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Romeo In The Morning 6-17-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: I was going on as Romeo, and we got into
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  Speaker 1: a subject about marriage and sex and the marriage was
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  Speaker 1: going through a sexless marriage and how to spice up
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  Speaker 1: your marriage when you're having some rough times in the bedroom.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what we talked about. Father's Day is coming.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to be on this Sunday. Right. I was
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  Speaker 1: talking to a friend of mine yesterday. We all we
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  Speaker 1: were out having a couple of drinks and we were
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  Speaker 1: all talking about Father's Day. Neil, what do you want
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  Speaker 1: to do for Father's Day?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: His wife was asking him, and he goes, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: don't really want to do anything. Just stay at home.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we'll have dinner, just a normal day. Well,
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  Speaker 1: the wife, his wife and the kids actually want to
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  Speaker 1: do something for him more than just stay at home
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  Speaker 1: because he is a I mean, he's a great dad,
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  Speaker 1: works hard, and they just, for some reason in their mind,
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  Speaker 1: their idea of a great Father's Day for him is
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  Speaker 1: to go out, you know, get something to eat, go
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  Speaker 1: out and do something as a family. Right, you go
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  Speaker 1: to the movies, go to the boulevard, go to whatever,
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  Speaker 1: just do something together. Right. He doesn't really want to
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  Speaker 1: do that. He just kind of wants to stay home
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  Speaker 1: and hang out. So here's my question you, and this
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  Speaker 1: was the conversation we're having yesterday was whose Father's Day?
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  Speaker 2: For?
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  Speaker 1: Whose Mother's Day? For Who's your birthday? For? Who's your
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  Speaker 1: anniversary for? I mean, all of these special occasions that
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  Speaker 1: come up, Yeah, your birthday. At what point is it
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  Speaker 1: about you and what you want as opposed to about
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  Speaker 1: everybody else and what they want? Because really the conversation
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  Speaker 1: yesterday for him was he It was about what they
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  Speaker 1: wanted to do with the justification of for him, right,
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  Speaker 1: So what are you supposed to do about that? You know,
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  Speaker 1: at what point or is there any occasion that is
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  Speaker 1: supposed to be about you? But yet everybody else is
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  Speaker 1: making it about themselves under the you know, under this
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  Speaker 1: idea of oh no, we're doing it for you. What
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  Speaker 1: do you do already? Four two, five, four or seven seven?
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  Speaker 1: Who gets to make the decision? You know? It's like
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  Speaker 1: they always say, a funeral is not for the dead,
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  Speaker 1: it's for the living, for them to feel better and celebrate.
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  Speaker 1: And however they you know, to mourn and feel better. So,
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  Speaker 1: which is all understandable, But for Father's Day, is it
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  Speaker 1: about what the family wants to do for him because
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  Speaker 1: they have an idea of what they should do for him,
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  Speaker 1: even though he has a different idea of what he
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  Speaker 1: wants to do. How does that work? What about your birthday?
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  Speaker 1: What about Mother's Day? What about your anniversary? I mean,
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  Speaker 1: at what point do you get to decide what you
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  Speaker 1: want to do for an occasion that's supposed to be
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  Speaker 1: about you, not other people? Already? Four two, five, four
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  Speaker 1: or seven to seven? What do you guys think?
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  Speaker 2: Hey, what's up? Room man? We got that same thing
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  Speaker 2: going out of my house and it's to two events.
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  Speaker 2: My daughter turned one of them, turned me twenty one,
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  Speaker 2: and she wants a basic party. She live at the
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean? She wants stuff like that,
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  Speaker 2: and my wife's like, no, we gotta do this, bab,
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  Speaker 2: it's her birthday, but she wants She's like that, I
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  Speaker 2: don't want all these cano feeds and all this. Do
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean? I just want to base
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  Speaker 2: a party, Okay, cool, Well, Father's Day. They're talking about
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  Speaker 2: Father's Day, roam. I just want to throw some meat
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  Speaker 2: under some ribs and trachip on the grill and drink
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  Speaker 2: me a cold beer at home. Okay, you know what
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  Speaker 2: I mean? And they're like, no, Dad, we should go
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  Speaker 2: out to a restaurant. We should go We want to
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  Speaker 2: do this. They want to make this, And I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: why would you guys want to make spaghetti if I
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  Speaker 2: don't even like spaghetti? You know what I mean? Like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, did you let me barbie there? But Dad,
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  Speaker 2: but we want to Okay, tell us what you want
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  Speaker 2: us to cook and we'll cook it for you. I
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  Speaker 2: want to go on a barbecue grill and enjoy night
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  Speaker 2: cool beer and cook me some track tips and some rips.
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  Speaker 2: And they're bumped about it. And I don't know, but
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  Speaker 2: that's what I enjoy doing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I enjoy doing it. Pluck. I'm being a
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  Speaker 2: father and I'm still cooking for my family and I
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  Speaker 2: enjoy it. Okay, So you know what I mean. I'm like, dude, like,
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  Speaker 2: is it is it your guy this day? Or is
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  Speaker 2: it Father's Day? And that's the only day we really
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  Speaker 2: get room, you know what I mean? Because even my birthday,
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  Speaker 2: they do what they want to celebrate, you know what
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  Speaker 2: I mean.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. At what point do you are
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  Speaker 1: you doing it for for whoever the occasion is for?
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  Speaker 1: For yourself?
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. So I'm holding my ground. Now, We'll putting my
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  Speaker 2: fourtune in foot on the ground, and I'm saying, you
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  Speaker 2: know what, I'm throwing my meat on the ground. If
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  Speaker 2: they want to go out, they can go out.
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  Speaker 1: If they want to go without me, that's fine.
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  Speaker 2: I'm perfectly fine. I'll just sit there and enjoy my
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  Speaker 2: whole beer and me and my dog and we'll be
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  Speaker 2: happy right later, bro, I mean, he makes it.
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  Speaker 1: That's the point though, And that's a conversation I was
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  Speaker 1: having with another friend of mine. He wants to do
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  Speaker 1: what he wants to do for Father's Day, but because
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  Speaker 1: his wife and kis it's just like Ruben said, have
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  Speaker 1: their own idea of what they want to do. At
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  Speaker 1: what point is it, you know what? It's my day?
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  Speaker 1: You know, I don't know already four two, five, four
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  Speaker 1: or seven seven. There are a lot of people out
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  Speaker 1: there that they have their own ideas of what is
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  Speaker 1: best for you, right, But when it's about you and
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  Speaker 1: it's your day, maybe your wife and kids need to
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  Speaker 1: just shut up and do what you want to do.
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  Speaker 1: So Father's Days on Sunday and yesterday, I was having
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  Speaker 1: a conversation with a friend of mine and his wife,
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  Speaker 1: and he has his idea of what he wants to
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  Speaker 1: do for Father's Day. He just wants to hang out
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  Speaker 1: the house. They got a pool, they got a barbecue. Well,
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  Speaker 1: her and the kids want to do something totally different.
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  Speaker 1: They want to go out, they want to go do stuff. Right,
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  Speaker 1: that's not what he wants. So what point when the
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  Speaker 1: day is about you, whether it be a father's Day,
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  Speaker 1: a mother's day, whether it be a birthday. At what
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  Speaker 1: point when the day is about you, do you get
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  Speaker 1: to say what happens? Why? Why? Why do you? Why
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  Speaker 1: would your wife and kids get to tell you what
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  Speaker 1: you want to do on Father's Day? Already? Four two, five,
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  Speaker 1: four or seven to seven outa's going on.
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  Speaker 2: It's about the daddy.
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  Speaker 3: We getesday, right, so they get their Father's Day.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I hate to tell you, but there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of moms out there who have their own idea what
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  Speaker 1: the dad should want for Father's Day, and they're gonna
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  Speaker 1: do it. These dads are gonna have to suck it up.
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  Speaker 3: That's too bad, because it's all about the dad.
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  Speaker 1: It's on their day, all right, all right, thanks for calling.
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  Speaker 1: I mean that's what I would say, But I mean
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  Speaker 1: is there. There's got to be occasions where like Father's
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  Speaker 1: Day being one of them, where he gets to decide
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  Speaker 1: what he wants to do. And just because it's not
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  Speaker 1: what you think he should want to do, you guys
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  Speaker 1: got to accept it. Mom's kids. You gotta just understand
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  Speaker 1: if he wants to stay at home and not do much,
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  Speaker 1: stay at home and not do much, don't try to
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  Speaker 1: push something on him that he doesn't want to do
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  Speaker 1: because that's what you want to do, like go out.
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  Speaker 1: Most dads don't want to go out to brunch or
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  Speaker 1: breakfast or dinner on Father's Day. Most dads want to
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  Speaker 1: stay at home and most of them actually in Bakersfield,
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  Speaker 1: want to cook, want to grill themselves because it's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be a beautiful Sunday afternoon and they just want to
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  Speaker 1: be around with their kids, hang it out, you know,
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  Speaker 1: buy the pool or whatever. So but you, Mom, since
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  Speaker 1: you have a different version of what you think should
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  Speaker 1: be done on a day, and I would say, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna be honest. Let's be honest with you. The reason
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  Speaker 1: these women, these wives don't want to stay at home
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  Speaker 1: home and barbecues because they don't want to have to
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  Speaker 1: help cook. They don't want to have to make sides,
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  Speaker 1: They don't want to have to entertain if they don't
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  Speaker 1: want to have to do anything really for him, so
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  Speaker 1: it's easier for them just to go out and have breakfast,
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  Speaker 1: by dinner, whatever the case may be. You know, they
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  Speaker 1: just really are You're just being selfish at this point.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't, if you don't want to do what
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  Speaker 1: your husband, the father of your kids, wants to do
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  Speaker 1: on Father's Day, you're just kind of being selfish. You
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  Speaker 1: got your own time to pick and choose what you want.
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  Speaker 1: So you guys got to understand that. I mean, it's
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  Speaker 1: just yeah, that's just just just if he wants to
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  Speaker 1: stay at home, let him stay at home. There's no
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  Speaker 1: reason for you guys to try to push your ideas
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  Speaker 1: of what he should want on Father's Day or or
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  Speaker 1: his birthday or any other day that's dedicated to him,
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  Speaker 1: because you don't want them. You don't want you his
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  Speaker 1: ideas and your ideas pushed on you when it's your day,
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  Speaker 1: So why do it to him? Already? Four two, five,
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  Speaker 1: four or seven to seven him?
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  Speaker 4: Are you still talking about the Father's Day?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? What's up?
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  Speaker 3: Well for me, I say, it's all based on how
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  Speaker 3: he treated you for Mother's Day.
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  Speaker 5: So for Mother's Day, I had to go to the
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  Speaker 5: in law.
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  Speaker 4: So guess what Father's Day.
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  Speaker 5: We're doing what I want to do.
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  Speaker 3: I'm getting my way.
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  Speaker 6: No matter what your day, my day is still my way.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's hilarious. Why did you have to
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  Speaker 1: go to the in laws for mother Oh? You had
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  Speaker 1: to go to his mom's house.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, his mom's house.
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  Speaker 1: I'll give you that one if you if he's not
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  Speaker 1: taking care of you first on Mother's Day because he's
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  Speaker 1: a little mama's boy, I'm with you. I'll give you
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  Speaker 1: that one. Okay, yes, all right, Yeah, you're right, you're right,
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  Speaker 1: all right. I don't really think you can argue with
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  Speaker 1: their logic, right because I've always told you the person
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  Speaker 1: that comes first is your immediate family. Whoever lives in
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  Speaker 1: your household. Your mom on Mother's Day does not come first.
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  Speaker 1: Your wife does, or the mother of your children. So
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  Speaker 1: at the side with her, Hey, Romeo, ready to rob here.
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  Speaker 1: Yet it all started last month. The kids and the
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  Speaker 1: old lady been getting me gifts. I'm happy for the gifts,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm hearing that they want to take me out
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  Speaker 1: to dinner. But I have a plan in mind already.
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  Speaker 1: I want a barbecue, simple dinner, ribs and try tip
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  Speaker 1: with homemade chili beans, jalapeno poppers, and call off the
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  Speaker 1: next day. Sure, I mean, if that's what you want,
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  Speaker 1: that's what you should get, right, not what they want.
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  Speaker 1: So Father's Day is coming. A friend of mine and
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  Speaker 1: his wife we were talking about Father's Day and they
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  Speaker 1: got a couple of kids. Well, apparently he has his
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  Speaker 1: idea of what he wants to do for Father's Day.
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  Speaker 1: The wife and kids have a different idea of what
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  Speaker 1: they want to do for him for Father's Day. So
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  Speaker 1: why is that even a conversation? Why it's Father's Day?
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  Speaker 1: There are some days or events that are strictly for
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  Speaker 1: you and you get to decide what's up, not what
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  Speaker 1: their idea of what you want is. How is that
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  Speaker 1: even a conversation, to be honest with you already? Four
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  Speaker 1: two five four or seven to seven eight rom I'm
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  Speaker 1: not big on sweets, and I'm still giving a birthday cake,
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  Speaker 1: given a birthday cake every year. My family are the
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  Speaker 1: ones who eat it and take it home with them.
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  Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying. It's your birthday, So why
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  Speaker 1: if you don't want a cake. Why do you, Well,
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  Speaker 1: I mean a bird. I guess that it's a little
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  Speaker 1: bit different, just because you know, a cake is kind
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  Speaker 1: of for everybody on your birthday. They could get you
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  Speaker 1: something different as well. But yeah, that's my point is
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  Speaker 1: at what point is it about you and not about
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  Speaker 1: what somebody else wants to do for you or their
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  Speaker 1: idea of what you want, even though you've told them
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  Speaker 1: what you really want. Hey, Romeo, it's Ruben again. The
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  Speaker 1: family just said they heard me on the radio. Now
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  Speaker 1: they said, we'll take you out to breakfast. I said, no,
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  Speaker 1: thank you. I want to fire up the fire at
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  Speaker 1: the Blanche early in the morning, make some ham brash
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  Speaker 1: brown saucets some bacon. They said, but it's Father's Day.
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  Speaker 1: You shouldn't have to do be doing anything. I told them,
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  Speaker 1: this is what I want to do, so either join
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  Speaker 1: me or do something on your own. But that's what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying. Their idea of what you want is what
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  Speaker 1: gives And I know Ruben. Ruben's got daughters and a wife,
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  Speaker 1: So what gives these women in your life the audacity
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  Speaker 1: to tell you what you want When you're saying this
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  Speaker 1: is what I want. Man, just selfish, What did you
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  Speaker 1: send me here? So a guy was brought up cheating.
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  Speaker 1: He talked about he talked about he talked about cheating right,
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  Speaker 1: he talked about, uh, heathability. Is that like seventy five
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  Speaker 1: percent of cheat in Bakersfield. I don't know if that's
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  Speaker 1: true or not. I hope not. I hope that's I
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  Speaker 1: hope it's not that high. But you're not going to
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  Speaker 1: stop cheaters. I mean, I just hope it's not that
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  Speaker 1: high already four two, five, four or seven and some.
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  Speaker 1: But this guy said me, he said, hey, Romyo, I
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  Speaker 1: just hear you talking about cheating. I want to ask
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  Speaker 1: you about this. My wife and I we haven't had
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  Speaker 1: sex in a couple of months. So finally I asked
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  Speaker 1: her about it. What was going on. She told me
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  Speaker 1: that she just doesn't want to have sex with me anymore.
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  Speaker 1: She still loves me and cares about me, she's just
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  Speaker 1: not she just doesn't want to have sex. She says.
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  Speaker 1: It's not because she wants to have sex with someone else,
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  Speaker 1: She's just not interested in sex. I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: to do because I'm still interested in I oh, I'm
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  Speaker 1: still interested in sex. I want to have sex with
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  Speaker 1: her but what am I supposed to do if she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want to have sex? Yeah, that's interesting. Yeah, what
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  Speaker 1: do you do? That is a very good point. So
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  Speaker 1: she said she's just not into sex anymore, she got
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  Speaker 1: medical issues or something like that. It didn't sound like
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  Speaker 1: it because you probably would have brought it up. She
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  Speaker 1: just is not interested, and you were sure she not
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  Speaker 1: having sex with somebody else. Then, yeah, that is a
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  Speaker 1: very good question. You probably gotta leave her, right, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know what to think. I can't believe
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  Speaker 1: she told you that she'll loves you, wants to be
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  Speaker 1: with you, but don't want to have sex with you.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't want to have sex with anybody, I guess.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you do? I mean, you're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: to ask her. Here's what you're gonna have to do.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to ask her if you can, if
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  Speaker 1: you can have sex with other people, and if she
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  Speaker 1: says yes, then stay in your marriage, have sex with
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  Speaker 1: other people. If she says no, then you're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: to make a hard decision of sex for the rest
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  Speaker 1: of your life or divorcer. I mean, that's really your
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  Speaker 1: only option right already? Four two five four is seven seven. Man,
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  Speaker 1: every morning, I just never know what I'm gonna get
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  Speaker 1: anymore when it comes to you guys. Already four two five,
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  Speaker 1: four seven to seven. A guy just texted me and
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  Speaker 1: he said that his wife he goes, He goes Rome.
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  Speaker 1: My wife and I haven't had sex for a couple
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  Speaker 1: of months now, and I finally asked her about it,
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  Speaker 1: and she said she's not interested in having sex. And
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  Speaker 1: it's not just with him, apparently, it's with anybody. She's
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  Speaker 1: not interested in sex anymore. He is, he still wants
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  Speaker 1: to have sex with her, and he doesn't want it.
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  Speaker 1: What do you do? He's asking me, what do you do?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, I don't know if you're
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  Speaker 1: still if you're still want to be sexually active and
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  Speaker 1: your wife does it. Yeah, I don't know what you do?
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  Speaker 1: You you really only have a couple of different options,
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  Speaker 1: and that's, you know, not have sex, stay in your
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  Speaker 1: marriage and not have sex. Ask your wife if you
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  Speaker 1: can have sex with somebody else? She says no, And
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  Speaker 1: that's not good. Leave. I mean, you really only got
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  Speaker 1: those are the three options, that's all you have already
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  Speaker 1: four two five, four or seven to seven. Hey, Rome,
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  Speaker 1: he's gonna be part of the I guess you could
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  Speaker 1: just take care of yourself. But I mean that's that's
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  Speaker 1: not the same. Yeah, I don't know, man, that's a
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  Speaker 1: that's a that's a tough spot to be in. Your
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  Speaker 1: wife doesn't want to have sex with you anymore, and
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  Speaker 1: you're sure she's not sleeping with somebody else. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: if you're sure she's not, she just told you she
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  Speaker 1: just is not interested in sex anymore. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what you do. I I would, Wow, sex is a
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  Speaker 1: major part of life. I'm not I guess I'm not
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  Speaker 1: one of those people that think that sex isn't a
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  Speaker 1: major part of life, just like sex is just as
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  Speaker 1: important as communication and love and caring and respect, and
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: sex is just as important as all of those things. Whatever.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: You know, So, I don't know. I mean, ask her.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: I would go with asking her first, Well, if you
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: don't want to have sex with me, can I have
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: sex with other people and we'll stay married? Maybe she'll
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: say yes. Try that first, she says no, yeah already
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: four two five, four or seven to six. I texted
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: a few minutes ago, was talking about his wife. Apparently
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: they haven't had sex in a couple of months and
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: he he so he finally asked her what was going on.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: She said, she's just not interested in sex with him
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: or anybody else. This is his story. Okay, she still
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: loves them, she still wants to be with them, but
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: sex is not on the table anymore for her. He
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: still wants to have sex. What do you do? Good morning?
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: Not what's going on?
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: Okay? I called you earlier, Romeo.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if a.
• 17:41
  Speaker 6: Woman doesn't want to have sex with a man, it's
• 17:44
  Speaker 6: funny how she tells you half of the story. There's
• 17:47
  Speaker 6: a reason why she probably does not want.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: To have personally.
• 17:51
  Speaker 6: It can't always be cheating. We could also be his hygiene.
• 17:57
  Speaker 6: It could also be his weight pain, or it could
• 18:00
  Speaker 6: also be that he's just the a hole.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: Sorry, say I agree with you on that. I'd agree
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: with you.
• 18:07
  Speaker 6: At this point. Why would you text Romeo basically tell
• 18:12
  Speaker 6: you to your face. Do you either have one thing
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: you can change or you can just get a divorced?
• 18:17
  Speaker 6: Either way, I don't the choice is in a costume money.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, I don't disagree with some of those things
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: you've said. I think you my brother, But what if
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: it's just she doesn't want to have sex anymore, she's
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: lost her sex rife.
• 18:31
  Speaker 6: Well, it could be, because you have to think about it.
• 18:34
  Speaker 6: When women go through menotos, they go through a lot
• 18:37
  Speaker 6: of bad changes. You know, he didn't describe to you
• 18:40
  Speaker 6: the age of a woman. She could also have have trauma.
• 18:44
  Speaker 6: You know, some women don't like gropex.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: Some women do.
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: And maybe he's just having sex the way he wants
• 18:51
  Speaker 6: and not.
• 18:51
  Speaker 7: The way she wants it.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: So well, let me ask you this question. Just fundamentally,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: let's take everything you've said and put it aside and
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: say she's just decided she doesn't want to have sex anymore.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: As in general, what's he supposed to do? Get a divorce?
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: Damn? All right?
• 19:10
  Speaker 7: I mean, at least I'm being realistic.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Sure would to somebody.
• 19:15
  Speaker 6: That doesn't want to be held on obviously, maybe or
• 19:19
  Speaker 6: maybe she's a lesbian.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: Who knows right. Well, thanks for calling. I appreciate it,
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: all right. I mean, she's not wrong. All of those
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: things could be a factor. But if you take it
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: at face value, what do you do? You know, if
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: your wife just doesn't want to have sex with you anymore,
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: but she says she still loves you, still wants to
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: be with you, then what do you do you just
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: and that's that's what he said. Maybe he is, maybe
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: she's right, Maybe he's only given me half the story. Okay,
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: I don't know already four two, five, four or seven
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: and seven. I can only look at the story at
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: face value and give an answer. A text message from
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: a guy who is a strange message. So but take
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: it for what it's worth. I'm just looking at it
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: at face value, he says, Gordon Rome. You know, he says.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: Me and my wife, we haven't had sex in a
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: couple of months. So I finally asked her about it.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: She said she's not interested in having sex with me.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: But she says she still loves me and wants to
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: be with me. She's just not interested in sex. So
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: I asked her. She says she's not interested in sex
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: with anybody else. I don't know what to do because
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I still want to have sex. That's a good question.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Hey room, good morning. My girl doesn't want to have
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: sex until we're married, yet we have a two year old. Well,
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: I mean, but at least she has a legitimate reason
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: for not wanting to have sex. She wants to be married,
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: which you can't really argue with that. This woman says
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: she just doesn't want to have sex with her husband,
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: but I don't know. What what do you do? Yo
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: room telling him to go to Union in Fourth Street. Well,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: that's what I mean. You really don't you don't want
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: to cheat? She didn't. Would be the worst thing to
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: possibly possibly do, Okay, I mean, I know you'll justify it,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: but it's the worst thing, you know possible. You're gonna
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: have to ask her what, I guess, ask her in
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: her mind? What does she think your options are? How
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: about asking her that question? See where that gets you? First?
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: Already four two five, four seven to seven roam you
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: thinks she's having sex with someone else? Rome? Is that
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: a possibility? Well, everything's a possibility, to be honest with you,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: that's the first thing I thought. Well, but according to
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: the text message, he says, she doesn't. She just doesn't.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: She's just not interested in sex anymore, which, yeah, I
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: But what do you do?
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I mean, what do you do if you still want
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: to have sex and your partner doesn't or your spouse doesn't,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: and I don't know, I mean, anything's possible at this point,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: to be honest with you, alrighty four two five four,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: seven to seven. All right, so guy texted and says
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: wife doesn't want to have sex anymore with him. But
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: the way he made it sound is that she didn't
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: just not want to have sex with him, she just
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: doesn't want to have sex anymore. So what do you do?
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: He's asking me what to do? I don't know. I mean,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Only four to popo, seven to seven romeo.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Sometimes women don't feel confident about themselves. Maybe she's gained weight,
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: maybe uh, menopause, depends on her age. But damn, poor guy.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: I feel for him. I have to ask for it.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I have to ask for it. My husband can go
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: a whole month without it. Shaking my head, Yeah, I
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: get it. I just don't. I mean, there's there's a
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: lot of reasons why. There's a lot of reasons why.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: And I don't.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know what. We just have to take what
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: he said at face value. The fact that she said
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: she's not interested. She didn't give a reason why, or
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: at least he didn't tell us if there is a reason,
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: Because you're right, there's all kinds of reasons why she
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: might not want to have sex with her husband. And
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: let's say they're all legitimate. Let's let's be honest. Let's
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: say they're all a gitimate reasons.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: Why.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Okay, pick your legitimate reason.
• 23:03
  Speaker 5: Why?
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: What is he supposed to do? Just live in a
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: sexless marriage because she has I mean, what do you do?
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: That's the question. The real question is if what he's
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: telling us is the truth, regardless of the reason why,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: you know, she doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: Let's say it's legitimate. What is he supposed to do already?
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Four two five, four seven to seven? I mean, I yeah,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: it's a good question. It's a fair question. The body help,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: what's going on?
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: You're on a topic right now about a couple that
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: haven't had sex for like two months.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. The guy sent me
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: a text message saying his wife doesn't want to have
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: sex with him anymore.
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: My guys, okay, Well, anyways, I'm I'm in a relationship
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: with a person for like fifteen years, and try not
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: having sex for a.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: Year or over because of you or because the other person.
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: Well, I don't know, I don't know. He's a truck driver,
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: so maybe he's doing a little something, you know, blot
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: lizards something like that. But I had I had a
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: surgery of hysterectomy a year ago and it's been that
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: whole since that whole year, I mean, of that surgery,
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: we haven't had no sex.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Are you able to have sex? I don't know anything
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: about it hysterectly.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: Yes, I'm able to have sex. There's no problem with that.
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: But I mean my marmals are kind of different and
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: things like that. I mean, I just don't have the urge.
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: So maybe it is me, But I mean, before then,
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: we didn't have any problems.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Well, I was gonna say, do you want to have sex?
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: I could, I could probably not care to have sex.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: No, Well, what do you think he's supposed to do?
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I'm sure he's I'm.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: Sure he's fulfilling his needs.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Wow, And you're okay with that?
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, So I went that as long as I ain't
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: me because I heard the woman too saying about hygiene
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: and things like that, and I don't know, he has
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: really brilliant that breath, so I don't want that breadth. Well,
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: and it's kind of sad because I'm in a relationship
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: with this person and I've been with this person for
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: like so many years, and it's kind of I don't know.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: Well, let me ask you this question or like no, no, no, no,
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: of course.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: Like, hey, this is a really good topic because it's
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: like literally over years.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you this question. If you hadn't met,
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: if you if somebody knew came along that wind and
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: dined you, so to speak, romance so to speak, do
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: you think you would want to have sex with that person?
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: No? Okay, I don't know.
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: I'm just like I'm already in the age where like
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: I don't want to date and things like that and
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: go walk to somebody new and start all over again.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: Sure, I got it. Yeah, Well that's the kind of
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: the conversation is just what like all things being equal,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: if you don't want to have sex, either either the
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: man or the whoever, the spouse is, whatever, the spouse
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: whatever spouse doesn't want to have sex, but the other
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: still does. What do you do about that?
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: Well, we're both at that.
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: We're we're both like, don't even try or don't even
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: even try or even with each other. We just leave that,
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: leave that alone. I mean, we have kids together and
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: things like that, we live together. So I hear what
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: you said about oh the what she still wants to
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: love him and be with him. It can work that way.
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: I mean something like, how would you guys do that
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: without intercourse? It's like, I don't know.
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: We just do.
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: We just have that understanding. We have kids together. Two
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: All that's fair, all right, I mean it can happen.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: Well I appreciate over here for me and mine.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: So okay, all right, well thanks for color. I appreciate it,
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Welcome there you go. I guess it can
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: happen already, four two five, four seven seven. So when
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: it comes to I guess a sexless marriage, right, what
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: do you do if one one spouse doesn't want to
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: have sex and the other spouse still does? How do
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: you handle that? Four two five four or seven to seven?
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: Going on? I grow cheer out of pocket. You're gonna
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: talk about that doing breath like that? Well, I wanted
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: to pick the six. You got to pick the hyde.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, I mean, yeah, I'm not I'm not arguing with that.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: But for a year, they settled, they're okay with their
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: life like that. That's that's not even that's not even cool.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: All right, man, thanks for coming. Yeah, what's going on?
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: Hey?
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: Good morning, Romeo?
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: Hey, what's up question, Yeah, are we always the same man?
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: Because we aren't.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to wait say that again.
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: I said, are we all with the same man? Because
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: I don't want to have sex with my man either?
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: Why why don't you want to have sex with your man?
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: After so many years, I just feel like he is
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: not in putting my He used to as then you know,
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: according me like take me out today, Yeah, you'll find
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: me stuff.
• 28:08
  Speaker 7: But it's like, oh, I got you this?
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: Am I going to get.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: So you have a legitimate reason that can be fixed
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: in your relationship.
• 28:19
  Speaker 5: So even like when he tried, I think I'm at
• 28:22
  Speaker 5: the point where I'm like, uh, you're just trying to
• 28:27
  Speaker 5: get laid, Like you're not trying to keep me happy,
• 28:31
  Speaker 5: You're just trying.
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: To get laid. And to me, it's like, whoa, I
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: just don't feel.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Like it now.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: Maybe you guys are all but the same man.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: Just what I'm thinking after hearing these stories and I'm like,
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: and then somebody said that birth, I was like, maybe
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: it's the same one.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: When's the last time you had sex?
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Month? Okay month?
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: And it's just like I'm not at this point.
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: I don't pray that anymore. I'm not into it anymore.
• 29:05
  Speaker 5: It's all right, I know it's there and I can
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: get it, yeah.
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: But I don't want to.
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: I don't want to. I mean, we live together, we
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: have a family, but it's just not something that I'm praving.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: It's not something that.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: I want at this point.
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: It's just like whatever, We're in a relationship, but you're
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: not getting any and I don't care to get any either.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Well, all right, before two five fours seven to seven,
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: it's a guy texted me and he said his wife
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: doesn't want to have sex with him anymore. We don't
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: know the reason why. He didn't say the reason why.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: And apparently she just does not interested in sex, you know.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: Obviously we heard from a couple of women that said
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: they're just not interested in sex with their husbands right now,
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: and once aid over a year. One said a few months.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: So what do you do if the husband still wants
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: to have sex? I don't know already four two five
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: four seven seve, she's crazy over a year. That's pretty sad.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: She should she should leave him and let him find
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: someone else. Well, the conversation kind of said, she kind
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: of made it sounded like she knew he was getting
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: his needs met. Obviously he was a truck driver, she said,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: So I don't know. I don't know. She didn't sound
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: very happy, though. I must say that a room I
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: had the same situation months ago. My girl didn't want
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: to have sex really no more. I seen her. I
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: seen her less and less in bed, and I confronted
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: her about it, and she said, straight up, you're annoying
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: when you're snoring. Oh when you when you when you're
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: storing in bed because you drink, and it's disgusting that
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: you feel like alcohol when you're kissing me, and you're
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: a jerk to me. So I made changes Rome because
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I love getting mine well. But that's the thing. If
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: there were changes to me made okay, Like the girl
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: that called, she said that she's just not interested because
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: he doesn't put in the same effort, which that is
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: a change that can be made, right, You would think
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: you would hope if you really want to be together.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: But the woman who said for the years, she just
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: said she's not interested in it anymore. And it's so
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: so I don't know. I think if you have a
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: legitimate reason and something can be done about it, I
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: think that's a fair question a fair conversation for spouses
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: to have and fix it if they want to. Was
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: going on.
• 31:34
  Speaker 7: So question about all this wife's not putting out. If
• 31:39
  Speaker 7: the man goes and have sex with a different lady,
• 31:42
  Speaker 7: and that consider cheating because her wife's not putting out.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: Well, if the wife isn't doesn't consent, then yeah, if
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: she says if she doesn't, if she says he can't,
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: then yeah, that's cheating.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: Well, because then that's the thing.
• 31:55
  Speaker 7: If she's not going to put out and he man
• 31:57
  Speaker 7: needs to release the team, It's like, hey, you're not
• 32:00
  Speaker 7: gonna do your part, Well, I'm gonna find something I
• 32:03
  Speaker 7: can go do my part.
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: And you know what.
• 32:06
  Speaker 7: You you want me to treat you at home, take
• 32:08
  Speaker 7: care of you, but you're not doing your your wife's needs.
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: And what am I doing here? You give me.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, but I think we're gonna
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: differ in the way you handle the situation. I mean,
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: I really only got a couple of options. You either
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: got to divorce them or accept it. I mean, there's
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: only well, and that's the thing.
• 32:29
  Speaker 7: Okay, if if you divorce right like say say they
• 32:34
  Speaker 7: go divorce, that's cool. But if the lady tells you,
• 32:36
  Speaker 7: you know what, I don't want to divorce and the
• 32:38
  Speaker 7: husband doesn't want to divorce. Well, I'm gonna you're gonna
• 32:40
  Speaker 7: give them the advice, Like you know what, I'm gonna
• 32:43
  Speaker 7: go and do this, take it.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: Or leave it?
• 32:46
  Speaker 7: Uh, you know, then you start doing your women deeds.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm gonna go over here, you get me.
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: And you let her know.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: But that's my opinion.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: If you let them know, I mean, then now she's
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: got to make a decision on what she wants. I mean,
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: it's just now every conversation right now.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Huh.
• 33:03
  Speaker 7: You should ask them that question right now to your
• 33:05
  Speaker 7: audience and see what.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: They agree on.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: All right, man, I will I should call it. Yeah,
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: I mean it all it all works. She said she
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: doesn't want to have sex with her husband anymore. So
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: now he has to make a decision. You know, do
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I stay, Do I accept it? Do I tell her
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: what I'm going to do and see what happens? I mean,
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: how does that work?
• 33:26
  Speaker 5: I'm wrong?
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: What I mean?
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Hey, man, you really got to scream your calls.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: I got a call right now saying if a lady's
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: with the man seating instead of getting a divorced or
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: saying that.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: He should be happy with that, he should be cool
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: with it if he agreed. Okay, so you're telling me.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: So if I tell my girl, hey, I'm gonna get
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: it somewhere else and she's like, yeah, okay, cool, and
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: then later he divorces me and that he wins and
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: takes everything, because that's called when you step out of
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: your marriage.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean, so she'll win no matter what. Right, No, no,
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: not at all, You're.
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, I mean, no tenthering.
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: Now with that guy, I think he went to the
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: thing that you went and he got stowed over. He's
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: just trying to get her videos. Bet anybody advice, Yeah,
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: he's you know what, I ain't gonna be the only
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: one that went through.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: The already four two four seven to seven. Rome. I mean,
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: let's see here what you say here. I mean, if
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: she turned lesbian and lesbians have sex as well, damn,
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: shame on her. She probably han't an affair with a woman. Rome. Maybe,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, maybe, hey, good morning, big room. Uh tell
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: that dude just to pull the trigger and ask for
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: a divorce. I have a buddy that went through the
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: went through that with his wife she said she didn't
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: want to have sex anymore. She wasn't into it no more.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: So they got separated, and a month later she had
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: a brand new boyfriend gonna find out She's been taught
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: to him while they were married, but probably never slept
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: with him. So tell him it's a rap. I mean,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: what are you supposed to do? Man, if your spouse
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: says they don't want to have sex with you anymore
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: and you still want to have sex, I mean, stay
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: in a sexless, sexless marriage. I mean, all right, I
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: don't know. I mean people want to say, well, if
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: you love love and sex, yeah, love and sex. Love
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: does not over uh does not over What do I
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: want to say? Love does not overshadow sex or love
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: does not trump sex. Okay, sex does not trump love? Okay,
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: do you guys text me here? Hey, rome is this
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: how swinging starts? I don't know. I mean, I don't know.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: Maybe maybe I don't know it. Romeo might be the
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: way he's asking an old saying that women will give
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: you all the sex you want till you get married,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: then it stops. But on the flip side, as men,
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: did we actually stop trying? How many times does he
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: took her on a date and tried to sweep her
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: off her feet. Does he make her feel special or
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: are they just in a routine? Does he still look
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: the same or did he get let himself go? I
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: mean all legitimate questions, very legitimate questions.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: I don't think you can argue with what you just said,
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: but let's be honest about it, and I agree with
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: everything you said. I actually I totally agree with everything
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: you said. But if you break down and look at
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: everybody that you know that's married, okay, it's not very
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: often more so than not, it's the wife who doesn't
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: want to have sex anymore. Most guys still want to
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: have sex with their wives. But here's the question, because
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: of the things that you just said. Is that why
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: she doesn't want to have sex anymore because the guy's
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: not trying hard enough? Or does she have other reasons
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: that she's not into it? What do you think the
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: most common reason is that a wife does not want
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: to have sex with her husband? What would you guys think?
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: The more I don't, I don't know the answer. By
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: the way, I don't know the I don't and you
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: guys can all google it. I don't care. I don't
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: know what the answer is, by the way, but it
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: seems like in society in general, it's the wife who
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: stops having sex with the husband. Before the husband wants
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: to stop having sex with the wife, he just has
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: to accept it. What is the most common reason, though,
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: Is it him not doing enough? I'm gonna say I'm
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: gonna say this, but take it with a grain of salt.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's because the husband stopped doing these
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: things that you just said. If I was gonna guess,
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: I think it's because the wife. I don't know. I
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: don't know. Already four four or seven to seven, good morning,
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: body sounds like he's done. She's most likely chopping someone
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: else's would I don't understand how you men are okay
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: with that. As soon as we woke up, jumped in
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: the shower, came out, gave him out, and gave her
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: the look, okay, I get it. I just I mean,
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: I don't know what the answer is already four two, five,
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: four or seven to seven.
• 38:49
  Speaker 7: Was going on.
• 38:50
  Speaker 8: As far as that top of that going on, I
• 38:52
  Speaker 8: think a lot of it has to do too with that.
• 38:55
  Speaker 8: A lot of these women are taking those shots. A
• 38:57
  Speaker 8: lot of people are getting those epidurals for the having
• 39:00
  Speaker 8: any periods, and that is messing up a lot of
• 39:02
  Speaker 8: their insights and a lot of their their mood swings
• 39:05
  Speaker 8: and sex drive as well.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: I have I've actually had heard that. I didn't know
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: how true it was, but you're right. I have heard
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: that these shots are these women are not wanting to
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: have sex as much anymore at all because of these shots.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: I get that, Yeah, well what do you do then?
• 39:22
  Speaker 8: You know, like I've been with my girl over sixteen
• 39:25
  Speaker 8: years and we've been through the no shots, the shots,
• 39:28
  Speaker 8: the epidural, that thing that you put into the idding. Yeah,
• 39:32
  Speaker 8: and it's it's always different, It's always something different.
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: But you just got to push through, you know what
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: I mean.
• 39:37
  Speaker 8: Sure, I find out, find out what's causing it, you know,
• 39:41
  Speaker 8: I mean, get to the root cause.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: Before you try to go do anything stupid, you know.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: I mean, all right, I mean that sound advice? All right?
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: Better? All right?
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: All right?
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: That's that's another thing though, that's a whole different conversation
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: or another conversation which may have to do with this,
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: is the you know, you want to lose weight and
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: you don't want to have sex anymore, not because the
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: shot is draining your sex drive. I mean, what what
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: do you do? You want to look better for you?
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: That's why I always say, guys, your wives are not
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: looking good for you. They are not trying to look
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: good for you, okay, And they never have been except
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: to get you to marry them. They've never tried to
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: look good for you or else, because.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: What do they do?
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: They they'd rather give up sex and look good than
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: care about your needs. Are once already four two for
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: seven to seven? Would you send me here?
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: Uh?
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: Why is she with him?
• 40:37
  Speaker 5: Then?
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Anymore? Let the poor guy go. My wife had a
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: hysterectomy too, and pretty much is the same. It's the
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: same as her, but mine tries Okay, Okay, it's a
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: hard conversation to understand. I mean, you know, different people
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: have different sex drives. Hey, damn Rome, it's Reuben, and
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: I feel bad for these women, Like I said, Roeum,
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: these fools don't step it up and keep their women excited. Yeah,
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: And I don't agree with that, Ruben. I don't agree
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: with your assessment. You can't, I don't. You can't always
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: blame him, and I'm sorry you guys always want to
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: blame him. It's always his fault. No, it's not, okay,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: And I would if I was going to guess, I
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: would say that the majority of relationships where sex is
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: an issue, the majority of it, I'm saying, like sixty forty,
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: maybe seventy thirty have nothing to do with him. It's
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: not him doing it. He's still trying, but for whatever
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: reason she does not want it, whether it be taking
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: that shot to lose weight, whether it be kids, whether
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: it be a job, whether it be stressed. And I'm
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: not saying those are not legitimate reasons. Okay, That's not
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying at all. I'm just saying you're quick
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: to always blame him. It's not it's not always him
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: and I for the most part, I don't think it
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: is him, him being the husband. But you guys want
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: to be quick to you know, Reuben's always trying to
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: put down some dudes. Though you know he's always trying
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: to I don't know why he's always trying to put
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: down dudes, but sometimes you got to stand up for
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: the men and say, look, it's not it's not him,
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: it's you. So what do you do with that? Oh?
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: What did you send me here? And says, hey, rome
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: My wife and I were high school sweethearts from Viggersfield
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: High and this year marks fifteen years together. We used
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: to be inseparable and had an amazing connection in every way,
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: including physically. But after years of consistent constant arguments, different priorities,
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: stress from life, and growing apart, we haven't been intimate
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: in over two years. We still love each other, but
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: it feels like we're roommates more than husband and want.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: The spark that once came naturally is gone, and neither
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: of us seem to know how to bring it back. Romeo,
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: we're just going through a rough chapter or is this
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: something we're doing wrong it? I find it so easy
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: to connect with others, both emotionally and physically, but not
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: with the person I should be connecting with. That's a
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: tough one. I mean, you said high school sweethearts fifteen
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: years right, So you've been together for fifteen years or
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: you're fifteen years out right? This marks the fifteen years together.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: Our priorities are different, stress from life, growing apart, constant arguments,
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: different priority, stress from life. Two years a long time, so,
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: but it's probably it's probably not, as there's probably a
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: lot of people going through what you're going through. How
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: you would That's a good question.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: Is it just.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: A rough patch or is it over with? That is
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: a very good question. I'm very optimistic. Okay, I know
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: you guys, I'll tell you how stupid you are, But
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: I'm also a very optimistic person. And I would say
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: that you guys could probably it's probably a rough patch.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: And I say, but I say this about all high
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: school sweethearts, and you guys should never marry out of
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: high school. You haven't experienced enough of life and what
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: is out there to understand well to understand that you're
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: you missed out on stuff, and it's stuff that you
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: should miss out on. There's just things that you can
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: never do once you marry your high school sweetheart. Now,
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: people will make the argument that, well, well we'll do
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: it together. No you won't. You think you will, but
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: you won't, and you can't because you're not built that way,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: you know. And so no, I would say you're going
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: through a rough patch because I would think you can
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: patch it up. But I think you made a big
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: mistake by marrying your high school sweetheart. And I we'll
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: always say that to all of you and every single
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: high school sweetheart I've ever met that's gotten married. I've
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: always been right. It takes a little while for them
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: to actually admit it, but I've always been right. But
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: what they do is they justify things to make themselves
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: feel better about what's going on in their marriage.
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: You know.
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: It's like that little chihuahua that thinks since they're not
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: looking at you, that you can't see them. That's kind
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: of what high school sweethearts do, especially from a sexual standpoint.
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: But anyway, I'm going to say it's a rough patch,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: and I'm going to say you guys should just try
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: to do things whatever you used to like to do together.
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: Start with that, whatever that may be, and see how
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: it goes. But I wouldn't at this point. I wouldn't
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: give up, although probably feels like you should, and maybe
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: you should. Maybe you should take some time apart and
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: see how it feels. You know, the problem with high
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: school sweethearts is you become outside, You become codependent of
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: each other, and love means nothing. You know, it's just
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: codependency more than it is really a relationship. Or it's
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: a codependent relationship more so than a loving, caring I
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: want you you want me type of thing. Hey, Rome,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: everyone wants to quit before trying to fix things. Uh yeah,
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: I would agree with that. I think you're right. There's
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: always a way to bring the flame back in the relationship.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: Me and my wife had a dry spell, only a
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: dry spell, only had sex like three times in two years.
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize I wasn't doing the things I used
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: to before that she highly appreciated turned her off. I
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: had to put that work in and figure out what
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: changed without her telling me. Once I made that change,
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: the flame came back. Well, I'm glad it worked out
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: for you. I don't know that it works out for
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: everybody like that, but okay, Rome, ninety nine percent of
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: women in every marriage just get useless. They get insecure, overweight,
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: social media makes them unhappy because they can't compete with
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: the young girls. And then they just blame the husband
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: because he sees all their flaws daily. He probably doesn't care.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: He can call her beautiful and she won't believe him.
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: But women have to blame someone and they can't and
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: they can't spell accountability, so it's the husband that suffers.
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: I agree with what you're saying. I wouldn't say it's
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: ninety nine point nine percent of women. I would say
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: it's about well, yeah, I would say it's about sixty forty,
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: maybe seventy, maybe seventy thirty. But no, I to some extent,
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: I'm with you. But okay, all right, Uh, I will
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: say this though I do want to say this is
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: how is it? If? Here's what I don't understand. If
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: you're a woman married to a man who does you
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: don't want to have sex with that man anymore? Why
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: do you care if he has sex with somebody else
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: you don't want. You're just doing it to be a
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: jackass at that point? Right, If you've told him I
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: just don't have a desire to have sex with you.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: I still love you, I still want to be married
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: to you, but I don't, then why would you care
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: if he went and have sex with somebody else because
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: you don't want to do it for whatever reason? We're
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: talking about a sexualst marriage? Guy was Uh, I guess
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: his wife doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: It doesn't really want to break up with him, don't
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: one still loves them, but just apparently doesn't want to
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: have sex with him anymore. What does he do?
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: Rome?
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: No sex is better than bad sex? Fair enough, I
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: will I will say this now I'm gonna sound like
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: a after school Hallmark Hallmark movie No sex versus bad sex.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: I would say that no sex is better than having
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: with you, if she's just doing it because she's feels
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: she's obligated because you're her husband or in the relationship,
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: and she doesn't really want to do it. I would say,
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: is that what you're saying by bad sex? Because I
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: would argue that bad sex is better than no sex,
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: But no sex is better than having sex with someone
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: who doesn't really want to have sex with you. They're
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: just going through the motions because they feel they're obligated
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: out of marriage or relationship or whatever already four two five,
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: four seven seven. And there's shouldna be. There should be
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: in an agreement room that no sex avoids the marriage. Well,
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: the complication with it is this, Okay, here's the problem.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: The way that you value sex in a marriage or
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: in a relationship is wrong, so to speak. They always say, well,
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: you should be in love with the person you have
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: sex with. You know that idea is what is ingrained
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: in your head at a young age. Well, the sex
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: is sex and love have nothing to do with each other.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: You can enjoy having sex with somebody that you're not
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: in love with. Just feel safe with them, you you
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: like them, you have a great time together. You don't
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: have to be in love with them to have sex. Okay.
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: So this idea that you have to have, you know,
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: the marriage thing, the idea that well there should be
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: uh hold on, there should be an agreement in your
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: marriage that that avoids the marriage because of sex. Now, no,
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: you should be with somebody you want to have sex
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: with them, but and wants to have sex with you,
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: whether you're married or not. Okay, But the problem is
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: why if you don't want they're they're they're not mutually exclusive.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: If you're in a marriage where your spouse does not
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: want to have sex with you for whatever reason, then
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: why wouldn't you let them have sex with somebody else?
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: Because we're it's ingrained in our heads that love and
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: sex go together once you get married. How many people
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: are in a marriage that they don't love each other
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: but they still stay married?
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: So yeah, all righty four two five four seven to
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: seven yo Rome. That's basically an ultimatum. Ultimatum, isn't it
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: Because if she wants a sexless marriage and the guy
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: goes in that in that makes it forcible. I had
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: an ex, we had sex all the time. She ended
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: up telling me she wanted to be celibate till till marriage.
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: Three kids, two different dads more none are mine, and
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: you cutting me off of sex I left. There are
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: there are reasons behind it all. And if they're married,
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: she's already got another man she's working on. I will
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: say this, and I'm not gonna say that she's already
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: got a man, but I will say this. It is
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: funny how a woman will and guys you do the
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: same thing. So don't actly but that a woman will
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: lose weight and get hotter after her marriage didn't work out,
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: as opposed to trying to get look great and be
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: hot for her husband. Okay, men do the same thing.
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: It's just we're having the conversation about women right now,
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: So don't get all up tight sexalist marriage. I guess
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: some guy, well I know some guy was talking about
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: his wife doesn't want to have sex with anymore, with
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: him anymore, doesn't want to divorce them though, So what
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: do you do right at that point already four two, five, four, seven,
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: seven eight row. Men get sloppy and lazy. They make
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: it all about them and not satisfying both. I agree
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: with you. I agree with you when you guys are
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: saying that these guys don't do what they used to
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: to either get you in them or you know, satisfy you.
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: But you can't blame all the men because more often
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: than well, and I'll tell you why women control sex
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: in their marriage. All you women control the sex in
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: your marriage, whether it's be to get something out of him,
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: whether it's be because you really love him and you
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: just can't keep your hands off him, whatever, wherever you're
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: at on that spectrum, you control it. So it does
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: start with you, okay. And that's why I say it's
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: not you want to just blame men. You can't because
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: it starts with you. I'm not saying at all that
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: men don't get lazier, men don't do this, or men
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: don't do that to make you not want to have
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: sex with them, But it does start with you, so
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: more often than not, you're the reason. Okay, it's not him.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: A lot of you created these men and then blame him,
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: for it. But if you're the one that controls the
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: sex in your marriage, however that is, you control it,
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: then you're the problem to begin with. And then you
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: get there and you go, well, now he's not doing this,
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: or now he's not doing that, so I can blame him. Now.
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: Now I'm not saying that's one hundred percent, but more
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: often than not, you women to have decided for whatever reason,
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: Oh I have kids, Oh I don't feel sexy. Oh
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: I'm fat. Oh I'm not attractive. Oh I'm too tired,
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: Oh I'm All he can do is accept it. And
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: then once he accepts it and he sees, this is
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: my life now, a sexless marriage, you blame him for
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: not doing the things. He may even try to do
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: some of the things and tell you you're sexy. You
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: know how many women out there call themselves fat, their
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: husbands say no, they're not, and they don't listen to Romeo.
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: Brother, I said he the smartest county.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: Well, I'm not gonna let anybody get away without being
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: held accountable for their actions. I'll tell you that much.
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: I'm how smart I am.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: But yeah, yeah, that's all about right week, because you know,
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: we got everybody listening right now and real quiet. Well
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: you know that's why, because it's time to listen to
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: set the top. Well, that's going to just talking. Good day, Roman.
• 56:32
  Speaker 7: I appreciate you for that, brother.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: I have a go on man already four two, five, four,
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: seven to seven, A good morning, Romeo. Maybe the reason, uh,
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: the women don't want to have sex with their partner,
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: maybe he is emotionally mentally abusive. I know people that
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: are in that situation. I agree with you, okay, but
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: we have what is going on right now. The conversation
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: is you got to take both extremes out of it, okay,
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: because that's the majority of sexless marriages or very not
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: a whole lot of sex going on is not because
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: of what you're talking about. It and we there are
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: there are more extreme There are extremes to that, and
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: there are real legitimate reasons that you can say you
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: have if we take out the the what you've just said,
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: the abuse or emotion mental abuse, we take out the
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: health issues, you know, which are all very legitimate reasons
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: to not have sex with your spouse. Health issues, emotional
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: and mental abuse, things like that. Okay, those are very
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: legitimate reasons, but those are those are those are extremes. Okay,
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: The majority of you are not having sex because of
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: a lot of different reasons. You're tired, you're busy, you're stressed,
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: you got kids, you got work, you got expenses. He
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: doesn't do as much as he used to to try
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: to make you feel sexy. You've put on weight, you
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: don't feel sexy anymore. He's trying to tell you you
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: still do, but you don't care. You got your own
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: issues that you are creating or I mean, I don't
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: want to stay creating, but are going on with you
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: that you just don't want to have sex, and so
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: he suffers, even though he may be trying to do
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: all of these things and tell you you're sexy, you're hot,
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: he loves you, blah blah blah blah blah. Whatever.
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: That is.
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: That is the majority of marriages. Okay, let me rephrase that.
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: That's the majority of marriages of people who are not
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: having sex and who are frustrated by it. So what
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: do you do? That's the real question? All righty four two, five,
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: four seven to seven?
• 58:55
  Speaker 7: Rome?
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: What do you got here? She's tired, Tony. Factors to consider?
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: Do they have kids? You're absolutely right, and those are
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: all the things, but those are the common kids, a
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: common factor of why you don't get to have sex.
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: But you have to overcome that. You can't just put blame.
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: And that's why I say maybe seven out of ten,
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: it's since you women control the sex in your marriage,
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: you're the one that has to figure it out. You
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: can't just blame your husband, or you can't just blame
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: the kids. And that's what you do. You got to
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: take some accountability for your marriage. And I'm not saying
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: that you don't. And I'm not saying that he's, you know,
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: the king of the house and he deserves it all.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: That's not at all what I'm saying. He probably does
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: need to put in a little more effort, but even
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: when they do, even when he does, you still have
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: your own reasons on why that's not good enough, and
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: you still blame him. Take some accountability. You can't just
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: blame him. Let's see he yo Rome, I think she
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: wants the foreplay like at the beginning, or she gonna
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: cheat already. Yeah, I don't disagree with any of that.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 5: I know.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: I think you guys are. I think you guys are
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: are onto a lot of what you're saying, it's just
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: it has to start somewhere. And hey, Rome, I just
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: want to clarify the last person that talked right now
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: on the radio saying that women are getting epidurals and
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: I U d's just to clarify because the man was stupid.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: Epidurals are shots you get when you're going into labor
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: to have your baby. Has nothing to do with sex drive,
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: and to iude, a form of birth control again has
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: nothing to do with sexual sexuality. The man was uneducated. Now,
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: if he's talking about ozempic, that's a different story. Epidurals
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: or for when you're Yeah, I was kind of curious
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: about that too. When he said that, I would just
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: assume that he was talking about those shots, those those
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: ozempic type, those GPA whatever those weight loss shots are.
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: There have been studies saying showing that women who are
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: on those losing or losing their sex drive. So I
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know what you do after that point,
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: you know, but I will say, for the guy, you
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: want a hot wife with those sex or do you
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: want a wife who's gonna give it up? I mean,
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: that's pretty much what's kind of happening right now, and
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: it's happening on a large count because apparently everybody's on
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: the shot. From what I understand, Rome, I'm not trying
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: to clown any fool. Oh this is Ruben again. I'm
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: just saying, if you keep things exciting at home, always
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: changing it up, it doesn't get boring. Yeah, it takes
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: both of you. But this what you're misfailing to understand, Ruben,
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: is it's the majority of what's happening in in a
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: sexless marriage or marriages that lack sex are because of
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: things getting in the way and the woman, the wife
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: is usually the one who stops the sex first and
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: then blames the man that she's not getting what she wants.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: And normally it happens because of kids, because of jobs,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: because of chores, because of stresses outside of their marriage
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: that they don't and that has nothing to do with
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: their relationship. There's no there's no there's no animosity between them.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: But you're always trying to blame a dude that there are.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: There are plenty of men right now, right now who
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: have never said one degrading thing to their wife, always
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: said how their wives are sexy and they love them
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: and they're still not getting the sex they want because
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: of all the factors. I just slayed out for you,
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: because women control sex in the household, and then once
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: they feel like they're not getting enough out of their man,
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: they blame him when the reality was it started with them.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: So anyway, And I'm not saying that's all women. I'm saying,
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: more often than not, that's how your relationship and your
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: marriage has played out, all right, e fourteen five four
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: or seven seven Home been with a wife twenty years,
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: married for fifteen years. Last time we had sex was
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: two and a half years. At first she said it's
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: not you, it's me. Now she tells me I don't
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: deserve any That's what I'm saying, because that's how it starts.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: I can lay it out for you. Never cheated, always
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: taking care of her family, give her the always taking
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: care of her. Her family, gave her the boodhed eighteen.
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: She always complaining about never never taking her out. But
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 1: it's hard when you have a one year, one and
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: a half year old, the kids with special needs. We
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: don't like staying with we don't like staying with anyone. Okay,
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: I've got everything. She never I've gotten everything I've gotten
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: everything she ever wanted, or she has gotten everything. But
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: that's how it plays out. I mean, that's just I mean,
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: you're in a unique situation there, I get it. But
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: for the most part, you women are not taking accountability
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: for your part in your sexless marriage until you're not
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: getting what you want, and then you blame him. That's
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: what happens more often than not. I mean, think about
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: all of you women out there who likes some guy
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: and you were flirtatious and sexy and always stayed hot
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: and did blah blah blah, and then you reached a
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: point where you were in love with him, and now
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: you're going, well, you only want me for sex, So
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: now you're controlling your relationship trying to figure out how
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: much he loves you without sex, and then all of
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: a sudden, he gets used to this his life, you
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: don't want to have sex with him, and then all
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: of a sudden you realize, hey, he does love me.
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: He doesn't just want me for sex, he wants me
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 1: for more than that. And you've already created this monster
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: that now doesn't want to do anything for you because
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: of how you treated him. You women take no accountability
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: for how you treat your man and then you get
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 1: mad at him because he's accepted your rules and this
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: is what you've created and now it's his fault. Look, man,
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: you got to take accountability for it. It's not just him.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: There are circumstances on both ends of the spectrum where
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 1: it is him. But for the majority of you, it's
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: not just him already four seven to seven, Rome, from
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: my understanding from these young guys that I hear when
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: they take time apart, then they say, oh, she came back.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 1: Then I say yeah, because the other guy, the other
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: guy what he wanted and is done with the girls.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: So yes, they go back to their guy. Okay, I
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 1: don't know what that has to do with what we're
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: talking about, but okay, what else you said? Good morning Rome?
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: I agree with you. Women shouldn't hold men, shouldn't hold
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: men from having sex unless the woman wants him to
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: be miserable, miserable like her. That's a lot of bad
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: blood right there. No wonder they drain it once. Oh gosh,
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: you're so stupid anyway, It just I don't know you
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: you want to talk about. You want to look at
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: your marriage and go, well, why we don't have sex.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: We don't have to have sex and you guys, but
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 1: you want you don't want equal accountability. That's the problem
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: with you women. If you don't want equal accountability for
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 1: why your marriage and any aspect is where it's at. Okay,
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: not just the sex part. You know, you just want
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: to blame him. Now, this is not in all cases.
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just saying
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: more often than not, if I'm talking in generalities, more
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: often than not, you women don't take accountability for why
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 1: your sex life is either nonexistent, or why he's always
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: complaining about he doesn't get any or why he's not
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 1: taking you to do the things that gets you into
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: the mood. A lot of that has to do with
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 1: what you created because you control your sex life in
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 1: the marriage. I mean, uh, let's see here, good mor
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: to Romeo. Let's see so I think it had. There's
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: more to it. First, women get older. We need our
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 1: hormones adjusted. If not, we lose our libido. Also, men
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: need to understand that just because you married it doesn't
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: mean you need to step stop showing love. Most women
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 1: need physical touching to be able. I agree with all that,
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: I don't and Now, if the man is trying and
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: the woman doesn't want to, then she either is no
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: longer loves him, or there's something else. I agree with you,
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: but if you were gonna talk about it in generalities,
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 1: in most marriages, since women are the ones that control
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: the sex in their marriage, you are the ones that
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 1: created why your man is who he is today. Oh
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: what'd you send me here? Rome? You should ask if
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: anyone has been married over twenty years and are happy
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: and still having sex, have them call and tell you
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: what they do differently. I know what they do differently.
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: They care about each other. They want to be there
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: for each other. They want to please each other. That's
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: what they do differently. They still like each other. Okay,
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: all these things that we're talking about are problems that
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 1: every marriage goes through. Okay, there are gonna be times
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 1: in your marriage where it's not as exciting as it
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: once was. There are gonna be times in your marriage
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: when you guys are having you know, difficult times communicating.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: There are gonna be difficult times having sex. There's going
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: to be some ups and downs like that, but you
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: get past them and you figure it out. If you
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 1: still like each other, it has nothing to do with love,
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: nothing at all. If you still like the person that
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: you're married, and they still like you, and they still
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: want to have sex with you, you will figure it out.
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: You will figure out how to make that happen because
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: you still like them, you still want to be with them.
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: That's what people who do, who like each other and
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: want to be with each other, they do. They figure
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: it out. So for you to say, what did they do?
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: Why twenty years are they still having sex? Because they
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: still like each other. That's why, all righty four, two, five,
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 1: four or seven and seven of the problems most of
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: you don't. You get You get bitter, you get mean,
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: and you blame your spouse and don't take any accountability
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 1: for your actions. What you got here? Hey, Rome, good morning.
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: He should have his friends text him acting like the
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: acting like women that want to meet up and have sex,
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: see how she feels or see how she reacts to
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: someone else taking her man.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: Reason to be child play childish games like that. I mean,
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: you should be able to have a conversation about sex
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: with your husband or wife without And she basically said
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 1: she still loves them, she doesn't want to divorce them.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: She just doesn't want to have sex anymore, which for
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 1: whatever her reasons, reasons, reasonings are, you know, you can't
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: argue with them. Okay, but you have to make a
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: decision as her man or her husband, because if you
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 1: still want to have sex, and you know now you
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: got to make a decision for yourself, you can't disagree
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: or argue with why she's made that decision for herself
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: and your marriage, all right, eight four two five four
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: seven to seven. Hey, Roam, he should reverse Uno carter
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: and hold sex back from her. Well, how are you
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: holding sex back from her if she doesn't want it?
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: It's that's not how it works. You know, that's not necessary,
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: especially married from a lot of married couples, it's not
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: how it works, you know. Yeah. Anyway, Uh, hey, Rome,
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: the end of July will be twenty years married, and boy,
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: we still get it on. But I think the difference
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: is the little things that we do to keep each
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: other attractive. But not going to lie, Rome, the best
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 1: sex is the hallway sex when we walk by each
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 1: other in the hallway and we both say yeah, oh
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 1: my god. Anyway, you know, I'm gonna tell you a story,
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 1: and this happened a couple of years ago, I was
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: on a cruise and I got up. It was about
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: seven in the morning, six about I think it was
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: about seven or eight in the morning, whenever it was
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: real early. I went down to get a cup of
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 1: coffee and I sat down to have a beer, and
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: I thought, you know what, And I was the only
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: one at the beer thing, okay, at the beer at
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: the bar that early in the morning. And this woman
• 1:12:33
  Speaker 1: sits down next to me, and she was in her
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: flip flops and her sweats, and she looked kind of
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: like a beach bum, you know. And we started talking
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 1: a little bit, Hey, what's going on? She goes, Oh,
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 1: me and my sister. Every year I get together with
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: my sister. I live in California, she lives in Texas.
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 2: And we were just, you know, just.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 1: Talking because we were both sitting there, and I go,
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 1: where's your sister at? Oh, she's getting ready. And I
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 1: knew right away the minute I heard Texas and she's
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: getting ready at seven am or it it was sorry
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: seven or eight. I said, she's getting dressed up, isn't she.
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 1: And she goes, yeah, how'd you know that, I said,
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: because she's from Texas and she's probably one of those
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 1: women that wants to look good all the time. And
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: she said yeah. I said, we're from California. We will
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: walk around on flip flops and board shorts and could
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 1: care less. Right, she goes yeah. But it was just
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 1: that idea that this woman, her sister, wanted to always
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 1: look good for her husband. She always wanted to have
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 1: her hair done, always wanted to look nice. Right now,
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know what kind of marriage her and her
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 1: husband had to be. Honestly, this was I don't know
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 1: how many years ago I had this conversation, but it's
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: the concept of this woman. As my boy Arnold would say,
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 1: this woman knew her role. So did the husband know
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: his role? I don't know, never met the husband, But
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, you can't discount knowing your role in your marriage.
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 1: Whatever that is to keep for you to get what
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: you want from your spouse, or for your spouse to
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: want to give you give you what you want, that's
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 1: really what you want. You want your spouse to want
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 1: to give you what you want, which means in turn,
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: you should be doing what your spouse wants. Do you
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 1: see what I'm saying? You guys get it? Already four two, five,
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 1: four or seven to seven. Rome, I don't even know
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 1: why anybody listens to you. You don't know what you're
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 1: talking about. I do know what I'm talking about, more
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 1: so than any of you listening right now, because I've
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 1: been going to relationship counseling for twenty plus years, every
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 1: thirdy every Thursday with Michael Beam, with a relationship therapist. Yeah,
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: so I know more about it than you. Guys should
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: listen to me. When it comes to your marriages, we
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 1: gotta talk about your sex life for a little bit, right,
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: because it gets a little old. You've been married, you've
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 1: been in a relationship for years and years and years,
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: and sex just doesn't gets boring, right. You get complacent,
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: you don't try as hard, maybe not as much foreplay,
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: maybe not as much romance, maybe not you know, freaky
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 1: dieky sex. We were talking about cheating the other day
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 1: and how a guy said that he had he cheated
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: on his wife because he didn't want to do certain
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 1: sexual acts with his wife because he thought they were disrespectful. Well,
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 1: do you ever think that maybe that's uh your wife
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 1: would do it, and that would make your sex life
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: and your relationship more exciting. Do you ever think that
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 1: ever occurred you?
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 2: No?
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 1: Alrighty four two, five, four, seven seven. Then I had
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 1: a woman tell me. She texted me the other day
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 1: and she said, Hey, Roam, I want to spice up
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 1: my sex life with my husband. We've been married for
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: fifteen years, but I'm a little nervous about trying new things.
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 1: What do you think you got any advice? Try it?
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 2: Just do it.
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 1: You'll know if you'll like it or not. I mean,
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 1: it's all you can do. You're doing it with the
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 1: in the safest space possible. You're doing it with your husband,
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 1: so I don't think you could really screw it up
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: too much, right, So yeah, spice it up a little bit. Try.
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know what what do you what do you
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 1: want me to tell you to do? You know, sex
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: at the sex in public, public bathrooms, places like that,
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 1: the car. I mean, I don't know what kind of
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 1: sex life you guys have now, So I don't know
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 1: what you mean by spite, what you mean by it's boring.
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 1: Already four two, five, four or seven and seven. Somebody
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 1: texted me yesterday saying the same thing, Him and his
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 1: wife had boring sex. So what do you need to do.
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 1: You need to spice it up different positions, different places.
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: I mean, right, how do you spice up your sex life?
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: People do it all the time? People do it all
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: the time. How do you spice up your sex life?
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 1: A four two, five, four or seven to seven. A
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 1: couple of people in the last few days talk about
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 1: spicing up their sex life. A woman texted me and
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 1: said she wants spice of her sex life. She's not
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 1: really sure how to do it, though, and she's a
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 1: little nervous about the change. Which, yeah, you can see
• 1:17:06
  Speaker 1: that because you know, you ever notice what people talking
• 1:17:09
  Speaker 1: about spiced up their sex life, It always has to
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 1: do with some sort of kinky sex, and a lot
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 1: of it has to do with the threesome. And you go, well,
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: did you ever think that maybe making your sex life
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 1: better could be a little more emotional, maybe a little
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: more romance, maybe a little more foreplay, you know, something
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 1: a little more sexual in a romantic way, as opposed
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 1: to just say, hey, let's get a third person involved
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: in that'll be great for our relationship. No, but I mean,
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: spiced up your sex life could mean spontaneous sex. It
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 1: can mean sex and you know places, you know kind
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 1: of a little dangerous sex. Things like that.
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 2: Rom.
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 1: Some people's sex life is boring, it's because they're out
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 1: of shape. Well maybe, I mean, maybe it is just
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 1: losing a little bit of weight getting back into shape,
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 1: you know. But when some people ask and say they're
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 1: having boring sex and they've been with somebody for ten years,
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 1: you gotta believe that it's just It means it's just
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 1: the same routine. You probably do it at the same
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: time every night, or you do it in the same place.
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: You just you know, it's almost like scheduled, but not scheduled. Well,
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: you know, switch it up a little bit. I mean,
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 1: do it different places, do it different times, do it
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 1: during the days as supposed to a night. I mean,
• 1:18:26
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of different things you can do. Rom.
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 1: I'm married to a seriously very private, classy woman. She
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 1: is more freaky than me. It's about communication with a partner.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know until we talk about and man, let
• 1:18:39
  Speaker 1: me tell you, I'll go work all day, take care
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 1: of the kids, and get her Starbucks just for a
• 1:18:43
  Speaker 1: chance in the bedroom. It's like a circus. Well, there
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 1: you go. It sounds like your sex life is fine,
• 1:18:49
  Speaker 1: but there are a lot of people out there that
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 1: have a boring sex life. But to be fair, it
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 1: doesn't just mean you have to do some kinky, dangerous
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 1: you know, crazy porn. Huh nine and a half weeks
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 1: type sex. Okay, there's other things you can do to
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 1: make it better. Already four two, five, four, seven to seven.
• 1:19:07
  Speaker 1: How'd you make your sex life better? It's icing up
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 1: your sex life. I got a couple of people in
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: the last couple of days asking me how to spice
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: up their sex life. One woman said she, I think
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 1: it was fifteen years of marriage. She wants to spice
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 1: up her sex life, but she's nervous about what to do.
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 1: And I could see that. I could see, you know,
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 1: making a change to spice up your sex life, could
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 1: you know, scare your partner a little bit? I can
• 1:19:30
  Speaker 1: see that. Good morning, How what's going on? Hey?
• 1:19:33
  Speaker 2: Hey?
• 1:19:33
  Speaker 1: What's up?
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 2: Hey?
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 4: So the guy thought that I was respressful to do
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 4: those things to his wife, but he said it was
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 4: okay to cheat on her.
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 1: That wouldn't be disrespretful. Yeah, that was That's a different
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 1: conversation though, but yeah, that's what happened, all right. How
• 1:19:47
  Speaker 1: what's going on?
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 5: A good that you have to be hand to it
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 5: and still don't let your hand to it.
• 1:19:56
  Speaker 1: That that'll that'll do it, all right, thanks for calling.
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 1: She might be right doing something that you don't do
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 1: very often, maybe giving him birthday sex when it's not
• 1:20:10
  Speaker 1: his birthday, something like that. I mean, if you're looking
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 1: to spice up your sex life, there are I mean,
• 1:20:16
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that you can do that
• 1:20:19
  Speaker 1: aren't just you know, necessarily kinky sexually all right, already
• 1:20:24
  Speaker 1: four two five four seven seven Yo, Roam, I changed
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 1: my sex mode by finding a different partner. I see, Okay,
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 1: then you're never gonna find real love and be with
• 1:20:35
  Speaker 1: one person that you can spirits everything with. Already four
• 1:20:39
  Speaker 1: two five four seven seven, Hey, Rome, My husband and
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 1: I we've been married seven years. He works ten hour days,
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 1: and I found that we were just having sex at
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 1: night before bed, same old routine. So when I started
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 1: doing on the weekends, I started dressing sexy, walking around
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: the house in just a T shirt and I'm guessing
• 1:21:03
  Speaker 1: just a T shirt and nothing else. And I noticed
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 1: that he started chasing me again. Switched up our sex life.
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 1: Now it's uh, it's getting healthier and healthier. Well, there
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 1: you go. See just saw anything walking around half naked.
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 1: I mean obviously they must not have kids. But yeah,
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 1: sometimes you got to spice it up a little bit,
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: just you know, get it going again. And it doesn't
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 1: always mean some sort of kinky you know, sex that
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 1: you've never had before. It could just be like that
• 1:21:34
  Speaker 1: woman said, just walking around in a T shirt. Wised
• 1:21:37
  Speaker 1: up your sex life? How do you do it? Eight
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 1: four two five four seven to seven? Goodmorran? Not what's
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 1: going on? You wann wrong? Hey? What's up?
• 1:21:46
  Speaker 3: I just had a baby six weeks ago.
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, the house is a mess. I got other kids.
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 4: And you know what would turn me on is this
• 1:21:55
  Speaker 4: if my man came, if you would just go put
• 1:21:57
  Speaker 4: in the house for me, that would I would.
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 8: I that's all the time.
• 1:22:05
  Speaker 5: If you did that for me, he did whatever he
• 1:22:07
  Speaker 5: wanted from that's hilarious.
• 1:22:11
  Speaker 1: Well, hopefully he's listening. Hey, thanks for calling. All right,
• 1:22:17
  Speaker 1: So all you gotta do is spice so that sex
• 1:22:19
  Speaker 1: life is clean a house. See what I'm saying. Everybody
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 1: always thinks when you talk about spicing up your sex
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 1: life it has to do with some sort of kinky
• 1:22:26
  Speaker 1: something you've seen in a porno or no, it doesn't
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 1: have to be already four two five, four seven to seven. Hey, Romeo,
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 1: me and my husband were getting kind of doll in
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 1: the bedroom, so I started to take charge during sex.
• 1:22:42
  Speaker 1: Then I started to take charge initiating sex, and it
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 1: changed our sex life for the better. There you go,
• 1:22:49
  Speaker 1: it's all takes right already four two five, four seven
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 1: to seven A roam.
• 1:22:53
  Speaker 4: Hey.
• 1:22:54
  Speaker 1: So I just asked him if there was anything he
• 1:22:56
  Speaker 1: wanted to try, and he gets a blank once a week.
• 1:22:59
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well he gets a you know, a b
• 1:23:02
  Speaker 1: you know what once a week. All right, Uh, randomly
• 1:23:06
  Speaker 1: surprised him when he comes home, be a lingerie. See
• 1:23:09
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. There are a lot of things that
• 1:23:11
  Speaker 1: you can do to make your sex life better, to
• 1:23:14
  Speaker 1: spice it up that doesn't include some sort of weird
• 1:23:17
  Speaker 1: kinky never done this before, because sometimes that's just not
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 1: in everybody's personality. I know you guys all want to
• 1:23:23
  Speaker 1: think that, Oh man, rome if I had a threesome.
• 1:23:25
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not in your personality. Everybody has a different
• 1:23:29
  Speaker 1: version of what great sex is, and it's not always
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 1: the kinky stuff you see on poor hum Sometimes it
• 1:23:35
  Speaker 1: is as much as hey, if he just cleaned the house.
• 1:23:38
  Speaker 1: I'd be good to go already four two five, four
• 1:23:43
  Speaker 1: seven to seven. All right, I'm talking about spicing up
• 1:23:45
  Speaker 1: your sex life. How do you do it?
• 1:23:47
  Speaker 2: Aight?
• 1:23:47
  Speaker 1: Four to two, five, four seven to seven. What do
• 1:23:50
  Speaker 1: you got here? Uh, let's see here, hey, rome The
• 1:23:53
  Speaker 1: other night, my husband and I went out and I
• 1:23:56
  Speaker 1: felt like it was time to spice stuff up a little.
• 1:23:58
  Speaker 1: So when he hit the row, I put on the
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 1: I like the way you said that, although I don't
• 1:24:08
  Speaker 1: think I can repeat the way you said that on
• 1:24:11
  Speaker 1: the radio. Been together going on five, I meaning she
• 1:24:16
  Speaker 1: got you know, you know what most of you do.
• 1:24:19
  Speaker 1: She got, he got a road. You know what is
• 1:24:21
  Speaker 1: what he got? So yeah, I don't know how to
• 1:24:24
  Speaker 1: say that. The aout being vulgar, hey Romeo. Some people
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 1: have it, some don'te Men and women have to have
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 1: that sex drive or the kinky stuff won't work. Well,
• 1:24:35
  Speaker 1: it's not up when we talk about spiced up your
• 1:24:37
  Speaker 1: sex life. Though we're not talking about just the kinky stuff.
• 1:24:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, look at the woman who said she just
• 1:24:43
  Speaker 1: started walking around in just a T shirt. Her husband
• 1:24:45
  Speaker 1: started chasing her again. Alrighty four two, five, four seven
• 1:24:50
  Speaker 1: seven eight Romeo me and my husband have been together
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 1: for seventeen years. We have three kids together, and sometimes
• 1:24:59
  Speaker 1: it's hard, hard to have sex. So what I do is,
• 1:25:02
  Speaker 1: whenever the kids aren't around, I flash him. Oh that's great.
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 1: Keeps him awake long enough to get it on. That's
• 1:25:17
  Speaker 1: not bad. That's not a bad idea. Flashing your husband
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 1: when he's uh, you know, when you're just around the house.
• 1:25:23
  Speaker 1: That's a it's like going to Cabo. All right. How
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 1: do you spice up your sex life? What do you
• 1:25:27
  Speaker 1: do already? Four two five, four seven to seven your roam?
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 1: I know how to make sex life spicier. Stop the
• 1:25:34
  Speaker 1: complaining and whining every day. Don't ruin it with your mouth. Okay,
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 1: that's nice. Spicing up your sex life, man, how do
• 1:25:41
  Speaker 1: you get it done? People gotta you know, some people
• 1:25:44
  Speaker 1: have born sex lives. They don't know how to spice
• 1:25:46
  Speaker 1: it up. Going out? What's going on? Okay?
• 1:25:48
  Speaker 2: What's going wrong?
• 1:25:48
  Speaker 5: What up? Really?
• 1:25:50
  Speaker 2: I like to spice it up, Like when I go
• 1:25:52
  Speaker 2: out of town and just pull over somewhere just I mean,
• 1:25:54
  Speaker 2: I'll be going to nukle yam, I'm finding a dirt
• 1:25:56
  Speaker 2: road and I just hit that dirt road. If I
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 2: was top a mile in You know what I mean?
• 1:26:00
  Speaker 2: They just do my thing, all right?
• 1:26:02
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
• 1:26:03
  Speaker 2: All right?
• 1:26:03
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean.
• 1:26:04
  Speaker 2: I like tend me and stuff like that, like when
• 1:26:06
  Speaker 2: I come home, my wife wait for me to jump
• 1:26:07
  Speaker 2: in the shower with me, you know what I mean.
• 1:26:09
  Speaker 2: Like we're nineteen years and we still rolling.
• 1:26:12
  Speaker 1: All right, thanks, you got We just got to do a.
• 1:26:14
  Speaker 2: Little things to pipe it up. Man, now pools to
• 1:26:16
  Speaker 2: step it up?
• 1:26:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and hello, how what's going on?
• 1:26:23
  Speaker 2: All right?
• 1:26:23
  Speaker 7: So I'm listening to the.
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 1: Radio right now about how to pipe.
• 1:26:26
  Speaker 7: Up your marriage?
• 1:26:27
  Speaker 2: Sure text life.
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:26:29
  Speaker 7: And for me and my husband, we've been together for
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 7: almost ten years and when we have, you know, not
• 1:26:34
  Speaker 7: the crazy weekends, we go to the store and get
• 1:26:36
  Speaker 7: some edibles, and man, it takes me.
• 1:26:39
  Speaker 4: To a whole net.
• 1:26:40
  Speaker 3: Care what you're doing in the bed because you're.
• 1:26:42
  Speaker 2: Like you're on cloud nine.
• 1:26:43
  Speaker 6: You're like, I know, my lady can do that.
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 1: Hot damn it works every time. It's likes ex fact.
• 1:26:52
  Speaker 2: So get some edibles.
• 1:26:54
  Speaker 1: Wow, get high on drugs. You never know what you
• 1:26:57
  Speaker 1: could accomplish on edibles.
• 1:27:01
  Speaker 4: Let me tell you ten years and it's fire.
• 1:27:04
  Speaker 1: So oh that's awesome. That's awesome and thanks for calling.
• 1:27:09
  Speaker 4: Thank you man.
• 1:27:10
  Speaker 1: You're right, she said, I guess some edibles and I
• 1:27:14
  Speaker 1: didn't know my legs went that high. Wow.
• 1:27:19
  Speaker 2: Thro meo in the morning, every morning morning, ninety four
• 1:27:22
  Speaker 2: point one