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Dirty Little Secret: We Lied To Our Kids! · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Get it off your chest. It's Dirty Little Secret with
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  Speaker 1: Billy the Kid in the Morning on Mix 102.9.
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  Speaker 2: Brought to you by Mint Dentistry.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, you got a secret? You want to confess? Bring
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  Speaker 3: they are, big secret, little secret, confess.
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  Speaker 1: All right, so my husband and I have been lying
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  Speaker 1: to our kids pretty much their entire lives. Okay. about
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  Speaker 1: what yeah we tell them they're.
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  Speaker 3: Poor wait seriously you tell them yeah they're poor you're poor.
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  Speaker 1: Or everyone's poor well we are poor yeah you.
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  Speaker 3: Do but you're not poor okay what.
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  Speaker 1: How old are they So basically our kids are five
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  Speaker 1: and eight. We have a boy and a girl. Um,
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  Speaker 1: and right now they don't really know any better, but
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  Speaker 1: our plan is to just keep this going for as
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  Speaker 1: long as we possibly can. Um, but the truth is we're,
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  Speaker 1: we're not poor at all. Um, but we tell them
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  Speaker 1: that we are.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. So yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Why?
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  Speaker 3: I guess why?
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  Speaker 1: Well, okay. So here's the deal. My husband and I
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  Speaker 1: have really good jobs. We save a ton of money.
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  Speaker 1: We could live in like a bigger house, drive next
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  Speaker 1: to cars, buy them like, the kids, whatever they ask for,
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  Speaker 1: we just, we choose not to because like my husband
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  Speaker 1: and I both grew up like actually poor, like times
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  Speaker 1: where we didn't know where our next meal was going
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  Speaker 1: to come from. I started working when I was 12.
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  Speaker 1: I would give my mom money to help out. My
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  Speaker 1: husband had a very similar childhood, but like, even though
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  Speaker 1: it was hard, we both agreed, like it, it built something.
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  Speaker 1: And It was our work ethic. You know, nothing was
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  Speaker 1: handed to us. So we learned really young that if
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  Speaker 1: you wanted something, you had to work for it. And like,
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  Speaker 1: I just feel like that's missing with a lot of
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  Speaker 1: kids now. You know, parents give their kids like everything
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  Speaker 1: they want. They constantly coddle them and make sure they never,
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  Speaker 1: you know, feel uncomfortable. Yeah. And like half the kids
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  Speaker 1: I know don't even have chores.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe that they expect that they'll like eventually
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  Speaker 1: they'll have to like get a job and earn their
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  Speaker 1: own money. So we just were like, you know what?
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  Speaker 1: We're going to do things differently. They have everything they need.
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  Speaker 1: They have a nice home. They have like food and
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  Speaker 1: clothes and, you know, birthday presents, Christmas presents, all that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: They're taken care of.
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  Speaker 3: I was going to ask you, how poor are you?
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  Speaker 2: We're not that.
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  Speaker 1: Poor, but we are poor. They like ask for some
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  Speaker 1: expensive toy because like another kid has it. Like, sorry. No,
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  Speaker 1: we can't afford that is the answer.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: If they want something extra, they have chores. They can
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  Speaker 1: earn it. They can save up for it.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. So there's a reason.
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  Speaker 1: But they don't have unlimited.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, totally.
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  Speaker 3: But okay, I guess what I'm saying is, do they
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  Speaker 3: have the other things that the other kids have? You
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  Speaker 3: know what I mean? Or are they obviously... don't have
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  Speaker 3: as much and that's strategic as far as on your part.
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  Speaker 1: They strategically do not have as much. They don't have
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  Speaker 1: cell phones. They don't have video games. We don't do
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of electronics. We just don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: I know people are going to.
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  Speaker 1: Think this is messed up because technically we are lying
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  Speaker 1: to the kids and But like, we don't even buy
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  Speaker 1: everything we want ourselves. Like my husband and I are like,
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  Speaker 1: we have like a panic room that's full of like
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  Speaker 1: nice stuff that we're not sharing. Why would we teach
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  Speaker 1: our kids that they should just get everything they want?
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: That's so interesting because I kind of do this to
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  Speaker 4: my child too, because yeah, I could get you that, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, but I don't.
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  Speaker 4: But I also hear them talk about like not saying
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  Speaker 4: we can't afford that to your kids because it gives
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  Speaker 4: like a scarcity mindset or it teaches them, you know, different.
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  Speaker 2: Like thoughts about money that.
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  Speaker 3: Aren't healthy, which sometimes depending on the kids, I don't
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  Speaker 3: know if that's a bad thing though, because if you've
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  Speaker 3: ever hit rock bottom as an adult, you know, you
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  Speaker 3: never want to be back there again. Right. So you
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  Speaker 3: kind of put yourself in a different mindset and maybe
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  Speaker 3: that's what it does to some kids. Like you said,
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  Speaker 3: you grew up not well off. You were poor. You
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  Speaker 3: had the, I got to work hard to get what
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  Speaker 3: I want. I do see where you're coming from for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Now, Candace, you don't Enzo gets things, though.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, he gets things. But yeah, we do the
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  Speaker 2: same thing.
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  Speaker 4: I tell put it off until, you know, Christmas or
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  Speaker 4: I tell him, you know, he can earn it. He'll
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  Speaker 4: do chores around the house or whatever, or we're trying
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  Speaker 4: to teach him to save.
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  Speaker 2: Stuff like that.
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  Speaker 3: Now, I will say, though, you're about to run into
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  Speaker 3: the biggest dilemma of your life. if you haven't already,
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  Speaker 3: with the cell phone, because he's at that age. And
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  Speaker 3: I know I say at that age. You think it's
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  Speaker 3: extremely young, eight. But I'm telling you right now, nine
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  Speaker 3: years old, ten years old, kids have phones. Yeah, my oldest, Chris,
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  Speaker 3: I gave him a cell phone at eight.
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  Speaker 4: Really?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: OK, I mean, a safety device or like a kid
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  Speaker 4: friendly phone.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Like we're thinking about getting him like the Wi-Fi phone
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  Speaker 4: just so he can call with his cousin because they
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  Speaker 4: like to FaceTime now.
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  Speaker 2: She's in San Francisco. OK, so but a cell phone. No,
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  Speaker 2: we're not doing that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. OK, soon. Well, I don't think what you're doing
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  Speaker 3: is bad. I think, you know, your kids better than anybody.
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  Speaker 3: And I can't tell you what to do and what
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  Speaker 3: not to do. I don't think it's going to I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it's definitely not going to hurt them. No, no. But
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  Speaker 3: they're going to grow up and find out, oh, mom
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  Speaker 3: and daddy really had money.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 3: And I think they might go, hey, I'm glad that
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  Speaker 3: you did that because look, I mean, yeah. And as
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  Speaker 3: the kids get older and they develop more of their
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  Speaker 3: personalities and you see, you might adjust that plan a
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  Speaker 3: little bit here and there. But I mean, I understand. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, I understand, too. No one wants to be a
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  Speaker 2: spoiled brat.
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  Speaker 3: No, but I spoil my kid too much sometimes, and
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  Speaker 3: I know I do. Same.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying not to.
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  Speaker 3: I know I do sometimes, and I'm like, no. Because
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  Speaker 3: we have one. Yeah, exactly. I have one kid. He
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  Speaker 3: doesn't have to share.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have to buy two.
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  Speaker 3: I don't spoil mine.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No, you don't. I tell them, get what you get.
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  Speaker 3: Don't pitch a fit. Yeah, that's what I tell them. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: and then you hit them? No, I don't. And then
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  Speaker 3: you make them go pick out their own Switch?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. No way.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to Pooh's Little House on the Prairie. Well, thank
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  Speaker 3: you so much for your secret. I love that you called,
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  Speaker 3: and good luck with everything. You sound like good parents,
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  Speaker 3: so do your thing.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.