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Self Sabotage Hypnosis to Silence The Self Destructive Voice Within · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Let me ask you a question.
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  Do you ever feel that you sabotage your life, that things
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  are going pretty good and then you mess it up, you throw a big
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  spanner into the works? If so, I think you might get
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  some value from this session because I was working with a
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  client that every now and then would use alcohol and drink a
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  lot to kind of derail their life.
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  Things would be going good, but then they would choose to go on
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  a bit of a binge and just drink more than in hindsight they
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  would want to. And they would know that after a
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  few drinks they're kind of out of control and they're just
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  going to drink whatever they drink.
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  So this is designed to do certain things.
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  That mean that? We almost work backwards and we
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  say, right, if you don't have that first drink or two, then
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  what are all the other negative things that then don't happen
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  because you didn't do the first few things?
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  You can think of it as like a row of dominoes that actually a
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  lot of the problems in life are the 6th, 7th or 8th domino that
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  fall over. But if domino.
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  One never goes over the chain reaction, never gets to that
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  place. And this particular client would
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  have what's called a polarity response.
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  They would have this inner dialogue that would do the
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  opposite of what other people either wanted them to do or not
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  wanted them to do. So if they got a compliment,
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  then they would almost think that they didn't want to do it
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  because other people noticed the improvement.
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  And it actually uses a different idea of a parallel universe.
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  They get to see this version of themselves that quit alcohol for
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  about 6 months but then never went back to it.
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  And by looking at that life and how that life had improved and
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  all the ways that they could still enjoy their social life
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  and life with friends and relationships but without
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  needing alcohol, that would give them inspiration in their
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  reality. So if you want to either reduce
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  alcohol or silence that voice, that might be quite
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  self-destructive. I think you'll get some value
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  from this session. And if you like the idea of
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  working with me directly rather than just listening to
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  recordings of my podcast, I've actually created a webinar that
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  I go through what it's like to work with me.
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  And the webinar is completely free.
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  And there's a very special bonus at the end of that webinar as
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  well. So if you're interested in
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  checking that out, have a look in the show notes in the
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  description and you'll be able to register for that webinar and
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  get those free bonuses. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, relaxing breath and as you exhale, feel that
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  wonderful feeling of release, as if any tension, stress, worries
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  are slowly, incrementally leaving your body in that
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  outward breath. Breathing in a feeling of pure
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  acceptance and releasing any impatience, any frustrations,
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  just allowing any tension in the jaw to relax.
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  Arms and legs feeling limp, loose and heavy.
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  That's it. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. I want you to think back to a
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  time. A time when your job was to
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  influence. Maybe you can go back to a
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  memory knocking on doors, being trained.
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  I want you to get a sense that good or perhaps bad influence
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  has a percentage of truth at its very core.
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  When a salesperson is sold the idea of a product to sell to a
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  customer, the benefits quite often have an element of truth
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  right there inside. But I want you to imagine going
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  back, back in time as you are now observing that younger
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  version of you influencing. See how you were dressed, maybe
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  you had some bag or briefcase with you.
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  See you knocking on doors and see that version of you that had
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  the objective to influence. And I want you to see all of the
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  tools that you used back then to influence.
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  Sometimes people use fear to influence.
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  Have you been burgled in this area?
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  Have you seen the crime rates increasing?
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  Or maybe maybe it appeals to a role?
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  A mother wants to protect their children, a father wants to
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  protect the property. And I want you to see that
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  version of you using every trick in the book to influence is
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  difficult to influence if you're not in rapport.
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  See how you smiled, you showed interest, you were polite.
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  And I want you to think of a time when you influence someone
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  even though you knew what you were selling was not in the
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  interest of the person you were selling it to.
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  Maybe because it was overpriced, maybe.
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  Maybe because it had certain strings attached that were just
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  unpleasant, and maybe it had to be such a high price otherwise
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  there isn't enough Commission to pay you.
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  It doesn't mean why, it means what I want you to see what was
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  happening. Maybe, maybe we can look at this
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  as a win lose dynamic. The company won, they got their
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  money, you were winning. Every sale you made, you got
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  your money. And if the product was amazing,
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  it would also be a win for the customer.
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  Except you knew it wasn't. You knew it was bad for them,
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  but good for you. And then just imagine.
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  Imagine what it would feel like if you lived in a house down the
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  same St. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  yourself dressed in a expensive suit, hair slicked back,
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  charming smile you hear from inside the home.
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  The doorbell go and knock on the door and as you open the door,
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  see that younger version of you smiling, building a connection,
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  using those first few words or phrases to start the pitch.
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  And I want you to get a sense then, even if you've worked hard
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  that day, even if you had the money, even if you had no
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  security in your home, there is zero chance of you buying what
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  this individual yourself has to sell.
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  And I want you to see that the harder they try, the less
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  persuaded you become. You don't even need to give
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  objection after objection. You just know.
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  You just know that you're not ever going to buy this thing
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  partly because you've come to the conclusion that even if
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  you're going to buy something like this, it wouldn't be
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  because you're being persuaded. It would be because you intended
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  to find something you would research the best possible thing
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  to do that for you. But let's see them try with
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  their smiles. Maybe there's a smooth whisper
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  to their tonality. You really need this.
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  What's the point in working hard to have this house if someone
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  could break in and steal things, think of the lines and then
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  slowly start to distort them. I want you to imagine they
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  started selling security and now they're selling pleasure, or at
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  least the representation of it. I want you to imagine you're now
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  in your place, not an imaginary house on an imaginary street,
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  but your home. Want you to imagine you have
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  worked hard, nine to five. It was easy not to be
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  distracted. You had work to do.
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  But imagine it's the evening and instead of a knock at the door,
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  there's a subtle voice, almost like it's just behind your head.
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  And notice how often they use the word just let's just do
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  this. Let's just do that.
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  Just seems innocent, low stakes, it seems.
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  What could possibly go wrong? I want you to get a sense that
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  if someone was fishing, the bait on the hook is appealing to the
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  fish. They want to catch the fish
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  thinks they're getting something tasty, something pleasurable.
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  The fish is not aware of the hook, and if that fish takes a
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  nibble, but the fisherman started to bring in the line too
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  quickly, the line would snap and the fish would swim away.
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  The fisherman learns slowly bring the fish close enough so
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  the tension in the line is stronger when they're close than
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  if they're far away. And when they get to a certain
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  level, there's no going back for that fish.
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  Just imagine. Imagine a serial killer
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  charming. Imagine that serial killer says
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  there is the most incredible view of the ocean you've ever
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  seen. You've never seen anything like
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  that. Let's just go for a little walk.
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  It's only over there, not too far.
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  Come with me. It's incredible.
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  Use Influence promises, the language of seduction to get
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  them to the edge of the Cliff. And maybe, maybe the view is OK,
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  but their intention wasn't for them to see the view.
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  The intention was to push them over the Cliff when they get to
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  the edge. If you feel like you've been the
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  fish on the end of that hook one too many times, let me know if
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  I'm nodding your head And the fish was real, the bait was
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  real, even if you didn't ever get what you really hoped for.
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  And if you've been lured to the edge of the Cliff one too many
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  times and what you felt was the crumbling form of
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  disappointment, empty feeling, that remorse feeling, why did I
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  do this one too many times? Let me know by nodding your
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  head. Let's just say fish have short
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  memories, is the irony. Sometimes fishermen will take
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  pictures with their fish and the markings reveal it was exactly
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  the same fish caught more than once.
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  But fishes have short memories. If enough time goes by, they see
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  the bait on the hook and they have no memory that they've been
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  caught with that bait on that hook before.
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  And just imagine you were a character in a computer game
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  that if you die, you respawn. If you were lured to the cliffs
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  edge and pushed over and you respawned, how many times did
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  they push you over the edge of the same Cliff?
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  If you were a fish with perfect memory, if you knew what the
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  intention was to get you to the edge of the Cliff, no amount of
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  influence would make it appealing.
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  So let's now imagine no metaphors like bait on hooks or
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  Cliff edges. I want you to think of some
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  random evening and just imagine there's a voice.
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  It seems like it's coming from slick, smooth salesperson,
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  almost like they're within you, whispering seductively the back
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  of your head. And maybe they're saying things.
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  Things that are true. That's how these salespeople
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  work. They build rapport by saying
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  things that are true to begin with.
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  You've worked hard today. What's the point in living just
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  to work hour after hour? You've got nothing to do.
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  What are you going to sit here bored?
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  Why don't you just just visit that website?
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  Just sign into that app. Just send that message.
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  It can feel harmless at the point.
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  Each tiny thing is harmless as you get closer and closer to the
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  edge. And sometimes the brain says,
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  well, I've come this far and may as well continue.
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  The whole point of baiting and then switching, you know, only
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  works if you take the bait. And what if the bait is a photo,
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  an image, the dopamine you get from someone responding to a
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  message? What if the bait is the thought
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  of something in your imagination that probably won't happen, but
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  it feels appealing? When you're aware of the game,
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  when you're aware of the bait, and when you're aware of how
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  many times you've been caught on that hook or pushed over the
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  edge, I want you to feel an incredible sense.
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  A sense that you are immune to this kind of persuasion, that
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  the harder they try and persuade, the less interested
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  you are. You don't need objection after
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  objection. You don't need to justify your
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  choices. You simply don't want to buy
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  what is being sold anymore. So let's imagine it.
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  Imagine that the harder they try, the more you smile and the
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  more they try and influence you to do one thing, the more you
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  feel inspired to do something. Something that gives value to
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  your life. And maybe maybe that's jumping
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  in the car and going to a driving range.
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  Maybe it's going to the gym and having a workout.
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  Maybe it's connecting with someone, a friend, someone you
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  see a future with. I want you to get a sense that
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  each and every time this part returns, it reminds you.
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  It reminds you of what you really want.
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  You want fulfilment. Meaning purpose.
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  You want a sense of real experience?
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  You're not interested in this a scam anymore, and it is a scam.
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  A slick internal salesperson that's been scamming you.
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  And each time they scam you, you feel a sense of remorse.
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  But a good scam gives you a taste, a taste of something real
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  before it's taken away. You may have seen those St.
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  scammers, the ball under the three cups or finding the Queen
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  of Hearts and the scam is you see other people winning and
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  when it's a low stakes you may even win yourself.
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  That's the point. You've had a taste of something
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  and now when the stakes get higher, you lose and you lose,
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  not because you're not following what's happening, but because
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  they decide if you win or you lose.
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  And when you're on the hook, you lose and you lose.
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  And what can happen is the more you lose, the more desperate you
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  are to win. And the more they can take, the
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  more if in those evenings there is a void because those hobbies,
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  those experiences, those connections and friendships
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  haven't had the opportunity to be built because time, money,
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  emotion was deployed in those things that we're going to take
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  and take and take. When you know it's a scam, to
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  not be scammed becomes easier. When you know the one scamming
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  you as an agenda becomes easier for you to escape their
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  clutches. You deserve this, just this last
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  time. It's all bait on a hook to lure
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  you in. And you don't have to fight this
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  forever. You're perhaps just three times
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  away from being free. Don't be surprised if the next
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  time it'll get more tenacious. But by not taking the bait, you
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  reduce the power. And then the next time you can
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  smile, you're closer to escaping.
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  And then the third time feels like freedom.
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  You want that part to come, to whisper, to try to influence
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  you. And when it can't, and you
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  choose to use your time, your money, your energy to do
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  something that makes you feel good rather than remorseful,
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  then you're free. Sometimes you need to realize
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  you've been scammed in the past to avoid being scammed in the
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  future. And if you're unconscious, seize
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  it now for what it really is, that smooth, seductive voice
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  that has an element of truth. There is fun, there is pleasure.
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  But the cost and the baggage, but just too high.
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  That's what makes it a scam. If your unconscious is ready now
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  to see it for what it really is and to deploy your resource
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  isn't something much better for you.
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  Let me know by nodding your head.
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  Yeah, it's in. It's time to return, but with a
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  sense of you are now ready. And I want you to think of one
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  thing that you will do in advance when this voice comes
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  calling, this door starts knocking and maybe you've got a
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  contingency. If you can't golf because it's
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  raining, there's something else you can do.
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  But when in advance you decide the intention, you already are
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  mitigating and reducing the chances.
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  So it's time to leave this place and return to the present with a
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  feeling of empowered clarity. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose and wiggle your fingers,
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  wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the
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  noun as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Thank you so much for joining me on today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. If you've enjoyed this episode
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