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October 31, 2018 | Men Of Success - Fall 2018: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Session 8 · Topeka Bible Church Audio Archive

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hey.
• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Hey.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Jim.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: This is Derek.
• 0:05
  SPEAKER_00: There we go.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's Halloween, so we are very good at dressing up.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_00: Some of you guys need a little early.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: I know.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: Or it's just cheesy.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it takes a little while to get the juices flowing up in the brain.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: So Jim and a crew is they're out in Haiti.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: So they're down there with the One Body Project, kind of a segment of Haiti Lifeline.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: And so part of what they do, part of the One Body Project, is going to build churches down in Haiti for pastors, congregations who don't have churches.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: And so they're down there right now working on a conference and then celebrating the completion of a building down there.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: And so if you if you usually come to CBC, you'll remember a couple years ago that we had one body as the Christmas Project.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: And we were able to send money down there to have these projects done.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: And so one of those churches was completed.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_01: And they were going to remote villages as well as the pastors conference that they're helping with.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_01: And they think they said it was about nine-hour rocky road drive to get to those villages because they're going to take a very small plane that Jim was a little apprehensive about, but then they decided to drive nine hours instead of taking the small plane.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_01: So it'll be interesting to be able to do that.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Seemed to be safer to keep four wheels on the ground than risk it otherwise.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: Also, Tom's not here this morning.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: Let's give a hand to Steve because Steve was Steve was rocking it out, getting the breakfast ready.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: So thank you, Steve.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: Really, really appreciate that.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, and guess what?
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is habit six.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: That means next week is our last session for the semester.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: Already.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: Next week is the last one.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: So glad that you guys are here this week.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: Don't miss habit seven next week.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then we'll go on to holiday time and then restart up the next semester.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: Still trying to decide exactly what book we're gonna go through.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Only one more early breakfast, then.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's right.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: Chiefs, Bronton, any of you guys watch this game?
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, seven, eight, okay.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, got a few people.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not even a I'm not even a true Die Hard Chiefs fan.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: I know.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: But you are.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because Derek's a Patriots fan, so you can't be both a Die Hard Chiefs fan and a diehard Patriots fan, I don't think.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I don't I don't even know that I can be a diehard Patriots fan just because I don't know their schedule, I don't know all their key players anymore, I don't know all their stats.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: But I'll root for them every time.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, absolutely.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_01: Um the Chiefs, it just, yes, and it's so fun to watch someone, not Steve DeBerg or someone named Elvis play quarterback for the Chiefs.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_01: So uh it's just been nice for this season to see a quarterback that has a pretty decent arm, and uh it seems like they're doing pretty good.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_01: I don't get my hopes up too much, just like 2014-2015 Royals.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: You kind of temper that excitement until you know the playoffs, then you could just go all in.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_01: But it seems like it's gonna be a good one.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_01: They're hitting it off early.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: They're hitting it off early.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully they make it to the Super Bowl.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: That would be awesome.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, you know what they could do?
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: If they make it to the Super Bowl, when maybe they'll convert the Expo Center to the Super Bowl site.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: I think I actually that would be a horrible idea.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, seven habits, highly effective people.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: And Jason's gonna review all the way up to this week, so the first five weeks.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_01: All right, really quickly, uh review for everything.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_01: First one, be proactive.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_01: Uh make sure you know you're in charge of your life.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_01: You can create change.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_01: Uh the second one, uh, if you're gonna create change, you need to begin with what you want to accomplish first before you start a plan.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_01: So begin with the end in mind.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_01: Uh then habit three, put first things first.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_01: Uh make sure that you're wanting when you when you have a plan, you want to make sure the most important things in your life are at the forefront of that plan.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_01: And it's kind of it kind of is the pendulum, if you will, from dependence, like a baby is dependent on people to do things for them, to move if you're the first three habits uh will give you a private victory if you move from dependence to independence, and that's our first goal is to become independent people.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_01: But we don't want to stop there, we want to continue on to become interdependent, and that's what the fourth, fifth, and sixth habit uh are talking about becoming interdependent, uh accomplishing more when we talk about uh well go to the next one.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_01: So the fourth one to go into interdependence, uh past independence would be think win-win.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_01: Uh we're doing my fantasy football this year.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_01: I think that uh no one that's in my fantasy football league is here.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_01: Some of them do go to TBC.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_01: They could, with the some of the deals, uh trade deals they're offering me, they could learn from this.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: They're trying to mess me over on a couple offers like uh Alex Smith for Toggerly or something like that.
• 5:44
  SPEAKER_01: But anyway, think when it's not you don't really win if the other person loses, uh, unless you're playing fantasy football and you get over on one of your friends.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_01: But anyway, I digress.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_01: Uh habit five, seek first to understand and then be understood, uh, which is a really, really hard one.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_01: We talked about communication in that one a lot.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_01: And then today, synergize.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: Habit number six.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: Synergize.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: Now, out of curiosity, raise your hand if you had to look up the definition of this word.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_00: Raise your hand if you now feel like you should look up the definition of this word.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: I was I've I've heard this before and I've gone through the book.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: But as I reopened it again, I thought, synergy?
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, is that just a word that he made up?
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: Is that something creative?
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's energy and some kind of in front of it, or what how does this work?
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: But here's here's where the word comes from.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: So what is synergy?
• 6:50
  SPEAKER_00: It actually comes from the Greek.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: It comes from two separate words, so soon, which means with or together, and then erga, which is work.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: And so when you put these two Greek words together, you got soon, erga, or soon, ergon, and then when it comes over to English, that's where you get the synergy.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: You can kind of feel the same uh same phonetics from the Greek to the English.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: And so when we think about synergy, he defines it in the book.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: He says, simply defined, it means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: And so thinking about synergy, it's this idea of working together.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's this idea of collaboration, it's this idea that I may be one part of the part of the equation, and Jason may be another part of the equation.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: Both of our parts are important, but when we put our works together, we put our efforts together, that creates something different, and that's even more important and more beneficial than anything that we could do on our own.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_01: Well, and in the book he talked about examples of synergy in nature, in work, and relationships.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_01: So it's really an all-encompassing thing.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_01: Synergy isn't just in work relationships or just um relationships of spouses or whatever, but throughout all of nature, even he was making the point.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_01: That was interesting.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's interesting, especially when he's talking about I think he was talking about planting trees.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Or planting some type of bushes or fruit plants or something like that.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: Where if you just plant one, it may grow a little bit, it may give off a little bit of fruit, but then when you plant maybe multiple fruit trees together, they they feed off each other, the the soil gets you know mixed around, the chemical compositions change to make all the plants grow more effectively when they're planted together than they could just individually on their own.
• 8:52
  SPEAKER_00: He says, you are simply opening your mind and heart and expressions to new possibilities, new alternatives, new options.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: And so this, as we go through this chapter, I think one of the things for me was thinking, man, this is pretty basic.
• 9:12
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, being being open to others, looking for new ideas, working together.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: But he talks about in the next section, he talks about valuing the differences between each other, valuing the differences of other human beings.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_00: And he says the person who is truly effective has the humility and reverence to recognize his own perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I think we'd all like to say, Well, yeah, we're we do that all the time.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: We're good at that.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: But then when when I was sitting back and thinking, man, sometimes I'm not open to other people's ideas.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I'm not valuing maybe a difference that my wife has, or a difference that a coworker has, or a difference that maybe a student has.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not valuing their difference, even though it's not one of my strengths, but I should be valuing that.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_01: Well, and I was thinking about this too, as we talked a little bit about this.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_01: I was thinking about it last night.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_01: Who in here has heard a saying that goes something kind of like this?
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_01: If you want it right, just do it yourself?
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, man, I have used that excuse several different times in my life, just either out of laziness or out of not wanting to train somebody, maybe, or not understanding this principle that uh it might take a little work, more work on the front end.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_01: But if you're using synergy, if you're working together with other people and their gifts, that you can come up with a better product, and not to use that as an excuse.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_01: I just I was convicted of that.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: That's big.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: He says, when we're left to our own experiences, we constantly suffer from a shortage of data.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I thought that was a really profound quote in the book.
• 11:02
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's it's it's true in multiple areas.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: When we think about maybe when we think about differences in race, when we think about difference in socioeconomics, when we think about difference in education, we think about difference in just temperament, we can get so stuck in what we have experienced and the way that we see the world and the things that that we have been a part of, that it's tough for us to make it outside of our mind and outside of our own viewpoint to step into somebody else's shoes and see the world from their perspective.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: See the world in a way that is different than our own experience, and then that richness adds to our life.
• 11:49
  SPEAKER_00: And then we're able to better empathize with others, we're better able to look for win-win situations, we're better able to work together when we see it from a different perspective.
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_00: Interesting story time.
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_01: Why is there a tent on the screen?
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_01: Who put the screen?
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_01: Well, because when Derek and I were talking about this, we're like, okay, cooperation, synergy, the some of the parts are more than the one, you know.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know if I said that right, but working together you can accomplish more cooperation.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_01: So, how does this apply in a real world situation?
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_01: And so we were kind of brainstorming uh either either successes or failures of synergy in our own life, and mostly mine were failures.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_01: So uh I thought of a I just want to share a story uh about a time that I didn't use synergy, but I hopefully learnt from my lesson from this.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_01: And so uh it was my wife and I's first and last camping trip that we ever took.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_01: And uh some of you that don't know, I my my wife and I have been married uh for 16 years, uh or going on 16 years, it'll be 16 years in May.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_01: Uh when I was I got married when I was 21.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_01: And uh one of the things I loved to do uh before I was married when I was younger, as I was in Boy Scouts, I loved camping.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_01: I just like being outside.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_01: And um so I thought, since she had never really been camping before, I mean, really tent camping and you know, cooking over the stove and all that fun stuff that is awesome to do, you know, I thought she'd really enjoy that.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_01: Uh so I decided we're we had a little bit of time.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_01: We'd been married, I think exactly 14, maybe 14 and a half months at the time.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_01: And so I was like, okay, we're still kind of in that newly wed time when we're like you kind of challenge each other, but not really.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, like it's still kind of like partially in that honeymoon stage.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_01: And so I was like, we're gonna go on a vacation, we have a vacation time.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_01: She's like, Oh, that sounds great.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, I love the mountains, you've never really been camping, and you we're gonna go camping in Colorado, and she's like, Where are we gonna go?
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_01: She's I was like, Don't worry about it.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_01: And those of you that know me know this is really was not a very smart idea, but I was like, I'm gonna plan everything, and don't ever pick up a non-planner to plan a trip like this.
• 14:10
  SPEAKER_01: But so she's like, Okay, and I'll and I went to AAA, I got the camping books, I figured out a campsite uh in a beautiful part of Colorado that's by Lake Dillon over in Ski Country, uh by Breckenridge and Silverthorn and Frisco and all those cool areas over there.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_01: But I mean, I just was just like longing to be in the mountains.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_01: We had a 1995 Geo Prism.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_01: I loaded it all up with everything that I that I thought we needed, uh all the camping stuff.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_01: Uh I did she did pack her clothes, but other than that, I packed everything, uh headed out.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_01: Um, part of the story that was a fail I didn't tell you about is that we were going to go mountain biking as well.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_01: We had mountain bikes, so I had a little bike rack that goes on the trunk and straps onto the bumper, uh, you know, and so I was like, that should be fine.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_01: You know, two mountain bikes on a geoprism loaded down with all our camping stuff, driving out into the mountains.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_01: Uh we head out.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_01: I think we get we get pretty close to Goodland, and I just keep smelling something burning.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_01: And so, like, we stop uh at a Walmart parking lot there, and uh the bikes had actually made the bumper sag so much it was on the exhaust pipe and it was melting.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_01: Uh there was like a little exhaust pipe-shaped uh half moon type there.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_01: So we had to take the bikes off, get some get some lag bolts, screw them into the bumper, get it so it would be tighter, and back off we went.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_01: Well, uh this camping trip, though it didn't start off well, it got worse.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_01: And uh we went to the mountains.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_01: My wife does not like to be cold.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_01: I thought it's July, right?
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_01: It's not gonna be cold in the mountains.
• 15:44
  SPEAKER_01: Didn't even think through the fact that in the mountains at a campsite, they don't have running water because the pipes will freeze, you know, and so there was one little well spigot that we could get water from.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_01: No showers, which my wife did not enjoy that.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_01: I know it's camping, but she didn't understand that was part of the experience to not shower for a week.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_01: And I did, I I I set the campsite for a week.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_01: I paid it for it all in advance.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_01: This is where we're going to be.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, you know, I burnt the hot dogs.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, I got elevation sickness, so I was like throwing up at night almost every night that I was there.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, pretty miserable the whole time.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, we would wake up in the morning, uh, talk about cooking breakfast, decide not to run into town to get breakfast, and then my wife was like, Oh, let's go to the laundry mat to shower.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_01: And we showered every day, and it just was kind of a horrible, horrible trip.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, it was it snowed in July.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_01: It snowed on our tent one night, uh, you know, but I realized that doing that, choosing everything what I thought was good, not asking for her opinion, not using her gift for organizing and planning uh was uh was folly uh to say the least.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_01: And in fact, the last night we were there, I had started a can't you know a big campfire.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_01: I was starting to feel a little better uh with my sickness, and uh the park ranger came by and said, Hey, you guys haven't paid for tonight.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_01: I said, Yeah, and I got my receipt.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_01: He's like, Oh no, you didn't pay through tonight, you paid two tonight.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, Oh, okay.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_01: And he's like, it's$12.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_01: You want to pay$12?
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_01: I said, Yeah, I'll go get$12.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_01: And my wife said, No, just a second.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_01: Don't pay him.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_01: We're going, we're leaving.
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_01: And I said, Okay.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, it's almost five.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_01: And she's and the park rate's like, well, technically you should be out by five.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_01: She said, We'll be out by five.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_01: And we put the fire out, threw everything in the car, drove to Denver that night, stayed in a stayed in a hotel, uh walked around downtown Denver, ate at a nice restaurant, uh, had that was the best part of the trip was that one night in Denver, and uh realized that we probably aren't a camping family, not to that degree at least.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_01: Uh we're more of a walk around downtown Denver type of family.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_01: So anyway, that was a non-syngestic or synergistic or non-synergistic.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_01: Non-synergistic example.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe some some dialogue about what that could look like.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_01: We've never I've never planned a vacation again, yeah.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_01: By myself.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_00: So here I think most of you guys know I used to work at Target Distribution Center.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: And it's this million square foot facility where it's like Fort Knox and all this stuff happens and nobody really knows.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: But it is if the zombie apocalypse ever happens, that's your safe zone because they've got clothes, they've got food, water.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you're you're set for life inside this place.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: But one of the times, so I was I was a group leader for Inbound, and basically what that meant was any time that we got shipments from vendors, I was in charge of planning it and planning it from the truck on the outside to get it to the appropriate place on the inside of the building through these conveyors and all this stuff.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: So I was pretty pretty wet behind the ears, pretty fresh on the job, and thought, oh man, this is great.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm a great planner.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna make sure that our team goes up above 100% of what we're supposed to do tonight.
• 19:17
  SPEAKER_00: This is gonna be great.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I talked to my other my other leaders who are on the floor who are in different departments, and after this experience, I realized how important it was and how critical it was that I, being basically the distributor to the rest of the company on the inside, how important it was for me to communicate.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: And so we had this one particular conveyor belt that would take little products like uh little razors that you would break out of a big box or Q-tips or you know, different things like that.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: And this line, it only had one conveyor belt, and the boxes would go down and they would have team members on the other side who would unload it.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_00: And so I thought, man, well, this truck coming in has a lot of those boxes that are going to be going that way.
• 20:03
  SPEAKER_00: So I'll just I'll just tell them and I'll say, hey, we've got a lot of boxes coming, just get ready for it.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: Well, what I didn't realize was it was basically the entire truck.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: And an entire truck could have about 2,000, 3,000 boxes coming down this line right now.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I just I wish you could imagine the the scene that took place after this.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: So these boxes start coming down, and I get a call over the radio.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: Hey Derek, uh, how many of these boxes are coming?
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_00: Uh it should just be a few more.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: It should just be a few more.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's fine.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_00: Just put an extra person on it.
• 20:41
  SPEAKER_00: You'll be great.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: Well, it was it was a lot more.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: It was the entire truck.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: And so I go over to visit because I can't see this area because the warehouse is so big, so I go over to this area of the warehouse to see what's going on.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_00: They've got like three or four extra people in this zone, including the manager of that zone, and they've got boxes that are piling up and flying into the air.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_00: And if if you can, if you know anything about supply chain and logistics, inefficiency is not your friend.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_00: And this was about the most inefficient thing that we could have done, that I could have done.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: And so I realized in that moment that was an absolute non-synergistic moment.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: It was me saying, Hey, this is what's happening, do whatever you need to do to handle it.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Whereas if it were a synergistic moment, maybe before this truck came in, or even as it came in, I could have stopped and gotten together with my peers and said, Hey, this looks like the situation that's about to happen.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: What do you guys think would be a great solution to this?
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: How how can we best serve this?
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe we should try something different.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe we should try a different solution than just saying what I think and have a work done.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 22:01
  SPEAKER_01: At Target.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_01: He is also there.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_01: I would uh definitely not at this time I didn't realize you were an inbound manager.
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_01: Because everybody becomes inbound and outbound has to deal with everything inbound does.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_01: So uh as an outboundbound person, they would we would definitely enjoy it at least being heard at that moment.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's after the fact, we realize that.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_01: Um then an example actually from the book about uh a personal decision using synergy and not using synergy was the example he gave about a fishing trip.
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_01: Uh there was uh husband and wife.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_01: The wife's mother was sick uh and lived 250 miles away, and they had one week of vacation time.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_01: The dad wanted to take his son fishing, uh go camping and fishing.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_01: That's the theme, camping and fishing.
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_01: Uh and so in the book he said the non- synergistic, how do you say synergy white way?
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_01: There you go.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_01: The non-synergy way that's right, grammar.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_01: But uh the way to that could it could have been handled, which would have been not using uh his wife's input would be say, hey, we only have one week of vacation, I've worked hard all year, this is what I want to do.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_01: We, you know, it's already the trip's already booked, it's at a lake, it's a different place, you know, we're going fishing.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_01: Well, and the the wife would say, Well, my mom's sick, we don't know how much time she has left, this is important too, and it creates an argument instead of saying, like, a couple options they said to use synergy would be, well, let's try to find a place to go fishing around the place where you're where my mother-in-law is or your mom's at, or let's go fishing, but let's find a time in the next couple weeks that you could go down to see your mom and I could take care of you know the house things, something like that, instead of just uh and it was interesting how we explained this example is that if you don't use synergy repeatedly, you can create, you know, you could see how that could create a rift.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_01: Just one one thing like this could create a rift, and instead of saying, Well, I want to go see my mom, well, I want to go fishing, it could turn into, well, you don't care that my mom's sick.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_01: Well, you don't care what I want to do and create even more problems than just that one decision.
• 24:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: So this this synergy idea, it's this, it's basically the concept of how can we work together to brainstorm and to take your interests and to take my interests and put them all into this pool of conversation and come out with something that's an alternative, that's maybe a third view that we either of us hadn't thought of at the beginning, but that's actually a win-win, that's actually best for both of us in this situation, whether it's at home, whether it's at work, no matter maybe with friends, no matter where it happens to be, how can we use the first the first five habits, thinking through each of those, and then get to that point where we are able to value the differences, value the views, value the opinions of somebody else, and create something that's better than we could create on our own.
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: And so there's a there's a few verses that we see about this.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_00: Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: If one person falls, the other can reach out and help.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: Ecclesiastes 4, 9 and 10.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_01: Proverbs 27, 17, iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_01: Kind of the same idea.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_01: Two are better than one, helping each other out.
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, let's, you know, getting together, influencing each other, synergizing, being able to help build each other up.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: And then how good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_00: Psalm 133, 1.
• 25:47
  SPEAKER_00: And it sometimes when we think about that word unity, we think everyone has to think exactly the same, everyone has to do exactly the same.
• 25:55
  SPEAKER_00: And we know that unity isn't uniformity.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean that everyone's the exact same, there's no differences.
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_00: It means that we are united even when we have certain differences among us.
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_01: It is interesting to think about as we're talking about teaching this lesson and teaching this sixth habit, is that God's word kind of presents this idea way, way, way long time before Stephen Covey wrote this book, uh, the analogy of the body of Christ and how we're uh many, we each have different talents, we're each a different part of the body, but part of the same body.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_01: And it says in 1 Corinthians 12, 12, just as a body, though one has many parts, but all has many parts from one body, so it is with Christ.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_01: And that was kind of it's interesting because when we're talking about God's word, uh, you know, it it convicts us, it helps us to conform our mind and our hearts to the mind and heart of Christ.
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I just thought that's that's so crazy that even though we had to wait till whenever this book was written to learn about synergy, it was actually in God's word uh talking about working together, not trying to be you know something you're not, but working with other people with different talents to accomplish more.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_01: So I thought that was interesting.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think about that with even with tonight, we've got the treat bash that's going on here at the church and kind of a an improvement, a building upon trunk or treat from the past.
• 27:25
  SPEAKER_00: And this is one of those things where you know Jason's got a whole team that's working on it, I've got a team that's working on it, Teresa, our communications director, has a team that's working on it, and so we're each able to use our different abilities, our different gifts, our different opinions, and bring them all together, meld them together, and to create something better than any of us could just simply by ourselves.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_00: And so here's three discussion questions to think about to kind of get that conversation started.
• 27:55
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, think of a person who usually sees things differently than you.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: How can that person's differences lead you to a better third solution?
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, when was a time when true synergy could have helped you?
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_00: Describe what went wrong.
• 28:13
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure we'll all have some stories about that.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_00: And then number three, when working with others, what are the barriers to synergy?
• 28:21
  SPEAKER_00: What are those things that can get in the way, either on our part or we think on somebody else's part, that that can can hinder us, can block us from having that true synergy with others?
• 28:32
  SPEAKER_01: With the idea of that question being that just because you're in a meeting or working with other people doesn't mean you're going to be more productive automatically just because you have more people at the table.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_01: So, what are those barriers if you are working with others that that hinders the synergy that could be happening?
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_01: You want to pray for us?
• 28:48
  SPEAKER_01: Sure.
• 28:48
  SPEAKER_01: Thanks.
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_01: Heavenly Father, thank you so much for loving us and caring for us.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for allowing us to wake up and enjoy a breakfast like this and uh talk about things working together that hopefully will improve our productivity in our jobs, with our in our relationships, and just uh personally help us to accomplish more.
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_01: But I pray that our will or that our heart would be to accomplish your will, that that would be always on our mind what you want us to accomplish.
• 29:17
  SPEAKER_01: So in Jesus' name I pray.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_01: Amen.
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_01: Amen.