• 41:05
  see
• 41:05
  your
• 41:05
  child
• 41:06
  behaving
• 41:07
  passive
• 41:07
  aggressively,
• 41:08
  you
• 41:08
  want
• 41:09
  to
• 41:09
  kind
• 41:09
  of
• 41:09
  help
• 41:10
  them.
• 41:10
  Yeah.
• 41:11
  Get
• 41:11
  them
• 41:11
  not.
• 41:11
  And
• 41:12
  encourage
• 41:12
  them.
• 41:12
  Like
• 41:13
  express
• 41:13
  what
• 41:13
  you're
• 41:13
  feeling.
• 41:13
  Say
• 41:14
  what
• 41:14
  the
• 41:14
  problem
• 41:14
  is.
• 41:15
  Yeah.
• 41:15
  Don't
• 41:15
  stonewall
• 41:16
  me.
• 41:16
  Right.
• 41:17
  Me.
• 41:17
  What's
• 41:18
  going
• 41:18
  on?
• 41:18
  I
• 41:19
  still
• 41:19
  love
• 41:19
  you.
• 41:19
  And
• 41:20
  let
• 41:20
  them
• 41:20
  know
• 41:20
  that
• 41:20
  they
• 41:21
  are
• 41:21
  still
• 41:21
  loved.
• 41:22
  They
• 41:22
  are
• 41:22
  allowed
• 41:22
  to
• 41:22
  experience
• 41:23
  anger.
• 41:23
  They
• 41:24
  are
• 41:24
  allowed
• 41:24
  to
• 41:24
  express
• 41:25
  it.
• 41:25
  Yeah.
• 41:26
  Not
• 41:26
  physically,
• 41:27
  obviously,
• 41:27
  but
• 41:28
  you
• 41:28
  know,
• 41:29
  they
• 41:29
  should
• 41:29
  be
• 41:29
  able
• 41:30
  to
• 41:30
  verbally
• 41:30
  express
• 41:31
  their
• 41:31
  anger.
• 41:32
  Right.
• 41:32
  And
• 41:32
  there's
• 41:32
  a
• 41:32
  whole
• 41:32
  model
• 41:33
  in
• 41:33
  the
• 41:33
  book
• 41:33
  about
• 41:34
  an
• 41:35
  anger
• 41:35
  model.
• 41:35
  Yeah.
• 41:36
  And
• 41:36
  how
• 41:36
  you
• 41:36
  have
• 41:37
  to
• 41:37
  move
• 41:37
  your
• 41:37
  child
• 41:37
  up
• 41:38
  the
• 41:38
  anger
• 41:38
  model
• 41:39
  and
• 41:39
  teach
• 41:39
  them
• 41:40
  how,
• 41:40
  when
• 41:40
  you're
• 41:41
  angry,
• 41:41
  how
• 41:42
  to
• 41:42
  resolve
• 41:43
  conflict,
• 41:44
  essentially.
• 41:44
  Which
• 41:45
  is
• 41:45
  so
• 41:45
  important
• 41:45
  and
• 41:46
  so
• 41:46
  important.
• 41:46
  Very.
• 41:47
  We
• 41:47
  all
• 41:47
  need
• 41:48
  to
• 41:48
  learn
• 41:48
  how
• 41:48
  to
• 41:48
  do
• 41:48
  that.
• 41:50
  Even
• 41:50
  I
• 41:50
  struggle
• 41:50
  with
• 41:51
  it
• 41:51
  to
• 41:51
  this
• 41:51
  day.
• 41:51
  Well,
• 41:52
  you're
• 41:52
  very
• 41:52
  conflict
• 41:53
  averse.
• 41:54
  I
• 41:54
  really
• 41:54
  am.
• 41:55
  You
• 41:55
  do
• 41:55
  not
• 41:55
  like
• 41:55
  conflict,
• 41:56
  whereas
• 41:57
  I
• 41:57
  seek
• 41:57
  out
• 41:57
  conflict
• 41:58
  at
• 41:58
  every
• 41:58
  turn.
• 41:59
  Do
• 41:59
  you
• 41:59
  really?
• 42:00
  Oh,
• 42:00
  my
• 42:00
  God.
• 42:01
  I
• 42:01
  mean,
• 42:01
  I.
• 42:02
  I
• 42:02
  just
• 42:02
  don't
• 42:02
  like
• 42:03
  to
• 42:03
  have
• 42:03
  a.
• 42:03
  Well,
• 42:03
  I
• 42:04
  don't
• 42:04
  like
• 42:04
  to
• 42:04
  fight
• 42:04
  with
• 42:04
  people,
• 42:05
  but
• 42:05
  I
• 42:05
  think
• 42:05
  I'm
• 42:06
  pretty
• 42:06
  direct.
• 42:07
  You
• 42:07
  are.
• 42:07
  If,
• 42:08
  if
• 42:08
  something
• 42:08
  needs
• 42:09
  to
• 42:09
  be
• 42:09
  discussed
• 42:10
  or
• 42:10
  dealt
• 42:10
  with,
• 42:11
  I'm
• 42:11
  like,
• 42:12
  let
• 42:12
  square
• 42:12
  up,
• 42:13
  let's
• 42:13
  do
• 42:13
  it.
• 42:13
  Let's
• 42:14
  talk
• 42:14
  about
• 42:14
  this.
• 42:15
  Yeah,
• 42:15
  yeah.
• 42:16
  And
• 42:16
  I
• 42:16
  just,
• 42:16
  I
• 42:17
  guess
• 42:17
  maybe
• 42:17
  I'm
• 42:17
  a
• 42:17
  people
• 42:18
  pleaser.
• 42:18
  I
• 42:18
  was
• 42:18
  the
• 42:19
  middle
• 42:19
  child,
• 42:19
  you
• 42:20
  know,
• 42:20
  so
• 42:20
  anyway,
• 42:20
  whatever.
• 42:21
  We
• 42:21
  should
• 42:22
  do
• 42:22
  something
• 42:22
  about
• 42:22
  birth
• 42:22
  order.
• 42:23
  I
• 42:23
  feel
• 42:23
  like
• 42:23
  people
• 42:23
  are
• 42:24
  really
• 42:24
  interested
• 42:24
  in
• 42:24
  that.
• 42:24
  We
• 42:25
  should
• 42:25
  find
• 42:25
  a
• 42:25
  book.
• 42:25
  I
• 42:26
  wonder.
• 42:26
  Yeah,
• 42:26
  we'll
• 42:26
  look
• 42:26
  for
• 42:27
  that.
• 42:27
  Because
• 42:27
  anyway,
• 42:28
  I
• 42:28
  am
• 42:28
  a
• 42:29
  people
• 42:29
  pleaser,
• 42:29
  so
• 42:30
  I
• 42:30
  do
• 42:30
  struggle
• 42:30
  with
• 42:30
  conflict.
• 42:31
  I
• 42:31
  started
• 42:32
  out
• 42:32
  as
• 42:32
  a
• 42:32
  lawyer
• 42:32
  and
• 42:33
  I
• 42:33
  got
• 42:33
  out
• 42:33
  of
• 42:33
  it
• 42:34
  because
• 42:34
  there
• 42:34
  was
• 42:34
  so
• 42:34
  much
• 42:35
  conflict
• 42:35
  in
• 42:35
  being
• 42:35
  a
• 42:35
  lawyer.
• 42:36
  And
• 42:36
  I
• 42:36
  said,
• 42:36
  I
• 42:37
  don't.
• 42:37
  This
• 42:37
  is
• 42:37
  not
• 42:37
  me.
• 42:38
  It's
• 42:38
  not
• 42:38
  for
• 42:38
  me.
• 42:39
  I
• 42:39
  do
• 42:39
  not
• 42:39
  want
• 42:39
  to
• 42:39
  do
• 42:40
  this
• 42:40
  the
• 42:40
  rest
• 42:40
  of
• 42:40
  my
• 42:40
  life.
• 42:41
  Yeah,
• 42:41
  yeah.
• 42:42
  But
• 42:42
  anyway.
• 42:42
  But
• 42:42
  I
• 42:43
  do
• 42:43
  think
• 42:43
  I
• 42:44
  would
• 42:44
  love.
• 42:44
  I
• 42:44
  mean,
• 42:45
  I
• 42:45
  think
• 42:45
  it's
• 42:45
  important
• 42:45
  to
• 42:46
  train
• 42:46
  your
• 42:46
  children
• 42:47
  on,
• 42:47
  here's
• 42:48
  how
• 42:48
  you
• 42:48
  handle
• 42:48
  a
• 42:49
  conflict,
• 42:49
  here's
• 42:49
  how
• 42:49
  you
• 42:50
  are
• 42:50
  direct
• 42:50
  about
• 42:51
  it
• 42:51
  without
• 42:51
  hurting
• 42:51
  someone's
• 42:52
  feelings.
• 42:53
  And
• 42:53
  so
• 42:53
  they
• 42:53
  talk
• 42:54
  about
• 42:54
  that.
• 42:54
  You
• 42:54
  can
• 42:54
  be
• 42:55
  direct
• 42:55
  without
• 42:55
  being
• 42:56
  hostile.
• 42:57
  Absolutely.
• 42:58
  No,
• 42:58
  you
• 42:58
  can.
• 42:59
  And
• 43:00
  then
• 43:00
  they
• 43:00
  get
• 43:00
  into.
• 43:01
  In
• 43:01
  this
• 43:01
  book
• 43:01
  they
• 43:02
  talk
• 43:02
  about
• 43:03
  how
• 43:03
  love
• 43:04
  languages
• 43:04
  work
• 43:04
  in
• 43:05
  single
• 43:06
  parent
• 43:06
  families
• 43:07
  and
• 43:07
  within
• 43:07
  marriages.
• 43:08
  I
• 43:09
  really
• 43:09
  appreciated
• 43:10
  that
• 43:10
  they
• 43:10
  acknowledged
• 43:11
  that.
• 43:12
  I
• 43:12
  feel
• 43:12
  like
• 43:12
  so
• 43:12
  many
• 43:13
  books
• 43:14
  don't
• 43:14
  consider
• 43:15
  that
• 43:15
  some
• 43:16
  people
• 43:16
  are
• 43:16
  parenting
• 43:17
  on
• 43:17
  their
• 43:17
  own.
• 43:17
  Yeah.
• 43:18
  And
• 43:18
  that
• 43:19
  they
• 43:19
  talk.
• 43:20
  So
• 43:20
  all
• 43:20
  these
• 43:20
  other
• 43:20
  books
• 43:21
  are
• 43:21
  like,
• 43:21
  balance.
• 43:21
  Everybody
• 43:22
  has
• 43:22
  to
• 43:22
  be
• 43:22
  on
• 43:22
  the
• 43:22
  same
• 43:22
  page.
• 43:23
  What
• 43:23
  if
• 43:23
  it's
• 43:23
  just
• 43:24
  one
• 43:24
  person?
• 43:24
  Right.
• 43:25
  On
• 43:25
  this.
• 43:25
  On
• 43:26
  their
• 43:26
  own
• 43:26
  page.
• 43:27
  Right.
• 43:27
  You
• 43:27
  know,
• 43:28
  and
• 43:28
  how
• 43:28
  do
• 43:29
  they
• 43:29
  manage
• 43:30
  playing
• 43:30
  so
• 43:30
  many
• 43:31
  roles
• 43:31
  for
• 43:31
  their
• 43:32
  child?
• 43:32
  Right.
• 43:33
  And
• 43:33
  I
• 43:33
  thought
• 43:33
  that
• 43:33
  this
• 43:34
  book
• 43:34
  did
• 43:34
  a
• 43:34
  really
• 43:34
  nice
• 43:35
  job
• 43:35
  of
• 43:36
  not
• 43:36
  just
• 43:36
  acknowledging
• 43:37
  that,
• 43:37
  but
• 43:38
  saying,
• 43:38
  listen,
• 43:38
  your
• 43:38
  playbook
• 43:39
  is
• 43:39
  different.
• 43:39
  Different.
• 43:39
  Yeah.
• 43:40
  And
• 43:40
  here
• 43:40
  is
• 43:41
  your
• 43:41
  playbook.
• 43:41
  Right.
• 43:42
  And
• 43:42
  giving
• 43:42
  you
• 43:43
  ideas
• 43:43
  if
• 43:44
  you're
• 43:44
  on
• 43:44
  your
• 43:44
  own,
• 43:45
  how
• 43:45
  you
• 43:45
  can
• 43:45
  do
• 43:45
  it.
• 43:46
  And,
• 43:46
  and
• 43:46
  like,
• 43:47
  if
• 43:47
  you've
• 43:47
  gone
• 43:47
  through
• 43:47
  a
• 43:47
  divorce,
• 43:48
  you
• 43:48
  know,
• 43:48
  and
• 43:49
  obviously
• 43:49
  you're
• 43:50
  struggling
• 43:50
  if
• 43:51
  you've
• 43:51
  gone
• 43:51
  through
• 43:51
  a
• 43:51
  divorce,
• 43:52
  I
• 43:52
  mean,
• 43:52
  it's
• 43:53
  going
• 43:53
  to
• 43:53
  be
• 43:53
  emotional,
• 43:54
  but
• 43:55
  your
• 43:55
  kids
• 43:55
  are
• 43:55
  struggling
• 43:56
  too,
• 43:56
  and
• 43:57
  understand
• 43:57
  that.
• 43:59
  And,
• 43:59
  but,
• 43:59
  but
• 44:00
  they
• 44:00
  kind
• 44:00
  of
• 44:01
  said
• 44:01
  that
• 44:01
  the
• 44:01
  best
• 44:01
  gift
• 44:02
  you
• 44:02
  can
• 44:02
  give
• 44:02
  your
• 44:03
  child
• 44:03
  is
• 44:04
  your
• 44:04
  own
• 44:04
  emotional,
• 44:05
  physical,
• 44:06
  and
• 44:06
  spiritual
• 44:07
  health.
• 44:07
  And
• 44:08
  so
• 44:08
  you
• 44:08
  really
• 44:09
  do
• 44:09
  need
• 44:09
  to
• 44:09
  work
• 44:09
  on
• 44:09
  yourself.
• 44:10
  If
• 44:10
  you
• 44:10
  have
• 44:11
  gone
• 44:11
  through
• 44:11
  something
• 44:11
  that's
• 44:12
  traumatic,
• 44:13
  take
• 44:13
  care
• 44:13
  of
• 44:14
  yourself,
• 44:14
  and
• 44:15
  then
• 44:15
  that
• 44:15
  will
• 44:15
  help
• 44:16
  your
• 44:16
  child.
• 44:16
  If
• 44:16
  you've
• 44:17
  taken
• 44:17
  care
• 44:17
  of
• 44:17
  yourself.
• 44:18
  You
• 44:18
  have
• 44:18
  to
• 44:18
  put
• 44:18
  your
• 44:19
  oxygen
• 44:19
  mask
• 44:19
  on
• 44:20
  before
• 44:20
  you
• 44:20
  put
• 44:20
  on
• 44:20
  anybody
• 44:21
  else's.
• 44:22
  Yes,
• 44:22
  absolutely.
• 44:23
  Both
• 44:23
  on
• 44:24
  planes
• 44:24
  and
• 44:24
  in
• 44:25
  life.
• 44:25
  In
• 44:25
  life.
• 44:26
  It's
• 44:26
  very
• 44:26
  good.
• 44:26
  Good
• 44:27
  metaphor.
• 44:27
  Yeah.
• 44:28
  Yeah.
• 44:28
  But,
• 44:28
  you
• 44:29
  know,
• 44:29
  it
• 44:29
  was
• 44:29
  nice
• 44:30
  that
• 44:30
  they.
• 44:30
  That.
• 44:30
  Yeah.
• 44:31
  Because
• 44:31
  most
• 44:31
  books
• 44:31
  really
• 44:32
  don't
• 44:32
  talk
• 44:32
  about
• 44:32
  that.
• 44:33
  I
• 44:34
  have
• 44:34
  yet
• 44:34
  to
• 44:34
  encounter
• 44:35
  a
• 44:35
  book
• 44:35
  that
• 44:36
  mentions
• 44:37
  single
• 44:37
  parent
• 44:38
  homes.
• 44:39
  And
• 44:39
  we've
• 44:39
  read
• 44:39
  a
• 44:39
  lot
• 44:40
  at
• 44:40
  this
• 44:40
  point
• 44:40
  so
• 44:40
  far.
• 44:41
  Yeah,
• 44:41
  that's
• 44:41
  right.
• 44:41
  And
• 44:42
  again,
• 44:42
  it's
• 44:43
  just,
• 44:43
  I
• 44:43
  think,
• 44:43
  you
• 44:44
  know,
• 44:44
  I
• 44:44
  think
• 44:44
  it's
• 44:45
  presumptuous
• 44:47
  to
• 44:47
  assume
• 44:47
  that
• 44:48
  every,
• 44:48
  that
• 44:49
  all
• 44:49
  of
• 44:49
  these
• 44:49
  other
• 44:49
  methods,
• 44:50
  you
• 44:50
  know,
• 44:51
  should
• 44:51
  be
• 44:51
  the
• 44:51
  same,
• 44:52
  regardless
• 44:52
  of
• 44:52
  whether
• 44:52
  it's
• 44:53
  one
• 44:53
  parent
• 44:53
  or
• 44:53
  another.
• 44:54
  I
• 44:54
  think
• 44:54
  single
• 44:55
  parents
• 44:55
  take
• 44:55
  on
• 44:56
  so
• 44:56
  much
• 44:56
  both
• 44:57
  economically
• 44:58
  and
• 44:59
  in
• 44:59
  terms
• 44:59
  of
• 45:00
  the
• 45:00
  rearing
• 45:00
  of
• 45:00
  a
• 45:01
  child.
• 45:01
  That
• 45:01
  already
• 45:02
  is
• 45:02
  so
• 45:02
  much
• 45:02
  work.
• 45:03
  It's.
• 45:04
  And
• 45:04
  you
• 45:04
  might
• 45:05
  be
• 45:05
  working
• 45:05
  with
• 45:05
  fewer
• 45:06
  resources,
• 45:06
  both
• 45:06
  in
• 45:07
  terms
• 45:07
  of
• 45:07
  time
• 45:08
  and
• 45:09
  money.
• 45:10
  And
• 45:10
  it's
• 45:10
  like,
• 45:11
  it's.
• 45:11
  How
• 45:11
  do
• 45:12
  you
• 45:12
  do
• 45:12
  it?
• 45:12
  Yeah,
• 45:13
  you
• 45:13
  know,
• 45:13
  it's.
• 45:14
  It's
• 45:14
  harder.
• 45:15
  So
• 45:15
  they
• 45:15
  give
• 45:15
  you
• 45:15
  ideas
• 45:16
  for
• 45:16
  that.
• 45:16
  And
• 45:17
  they
• 45:17
  also
• 45:17
  talk
• 45:17
  about
• 45:18
  marriage.
• 45:18
  You
• 45:18
  know,
• 45:19
  if
• 45:19
  you're
• 45:19
  married,
• 45:20
  you
• 45:21
  know,
• 45:21
  how
• 45:21
  does
• 45:21
  this
• 45:22
  play
• 45:22
  out?
• 45:22
  There's
• 45:23
  a
• 45:23
  little
• 45:23
  bit
• 45:23
  about
• 45:23
  that.
• 45:24
  Not,
• 45:24
  not
• 45:24
  too
• 45:24
  much.
• 45:25
  But
• 45:26
  the
• 45:26
  bulk
• 45:26
  of
• 45:26
  the
• 45:27
  book
• 45:27
  is
• 45:27
  really
• 45:27
  all
• 45:27
  about
• 45:28
  children
• 45:28
  and,
• 45:29
  and,
• 45:29
  you
• 45:29
  know,
• 45:29
  speaking
• 45:30
  your
• 45:30
  child's
• 45:30
  love
• 45:30
  language
• 45:31
  and.
• 45:33
  Yeah.
• 45:33
  And
• 45:34
  it.
• 45:34
  And,
• 45:35
  you
• 45:35
  know,
• 45:35
  I
• 45:35
  thought,
• 45:35
  I.
• 45:36
  I
• 45:36
  mean,
• 45:37
  how
• 45:37
  can
• 45:37
  you
• 45:37
  argue
• 45:37
  with.
• 45:38
  You
• 45:38
  can't
• 45:39
  say,
• 45:39
  this
• 45:39
  is
• 45:39
  not
• 45:39
  good.
• 45:40
  This
• 45:40
  is
• 45:40
  good
• 45:41
  stuff.
• 45:41
  I
• 45:41
  mean,
• 45:41
  no
• 45:42
  question.
• 45:44
  Yeah.
• 45:44
  I
• 45:44
  mean,
• 45:45
  I
• 45:45
  have
• 45:45
  to
• 45:45
  say,
• 45:46
  I
• 45:46
  got
• 45:46
  a
• 45:46
  lot
• 45:46
  out
• 45:46
  of
• 45:46
  it.
• 45:46
  It's
• 45:47
  fast
• 45:47
  read.
• 45:49
  Yeah,
• 45:49
  it
• 45:49
  was
• 45:49
  a
• 45:49
  really
• 45:49
  fast
• 45:50
  read.
• 45:50
  Yeah.
• 45:51
  Very
• 45:51
  quick.
• 45:52
  This
• 45:52
  guy
• 45:53
  and
• 45:54
  gal,
• 45:54
  I
• 45:54
  think.
• 45:55
  I
• 45:55
  don't
• 45:55
  remember.
• 45:55
  No,
• 45:56
  two
• 45:56
  guys.
• 45:56
  Two
• 45:56
  guys.
• 45:56
  These
• 45:57
  two
• 45:57
  guys.
• 45:58
  These
• 45:58
  two
• 45:58
  guys.
• 45:58
  Guys
• 45:59
  didn't
• 46:00
  buy
• 46:00
  into
• 46:00
  the
• 46:01
  memo
• 46:01
  that
• 46:01
  a
• 46:01
  book
• 46:01
  needs
• 46:01
  to
• 46:02
  be
• 46:02
  300
• 46:02
  pages,
• 46:03
  which
• 46:03
  I
• 46:03
  appreciate
• 46:04
  because
• 46:04
  it
• 46:05
  seems
• 46:05
  like
• 46:05
  every
• 46:05
  other
• 46:06
  author
• 46:06
  got
• 46:06
  together
• 46:06
  and
• 46:06
  was
• 46:07
  like,
• 46:07
  you
• 46:07
  know,
• 46:07
  how
• 46:07
  long
• 46:07
  books
• 46:08
  should
• 46:08
  be?
• 46:08
  300
• 46:09
  pages,
• 46:09
  even
• 46:10
  if
• 46:10
  150
• 46:11
  of
• 46:11
  them
• 46:11
  are
• 46:11
  absolute
• 46:12
  filler.
• 46:13
  No,
• 46:13
  it's.
• 46:13
  I
• 46:14
  mean,
• 46:14
  you
• 46:14
  don't
• 46:14
  need
• 46:14
  that
• 46:15
  many
• 46:15
  pages
• 46:15
  to
• 46:16
  say
• 46:16
  what
• 46:16
  he
• 46:16
  said.
• 46:16
  Some
• 46:17
  would
• 46:17
  argue
• 46:17
  if
• 46:18
  you
• 46:18
  can
• 46:18
  tell
• 46:18
  the
• 46:18
  story
• 46:19
  in
• 46:19
  fewer
• 46:19
  pages,
• 46:20
  you're
• 46:20
  a
• 46:20
  better
• 46:20
  storyteller.
• 46:21
  I
• 46:21
  would
• 46:22
  argue
• 46:22
  that
• 46:23
  that's
• 46:23
  true.
• 46:25
  But
• 46:25
  anyway,
• 46:25
  so,
• 46:26
  I
• 46:26
  mean,
• 46:26
  I
• 46:26
  think,
• 46:26
  you
• 46:27
  know,
• 46:27
  I
• 46:27
  think
• 46:27
  you
• 46:27
  can
• 46:27
  get
• 46:28
  the
• 46:28
  gist
• 46:28
  of
• 46:28
  it
• 46:28
  by
• 46:28
  what
• 46:29
  we
• 46:29
  just
• 46:29
  said.
• 46:29
  But
• 46:29
  if.
• 46:30
  If
• 46:30
  you
• 46:30
  really
• 46:31
  wanna
• 46:31
  dig
• 46:31
  in,
• 46:32
  read
• 46:32
  the
• 46:32
  book.
• 46:33
  Dig
• 46:33
  in.
• 46:34
  Dig
• 46:34
  in
• 46:34
  to
• 46:35
  the
• 46:35
  languages.
• 46:36
  We
• 46:36
  could
• 46:36
  read
• 46:37
  the
• 46:37
  book.
• 46:37
  Absolutely.
• 46:38
  But
• 46:39
  it's
• 46:40
  a
• 46:40
  good
• 46:40
  message,
• 46:41
  a
• 46:41
  positive
• 46:42
  message,
• 46:42
  and
• 46:44
  I
• 46:44
  think
• 46:45
  good
• 46:45
  advice
• 46:45
  on
• 46:45
  helping
• 46:46
  your
• 46:46
  child
• 46:47
  and
• 46:47
  knowing.
• 46:48
  It
• 46:48
  never
• 46:48
  even
• 46:49
  occurred
• 46:49
  to
• 46:49
  me,
• 46:49
  I
• 46:49
  have
• 46:50
  to
• 46:50
  say,
• 46:50
  as
• 46:50
  a
• 46:50
  parent,
• 46:52
  that
• 46:52
  there
• 46:52
  was
• 46:52
  a
• 46:52
  special
• 46:53
  way
• 46:53
  I
• 46:53
  should
• 46:53
  have
• 46:53
  loved
• 46:54
  each
• 46:54
  of
• 46:54
  you,
• 46:55
  and
• 46:55
  maybe
• 46:55
  I
• 46:56
  should
• 46:56
  have
• 46:56
  loved
• 46:56
  you
• 46:57
  differently
• 46:57
  or
• 46:57
  expressed
• 46:58
  my
• 46:58
  love
• 46:58
  in
• 46:58
  a
• 46:58
  different
• 46:59
  way.
• 46:59
  I
• 46:59
  had
• 46:59
  no
• 46:59
  idea
• 47:00
  about
• 47:00
  that.
• 47:00
  That.
• 47:01
  Did
• 47:01
  you?
• 47:01
  I
• 47:02
  mean.
• 47:02
  Well,
• 47:02
  I
• 47:02
  only
• 47:02
  have
• 47:03
  one
• 47:03
  kid.
• 47:03
  Right.
• 47:04
  So.
• 47:04
  Well,
• 47:05
  that's
• 47:05
  not
• 47:05
  true.
• 47:05
  Well,
• 47:05
  I
• 47:06
  have
• 47:06
  one
• 47:06
  human
• 47:06
  child.
• 47:07
  Well,
• 47:07
  you
• 47:07
  have
• 47:07
  dogs,
• 47:08
  and
• 47:08
  I
• 47:08
  have
• 47:08
  two
• 47:08
  dogs
• 47:09
  and
• 47:09
  a
• 47:09
  cat.
• 47:09
  And
• 47:09
  they
• 47:10
  all
• 47:10
  require
• 47:10
  very
• 47:11
  different
• 47:11
  forms
• 47:12
  of
• 47:12
  attention.
• 47:12
  There
• 47:13
  you
• 47:13
  go.
• 47:13
  So,
• 47:14
  you
• 47:15
  know,
• 47:15
  I'm.
• 47:16
  I'm
• 47:16
  learning.
• 47:17
  You're.
• 47:17
  Yeah,
• 47:17
  exactly.
• 47:18
  But
• 47:18
  it
• 47:18
  never
• 47:19
  occurred
• 47:19
  to
• 47:19
  me
• 47:19
  as
• 47:19
  a
• 47:20
  mom.
• 47:20
  Yeah.
• 47:20
  That
• 47:21
  I.
• 47:21
  A
• 47:21
  mom
• 47:21
  of
• 47:21
  people.
• 47:22
  A
• 47:22
  mom
• 47:22
  of
• 47:23
  people.
• 47:24
  That.
• 47:25
  That.
• 47:26
  That
• 47:26
  you.
• 47:26
  I
• 47:27
  knew
• 47:27
  you
• 47:27
  needed
• 47:27
  different
• 47:28
  things,
• 47:28
  and
• 47:29
  I.
• 47:29
  And
• 47:29
  I
• 47:29
  always
• 47:30
  tried
• 47:30
  to
• 47:30
  give
• 47:31
  you
• 47:31
  the
• 47:31
  things.
• 47:33
  And,
• 47:33
  you
• 47:33
  know.
• 47:34
  And
• 47:34
  you
• 47:34
  guys
• 47:34
  used
• 47:34
  to
• 47:35
  argue
• 47:35
  with
• 47:35
  me,
• 47:35
  which
• 47:35
  kids
• 47:36
  will
• 47:36
  do
• 47:36
  that?
• 47:37
  Oh,
• 47:37
  that's
• 47:37
  not
• 47:37
  fair.
• 47:38
  He
• 47:38
  got
• 47:39
  this.
• 47:39
  She
• 47:39
  got
• 47:39
  that.
• 47:40
  Kids
• 47:40
  have
• 47:40
  such
• 47:40
  an
• 47:41
  intense
• 47:42
  response
• 47:43
  to
• 47:43
  fairness.
• 47:43
  Fairness
• 47:44
  and
• 47:44
  justice.
• 47:44
  They're
• 47:45
  obsessed
• 47:45
  with
• 47:45
  fairness
• 47:45
  and
• 47:45
  justice.
• 47:46
  They
• 47:46
  really
• 47:46
  are.
• 47:46
  And
• 47:47
  you
• 47:47
  have
• 47:47
  to.
• 47:47
  It's
• 47:47
  a
• 47:48
  big
• 47:48
  thing
• 47:48
  to
• 47:48
  explain
• 47:49
  to
• 47:49
  them
• 47:49
  that
• 47:49
  treating
• 47:50
  your
• 47:50
  kids
• 47:50
  equally
• 47:51
  doesn't
• 47:51
  mean
• 47:52
  you
• 47:52
  always
• 47:52
  get
• 47:53
  the
• 47:53
  same
• 47:53
  thing.
• 47:53
  Yes.
• 47:54
  You
• 47:54
  know,
• 47:54
  that.
• 47:54
  That.
• 47:55
  What's
• 47:55
  the
• 47:55
  phrase?
• 47:56
  There's
• 47:56
  equality
• 47:57
  and
• 47:57
  then
• 47:57
  there's
• 47:57
  equity.
• 47:59
  It's
• 47:59
  more
• 47:59
  like
• 48:00
  equity.
• 48:00
  It's
• 48:00
  like
• 48:01
  you
• 48:01
  do
• 48:01
  the
• 48:01
  right
• 48:01
  thing
• 48:02
  for
• 48:02
  each
• 48:02
  child.
• 48:03
  But
• 48:04
  it
• 48:04
  never
• 48:04
  occurred
• 48:04
  to
• 48:05
  me
• 48:05
  that
• 48:05
  loving
• 48:06
  you
• 48:07
  differently.
• 48:07
  I
• 48:07
  remember
• 48:08
  at
• 48:08
  Christmas,
• 48:09
  though,
• 48:10
  you
• 48:10
  guys
• 48:11
  were
• 48:11
  so
• 48:11
  different
• 48:12
  in
• 48:12
  your
• 48:12
  desires
• 48:13
  for
• 48:13
  Christmas
• 48:13
  gifts
• 48:15
  that
• 48:16
  Sam
• 48:17
  always
• 48:17
  wanted
• 48:17
  one
• 48:18
  big
• 48:18
  great
• 48:18
  gift.
• 48:19
  And
• 48:20
  you
• 48:20
  wanted
• 48:20
  as
• 48:21
  many
• 48:21
  gifts
• 48:21
  as
• 48:21
  you
• 48:22
  could
• 48:22
  get.
• 48:22
  And
• 48:23
  so
• 48:23
  we
• 48:23
  would
• 48:24
  buy
• 48:24
  like,
• 48:25
  you
• 48:25
  know,
• 48:25
  50
• 48:26
  cheap
• 48:27
  presents
• 48:27
  for
• 48:27
  you,
• 48:28
  wrap
• 48:28
  each
• 48:28
  and
• 48:28
  every
• 48:29
  one,
• 48:29
  wrapped
• 48:29
  everyone.
• 48:30
  And
• 48:30
  your
• 48:31
  pleasure
• 48:31
  was
• 48:32
  opening
• 48:32
  50
• 48:33
  presents.
• 48:34
  Whereas
• 48:34
  of
• 48:35
  junk
• 48:36
  that
• 48:36
  all
• 48:36
  got
• 48:36
  thrown
• 48:37
  away.
• 48:37
  I
• 48:37
  mean,
• 48:38
  ultimately,
• 48:38
  live
• 48:38
  and
• 48:39
  learn.
• 48:39
  I
• 48:39
  know
• 48:40
  you
• 48:40
  grew
• 48:41
  up,
• 48:41
  you
• 48:41
  changed.
• 48:41
  But
• 48:42
  anyway,
• 48:43
  Sam
• 48:43
  wanted
• 48:43
  one
• 48:44
  big
• 48:44
  thing.
• 48:44
  He's
• 48:45
  always
• 48:45
  been
• 48:45
  so
• 48:45
  wise.
• 48:47
  I
• 48:47
  bet
• 48:47
  he
• 48:47
  still
• 48:48
  has
• 48:48
  most
• 48:48
  of
• 48:48
  the
• 48:48
  things
• 48:49
  that
• 48:49
  he
• 48:49
  got.
• 48:49
  I
• 48:50
  have
• 48:50
  no
• 48:50
  idea.
• 48:51
  But
• 48:51
  anyway,
• 48:52
  it
• 48:52
  just
• 48:52
  goes
• 48:52
  to
• 48:52
  you
• 48:53
  do
• 48:53
  treat
• 48:53
  your
• 48:53
  children
• 48:53
  differently,
• 48:55
  and
• 48:55
  you
• 48:55
  should
• 48:55
  be
• 48:55
  maybe
• 48:56
  be
• 48:56
  loving
• 48:56
  your
• 48:56
  children
• 48:57
  differently
• 48:57
  or
• 48:58
  expressing
• 48:58
  your
• 48:58
  love
• 48:59
  differently.
• 48:59
  And
• 48:59
  that's
• 49:00
  really
• 49:00
  what
• 49:00
  this
• 49:00
  book
• 49:00
  says.
• 49:01
  Yes.
• 49:02
  So
• 49:02
  would
• 49:02
  recommend.
• 49:03
  Yeah,
• 49:03
  I
• 49:04
  mean,
• 49:04
  I
• 49:04
  would
• 49:05
  recommend
• 49:05
  it
• 49:05
  or
• 49:05
  I
• 49:06
  would
• 49:06
  listen
• 49:06
  to
• 49:07
  this
• 49:07
  podcast.
• 49:07
  Yeah,
• 49:08
  just
• 49:08
  do
• 49:08
  it.
• 49:08
  You
• 49:08
  get
• 49:08
  the
• 49:08
  gist.
• 49:09
  Just
• 49:09
  do
• 49:09
  it.
• 49:10
  But
• 49:11
  you
• 49:11
  can
• 49:11
  read
• 49:11
  it
• 49:11
  too,
• 49:12
  if
• 49:12
  you
• 49:12
  want
• 49:12
  to.
• 49:13
  Your
• 49:13
  call.
• 49:13
  Your
• 49:14
  call.
• 49:14
  Well,
• 49:14
  anyway,
• 49:15
  thank
• 49:15
  you
• 49:15
  so
• 49:15
  much
• 49:15
  for
• 49:16
  joining
• 49:16
  us
• 49:16
  for
• 49:16
  this
• 49:16
  episode
• 49:17
  of
• 49:17
  Other
• 49:17
  People's
• 49:17
  Parenting,
• 49:18
  and
• 49:18
  we
• 49:18
  hope
• 49:18
  to
• 49:18
  see
• 49:19
  you
• 49:19
  next
• 49:19
  week.