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Midlife Transformation and Confidence for Women Entrepreneurs · The One Small Change Podcast

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  Hi, everybody. Welcome to the One Small Change. I'm thrilled to
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  embark on this journey with you of exploration and transformation.
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  And I'm your host, Yvonne McCoy. And if you don't know, I have over
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  30 years of entrepreneurial experience. But the big thing is I have
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  a passion for discovering growth through the power of
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  seemingly small change. And the reason I do this
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  podcast every week is that I want to bring people to your world
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  that. That are going to expand your world, give you ideas.
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  And this week, we are talking with Gloria Rand,
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  who will share some small, unexpected or
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  insignificant thing that happened that makes her really good at what
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  she does. Gloria, thank you so much for sharing your time with
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  us and your. Your information. So tell everybody
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  I didn't give you a chance to say hello, so I know that's okay. Well,
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  thank you very much. I was just going to say thank you for having me.
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  This is going to be good. It's going to be fun. So tell everybody what
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  it is that you do and what happened to make you
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  realize that this is the thing that you're really good at.
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  Oh, goodness. So what I love to do
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  and has become what I'm. I feel I'm very good
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  at is working with women in midlife and
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  helping them to design
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  their life to. To the fullest, to be the way that they
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  want to live it. And sometimes they need some
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  extra confidence and clarity to get there. And I
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  love doing that for women because it's something that I had to do for myself
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  because I was not in a happy place and
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  I needed to get my own life in order.
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  And I have now, and it's so much better.
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  And now I really love paying that forward and helping other women
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  to really get clear on what is it about this stage of life
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  that is. That's calling to them
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  that they want to do now. Because a lot of times, you know, we put
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  things on the back burner. You know, we get involved with, you know, maybe it
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  is our business or something else, and we have those
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  dreams maybe in our 20s that we've kind of forgotten
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  or maybe we just need something new that's. And
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  that's good, too. You know, just, I think.
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  I mean, you and I are passionate about the same thing, and I
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  think it's probably because we. You know, what I tell people
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  is you are conditioned by the educational system
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  and society to be a certain way, and typically,
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  it just makes you average. Yeah. You
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  know, and you're not excited about, you know, you can be
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  happy or think you're happy because you haven't
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  explored what else is out there or you haven't, you know, let loose.
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  You know, for men they call it a midlife crisis.
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  You know, I think for women it is
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  like, there's got to be more. Yeah. You know, I was
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  meant to be more. I didn't think I would be at this place, you
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  know, and, you know, it just came to me. It's sort of like a, it's
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  more of a mid, mid life awakening. And I almost
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  said midwife, but that's, that's kind of works too, because you're birthing a new self.
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  Absolutely. And I think, you know, and I think
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  my perspective is a little bit different than yours in the sense
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  that I have come to believe that we.
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  I call it the third half of the third half of life,
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  you know, because you had, you know, this whole thing where you, you know, and
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  at 60, you're supposed to be done. Well, now I'm, you
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  know, I'm like between 60 and 90.
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  So I'm working on my third, my third, third half. Yeah.
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  And, and, and so it's, you know, it's not like you sit down on a
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  rocking chair when you're 60 and it's over. I mean, a lot of us are
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  just starting to bloom in a whole different.
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  Yeah, absolutely. And, and, you know, you're 100%
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  correct. And it's, and it's weird that we, there's lots of evidence
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  of people who are, are just starting, who just start to get into
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  their prime in like their late 50s and 60s and, or
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  are starting new businesses. There's plenty of evidence
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  of that. And yet there's still this old mindset of like, oh,
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  well, you're over the hill. And especially for women, you know, that we become
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  invisible for some stupid reason. I'll
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  just say it plainly. And this is
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  the time of life when we've got even more to give because we've got all
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  of this experience that we've had. Life experience, business
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  experience, career, what have you. And this is the
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  time when we really need to shine. And, and
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  I think the thing that's so interesting is that I think.
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  All right, so I grew up and I did not have a group of
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  girlfriends. And I typically, I never have.
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  And I am so envious of people who have. I mean, I have a couple
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  friends that I've known for, you know, but I don't have a, a gaggle,
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  you know, and I am really jealous of people
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  who have this group of girlfriends and, you know, every year they go away
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  for a week away from their husbands, you know, because I've never had that. Me
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  too. And I find that so many of us, especially
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  people who are in business, whether it's corporate or entrepreneurial,
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  we're, we desire that
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  core group that can mentor you through things
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  and know that you can just talk about stuff with, you
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  know, without having to be like, well, I shouldn't
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  be this way. You know, I, I remember when I
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  was doing executive coaching for executive women, I, and I called
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  myself being all businessy. I decided to do a little survey afterwards and say,
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  what did you, you know, what did you get out of this that you really
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  liked? And inevitably it was a life experience
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  thing. It was not a business thing. Oh yeah, I know. I
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  was in, I was in a mastermind. Oh gosh,
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  ten years ago now. And it was a year long program and
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  at the end of the year long and it was supposed to be a business
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  mastermind. Nearly everyone in there said what
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  they got out of it was personal. Yeah. Yeah. It's amazing.
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  And that's why I love running masterminds too, because, because of that.
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  It's. You need camaraderie. You need to be able to have people
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  bounce ideas off of. Yeah. So, so tell me, what do
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  you see is the biggest,
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  the biggest issue that makes women go,
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  I'm, I'm searching for something else and what is their resistance
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  to, to making that change? Well,
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  I'll, I'll go with the second part first. It's, it's,
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  it's fear and you know, fear of making a change because
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  it's, it's, you know, having to step out and try something
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  that's always a little uncomfortable and
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  what triggers that. There's a lot of different things that happens.
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  It can be, I mean, for, for me, in my case, it was losing my
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  sister to cancer in the end of
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  2016. I can't believe it's going to be 10 years already now
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  because she was that last lifeline to my family growing up.
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  And so that really rocked my world. So it's, I think it is a
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  lot of, sometimes it is things like, you know, becoming an empty nester.
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  It's having, you know, maybe your relationship that
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  you're in, you know, it could have been a long term relationship and now suddenly
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  either you or the other person doesn't want it
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  anymore. And so that can really rock your world. Or, you know, maybe if
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  you are in the corporate scenario and you lose your job. I've talked to a
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  lot of different women that have had to reinvent
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  themselves, not necessarily because they wanted to, but because they
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  had to. And so. And I think in that case
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  especially, it can be. Be jarring, but I know.
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  And again, going back for me, when you've had, like, a loss, it. It took
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  me a long time to try to figure out
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  what I wanted to do next. I knew I wanted to do something. I knew.
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  I felt this calling to do something really significant.
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  I mean, I loved what I was doing at the time. It was. I was
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  writing content for small businesses, doing online marketing work, and it
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  was great. But I felt like this inside of
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  me. But I. It took a while. I had to get through the grieving process,
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  frankly, and then do some inner work on myself
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  to get to the point where I finally had, oh, okay, now I
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  have that clarity. And then I gained some confidence working with other
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  coaches to then be able to say, okay, yeah, this is what I want to
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  do now. I. I think sometimes
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  when you get out of your routine, whatever that
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  routine is, and you get with other people or
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  other circumstances, suddenly
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  you see an ability that. That maybe. Maybe
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  you've used, you know, but taken for granted, kind of.
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  And, I mean, I remember one time I was. I was
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  in a locker room and I was talking to somebody, and
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  this lady came out of the other, and she goes, you have a
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  great voice. Have you. You know, I run a
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  recording studio. Have you ever thought about recording? And, you know,
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  I was like, no. You know,
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  and it was like, you know, but then you just kind of
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  start to listen. Yeah. You know, and other people
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  would come up and say, I love your voice, or something like that. And so
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  just putting yourself, experimenting, being different places
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  sometimes can be really an eye opener. It doesn't have to be,
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  you know, I mean, the big things are going to happen and you have a
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  choice. Right. But just kind of listening to the whisper
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  sometimes. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Because you never know
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  where you might get. You know, something
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  just awakens in you. I mean, I went to a business conference.
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  Well, it's been a while ago now, but I went to a business conference just
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  expecting to be, you know, learn how to
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  build my business better. And yet I had an extraordinary encounter
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  listening to a presentation with a woman who channels something called
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  light language. And I was sitting at this table, and all of a
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  sudden I started crying. And I was like,
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  what is going on? Why is this happening to me? And
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  that just opened up a whole new world for me.
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  And so you never know. But. But you're right. You need to put
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  yourself in places where you can be exposed to
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  new possibilities that you might not have even thought of.
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  You know, one of the things, one of the things that I do every night
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  is I go, tomorrow's a new day, and I'm open
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  to endless possibilities. I like that. Right.
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  Just because, you know, I read
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  Shonda Rhimes had a book called the Year of Yes.
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  I don't know if you know about that, but it's really amazing how many things
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  we say no to in the course of our, you know. And, you know,
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  something will come up. Do you want to do this? It's like, like, oh, I
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  gotta do this. You know, and if you, if you, you know, make yourself
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  say yes or at least consider it. Right. You know, you
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  get to see how many things you're cutting yourself off of. And,
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  and so this is what I,
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  I think, this is what I wanna, I, I want to talk about. Because I
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  think that women are amazing. I mean, I, when I first
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  started coaching, I would say if, you know, if you can get a
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  hot meal on the table and all the courses are on the table at the
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  same time and they're hot, you can run a factory or the world.
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  I mean, the first time my husband cooked, you know, he
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  decided we were having a steak dinner and he cooked the steak and
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  he was like, oh, I thought I wanted to have baked potatoes.
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  This is like before the microwave. Right. So we ended up
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  having kind of a three course year. You know, we had the steak, we
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  had the vegetables, and then we ended with the potato. Right.
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  Now my husband now is a fabulous cook and he. Things get to the.
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  But, but, but, you know, that we can do that. Women
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  historically task and men cannot. Yeah.
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  As well. Let me not be, let me not be sexist. That's right.
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  But the thing is, we are taught to be, you know,
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  I think from the society. Yeah. We are taught
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  to not put ourselves first, not, you know, toot
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  our own horn, not do all these other things. And
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  I have to say that I had an awareness this last month
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  that just blew me away. And it was
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  that when I thought back on all the places where I really felt
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  like I was my best in a group or corporate
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  situation, it got me in trouble.
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  Not because what I was doing was wrong or wasn't
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  useful, but because it threatened somebody else.
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  You know, the, the thought process was, if she's doing all this,
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  it couldn't possibly be for fun. It must be because she wants a
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  promotion or she wants my job. And that just really blew
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  me away. I mean, it was like that was never my, my thought. And
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  there's so many things, so many things that, that tap us
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  down. Right.
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  So if, if somebody's listening to this, if I have an entrepreneur
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  of a woman entrepreneur and
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  she's thinking about designing her life,
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  what are some of the things that she should think about?
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  I would say, number one would be to
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  do an inventory. Start with an inventory of
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  what are all the different things that you like to do?
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  Also what are the things that come easily to you?
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  Because those could be possible avenues for
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  you to maybe do something new about it.
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  But I think it really starts with spending time and getting,
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  getting to know yourself. And if you, if you haven't
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  done any kind of regular practice where you're able
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  to do that, to get in touch with your own inner
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  wisdom, I would also recommend doing that, you know, whether that's meditating,
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  whether that's journaling, but doing something to start
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  really getting to, getting in touch with yourself and trying to figure out what it
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  is that I really want at this stage of my life.
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  And yeah, but I do think doing, doing
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  some sort of like an inventory is a really good way, way to get started
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  because then you're going to have something concrete on paper and if you get stuck,
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  then ask somebody else, say, what am I good at?
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  So, you know, so that one, one way to put that question is, why do
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  you like me? Yes, yes. You know, I mean, we,
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  we tend to fill certain roles. I'm, I'm the person. It's so funny because
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  I, I took a, an assessment. I've taken
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  many of them, but the latest one that I've taken was
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  I was the activator, I was the people that keep, keep people on track.
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  And I missed a meeting and I got an email that said,
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  that said we got nothing done because you weren't
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  there to reign us in. Oh,
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  but, but another easy is, you know, especially
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  if, if, you know, speaking is really important today and, you know,
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  building your business because it builds trust a lot faster. Make
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  a list of, you know, 10 things that you could talk 10 minutes on
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  without notes. Right. Is really easy. And you
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  would be surprised what you know a lot about. Do
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  you know? Yeah, absolutely. And that's, that's one of the things that I, I teach.
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  I have something that I call the love method. And, and love is an
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  acronym. So V is value your uniqueness. And that's really what
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  it is. It comes down to looking at. Yeah, what is it that's unique about
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  me? And, but, and I, I love that question that you were,
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  you were posing, you know, to ask other people yeah.
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  What? Now, I don't even remember what you said, but I love how you
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  phrased it. Why do you like working with. Oh, yeah. Why do you like working
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  with me? Yeah. Yeah. That is a good question. So you
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  say value your uniqueness. I say focus on your
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  uniqueness. Because that's the thing. That's the thing
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  that, you know, will take you from being just an expert in a
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  field of experts to the expert in this particular thing.
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  We all do. You know, the. The I. I give this example, the ice
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  cube, you know, because I know when I started coaching and when in
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  any business, you know, it was like, I teach, like
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  the. The. The idea of change. Right.
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  But so does everybody. So it's like, why would somebody come to
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  me to learn about change when everybody. You know, but what I realized
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  is change is the ice cube. It's always water
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  and cold, right? Yeah. I'm the
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  container. I'm the, you know, I'm the
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  ice from the refrigerator or the silicone ice cube tray or
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  the, you know, however the ice cube is shaped and
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  formed. Yeah. So that you can use that information.
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  And so my uniqueness is. I'm
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  about you getting you into imperfect action as
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  fast as possible. Right. And seeing why you do it,
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  you know, seeing how. What it is about you that's different because
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  people say these most. The most amazing things. And.
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  And I'll go, do you know how
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  amazing that is? And then they're like, doesn't everybody do this? Like, no,
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  I know. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah. We always have blinders on when we
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  don't. We don't see our own stuff. And in fact, when I was writing that
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  book, I realized that when I was. I had a.
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  Handwritten it into a journal, and then I started typing it up. The value, your
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  uniqueness part was what I have the least amount of copy on
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  because I wasn't valuing myself enough yet. So.
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  Yeah, I. Absolutely. So, well, tell us the other The.
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  The Lord. Sure. Yes. Yeah. So. So the L
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  stands for let go and let God. And that's really about, you know, letting go
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  of limiting beliefs just. And. And putting your
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  faith in higher power, whatever you want to call it. I call it
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  God. I was raised Catholic. I'm still. Still, in a word,
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  I'm. I'm used to the O is open your heart to receive.
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  And that's really about being open to
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  receiving everything from money to ideas to
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  love, ultimately. And. And the E is embrace your
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  divinity. And that's really about
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  recognizing that you are an amazing person. And
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  my belief is that we are all created in, you know, God's
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  image and that we are all divine spiritual beings
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  living a human existence. But, but if nothing else,
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  if you're not spiritual or you could just say it's about self love,
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  embracing yourself and just loving yourself. Well,
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  I know, I know that I'm a very, you know, type
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  A. I can be a type A personality. And, you know, as
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  I looked at my own personal development, spirituality was
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  something that I felt like
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  was one of my weaker links, let's put it that way. And,
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  and I had a friend, a neighbor, and she was like, no, it
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  doesn't have to be like a religion. It doesn't know.
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  Spirituality is just kind of connecting and being present,
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  you know, having your feet in the grass. Yeah. Taking time and, you
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  know, petting your dog, kissing your loved ones. You know, it's
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  all part of. I was like, oh, I can do this. Yeah.
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  Yeah, I can do this. Absolutely. I was listening to some
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  interview yesterday or something about someone and they were saying that
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  because they were. Yeah. Asking them about their relationship to. And it was
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  like, nature is how, how they relate to,
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  you know, God, but it's, it's nature. That's. That's what it is for them. So.
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  Yeah, it sounds like you're kind of in a. In a similar, similar
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  vein there. And that's not. There's nothing wrong with that. Yeah. And
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  I think the other thing that you said that I think is
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  so important. So there are a couple things I'm going to
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  circle back a little bit. Yeah. Has to. When
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  we talk about openness. So
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  one of the things I think is staying
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  relevant in our own life and what that means is that
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  your goal when you're 20 could be very
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  different than your goal, you know, especially the tactics.
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  Yeah. You're 40 when you're 60, when you're whatever. Right.
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  And so, you know, when you're looking at different things and what you want,
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  it's not. It. It's not bad that you want something different.
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  Right. You know, it's your 50s, then you want it when you were 30,
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  you know that. So that took me a while to understand
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  that. That life is a moving target. Right. If you're
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  not. If you're not moving along and adjusting and
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  stuff. Yeah. You're stagnating. You're going to get left behind. Yeah. You
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  know, the other thing is something that
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  happened to me that totally changed my life
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  was the idea of judgment
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  versus curiosity. And it's funny because it came
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  from two. Two places at the same time. One it came from
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  Ted Lasso, and the other
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  came from positive thinking. So the idea is that we tend
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  to, you know, be in a rut kind of the way we think. Like, you
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  think this way. Yeah. If you can stop that
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  and go, can I be curious about this? Instead of being like, I
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  always do it this way and being jud. And it has changed
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  everything in my life. I mean, I. You know,
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  I go, when? Because I'm like, one of these people. I. You know, because I
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  want first action. I realize that sometimes that means I put blinders
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  on because I want to, you know. Yeah. And so being
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  able to say, wait, let me slow down and be a little bit
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  more curious. What are the other options that could be here?
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  What else is going on? And. And I have to tell you,
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  I've been married to my husband for over 50 years, and this
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  changed our relationship. That's awesome.
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  Congrats. Yeah. You know, it's like. Because he is
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  one of the most curious people I have ever met in the world. I mean,
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  he's like a Renaissance man. I mean, he's, you know, he. He's eclectic with
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  his music and stuff like that. And I'm like, honey, can.
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  And just, you know, I mean, I'll get out of the car and head for
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  the door, and he'll go, honey, you didn't take time to look at the plants
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  I put out. And I'm like, you know, come on, can we wrap? I gotta
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  go. So. So I
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  think that's part of it, is that there are so
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  many. So many demands on our time. And so as we get a little bit
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  older, I think, and as things happen, we have the
• 23:40
  space to actually be more curious and
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  to explore and to look at things. If
• 23:48
  we realize that there's a benefit to it, if we say to ourselves,
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  this is something that's really worth doing, it will enhance my life.
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  All right. Yeah. This is not about me, but I'm enjoying this, and I'm
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  getting a lot out of it. Sorry. What are three things
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  that you think entrepreneurs can do, especially women
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  entrepreneurs? Well, to.
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  To enhance their businesses, to enhance their
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  life, or. Well, all of the above or just what? All of the above.
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  Because you know what? I just was. I was just in a summit that was
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  called the 24 7. You. You are. If you're an
• 24:27
  entrepreneur, you think about. I. I said the one hour. I have a Pilates a
• 24:31
  week is the one hour I'm not thinking about business otherwise,
• 24:34
  you know, though, because. And I think my idea is
• 24:38
  that if you have A principle or a model that you use, you should be
• 24:42
  able to use it in your personal and your professional life
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  because you get stronger at it. You don't have to have two different models, you
• 24:49
  know, for. Yeah, absolutely. All right, well, I
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  already, I already, I think I said, said the one
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  is, is to really get to know yourself. That, that would
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  be. That's, that's one of them. And the way you can do
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  that for the second one is to follow the love method
• 25:08
  and unpack that so, so you could get my book and learn more,
• 25:11
  more about that. And then the third, which in
• 25:15
  a way you might want to do first, is I actually have a
• 25:19
  free quiz on my website that
• 25:22
  allows you to be able to uncover your
• 25:26
  particular personal power archetype as a midlife
• 25:30
  entrepreneur. And, and there's, there's, there'll be four different
• 25:34
  archetypes. And, and of course, they're based around the love method, so,
• 25:37
  so it'll be able to tell you what some of your strengths are and, you
• 25:41
  know, maybe some areas that you might want to improve,
• 25:44
  we'll just say, you know, improve upon because we always, we all need to learn
• 25:48
  and grow and, you know, we're not, we're not perfect. We're works in progress.
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  And that's a good thing because otherwise we'd be pretty boring if we were just
• 25:56
  stuck. And that's it. I'm. I'm done. So I, I have to
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  ask the question, since I'm not a midlife person,
• 26:03
  I'm. I'm older, would I get benefit from this as well? Oh,
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  yeah, absolutely. I mean, I mean, I call myself a midlife
• 26:10
  empowerment guy, but really it's anybody over. Basically over 50,
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  because I'm over 60 now myself. And so, yeah,
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  it, it's. And we're looking good. It's good for anyone, really.
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  So, so, and, and so your gift is the
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  quiz, right? Yes, yes. So everybody should definitely check that
• 26:30
  out, because I think
• 26:34
  you have to give yourself space to create, whether
• 26:37
  you're creating a different life for yourself, whether you're creating something
• 26:41
  from your business. I would recommend that you always
• 26:44
  have blocked out some time on your calendar
• 26:48
  for yourself, because otherwise the demand on your
• 26:52
  time is going to be, you know, I'm not going to be. I'm not
• 26:55
  the person that says give yourself a full day, because that never works for me.
• 26:59
  Yeah, partially because my, you know, I can't concentrate
• 27:03
  that long, but I have several blocks during the week that I have on
• 27:07
  my calendar that I know that I can
• 27:11
  think about things, whether it's business or otherwise. Okay,
• 27:14
  so let me ask you this. When was the last
• 27:18
  time you did something new for the first time?
• 27:22
  Well, I actually did something new a couple of weeks
• 27:26
  ago. I was at a, a one day retreat.
• 27:30
  It was called a wise women's retreat. And I actually
• 27:33
  created a wind chime and so which was, which
• 27:37
  was kind of fun. And. And then was able to bring it home and decorated
• 27:41
  it. And so, yeah, that was kind of, it was, it was really
• 27:45
  good having to, you know, we were all together with different people and just having
• 27:48
  to make sure you get the. They have these lovely metal poles
• 27:52
  and that they put holes in and we had to string it and it
• 27:56
  was, it was, it was fun. So I like, I love being with other
• 28:00
  women and doing creative things. I don't get it. I'm to do enough
• 28:04
  creativity in my life, even though I like it. So, so that was
• 28:07
  fun. It's nice doing things with your hands sometimes. Yeah. You know,
• 28:11
  and with the, I used to, in the
• 28:15
  time when you did mass, you know, you did mailings. Yeah,
• 28:19
  I used to get together. My supervisor and I would call it a quilting be.
• 28:23
  You know, we had to like stuff envelopes and I would get lunch and we
• 28:26
  just talk about nonsense because it was repetitive. Sure,
• 28:30
  it was repetitive work, but it was fun. All right, it's time for the ad
• 28:34
  before we run out of time. And I hope that
• 28:38
  you're enjoying this particular podcast and all the podcasts.
• 28:42
  And so as a first step, please subscribe and share and
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• 28:49
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• 28:53
  back to you to help you grow your business through
• 28:57
  connection. The idea is to build a vibrant community
• 29:00
  and fuel your quest for growth and impact. And I hope that you
• 29:04
  will continue joining me for all the other, you know, episodes of the One Small
• 29:08
  Change and the Gifts that Come. And they will help you. These
• 29:12
  small shifts, you only need a little bit of information to help you make a
• 29:15
  monumental transformation. And if you look at
• 29:19
  the other episodes, you're going to find really interesting things
• 29:23
  as well. And there are a couple in there that I did solo because I
• 29:26
  wanted to talk by myself, but they're about doing,
• 29:30
  having your clarity check and all those other things. So
• 29:35
  I can't believe that we, we're running out of time here. But let me,
• 29:39
  let me ask you this. Give me your, your words of wisdom.
• 29:42
  What's, what's a quote that we can associate with you or some word, some
• 29:46
  gem? Well, it's it's actually a quote that I, I
• 29:50
  came up with and is sort of a lesson for me as
• 29:53
  well, is that the, the only thing standing in your way
• 29:57
  is you. So get out of your own way and
• 30:01
  explore your world today. And I didn't mean to make it rhyme,
• 30:05
  but there we go. I love that. I love that.
• 30:09
  So, guys, we're at the end again of another fabulous
• 30:12
  episode. So I want you to remember that change is simple, but it's not
• 30:16
  always easy. It requires courage, resilience, and a willingness
• 30:20
  to step outside your comfort zone. And don't let that
• 30:23
  butterfly feeling make you stop. That actually is a sign that you
• 30:26
  care and you should keep going right in. So join
• 30:30
  me for the one small change as we do this every
• 30:34
  week. And until then, stay very curious.
• 30:38
  Thank you, Gloria. Thank you, Yvonne. Appreciate it.
• 30:42
  This has been great.