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- Olivia: Hello everyone, welcome back to the rabbit trail of Brilliant Minds. I'm Olivia and this is my lovely co-host. Andrea: Andrea, what Olivia: and we're back at it. Okay. we just talked about how we basically had nothing to talk about. but then we both figured out what we could talk about. I'll go first because I introed. Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: So you know how your algorithm learns you? Andrea: Yes. Olivia: It's a hate love thing, right? So whenever there's like a new smuddy ish kind of thing that comes out, it it just my algorithm is like right. So when like off campus came out, like my algorithm just blew up with it, right? And I was like, What is this show? I have to watch it then I told everyone else to watch it, made you watch it, right. Okay. Andrea: Which we never talked about. Olivia: On the we never talked about it on the podcast? Andrea: No. No, I totally just realized we have never processed it together. Olivia: Off campus was really good. Andrea: Yeah. Anyways. Olivia: Okay, we can circle back to that. so I started seeing all this stuff for like this show and this is how dumb I am. They're like, like don't miss this C drama show, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. And I'm thinking to myself, because I'm a dumbass, I'm like, why would you be marketing a drama show that's like a C? I thought it was a grade. It's not a grade, it's a Chinese drama. Andrea: What? Olivia: So you know how it's like K-pop, like Korean pop? Like a K drama is a Korean drama. A Andrea: So they called it a C drama. Olivia: C drama. I thought it was a grade. So I'm here thinking, like, why are you marketing a show that you give a C? This doesn't make any sense. But then like it kept like I I I kept watching the videos just long enough that it kept popping up. And I was like, I don't even know I don't even know what's streaming on. I see it's streaming on Netflix. So I was like, okay, fine. I need a new show to watch when my daughter's at gymnastics, and I'm like exercising, lifting weights. So put it on. So yeah, first realizing how dumb I am because it's a Chinese drama and I had I d it was not obvious. because I listen to all of these reels Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: on silent. So I start watching the show, I just assume it's in English. It's not. There's English subtitles. Andrea: That's hilarious. Olivia: Okay, so now I'm like four episodes in. And here's Andrea: huh. Olivia: the problem. I've invested enough that I kinda wanna know what happens, even though I kind of already know what happens because I've seen it on my Instagram, but I haven't seen it in context, and you know, bitches love context. Andrea: Yeah. for sure. Olivia: But you can't just watch it casually cause you have to f you have to r I can't keep swearing all the time. You have to read. Andrea: Yes, because you have to pay attention to the subtitles 'cause it's not in English. my gosh. Also Olivia: It's work It's it's like it's work. Andrea: Without physic like visually seeing that you were saying s C as in the letter C drama, I was like, are we talking about below deck? Like I was like like the C I was pulling Olivia: That's amazing. Andrea: I was a pulling like the picture your daughter drew. The the but the sea. Yeah. The ocean. Olivia: The sea, yes, the ocean. But the sea. Yeah. I'm glad I I'm glad I was able to confuse you along with my confusion because I yeah Andrea: That's great. Olivia: Yeah. Well I don't know do you know much about like K dramas at all? I know very little, but I know some. Andrea: I've only ever watched K dramas on like back when I was really into TikTok. And they would be like a series of these stupid little videos that was like a whole show. That would be the ol that was like the only K dramas I've like watched. Olivia: Okay, so you know how it's like pretty typical in those kinds of like that kind of media where there's a lot more like longing and there's Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: less like actually happening physically. Andrea: Yeah. Yeah. Olivia: whereas I'm sure by comparison America's just like full ranch. It's just like all of it, right? Andrea: Right. Yeah. Olivia: so yeah, so now I started watching, but it's really hard because there's a lot of times where like I can't be watching to read. Andrea: Yeah. Yeah. I have to Olivia: But I'm infested I'm like four episodes in and I like Andrea: I have to be really prepared to sit and watch a show with subtitles. Like I I I will enjoy it when I'm in the right headspace. Like, even sometimes I haven't finished Victoria because I've been so like mentally depleted. Because I do watch that show sometimes with subtitles because sometimes the like I want to know the language or like the way that they're talking and I have to stay focused. But like I can't just have it on in the background, like because I'm too invested. Olivia: I well also back up, context for me, I never watch anything with subtitles. I hate having subtitles on. Andrea: Mm. Olivia: And the reason is is because I get so distracted by them that I'm not watching anyone's face, I'm just reading. Andrea: Yeah. It really is dependent on the show for me. Like usually I'm pretty good with accents, but sometimes like shows where they're where the audio like changes a lot, like where it's like maybe really loud sometimes or like really quiet. Sometimes I'll turn on the subtitles so I can keep it quiet. but otherwise like I don't ever I don't usually have them on. Olivia: The only show now that you say that, the only show I could imagine using subtitle sore, but I would still never do it because I just it's way too distracting to me, is Dairy Girls. But even then, I don't think th Andrea: Mm-hmm. I love that show. Olivia: my god, I know. Amazing. Freaking amazing. Andrea: I need more and they're not probably they're not gonna make more, but it's so good. Olivia: It's also a pretty rewatchable show. Cause here's why the Andrea: That's true. Olivia: subtitles I don't think would work. They might help you because the accents are so bloody thick. my god, they are so Andrea: Yeah. Yeah. Olivia: thick. But they talk so fast and the humor moves so fast that I think even if Andrea: Yes. Yes. Olivia: you had the subtitles on, you'd still be up a creek. Andrea: Yeah. But they're but also like you're missing their amazing facial expressions because those girls make the funniest faces as they're talking. Olivia: Yeah. Andrea: It's so good. Olivia: every character hilarious. Andrea: Ugh I'm obsessed with them. Olivia: Yeah, it actually reminds me that I should rewatch that show. I haven't seen that show in a few years. That's a that's a good rewatch show. 'Cause the episodes are short and just yeah. That's good. I love that show. Andrea: Yeah. Same. I think I'm gonna have to. Yeah. Ugh, that's a good one. That's so funny though. C drama. What crazy marketing. Olivia: Yeah, just wait because now that I said it out loud, your phone will start finding it on your algorithm and then you'll be like and it's Andrea: Mm-hmm. yeah. Olivia: and it's on Netflix, it's called The Early Spring. Andrea: Interesting. I'll have to look it up. Speaking of algorithm, I lit I talked to somebody the other day about like the NOCD website about like doing CEs, and now every single ad that I get is for the NOCD clinic. It's like influencers are like, I went to the no C D clinic and I got healed. Like every single ad. It's insane. I have never gotten an NO CD ad before. Olivia: You're really important to listen to. Andrea: Apparently. I'm like Olivia: That's what the algorithm is telling you. Andrea: is the algorithm telling me something that I don't know. I don't think so, just to be clear. Olivia: my gosh. Andrea: Mm. Olivia: So you wanna talk about something else that came up in my algorithm? Is Andrea: Okay. Olivia: like another so to be fair, from my understanding the early spring, the C drama is actually based off of like a book series. Andrea: okay. Olivia: I think. I think. Now, then the algorithm started pushing this other show that apparently was like gonna be coming out. I think it was like on maybe Amazon Prime, I forget exactly. But it's also based off of a book and it's like a bodyguard like romance. Andrea: Mm. Olivia: And I was like really close to starting that because I was like, Okay, boss to like intern, which is well now boss to employ, is the early spring. I was like, ooh, Andrea: Okay. Olivia: bodyguard. That's I like that better. But then before I even started I realized it's in Russian and it would be the same freaking thing. It would be subtitles again. I was like I can't be doing Andrea: So is that Olivia: this. Andrea: hold on. So if the previous one was a C drama, does that make this an R drama? Olivia: Right. So now it's just too much, ma'am. It's just too much. Now the algorithm's been pushing the I think it's a movie that Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: like just came out with Lily Reinhart and the guy who's married to Daisy Ridley, the love hypothesis. Andrea: I haven't seen this. I don't think I've heard of this one. Olivia: It it lo it looks like it would be good, but it's just a movie. And I don't know it's hard for me to sit down for movies. Andrea: Have you have you seen the trailer of The Wicker? Olivia: The wicker? Andrea: The wicker? Yeah. Olivia: No. Andrea: my gosh. I don't remember. I think it's Alexander Skarsgard. Is that who that is? One of the Skarsgard guys is the like this main character. Skarsgars, Skarsgars, Scars. Olivia: Scar, scar, scar. Sorry. Every t anytime I he anytime I hear that last name, I'm like, I I can't put this. Andrea: Yeah. But it's like it's a romance about like it's like in a magical land and this old kind of spinster woman makes a man out of wicker, like wicker for like wicker furniture wicker, and he is like very attractive for being made out of wicker. And there's like sex scenes of her with this wicker made man. It Looks so funny. Like I wanna see it so bad. Olivia: Is it supposed to be funny? Yeah. Okay. Andrea: Yes, it's it's a like a comedy. It's like medieval vibes kind of like set in the past. I think she's like been in the The guy from Game of Thrones. What's what is his name? Olivia: yeah, what is his name? it's like Peter something. Andrea: Peter Dun Duntlich? Rutlet? Something Peter. That's gonna drive me crazy. I know his name, but he's in Olivia: Peter Dinklage. Andrea: it. Dinklage, that's what it is. Yes. He's in it. He's like the person who makes the wicker man, I think. It the trailer Olivia: That looks freaky. Andrea: the trailer looks outrageous. Olivia: The picture I'm just like looking at it but the picture of him as a wicker person is freaky. I don't know about like I can't keep looking at that. That Andrea: Right? Olivia: looks like a that looks like a horror film. Andrea: It's that's what I thought it was gonna be when I saw the trailer for the first time. I was like, this is probably gonna freak me out a little bit. And now I'm gonna be afraid of wicker-based humans. But I watched the trailer and I was like, my god, I need to see this movie. It looks wildly hilarious. Olivia: Okay, maybe I'll maybe I'll watch the trailer and then see what I think. Andrea: Yeah. I don't know how we got there. How did we get there? Olivia: we're talking about Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: things that the algorithm shows us and that we think we're gonna watch and yeah. Andrea: Yeah. Yeah. Well, it's it's funny that you bring up the algorithm because my thing is related to the algorithm too. And my algorithm lately has been really like hitting home oddly. So like Bellingham based videos and reels, like very niche parts of Washington niche. And I don't know why or how like it's been happening. Like there was this one guy who was like visiting Bellingham and he like went to the mall in Bellingham and raided the mall. And I was like, this is wildly hilarious because this is like all the places I spent my college and like childhood years. Like this is so weird. And then recently a video came up where there's a vigilante in Bellingham right now, and his name is Bellingman. And he Like wears a mask with like holes cut out of it. And he wears like a Western Washington University like cape and sweatpants. And there's this, like, he's going around Bellingham, like giving people candy and like helping them with things in their house like a handyman. But like according to the internet, nobody really knows who this person is. I'm sure people do, but like he films his intro videos like he's Batman in his dorm room on campus. Olivia: so he's a student. Andrea: He's a student. And it is so funny because he also now has like an enemy, and the enemy's name is the milkman. And he literally just walks around carrying it like a cart of milk, I think. Like that's kind of the like what I'm getting from these videos. But they're currently on a temporary truce and giving they're do giving meals to the homeless. Like It's so hyper niche. I'm like, I don't know how I got here. Like Olivia: That's so bizarre. And also, what the freak is happening to Bellingham? Andrea: What the freak is exactly. But the comments, have you ever seen the like Bellingham City of Subdued Excitement video? Have you ever seen that? Olivia: Mm mm. Andrea: I'm gonna have to show it to you. There somebody way back, I think when I was in college, I think this was made, maybe even earlier than that, made a music video for Bellingham. And it's like it's like Bellingham's a city of subdued excitement. Like it's so funny, and they like. Hit every stereotype of Bellingham because it's kind of hipster, but it's also very like retirement-based. Like and it's just it is so freaking accurate. And like this Bellingman guy just like fits the s subdued excitement thing perfectly. And it just cracks me up every time. Like there are people making videos with this guy. Popping up, there's a guy that I haven't finished the video, but it's like the lore of Belling Man. Do you want to know all about Bell? I'm like, this is hilarious. Olivia: That is really funny. I didn't realise Bellingham had so much lore. I Andrea: yeah. Yeah. Olivia: We've already talked about the lore of where I'm from, which is that we invented bikini baristas. I'd rather have the lore of Belly Man and subdued excitement, Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: you know? Andrea: yeah. Yeah. I it is the City of Subdued Excitement framework of Bellingham is kind of why I like to why I call it home so much because I feel like it is so good and accurate and the stereotype of Bellingham Olivia: Mm. Andrea: is just so funny to me. And like technically I grew up a little bit farther north than Bellingham, but like I've up until this point lived most of my life in Bellingham and like It's just so funny. It's so good. Olivia: I'm glad the algorithm got you. 'Cause honestly w Andrea: It w Olivia: how could you miss it? Andrea: It was so it was crazy. I like was scrolling and it was like Belling Man. I'm Belling Man. I'm like, what is happening? Olivia: And you're like, I don't know what it is, but I'm in Andrea: Yeah, I like I kind of like living so far away from what I kind of like physically identify as home. It's really fun to still be connected. And like usually my algorithm Olivia: Mm. Andrea: is like go to these places in Phoenix for this dinner and this dinner. And I'm like, okay, like that's fine. I like discovering new places. But it is so much more fun when I'm like in another state and it's like Bellingham. Like it's so specific. Olivia: That's amazing. I love that. Guess it's going to come out way later. Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: But I I need some gift ideas. Andrea: Four. Olivia: my niece's wedding shower. Andrea: okay. A wedding shower. Olivia: Yeah, I don't wanna get her a gift card, even though that's all that's on their wedding registry. Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: So here's what I'm thinking. Pink fuzzy handcuffs. Andrea: Hold on. Olivia: Yeah. Andrea: Do you have wedding shower confused with bachelorette? Because Olivia: No. Okay, so li let's back up a little bit of context. I threw her her bachelorette party and Andrea: Right. Olivia: a few days before I was like, my gosh, and like all the planning of this, I kind of forgot about like getting something, you know, like something Andrea: Mm, mm-hmm. Olivia: to wear or whatever. And then Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: I was like, well, I might be able to scrounge up something, and then I was like, well, I don't actually think she would know like what her size is. Andrea: Mm, mm. Olivia: So I don't like I don't think getting her something probably's gonna like make sense. And also I had like days to spare and I like, there's no way. And so I like, Hey, what's your registry? 'Cause I was like, Well, here's the other context. My mom fun fact, for all the wedding showers my sister had, showed up to every single wedding shower Andrea: Wait. Wait. Hold on. You just implied that there were multiple? Olivia: Yeah. Mm-hmm. Andrea: Wedding showers? How many did you get? Olivia: Zero. Andrea: Okay, continue. Sorry, I just Olivia: I didn't really Andrea: needed a s I needed context there. Olivia: I I didn't really want one. R really and also Andrea: Okay. I didn't have one, so Olivia: I yeah, I'm not even gonna get into that. Anyways, I did not have one. My sister had a few. two I'm pretty sure there were three, but I remember two very distinctly. and every single one my mom liked to have a gift of lingerie. Andrea: Okay. I'm what Olivia: just to like be d I I know, I know, I know, I know, okay. Just to be like Not as like a joke, but just to like be embarrassing to my sister. Kind of thing. Like she's opening this in front of like all these people and it's like, you know, like you know what I mean? Andrea: Wh can I ask a question? At these wedding showers, was it more like bridal shower where it was just your sister and like women? Or was it like everyone Olivia: It was Andrea: and oops, everyone and like including all people? Olivia: It was just women. Andrea: Okay. Okay. That okay. I've in my brain I was like, her husband's there, her fiance's there, and his family is there, and I'd be like, fuck. Olivia: Well, his female family was there. Andrea: Honestly, that is so funny. And if that like continued to happen, so funny. Olivia: Right. Like every time my sister would go to open a gift, she'd be like, I can think I know what this is, right? Like anyways, it was kind of like a running gag. Well, I I think, you know, listen, if families don't have traditions, what do they have? If we can't carry them on Andrea: I like it. Olivia: What's the point? Andrea: If you're carrying it on from a previous thing, I say go for it. Go along those lines. Fuzzy handcuffs, hilarious. Olivia: Cause yeah, that's my thing. Does my niece know that it's a tradition? No. Will she care about getting handcuffs? No. She'll think it's hilarious. The problem Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: the next problem is, A, is that a good, funny, kind of gag ish gift slash B, if it wasn't that would you think of something else that would be like a good thing? 'Cause I also have from now till Saturday to get it. So not long. Andrea: Yeah. It's not a lot of time because there's like creative things that I can think of, but it would take much longer for them to like come in. Like Olivia: Yeah. So I had somebody make a recommendation today and I thought it was cute, but I was like, was like get stickers or like get cards and get a couple of different wine bottles and then have like like your first like argument like your first married argument and like tie it to the wine bottle. And so there's like these different like kind of like l not landmarks for like different things that happen and then you have like a bottle of Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: wine for that thing. Andrea: That's cute. Olivia: Yeah, I thought that was cute and then I was like, well like Then my mind went into like, okay, well then what would the cards be and how many bottles would I get? And then like then I was like, Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: but Pink Fuzzy Handcuffs, like it's one it's a one and done. Andrea: Yeah. Yeah. That's pretty especially if you want to make a light like a laugh happen and you want to like make do it gag style. Like I totally agree with that. I was also thinking like there's those like decks of cards that are like couples cards. Like those are kind of fun and creative. Like and Olivia: Hm. Andrea: they can be like there's like really sexual ones and then there's like not super sexual ones or just like get to know your partner ones. And I've seen people really like those. Like it's pretty simple, but you can be funny or not funny with it. Olivia: Yeah. Yeah. Andrea: But my my brain, after you said fuzzy handcuffs, was like, Well, you could go on Etsy and get like a paddle and engrave their name in it. Olivia: Okay, so you how last episode we were talking about like therapy buzzwords? Hey Andrea, there's no need to project. Andrea: Good one. Good one. Olivia: yeah, 'cause I feel like with the pink fuzzy handcuffs, it's small, it's Andrea: Mm-hmm. Olivia: like I don't know for some reason. Andrea: It's not overly inappropriate either, like Olivia: Right, right. Andrea: Yeah. You're not getting her Olivia: Yeah. Andrea: a dildo when you do that. Olivia: No. But pink is her favorite color, so I feel like I mean it could be a fashion accessory, who knows? Andrea: I like it. Yeah. You I need to stop. My brain is running so many places. There's like you know those candy necklaces? Olivia: Candy underwear. I did actually think about that. Andrea: Yeah, yeah, yeah. That could be funny. Olivia: Yeah, it could. I need to figure Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: out how to get to a store that sells that by Saturday. Andrea: And not with your child. Olivia: Well yeah, I that would be key 'cause normally it would be tomorrow with my child. then I cannot Andrea: Right. Olivia: with my child. Andrea: Yeah, you could see if you could overnight something on Amazon. Olivia: Yeah, that's true. I should probably look at that. Oof. Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: Okay, I'm glad you think it's a good gift. I've been thinking about it like Andrea: I Olivia: on and off all week, but then I haven't like actually gotten it. Andrea: When when you provided more context, because yay, again, bitches love context, then I Olivia: Yeah. Andrea: was like, that makes so much more sense. Because if you in my brain, like wedding shower was like very like you get plates and cups and like appliances. But then when you provided like your family context and like her thinking that would be funny, I was like, yeah, then do it. Like I think that'd be so funny. Olivia: I would totally get her the wine glasses and the plates and all that. It's just not on the registry. There there there's nothing on there except like like Andrea: Yeah. Olivia: places that they want gift cards to, which is totally fine. Andrea: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Olivia: but then I feel weird showing up with like nothing. Andrea: totally. Yeah. Olivia: So I'm like, okay, well then what do I do? Yeah. Andrea: Yeah. No, just a little something silly and you know, maybe a little card or whatever to go with it. I think it's awesome. Olivia: Okay, cool. I'm glad I've gotten you to cosign and now if it doesn't go well I can just blame you, be like, man, Andrea just has these terrible ideas. Andrea: Sure. Okay. Olivia: What? It's believable. Andrea: It's fine. Whether to take offense to that being believable or a compliment. Olivia: Yes. Andrea: I am really good at coming up with bad ideas, but intentionally. Olivia: I'm really good at coming up with ideas. That's it. No value statement attached. Andrea: Okay. That's great. Olivia: Yeah. I come up with ideas all the time. Sometimes Andrea: yeah. Olivia: I'm like, this is good. Other times I'm like, that's an idea. Yep. Andrea: Ha ha Olivia: That that's the latest one. Am I right? I'm right. Andrea: So good. So good. That's funny. I love it. Olivia: my gosh. well I think I think I'm gonna go watch the rest of the C drama episode that I started. see Andrea: Yes. As you should. Olivia: if I can see if my literacy can hold up till the end of the evening. Andrea: I'm at the end of my capacity today. I don't even know how I functioned enough to get through these two episodes successfully. I'm proud of myself. Olivia: Were you triggered? Andrea: No, but I was feeling some counter transference. Olivia: Fuck you. Wow, w what a totally getting Andrea: Totally kidding. Olivia: what a hope for therapy you are. Andrea: I know, sometimes, not all the time. Olivia: Thanks for coming along the trail with us and being little rabbits. We hope you'll join us next time for our next episode. In the meantime, like, comment, subscribe, and share with us how the algorithm has gotten you. Andrea: Yes, I wanna know. Olivia: Yeah, we wanna know. Anyways, you guys have a good one and we'll catch you all later. Bye! 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