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this mental health advice changed my life · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  About a year ago, I reached the lowest place that I've ever been
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  mentally, and I didn't pull myself out in Leaps and Bounds.
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  I didn't jump out of this mental health hole that I was in.
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  No, I crawled out one inch at a time day by day, in Moment by
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  moment and that is the best mental health advice that I have
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  ever received. Hey there, and welcome back to
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  feel your feelings with me. Ethan Jewel.
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  This is a podcast. I started all about mental
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  health, and mental health awareness.
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  Now, I'm not a doctor or a psychologist.
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  A psychiatrist or professional in the mental health field
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  whatsoever. I'm just a guy who has felt some
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  big feelings who has talked to people with big feelings and
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  wants to create a platform to start the conversation around
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  mental health. So thank you so much for tuning
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  in and together. Let's feel some feelings.
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  Now, I just got done with a 16 hour road trip in one day
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  started at five in the morning, just got home at 11 p.m.
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  And the first thing I decided that I want to do is sit down
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  and record this podcast because during this drive, it got me
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  thinking, I took this drive with one other friend and throughout
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  the journey we decided to switch off driving every four hours in
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  order to take the drive in bite-size pieces in manageable
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  pieces instead of going eight hours and eight.
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  Hours to drive the 16 hours. We decided to go for and then 4,
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  and then 4, and then 4. And this made it a lot easier.
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  In fact, I'm able to sit down and record a vodcast after 16
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  hours of straight, driving, because of that.
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  Now, I'm always looking for metaphors and things.
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  I think it's just the poet in me.
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  And I'm always looking for things that I can relate to
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  mental health and this drive as cheesy as it sounds can relate
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  to a topic that I want to talk about today, and that is taking
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  your mental health recovery in your mental health Journey.
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  Me in bite-sized chunks and in baby steps, you see, mental
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  health recovery and trying to grow in mental.
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  Health is a difficult and delicate process and there's no
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  one right way to do it for everybody.
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  Everybody kind of has to figure out their own path and what
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  works for them. However, one thing that I know
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  helps, because I've seen other people do it, and I've read
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  studies about this and I've experienced it.
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  Myself is taking bite-sized, chunks of recovery and going one
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  day, at a time in the same way. That I would have gotten
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  exhausted. If I had to drive eight hours
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  straight today, if you take on a giant task of self growth, and
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  mental health, recovery and try to start working out and
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  journaling, and going to therapy and going out with friends more
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  in this in this Everything at Once to try to improve your
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  mental health and improve your life, you will become exhausted.
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  And what we must do is focus on small steps.
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  You see the way that humans inherently learn think of the
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  phrase, do it in baby steps, a baby learning.
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  To walk is a perfect display of how humans learn in the best way
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  possible. It's by doing it a little bit at
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  a time, a baby crawls. And then it's stumbles and it's
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  slowly Works its way up to walking little tiny baby steps
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  before it is able to fully walk. We can apply this to anything
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  that we are learning how to do. It's unfair to expect yourself
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  to be able to dive headfirst into your mental health Journey
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  when you are inexperienced. So, the best thing you can do
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  for yourself. To take baby steps to go one
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  step at a time. You have to section your self
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  care and Mental Health Care into segments that you can handle do.
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  Whatever is manageable push yourself when possible but do
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  what you can a little bit is better than nothing.
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  So what does this look like in reality?
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  Let's say you're struggling with depression and getting out of
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  bed and brushing your teeth at night or in the morning is
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  difficult. Well, in that case, start with
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  mouthwash, if you can get up and swish some mouthwash wash around
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  your mouth, that's better than nothing at all.
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  If you're struggling to get out of bed but want to go to the gym
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  instead, just get out of bed and take a few steps around your
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  room. That's better than nothing at
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  all. Small steps are how we begin to
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  be successful. It's within our nature.
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  It's within our instincts. It's how we learn.
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  So, to better display this, I want to share with you my own
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  journey and how I got started in mental health growth.
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  Now once again, I'm not a professional, I'm 20 years.
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  And I've only been doing this for three or four years, I've
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  only really been focusing on mental health, and mental health
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  awareness, for three or four years.
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  However, this is what has worked for me.
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  And I've seen it work for other people.
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  I started small first, I started working on my inner awareness
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  and it was as simple as identifying.
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  A feeling when it came up, if I started feeling irritated or
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  down or depressed or angry, I would identify that feeling and
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  figure out why I was feeling it. I began to slowly learn about
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  Out my feelings before I did anything about them.
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  Then, as I was struggling with depression, I thought that I had
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  to go to therapy and I had to go to the gym and I had to journal
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  and I had to write and I had to create poetry and Ida create art
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  and that was the only way for me to get over this depression.
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  However, what helped me the most was simply getting outside of my
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  house and that's what I began to do on days were doing anything
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  else. Sounded too overwhelming or too
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  daunting. I would put in my headphones.
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  I would put in music that I enjoyed And I would walk for
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  maybe 5 or 10 minutes. This would physically remove me
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  from that state. It would physically remove me
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  from my depression room and bed and it would simply get me
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  moving. And that was my first step.
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  My next step was then talking to my friends and family about my
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  mental health and understanding that my next step was writing
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  poetry and further understanding myself in the inner workings of
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  my brain. And then after that, I went to
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  therapy after that, I began to develop techniques to combat
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  Myself down and help deal with depressive episodes and I
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  figured out what works for me. And at the end of the day that
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  has to be your goal, you have to take baby steps One Day at a
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  Time. Start small, start with the
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  smallest task of self-care and self-discovery and self growth
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  that you possibly can start tiny.
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  So small that it feels silly to even do and make it a habit.
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  And then grow on that habit, figure out what the next step is
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  how it helps you win. Helps you why?
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  It helps you and expand on it. Create a routine.
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  This is how we can help deal with mental illnesses.
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  Is this a guaranteed cure? Absolutely not.
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  But life isn't about curing our problems often.
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  We have to struggle and fight with our mental health, for our
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  whole lives. But what we must do is
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  understand the things that we struggle with understand how to
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  deal with them and be able to counteract them as much as
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  possible. It's an act of fight in the only
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  way that you can begin to fight it is through baby steps.
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  I know recovery sounds overwhelming taking those first
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  steps is terrifying, but anyone can do it and I know you are
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  capable. So I challenge you starting
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  today. Find one, tiny minuscule piece
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  of self-care that you can do to make a part of your regular
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  routine. If you can commit to that, if
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  you can make yourself commit to one tiny task, Then eventually
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  you will be able to commit to an entire routine that has the
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  potential to change your life and trust me.
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  It changed mine, that's going to wrap it up for today's episode.
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  Thank you so much for tuning in and being here with me today, if
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  you need help, feeling your feelings, please check out my
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  music on all platforms. Ethan Jewel, it's raw, emotional
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  spoken, word, poetry that will speak directly to your heart.
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  Please send me a message on my Instagram at Jewel, boy
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  underscore. And tell me what you thought
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  about today's episode. So, please take care of
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  yourself. Thank you so much for being
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  here. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.
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  And tell me what you thought about today's episode.
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  So, please take care of yourself.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
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  I'll see you next time.