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- 0:00Erin Gray: Today on the podcast, I wanted to share a journal entry that I have actually written.
- 0:06Erin Gray: That was something that I was going through.
- 0:08Erin Gray: It was either last week or the week before, but I wanted to share it because I know that obviously, this is something that continues to come up for me.
- 0:16Erin Gray: I see it in my clients, I see it in other people that I talk to, I see it just out in the world and I wanted to share this allure of money and we have been led to believe, at least in the Western society I think it's pretty prominent in the world, but definitely in the Western society we have been led to believe that money is this holy grail, it is this promise like that.
- 0:44Erin Gray: Once you get it, then all of your problems are going to go away, all of the feelings that you don't want to feel um are going to be magically gone.
- 0:54Erin Gray: And it's so easy to get pulled in um by this idea that the more money that we will make, then we'll actually feel safe, we'll feel free, we'll feel whole.
- 1:06Erin Gray: And what I have realized myself in clients and people that are extremely wealthy and this isn't to like blanket everyone right, but it's it's for people that are, that have money that haven't taken care of or addressed I don't want to say taken care of, haven't addressed some of these deeper I don't want to say taken care of, haven't addressed some of these deeper seated emotions that we are feeling.
- 1:29Erin Gray: That you know, once we finally have this, this money that we are, after that everything is going to be, you know, rainbows and daisies, and what I have recognized is it's just not true.
- 1:44Erin Gray: So today I am getting even more vulnerable or more intimate than I typically am, and I'm going to share a journal entry that I recently wrote about how money can subtly I don't want to say how money can do this how we, based on our consciousness and what we are feeling, how we can subtly allow money to pull us away from our hearts and our innate sovereignty and our innate power.
- 2:15Erin Gray: So, as you are listening to this, if you are resonating with this and it is speaking to your heart and this is something that has been on your heart for a while that you want to stop outsourcing your power to money, to other people, and really start to create and have a relationship with money that feels safe and empowering and aligned with your values, let's see if we are a good fit for each other to schedule some time with me.
- 2:46Erin Gray: You can just click on the link in the show notes.
- 2:48Erin Gray: Okay, so let me read my journal entry.
- 2:52Erin Gray: And this happened.
- 2:53Erin Gray: Let me just set up the scene.
- 2:54Erin Gray: This happened after I had had a conversation with someone who was going to help me grow my podcast also my YouTube channel, and really expand my reach.
- 3:06Erin Gray: Because I do believe to the depths of my soul and I'll probably cry multiple times while this episode, but I believe to the depths of my soul that I came here to have my experiences with money early on in my childhood, so that I could transform them and I could obviously change them within myself and I could help them.
- 3:28Erin Gray: I could help other people do the same and by doing that as a collective, we would be changing the way that people think about money, because I think as a collective.
- 3:38Erin Gray: I don't want to make a blanket statement, but I think a lot of us think that money is a bad thing and I don't think that.
- 3:43Erin Gray: I think that money has gotten in the hands of humans with a lower consciousness and I truly believe that I am here to reshape the way that we think about money and moving from a frequency of love and to allow it to expand our lives and to share it and to give it and to circulate it from a place of love and joy and freedom and peace and safety.
- 4:10Erin Gray: And so I say all that to say I want to increase my reach and my discoverability with people so that they can hear my message.
- 4:25Erin Gray: So I had this conversation with this gentleman and I had already kind of prefaced the meeting of like I don't want to follow the way that maybe most people have done it, so if that's something that you are kind of going down that route, let's just not even have the call, and he assured me that that would not be the case.
- 4:45Erin Gray: So, as we were kind of diving into how he helps clients grow their podcast, their YouTube channel and things that he does, there were some things in there that, while I was on the call with him, in my body it did not feel good, it felt like a compromise, and I saw that happening.
- 5:07Erin Gray: Like my awareness is there where I saw that, and I just asked him point blank because I think it's.
- 5:12Erin Gray: I think it's a very the word that is coming to me is wise, but that's not necessarily the word I want to use.
- 5:18Erin Gray: It is a very, totally fine like business practice to you know, like what are, what is the person's values?
- 5:23Erin Gray: Or like you know, I don't want him to change his business practice just because this me, his client, is like I'm not going to do it that way, right?
- 5:30Erin Gray: So if that is how he likes to run his business, then he needs to continue to run his business that way.
- 5:36Erin Gray: So he, I asked that question and he was very upfront.
- 5:39Erin Gray: He was like listen for me to actually tell you that it's actually going to work and there's a whole mindset thing around this.
- 5:44Erin Gray: But that might be a whole nother podcast for another time, but in order for me to tell you that you know what, there will be success with this.
- 5:51Erin Gray: This is the way that we suggest to do it.
- 5:53Erin Gray: And in my body it did not feel good.
- 5:55Erin Gray: So I never make decisions on calls.
- 5:58Erin Gray: I always just like to ride my wave and I said, okay, thanks for this.
- 6:01Erin Gray: I'm going to ponder this, I'll get back to you.
- 6:02Erin Gray: But there was something that happened within me that clearly that there was almost like this tug of war of like, where I saw my mind like noticing that I could do it, I could compromise myself, because it would get me to where I was ultimately going, but it would be at the expense of some of my and I'll just tell you like he wanted me to be on, like all the social media channels, and I was like no, like I don't want to do that, and so I.
- 6:38Erin Gray: One of the ways that I think that I have now processed things is there are tears that come up, that there is a release, and I was noticing this tug of war in my body.
- 6:43Erin Gray: I was noticing what my mind was saying.
- 6:44Erin Gray: I was noticing what my heart and my body was saying, and they weren't in congruent with each other.
- 6:49Erin Gray: And I think you know, if you are in this space, or when this does happen to you, I want to just offer to you to give yourself compassion, because those are the times that we need it the most, because if we take action when we're kind of in that gray area, the the results that we are going to get is not going to be what we want.
- 7:11Erin Gray: So, instead of just pushing through, not allowing your emotions, I want to encourage you to slow down and to really just feel and process what needed to be felt.
- 7:21Erin Gray: So I did have some time in my calendar and I allowed myself to cry and I allowed myself to journal on what was coming up and I want to read to you what came through the allure of money.
- 7:36Erin Gray: It's easy to get distracted when the promises of more money are thrown your way.
- 7:40Erin Gray: It's a slippery slope if you aren't aware of what you are doing.
- 7:43Erin Gray: It's enticing, it's illustrious.
- 7:46Erin Gray: It slowly pulls you in because we have all been led to believe that money is the holy grail.
- 7:51Erin Gray: We have been taught that once you have it and have a lot of it all of the feelings that we have been running from our entire life will be gone.
- 7:59Erin Gray: It becomes this drug that we can't quit and so, slowly and surely, we sell a little piece of our heart and our soul for it.
- 8:08Erin Gray: And at first we don't notice because we get that dopamine hit we were so desperately craving.
- 8:14Erin Gray: But little by little we wake up one day and we don't recognize how we got there.
- 8:19Erin Gray: But if we were to slow down and really give it some thought?
- 8:23Erin Gray: We got here by ignoring our hearts.
- 8:25Erin Gray: We got here by listening to our minds over our bodies.
- 8:30Erin Gray: We got here by outsourcing our power.
- 8:33Erin Gray: So that just kind of came to me.
- 8:36Erin Gray: I was just like you know I was feeling that I needed to cry, I was feeling that I needed to process some of this and then it just like flowed out of me and it was.
- 8:43Erin Gray: You know I have and I've told people this before like in years past, I have sold my soul for money.
- 8:49Erin Gray: I have done things that, even though I was good at it, wasn't a full heart's desire, and I think when we come from that place, we can never truly feel fulfillment.
- 9:00Erin Gray: So I think a lot of us, right, like we don't set out to trade our peace and our values and our joy for money.
- 9:11Erin Gray: Right, this happens in such tiny ways, right A little bit at a time.
- 9:17Erin Gray: You know, like I didn't start out with, like I always wanted to help people and serve people and make a lot of money.
- 9:23Erin Gray: But I do recognize the positions that I've been in.
- 9:27Erin Gray: They have come from a place of okay, well, I'll just work a little bit more or I'll just do, you know it's it's more so around working harder, um, maybe not doing.
- 9:41Erin Gray: I loved financial planning, like I loved being with my clients.
- 9:44Erin Gray: I didn't work like working all of the hours.
- 9:46Erin Gray: Um, even in my family's construction business, I absolutely loved parts of the business and there were parts that I just didn't like doing and I felt like I had to.
- 9:57Erin Gray: I didn't have the courage back then to say, no, I'm not going to do that, because of who it might disappoint, or who might put extra effort or work on someone else, or who might had to been hired.
- 10:09Erin Gray: And so when I say compromise, what I, what I think about is compromise, is like creating a piece of ourselves, of of of who we are, of our values, you know, and it and it happens in these very subtle ways.
- 10:24Erin Gray: So it might look like working with a client that you don't necessarily feel aligned with.
- 10:30Erin Gray: Like one of the things I always ask myself is do I actually want to work with this client?
- 10:35Erin Gray: And if the answer is no, then I will tell them that.
- 10:39Erin Gray: So it's not just are they looking to hire me?
- 10:43Erin Gray: It's am I looking to want to work with them as well?
- 10:46Erin Gray: Right, maybe it looks like you're staying in a job.
- 10:49Erin Gray: If you're currently at a job where you know it may, it pays you really well, but it's not something that you really want to do, but you're like, oh, but the money's so great, then ponder that.
- 11:02Erin Gray: And I'm not.
- 11:03Erin Gray: I think everyone has their place, everyone has their own journey.
- 11:09Erin Gray: What I mean by that is is you have to, like I recognized that I didn't want to buy my family's company, and that was also a process for me to.
- 11:20Erin Gray: There was some time involved before I unwound it, right?
- 11:23Erin Gray: So it wasn't like I woke up one night, one day, whatever.
- 11:26Erin Gray: And I decided, okay, I'm not going to buy the company and boom, I'm done, I'm not going to buy the company and boom, I'm done, I'm not working for you either.
- 11:31Erin Gray: Right, there was this progression for me, and so I think sometimes some people can hear that and they can think, oh gosh, like, this isn't what I want to do, um, and I'm still staying in it.
- 11:43Erin Gray: I think there's there's beauty in awareness.
- 11:47Erin Gray: Right, there's beauty in oh, this did show me that this isn't what I want to do long-term.
- 11:52Erin Gray: That is amazing, and you can also be working towards what you want to do while this job is allowing you to fund your current family and things of that sort.
- 12:06Erin Gray: So I'm not an advocate of of like.
- 12:09Erin Gray: I have this awareness and I'm just going to go make these decisions.
- 12:12Erin Gray: I really think you've got to give yourself time and your nervous system and whatever time means to you.
- 12:17Erin Gray: Right.
- 12:17Erin Gray: Time is is not even a thing, right.
- 12:20Erin Gray: So time for you might be weeks, it might be months, who knows?
- 12:24Erin Gray: But give yourself the time and the introspection to really ponder this.
- 12:31Erin Gray: So, if we are saying yes to things but our body or our intuition or what I say, you know, sometimes our gut is saying no to, we have to really stop and think.
- 12:42Erin Gray: If we're saying yes because of the money, we have to really start to question what are those beliefs that we have underneath there that are creating us to say yes, because ultimately, that is coming from a lack place, right?
- 12:55Erin Gray: If we believe that we could have what we wanted in the way that we wanted, we wouldn't say yes to the thing.
- 13:01Erin Gray: Let my journal entry allow you to connect to yourself deeper, right?
- 13:07Erin Gray: Um, if, if I'm willing to show up and be intimate and be honest and vulnerable about what I'm experiencing, I never I hope I hope I never like come off with like I've got it all figured out because I don't right.
- 13:22Erin Gray: I'm continuing to be in this work and to up-level and to see where those old beliefs come up, but the thing that I have gotten better with is I notice them quicker now and wherever you are in your journey.
- 13:38Erin Gray: It's totally okay, but I do recognize them and I'm able to kind of stop them in a much shorter time than I used to.
- 13:48Erin Gray: I want you to know that money never does anything to us.
- 13:51Erin Gray: Money just is and you've heard me talk about this on previous podcast episodes it's like I really believe that money came from God, from the divine, like, yes, man created it, but where do we get all of our ideas from?
- 14:04Erin Gray: It's ultimately God, right, because we are God.
- 14:06Erin Gray: God is within us.
- 14:07Erin Gray: That is what I believe, and it is meant to be a tool.
- 14:11Erin Gray: It is meant to be this beautiful thing that we get to use, not to have to master us, right, like we are meant to use it as a tool, not for it to allow it to control us.
- 14:25Erin Gray: And that all starts with inside of us.
- 14:27Erin Gray: You know, when we come back home to our bodies, when we come back home to our hearts, when we reclaim the power that we have had all along, you know we stop outsourcing it to money.
- 14:39Erin Gray: You know we start using money as a tool, not using it or thinking about it and putting it up on this pedestal.
- 14:46Erin Gray: So I hope this one resonates with you.
- 14:49Erin Gray: I am always rooting for you.
- 14:52Erin Gray: I appreciate the time that you spend with me every week and if this is something that you want support with, I would love to to guide you and to support you along the way.
- 15:04Erin Gray: You can definitely do this on your own and it's a lot of fun when you get to do it with someone else.
- 15:10Erin Gray: So I'll put the link in the show notes and until next time, you know, tune into your heart, tune into your body.
- 15:17Erin Gray: Give yourself the time and space.
- 15:19Erin Gray: Okay, I'll see you next episode.