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Game Episode: Quietly Quitting… or Still In It? · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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  You
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  know,
• 0:00
  everyone
• 0:00
  talks
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  about
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  401ks
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  and
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  investing
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  in
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  your
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  future.
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  I'm
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  like,
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  you
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  need
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  a
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  friend,
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  401k,
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  not
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  just
• 0:08
  your
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  husband.
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  Hobbies
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  and
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  friendships
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  are
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  very
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  important.
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  Yeah.
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  I
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  didn't
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  know
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  that
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  you
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  wanted
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  me
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  to
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  call
• 0:14
  you.
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  I
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  didn't
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  know
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  that
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  you
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  needed
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  my
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  support.
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  So.
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  Saying
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  what
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  you
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  need.
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  Yeah.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  have
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  to
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  be
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  a
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  guessing
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  game
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  then.
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  Or
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  you
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  can
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  open
• 0:21
  up
• 0:21
  your
• 0:21
  marriage.
• 0:22
  You
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  know,
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  a
• 0:23
  lot
• 0:23
  of
• 0:23
  people
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  are.
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  Doing
• 0:24
  that,
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  but
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  I
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  personally
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  don't
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  like
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  to
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  share
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  my
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  toys.
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  I'm
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  a
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  super
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  scorpio.
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  Me
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  too.
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  I
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  will
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  have
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  someone
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  else,
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  but
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  share
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  you.
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  I'm
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  with
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  you.
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  Okay.
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  Welcome
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  back,
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  everybody.
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  So
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  excited.
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  We
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  have
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  Melissa
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  and
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  Monica
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  joining
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  us
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  for
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  their
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  special
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  bonus
• 0:44
  game
• 0:44
  episode.
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  It's
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  fun.
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  Nervous.
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  Here
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  we
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  go.
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  So
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  this
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  super
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  fun,
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  this
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  game,
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  and
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  it's
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  called
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  quietly
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  quitting
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  or
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  still
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  in
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  it.
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  So
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  basically,
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  read
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  off
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  a
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  few
• 0:58
  scenarios
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  and
• 1:00
  you
• 1:00
  just
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  say
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  whatever
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  comes
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  to
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  mind.
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  Um,
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  is
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  it
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  quietly
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  quitting
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  or
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  are
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  they
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  still
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  in
• 1:04
  it?
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  Okay.
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  Okay.
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  So
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  the
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  first
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  one,
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  you
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  stop
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  sleeping
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  in
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  the
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  same
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  bed.
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  But
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  neither
• 1:11
  of
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  you
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  ever
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  talks
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  about
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  why.
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  Quietly
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  quitting.
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  Quietly
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  quitting.
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  For
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  sure
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  you're
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  quietly
• 1:18
  quitting.
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  So
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  without
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  talking
• 1:20
  about
• 1:20
  it.
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  Right.
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  That's
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  problem.
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  What
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  about
• 1:24
  lulls
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  in
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  intimacy?
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  How
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  do
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  you
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  know
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  if
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  that's
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  quietly
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  quitting
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  or
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  if
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  it's
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  just,
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  you
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  know,
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  maybe
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  it's
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  like
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  a
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  dry
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  spell
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  that
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  you're
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  kind
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  of
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  going
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  through.
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  I
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  think
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  it
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  depends
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  on
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  your
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  relationship.
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  If
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  you
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  guys
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  are
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  used
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  to
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  having
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  sex
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  three,
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  four
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  nights
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  a
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  week,
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  and
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  then
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  it
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  goes
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  down
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  to0
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  for
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  four
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  months.
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  Someone's
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  sitting
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  on
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  someone
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  else's
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  face.
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  I
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  will
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  say
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  that.
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  But
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  it
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  all
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  depends
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  on
• 1:43
  your,
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  you
• 1:44
  know,
• 1:44
  your
• 1:44
  intimacy.
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  Um,
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  but
• 1:46
  you
• 1:46
  can
• 1:46
  go
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  through
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  lulls
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  if
• 1:47
  you're
• 1:47
  busy,
• 1:48
  you're
• 1:48
  tired.
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  I
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  think
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  it's.
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  If
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  you
• 1:49
  don't
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  talk
• 1:50
  about
• 1:50
  it,
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  then
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  it
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  becomes
• 1:51
  weird.
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  And
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  it
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  also
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  depends
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  on
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  the
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  quality
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  of
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  if
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  you're
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  not
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  coming
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  or
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  he's
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  not
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  coming,
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  someone's
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  coming
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  somewhere
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  else,
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  and
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  then
• 1:57
  that's
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  where
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  you
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  know
• 1:58
  it's
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  a
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  low.
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  Yeah,
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  I
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  think,
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  you
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  know,
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  you
• 2:00
  can
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  talk
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  about
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  a
• 2:01
  lack
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  of
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  intimacy.
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  Talk
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  about
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  how
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  maybe
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  you're
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  in
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  a
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  sexual
• 2:04
  rut.
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  But
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  if
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  you
• 2:05
  don't
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  talk
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  about
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  it,
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  let's
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  say
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  you're
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  watching
• 2:07
  a
• 2:07
  movie
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  and
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  there's
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  a
• 2:08
  sex
• 2:08
  scene
• 2:08
  and
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  you
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  both
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  freeze
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  up
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  because
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  you
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  feel
• 2:10
  weird
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  about
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  it.
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  You
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  shouldn't
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  say,
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  oh,
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  that
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  looks
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  good.
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  Maybe
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  we
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  should
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  try
• 2:14
  that.
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  Or
• 2:15
  Acknowledge
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  that
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  we
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  haven't
• 2:17
  done
• 2:17
  that
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  in
• 2:17
  a
• 2:18
  while.
• 2:18
  What's
• 2:18
  going
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  on?
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  Why
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  aren't
• 2:20
  we
• 2:20
  having
• 2:20
  sex?
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  I
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  mean,
• 2:21
  start
• 2:21
  a
• 2:21
  conversation
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  around
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  it.
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  It's
• 2:23
  all
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  about
• 2:23
  the
• 2:24
  communication.
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  True.
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  Yeah.
• 2:25
  Communication.
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  Okay,
• 2:27
  next
• 2:27
  scenario.
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  You
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  fantasize
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  about
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  being
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  single
• 2:30
  again,
• 2:31
  not
• 2:31
  because
• 2:31
  you
• 2:32
  want
• 2:32
  to
• 2:32
  date,
• 2:32
  but
• 2:33
  because
• 2:33
  you
• 2:34
  miss
• 2:34
  who
• 2:34
  you
• 2:34
  used
• 2:35
  to
• 2:35
  be.
• 2:35
  Oh,
• 2:36
  still
• 2:36
  in
• 2:36
  it.
• 2:37
  Still
• 2:37
  in
• 2:37
  it.
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  Oh,
• 2:39
  natural.
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  Yeah.
• 2:40
  Because
• 2:40
  you're
• 2:41
  just
• 2:41
  thinking
• 2:41
  about
• 2:42
  it,
• 2:42
  but
• 2:42
  you're
• 2:42
  not
• 2:42
  taking
• 2:42
  any
• 2:43
  action
• 2:43
  like
• 2:43
  who
• 2:44
  it
• 2:44
  used
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  be.
• 2:45
  That.
• 2:45
  That's
• 2:46
  more
• 2:46
  about
• 2:46
  you.
• 2:46
  That's
• 2:47
  not
• 2:47
  about
• 2:47
  your
• 2:47
  partner.
• 2:48
  I
• 2:48
  agree.
• 2:49
  You've
• 2:50
  emotionally
• 2:51
  stopped
• 2:51
  complaining
• 2:52
  because
• 2:52
  you
• 2:52
  already
• 2:52
  know
• 2:53
  nothing
• 2:53
  will
• 2:54
  change.
• 2:55
  Quietly
• 2:55
  quitting.
• 2:56
  Quietly
• 2:57
  quitting
• 2:57
  for
• 2:57
  sure.
• 2:58
  Okay.
• 2:59
  If
• 3:00
  you
• 3:00
  stop
• 3:00
  talking,
• 3:00
  if
• 3:01
  you
• 3:01
  stop
• 3:01
  communicating,
• 3:02
  you
• 3:02
  are
• 3:02
  quietly
• 3:03
  quitting.
• 3:03
  Yeah.
• 3:04
  Operative
• 3:04
  word,
• 3:04
  be
• 3:05
  quiet.
• 3:06
  Yes.
• 3:06
  Okay.
• 3:08
  You
• 3:08
  love
• 3:08
  your
• 3:08
  husband
• 3:09
  but
• 3:09
  no
• 3:09
  longer
• 3:10
  desire
• 3:10
  him
• 3:11
  and
• 3:11
  you're
• 3:11
  not
• 3:11
  sure
• 3:11
  you
• 3:12
  ever
• 3:12
  will
• 3:12
  again.
• 3:15
  I
• 3:15
  think
• 3:15
  it
• 3:15
  depends.
• 3:16
  Honestly.
• 3:17
  You
• 3:18
  can.
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  mean,
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  could
• 3:19
  still
• 3:19
  have
• 3:20
  sex
• 3:20
  with
• 3:20
  my
• 3:20
  husband
• 3:20
  and
• 3:21
  fantasize
• 3:21
  about
• 3:21
  someone.
• 3:22
  Else,
• 3:23
  or
• 3:24
  you
• 3:24
  can
• 3:24
  open
• 3:24
  up
• 3:24
  your
• 3:25
  marriage.
• 3:26
  You
• 3:26
  know,
• 3:26
  a
• 3:26
  lot
• 3:26
  of
• 3:27
  people
• 3:27
  are
• 3:27
  doing
• 3:27
  that,
• 3:28
  staying
• 3:29
  together
• 3:29
  and
• 3:30
  either
• 3:30
  bringing
• 3:31
  in
• 3:31
  a
• 3:31
  new
• 3:32
  partner
• 3:32
  for
• 3:33
  each
• 3:33
  person
• 3:33
  or
• 3:33
  bringing
• 3:34
  in
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  new
• 3:34
  partner
• 3:34
  for
• 3:34
  both
• 3:35
  of
• 3:35
  you
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  share.
• 3:35
  I
• 3:36
  mean,
• 3:36
  there
• 3:36
  are
• 3:36
  a
• 3:36
  lot
• 3:36
  of
• 3:36
  options
• 3:37
  out
• 3:37
  there.
• 3:38
  So
• 3:38
  polyamory
• 3:39
  is
• 3:40
  growing.
• 3:40
  It
• 3:40
  is.
• 3:41
  Again,
• 3:41
  I
• 3:42
  think
• 3:42
  it
• 3:42
  comes
• 3:42
  back
• 3:43
  to
• 3:43
  not
• 3:43
  being
• 3:44
  quiet,
• 3:44
  talking
• 3:45
  about
• 3:45
  it.
• 3:45
  Your
• 3:45
  partner
• 3:45
  might
• 3:46
  feel
• 3:46
  the
• 3:46
  same
• 3:46
  way.
• 3:48
  So
• 3:49
  there's
• 3:49
  a
• 3:49
  delicate
• 3:50
  way
• 3:50
  of
• 3:50
  approaching
• 3:51
  that
• 3:51
  and
• 3:51
  not
• 3:51
  saying,
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  don't
• 3:52
  think
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  will
• 3:53
  ever
• 3:53
  desire
• 3:53
  you
• 3:54
  again.
• 3:54
  But
• 3:55
  maybe
• 3:55
  it's
• 3:55
  like,
• 3:55
  how
• 3:56
  can
• 3:56
  we
• 3:57
  enhance
• 3:58
  what
• 3:58
  we
• 3:58
  have?
• 3:59
  How
• 3:59
  can
• 3:59
  we
• 3:59
  mix
• 3:59
  it
• 4:00
  up?
• 4:00
  How
• 4:00
  can
• 4:00
  we
• 4:00
  bring
• 4:00
  more
• 4:01
  excitement
• 4:02
  to
• 4:02
  our
• 4:02
  intimacy?
• 4:05
  So
• 4:05
  that
• 4:05
  could
• 4:05
  go
• 4:06
  either
• 4:06
  way.
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  agree
• 4:06
  with
• 4:07
  Melissa.
• 4:07
  I
• 4:08
  think
• 4:08
  it
• 4:08
  depends.
• 4:08
  But
• 4:09
  I
• 4:09
  personally
• 4:09
  don't
• 4:10
  like
• 4:10
  to
• 4:10
  share
• 4:10
  my
• 4:10
  toys.
• 4:11
  I'm
• 4:11
  a
• 4:11
  super
• 4:11
  Scorpio,
• 4:12
  so
• 4:12
  what's
• 4:13
  mine
• 4:13
  is
• 4:13
  mine.
• 4:14
  I
• 4:15
  will
• 4:15
  have
• 4:15
  someone
• 4:15
  else,
• 4:16
  But
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  don't
• 4:16
  want
• 4:16
  to
• 4:16
  share
• 4:16
  you
• 4:16
  while
• 4:17
  I'm
• 4:17
  in
• 4:17
  bed
• 4:17
  with
• 4:17
  you.
• 4:19
  Yeah.
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  would
• 4:19
  imagine
• 4:20
  there
• 4:20
  would
• 4:20
  have
• 4:20
  to
• 4:20
  be
• 4:20
  a
• 4:21
  lot
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  non
• 4:21
  jealousy
• 4:22
  and
• 4:22
  a
• 4:22
  lot
• 4:22
  of
• 4:23
  communication.
• 4:23
  Right?
• 4:24
  Right.
• 4:24
  Yeah.
• 4:26
  You
• 4:27
  invest
• 4:27
  more
• 4:27
  emotionally
• 4:28
  in
• 4:28
  your
• 4:29
  female
• 4:29
  friendships
• 4:30
  than
• 4:30
  in
• 4:30
  your
• 4:30
  marriage.
• 4:31
  Quietly
• 4:32
  quitting
• 4:32
  or
• 4:32
  still
• 4:32
  in
• 4:33
  it?
• 4:33
  Still
• 4:33
  in
• 4:34
  it.
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  think,
• 4:35
  you
• 4:35
  know,
• 4:35
  everyone
• 4:36
  talks
• 4:36
  about
• 4:37
  401ks
• 4:38
  and
• 4:38
  investing
• 4:39
  in
• 4:39
  your
• 4:39
  future
• 4:39
  and
• 4:40
  having
• 4:40
  money
• 4:40
  saved.
• 4:41
  I'm
• 4:41
  like,
• 4:42
  you
• 4:42
  need
• 4:42
  a
• 4:42
  friend,
• 4:43
  401k,
• 4:44
  not
• 4:44
  just
• 4:45
  your
• 4:45
  husband.
• 4:45
  And
• 4:46
  I've
• 4:46
  been
• 4:46
  wanting
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  write
• 4:47
  an
• 4:47
  article
• 4:47
  about
• 4:47
  this
• 4:48
  because
• 4:49
  my
• 4:49
  mom,
• 4:49
  when
• 4:49
  she
• 4:50
  was
• 4:50
  84,
• 4:50
  had
• 4:50
  no
• 4:51
  friends.
• 4:51
  I
• 4:51
  wrote
• 4:51
  an
• 4:51
  article
• 4:51
  called
• 4:52
  my
• 4:52
  mom
• 4:52
  has
• 4:52
  no
• 4:53
  friends,
• 4:53
  which
• 4:53
  also
• 4:53
  went
• 4:54
  viral.
• 4:54
  And
• 4:54
  I
• 4:54
  Ended
• 4:55
  up
• 4:55
  developing
• 4:55
  into
• 4:55
  a
• 4:56
  sitcom,
• 4:56
  which
• 4:56
  was
• 4:56
  a
• 4:56
  lot
• 4:56
  of
• 4:57
  fun.
• 4:57
  But
• 4:57
  the
• 4:58
  point
• 4:58
  is,
• 4:58
  she
• 4:59
  had
• 4:59
  enough
• 4:59
  money.
• 5:00
  She
• 5:00
  just
• 5:00
  didn't
• 5:00
  have
• 5:00
  anyone
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  share
• 5:01
  it
• 5:01
  with.
• 5:01
  She
• 5:02
  didn't
• 5:02
  have
• 5:02
  anywhere
• 5:02
  to
• 5:02
  spend
• 5:03
  it.
• 5:03
  So
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  think
• 5:04
  female
• 5:05
  friendships,
• 5:06
  any
• 5:06
  friendships
• 5:07
  are
• 5:07
  so
• 5:07
  important,
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  you're
• 5:09
  probably
• 5:10
  going
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  outlive
• 5:10
  your
• 5:11
  husband,
• 5:11
  as
• 5:11
  women
• 5:12
  do
• 5:12
  if
• 5:12
  your
• 5:12
  partner's
• 5:13
  male.
• 5:14
  So
• 5:14
  those
• 5:15
  female
• 5:15
  friendships,
• 5:16
  they're
• 5:16
  the
• 5:16
  ones
• 5:16
  that
• 5:17
  are
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  help
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  when
• 5:17
  you're
• 5:18
  trying
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  decide
• 5:18
  whether
• 5:18
  to
• 5:19
  stay
• 5:19
  or
• 5:19
  go,
• 5:19
  too.
• 5:20
  Yeah,
• 5:21
  Definitely
• 5:22
  those
• 5:22
  female
• 5:22
  friendships.
• 5:23
  I
• 5:23
  will
• 5:23
  say,
• 5:24
  though,
• 5:24
  my
• 5:24
  father
• 5:25
  has
• 5:25
  outlived
• 5:26
  my
• 5:26
  mother.
• 5:26
  He
• 5:26
  has
• 5:27
  a
• 5:27
  ton
• 5:27
  of
• 5:27
  money,
• 5:27
  no
• 5:27
  friends,
• 5:28
  nowhere
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  go.
• 5:29
  So
• 5:29
  having
• 5:29
  hobbies
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  friendships
• 5:31
  are
• 5:31
  very
• 5:32
  important.
• 5:32
  Yeah.
• 5:33
  Yes.
• 5:33
  And
• 5:33
  perhaps
• 5:33
  having
• 5:34
  a
• 5:34
  retirement
• 5:34
  plan
• 5:35
  a
• 5:35
  la
• 5:35
  Golden
• 5:36
  Girls.
• 5:36
  Not
• 5:36
  such
• 5:37
  a
• 5:37
  bad
• 5:37
  idea.
• 5:37
  Right?
• 5:38
  Live
• 5:38
  with
• 5:38
  your
• 5:38
  besties.
• 5:39
  You
• 5:40
  know,
• 5:40
  I'm
• 5:40
  about
• 5:41
  communal
• 5:41
  living.
• 5:43
  You've
• 5:43
  quietly
• 5:44
  started
• 5:44
  protecting
• 5:45
  your
• 5:45
  money,
• 5:46
  just
• 5:46
  in
• 5:47
  case.
• 5:47
  Quietly
• 5:48
  quitting
• 5:48
  or
• 5:48
  still
• 5:49
  in
• 5:49
  it?
• 5:50
  Quitting.
• 5:50
  Quietly
• 5:51
  quitting.
• 5:52
  Quietly
• 5:52
  quitting.
• 5:53
  If
• 5:54
  you're
• 5:54
  not
• 5:54
  talking
• 5:54
  about
• 5:54
  your
• 5:55
  finances
• 5:55
  with
• 5:55
  your
• 5:55
  partner
• 5:56
  and
• 5:56
  you're
• 5:56
  making
• 5:56
  arrangements
• 5:57
  outside
• 5:57
  of
• 5:57
  the
• 5:57
  marriage,
• 5:57
  that
• 5:58
  is
• 5:58
  quietly
• 5:58
  quitting.
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  agree.
• 5:59
  But
• 6:00
  it's
• 6:00
  also
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  good
• 6:01
  thing
• 6:01
  to
• 6:01
  do
• 6:01
  to
• 6:02
  protect
• 6:02
  yourself.
• 6:03
  Yeah.
• 6:03
  You
• 6:04
  lower
• 6:04
  your
• 6:04
  expectations
• 6:05
  so
• 6:06
  you
• 6:06
  can
• 6:06
  lower
• 6:07
  your
• 6:07
  disappointment.
• 6:09
  Quietly
• 6:09
  quitting.
• 6:10
  I
• 6:11
  kind
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  feel
• 6:11
  like
• 6:11
  still
• 6:12
  in
• 6:12
  it,
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  be
• 6:12
  honest
• 6:13
  with
• 6:13
  you,
• 6:13
  because
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  feel
• 6:15
  like
• 6:16
  sometimes
• 6:16
  you
• 6:16
  lower
• 6:17
  expectations.
• 6:18
  Not
• 6:19
  saying
• 6:19
  it's
• 6:19
  healthy,
• 6:20
  but
• 6:20
  just
• 6:21
  to.
• 6:21
  Just
• 6:21
  to
• 6:22
  deal
• 6:22
  and
• 6:22
  find
• 6:22
  some.
• 6:23
  Find
• 6:24
  some
• 6:24
  common
• 6:24
  ground.
• 6:25
  Like
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  make
• 6:25
  concessions
• 6:26
  for
• 6:26
  your
• 6:26
  partner.
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  found
• 6:27
  myself
• 6:28
  making
• 6:28
  concessions,
• 6:29
  and
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  wasn't
• 6:30
  even
• 6:30
  consciously
• 6:30
  aware
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  was
• 6:31
  doing
• 6:31
  it
• 6:32
  because
• 6:32
  I
• 6:32
  was
• 6:32
  trying
• 6:32
  to
• 6:33
  make.
• 6:33
  It
• 6:33
  work
• 6:34
  for
• 6:34
  me.
• 6:34
  I
• 6:34
  think
• 6:34
  it's
• 6:35
  being
• 6:35
  really
• 6:35
  clear
• 6:35
  about
• 6:36
  what
• 6:36
  your
• 6:36
  expectations
• 6:37
  are
• 6:38
  so
• 6:39
  that
• 6:39
  the
• 6:39
  other
• 6:39
  person
• 6:40
  makes
• 6:40
  a
• 6:41
  conscious
• 6:41
  decision
• 6:42
  about
• 6:42
  whether
• 6:42
  or
• 6:42
  not
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  meet
• 6:43
  them.
• 6:44
  Because
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  lot
• 6:44
  of
• 6:44
  times
• 6:44
  people
• 6:45
  don't
• 6:45
  know.
• 6:45
  We
• 6:45
  find
• 6:46
  this
• 6:46
  a
• 6:46
  lot
• 6:46
  in
• 6:46
  friendships.
• 6:47
  I
• 6:47
  didn't
• 6:47
  know
• 6:47
  that
• 6:47
  you
• 6:48
  wanted
• 6:48
  me
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  call
• 6:48
  you.
• 6:49
  I
• 6:49
  didn't
• 6:49
  know
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  you
• 6:49
  needed
• 6:50
  my
• 6:50
  support.
• 6:50
  So
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  think
• 6:52
  just
• 6:52
  saying
• 6:53
  what
• 6:53
  you
• 6:53
  need,
• 6:54
  then
• 6:54
  you
• 6:55
  don't
• 6:55
  have
• 6:55
  to
• 6:56
  rejigger
• 6:56
  your
• 6:57
  expectations
• 6:58
  because
• 6:59
  they're
• 6:59
  out
• 6:59
  there.
• 6:59
  And
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  can
• 7:00
  say
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  the
• 7:00
  person,
• 7:01
  you
• 7:01
  didn't
• 7:01
  meet
• 7:01
  them
• 7:01
  and
• 7:02
  I
• 7:02
  told.
• 7:02
  You
• 7:02
  what
• 7:02
  they
• 7:02
  were.
• 7:03
  Yeah.
• 7:04
  It
• 7:04
  doesn't
• 7:05
  have
• 7:05
  to
• 7:05
  be
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  guessing
• 7:05
  game,
• 7:06
  you
• 7:06
  know,
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  think,
• 7:08
  I
• 7:09
  don't
• 7:09
  want
• 7:09
  to
• 7:09
  blow
• 7:09
  up
• 7:09
  my
• 7:10
  life.
• 7:10
  I
• 7:10
  just
• 7:10
  want
• 7:11
  my
• 7:11
  life
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  feel
• 7:11
  like
• 7:12
  mine
• 7:12
  again.
• 7:13
  I'll
• 7:13
  still
• 7:13
  win
• 7:14
  it.
• 7:14
  Because
• 7:15
  it's
• 7:15
  all
• 7:15
  about
• 7:15
  the
• 7:15
  contemplation.
• 7:16
  There's
• 7:16
  no
• 7:17
  action
• 7:17
  that's
• 7:17
  been
• 7:17
  made.
• 7:18
  But.
• 7:18
  Yeah,
• 7:19
  but
• 7:19
  that
• 7:20
  tells
• 7:20
  me
• 7:20
  that
• 7:20
  something's
• 7:21
  not
• 7:21
  right.
• 7:21
  And
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  need
• 7:21
  to
• 7:22
  break
• 7:22
  down
• 7:22
  what
• 7:22
  that
• 7:22
  is
• 7:23
  and
• 7:23
  pinpoint
• 7:23
  where
• 7:24
  that
• 7:24
  ick
• 7:24
  feeling
• 7:25
  or
• 7:26
  originates.
• 7:27
  Who's
• 7:27
  winning,
• 7:27
  Melissa
• 7:28
  or
• 7:28
  me?
• 7:31
  I
• 7:31
  think
• 7:31
  we're
• 7:32
  all
• 7:32
  so
• 7:32
  aligned.
• 7:34
  I
• 7:34
  know
• 7:35
  it
• 7:35
  better
• 7:36
  be
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  good
• 7:36
  prize.
• 7:37
  Dick.
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  hate
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  say
• 7:40
  that.
• 7:40
  I'm
• 7:40
  like,
• 7:41
  it's
• 7:41
  a
• 7:41
  tie.
• 7:43
  Okay,
• 7:44
  last
• 7:45
  one.
• 7:45
  You're
• 7:46
  still
• 7:46
  married,
• 7:47
  but
• 7:47
  in
• 7:47
  your
• 7:47
  mind,
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  already
• 7:48
  feel
• 7:49
  single.
• 7:50
  Oh,
• 7:50
  that's
• 7:51
  definitely
• 7:51
  quietly
• 7:52
  quitting
• 7:52
  for
• 7:52
  me.
• 7:52
  Yeah.
• 7:53
  Well,
• 7:54
  thank
• 7:54
  you
• 7:54
  so
• 7:54
  much,
• 7:55
  you
• 7:55
  guys,
• 7:55
  for
• 7:55
  playing
• 7:56
  this
• 7:56
  game.
• 7:56
  It
• 7:57
  was
• 7:57
  so
• 7:57
  fun.
• 7:57
  And
• 7:57
  everybody
• 7:58
  listening.
• 7:59
  Go
• 7:59
  back
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  Tuesday's
• 8:00
  full
• 8:00
  episode,
• 8:00
  because
• 8:01
  you're
• 8:01
  going
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  want
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  hear
• 8:02
  all
• 8:03
  about
• 8:03
  quietly
• 8:04
  quitting
• 8:04
  your
• 8:04
  husbands.
• 8:05
  What
• 8:05
  that
• 8:05
  looks
• 8:06
  like,
• 8:06
  what
• 8:06
  that
• 8:06
  means,
• 8:07
  what
• 8:07
  it
• 8:08
  means
• 8:08
  for
• 8:08
  women
• 8:08
  in
• 8:09
  midlife.
• 8:09
  We
• 8:10
  touched
• 8:10
  all
• 8:10
  so
• 8:11
  many
• 8:11
  amazing
• 8:11
  points.
• 8:12
  And
• 8:12
  you'll
• 8:12
  see
• 8:12
  exactly
• 8:13
  why
• 8:13
  this
• 8:13
  article
• 8:14
  went
• 8:14
  viral,
• 8:14
  because
• 8:15
  it
• 8:15
  is
• 8:15
  something
• 8:15
  we
• 8:15
  should
• 8:16
  be
• 8:16
  talking
• 8:16
  about.
• 8:17
  And
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  just
• 8:18
  want
• 8:18
  to
• 8:18
  thank
• 8:18
  my
• 8:19
  guests.
• 8:19
  They're
• 8:20
  amazing.
• 8:20
  Thank
• 8:21
  you
• 8:21
  so
• 8:21
  much,
• 8:21
  Monica
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  Melissa.
• 8:22
  This
• 8:23
  has
• 8:23
  been
• 8:24
  so
• 8:24
  great,
• 8:25
  and
• 8:26
  can't
• 8:26
  wait
• 8:26
  to
• 8:26
  see
• 8:26
  what's
• 8:27
  next
• 8:27
  for
• 8:27
  you
• 8:27
  guys.
• 8:28
  Thank
• 8:29
  you.
• 8:30
  Thank
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  for
• 8:30
  all
• 8:30
  that
• 8:30
  you're
• 8:31
  doing.
• 8:31
  Roxy,
• 8:31
  this
• 8:32
  is
• 8:32
  amazing.
• 8:32
  Yeah.
• 8:33
  Thank
• 8:33
  you.
• 8:34
  Thank
• 8:34
  you
• 8:34
  so
• 8:34
  much.
• 8:35
  Now,
• 8:35
  you
• 8:35
  guys
• 8:35
  are
• 8:35
  amazing.
• 8:36
  I'm
• 8:37
  so
• 8:37
  grateful
• 8:37
  to
• 8:38
  have
• 8:38
  amazing
• 8:38
  guests
• 8:38
  like
• 8:39
  you
• 8:39
  guys.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:39
  I
• 8:40
  think
• 8:40
  we
• 8:40
  should
• 8:40
  be
• 8:40
  talking
• 8:41
  about
• 8:41
  these
• 8:41
  things
• 8:41
  right
• 8:42
  and
• 8:42
  left,
• 8:42
  100%.
• 8:44
  And
• 8:44
  more
• 8:44
  sex.
• 8:45
  Yes.
• 8:46
  More
• 8:47
  sex,
• 8:47
  more
• 8:47
  dicks.
• 8:48
  All
• 8:48
  of
• 8:48
  it.