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Be Yourself And Other Bad Advice From Funny Person And Author Meredith Walker · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: The podcast network is called ero dot net A r
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  Speaker 1: r oe dot net. It's twenty different podcasts to choose from.
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  Speaker 1: One of the biggest ones is podcrashing. I talk with
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  Speaker 1: podcasters all over the world. Not only are you going
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  Speaker 1: to learn inside, behind the scene things about their podcast,
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  Speaker 1: but you're going to learn something about doing a podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we cover it all podcrashing only on ero
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  Speaker 1: dot net A r r oe dot net. Enjoy that exploration. Hello,
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  Speaker 1: and good morning Meredith. How are you doing today?
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  Speaker 2: Good morning arrow On great, Thanks so much for having me.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, love that energy.
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  Speaker 1: That must mean you've read this book and you're exercising
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  Speaker 1: everything that you planted in it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, tell my therapist that I'd love to hear that.
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  Speaker 1: We've got to talk about the design of this book
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  Speaker 1: because it is so perfectly sized that it goes into
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  Speaker 1: any book bag or even a purse if they're carrying
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  Speaker 1: purses nowadays. But more importantly, I got to tell you
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  Speaker 1: I love the font. The font is so perfect because
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  Speaker 1: when somebody needs to briefly find something to get me
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  Speaker 1: a pick me up, to get something going on, they
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  Speaker 1: can go right here and they're going to find it immediately.
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  Speaker 1: So that's brilliant on your publisher.
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  Speaker 2: They did a great job of all of that. The
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  Speaker 2: design does it makes you just want to keep reading it.
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  Speaker 2: It makes it easy to find things, and it's really
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  Speaker 2: lovely to look at. It's just a beautiful design with
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  Speaker 2: really lovely artist illustrations by the artist Nina Cospert.
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  Speaker 3: I love it so many times.
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  Speaker 1: People are always going, I'm looking for my purpose in life.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have any plans. I think that you've hit
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  Speaker 1: something here when you say that there are values, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: do people because I never hear anybody talking about the values.
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  Speaker 1: What is it that you're diving into with that so
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  Speaker 1: we can get people a little bit more in touch
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  Speaker 1: with that.
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  Speaker 2: Well, what I'm diving into with that is the fact that,
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  Speaker 2: like you know, when you're doing something, whether it's in
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  Speaker 2: your career or in the way you're treating your friend
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  Speaker 2: or whatever it is, you can kind of feel when
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  Speaker 2: you're going against who you really want to be. It
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  Speaker 2: doesn't feel great. I didn't feel great about how I
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  Speaker 2: handled that, whatever it might be. And that's where we
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  Speaker 2: were running up against your values. Like you might be
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  Speaker 2: going against something that you really believe in, but at
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  Speaker 2: the time you might not know that I didn't know
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  Speaker 2: that all the time when I was younger, I just thought,
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  Speaker 2: you know, this will get me out of trouble, or
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  Speaker 2: this will fix this situation. But when you really check in,
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  Speaker 2: think about what you think about things and what you
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  Speaker 2: really do value in life, and how that shows up
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  Speaker 2: in your life. When those things align, more often than not,
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  Speaker 2: you're probably having a pretty good life.
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  Speaker 1: You really do point to a very interesting place to
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  Speaker 1: get information and our experience, and that is that we
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  Speaker 1: should be pointing our energy toward the younger people because
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  Speaker 1: I see them basically as goal setters. They just don't
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  Speaker 1: know how to do it. But more importantly, you almost
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  Speaker 1: feel like Alexa or Grock because I'm sitting here with
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  Speaker 1: the experience, They're seeking some sort of information. Now, let's
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  Speaker 1: work together and see if we can get up to
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  Speaker 1: that next generation.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. And frankly, we're the ones yet who
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  Speaker 2: really need like to check in with ourselves. More like
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  Speaker 2: I find when I'm when I'm when I'm having conversations
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  Speaker 2: with young women, they are so expressive. They know so
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  Speaker 2: much about mental health and the issues in the world
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  Speaker 2: and problem solving and you know, activism and all kinds
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  Speaker 2: of things. And sometimes we're the ones who have kind
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  Speaker 2: of gone on autopilot and need to check in with
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  Speaker 2: ourselves even more.
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  Speaker 1: I love what you did with understand that everyone flops
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  Speaker 1: and fumbles. It's a normal part of being a human.
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  Speaker 1: And then there's no paragraph below that. It's almost like saying,
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  Speaker 1: if you have a question, go back to the beginning
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  Speaker 1: of this and start it all over again.
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  Speaker 3: Understand that.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, there's so many different things in
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  Speaker 1: here that make you just go, my God, does this
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  Speaker 1: person live with me?
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  Speaker 3: And I just don't know it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so happy to hear you say that, because, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I think we all need to need to hear all
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  Speaker 2: of this, because we didn't have a toolbox when we
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  Speaker 2: were you know, really, when our brains were so much
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  Speaker 2: under construction and we were kind of dealing with the
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  Speaker 2: emotional centers and stuff. We didn't have a lot of
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  Speaker 2: knowledge to help us get through that in a way,
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  Speaker 2: and we adapted a lot to it, and we still
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  Speaker 2: have some of those things that we adapted to, and
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  Speaker 2: so all of this kind of still reads true for me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm always just my friends who read chapters and drafts
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  Speaker 2: ahead of time, they said, oh my gosh, like let's
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  Speaker 2: sit down and go through some of these together and
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  Speaker 2: discuss it. My gosh, you know it's really helpful no
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  Speaker 2: matter your age, I think.
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  Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more with Meredith Walker coming
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  Speaker 1: up next, the name of her book, Be Yourself and
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  Speaker 1: Other Bad Advice. Ooh, we've got to check back in
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  Speaker 1: with Meredith Walker. I love that you put focus on
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  Speaker 1: the power of positive thinking and speaking. But the problem is, though,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of CEOs and department heads right now
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  Speaker 1: that continuously look at me saying, put away mister happy.
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  Speaker 1: I don't need mister happy today. I can't be the
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  Speaker 1: only person that has to deal with this on a
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  Speaker 1: daily basis.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you're not that is that's the thing
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  Speaker 2: that's you know what. It's those CEOs and the leaders
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  Speaker 2: and managers that need to read this book too, telling
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  Speaker 2: you because you've got to tap into it's very easy
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  Speaker 2: to find the thing that's not going well and it's fine. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: that's worth identifying for sure, you know, and making repairs
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  Speaker 2: or you know, working around it within yourself or within
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  Speaker 2: a work situation or wherever it is, but not to
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  Speaker 2: the detriment, not to making it so we never see
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  Speaker 2: what is going right, who is being part of a solution,
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  Speaker 2: What is making my life comfortable? What's going well? That's
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  Speaker 2: happening all day every day, And if you only fixate
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  Speaker 2: on the one thing that went wrong, that's when you're
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  Speaker 2: going to be bummed out to much.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you can balance it out, yeah, because we're
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  Speaker 1: all so guilty of what my wife and I call
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  Speaker 1: writing a story before it happens, and then when it happens,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, oh God, that's not what I envisioned.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, that's right. So you know, be mindful of
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  Speaker 2: the story you're writing.
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  Speaker 1: And another thing here that really kudos to you, and
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  Speaker 1: you're right about this. When it comes to everybody on
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  Speaker 1: the planet, it doesn't matter what age it is. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's people who sit there and scroll on that smartphone
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  Speaker 1: over and over again, and then we all feel guilty afterwards. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the way that I'm breaking that habit is personally, I'll
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  Speaker 1: sit there and I'll grab a journal and I'll write
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  Speaker 1: into it. Even if it's fake news. It doesn't matter,
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  Speaker 1: it's not going anywhere. It's my journal, and I'll write
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  Speaker 1: my little fake news. I'll do whatever so that this
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  Speaker 1: way I don't have to go read somebody else's you know, clickbait.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, and that's a really lovely and scientifically back
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  Speaker 2: smart thing to do, just getting back like from there's
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  Speaker 2: been studies that do that, talk about actually writing things down.
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  Speaker 2: So what your brain has to do in order for
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  Speaker 2: all of that to happen is a good break. It
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  Speaker 2: shifts something for you. So that's a really smart way
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  Speaker 2: to do it. And we do. And it's not even
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  Speaker 2: just the relentlessness of the news. Like just the other day,
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  Speaker 2: I was, you know, on Instagram when I got said
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  Speaker 2: and ad it was about how a product I should
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  Speaker 2: buy to fix the imperfections of my eyelids because of
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  Speaker 2: a certain age, And I thought, we can't get eyelids, right, dude,
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  Speaker 2: Like those can't be natural, Like what in the world.
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  Speaker 2: So I thought, oh my god, I mean I didn't think.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I know for a fact that what younger
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  Speaker 2: people are getting hit with it's like every like their elbow,
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  Speaker 2: every single part of their body. Could buy a cream
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  Speaker 2: or an oortment to improve it or something, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and we need to step away from that. We're doing fine,
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  Speaker 2: We're great.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, you are speaking my street, because that's
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  Speaker 1: exactly it when people look at me and they start judging,
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  Speaker 1: you know, they body damage me and stuff, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to just shut up.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: It's like you know, I you know, if you if
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  Speaker 1: you've got a problem with me, go call my mom.
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  Speaker 3: Let's see if she'll call you back.
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  Speaker 1: But I do want you to know that I want
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  Speaker 1: to add a couple of words to your why should
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  Speaker 1: we care? I want to put some Jimmy Buffett words
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  Speaker 1: in there, altitude and longitude, because we do shape attitudes
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  Speaker 1: and we do shape open minds and make life happen.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like, but but don't do it just for
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  Speaker 1: your circle of Now, get out there in your community,
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  Speaker 1: get out there in the world, and activate, because because
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  Speaker 1: that's what what I feel inside this book.
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  Speaker 3: Activation.
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  Speaker 2: I agree with you so much, you know, and especially
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  Speaker 2: with with with young people and like young readers. Adolescence
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  Speaker 2: is forgetting to know yourself and trying things on for size.
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  Speaker 2: And that means getting out there and trying things and
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  Speaker 2: flopping around and being a beginner and not being great
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  Speaker 2: and getting a little lost. But you're right, it's attitude
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  Speaker 2: and latitude and you've got to get out there and
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  Speaker 2: try things just for the sake of trying them, not
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  Speaker 2: because they're going to look good later on a college application.
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  Speaker 2: You know, just do it because you want to give
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  Speaker 2: it a shot.
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  Speaker 3: Now, what are you doing with this book? Are you
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  Speaker 3: doing videos?
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  Speaker 1: Because it seems to be that's the big thing on
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  Speaker 1: YouTube right now where they want people to get on
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  Speaker 1: there with their microphones and share things like this. Are
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  Speaker 1: you going to be doing that kind of stuff? What
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  Speaker 1: is the fourth dimension here?
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  Speaker 2: The fourth dimension for me is my favorite one, which
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  Speaker 2: is just in person. I'm going to schools, I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to girl groups, I'm going to universities. Yeah, I'm going
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  Speaker 2: all around because being in the room is, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 2: that's my favorite thing. You can see the relief on
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  Speaker 2: a girl's face when you tell her about something that
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  Speaker 2: you messed up and that you're still okay, and they think,
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  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, you're allowed to mess up and then
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  Speaker 2: still be okay. And there's nothing beat that kind of
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  Speaker 2: in person.
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  Speaker 1: When you go and you're with a big crowd of
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  Speaker 1: people like that, is there one thing that you do
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  Speaker 1: to get their attention? Because I'll take a feather with
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  Speaker 1: me and I will totally sit there and just wreck
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  Speaker 1: a feather and by the end of the day that
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  Speaker 1: feather is looking brand new all over again.
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  Speaker 3: I said, see, you can be fixed. I mean something
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  Speaker 3: does God.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm going to start doing that. Go for it.
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  Speaker 2: I have to give you credit, Aydea, Yeah, no, no,
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  Speaker 2: just do it. Most of the time I get their
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  Speaker 2: attention by just I have different stories that I tell
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  Speaker 2: that kind of There are some that are that are
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  Speaker 2: kind of will grab their attention from the entertainment world.
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  Speaker 2: But most of the time it's things that I messed up,
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  Speaker 2: big mistakes I made, because it really does set people
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  Speaker 2: at ease when they find out, oh gosh, people make mistakes.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay, Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Where can people go to find out more about you?
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  Speaker 1: Because I want them to be in love with this
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  Speaker 1: book and activate it, like we talked.
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  Speaker 2: About, thank you so much. Well, I hope they all
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  Speaker 2: get the book thing, which they can do at any ice.
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  Speaker 2: They buy books indie bookstores and town or online if
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  Speaker 2: that's and how they buy books. But also come visit
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  Speaker 2: me at Instagram. I'm Meridiach on Instagram and that's where
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  Speaker 2: all the you know, links and bio and all that
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  Speaker 2: stuff is. And I'm a very googleable person, so you
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  Speaker 2: can find me very easily.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, come back to this show anytime in the future.
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  Speaker 1: The door is always going to be open for you.
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  Speaker 2: I'd love to. It's been so fun talking with you.
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  Speaker 3: Will you be brilliant today?
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  Speaker 1: Okay I will, and you too.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much