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Season 3 - Episode 81 - Inventory your language! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today I have a question for
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  you. Have you ever really paid
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  attention to your language, the words you use, and really just
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  kind of like, monitored what you were saying, how you were saying
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  it, the inflection in which you were using it?
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  Well, I thought it would be an interesting question to ask all
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  of you because I pay attention to your language all the time.
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  Like my, I should say, I pay attention, very close attention
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  to my clients language all the time.
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  And one of the things that's so fascinating to me about it is, I
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  mean it's kind of a thing now. I'm kind of like focused on it
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  wherever I go. I listen to how people talk.
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  And this past weekend, we went out to dinner and there was a
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  group of people sitting behind us and they were talking.
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  And I have to tell you, I was listening to how these ladies
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  were talking. And I was, like, flabbergasted
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  that they had no clue about how they sounded to other people.
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  And if they did, they really didn't care.
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  And it just got me thinking about how everything in my world
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  when I am working with clients is listening to how they talk
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  about things, what they say, how they think comes out in the
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  language. And I can.
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  I can always find clues as to what's really going on in their
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  head by their language patterns. And I do this for myself too,
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  because I will hear myself say something and I'll say, oh wait,
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  that came out. It sounded very, very impatient
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  or snarky or whatever it might be because I can catch it in
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  myself now and I'm not great at doing it all the time, but I am
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  good at doing it. I would say 75% of the time I
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  can catch myself. And then there are the 25% of
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  the times that shows up that I have no clue what the heck I'm
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  doing with it and I just it it just goes and then I have to
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  deal with it. But doing an inventory for
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  yourself is super powerful because you have the control
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  over your language, obviously. And once you know you have the
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  control over your language and you start paying attention,
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  everything changes dramatically because you'll say, oh, that
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  doesn't fit the identity I want. That doesn't sound like the
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  person I choose to be. That sounds like somebody that I
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  once was, but not anymore. So this little experiment of
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  monitoring your language, really thinking about it and paying
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  attention to it, it's not easy. Let me just say this, it's not
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  easy. You actually have to think about
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  it, catch yourself, Go into the day with the intent of I'm going
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  to catch my language today. I'm going to see what I'm
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  telling myself about everything around me.
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  It's it's part of a great experiment about being mindful
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  and becoming hyper aware as well.
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  Because if you're hyper aware, you know where you're getting
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  hung up. So you can help yourself and
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  participate in your own rescue. Because ultimately everything
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  comes down to being able to participate in your own rescue,
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  not relying on everybody else to rescue you, but really
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  participating in your own rescue.
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  So I would say one of the most wonderful things that I know for
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  sure for myself is that I have this ability.
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  Once I know it, I can, I can change it.
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  It's just I can't change what I don't know.
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  So I assume that you're going to feel the same way about this,
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  because I feel like once I know it, I have no excuse as to not
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  change something, I just have to know it and then I can work on
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  changing it. Will it be easy to change it?
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  No. But at the same time, it'll be
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  worth it. So I would suggest, you know you
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  can use the app in your phone, your notes app in your phone.
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  You can use your little voice recorder.
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  You can just take good old pencil and paper and start
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  writing down things that you catch yourself saying and look
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  for the things that are repetitive.
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  Because repetitive things make patterns.
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  So the more you repeat something, the more you believe
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  it, the more it becomes a pattern, whether it's true or
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  not. And I can tell you, I have seen
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  some very dysfunctional patterns and language that have come
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  right out of my own house. When I was a kid, my mother's
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  dysfunctional patterns of how she would say things.
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  And I would say every time she someone walk into a room, she
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  would look at them and she'd say what's wrong.
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  And that pattern carried over, carried over.
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  And I had to catch myself doing it and say I don't want to say
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  that all the time. There's nothing wrong.
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  Why am I focused on that? But it's language patterns.
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  They really make a difference. So today, this week, the month,
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  however long you want to do it, if you really want to shift your
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  world, start paying attention to your language patterns.
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  Look right away, see what shows up and figure it out.
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  Because I promise you, you will learn an awful lot from it.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.