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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-Authentic Intent: The Foundation of Spiritual Growth 8.25.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  A person acquires Tawada and our person can lose the medal of
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  Tawada. And all we're talking about is
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  these concept of doing things with a smile, at least trying to
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  do things to the right motive. And our concept consistently is
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  the more a person doesn't have the right motive, the more he is
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  doing that thing itself. Instead of if you're trying this
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  thing for ulterior motives, ulterior literally means other
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  right. That means side motives, which
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  means I'm doing A for the sake of B Automatically, whether you
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  realize it or not, A becomes a little weaker.
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  You can compare this concept to the law of the schma.
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  We have many areas of the schma in halakhah, for example, we
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  have to make a several to all the schma.
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  We have to make muzzah to filene.
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  All these things have to be done in the schma for their purpose,
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  and all those things are considered disqualified.
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  Even though the person physically wrote you can have.
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  There have been scandals in the history of the Filene that were
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  made beautifully to perfection. They found out.
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  The guy who did it, I don't know.
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  He did it. It was, no, he's not showing me
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  Shabbat. He did it on Shabbat.
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  Somebody of these sort of strange world where people are
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  unbelievably talented and they have unbelievable gift of
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  writing, but they're not showing Shabbat.
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  There's something in the old days they called.
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  Arabs writing trillion and. That could be a thing.
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  How's it? The purse.
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  That could be a thing with the evolving part of it.
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  So what's wrong with that? The physical item is the same,
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  but it's in a sense hollow inside because it wasn't done
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  with the right motive, wasn't done with the right mindset, and
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  the same thing you can use as a Marshall.
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  The same thing is true with everything we do.
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  If we do something with ulterior motors, and I don't mean just
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  simply I'm trying to get some credit and some other things
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  really for the wrong reason. We do a a good thing for the
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  wrong reason. You will find that that thing
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  that you're building is weaker. It doesn't have the same
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  strength, it doesn't have the same stamina, it won't last.
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  It can create fights in these things because it's not really
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  made with the right intention. Things that are made with right
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  attention are that much more pure and also so much stronger.
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  I was telling us the problem is to have the right intention, you
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  have to do away with a couple of things.
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  One, you have to realize that all these physical motives that
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  we have, which include cavort power, all the other things we
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  try to get out of our good deeds, side things that we try
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  to get right, fringe benefits that we try to take out of our
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  deeds. Recognize how frivolous and
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  insignificant they are, see them as nothing to allow yourself to
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  ignore. A lot of times you get involved
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  in something, right? That's a lot of, I could contest
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  some of this. A lot of times you get involved
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  with something and there can be other sort of benefits that
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  people get. People are impressed by you.
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  People talk about you. People are so loud and if you
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  let that drive you, it can ruin what you're doing.
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  But if you allow yourself to say whatever people talk about, what
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  everybody get excited about, that doesn't really mean
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  anything to me. I'm doing this for the right
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  reason, that it's far more beautiful and it becomes much
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  more. That's what he's telling you.
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  You have to get rid of those mindsets because those mindsets
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  are usually much more clear and visible and they real mindset,
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  the pure one, it's harder to attain the impure 1 is right in
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  front of you. A perfect example in those areas
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  that's called Hatzalah Javir and all these things.
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  As a kid, an 18 year old kid, I'm not like my kids, right?
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  They they got and they were kids.
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  They got even little, they got those.
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  What are they? Called Steve Segokies.
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  And the real ones where they can pick up the coals, all right.
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  And I remember going up, going to Lakewood as a little kid, it
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  was like the mockers, the kids had the walkie talkies.
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  They could pick up the coals. They used to be the hot salad
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  chasers, right? The scanner, he used to be the
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  chaser. He used to go to every hot
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  Salat. Cool.
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  All these Now when these kids say I want to grow up to be a
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  fireman, I want to be a hot slam man, what are they saying?
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  They say I want to grow up to be involved in the action.
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  They're not thinking about saving lives.
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  Cute or good. You have an 18 year old kid,
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  same mindset. It's still cute.
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  You have a 22 year old guy, same mindset.
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  That's the problem. And that could easily be the
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  original drive. What happens if they ever do get
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  on after a couple of months or years?
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  Yeah, there's a lot of fun with the boys, but there's a lot
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  more, you know, middle of Shabbat meal losing for, you
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  know, leaving. Emil in the middle is a lot
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  more. You're having a party and you
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  got to leave. And who is the host?
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  He's not here. A lot more that action.
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  Do they like to leave or not really?
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  I'm sure eventually stay the night.
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  They're not really in the mood to leave from the savior, right?
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  That's right. Even they even they, they press
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  the alarm on the thing, Yeah. Exactly.
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  Yeah, middle of the night and. Right.
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  Mary Wright, Shabbat Knight all the time.
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  And eventually, if you're not Liz Schmann, if you got in for
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  the wrong reason, either you get the right reason of mine or
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  you're out, you're burnt out. And that is true with all
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  organizations and all the things that good things that we do and
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  we got in voluntary motors, it becomes hollow.
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  It becomes empty and it doesn't last.
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  And a person has to do away with those drives and tell themselves
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  as much as I may have got in for that reason or I was interested
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  for that reason. That is not why I'm here.
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  And that makes every devotion because you show that we do more
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  solid, more real, more long lasting.
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  This is the minds that's. So what?
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  What about if a person now writes Zippa Torah?
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  He's really he gets lost with the Leishma part because he just
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  wants to dedicate it in memory of somebody.
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  That's Dejma. That's delicious.
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  That's delicious. Absolutely.
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  See what he's doing. He's trying to, you know,
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  creating an eternal life for the person upstage, trying to
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  elevate in the Shema. That's all the Shema.
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  Again, the world of the Shema, you're going to be very, very
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  exact. Maybe it has to be for the thing
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  itself and that's it. That example you gave is still
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  Ishma. The challenge becomes now you
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  move into areas of my name being more famous.
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  Still a lot of Ishma there. There are this topic of Ishma is
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  probably the most area where a person can have Gray and grain
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  meat. I'm doing it for good and also
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  some other models free bench as well.
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  The issue is if we become fringe benefits based, that becomes
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  hollow. If you utilize Hashem for
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  Cowboys and someone could say what's the difference if you're
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  doing the development spa or if you're Aceo, it's the same
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  thing. You just want to cover it,
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  right? If you overdo the ulterior
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  motives or overdo the outside drive because where there's a
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  concern that it can become hollow when is Gray, you're
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  fine. Are you doing both at the same
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  time? You're perfectly fine.
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  Next step is I don't know the next step.
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  One of the greatest things about Messiah Shaheen, I said,
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  although it's the book develops a person and builds a person up,
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  it's also the book that does away with fake translations of
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  these concepts. He's talking about big words,
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  Tawada, Hasidut, all these big things, right?
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  Even get through a quiz borderline and he's going to do
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  away with all our misconceptions or the world misconceptions.
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  And the greatest example is Hasid.
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  A lot of people think a Hasid is somewhere does extremes.
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  That's not what a Hasid is. Even the Hasidim that exists
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  today, which are trying to represent Hasidou, that's where
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  they came from. The term came from they're.
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  Not the real. Hasidim, they're not exactly
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  trying to do this, but they're building based on this.
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  But the key, the core of them, is not the external look.
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  The core of a Hasidim in the Mountain de Gazir is in Borough
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  Park, his core. When they talk about themselves,
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  they talk about I overheard someone talking the other day
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  about learning Hasidis or Hasidis.
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  They're not talking about the fact that they wear what they
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  wear or they they call them every day talking about the
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  overall concept of being a Hasidis.
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  I said now it means really in this diminish A pious person
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  means someone is very much will see the exact translation
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  dedicated to Hashem, right. That's more so the translation
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  today means in all areas does more, which therefore means when
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  they dress and the the purity that they try to have and the
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  purity in their homes that they try to have.
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  That's the overall, that's the. More for a mature person, not
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  for a kid who I miss. I showed him in general.
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  Of course. Well, the truth is that all this
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  can be applied to every on every.
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  I saw I was talking to Rabbi Mark because little kids once
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  and she was 8, she was like 8 years old in a Lakewood school
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  and she was able to like help her teach the cause.
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  I don't think you are. I don't think they can really
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  apply Hasid due to these things. Is that the reason why children
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  will not be able to attain to this at this point is when we're
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  getting to this level, the mind is such a strong factor.
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  For example, the schma, whole essence of the schma Tawda was
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  do I allow my mind to be clear, to identify why I do what I do?
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  That's that's a concept that's all mind A children are much
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  more reactionary, physical, less thinking.
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  They may want to do the right thing, maybe not.
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  As to why they want to do the right thing, Hasidud, That's it.
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  Hasidud to be staying away from the kid in their class that does
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  bad thing. That's the child version
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  Hasidud. Yeah, the.
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  Original Hasidim. And they adopt probably across
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  the board. The original used to be
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  originally very always dedicated type of thing like that.
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  No, I don't think he means that. I think he means the idea of
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  being overly dedicated to service, you know, spending an
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  hour before and these people. Yeah, the nature of is to be,
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  you know, with the helium and Tefila and these things, nature
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  is to be very dedicated to Tefila and the service.
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  It's true. I don't know if they were more.
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  She has a different structure. They were influenced by that
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  whole movement. Just seeing these things truly
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  needs a lot of analysis. There are many customs and many
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  ways of There are many things that carry the title Hassid
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  Vietnam. What they are is gourmet
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  Hasidut. They are crude as uses crude
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  forms of Hasidut believe so on without the form believe Sudhao
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  without the shape obliticum rather refinement.
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  Then Michelle said this happens because of the lack of
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  understanding and lack of analysis.
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  Mehrasuna ayun the has kalaha me teeth for the lack of
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  identifying and clarity I should about Allah.
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  These are the people who did not really examine and have insight
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  as to what Hassim means. He says in 331 they didn't work
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  hard, they didn't really understand God's ways.
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  Oftentimes when you look at something that's Jewish and you
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  see you say it doesn't smell right, it doesn't look right.
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  Ask yourself a simple question, easy question to ask.
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  What do you think Hashem thinks about that?
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  You see a guy yelling and screaming about a topic.
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  He's doing it for a sake of Hashem.
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  What do you think God thinks about that move?
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  What do you think the ripple effect is going to be of that
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  action? Or do you think the condition is
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  going to come from that? And the same thing is true with
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  hashidut. A person, if they're going
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  blindly and they just follow the extremities, the extremes of
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  Hashidut, they can think that they're following and copying
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  and you know what they're doing, but they didn't think one second
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  about it and therefore actually has that same element of being
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  hollow inside. Ellahis has two Valhu.
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  They rather try to become a Khazidim.
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  The Martian is Diane. What was available to them, the
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  fierce by their immediate thought.
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  They didn't delve into the depth of the Varim.
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  They didn't wait, they didn't analyze it.
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  And there's nothing worse than a person doing things.
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  I have a rote, I have a routine, I have a copycat out of what
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  they think is the strongest version of serving our sham.
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  If that's how it looks like, all that is very bad.
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  A person, every one of us, has to do something thought up.
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  The fact that there's something called the Hasid movement, in a
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  sense is a challenge in this concept because the Hasid
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  movement means everyone does this together at the same time.
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  You need every individual to think this through at every
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  individual to follow. The hope is that they follow the
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  rabbi and they follow the way and they adapted very fast,
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  being every individual to have his own independent development
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  of becoming a Hasil. The idea is that you spend time
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  and life, you work at it, you think through, you think about
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  your service of a shem. And he said I want to be strong
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  in some area. We'll see what they are in a
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  second or maybe tomorrow. I want to be strong in this
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  area, that area. You think it through.
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  You have to connect to a Shem to be drawn to serving him strong.
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  Let's say, for example, you want to be a Hasid Tefilo, and that
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  means you'll get there early, or that means you're going to think
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  clearly during a Tefilo. All right, you're not going to
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  do you're going to rush out, whatever it may be.
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  You need to get there. You need to arrive at that
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  destination and find yourself interested and inspired to
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  connect to that Hasidut. If you just do it because you're
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  out, but I said so, you're in big trouble because all you're
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  doing is you're tying yourself down to serving a lot, to
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  praying more, to liking it even less.
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  And then you'll do less and then you'll actually do less.
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  Anything that comes from us sticks or stronger, anything
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  that comes from force is weaker. So children, we have the power
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  to force them to a degree as long as we can.
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  We, it's somewhat part of the system to try.
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  But then the moment the, the, the shock was left off, let off,
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  they're free on their own. And unless they're a natural
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  Hasid, unless they worked and unless they connected
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  themselves, they're in big trouble.
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  That's what we try to have them find that spark and that
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  inspiration themselves. That's our goal.
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  And for all of us, same thing. We need to find our own essence
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  of Hasidut, to try to copy and to see what someone else does.
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  You see that guy praying along on me da, you try along on me
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  da. You see that guy doing, you
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  know, he's, he's shaking a lot, but he's very inspired.
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  You try to be inspired in the same way.
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  You're going to get nowhere, but you have to be in the know.
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  If you don't know why he's doing extra long now with that, then
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  you're just going to sit there and space out just to take more.
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  Just to make sure you're on step three leg fees, so.
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  Is that why our rabbi is like, I remember, as if I remember how
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  we had to talk to your father, right?
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  And he's to say don't push. And then you see on the Ashkenaz
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  side, they don't just push, they force.
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  And then if they don't comply and some hasidim, they ask them.
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  So there's a lot of levels, but as you know that we're talking
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  about the push and being enforced Hasid or heavier, those
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  are all people. He preceded them by 100 year
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  Who's? This book, Yeah.
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  Preceded the Hasir movement. This is Remy poor.
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  This is 100 year old Hasir movement existed.
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  He's not even directly talking about them, but he is talking
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  about people that had it in a certain sense similar drives
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  that had the same challenge, which is it can be external, it
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  can be internal. Now in our community happens to
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  be we don't adopt any of this. This is not our way at all to
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  push at these extremes. It never worked for us, it's not
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  a healthy for us, it doesn't do us any good.
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  I'm talking about the most religious serving people.
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  It doesn't do them that good to overly be busy with external
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  extreme Hussitut because extreme external Hussitut lead usually,
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  especially today, I'm finding more and more it's usually
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  connected to people that are not really doing things the right
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  way somewhere or not another, especially if you live in such a
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  public world. So you do extremes, people catch
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  on to the extremes and now you believe that you're going to do
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  it for the right reason. Good luck.
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  A person has to be an internal real person and that's where
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  they can develop their Hasid from within.
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  And then yes, you can have a guy that's like a regular community
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  guy and he's a Hasid. You realize that you can have a
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  person. How can he looks like a regular
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  guy? He's wearing, I don't know, a
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  polo shirt. He's there's no hat near him.
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  He regular family regular, last name regular and he's a Hasid
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  because inside he found the connection and he develops from
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  from within and he got a person the opposite way.
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  It was not really a Hasid because outside he may have the
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  look, it didn't really get an inside all right.
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  People always make that comment. They say, Oh, I was these these
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  people, they're so black and I was I was in Vegas and I saw a
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  guy terrible. Whatever they say that comment,
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  those people don't represent their movement.
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  They happen to be, they grew up in those families and they can't
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  ditch it. Yeah, the numbers in the movie,
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  the majority or the makeup of those movements is supposed to
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  be that from within each person, maybe from all the connections
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  that are around by all the connections in their mindset
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  adapts the internal. Their goal is that every
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  individual has all individual drive.
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  It's challenging. It's very difficult to create a
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  movement and have individuals, very difficult, but that's their
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  goal as they want, and we can have the same exact thing.
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  You and the guy in Barbuck can be the same Hasith, according to
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  Wisconsin, Literally, maybe even more.
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  Start with this.